I'm 15. My dad is okay with it but my mum isn't. She keeps saying she isn't gonna let me be that far away from home. She started trying to make me feel guilting by saying I'm leaving my family behind and they'll miss me.

I feel my 4 year old brother is making no positive contributions to my life and only ruining it. A week ago he squeezed my arm really hard and the red marks are still there. This embarrasses me and makes me feel unattractive. He keeps hitting the panel of our TV and I feel this is damaging the screen. There also was a time he threw my iPad across the room and it got this big crack in it, even though I have been taking superb care of it. He also sings very loudly and ruins my train of thought and keeps touching and even sexually assaulting me. Would I ever invite a friend or girlfriend over to my house with him there? Never! I feel that I really need to convince my parents to disown him because nothing good is coming out of him.

I am trying to get everyone presents this year and im not sure what to get my brother and sister. Theyre both older than be (in 30s) and are married with children. I am trying to get them something for them and their spouses. I was thinking a movie basket with goodies and a giftcard to the theater they go to but im not sure if that's good enough. Any thoughts/ideas?

She always picks fights with strangers. I ask her why is she so mean and because she says it's because I ruined her life for being born. I feel bad for her. What should I do?

She wasn't able to travel, finish school or live her life because of me. She hates me and never does anything for me except feed me. Help

Although I'm an adult, I dint want my mom to have another child. I still want to be an only child so she can buy things for only ME. I hate babies. Help me!!!

His wife is a bad spouse big time cause of her insensitivity so she deserves some of it.

She is a narcissist who likes to hurt others to get her feelings out. I don't want to miss the big family gathering over one person but really don't like her. She was fine but last 15 years has been down right mean.

She thinks that just because she's had a baby who is now 4, she doesn't have to take steps to work, earn money and move out. Every time I talk to her about getting her own place, she suddenly gets a bad attitude and shoves me out of the way and will ignore me. I dont know what to do! Advice please

My family thinks that I have a problem because I do not have friends or they feel like I am not involved with them. My mom is always creating her own narrative of things and try to make it seem like I hate her in which I do not. I honestly do not understand why they feel this way. The thing is my siblings are outgoing but they're not special in any way. My younger brother acts horribly in school and his school is always calling my mother. My older brother just always have a bad attitude which comes from his strong personality but it is just very distasteful. And here I am the quiet child. Why is being quiet a threat? Even though I make good grades I am not special either. I feel like they are not very open minded. She feels like I'm not living my life. Many children are out here doing drugs, having sex, fighting,etc. Here I am just trying to better myself by preparing for the future and I guess that's not enough. I understand them and where they're coming from it is sort of odd when I do not take pictures with them. As for being involved we rarely spend time with each other anyways since she's always at work. It's a lot to explain. She always says things about cutting me off when I get older and honestly it's going to be hard for me if she does that. No one wants to be alone doing holidays. However, I want to meet an older figure that's understanding of me. I want a new family that understands me. People that loves me and not wanting me to change. I know I don't have friends in school because I do not connect well with them. I feel like my future will be better that I would be more outgoing because this world has many people like me that I have yet to meet. I just pray that I will not feel lonely. Advice?

When I got out of high school, I had a hard time finding a job. I finally found a job with good pay and a great boss. I consider myself the luckiest girl alive. I just adore my boss. He makes coming to work a pleasure. One day in his office I say his high school graduation picture on his wall. I told him that my mom went to the same high school. He asked what was her name in school. When I told him, he said "I knew your mom in high school. I can see were you get your good looks. She was the most beautiful girl in the school." He said my mom had been homecoming queen 4 years in a row at high school. Mom had never told me that. I wonder why? He said "I would like to see her again to catch up on old times. Why don't you let me take the two of you to lunch some time. I said "great I will arrange it". When I told my mom about this she said she did not want to see anyone she went to high school with. When I ask her why she told me she had gained 10 pounds since she was in high school and didn't feel like she looked good. I told her 10 more pounds in 20 years and after 3 kids did not change her great looks. She still looked great. 40+ year old women am I right about this? How can I convince her she is still beautiful and should join us for lunch? I think it would be good for my career to have lunch with my boss and even if it doesn't, it seems like it would be fun

I just graduated from college a couple of months ago I have been saving to move out and should be able to move in 6 months but currently I'm very stressed out dealing with her attitude. I try not to stress myself out too bad but I feel like my whole mood just goes from peaceful to depression the minute she walks in the door. She complains about EVERYTHING. She is never happy with me despite me being the only one to graduate college, she's still not satisfied. She seems to respect my younger brothers more even though they dropped out of college, one of them never even studied and flunked all his classes. But I'm always the one that she goes in on in a major way. She goes off on my brothers every now and then but I get the worst of her rage. I notice that she will especially get mad at me when I'm cooking she always seems to pitch a fit. She'll be like " I can't wait for you to move out" you always dirty up the house". But my brothers leave crumbs all over the counters and she says nothing. I spend hours cooking and cleaning and she will be like " oh you're cleaning it the wrong way" or " oh I don't like the stuff you're using for the counters". She's OCD with cleaning but never cooks which I find ironic. I don't mind that she doesn't cook cause I love to cook but my dad was mentioning how he is embarrassed to tell people his wife never cooks for him. I cook for the family a lot. also my younger brother was driving her car and crashed it, she was mad for like one day but with me its like she finds something to be mad about everyday of her life. its very irritating trying hard to make somebody happy like her. my younger brother even called my mom a b** under his breathe and cusses a lot when shes around and she doesnt get as angry as she does with me. my mother told my brother to go to bed and he was like "stupid b*** im grown" the other day i was in the middle of washing dishes and had to go to the bathroom, when i got back downstairs my mom was mad she saw dishes in the sink and she said one day i will come home from work and all my stuff will be thrown out. i told her i was coming back to wash the rest of them i just had to go to the bathroom and she got so mad and started screaming at me one time i spent the night with my boyfriend because we were celebrating my birthday in florida and she lost her mind when she found out i left, she was cussing left and right and she was going off on my boyfriend telling me i was a hoe, telling my dad he was wrong for letting me go. she called my phone about 50 million times then tried to punish me when i got back. she tried to punish me by not telling me i couldnt cook anymore, she knows cooking is my passion also one time she showed up at my job because she thought it was "dangerous" and embarrassed me in front of everyone.

My husband and I currently have custody of his six year old. We have had custody for the last year due to the mother being a drug addict. My stepson does not know the true reason as to why he lives with us. It's been a year of never ending drama that we keep him out of. Most recently his mother gave birth to another child. She currently does not see my stepson except for once every few months(her choice). The baby she just gave birth do is being taken by CPS and will be living with my stepsons grandmother. She believes we should tell him that's his brother but my husband and I don't completely agree. We don't believe in involving children in adult problems and how do you explain to him that neither him nor his brother live with his mother?

I feel like my family's "tradition" is so simple compared to a lot of people I know, lol. Friends are busy talking about, "Oh, I still have to buy something for my dad, my aunt, my grandpa, etc." In my family (both the one I was born into and my in-laws), all we buy for are the cousins/nephews/nieces/etc. who are younger than 18 (and then we do a gift exchange game for the adults where everybody spends $10-$15). It seems weird to friends I've mentioned it to, but personally, I love it. Instead of stressing over what to get for everybody, all my husband and I have to do is hand each kid money. Half of them are teenagers and to the point where when you ask them what they want, they just kind of shrug and say, "I don't know," and the other half are still young enough that when you hand them a $20 bill, they look at you like you just gave them a million bucks, which to me is even more fun than giving them toys. Anybody else's family do this, or are we just weird? :)

Hey guys, i wanna take this girl to eat at chick fila and get some ice cream after. Does that sounds bad? Im on a budget but I also wanna make her happy by spending time with her.

im broke, very mentally ill, 30 years old, and living with my dad and his family who all deeply despise me.

My little sis bullys the **** out of everyone and they jus say I should be old enough to ignore it .. she once stole $300 out of my account and never got in any trouble for it... she sent our dog almost blind for nearly a week by shining lasers in one of her eyes (which our dog thankfully recovered from pretty easy).. she got our dad arrested because she hurt herself while trying to hit him for saying he needs to do some sh** before he can take her to do hers... she told the school that she gets abused at home and that I chucked a pan of hot oil on her... I bought a laptop & asked if no one would use it while I was out coz I was loading something on it then it went completely missing and turned up a week later with a broken screen obvi coz of her and she just laughs and my mom thinks it's literally a frikkin ghost that must of did it coz my sis is a frikkin saint of the world... I got 2 things for my birthday and she stole both the things within a week... she locked herself in my car that I just spent 1200 I saved for and started it up in gear crashing it in a post at age 13 just coz she wanted to show off then my mom defended her and my sis just laughs and says enjoy my smashed car..... It's frikking bullying and I feel like I'm gonna lose the plot and put her in hospital some time..

The mother of my baby gave birth to a baby boy then he was named Simisokuhle (stop good) which is something that I totally oppose and that happened in my absentia (it's the name of neighbours boy). When I call her the other day she said she will raise the child on her own but on the other side she goes around telling people that the father of the baby does not want to support a child, which it is something I suspect that it is an obstacle in my endeavours. I do not want to marry that girl because when she was pregnant she use to come to my home then eventually she stopped coming, my granny went sick then she died. My granny use to complain saying her presence is not good. Do you think this girl is the one that cause suffering in my family or some obstacles to occur? What must I do to distance her? I still love my son though.

My mom was with this guy for about 9 years who I never trusted but I didn't raise any issue for my mom's sake.. when I got to 16 stuff started getting stresfull at home and my fam was getting food poisoning all the time then I found him basically 'hiding' chicken till it was out of date then cooking out of date chicken for us.. I was scared to tell my mom coz she'd kick me out so I just made sure that he wouldn't get the chance to do those things by making sure I stuck around while he was cooking (also never ate the food).. another time I tried to record it but he was turning my mom's cooking all the way down to min temp really slyly then telling her that he'd been in the room the whole time and didn't know how it happened & once even turned it back up before she walked in and told her it was fully cooked... my mom screamed at me coz I told her then a few weeks later my 9 year old sis was alone in the house with him and he didn't notice me coming indoors and I hear him saying something about her bum and telling her to keep quiet but that was it.. told my mom and she threw me out on the street then she mentioned it to him as a joke and he left my mom within a week & apparently he left the city.. then we all found out that the name we knew him by wasn't even his real name but my mom still fully thinks he was a perfect man and blames me that he left... do u think he touched my sister coz now she turned les and my lil bro also has turned gay and app has autism now?

I'm a 20 year old male. My 22 year old brother suffers from a lot of mental and learning disabilities and he behaves like a 5 year old child. He's nonverbal. He loves running and playing with our dog and he's a bit troublesome, because he plays with the stove and he breaks our dishes. When he's angry or sad, he starts crying and screaming until he faints. My mother died of lung cancer when I was 10 years old. My father is a carpenter and I work as a cleaner at a restaurant alongside my studies (I study history). One of my neighbours takes care of my brother when me and my father are out for work. My father says that he's very tired and he wants me to take care of my brother for a week and by myself. He wants to have a trip. I have a few exams and I must study hard. I don't have enough time to take care of him. I explained this to my father, but he blamed me, thinking that I don't love my brother. Ilove him, but I don't have enough time to take care of him.

I'm an 18 year old female.I study fisheries engineering.I live in a dormitory.My parents are divorced.My father begs my mother to marry him again,but she ignores him.She's always so thoughtful about her issues that she yells at me whenever I go to see her.One day I showed her,her favourite actor on TV and she shouted that it can't be him!I explained to her that actors may look different in different roles,but she sighed and stopped talking to me.My father only care about eating,even during the saddest moments of life.He eats with his mouth full and he steals other people's food on their dishes like a child and he makes his clothes dirty.My brother is an arrogant 27 year old man.He still lives with our mother.He blames me for being 155 cm tall and weighting 48 kg and he says that I'm not useful for any kind of job.My mother says that I'm heartless and I've forgotten my family,although I call her everyday.I have a lot of problems in the dormitory,but I'm happier here.I'm almost independent and I'm trying to be financially independent too. He speaks with his mouth full* He only cares about eating*

I got in an argument with my aunt and uncle about half a year ago. I have difficulty with older relatives making unwarranted jabs at younger generations and when I retorted, they left the restaurant yelling that I was rude. Things have been awkward since then and while I haven t seen them since, other family members have and it s been weird. They refuse to apologize and offered to "talk to me" about the situation. I strongly believe that respect goes two ways and that I shouldn t respect someone simply because they are older if they are mean to me. We re coming up to the holidays, and now It s my choice if I cut ties with them or not. I don t know what to do.

I go in the bathroom so no one will bother me and i get really nervous and embarrassed to come out. What do i do

i've been trying to play along and deal with it but i've been constantly bothered by it. he keeps saying i have no choice in doing different things and he constantly blames the other members of my family that raised me for every thought i have. he threatens that he's going to take me away from them and basically hold me hostage with him. also he keeps trying to blackmail me to do things.

Is your family separated? Do you have a united family? Share your story. My family is not united, in fact, nobody cares. What's your story?

I'm 14, she's a single mom, we don't get child support from my dad. She works 25 hours a week. Apparently, that's too many hours to get food stamps. However, why do i see my neighbors who don't have jobs and are on hard drugs getting food stamps. They don't even have children. I heard my mother on my the phone with her mom saying she wishes she was dead. My mom always talks about how she can't afford me and she works her *** off for me. I know she does but it makes me feel so bad because i didn't ask for her to take care of me or to be born. I didn't ask for any of this but she blames me for everything. She's broke, she's old, she has menopause, our family hate us, but why is it always my fault? Why does she always blame me? I lost my job a month ago, i worked as a bagger at a grocery store. I quit because my anxiety is so bad i can't leave the house. Wtf do i do i want to kill myself so she doesnt have to take care of me anymore

he keeps saying i have no choice in doing different things and he constantly blames the other members of my family that raised me for every thought i have. he threatens that he's going to take me away from them and basically hold me hostage with him. also he keeps trying to blackmail me to do things.

I was really mean to my mom, then she died of cancer, now I feel so bad

I have been living with them since February. They are very immature when it comes to being an actual functioning adult. It's a couple by the way. I'll start with they always ask for rides, to and from work and wherever else they may need to go and rarely offer gas and half the time I ask for it they say they will give it to me when they can and never do. They don't own a car, and it doesn't seem like they plan on getting one any time soon. Second of all, up until just recently I was steadily buying groceries for our household when I realized no one else was but me. So I stopped cold turkey and started eating out more, but I shouldn't have to. Ever since I started doing that, there hasn't been much food in the house and I've been hearing a lot of complaining about it like they want me to go buy groceries. They both have jobs, just like I do. I shouldn't be the only one buying groceries AND it's not my fault they go out and buy fast food and random bullshit, blow their money and when it's all said and done they ***** about life not being fair and all this other stuff. I'm quite frankly sick of it, but I can't afford to move at the moment. I shouldn't have to drive them everywhere and buy them food, I am their room mate not their father. I'm just asking for any advice you may all have. I miss cooking myself food and having leftovers that aren't eaten by the time I get off work the next day...

I feel like everyone around me has a better life than I do. I go to a relatively expensive high school and everyone around me is rich. Im 16 and all my peers flaunt their lifestyles because it is normal for them but for me something as simple as getting a Christmas present does not happen. My family was upper middle class until my father lost his job in June and hasn't found work since then. My parents are separated and because of this I never see my mother who lives in a whole other country. At school people know me as 'the funny one' and although I am surrounded by people I truly feel alone, I know that nobody truly cares about me and when I say this it is not an over exaggeration. My brother is away at university and is years older. Everyone around me is in relationships but I have no one, not even a best friend. It seems that almost everyone around me is more attractive and is in someway better than me. I'm struggling to get good grades at my school because of how tedious and hard it is and anything I do is never good enough for my dad. I face so much pressure at home and at school I just can't take it anymore. I don't have the typical father and everything with him is so formal and uncomfortable. I have nobody to talk to. I just hate myself and my life and wish I was ANYBODY else. Apologize for the rant if you even read all of it.

My dad always calls me during school for random things. I can't answer the phone during class because in my school, if a teacher catches you on your phone, it gets turned over to the AP, your parents are called, and you get detention. I can use it during lunch and my other free period, though. However, my dad keeps calling me during class and if I call him back during 1 of my off periods or after school he starts screaming at me for not answering as if I had any choice in the matter. I keep telling him what the rule is but he doesn't care. How do I get him to stop? My phone is off. I get all his voicemail and missed call notifications when I turn it back on at the end of the day.

I'm the older sister. I have financial and care giving commitments to my family so could never travel abroad in school. Now my sister is a freshman and is going to be traveling to 3 places through exchange. Our professors now think I'm just some uncultured hick that doesn't want to see the world, but really it's that my sister never had to do what I did for our family so she has a lot more flexibility. My sister denies that I help the family in those ways because we try and shelter from our financial situation and because she is oblivious to the fact that I am the one who drives her to school and cleans her dishes etc. so my teachers now think it was all excuses on my end for not going. How can I get them to believe me instead of my oblivious sister?

She tells me EVERYTHING. It's as if she can't keep it to herself. For example I asked how much longer until she's ready so we can leave. She says "probably about five minutes. Because the delivery man came and then I had to use the phone and then I was on hold so it took a lot longer then I thought...." and I don't know what she said after that because I walked into the other room. No matter what I ask she responds in the most lengthy way possible. She tells me things that I honestly don't know how to respond to other than with "okay...?" And then she gets super upset because I "act like I don't care and hate and resent her". I literally don't care though. I know I sound awful, but it's driving me insane. It's not like we don't speak, we talk all the time, but she also feels the need to fill me in on every detail of her life when I have my own things to be doing other than listening to the time two years ago when she was looking for some blue plates and couldn't find any. With no actual point to the story and no relevance whatsoever. I can't tell her because she gets really upset and it's not worth the argument and whinging that would follow. Any suggestions? Anyone else have this problem?

So I'm a volunteer at my fire department and the other night at training we were doing truck checks. One of the firefighters there wanted me to help him put new batteries and make sure all the SCBAS in the trucks were working properly. He made me do it over and over again so I can get the hang of it which I didn't mind. I felt good that I was learning a lot and appreciated all his help, so the next day I sent him an email basically thanking him for taking the time to teach me about the oxygen tanks (yes I called them oxygen tanks- ) it was a lot of info thrown at me at once and some stuff didn't stick . Anyways he replies backing saying first off they're called SCBAS then he said that I need to question my authority if something doesn't make sense to me, which I have no idea who my authority is. Then he said if there's anything else I need help with he'll do his best. So I just feel like I did something wrong, even though he made me help him and taught me a lot that night. All I wanted to do was thank him for taking his time to show me how to do things around the sation.

Sometimes i barely have food in the fridge at times.I have three kids as well and a husband that is on medicine

A Few Days Ago My Mom Told Me She Was Pregnant And I m Really Happy But Also Scared. My Family Isn t Very Wealthy And We re Gonna Have To Buy A New House And Car, My Dad Makes Enough Money To Support Us For Now But I Don t Know If He ll Be Able To Support Another Kid. I Wanna Help My Family But Don t Know How. I Really Wanna Become Famous So I Can Get Money And Have Friends And I Don t Think That ll Work But If It Does That s Great! But If It Doesn t Then I ll Have To Try Something Else, Any Suggestions?

hello. i'm 14 years old and i have no full siblings. my mom had 6 kids (including me) with 5 different men. is this normal? what does this mean? i've just been thinking about this my whole life and it kind of bothers me. none of them are stable men (except my little sisters dad who my mom is still with today). what does this mean? i don't want to ask my mom because i don't want to be rude. thanks