I was adopted by my aunt and uncle because my mother couldn't care for me as she was doing drugs during her pregnancy and super unstable. Now my adoptive parents blame me for every problem they have and are biased towards me compared to how they treat their real children. I have a 3 month old son now and I'm living with them because my aunt threatened to take away my baby if I left so now I'm here and they make me feel like a free loader. I do so much around the house, I'm like their personal made but they swear I dont do anything.. my aunt has been jealous of me because I'm close to my uncle and she makes him turn against me everytime theres a problem..I have nobody on my side and have been treated like crap my whole life. I want to move out but I dont know what to do or where to go... any advice pls?

Unfortunately, we can't choose our family only friends. That being said, I don't believe that just because you're related to someone that they automatically deserve respect. For example, I don't respect my Grandmother because She's never really done anything with Her life. Currently, She's about 300 pounds and poor. THEN there are Her children. ... My Aunt who basically is a gold digger, has never fully supported Herself, and has children from 3 different men. Lastly there's my Mom, who is nicer -but- pretty unintelligent, has never supported Herself, and would be poor if She had to. I just don't respect any of these women because I'm basically the opposite. I find them to be bad examples of what a woman should(and could) be. All three of them are rather stupid.

It's like every other month im buying them new pairs because the matches go missing. My toddler loves throwing everything in the garbage so im guessing that's where most disappeared to

I feel so terrible .. I give my daughter whatever she wants cause I had 5 siblings and never wanted her to feel the struggle . So I gave her everything she want's .She is now 16 and her birthday was last week and me and her father brought her a car , A new phone & a big party . She wasn't thankful AT ALL !!!! she didn't even say thank you ! she's also very rude and disrespectful toward her younger brother that is 8 years of age ! I'm also pregnant and she stresses me out ! she can see that I'm taking bags out the car and she would just watch and not help. She's so lazy , She constantly yells at me and steals her phone every time I take it .. I just don't know what to do anymore .. HELP

My dad just asked me to walk the dogs and I said just a minute. Then he decided takes them for a walk and comes back asking why I didn't do it. He called me ignorant and nasty. He also said that I'm going to die alone because no one wants to be around me. In the past he's called me a variety of names such as horrible, ungrateful and told me I shouldn't of been born. There's more but that's all I can think of right now. He also slaps me to the point where my butts red with a handprint. I'm 14 by the way.

I am university student with a 3.9 GPA. In all my years of college so far I have gotten one A- and one B. That was a while ago though. Ever since, I have been getting all As. When my mom found out, she said, "Okay. That's fine, but you know you could've had a 4.0." My dad says the same. "If you had a 4.0, you'd be feeling a lot prouder." and she just always compares it to a 4.0, even though my GPA is like 3.915! My mom always gets on me about perfection. She says, "You would look better with clear, glossy skin." She gets at me for the kind of makeup I use and criticizes my foundation saying it makes my skin look darker and dull, and she gives me hers. She literally told me she thinks it looks better on her than me. She tells me I can grow my hair longer, and (indirectly) that I can be so much more beautiful and so much smarter. I still live at home, btw, because my parents say I should live here till I'm married. Which I would move out if I was able to with a place to go. It's a lot of pressure. I just can't believe my mom thinks my GPA is not high enough! I try so hard and would be praised all the time by others for my GPA. I feel like my mom's attitude changes based on my GPA! Like when I got a B that one time, she was veryyy upset. And now she is a little nicer, but still bugs me about the 4.0 I don't have. What can I do? Her perfectionism is a lot to live up to.

I started experimenting with cutting and I think my arm might be infected or something. Its sore around the cuts and red and swollen and stings a lot. I was gonna go to the dr but I dont know if they'll treat me without calling my parents. If i go and dont tell them my name or give them my parents number will they let me leave after or do they have another to call my parents anyway? And what if I asked them not to tell them, or at least dont tell them about the cutting. Isn't there a rule where doctors cant tell anybody about the patient's health. I'm 15 btw

Me (16f) and my brother (8) have always had a very close relationship. We play fight and wrestle eachother a lot, so physical contact is not the problem. It's just that recently he has been a lot more interested in touching me all the time. Nothing inappropriate, but sometimes it feels kind of awkward. He randomly starts touching my face or stomach, when we fight he climbs into my lap, licks my hand or even slaps my butt (i don't think he sees it in a pervy way, kids are just like that sometimes) and once he even asked me for a massage which he seemed very excited about. Is it a normal thing for children his age to be like that? Or maybe it's just me being a teenager and feeling more uncomfortable with physical contact than usual? I just have a weird feeling about it.

My cousin, whom I haven't seen in a few years just came by for the holidays a few days ago. She had a gift for me, and I didn't have anything for her, so I wrote her and I.O.U. Anyway, everywhere she goes, she brings a bag of sketch pads of all different sizes and she excuses herself when she wants to draw something. She showed up practically in costume... Black and white dress, red stockings, red and black boots, and a bob haircut. When she left we all started laughing that she looked like Edna More. She's also constantly getting phone calls and with every other one she's speaking a different language. And I'm not kidding, during dinner she looked conflicted and my fiance asked her what she was thinking so hard about. She reached into her boot, pulled out about two dozen fabric swatches hanging on a ring and said she couldn't figure out which one to make her Hanukkah shawl out of........she isn't even Jewish!! Right before she left, she gave us all hugs and something in another language which turned out to be Blessed Be, in Latin. And in English she said, and I paraphrase, "Happy Solstice, Happy Christmas, Happy Yule, and happiness throughout all the year" Since we were children she's always been very odd. She very seldom wanted to play, except on holidays, and all she did most of the time was read, draw and cut up clothes, and watch the History Channel when there were still docs on. Lol Is she weird? P. S. She is one of the best self taught artists I've ever seen, but does she REALLY need to put on so much?

Can someone tell me what it is supposed to train them to do?

Every date I have that comes to my house to pick me us and sees my mother says "Your mother is beautiful". It is true she won some beauty contest when she was young and still has a 34G figure but that was a long time ago. My boyfriends saying that she is beautiful is starting to bother me. Are they saying she is beautiful and I am not? Am I being paranoid about this or do I have something to worry about? Advice please on how I should feel about this?

Mother is Puerto Rican, father is Hungarian. My 23 and Me tests state I am 58% European(non Hispanic). Am I Hispanic? 23 and me also states I am 33% Spanish and Indian.Remaining is Jewish. So I am Hispanic in the eyes of the law cause my mother is Hispanic or am I White-Non Hispanic due to the majority of influence from Eastern Europe?

So, my mother is constantly shopping and buying us unwanted gifts all the time. Things we didn't ask for or really want. I'm 35 years old and buy my own stuff when needed. These gifts range from floral curtains to clothing that is either too big, too small, or just not our style. I have talked to her before about not spending her money, but it's getting annoying now. She also gets mad if she can't find the item in our home or if I don't wear an item.

so she came into my room last night and saw that i have one B- and flipped out. the rest of my grades are A's and i'm honestly exhausted from being yelled at so harshly. then she began to pick out all of my mistakes and call me lazy and that she would send me to live somewhere else if i didnt bring it up. it's as if she's trying to be strict but doesn't know how to be. she also manipulated me into not talking or saying how i feel. she said some ridiculous statements and she demanded right after, "if you say one more word, i will take your phone." i don't think i should be treated this way. my standards for myself do not define or give her the right to aim higher or make decisions for me. what do i do?

My mom and dad have been living seperately for 3 years now and they were fighting for the past 18 years . Also from what i can remeber my grandparents and aunts ( mother's side ) have always interfered . And since my dad moved out , they started to hurt me emotionally and verbally by defending my mom whenever me and my mom had a fight . Because my mom would tell them every single thing that happenede between us . For the past 3 years she has constantly asked me to get out of her house and to live with my dad , but i returned back every time because i love her . I were not allowed to see my paternal grand parents and aunts and uncle until recently ( my mom never liked them and they live in another city ) now i dont know how to tell them about my situations because i feel ashamed and i am trying of hiding it . What should i do ? If i live with my dad i would basically have no one except him around me , because all of my mother's family have mistreated me . I am so sorry for writing this much

This is not a troll, I had an opportunity she wasnt drunk so she remembers. I wasnt drunk, but it was good. She made me feel comfortable with it, we had good time. Is this ok i know its taboo, but she isnt my step mum. Hav u ever done something like this?

Basically, today is my 20th birthday and my friend decided to buy me a plane ticket to Paris as a gift, so I can go to Paris with him and his cousin (we're all 20 and I know both of them for couple of years). The problem is: how do I tell my parents that I'm going abroad to celebrate New Years's eve? I'm from Serbia, so it's not like I'm going to the other side of the world, but I have worrying parents. I know I'm legally an adult and that I can travel without their permission, but I want to have their approval. What am I supposted to do?

My daughter is graduating high school in June 2019 and we went to many stores prom dress shopping. We found a blue prom dress that she really liked for very good price. She also found a pale pink dress that she loved but was expensive, double the price of the blue dress. She choose the blue dress, I did not pressure her one way or the other, as a matter of fact before we actually bought the blue dress I asked her if the pink dress was always going to be the one that got away. As much as I liked the blue dress I wanted her to be happy. She said no. I was thrilled both because the dress was more economical and because to me the pale pink dressed made her look washed out (she's blonde haired, blue eyed with a pale completion.) I bought her the blue one and now a month later she's having regrets. She wants the pink dress and is willing to pay for it completely on her own. Should I let her buy the dress? What message am I sending her if I allow her to buy a new dress after she already made her decision? She is going to have to work a lot of hours to pay for this pink dress when I want her focusing on her school and on the sports she wants to play. What should I do?

That is not Christmas this my mother making me come to her house It's supposed to be my brother and his children my sisters and there children My family is so dysfunctional and at odds With one Another I am just saying it doesn't make sense

My brother is 20 and still lives at home rent free, doesn't pay for his groceries, and is never at home. He and his gf come over every night late and won't shut up and when I tell my parents to tell them to shut up THEY BLAME ME. My parents don't let me hang out with guys and never let me have company over and I'm barely 18. MY parents don't enforce ANY rules and basically dont give a ****; I'm the one having to play parent and I am tired of it. Why dont my parents care about my input?

I m a 25 yr old female and I ve recently been doing work with my therapist getting to the root of my fear of physical intimacy. He said that some of the things I told him made him suspect possible sexual abuse when I was a child. I don t have specific memories, however, though I do remember 1 weird thing that happened with my dad as a young adult --but I m too embarassed to ask anyone I know about it or even tell my therapist about it. Basically, after my first year of college I visited my Dad and we got into this huge fight where he almost sent me back home. I sat outside on the balcony because I didn t feel safe, but eventually went back inside to sleep. In the morning, my Dad came out of his room and came into my bed and laid next to me, spooning me. He started crying and told me that he was sorry. We laid there for a LONG time and I felt uncomfortable and awkward. But didn t want to move and ruin his olive branch. But I remember eventually feeling his heartbeat in his crotch, and finding it strange because the last time I d felt that was with a boy in college when he was aroused. I remember just having to bear it with the incident with my Dad, trying to distract myself from it. It was so awkward and I was so embarassed -- I didn t know enough about male anatomy to know if it was on purpose or if it was just an accident, and I ve been too ashamed to ask....

He left my mother and for this I will always see him as an evil man. I know he is in hell now. My Mom is my rock and my father (I will not call him Dad) was a traitor. In 2006 when I was seven years old he left her. By age 13 I was able to break contact with my father which was the best thing ever. Even better though, he died December 10th. His new wife had a funeral for him but I did the right thing and refused to go cause of what he did to my Mom. I also refuse to meet his new kids or see any of his family. So my question is this. What ways can I celebrate at Christmas this year that my father has died and is now in hell forever? It is a relief to my Mom and I that he is in eternal torture for the hurt he caused us. We see it as justice like when a criminal is arrested for a horrible crime or is executed and goes to hell like serial killers are sometimes. My Mom says in hell there is no relief to the suffering, no chance to get out.

He was a mean and scary person who went on to abuse his wife and kids. We no longer speak to him since the last of the grandparents died in 2002.

if it were up to me, i would throw the book at them and impose the maximum jail sentences and fines allowable. not only did they break-and-enter the mine with the intention to commit a robbery, but they cost the town a million dollars rescuing them and unnecessarily endangered the lives of first responders going after them. in addition, they should be forced to reimburse the town every penny the taxpayers spent rescuing them.

I just want to know just out of curiosity if someone you loved was being hurt and having a rough time with life and coping. Even though he's been in and out of therapy for over a year and after months of cutting, and he decided to kill his self. From the perspective of a mom, a dad, 2 sisters (14 & 23) and a brother (18) and a family member who's been sexually abusing you,.a girlfriend and grandparents. What you want/not want to be mentioned in the letter??? Just asking, no particular reason tho

my bofriend asked me to marry him several times, would talk about it, make plans..then he stopped. He stopped right about the same time I moved in and his brother passed away 2 months later. When I bring it up and ask, gently and with respect, he says he doesn't have anything to say. Refuses to talk about it. He even got a vasectomy for us. I am 45 with a young child and thought this was it. I don't know what to do. I think it's more the fact that he asked me, I moved 30 min away from home to be with him, and now he refuses to even touch the subject. What do I do?

I need gift ideas for someone who has no interests at all. All she does is watch TV, sleep, and go to work. She doesn't care about her appearance whatsoever, so no clothes, perfume, jewelry, accessories, etc. She doesn't drink coffee, tea, or alcohol. She has a lot of dietary restrictions so nothing to do with food. She so doesn't care about the state of her home and she doesn't cook, so nothing to do with that. She also doesn't travel, or read.gift cards will go to waste as well. I already got her warm things like gloves, scarves, and a nice house coat but she doesn't use any of it. Before you criticize me for buying a gift for such a person, it's my mother. Not only I is it Christmas but is also her birthday. Thanks for the suggestions!