We did it and it wasn't planned I mean it was alla unexpected, she came to my place asking for help, she was sad and had ben crying so the emotional state was not ideal. When I gave her my clothes she changed in front of me (I only have a room), we cuddled, and we looked at each other in a really intense way and then it just happened. I dont even know how, it was a matter of seconds, I cnnot eventi explain it. The only thing that mare me overthink was that she actually took off her bra intentionally, I meam, she did it I did not start the whole thing. I'm still kinda shocked ( is that the right word?) about how it happened and how she was a virgin and she chnged because of me. Now I feel so vulnerable about her, like she's my responsibility how. And I'm afraid of it, althougj I try to have everything in control.

Okay I am going to my sister s wedding (I am her brother and a groomsman) in a few weeks and I have a few questions. One can I refuse to participate in certain events? I don t want to catch the garter, dance with anyone, go to the bachelor party, and only will be there for my sister. I have no interest in romance period, hate socializing in noisy places, and I don t want to ruin other people s fun because I know they will try to get me to have fun and I will be only miserable so others will get upset with me for not enjoying what they like.