sorry, long one!) I'm getting pretty nervous about my second year of uni. I know I haven't even finished my first semester of this year, but we need to get housing kind of sorted out for the second year by xmas (ideally). I've found two people to move in with, but I would like a fourth, as there aren't many 3 bed houses to rent nearby (there also isn't a uni website for this sort of thing). The two guys I'm moving in with are international students. Please don't mistake me for a racist, but I would like someone of the same nationality to move in with me as well. The other two are nice guys, but I only want someone of my nationality as well because I find that we have more in common. I feel like my family will judge me because I couldn't make any friends with people of my own culture (stupid I know, but that's how I feel) My sibling also went through uni and he said that your uni friends are your friends for life. And I don't see that to be the case for me, and it upsets me. I want to be part of the norm but it's just not happening. I'm worried my family will also judge me because I haven't made any real close friends (who were on my course. I have friends in my course but not close ones, and they already have accommodation sorted). My siblings best friend was his housemate and on his course, and I want that! But it's not happening. All of my close childhood friends live far away. I'm pretty nervous about this stuff, and how people will see me. Any ideas? Thanks

I feel like I missed out on a good part of the developmental years of growing up. I had friends, I had experiences, but I didn't hit it to the max. I wasn't adventurous, I wasn't courageous, I wasn't as expansive as I should have been. I look back on the past 5 years and how I just didn't take the chances and the windows of opportunity to really hit those key milestones in my early 20s. You know, the partying, learning from mistakes, the traveling with friends, dating women, moving to a different city and being fully independent... I just didn't go to the fullest. My travel experience is limited, I've never kissed a girl (had trouble with women), and I'm just now starting to hit a stride in my life and career. In terms of my confidence and money. I'm moving out to go live in Northern Virginia for a job opportunity. I wanted to move out earlier and I also wanted to move to a different region, but life didn't work out that way. Many of my hopes and dreams were dashed and I feel like my youthful idealism is gone. It wasn't supposed to be like this. I was supposed to be further ahead by now. I'm expected to be responsible now, so I can't do any partying, long-term traveling, goofing off or any of that stuff. I'm expected to have made all of my mistakes as a teen and young adult. How can I get over this trauma of not truly growing up?

I have a close friend named Seth, Seth Has a crush on this girl from work But shes Married. they still talk at work all the time, and they get along great. Lately alot of people from work are taking they're Friendship as an affair. Seth likes her alot but he respects her and she enjoys his company at work. . But since alot of people are making rumors about them, supervisors told them to stay distant from eachother. I've noticed Seth has gotten Angry and frustrated at work!!!!! She thinks this is just a small crush Seth has on her but her but he likes her ALOT !!!!!! Seth asked me for advice but I dont know what to say. I dont understand why he's soo mad if shes married

So there's this girl who I barely talk to. She seems like one of those "cool kids" who thinks she's all that. She's only in one of my classes, and that's computer class. Her assigned seat is next to mine. The other day, when she came to her computer, she couldn't find her mouse so she went looking for it. It was next to my computer, so I gave it to her saying in a kind tone, "Here, it was by my computer." Then she snatched it out of my hands, and threw it. Then she kept complaining about how she "didn't have a mouse." Even though she did. Then today, she didn't even sit at her right seat. She sat next to the person who sits by her, which is her friend and her assigned computer was working just fine and had a mouse. The other one wasnt working, so the teacher said she can move back to her regular seat, or another one. She sat at the other one. She must hate me that much, because she would rather sit far from her friends than around me. One other day, she was sitting in a very informal way. Her leg streteched all the way out to under my chair. When I moved my foot back, it landed on hers. She said, "Can you get your shoe off my foot!?" I said sorry, even though I dont think she deserved an apology, because her foot was all the way were mine are supposed to be, so what would she expect. She just gave me a glare after i said sorry. She always talks/goofs off during class as well. How do i not let it bother me? Is there any idea of why she hates me so much?

This semester, I started taking Korean. Instantly, I made many friends through it, some of which are in the later Korean class. I've met over ten people through this class (mostly bonding over KPOP) that I hang out with on a regular basis, in a couple different groups. At first, everything seemed fine, but now, I've noticed myself feeling insecure and hurt when I get home from hanging out with them. The first group, consisting of four other people, make me feel bad about living with my parents, since I am the only one of our group who still does. School is two minutes away from me! Since I am wayyyy too nice and uncomfortable with confrontation, I have not stood up for myself. I seem like a sheep; they disrespect my parents and call them insane for wanting me back home, since I am an "adult." And I pretend to agree with them. This one girl in that group takes away all the spotlight from us and makes herself out as our "leader." They are VERY gossipy and look at me as if I'm stupid. The other group, maybe not as rude, but they still view me as someone dumb. I am, believe it or not, quite intelligent as I am a straight A student and very creative. Sometimes, I just word things... Well, in a weird way, or blank out simply because I want to make sense but can't, you know? It'll make sense to me, but not always to others. They see me as very naive, childish, innocent, and babyish, despite my age. (I'm 20! ◠‿◠)They treat me very differently and take advantage of my kindness. I apologize for the length. This group often makes fun of me directly, esp. my makeup and unique style. They call me weird and eccentric to the point it's become offensive to me, since they go beyond those words. I feel like an outcast, and like my "friends" only use me as a clown and a sheep, since I am so "weird" and "dumb" that they can do whatever they want with me, however, I see through it all. I love making new friends, but I'm afraid I'll have to let them go if they're toxic. TYSM ~ ❤️

I am in college and I am having a hard time making friends. One time I was in class (it is a small class with not many students) and the teacher made all of us get out of our seats and interact with other people in the room. One time I tried interacting with a girl (I am a girl too) and she blatantly ignored me. Another time, one other girl look at me from head to toe in a super judgemental way. When I sat next to her in class one day, she changed seats to sit next to someone else. I swear I don't smell bad, I wear deodorant everyday. I dress in very casual clothing. I don't know why people don't seem to want to be friends with me and are super judgemental towards me? Is making friends based on the way you look?

So I'm in 8th grade, and I just learned someone I knew smoked weed, and so does someone who I went to elementary school with. And my friend said that at her school so many people offered her weed or something else to smoke and she had to say no every time. I have no plans to smoke so I'm not sure why they do. Can someone give me an answer to why teens in my grade smoke?

So I've been texting this woman whom was a year behind me in high school. She's told me she's not interested in dating me although I'm nice looking in her opinion. So when her and I do text she doesn't share much information about herself. She said the only way to learn about someone is by hanging out with them. I'm flattered that she wants to hangout with me but I like to text too because it's convenient. I asked her how her previous relationship was and she said it's pointless to discuss because it doesn't help anything. She's invited me over to her apartment to talk. I want to see her place one day. She seems to really want to hangout with me, she frequently asks me if I want to do things. But im attracted to her. I feel like if we hung out at her place to watch a movie, I'd be tempted to kiss her . She's invited me to the movies too.

Im "friends" with a girl at school. But for the last year she's been very verbally abusive and today physically. In school, today alone, she; called me a **** and a *****, told me she'd "cut my ******* face off" for no reason, splashed water on my books, grabbed my wrist and whacked it onto the table. She aways uses the excuse that she is the way she is cause shes trans (M to F)and as a result is depressed She bullies my friend Rosie too and Rosie thinks she is just a psychopath. She's so rude to me and Rosie and always tries to embarrass us in front of other classmates and tries to scare me by doing things like slamming her hands on the desk (its kind of scary because shes 6'3 so its pretty intimidating) or threatening me She always vandalizes my books. She also changes the name we are allowed to call her and calls us transphobes if we use the wrong one by accident or she refuses to tell us the new name and then accuses us of hate crimes cause we aren't using the proper name cause we don't know it... Im getting scared of her and just want to get rid of her but I feel like its impossible because she likes to harass me for amusement and if I told her to leave me alone or if she sees I'm distancing myself she'll harass me further. She's a terrible person and I just want to never have to be near her again. How do I do this? (This only happens in school btw) I cant report it to a teacher as im a senior and it isn't something that is done. Any advice is appreciated thank you

So I'm a senior in high school and I have a main friend group of around 10 people. I have other friends too but sometimes I doubt how close I am to them. I don't feel like I have a best friend because I don't feel like I can really joke around with one (we have really deep conversations though) and I feel like I'm not the other one's (who I have a lot of fun with and I feel very happy/similar to) favorite. I've been friends with my main group for two years but I feel like I'm not super open. We hang out like once a week and we're always together in school and after school so I'm not sure. I love them but I feel like there's people out there who are more like me (like the second friend I described above). So that's why I'm wondering if I will find better friends in college? I do not want to lose the friendships I already have but I feel like it's inevitable that we will grow apart within the next few years. Making new friends stresses me because I am not sure where I want to go to school. I could go out of state for college, but what if I move back home? Would all those friendships fade away because of distance? I have always been introverted/reserved and I have not had many long term friendships because my childhood best friends moved away, and I've been terrible at making an effort with people (I've also had fake friends who hurt my confidence). I am just now becoming confident/comfortable in my skin and I want to make sure I meet people who make me feel loved. Any advice?

backstory: im on a repeating year of high school, ive always been cool with ppl i guess u can say "acquaintances" and i had 1 friend that i actually hang out with outside of school but he's pretty much a narcissist and socially awkward to some degree, ive known him for almost 10 years but i don't really consider him my friend anymore. i don't understand how people can have so many friends, how does it even happen? how do you trust so many people? am i wrong? are most people's friends actually just acquaintances? makes no sense to me

I've got a friend i've had for years and i can't help but to compare myself to them on occasion. At school they never seemed to care and got away with doing very little in lessons and never doing homework but still got decent grades. Come college they again didn't care but seemed to cruise through it and now they make music for a living, working when they want, where they want and making a lot of money (i don't know exactly how much but i know they own their property and go out to expensive places a lot). I don't know if it's their attitude that's helped them get to where they are or something else but for life to work out for them this long it can't all be a coincidence. Don't get me wrong, i still like them, they're not a douche about their money either, much like life they don't seem to care about money, but sometimes i can't help but to feel a bit jealous...

there are these peole in one of my lessons, they not are my friends but i'm friendly with them (i don't really like them but i do at the same time) sometimes they say/do things to me that upset me and i sometimes will tell a friend about it just to let of steam. i had that one lesson today and i said how much i hate the lesson and my friend asked if it was bc of the people that annoy me and i looked up and realised that they were on the table behind but my friend said fairly quite but idk if they heard me or not but what should i do if they hear me as they are quite sensitive and very confrontational and make a big deal of everything. ik i shouldn't talk behind their backs but i find it easier to talk about problems to my friends.

When I was 15 my friend ment my dad.....5 years later they ran into each other again needless to say they had more. But they both expected the faceted they cant be together due to the age gap. I m shes 27 hes 45. And have other people but they still mange to make time to see each other I am not okay with this. Freaking strange.

I texted my ex bf that i miss him and he played hardball saying he was hurt etc, how would it be different this time around he didn't want to be hurt again etc(he wouldn't ask how it'd be different if he wasn't interested still?) he said he didn't want to be hurt again and I was fed up with it because despite everything he was playing hurt card I said things happened that shouldn't have and this time it would be different, after that convo a couple days past and before my trip i texted him saying despite everything i tried giving him the benefit of the doubt but it was useless. He said "ok i'm not going to argue with you, enjoy your trip". This was before I went on vacation.I didn't say anything else, I'm wondering if he was playing hurt expecting me to constantly try harder and get back with him which I didn't and now he's being nice to me. Now he waits to leave church at the same time as me to say hi and has done it the last couple days and I also got i, I also got 7 blocked calls at 2 am the week that we talked, assuming it was him. Why doesn't he say more than hi how are you?

I work with this guy on weekends. I got moved to a new department at work. Him and I can talk sometimes. He may text and sometimes it can be pointless stuff. He would text everyday. The thing that pissed me off was he told my old co workers my business at my new department when they asked him how I was doing. He talked about my mistakes and how I was treated. I was working for a asshole boss. After a while I asked for a transfer to a different department. When I told this so called friend co worker what was going on he told my old co workers. He acted like he was a friend or wanted to be friends. He would offer me rides home or text about dumb stuff. The last time he texted me was 7am and it was about a football game. I'm dude its 7am and you're talking about football. That's when I decided its time to block his number.

When I was 26, my mom's friend grabbed my butt in a sneaky way. I feel weird about this. Is that normal? It was a summer and I was down the shore house. I walked by her and she sneakily grabbed my butt. I don't like this person as a person or anything else. She was my moms friend from work and with a loud mouth and very annoying. I stopped going to the shore house shortly after that. I felt if I said something at the time my mom would blow me off like she has done so many times in the past when it came to the wrong doings of my older brother. A lot of enabling has gone down in my life. If the anger Im feeling about this is normal, theres a good possibility that maybe this stuff happened to me in the past as well by people who were supposed to be trusting. I drink a lot these days to flush the images out of my head and Im 37. im not trying to throw my family under the bus but looking back, there was a lot of wrong doings that i can't quite put my finger on. Too late now though. Guess it doesn't matter as most of my relatives are dead now due to old age. But the world I inherit is a nightmarish landscape for me. The boogieman.

Sometime I say hi, some say hi back, so the one who won't say hi back to me. Do it mean I have to get closer to her and say hi to her? Or even give me a hug? Sometime when woman look around, they act as if I am not there. Or act as if I a ghost. Do it mean it's time to move to next level in relationship? Unless she say stop or go away then yes that's another story which I will avoid her.

Apparently there's something called Friendsgiving

She is depressed but wont talk to me about it because she doesn't want to make me unhappy too. She is such a good friend and I can't stand knowing she's sad but wont tell me because she wants me to be happy. She said she has no one else to talk to. I told her that I am here for her and she can talk to me no matter what. Is there anything else I should do?

All of my kids friends live in a house My kid is the only one who lives in an apartment What can I do to be able to live like them?

They always say/think that i am stupid, one of my friend said it to me (well, she didnt want to hurt me) and one of my "friend" thought i am stupid, i saw it on her face. (tbh, she always acts like she knows everything..for example: I didnt understand maths first and then she looked at me confused: "wtf are you not understanding?" ...im sorry if im not born to solve math problems -.-...and tbh my math test was better than her, i got a better mark/grade(?) ) Its just that i cant express myself.. I cant tell them what im thinking. Im sick of that they look down on me..They just simply dont understand me..they say: "okay, you are just stupid" like, they dont even want to understand me, My logic. Nobody understands me :[ Nobody believes i can tell something intelligent,smart..Nobody,not even my sister...She just laughs at me and tells me Im stupid and goes away.

My best friend in uni got in a problem and he is refusing to tell all people what his problem is about including his parents and if u ask him he says its his right whether or not to tell. I was fine with that but the other day his father called to ask me whats the problem and i told him i dont know then he told me if i find out i would tell him so he can help him (and i know his father hes a good man). I discovered that my friend ran into a problem probably because of low grades where he had to drop all his courses (but he most likely will be back next semester). I discovered this mainly because he used to study all day and now he isnt at all and he is going out with me and my friend knows i dscovered that as well even though he doesnt want to talk about it. The question is, for being a good friend, should i tell his father about the problem or leave it be? Thank you.

so my friend and her family is taking me on an expensive vacation, but everytime i want her to do something or she wants me to do something she uses the vacation as an excuse. is this a bad friend? and what should i do?

not your friend but his actions said otherwise. Which one is your real friend?

She was bullied by the wealthy kids and isolated due to her poverty.She is really smart .But what would you say to a person who had a life like this?Till 25 no parties,no flirt,no girls around her,nothing.No money no joy.

She started smoking weed now she says she is going to try heroin next week! I don't know what to do! She's also abusing alcohol while smoking weed and driving etc

I have decided to change my first name because I just didn't like the first name I was given by my parents. I have a french name and although I like the way it sounds in french, i hate the way it sounds in english and people struggle to pronounce it correctly (maybe half of my friends know how to pronounce my name). I have no issue introducing myself by that name to strangers, but how do I go about having my friends and acquaintances call me by my new name? It feels embarrassing to have to tell someone I changed my name and ask them to call me that just because I didn't like the name I introduced myself to them to. I am currently a junior in college. Should I wait until I graduate to make the change? Would that be more logical/easier? Thanks for the feedback and help!

My friend ended a relationship over the summer, her ex boyfriend was absolutely devestated and I decided to reach out and see if he was okay. We started to talk more, and it was okay. He seemed nice enough, a little obsessive but okay. As time went on he started to get weird, he'd try to manipulate me, mostly try really hard to turn me against people and to pity him. Then he started flat out attacking me for no reason, he would tell me I was bitter and confrontational and the worst kind of person to talk to, he would call me names and then fake this self aware response and manipulate me into feeling bad for him and continuing our friendship. He would tell me about the things he got off to imagining me doing to him, I told him I was uncomfortable with that and he would keep telling me these things and would ask about my sex life. If got to a point where he was telling me he loved me nightly, I told him politely I was in a relationship and very happy but he would continue to tell me all the time that he loved me. I told him I was uncomfortable with that and he ignored me and made me feel bad for "forcing him to suppress his feelings." After awhile two friends were concerned about how he was treating me . I was up really late that night with them and they finally convinced me to block him. He immediately lashed out at all my friends, made up blatant lies about me, insulted me etc. I still feel guilty for blocking him, and I feel bad overall and I don't know how to process it.

I want to roast someone who always leaves me on read for no reason. What should I say?

We're 30 and she will always ask me where I got something I'm wearing or something I have and then she will want it to or I find out later she does the same thing. For example, I got my license plates personalized and then she did. Or if I tell her I'm wearing a skirt and a spaghetti strap she will too. It's kind of annoying. I mean sure maybe it's a compliment but what is the psychology of why she feels the need to do this?

So my friend (getting to know him, hopefully dating soon)works the information desk at our college at nights and they're allowed to have friends behind the desk as long as they are still doing their job and everythingns professional. Well I rarely go behind the front desk but tonight I did and him and his friend left because they had to go do something, so I was left behind the desk and I didn't know what to do. Then someone came up and tried to return a key to one of the rooms in the hall and I said "sorry, I don't work here, they will be right back" and just as I said that one of their coworkers I never seen or met (but always could tell was kinda a b*tch) and she handled the key and after was like "they shouldn't have left you back there, that's unprofessional and is not allowed". Late I asked my friends other coworker who the girl was and she's apparently administration. I had no clue of this and I'm terrified I'm going to get my friend in trouble, and he's already stressed and had a bad day and I'm scared she will give him trouble and he will blame me. What should I do?

I work in a hospital as A personal support worker, and theres a nurse named Kaley who I've been talking to and we both really like eachother.... Everything was going fine until Another other girl who is also a personal support worker began spreading rumors about me. She began making rumors that I was sexually harassing kaley when that was not true. She even began making rumors about Kaley, this has been going on for 1 month. But Kaley got mad and she wrote an Email to her Manager about the entire situation. Tomorrow the other girl has a meeting with Managers, could she be fired for this???????? Me and the other girl were close friends but she liked me soo she began spreading rumors to other nurses about harassment