My little sister asked to move into the bigger vacant room for her birthday, and she got to. I'm older than her, and still stay in a small room. Idk i'm not trying to disrespect my sister or mom, but i feel like because i am older than she is and deserve the larger room.

I'm an adult guy she and dad is always blaming me for something. No matter what i do. She had got some food. She said i could have hot pockets. I said ok, she said you gonna eat both. I said yeah, she said i thought you were gonna eat one. So there was the argument. She blamed me about other things, as they always do. If i defend myself i am the bad person. i'm not living with parents because i want to. So my goal is to move out. I generally keep to myself.

I'm currently at my best friends house. Just a little bit ago we were passing the boulder (a vape) and her step mom started to walk in. my best friend then hit my hand and the boulder fell out and was perfectly hidden under me. Her step mom asked if we wanted food then we said no so she went out. Like a minute later her dad walks in and said "what were you guys doing in here when (step moms name) walked in?" and we said nothing. then he walked out and she came back in and told us its best to be honest and asked us if we were doing drugs or drinking. and we told her we weren't doing anything. then she asked if we weren't doing anything why would (my best friends name) hit my hand away. and we said since my lips are swollen i was touching them and making them worse so she hit my hand away. then her step mom walked out and i heard her dad say "she's going home tonight". so now im scared that they wont let her and i hang out anymore which will most likely happen. but the thing is they dont have any proof or solid reason to think we were doing anything other than she hit my hand away. please help.

It actually disgusts me. He said the other day that if he was priminster he would make all black people be slaves again. If there's a gay couple on tv he always says it isn't 'right'. He expects woman to do the cleaning cooking, i really don't know how my mum loves him. Then complains that i don't respect him because i disagree with half of the stuff he says. he's never hit me hard (although he's threatened to) but he thinks hitting kids is okay because it teachers them how to behave. I don't know where he gets it from because his parents are nothing like it. How do I fix this??

My parents invited my girlfriend and I over for Thanksgiving. This seems really weird, but ever since I moved out of my parents house, for the last five years something drastic has happened to my life right around the holidays that has just made me very unpleasant. 1 year my ex-girlfriend falsely accused me of a sexual crime I didn't commit and I was facing jail time for something I didn't even do luckily I had cell phone records to prove my innocence. Then I had to have shoulder surgery. Then I had to move out of my rental because the landlord son was harassing me. 1 year right around Christmas a cop pulled me over and accuse me of something I didn't do I complied and cooperated and was cleared because I didn't do what he said I did. And now this year some lady ran a stop sign and T-boned me, and my friend had pot in the car so we both got charged and they even charge me with DUI for having a concussion even though I was innocent I had to plead guilty to avoid a felony for the plot. this always happens right around the holidays and every time I go to my parents house I am miserable and I'm just sick of them seeing me miserable, so I don't want to go over there again and just be miserable. I'm already miserable and have been diagnosed with PTSD anxiety and depression, so I don't even feel like going anyways. Is it wrong for me to feel this way? I guess in my mind I want to visit my parents when everything is going well in my life...

Like I'm not poor but I feel bad about myself when I see photos of super rich girls who travel and own million dollar properties . I feel bad about my life. They marry rich men and I feel like my life sucks sometimes.

Basically since I was little, my grandpa would always take me and my grandma to places and he would drive me to school everyday and I would see him almost everyday in 6th grade and see him on the weekends on middle school. And then this year, I just started freshman year and on October 25, my grandpa suffered a sudden heart attack and my grandma drove him straight to emergency but I don't know why he had a heart attack since he was completely healthy and had no issues in the past. He fell in a coma when he was rushed to the hospital and was put on life support and after a week, his children decided to take him off life support and only have an oxygen tube to breathe through. He survived a week without food and water and died this Tuesday. When he was still in a coma, his eyes were opened and he was able to swallow and wiggle his toes. I can't believe he's gone. He would take care of my grandma and they would excwrcise everyday. Every time I go to my grandmas, it feels incomplete.

The guy is younger than me. I don't know him that well, neither we are friends. But what does it mean if he calls me a kid or kiddo? I don't know why he will call me a kid when I am a grown woman.

My mom lives with my family: my husband, baby and I. She has some difficulties so she moved to live with us. We gave her a nice room and take care of all the expenses. I want to understand if I am wrong: my mom constantly tries to change everything, she hates the wall color so she decided to paint some butterflies, she wants to move furniture, she takes off wall decorations. I asked her not to touch anything because it was my husbands office and I do not think he will love butterflies on the walls that's why I denied her request. Also this morning we got in the argument, every morning we drink tea with candy. My mom hid all the candy for herself (lol) and when I told her that it is selfish and she acts like it is war time she started yelling at me, calling me ungrateful and that she feels like a servant in our house. I never asked her to cook or clean she does it on her own. She embarrasses me and constantly calls me pig or rat in front of the whole family. she also says that since I live here the room is mine so I can do it the way I like. duh, she doesn't want decals, she wants to paint them with actual paint and glitter.

My parents are use mostly my mom she won't cook, clean ,take care of her son's , she would even take them to school . They force me to

For example when saying "respect your mom because she got through a lot of pain when giving birth to you", does this mean that those who's mom had a ceasarian birth should not respect their mothers?

My mother is a narcissist, a bully, and extremely verbally abusive and it's only getting worse. I'm in my 20s, recently moved back home due to declining health. Since I've moved back all the joy has been sucked out of my life... my mom relentlessly bullies, manipulates and belittles me everyday and I can't take it anymore. I'm severely, severely depressed. I know the only key to happiness is cutting off my relationship with her, but the catch is I have a progressive, eventually terminal lung disease and I would not have health insurance or be able to afford the thousands and thousands of dollars of meds & doctors appointments I need each month without my parents help. My Dad sees how my mom treats me, but he's equally afraid of her, and will not ever stand up to her. If I didn't have this lung disease I would be out the door immediately & crash on a friends couch in a whole different state. I would cut off all contact forever. Instead I'm stuck because I don't think I could pay my medical bills without them and she knows that. Hell anytime, I've stood up to her she's even threatened to cut off my health insurance. What do I do?? I know I'm not going to make it much longer if I stay, but I'm also kinda stuck here. My will to live is not going to keep going for much longer. I'm trapped.

This will be long if you don't want to read long details stop reading, but I have a 23 year old daughter and a 29 year old son my daughter lives with me she doesn't have a job but she is working on getting one and she is on disability my son doesn't live with me but he visits on weekend because my grand child always wants to come over. They fight so much my daughter thinks everything wrong of him one night they were being really loud she has asked them to be quiet once but he didn't listen to her and now she feels she can't get comfortable when they are over because the one time she does it will happen again I tell her to come to me if they are loud again but they had other problems to only get a long most of the time is if they do not talk to each other she has a lot of illnesses so I give her credit for still being independent she tries to get a long with him but he always ends up snapping at her to. Please help!

I am 19 years old I grew up with only a mother. Father was a drunken who talked to my mother bad. He would say things like you need to comb your hair and that my mother was to big. I remember thinking I never wanted to date a man like him. But here I am with a boyfriend who abuses me emotionally. But anyways my mother died when I was 14, I became homeless struggling physically and mentally to graduate high school stay in between my siblings unstable homes. And you knew every time I looked up I seen my brothers being in their daughters lives, being fathers. it did make me feel a lilttle bit bad and wishing I had a father. Here comes graduation day and my father flys out to celebrate and hug me and kiss on me. And you know it felt weird because the only person I'm use to giving me that kind of attention is my boyfriend. So my father had plans to speed graduation week with me but I had plans to celebrate with those who struggled and stressed with me I choose my classmates, parties and alcohol over him and I didn't feel bad or anything. But anyways I found a stable loving home with my cousins on my fathers side and I love them to death and my cousin is married so she has a daughter and her daughter father is important to her. So she presses me to call him and check on him but I just don't feel comfortable. And I'm sorta feeling resentment for him not being there and giving me that daughter and father benefit and all that comes with it. What should do I forgive or forget him.

I m from South Africa.I just finished university and secured a good paying job.My girlfriend who has been working a good paying job for a year and half bought a flat and she is expecting me to move in with her and help her with bond payments.Unlike my girlfriend who is from a family where both her parents and her sister are working I ll be the only one from my family who is working.She is also pushing me to buy a car. We get along so well and happy but I don t think I can stay with her next year. I also depressed that I ll be leaving res and going back home.I don t like been home because that house is very dirty.My mother (77) and my brother (18 )are not neat.They don t even cook food to be nice. I got depressed when I was telling my sister I want to buy a house and she asked if I m not going to build the family a house. I don t know if I should do it or not because I wanted to buy a house for myself besides I m not the last born and I feel like whoever sibling who will take the house for himself is the one responsible for fixing it. My mother also told me my brother doesn t sleep home some nights which I never did. What I should do good people?

When I was fat, my mom just insulted me until I lost the weight. She said if I look good I get rich husband and stuff but life is more complicated than that. Like some husband selfish and sometimes wife must be independent. But why mom says being pretty is important?

I have a always felt like my mother didn't like me. Her favorites are my brother, sister and step sister. When my parents got Divorced she didn't want anything to with me. I think she feels like I ruined her life because she had me when she was young. She has pictures of my brother, sister and step sister in her house but not me. One she told me that she doesn't worry about me because I have never been in trouble with the law. We don't talk much anymore I stop going to her house and I stop calling and texting her. I don't return her text messages anymore. She got mad at for me not replying back to her text, she also got mad because I won't answer her calls. She used to do that do me thats why I stopped texting and calling. I am not doing Thanksgiving or Christmas just so she hurt my feelings. She will buy my brother sister and step sister gifts, and try explain to why she didn't get me one. The n later she will call me and apologize to for hurting me, then will go and buy me something. I the only thing I want from my mother is know why she doesn't like me that's all. Sometimes I wish my parents had aborted me than nither of could blame for their crappy lives. My dad couldn't blame me for his drinking and my mom wouldn't ***** at my about my brother and sisters being complete idiots and freeloaders I am sick of always being the one to make the first move. I stop calling her because she didn't answer my calls and waited weeks for she called me back. She ignored my text messages too that's why I stop texting her. After that I stopped calling and texting. She knows where I live but she doesn't came to see me. But she is always going to brother and sisters's houses. My mother doesn't like me and I just want to know why.

When I looked at my graduation from 5 years ago, I thought about all the things I went through. Back then it felt like life was unfair because I didn't have my dad nor my mom. I was dealing with depression and how my sister always talked about me. A couple days ago my mom said she wish she was supportive of me back then and i wish she was too. Although she was dealing with my dad gone, she could've at least been proud of me when I was trying to do something. No one was supportive except my teachers and when I look at that tape I can't help but to think of those things. It pains me until this day how I didn't have no one. Then my mom have me talking to the same sister that wanted me to fail. I feel confused and that I messed my life up. I've been in college for the longest and it's hard for me to be strong about everything I've been through. People might say that being 23 is young but to me it's hard and I don't want to be it. I can't even fix a life that has been through so much. I try to keep a smiling face for my face but deep inside I think my life would be better if I disappeared. I didn't graduate with honors, Im trying to fix my college life but it seems impossible, and I'm talking to my sister who got rid of my best friend and also kept pinning a guy who kept cheating on me on me. All of this is the reason why I am stuck. Advice please

So my mom told me she's co-sign for an apartment as I have no credit. Thing is, now she is saying she wants me to go to the doctor to get my acne fixed, and when I say "no I don't think that's important" she's saying "come on, you want me to co-sign for you, then do this for me. It's important to me." And when I say why is it important, she says I need it because I'm breaking out on my chin....My mom is hurting my feelings here, as she mentions I should get my face checked out everyday as she looks at me. What the heck do I do here? Thanks.

My parents are extremely liberal and believe I'm brainwashing my 3 daughters with "evil" things just because I myself am a republican. My relationship with my parents is strained and at this point my daughters have no relationship with their grandparents. Is there any way I can fix my relationship with my parents?

My significant other was never acquainted with their father and was adopted after her mother passed away when she was 4. There is no telling who her father is, so what do we do?

So my dad was arrested last night for what I'm pretty sure is his fifth DUI. I just had to bail him out for another DUI last week and he just went out and did it again! He's already spent around 180 days in jail for his third DUI and I'm pretty sure he spent some time in jail for his second one but I was just a little kid. I can't even get close to affording the bail amount on this one and he called me collect from jail and asked me to sell my car for the bail money. He was driving my car when he was arrested and I can't even afford to get it out of the police impound even if I wanted to sell it. He's been living with me for the past year or so after my mom and sister died in a mutual overdose situation. I'm not sure if that's the right way to phrase it. I love him a lot but I really can't help him anymore at this point. His court date is next Tuesday and I plan to go support him but I'm not really sure what to expect. I just finally got a real job and I can't keep letting him drag me down like this. What's my next step here?

I am 19 years old I grew up with only a mother. Father was a drunken who talked to my mother bad. He would say things like you need to comb your hair and that my mother was to big. I remember thinking I never wanted to date a man like him. But here I am with a boyfriend who abuses me emotionally. But anyways my mother dies at 14 I become homeless struggling physically and mentally to graduate high school stay in between my siblings unstable homes. And you knew every time I looked up I seen my brothers being in their daughters lives, being fathers. it did make me feel a lilttle bit bad and wishing I had a father. Here comes graduation day and my father flys out to celebrate and hug me and kiss on me. And you know it felt weird because the only person I'm use to giving me that kind of attention is my boyfriend. So my father had plans to speed graduation week with me but I had plans to celebrate with those who struggled and stressed with me I choose my classmates, parties and alcohol over him and I didn't feel bad or anything. But anyways I found a stable loving home with my cousins on my fathers side and I love them to death and my cousin is married so she has a daughter and her daughter father is important to her. So she presses me to call him and check on him but I just don't feel comfortable. And I'm sorta feeling resentment for him not being there and giving me that daughter and father benefit and all that comes with it. What should do I forgive or forget him.

Whenever my daughter and I go out, she's so quiet. When we go grocery shopping, to the mall, or anywhere. She's quiet and keeps to herself. I'm a people-person. I can chat up with everyone. My daughter is so quiet and shy when we go out. However, at home it's a different story. She is very talkative at home. I wish she was this talkative in public like she is at home. How can I help her come out of her shell when we're outside of our house?

Kinda upset right now. Ive never been close with my mom since she was an abusive functioning alcoholic and left my family, basically in shambles, when I was 14. My parents divorced, but for whatever reason, she was never forced to pay child support. My father paid for everything. She just left and remarried. Barely contacted me at all. She only sent me $100 a year for my birthday or christmas. Im in my mid 20s now and just got off the phone with her. We somehow got on the subject of child support when she informed me that she just finished paying child support, $500 per month, for her husband's daughter who had just turned 21. I said "Wait what? Why was he paying for her until she was 21?" It didnt even occur to me until after we had finished our conversation and I had hung up the phone, that my own mother didnt even pay to help me out for those years while I was under 18 and yet here she was, helping her husband raise his daughter until she was 21 to the tune of half a grand a month. Im honestly just disgusted and feel almost numb. Ive been trying to have some form of a decent relationship with my mom but she just continues to disappoint. by the way we were poor, so its not like my dad was rich. just really bums me out.

She's in a time of need and has a 9 year old. She left her husband and is staying with a friend. I'm trying to be there for her, but I can't have her living with me regardless of what happened. I live with my husband and we have a spare bedroom but we don't have the money to take care of them. My mom can't even work. Is it wrong if I don't want them here? How am I supposed to tell her? I told her to sign up for section 8 and stuff but if she lives her she'll get too comfortable and not do anything. Also it's going to affect my marriage my husband already said if they're having to live here he's going to have to live with his grandmother because it's going to be too much and too crowded. Why did this happen? What do I do?

How do I live in the present and not let the holidays open old wounds? The old wounds are the wounds and memories of being estranged from part of the family as a kid. Now we are not estranged but the family no longer gathers for holidays since everyone (my cousins) has their own kids now. I feel loss that I missed all those years cause of grudges my mother held. How do I not mourn for the past this Thanksgiving (and Christmas) but live in the moment?

To make a long story short I suffered a massive stroke, and have since been living with my Parents. One problem( among many) is that I have identified many narcissistic traits in my Mother. One of them being that She takes personal offense over the decisions I've made in my life separate from Her. She made it Her business, not only to snoop on my phone, but then to get angry when She read in one conversation how many sexual partners I've had. She actually confronted me in anger on how bad it was, (to Her)and how that's a lot! Mind you, She married my Dad at 18, never lived on Her own or supported Herself, and certainly has never dated. She takes the decisions I have made as a personal attack on Her parenting."I didn't raise you that way!" I should add that She is a control freak as well.

So, it started on Wednesday, my birthday. My mom said no to a hamster, but my dad surprised me by getting me one, Nogi. For the past few days, however, i've been feeling Nogi is in too small of a cage. I've found a cage with bars too big in the closet (old pet rabbit cage, cleaned), and thought with modifying it, it will be perfect for Nogi. So, me and my dad were happily planning it. My dad my mom about the plan, and without her even giving me a chance to explain, she started yelling "NO DON'T DO THE RABBIT CAGE" quite rude, imo. I said "we'll modify it" and she continued yelling "NO MODIFYING IT CAN HURT THE ANIMALLLLLL" So i asked why and explained it'd be fine, and said it's better than keeping her in a tiny cage. She kept yelling at me and told me to learn when to shut up and threatened to run over the cage with her car. I ran up to my room crying. I slammed the door behind me accidentally, and so my mom gets my dad to take away my phone because i slammed a door. I feel this all could have been avoided if my mom told me no with a normal voice, no yelling.

I'm a 17 year old boy, I quarreled with my younger sister, who is 12, because she was harassing my girlfriend and calling her bad names while she was over yesterday. Today she told me when we got back from school this afternoon, that she dipped my toothbrush in the toilet this morning. I used it and I didn't even know. I rinsed my mouth with mouth wash after finding this out. I don't want to tell my parents and get her in trouble, and I told her she should not do this, because it can affect one's health and its not nice. Should I tell my parents?

My fiance and i have been together for 7 years and have lived together for a few years now. Recently his mother decided to break up with her bf whom she was living with and move back in with her previous husband to "work on things" . Now a month later she is seeing some other guy while living with her husband without his knowledge of it. She plans to move in with my fiance and i and has everything planned, she never even asked us about it!! She planned it all herself!! She states she is leaving her husband for her new lover and in the meantime she is moving in with us and will stay in one of our spare bedrooms since she cant afford to live in her own, to to mention we live in a 3br apartment which is decent in size but not super spacious. She is very controlling and i know me and my fiance will have serious relationship issues if she moves in, however he feels unconfortable saying "no" to his mom, as do i, but she is very manipulative and keeps pushing the issue and making things very uncomfortable!! Any advice on how to handle this???

We live in Georgia, and my mom already smokes weed herself, and although I want to live with my dad, I'm too scared to try and fight for it even though he's more financially and emotionally stable (I don't want my mom to be mad at me and I have a volunteer job.) Biggest reason why I don't say anything is because she guilt-trips us (my little brother and I ) into not by saying that she provides for us even though she lets her "husband" live here without paying for bills, she can barely pay rent when my dad isn't shelling out child support that we almost never see, and most of the time we only have $50 for food which is also spent irresponsibly and lasts for about 2 weeks. She also has to stay at a job that pays $8 an hour because of the fact that she smokes weed and knows she won't pass any drug tests and I've stopped letting her use my urine because I don't feel comfortable doing that anymore (I claim that I "forgot" or sleep in on the days she needs it.) Worst part, she lets my sixteen year old brother smoke weed and claims that she'd "rather have him smoke in [her] house than him go smoking something else somewhere else." She blocks off certain parts of the house and uses her money irresponsibly (I've seen it) then claim it's the government's fault or the landlord's fault for charging too much for rent. I'm only 15, so I can't get a real job that would pay well enough for me to move out at 16 (for which she agreed that I can get emancipated if I want to.) What do I do?

I come from a middle eastern family and I have two brothers. My oldest and I are both white but my other brother is brown. My dad and mother are the same ethnicity and both are slightly darker than me. Why is it like this?

After 13 years my kids father and I parted ways. I can say he's doing a lot better than I, because I'm not that stable right now. I'm having a hard time giving him our 5 and 9 year old full time. I'm feeling worthless and sick every time I think about it. But, he has the house, car, and full time employment. I don't have any of that at the moment.

I snapped today and beat up my thirteen year old sister really badly. I punched her a lot on the arms and back and even badly scratched her face. We were in the backyard and I kept on saying awful things like, "Shut your stupid mouth up right now or I'll make it hurt even worse" and "It's not my fault you're a dumb brat who can't do anything right." This is the second time I have done this. For background, I am also a girl and I am three years older than her. We both love each other but we fight often. I'm quieter and studious while she is outgoing and popular, and we clash in a lot of ways. We often verbally fight and I say mean things to her about her and her friends. I am usually trying to look out for her by giving her advice about her friends and school, but she always gets mad and doesn't see it that way. She is very rude to me and my parents a lot and I always get mad at her because of this. I often say incredibly rude and borderline abusive things to her about her personality and intelligence. I had just fought with my mom because I have a lot of anger and depression issues of my own that she never acknowledges. My mom was upset with me and not feeling well (she is dealing with cancer right now) so she left me alone and I took it all out on my sister. I feel terrible right now. I don't think my sister will ever look at me in the same way again; she will always be terrified of me and we will never be able to be friends again. Please help!!!!! What should I do?

My coworker just texted me saying that her and her family are traveling overseas indefinitely because she just found out that her father has cancer. What should I say? I havent open text yet since I have no Idea how to respond. Im very sorry for her, and hope her dad gets through it if its not too late. And would want to help them anyway I can. I just dont know how to appropiatly tell her. Pd: we are not close friends. Thanks!