Every time I've had to remove people out of my life because they weren't adding to it in a good way, they always seem to post happier things as if removing myself also made their life better. Or is this just a social media illusion that we as people sometimes pretend our lives are better than they seem?

My best friend and I are both in our early 20s. We've always been straight up until just a few months ago, we realized we fell in love with eachother. My best friend hasn't had many boyfriends as I've had a few in the past. They were never the right ones so I took some time to myself for a while to focus on myself and I realized that I was starting to fall for my best friend. We first tried to kiss and then it lead into making out. We both enjoyed it so it went to more and we have had sexual experiences together and do enjoy it. We are confused because one day we want to have kids but want to do it with a father in the picture rather than a sperm donor. We have talked and I think it's more of the fear of what we are because we've never been gay and have never fallen for another girl and as well as the fear of are we really gay or did we just fall for eachother? Because we still want to be with a guy and a have kids but we also aren't sure are we gonna be happy if we stay best friends but I have a boyfriend and so does she. We have cried over it before but is it we love eachother so much or should we really be together? What do we do if the one thing stopping us is not knowing what it means and what we are.

Ok so I really need some advice. My friend and I have known each other for two years. We were close back then. We would talk every day at school and stuff. But now everything is different. We don't have any classes together in school now but we pass each other in the hallways and she never says hi or anything and she acts like she can't even see me. We barely talk that much anymore and when we do I'm always the one to text first and I feel like I'm annoying her so even though I'm dying to talk to her I'm scared but also tired of texting her first. And when we talk over text it's different than irl. Irl she'll talk like she hates me like she'll whisper and mumble. Also I just feel like the friendship is one sided. I wanna tell her how I feel but I'm so afraid of losing her. What do I do?! I don't even know if I should consider her my friend anymore because I don't even know what she thinks about me at this point. Idk if she can actually see me in the halls or not but I feel like she can Over text she'll talk like my friend like we'll have a decent convo. I honestly wanna cry thinking about this. I'm so lost. :( She always watches my stories on Snapchat and Instagram too. I'm really hurt by this should I talk to her about it? If so what should i say? I really care about her so I don't wanna lose her and if I do I'll have nobody at all :( She's my only friend

Why are people so soft these days and don t give constructive criticism to their friends? With all this technology we could all be doing more, creatively productive. But everyone wants to sit on their butts at home sharing quotes on the internet. These people are in their late 20 s and constantly complain they re depressed and have no real friends. Anyone notice how unproductive their friends are becoming? Real question, not a troll

The man of my dreams told me he feels nothing, a while back i might add, and i said id find a way to make him happy. I..don t know what to do..ive tried coming up with ideas on my own but..to no avial. Please. Someone help me. I have a strick time line, because hes moving away, like more than 100 miles away, from where i live. I have 2 days the make the man of my dreams happy. 2. I really need some help. So please. .help

I got to know this person over a period of time, and have recently realized that despite some limited connection over superficial things, I realized I don't actually like her as a person, for a number of reasons. Should I explain to her why I don't want to be friends (mostly for opposite mindsets), or should I just keep slowly fading away? I mentioned in my last email that I'm really busy, so should I sort of "pop up" every now and then, or just leave it at that and disappear? We're still facebook friends, but I don't feel like investing any time in maintaining a friendship.

I had to let a friend go by being honest who didn't want to see how she had hurt me. Over the long many years we were "friends" she never put effort into arranging plans with me. I always went to her house as she was pretty sheltered growing up, I always was accepting of that. But later in our 20's nothing changed on her end of the friendship. You think people grow a little and make changes ? Right before I decided to let her go I kind of tested our friendship a few times by making plans with her and telling her that I would enjoy her company because I miss her. She couldn't bring herself to agreeing to meet up with me. She just says "Yeah I would like that" then NEVER puts in the effort of just coming when I was making all the plans and ideas. We have always lived pretty close except one time I moved further away. A true friend wouldn't do this, right?

My roommate/friend made fun of getting a STI. I never got a infection before. This is really depressing and I am humiliated by it. I talked to my friend for support and eventually was humiliated even more by a friend.

I normally go to the library at lunch but it's gonna be closed for a while. i have no friends at all. ive tried making friends but whenever i tried to hang out with a peer i always felt really rejected and left out by their group and judged and then the person would agree with their group and just kinda want me to go. Everyone kinda has their own friend groups now and they don't really start hating out with new people. Plus people made up rumours about me which aren't true and everyone believed them so don't hang around with me. We aren't allowed phones out so I can't just sit there and distract myself with that. If I sit by self people will just sit there and talk about me saying I have no friends (trust me I've seen it happen) My school is kind small so I can't just walk around it in circles. There's no teachers i feel comfortable enough around to ask to sit in their room. If i was walking around im so scared that people will just shout abuse at me for being by myself or they will think I'm weird for walking around in circles.

The only peope I like to be around would be my friends

Co worker that I speak to every other day (But dont consider her a friend) comes over and goes under my desk and gets my lysol wipes. She spoke to me first and said hey are you. Me and my supervisor has a desk thats connected. So she said to my supervisor oh I need a wipe you were trying to hide them. My supervisor looked confused ,then I said oh those are my wipes. She thiught the wipes was my supervisors and not mine.She cracked up and so did both of my supervisors. They were like and you werent going to say anything. I felt embarrassed because I have social anxiety and have been bashed for being quiet so when I hear someone say your not saying anything I make it to a bad thing . I felt bad or dumb in th le situation. Then I said oh its fine I didnt mind. And I really didnt care its only a lysol wipe. I did think when she came over dang she not evern gonna ask first but I didnt care enough to say anything. What would yall have done in the situation? Then my supervisor made a comment saying oh she was trying to hide the wipes but that didnt go too well. Should I be offended by that?

We weren't hang out friends, but we use to talk. She would text me a lot about her issues like fights with her boyfriend and crap like that with work. We use to work together but she quit out of nowhere after getting a new job which she got fired from shortly after. She always said I was a nice person. It's driving me but thinking what I could've done! She blocked me on social media out of nowhere. First she defriended me, then after asking her in messenger she blocked me. She won't return my texts. We never hung out outside of work so don't know where she lives. What if something happened? Was it cause I posted about my promotion at work a couple times?

Hi! So i'm in high school and every day i talk to this girl. I've known her for about 4 years now as she went to my primary school. I used to like her sort of, but recently I can't stand her, at all, i feel so much resent towards her and i don't really know if there's a good reason. There are a few things that she's done to get on my nerves, like one time I told her the name of someone I really, really liked and she swore she wouldn't tell anyone. The second we got to school she told her group of friends, people who I don't really talk to and I got really embarrassed. None of my friend group really likes her because she is really bossy and snaps at us a lot.. I have a type of humour where me and my friends like to call eachother names and joke insult eachother and when I do the same to her, she gets all upset and walks away. To be honest, i'm not even allowed to open my mouth and she jumps down my throat. I don't know if this should make me resent her so much, though? leave your thoughts in the comments

I became best friends with this girl a year ago. We were super close. Then things changed. I won't get into what exactly changed because it is too personal, but things definitely changed. Now, she is just draining to be around. She can act all mean to me, but if she ever gets slightly annoyed at me (for little to no reason) she completely blows up in my face. She wouldn't DARE talk to her other friends like that, which makes me pissed because I feel like her punching bag. Some days I like talking to her, but I think it's just time I end things with her. She gets in these odd jealous fits where she is never happy for my successes and it pisses me off. If I make new friends (because I have none), she will talk trash about them even if she hasn't even TALKED to them. It's stupid crap like that. I want to end it with her... but I don't know how. I don't want to confront her, should I just act like I'm busy all the time until she moves on or something?

During the recent CA wildfires my mom and I both had to evacuate our homes. My mom has been evacuated for 5 days, and I was only evacuated for a few hours. Most of the locals have come together to support one another...with the exception of all my friends. Even those friends not directly affected by the fire, have been far more concerned for themselves than anyone else. I texted, and called all of my local friends asking if they were ok and asking if they needed anything, not one asked if me, and my family were safe. I had posted on FB about my mom's home being directly threatened, but no one said anything except people who are more like casual friends. My so called friends were checking on other people, I saw on FB, but couldn't bother with me. I wonder if there are any real friends, as lately it doesn't seem that way. I always try to be a good friend, but no one returns the favor. Why are people so cruel and selfish? It makes me feel so sad and alone.

A few nights ago I got a text from an acquaintance I live close to, and he said that he was in a rock bottom mood and wanted to go out with someone. I picked him up, and he told me that his mom (who I knew lived out of state) died in a car crash. We went to a bar, where I told him to keep his card in his pocket. I had a couple beers, he got wasted, and we got some food along the way. When I got home and told my brother the news, he went on this guy's Facebook, went to his mom's page, and we saw from recent posts and lack of condolences on her wall that she was alive and well.

My mom and I have the same best friend. My mom met her 22 years ago when they worked at the same pet shop. We both became absolute best friends with this person. She has always been like family more than anything. We have always been there for each other, ALWAYS. Recently though something has changed. My mom nor I can figure out why. Our friend has become extremely self absorbed, and even had began bragging about her money, and home a lot (she's often been better off than us, but never tried to make us feel badly about it until now) She knows my mom is struggling financially, yet never hesitates to talk about her new car, new kitchen, new this and that, and not needing to work anymore. Also, during a recent emergency where my mom had to evacuate due to a fire threatening her home, our friend didn't even bother to check on my mom, even when we called and messaged her to tell her what was happening. When she finally called, she was nice, but not particularly concerned. After that one call, she never checked back. She kept texting me, and telling me how worried she was about her animals smelling the smoke...(she lives very far from the fire, in the same town as me.) My mom is still evacuated, and still no call from our friend, but she has plenty of time to post on Instagram and FB about trivial things. This has become normal lately... seemingly no concern for us, when we will always be there for her without question. Why would someone change like this?😞

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I'm a dude and Theres this girl from work who I like but she has a boyfriend, ive liked her for a while but we still talk and everything is fine. But this other girl who I thought was my close friend was talking bad about me to Sidney 3 months ago. Soo my friend would tell Sidney that I found her super hot, and that I really wanted to Fu*ck her, and that I would follow her home after work...which this never ever happened........ Soo yesterday sidney told me all this for the first time. She didn't tell me earlier because she didn't think it was a big deal, but I'm so surprised Sidney never reported me to a supervisor, we would always talk and she never mentioned any of this to me. SIdney told me everything is fine between us, but I feel sooo awkward being around her now. Can I have some advice please

I haven't been to a bar in a month now. I haven't got really drunk in a while. I'm in my 30's and I got bored of drinking. I've done it all keg parties, bars, strip clubs, house parties. I've seen friends change because of drinking and I'm no longer friends with them. I told myself that I'm done going to bars but on weekends I get bored. If I made any friends we would just drink. Now I go to the gym more, watch movies or tv series, online chatting, youtube videos. The online chatting is cool because I see who i'm talking to on cam. It's a chat program with all these rooms and almost everyone is on cam. If It wasn't for that I would be at the bars meeting people. I would only go to the bars to meet women and it never went anywhere. I like doing it in the daytime now like malls, gym, downtown area, coffee shops, online chatting. I guess I'm growing out of drinking and partying.

He smells like cat pee and cat litter I don't think he uses soap or body wash when he showers And I don't think he washes his clothes regularly cos they always smell like cat piss. On top of that he smokes cigarettes so he always just smells really bad!? 😷

Seems to me like only the attractive people say, live ur life or they have, living my best life on social media. Well its easy for them, everyone likes them, their beautiful and they get promotions and more life experiences then us ugly ppl do. So much of my life has passed me by cause ive been rejected and always lost out to a attractive person. Now i just stay in my room 24/7.

I was hanging out with my friend yesterday and we're both females and she is a lot older than me. We're both adults by the way and me and her were just talking and she has a husband and 2 grown kids and she told me if she did not have kids or a husband would I want to be more than friends. Why did she ask that? and I told her that I was not like that and she just said ok. I think she might have figured out that I'm kind of attached to her but the reason I am like that is because I have not been treated right by people in the past

I had been talking to this guy on Facebook and I said some things that I think upset him or made him feel uncomfortable. He said he would talk to me last week but he hasn't read my messages. And I know he's been online so today I sent him a Christmas Card to where he works. And I put a Starbucks gift card with the card.

There is a girl at my school who acts like I am her best friend, but I clearly hate her. A couple months ago she told me I was the reason she wanted to kill herself, that all gays should die, and that cussing made her want to kill herself too. I am gay, and I cuss. She still brings her statement up every now and then, and it's upsetting that she expects me to change myself for her. She also calls me twice a day and gets super mad when I don't answer. How do I get her away from me without being rude?

I spelt with a prostitute with money i didnt have. I then told my best friend and pastor to own it. I just sent him a message saying i was kidding. Someone help.

I'm mad at my friend because we were playing truth or dare and she told me to go up to a random guy and ask them for there number and she knows I'm shy so ofc I'm not gonna do it and I said no plus like I'm really not gonna fake something I don't mean I'm not doing it then she got mad at me for not doing it and started calling me a pussy and I'm mad at her cause she's not respecting that I didn't want to do it .

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