My mother left my step father after 10 years because he was caught watching porn on the couch in the living room while my sister was asleep. My little sister is 9 years old and she's autistic she doesn't sleep by herself and has to sleep with one of her parents. My mother sleeps alone in her bed, my step father sleeps on the couch and falls asleep watching TV. We'll, my sister usually sleeps with my step dad on the couch and my mom caught him watching porn with my sister asleep on the couch. Why??? I am completely torn up. My mom left the city while he was at work and she thinks he's coming here to see if they are staying with me. She left almost everything behind. Also do u think he could've been doing anything horrible to my sister? I really hope not because I know how it's like to be abused as a child sexually and I hope my autistic sister isn't having to go through what I did.

So I've been thinking about my life lately and my goals.My grandpa passed away last month at age 94. During his life he achieved so much. He joined the US Marine Corps right after pearl harbor's attack and fought in Guadalcanal,then in1946 or 47 he retired from the Marines. He later enrolled at our local's univeristy and became a gp. In 1956 he married my grandma (who had been his high school sweetheart) and then had 3 kids,one of which was my dad. It hits me that my granpa at just 22 was fighting in Guadalcanal. And then there's me. 25 years old,single. No job, still in college (that luckly I'm about to graduate from) but aside from that I have no girl,no job. No adventures. My life is boring. Sure my grandpa didn't choose to live in WWII with war. I just sometimes think that I'm not living a worthy life compared to his. Advice?

I am 20 years old and still living at home. I am a full-time college student who lives two minutes from my school. I didn't move into a dormitory for the sake of saving money, but now I sometimes regret doing so. My parents don't allow me to go over to my friends' homes, say I must be back every night by 10:30, and if not, they will call and text me continuously. At times, they won't even allow me to leave the house and will take my car keys to ensure I am home. They care who I am friends with and always ask me what my friends talk about, when we literally don't do anything bad. They don't even drink. They control what I wear, how I decorate my room, etc. My mom gets very upset when I spend my own money on clothes or room decor she doesn't like, insisting I have no fashion and I must only purchase items she likes. They say if I ever got tattoos or piercings, they would kick me out of the house. By the way, I don't plan on doing those things, but it goes to show how strict they are. My mom grows upset with me if I stay outside in the sun for too long and freaks out over tanned skin. She only allows me to use the lightest foundations, lighter than my skin tone, and insists I wear a jacket everywhere to avoid being tan. My friends are even weirded out by my parents at this point, and for that reason, I am the baby of our group. I feel like I can't do anything. I am the first person in my family to be born in the US. And so, people here do think my parents are "different." Also, grades. My mom has told me that for her whole life, elementary through college, she got As and nothing else. She gets very upset with me I get a B and doing so makes me feel so guilty, because of the way she has raised me. My parents both have their doctorate degrees and my dad is a physics professor. They expect me to be 1000% perfect and on top of my game; they even make me afraid to make mistakes. At age 20, I feel as though I deserve more freedom. Any advice on how to fix this?

okay. im 20 and i have really strict asian parents. i go to a univesrity about 45 minutes away from home, and they wont let me move out. i wanted to major in english (i got a 5 in ap lang AND lit in high school), but they made me choose between medicine and engineering instead. I stay at home, and they have really strict rules for me. I still must help around with chores, and I still have an 11PM bedtime. Anyways, they found out somehow that I rented an apartment for myself and a friend (i split the cost with an african american friend of mines, who also has pretty strict parents). They said I had to stay at home until I get married, and now they are demanding to talk to me and my friend, and now her parents are mad at us too. What do I do?

I am 17 years old. Today I got into my second car crash. I am working at five guys and only have 700 dollars saved up. My parents payed for a crash I caused a year ago. It cost them 1,500 dollars. I know this crash will cost even more. I want to kill myself because I feel terrible for the amount of money my parents are spending because of me. I am an embarrassment to my family. I feel like I am not a part of reality anymore. I want to die. I am a senior and was planning to go to UF, to become a doctor. My tuition is payed for by Bright futures. This, and causing my parents pain because we can't afford this crash is the two reasons I have to not die. I am doing it tonight. I don't know what letter to leave. I don't know. I need help I need to talk to someone I am scared but I am done causing my parents pain.

My mom sent me a message last night saying she needed to talk to me. I haven't messaged her back because it can only mean one thing. I'm not close to my family, but I have ideas of what or who it could be and I want to avoid it.

Im so frustrated. No matter how much time I spend in the house helping my mother it never seems to be enough. Everytime I am about to leave on a personal errand there is always some last minute thing she needs help with that she only "just" remembered. I hate it. I hate feeling like i am choosing between my gf / friends....and taking care of my mother. No matter what decision I take i always feel like sh##. I either: 1) neglect my gf for the 100th time OR 2) ignore my sick mother. Someone is always unhappy either: 1) my gf says I dont spebd enough time with her OR 2) my family give me an earful for "abandoning" mother. I know the Bible says you must honour your parents....but i am a young adult now. If I give all my time to my parents now....then when they die, I will have no wife and no friends....then what ???

To make a long story short, I had a massive stroke and am currently in recovery. Sometimes( not too often) because of this my fearful and overbearing Mother will randomly check on me in the middle of the night. I understand She worries, but it will have been completely silent and She'll think She heard me yell or the dog bark and will pop in my room, wake me up, and ask if I'm okay. It's happened enough times to become a nuisance, and when I brought up that it bothered me, She got angry and told me I should be grateful that someone cares. Fair enough, but by doing this She completely ignored my valid concern and made it about Her. Eventually the conversation evolved into Her basically telling me I'm an idiot to be upset over such a thing, and that the stroke was partially my fault. I should mention, while it's not full blown, She has a boatload of narcissistic tendencies.

I've stayed away from this guy for 1 year until the date. He'd been texting me strange emojis at strange hours of the night that I didn't like. Ran into him at a mutual friends bday party and I tried to avoid him. Then I caught him staring at me. It was a deep stare and even when I tried to look away I looked up again and the way he stared at me was so mesmerizing. I gave him. After we were both pretty intoxicated we went back to his house and started having sex. For the 1st ever I started to cry during sex he asked me if I was ok. I said yeah. I guess I'm conflicted. I hate the way this guy treats me but I can't seem to resist him and I don't understand why I was crying. Has anyone ever cried during sex before? Can you help me figure out why?

i went shopping for food today at wally world and came back today a little bit early and i caught my 12 year old daughter smoking one of my cigarettes in her room in plain sight!!!! i opened the door to her room to say hello and hand her some stuff and she had one of my marlboro reds lit and smoked down to near the butt behind her back trying to hide it from me!! i thought something might be going on cause someone had been taking my cigarettes slowly but i thought it was my husband. what should i do?? i looked at her phone and see several txts saying boasting to her friends that she can smoke reds without coughing.

My fiancé goes out with his friends a good bit. His friends invite me. Like tonight they are having family night at the bowling alley and wanted my fiancé to bring me. My issue is I have a lot of school work. I bawled my eyes out last night to him becuase I feel horrible. It reminds me of when a kid wants his mom to come but she's always at work and then the mom has this guilt and all the kids think his mom isn't around. Yeah that's how I feel but as a fiancé. I'm in college. About to get my associates in science. Working towards my RN. I have a huge essay due tomorrow but I work a 9 hour shift tomorrow then leave town Sunday with him for thanksgiving. I just feel bad. Seems like every time they invite me to do things I'm working on school work and can't seem to go. My mom always taught me to worry about school then to go have fun. My fiancé called me and told me not to stress at all and how we will all make plans when we get back into town but I'm sad I can't go on one hand and on the other I know I have assignments due. Is it normal to feel this way? I'm a full time student, part time worker, work about 4 days a week. So my days off can be hectic during my semesters. ☹️

My neignour always tells me lies she tells me her parent age and she changes it she even tells me her cousin is not her cousin even thought she is and she tells me her dog is a female even if i know its a male one time she told me her friend's anty was her mom she tells me that she doesn't like people and than she changes she even tells me her grandparents arent his parent and last but not least she tells me that her anty was her dad sister but she was actually her mom sister WHY DOES SHE KEEP DOING THIS TO ME

Hi. i lost my mother seven months ago to cancer it's been very difficult on me we was close. even though i'm in my 30's and well as my siblings 30's and 20's we always celebrate the holidays with family gatherings. she use to go all out for my nieces and nephews we'd go shopping together and wrap the presents up. well yesterday i was gorcery store during a bad snow storm when i came there was a display of little christmas trees with red ribbons as i was feeling the pines tears started filling my eyes. i was thinking about the holidays without her and how this will effect my nieces and nephews. i'm just not in the holiday spirit i feel so down and depressed so does my siblings. how to prepare the holidays without her or should we just skip Altogether? Thanks! Dayton: what are you talking about low key from things to do with kids? apart* i'm confused. i was thinking about Christmas approaching and her not being here. i meant when i came out* there was a display my mother loved spending Thanksgivings and Christmas and Easters with her family i lost my grandfather a few months before her too my last living grandparent so it's hard to be happy on the holidays without them here.

My daughter is 15 years old and got arrested for assault. She done this because the girl stole her boyfriend. Right now I have grounded her and taken away her cell phone and computer. I don't know if this enough. She has never had a mother, she died at child birth. She has always been a troublesome kid, but she has never done anything to get arrested. Is my punishment enough? I have tried talking, I have taken her to a therapist, I even had my mother talk to her, today all I got out of her was "That ***** stole my boyfriend dad, I was saving everyone else from that ******* slut and man whore"

My mother met a foreigner, and claims he was her bf from last year. The man also went back home because he was here for work, but in there messages he has been on using her to send him money on a weekly basis, and he answers her late sometimes days. Our family is trying to put sense in her head but she is delusional and fantasizes of them getting married. The man also lives with her parents and apparently he told her there isnt space but she insists on getting a hotel, how can I stop this?

If hate were a river my hatred of my Dad would flow like Niagara Falls. My hate for him is greater then all the water in the world. My hate for him is as intense as a battle in World War II. My hate for him is as mighty as the Grand Canyon. If I were to write of all the hate I have for my Dad it would be a letter here to the other side of the world. Hate doesn't even begin to describe how much I hate my Dad. How do I stop this and just cease to acknowledge his existence. He caved to his wife and cost us our family, that is why I hate him so much.

She has three kids. She loves her daughters and hates her son.

Next week I'll be visiting for Thanksgiving and I haven't seen my parents since May. I've put on about 50 pounds since then and now border on the high end of a "dadbod" and chubby. My belly sticks out quite a bit and my parents are the type to point it out, especially if I eat as much as I usually do for Thanksgiving. If I can't hide my weight, how do I respond when they mention it?

My mum doesn't approve of these films mainly because she's very religious. She doesn't like any swear words that talk about God or hell and she doesnt want me watching any of the sexual content. I've watched these movies before with my dad and friends and read a lot of books at this level but only recently my mum has banned me from reading or watching any of these kind of M rated stuff. I tried to tell her I'm mature but she brushes me off. I'm 14 btw.

They do not let me go anywhere unless I do my chores, it's everything in the house everyone's laundry I have to put them in everybody's closets I have to do my parents work clothes together and my moms school clothes together I get punished for saying I'm hurt or sad and I'm grounded atleast every week I cannot practice my license without them and I don't know any adult who can take me practicing they only let me practice once on weekends & that's if they want too which is rare, I have to beg to go somewhere but if I do get to go I have to text or call them every 30minutes or earlier I can only stay the night at my bfs house for one day & when they let my bf Stay the night they get upset and punish me saying they are nice parents who let my bf stay the night so I should be grateful I've tried talking to them about going to school but I have to wait till my mom is done with hers till next year I can't get a job I'm stuck by my own parents, if I complain about being at home I get punished, I am at home all day everyday cleaning & if I take a day off I am punished on the weekends I clean even more my parents are gone from 4am to 6pm they take our only two cars so i cannot go anywhere or practice driving, I am graduated but I was homeschooled so I don't have any friendships I only have a bf But his story is long for why he cannot help me with my license but he does help a lot. My mother only talks to me when she wants me to clean something.. I am also 19 years old!

Im trapped at home babysitting my sisters kids so she gets back on her feet. She has a job now. She has money for new clothes and a new phone and to actually pay her phone bill and take care of herself. I on the other hand have nothing. Since she works all the time i have to watch the kids. I cant ask her for money because she is providing me with a home and food since my mother doesn t care (that s a different story) i feel trapped. Even 10 bucks a month would make me happy honestly. Im not sure what to do? The survey thing does NOT work. Im only 19, no job experience, no ID. cant drive no one to really actually look out for me. I don t want to upset my sister. Shes the only family i have that actually cares a bit about me. Im living with her and eating her food in exchange for taking care of the children so it feels wrong begging her for money for many reasons. Can someone please help me find any way to hear anything.

I'm 16 and I noticed that Life has been going really fast for me, I noticed this because I have yonger siblings and I notice that the things that they do in school, are things that I used to do. And everyone in my classes talk about college and what they're going to do with their lives. They talk about working and stuff like that. My parents talk to me about it also, but I feel that I want to be a kid still, I want to enjoy other things. Since I'm almost turning 17. I dont know, I'm really confused about this. Everything is just going to fast.

She is one year older than me. We are not babies anymore. I am 18 she is 19. When I talk to her she will listen but she makes me anxious. She barely makes eye contact with me. She never wants to go anywhere or do anything with me and does not show interest or enthusiasm in talking to me. She does not care about how I feel. She cares about her straight As more than she cares about me. She will lock herself up in her room the whole day to study and not even give me 5min of attention. Most importantly, she always ignores me and when I tell her to stop she still does not care. I want for us to have a loving relationship and I am a person who loves to talk and I want to share everything that happens with her. I just cannot change her. But she is my sister, and my only sibling I will ever have. What can I do to make things better?

My Dad is very ignorant and arrogant as well.

I don't want to have to be miserable over it as we are not even that close. However, our Mom will be unable to function and want me to be miserable with her. Our Dad already died so she doesn't have that stability and this would make it so much worse. I am mad my brother, aged 28, would do something this risky.

I'm 17 and I've been working at my job since August, but I'm going to get fired at this rate. My parents keep making me take days off for stupid stuff. For example, my mom forced me to take today off. To go shopping. For a turkey. I tried to tell my dad this was ludicrous and he backed her up. Not only do I not get paid for days I take off, I'm up to 8 days on the month, and my boss said if I take any more I run the risk of being dismissed. I'm honestly scared that if I get fired I won't be able to get another job because if they contact my current boss he'll say I was fired for missing too much work. Every time I try to explain that I can't just take days off for unimportant stuff (like turkey shopping) they get pissed and threaten to ground me. Please lend some advice, I have no idea what to do about this because I can't get through to my parents. My parents forced me to get a job, so they definitely do not have an issue with me working.

He is seeing another woman my Mom set him up with. His marriage of 16 years ended in March. He and his wife (ex-wife?) have not yet filed for any sort of divorce and the uncle is hoping for reconciliation my Mom says but he is seeing someone else (weird). It is a very dysfunctional family this uncle has. He has three kids and an older step-son he pretty much raised. So is it too soon for him to be dating some new chick my Mom hooked him up with?

how can people really look down on metal and cannabis in 2018? And keep in mind this woman has a Masters Degree and is employed as a Spanish teacher. Thank you to the level 7 user that moved this from politics to family. You are using your level 7 moving privileges in the way they were intended I think family is a more appropriate category for this question.

He has hurt me greatly. Anonymous: I moved out in 2006 and have not gone back.