I'm gay and I have a married gay male friend. He's always preaching about how it's "hard to be married", and how people misunderstand this. I think it's cuz all his friends are single—he's told me that they misjudge him for being married. I'm the opposite: I'm single and have lots of coupled friends—so I feel like I'm judged for being SINGLE! I just need to vent: my friend and I are just victims of circumstance, right? Because we're the odd one out in our circles, we feel judged for being single/married, right???

There was no big fight, I just want a second opinion. So GF [future fiance though i have not told her yet] splits rent with me, pays for her braces, her phone, her university, her brand new car/insurance and a luxury $170 gym membership. I pay split rent, pay for electricity, internet, and my things [which are fewer, like no car payment]. I once loaned her $4k to pay off a car, she paid back $2k the rest I forgave, but to help her pay off this new car she offered to pay for groceries [about $200 a month] and cook every day [which i doubt would happen since she works full time and studies full time]. I told her that i'll think about it but that she has no time to cook all the time, and that when she saves money she spends it. She always buys me and herself clothes, every vacation/event we need new clothes. Her siblings also always ask her for money for unnecessary things which she has admitted. Her luxury gym membership is ending and her braces are as well, so right there she will save $300 monthly [i told her]. Should i pay rent alone or should i let her do her thing?

Where do women get this absurd idea in their head that they can sleep around and have their fun and party it up when they are younger and then find a "Nice guy" to settle down with marry and have him provide and take care of them financially when they are older? and have him provide and take care of any kids she has from other men too ?

My husband's friend and co-worker keeps flirting with me, and I've asked him to stop a few times now and he has yet to do so. This is really the most recent of his friends doing this. Most of his friends have been married for a few years, and I believe the life long commitment is starting to get to them. I keep them as contacts just in case something happens at his job, as it is a dangerous one, and he works an hour away. If something were to happen, I would like to know. I don't talk to them unless they start a conversation with me, and I'll make small talk for a while. But I refuse to get so close to another man that I'm not related to that a friendship starts to form. I've seen a lot of marriages end that way. When they began the flirting, I show my husband what he/they are saying. And he doesn't think anything of it, and he says he trusts me and that "it's only natural"? I'm not completely sure what he means by that last bit. I'm glad that he trusts me, but I find it disrespectful when some of them have gone so far as to say something along the lines of " I have feelings for you and I feel guilty because I'm married. " That has been said to me several times. I don't flirt, I don't do anything that leads to it, I don't create BS that's makes my own life more difficult. Help? Also, please don't think me to be full of myself. I'm sure this happens to a lot of young married women and I just happen to be one of them.

suppose you are a guy and has a relationship or friendship with a girl. how do you know if she is treating you as a friend or a boyfriend?

In the past my wife liked clubs and parties but now we have kids and that s not something we can do together. We both grew up with single parents so we don t know what full families do.

I'm a 32-year-old male originally from Puerto Rico, so I'm bilingual in both Spanish and in English. I recently wed a woman from Australia who is 28 years old and we currently reside in San Francisco, California. We live next store to a couple who recently welcomed a son into the world and are now pregnant with boy/girl twins. They are Japanese expats from Tokyo. They are a very polite couple and always cook meals for us and stay true to their native Japanese tradition of hospitality. Means the husband are close friends, as is my wife with his wife. The issue I have is that since seeing his wife--from the moment I first laid eyes on her, I was enchanted and blown away by her exquisite features. Japanese women really are beautiful creatures. I have a very strong, almost irresistible attraction to her, so much so that it hurts. I constantly get wet dreams involving her and it can be pretty tedious at times since I don't deliberately entertain thoughts about her. But it doesn't stop there--recently, whenever the two of us are alone in a room, a casual conversation easily shifts to one of sexual nature; she's been flirting with me and touching my body. I enjoy it deep down and I almost had sex with her but chose against it for obvious reasons: she has a family and I have a wife and I'm not going to destroy both families for a 5 minute to an hour sexual thrill. I respect women and Iove women. But she keeps flirting with me. What do I do?

They broke up 2 years ago! And she moved back to town and he knew but he lied and said she didnt live here anymore.

So we got a dog about a year ago and she likes to pee/poop in the living specifically where he sits and he say's he tired of it. He keeps threatening that he's going to leave us and the house if we don't get rid of the dog. I think he's just being childish and over the top. I don't think he's actually going to.

My husband is working at a customer care center through a temp agency since August. Since he is a temp, he did not get paid for Thanksgiving or Friday. As such we are running low on money and won't be able to make rent before it is due. I am highly stressed, trying to do surveys to earn gift cards to make the extra money. I also posted some of my things for sale. I do not work because I am pregnant, high risk, and I stay at home with our two year old daughter. Well, his work team has planned to go out to lunch at an Italian restaurant and exchange gifts next week, for Christmas. He mentions this to me and in my position I think this is very selfish of him to even consider this when we cannot even pay our rent on time, plus our electric is behind. And not just that, but I don't think it is FAIR for him to go enjoy lunch like that when we (daughter and I) are eating hamburger helper at home. When I told him this, he says he is going to lose his job for not partaking in the activity. I said fine, I will call your work and see where they get off threatening your job for something you cannot afford because THEY do not pay you enough. And then he said he would quit because he would be embarrassed. Now when I was pregnant with my daughter, I was working and he was not. When my team had potlucks and I could not afford to participate, I would tell them so. It is what it is. Oh I should mention that the company is NOT paying for this lunch. He would have to pay for it. I was getting food stamps but then when he got the new job I needed to report his new income. But he would not get his pay stubs for me to provide the case worker so they discontinued the food stamps. I am having HIM sign up for them now. The only family I have is my mom who is in a nursing home. We have until the 5th to pay rent but his next pay isn't until Friday the 7th. We are $120 short. But paying late is going to cause us an extra $70 late fee. Arrangements have been made with the utility company to wait until the 7th. I have fertility issues and didn't think I'd get pregnant. It took 8 years to conceive our daughter and we were better off then. In fact, we had been doing OK since she was born because he had a job. But he made a mistake at his job and was suddenly fired. The temp job is temp to hire but it will take at least a year. I worry because I know I will have a planned C-section in March and he is going to need to stay home for AT LEAST a week and because he doesn't have a perm position with the company, he won't get paternity benefits.

Taking a tour of the mideast and wondering how many goats i need initially just in case i see someone I want for a wife

If not, say you're with someone else and you're married to that new person or say you're just with him/her...Will you always remember your first time when you lost your vcard keeping it as your true memory? Now have you ever regretted this before, of not having sex for the first time with the person you are currently with? What's your opinion about that?

Im currently 20 weeks pregnant. They are currently renovating our bathroom and hubby was home the whole week while they were busy (still a week to go). When I got home my hubby went to show me what the builders had done for the day. The builders had put in the bath, but there was cement and sand in the bath and I made a remark about how I wished they left the plastic on on the bath as I am worried the bath will get scratched. My husband lost it saying how I moan over everything (it was just the bath) and how unthankful I am. This fight escelated sooo badly that my husband decided that he is sleeping on the couch today. Now I might have given him a piece of my mind ons how he made this such a big deal when its not a big issue but also told him in the heat of the moment that I am not important to him and he will always choose other people over me because his golf is more important than a baby expo that I have asked him 4 months ago to join me. First child. Am I going mad? I feel my husband is partially wrong but I am not sure if I am being unreasonable these preggy hormones making me crazy?

so who is sicker, the men that do this or the women that love them?

So my husband and I have been married for 6 years. We have two kids, a 5 year old, 3 year old and I am currently 8 months pregnant with our last. My husband and I both had other children previously. I have a 12 year old whom I had in high school and he has a daughter who will be 18 in a couple of weeks. His daughter and I have never really gotten a long something I am sure he is aware of but I have always made an effort. She's kind of different, but what's caused most of the tension is she would go bash me to her mom and her mom then started reporting anything that would go on in our home to my daughters dad. He was abusive to my daughter and I have sole custody of her so this causes some problems. I would never bad mouth my husbands daughter to him just would ask him to please make it stop. It had recently gotten really bad, I never said anything to him about it but my daughter would be in hysterics over it. Then all the sudden he stopped talking to his daughter all together. She doesn't come here weekends anymore or anything. When I try to discuss it with him he tells me to leave it and that our lives are at peace now. She is just a kid and I don't want that to happen by any means. I love this man more then anything that's why I put up with his daughters behavior before. What do I do? Thanks all in advance

my gf's did oral sex a few times and got a week free. what is the deal with this guy. I need $$ by tomorrow

I guess I'm an emotionally needy guy. I never really considered myself one but I guess by the standards I see online I guess I am. My wife though isn't at the baseline either, she's emotionally avoidant and runs at the sight of emotions. I grew up in an emotionally loving family for the most part and she grew up in a domestic violent home that encouraged emotional avoidance. How do we make this work? We are 36 and 37 and have been together for 17 years but it's never been emotionally healthy; I'm always chasing her and she's always avoiding me. So much so that I just gave up chasing her 7 years ago and now my emotional and sexual needs are being ignored. But giving up has given me a world of problems. I binge eat, I masturbate (she doesn't wanr sex), I participate in drama, I do all sorts of emotion things that emotionally hurt people do. For her she's having symptoms of me not pursuing her too, she's addicted to electronics like a teen girl, she's depressed (on Prozac), and she overthinks everything (I thought it was me and called myself Mr. Over think but it was always her). How can we get our needs met emotionally and sexually when she's a runner and I'm a hopeless chaser? For a long time now we just push each other away and do what must be done around the house and ignore each other or play with the kids the rest of the time...

I love to go on sites like chaturbate or webcamfreegirls.com and spend some my hard earned cash to tell these camgirls what to do for me .. I mean I love that myself but I am a married guy and my wife dont know about this and if she did she kill me because she is very religious. Apart from that, the sex with my wife is just ... bad and I feel better sometimes going on this site then having sex with her. Is this considered cheating? It s not like I am having an intercourse right?

Cooks and prepares every meal and us good at cooking. Cleans the house Gives you deep massage 3 days a week Cleans up after you Gives you great sex My husband is good at all these things and more but he wants to work... Idk how that might effect our relationship... I kinda am to blame because I did something that caused him to trust me less I believe, so he's wants to be in control. Do you think it's natural for this list to vanish once he works?

It wasn't an actual chip. It was black, almost the size of a credit card with a circuit in it. It was placed on the back under the case. I did remove it. Will it work if it's not on the phone but somewhere close to the phone?

I have been w my man 11 years. We have a 3 year old daughter. For the last year i have been noticing changes in my husband. I am really struggling with this today bc i thought i knew who he was. Things changed during sex randomly...he would actually put videos on of other woman "twerking" DURING sex with me...and he knew i didn't like that. He did that multiple times 2 me knowing i would b upset. Also lately he doesn't look me in the eyes during conversation or sex. Our sex life is 1 time a week and i have 2 ask 4 it... He only wants me on HIS terms. I found porn ads in our mailbox addressed 2 him...he had told me he never watched porn that he couldn't get off 2 it. He is distant, and very cold now. When i try 2 talk 2 him he doesn't hear me or care what o have2 say. When he gets in from work he demands i clean the house 4 him "since he has worked a day". What is going on? My health is at risk mentally and physically. Advice

I think its selfish to feel lustfull after someone eles then sinfull to have that person and id feel sick to my stomache to be unfaithful- but at some point i feel like i will explode if im not fully alive anymore...

When my husband is angry or sometimes not in the mood, he will tell me to find another man or go with someone whom I liked before. He seems to want to push me away at times. What should I do about it? I'm getting sick and tired of him telling me to go to another man.

My husband and I are legally separated and have been the past 4 mnths. He nvr calls to try to speak to our son and didn't ever bring it up until i asked him on the stand our last court date if he loves him like he says he does why does he nvr check on him and why always flip out in rage on me in front of him, scaring him. I begged him to go to anger management or counseling since our son was 6 days old and he said he wasn't going anywhere, I just better not make him mad. Court ordered him to angermanagement. I'm fearing his weekend visit with our son cuz he's very temperamental and our son picks up on his vibes easily. I asked him if he would practice the xmas songs I've taught him. He flat out said "no, he doesn't sing xmas songs, he only sings or raps.." I want to make a list of things he should be doing with him, but his idea of spending time with him consists of watching cartoons all weekend while playing w/his toys. He never takes him anywhere, not even when we were together. His family takes pride in being functioning alcoholics and are vulgar as they can be and husband will take my son around them. Not really the atmosphere I care to have him around. He even gets our son all day Xmas and the day after. I asked my lawyer why isn't he required to take his anger management b4 spending time with him. Is this too young for him to be put in this negative/vulgar atmosphere? He's gonna be miserable b/c he hasnt spent the night w/his dad since July and nvr w/o me.