Family: Question: How did ur parents find out u smoke weed? what was their reaction?

Question: How did ur parents find out u smoke weed? what was their reaction?

Posted: 27 Nov 2018 01:10 PM PST

my mom and i were having an argument abt weed and i told her she shouldn't knock it till she tries it, then she asked if i've tried it and i just burst into uncontrollable laughter. she said she was suspicious when i got home a couple of nights ago and thought i was a philosopher or something. what she doesn't know is, i was actually high off acid LOLL. she's pretty ****** pissed though

Question: My parents are ignoring the danger, what should I do??

Posted: 27 Nov 2018 01:03 PM PST

My kid brother (14y/o) has been going through a phase on social media where he is adding and chatting with any and everyone who messages him. Last month he started talking to some girl name "Maddy" FB and in his DMs. Her profile looked really suspicious to me so I google some of her pictures and shes actually some girl in a foreign country, not in Florida like she claimed. I brought it up to him and he's convinced that shes real and I'm just jealous and he'll prove it when they meet this weekend. Ive brought it up to our parents and they have taken this extreme parenting model of "he has to learn from his own mistakes" after 2 lectures about the dangers didnt work. In trying to prove she was real he showed me some of their chats and she seems extra sexual for the 14/yo she claims to be and keeps asking him to send her pics. Also, she keeps insisting he doesnt tell anyone bc she doesnt live far and her parents would ground her if they found out he was talking to a boy online. Lastly, theyve never video chatted or even spoken on the phone, all their communication has been on social media. frankly, im getting tire of people (him and our parents) telling me to butt out. Im getting to the point where i dont really even care but Im worried my parents are to chill about it and he's gonna go meet this person something could actually happen to him or something and Id have to live with that too. What should I do?

Question: Can someone explain this to me?

Posted: 27 Nov 2018 12:58 PM PST

Can someone explain sibling rivalry to me? I am an only child so that concept is totally foreign to me. My husband has 2 brothers and they always try to out do the other. If one get something, the other 2 try to get a bigger and/or a better or more expensive one. No matter what it is they will waste a lot of money trying to out do the other. This makes no sense to me. Why do they do that?

Question: My parents insult my mom’s niece is this unfair?

Posted: 27 Nov 2018 12:46 PM PST

They cut her down a lot behind her back

Question: Do you know how to show my mom I am ready to get my phone back?

Posted: 27 Nov 2018 12:40 PM PST

I have had my phone taken away for three and half weeks because my parents say I was not making face-to-face conversations and in those three and half weeks I was talking to people at school, my parents, my brother, my mom's family, and someone I see after school on Wednesdays and my parents saw some of those conversations I made with people. and I ask them if I could have my phone back, but all they say is NO, so I tried making alternatives, compromises, sending them emails of why keep prolonging this, and what should they say instead and begging them to give me back my phone because I have done everything they have asked, but they want to see it. what should I do to make them say yes and get my phone back today. I just want to know how to get my phone back today Give me an answer that will really help me like you do for other people who have some problem like this that tends to them asking to get their phone back.

Question: Is it wrong of my bf not wanting to visit his parents?

Posted: 27 Nov 2018 12:32 PM PST

Some background info- My boyfriend and I recently moved out of our parents and to another state together we've been together for 4 years, his parents were always rude to me and always looked down on me because I came from a broken family so they assume I'm a bad person and don't want me near them. Since we moved his younger brother has been texting him snooping around the house saying he found their parents weed stash. My boyfriend is against that stuff for getting high and told me he thinks differently of them now they get drunk every other night and basically get cross faded, that's what his brother said. His mom sends him weird text messages swearing him out when she's under the influence. As you see I don't understand any of this because I've never drank or smoked myself I don't have anything against it but it's not what I'm into. Whenever his dad would drive my boyfriends car he would always leave little bottle of empty jack daniels and firebull I'm the center console. My boyfriend is also upset they claimed I was the bad influence and came from a broken family but in reality it's them. He doesn't want to visit for the holidays or anytime in the future. He is a mess right now and I have no idea how I should comfort him, what would you do in his situation?

Question: My mothers sister got plastic surgury and now looks exactly to my mother...& no it s not a duh their related.?

Posted: 27 Nov 2018 12:11 PM PST

My mothers sister got plastic surgury and now looks exactly to my mother..., she altered her nose and chin perhaps what ever it is it looks exactly like my moms jawline, she now looks identical to my mother like they were born twins. I forgot to include that she dyes her naturall brown blonde her raven black like my moms, changed her brows to resemble my mother as much as possible, plus copying my mothers make up from pictures she could get a hold of in my mother in her 30 s. She also began isolating my mother from friends ands and family(and anyone with ears) making bad comments about her, when someone is on a quest to ruin your reputation who knows what comes out of her mouth. She follows my mom on facebook write comments to embariss her my dad is sick with Alzheimer s and she makes comments about why haven t you visted him. Or to family parties, so why invite you, these are lies, and only mentioned in public areas even facebook. Plus knowing about where my dad is being hospitalized, my father hates my mothers family her would never want to see them, even with Alzheimer s he remembers people he dislikes? Is this some weird sister rebalian, or truely creepy. One of my professors who I took for Psychology 101, told us that the only real dangerous mental illness(interms to dangerous to others) is Boardline Peranality disaorder?

Question: I have two dangerous aunts who attacked me years back. How do I act when I have to see them?

Posted: 27 Nov 2018 12:07 PM PST

They attacked me like wolves when I was a teenager. I'm seeing them the spring at a wedding for the first time in six years. Their dangerous as wolves.

Question: I have an uncle who is a angry crazy man who married a bunch of crazy in-laws. What causes someone to become like that?

Posted: 27 Nov 2018 12:03 PM PST

His poor wife is afraid to leave him because her self-esteem is so low.

Question: My husband got pissed off at my family and he lectured them. Now there is a huge rift between us all and I don't know what to do?

Posted: 27 Nov 2018 11:17 AM PST

The last year I've had anxiety and panic attacks. My husband has been a rock but understandably he is also frustrated. While this has been going on our life has been put on hold. In my culture they have something called the evil eye. It is basically when something good happens to you and people around you are jealous because of it and they throw you the evil eye. My mother strictly believes in it and she has raised us believing it. The other day we were visiting and we were talking about my health and the evil eye. My husband just exploded. He said: "I have had enough with all of your bs. I can not believe I am listening to grown ups discussing the evil eye. And you know what? I am the biggest fool here for letting it go on. With all of this you have taught your children that what others think about them is more important than what you think of yourself. Before anything else, be careful so someone isn't jealous. This right here is the last time you are putting this in her head. You understand me? I don't want to hear this crap one more time." Then he told me to put on my coat and to go home. And before we left he said that he is tired of having to re-teach me the lessons my they have put in my head. Basically saying that they are bad parents. Now everyone is pissed at everyone and no one wants to apologize. My husband refused to apologize because he believes my family is the biggest reason for stress. And they feel the same. What do I do now?

Question: My parents hate me i try so hard to be the son they want but it wont work any suggestions?

Posted: 27 Nov 2018 11:06 AM PST

i some time feel like taking my life away altho idk if i want to but now that my baby sister is there life they dont really spend time with me that much and i just feel depressed. my age 16

Question: My aunt’s husband’s brother is a pedophile. My mother let me around this guy as a kid. Why would any reasonable mother do this?

Posted: 27 Nov 2018 10:57 AM PST

Yet she would not let me near my dad because he drinks too much. I think a pedophile is far more dangerous than an alcoholic.

Question: How to be a good uncle?

Posted: 27 Nov 2018 10:46 AM PST

So I'm a 22 year old guy and my 25 year old sister just gave birth to her first child, my niece. Anyways what are some ways to be a good uncle? I wanna be there for my niece when my sister needs me to be

Question: My grandmother wants to be called a new name by this new baby... Why?

Posted: 27 Nov 2018 10:38 AM PST

I named my grandmother her nickname and now I am 19 the oldest, my brother is 16, all my other cousins with her as a grandmother are 16, 13, and 11. Now all the sudden she wants this new grandchild that was just born to call her a completely different name from all of her other grandchildren. Why would she do this? I'm so confused and also a little hurt... I know she plays favorites, but this is a little extreme.

Question: How do I get my parents to go to my grandfathers on Christmas?

Posted: 27 Nov 2018 10:38 AM PST

They will not go cause of the will so now I'll be missing out.

Question: What do I even do anymore...?

Posted: 27 Nov 2018 10:09 AM PST

I got a truency in school and I have NEVER gotten one before buts its not even my fault and I feel like I let my mom down and I don't wanna to that but I just wanna give up on life im only 12 and idk what to do

Question: I’m the fat one in my family. Is my life even with it? Should I even bother being a Christian?

Posted: 27 Nov 2018 09:30 AM PST

I am a woman and find myself wishing I look like otner women. I thought about investing in diet pills and even overdosing if needed. I'm the reason why my family has us turn sideways in family portraits. I am 5 foot 3 and weigh 201 with a 50ddd size chest. If I was skinny I would be beautiful. I wish my parents had beaten me up even when I was chubby in high school. I've had weight issues since around my first period. http://i1376.photobucket.com/albums/ah23/amberdennis0094/418AC1D4-AF3B-47ED-AFC7-C36516ABB006_zpsrudsbvk9.jpg

Question: I was thinking about how my parents grounded me on Christmas 2011. Did I deserve to be grounded?

Posted: 27 Nov 2018 09:24 AM PST

My mother's best friend's son arrived at the house for our Christmas party on Christmas Day 2011. A few seconds after he arrived, I said, "I don't like him [my mother's best friend's son]." After I said that, her friend got up furiously and headed towards the door. She was almost crying. Everyone then just started shouting at me and told me how I should be ashamed of myself for saying something like that. My parents forced me to apologise to both of them and grounded me for the rest of the week. They made go upstairs and stay there. I wasn't allowed party food or drink. They made me go to sleep as soon as I got up there. Did I deserve to be grounded for that? I was 17 then.

Question: I feel suicidal, he’s making my life hell?

Posted: 27 Nov 2018 09:15 AM PST

Currently sat in his parents front room, after he's accused me of cheating just because the sun visor is out on the passengers side of the car, He promised he would fix the damage he did on my car - keyed on all panels and has smashed my back windscreen so I currently just have a black bag to cover it . Now he's saying I deserved all of it I told him the way he's thinking is crazy I've forgiven him so many times and he's constantly accusing me of this random crap. He said I've taken a gym card he accused me that wasn't mine but IT WAS MINE, HE THINKS ITS ANOTHER GUYS! Wtf? I feel scared My car is on finance, £200+ a month He doesn't drive Or have a car I literally want to die right now He won't let me speak to him Constantly telling me to shut my mouth, telling me he doesn't care anymore What have I done to deserve this :( I want to die :( I told him I'm very upset and he's laughing at me, he's 25,I'm 24 I feel dead inside

Question: Did I make a big mistake trying to help my sister?

Posted: 27 Nov 2018 08:42 AM PST

My sister was dumped my her husband of 10 years for a woman much younger than she was. The house sold and she had to move but her apartment would not be ready for 2 weeks so she is temporally staying with my husband and me. As expected she is depressed and has a very low self esteem. Trying to help her I asked my husband to tell her she is still beautiful and appealing to men. He did not want to do it but I insisted and that was what he told her. BIG MISTAKE. She thought he was flirting with her and she has been flirting with him ever since. He has been trying to avoid her but it is hard when she is living here. He wants me to tell her to back off. His is not interested in her in any way. I think he should tell her so I will remain good friends with her. Please give me your opinion. Who should tell her? My husband says the faster she leaves our house the better.

Question: Flatmate loud at 4 am?

Posted: 27 Nov 2018 08:39 AM PST

My flatmate has a guest staying with us and they woke me up last night playing a movie, music, and yelling loudly. I came out of my room and just let them know it was 4 am. Now flatmate avoiding me and I feel bad, was I unreasonable? We both have fulltime jobs and work monday- friday.

Question: My sister died of an overdose Sunday. I am still numb, just was with her Thanksgiving Day. What should I expect to feel in the coming weeks?

Posted: 27 Nov 2018 08:32 AM PST

Funeral is Saturday. She was an addict but seemed to be getting a little better. I think that was a false hope. She always refused help and showed no cooperation when my parents would intervene. I think my mother enabled some by doing favors for her though she never gave her cash again after an intervention in 2014. She went to rehab twice but was uncooperative. She suffered from Bipolar Disorder like I do and she used the drugs I guess to cope. It was the damn heroin that killed her. Sister was 23.

Question: Top three trouble area with living with other are: dishes/kitchen, bathroom & laundry. How best to get them to get along? Adult siblings.?

Posted: 27 Nov 2018 08:24 AM PST

Question: My Dad is a very ignorant person. How can someone who is well educated turn out like this?

Posted: 27 Nov 2018 08:17 AM PST

He did flunk out of college like the loser he is but was smart before that. He flunked out of Florida State at age 19.

Question: Should I cut ties with my sister?

Posted: 27 Nov 2018 06:45 AM PST

My sister is 31 years who acts like 17. We had big arguments in the past because there were times where my sister would scold me then when I scold her for the same thing, she would give small excuses. Example, she went into my room cuz signal was bad in her room and her boss was calling. My room had a really good signalso it seems. 2 weeks later, the signal in my room suddenly went out and it went to my sister's room. I went in and SHE GOT MAD and I told her she did it too me but her excuse is "MINE IS A CALL FROM MY BOSS YOURS IS JUST A STUPID HANGOUT". Anyway These arguments and her refusal to apologize led me to not go to her wedding. It's been a month since the wedding and she's still being a prick by texting me thrice a week of how bad my action was and how sad she felt. NO ONE GOES TO A WEDDING OF SOMEONE THEY HATE. NO ONE. EVEN IF ITS FAM NO ONE. Should I cut ties with a sibling?

Question: How does the normal person think. Iam a beast amongs men. I work 12 hours a day at work. Then I have live stock &working on my house.?

Posted: 27 Nov 2018 05:54 AM PST

I get told you cant have your cake and eat it too. Where everyone around me wants a peice of cake. I work 30hours a week cant make ends meet. I need money l need my car fixed. I cant afford weed or beer it must be nice. Mother **** I dont want a peice of cake. I got the recipe. You want more work hard. I work and do everything I can so my life is great. But get told I cant have everything. I say y not

Question: Do you think I’m doing something wrong?

Posted: 27 Nov 2018 05:40 AM PST

So I'm a 22 years old male in college. I have a 2018 car that I leased, and my older brother is yelling at me because I bought a project car with no engine or transmission for $5,000. But he doesn't know that once this car is fully modified and running, I can make up to $40,000. I obviously can afford it, but he's yelling at me because he thinks I'm not responsible with my money. I'm not saying I'll finish this car in a year or two, but in the future. And it's really my dream car.

Question: I need to get out of here?

Posted: 27 Nov 2018 05:39 AM PST

Hi, I m a 16 year old transgender teenager currently living in Alabama. I live with my biological mother and step dad. I would like to move with my grandmother back to Oregon, where I originally lived. I won t be 17 for eleven months and even then I don t know the laws about that. I want to move for many reasons. The house is infested with roaches and they ll leave animal feces and urine on the floor for weeks. All of our animals have fleas. We have piles of laundry and dishes all over, and sections of the house are caked in mud. They don t drink, they aren t abusive (to me, they did kick out my disabled grandmother after convincing her to move here) and they seem perfectly normal to the outside world. I don t know how they plan to keep their unborn child alive in these conditions. I also want to move because I can t medically transition here. My dysphoria is so bad that I have attempted suicide five times in the last few months. Third reason is that my mom never raised me. My grandma did. She stepped out when I was two to drink and party, and when I was around her she was always drunk. I begged to never stay with her and she agreed, until she met my step dad s family and wanted to impress them. They will not willingly let me leave anytime soon. They will not emancipate me. I highly doubt there s any convincing I could do. If I stay here much longer, I ll end up dead. Is there anything I can do to get to Oregon with my grandma? And fast?

Question: My brother thinks I need to grow up and says he has no interest in trying to be friends with me until I do?

Posted: 27 Nov 2018 05:14 AM PST

So my older brother and I are very different people. We always have been and we have never really clicked. We have tried to get closer but I just don't think we ever will. The other day he kind of unloaded on me. I was surpirsed because we had lunch a week and everything seemed fine. "Listen I honestly don't have time for you right now. I know why you called me the other day. Mom told you to. Mom told you I am having problems at home. My wife is sick, my marriage is rocky and my business is getting sued. My head is full of my own crap and you sit during lunch and want to talk about what car you should buy. When I tried changing the subject your response was that you have a salary review coming up. You know the world doesn't revolve around you. You have a lot of growing up to do and my problems are not your problems. But you made it clear that you don't to even know what my problems are". I thought maybe he wanted a distraction. I didn't mean to offend him. It seems that we are just too different. Is there any point in continuing this charade?

Question: What should you do if your teenage daughter told you in tears that dozens of her friends have unfriended her after she posted, I love Israel?

Posted: 27 Nov 2018 04:55 AM PST

But I've told her that it is not my fault her unpopular far-right opinions are received poorly by many of her peers?

Question: My mother is very unhygienic, acts younger than that she is and can’t answer a simple question and my sister ignores me?

Posted: 27 Nov 2018 02:20 AM PST

Whenever i try to talk to my mother, she folds her arms, taps her foot, roll with her eyes and makes noises with her tongue. When i say to her something she doesn't like (for example: this morning i asked her to clean her dirt on the toilet) she gets very loud with objects and talks loudly to herself so that she doesn't hear me. It hurts so much. When i repeat myself, most of the times she yells at me and then we yell at eachother but then she gives me the blame for yelling and being loud with objects. There's no one i can talk to because i'm not very good at communicating with people. My sister ignores me whenever i need her help with this meanwhile i always have her back because i know how much it can hurt. I have developed anger issues, depression and i get extremely scared and nervous to communicate with other people. I got in a dutch institution (never trust those people! I would explain but that's not part of my question) because my mother is very good at twisting words and i don't know how to explain myself. I don't know what to do. No one understands the situation because they've never experienced something like this. I just want to write to people to share my feelings because i don't really have anyone to talk to. What do you think is the best that i can do? (English isn't my native language)

Question: My husband got pissed off at my family and he lectured them. Now there is a huge rift between us all and I don't know what to do?

Posted: 27 Nov 2018 02:03 AM PST

The last year I've had anxiety and panic attacks. My husband has been a rock but understandably he is also frustrated. While this has been going on our life has been put on hold. In my culture they have something called the evil eye. It is basically when something good happens to you and people around you are jealous because of it and they throw you the evil eye. My mother strictly believes in it and she has raised us believing it. The other day we were visiting and we were talking about my health and the evil eye. My husband just exploded. He said: "I have had enough with all of your bs. I can not believe I am listening to grown ups discussing the evil eye. And you know what? I am the biggest fool here for letting it go on. With all of this you have taught your children that what others think about them is more important than what you think of yourself. Before anything else, be careful so someone isn't jealous. This right here is the last time you are putting this in her head. You understand me? I don't want to hear this crap one more time." Then he told me to put on my coat and to go home. And before we left he said that he is tired of having to re-teach me the lessons my they have put in my head. Basically saying that they are bad parents. Now everyone is pissed at everyone and no one wants to apologize. My husband refused to apologize because he believes my family is the biggest reason for stress. And they feel the same. What do I do now?

Question: My parents don't get how hard is medical school?

Posted: 27 Nov 2018 12:57 AM PST

I barely started and I legit have to memorize the muscular, nervous, and vascular system. My mom got pissed at me because I couldn't take her to the store. I'm currently studying for an exam that I have in 9 hours. It stresses me out that they want me to do things when they know I'm studying for exams. They brush it off as if medical school is easy. BTW i'm a first generation college student so I get that they don't understand...They sometimes make me want to drop out and just work as a biology teacher cause they keep adding more stress into my life. Before anyone says move out? I'm currently living here to save myself from more debt! I just need some encouraging words right now since my family members lack to motivate me through this.

Question: My husband got pissed off at my family and he lectured them. Now there is a huge rift between us all and I don't know what to do?

Posted: 27 Nov 2018 12:43 AM PST

The last year I've had anxiety and panic attacks. My husband has been a rock but understandably he is also frustrated. While this has been going on our life has been put on hold. In my culture they have something called the evil eye. It is basically when something good happens to you and people around you are jealous because of it and they throw you the evil eye. My mother strictly believes in it and she has raised us believing it. The other day we were visiting and we were talking about my health and the evil eye. My husband just exploded. He said: "I have had enough with all of your bs. I can not believe I am listening to grown ups discussing the evil eye. And you know what? I am the biggest fool here for letting it go on. With all of this you have taught your children that what others think about them is more important than what you think of yourself. Before anything else, be careful so someone isn't jealous. This right here is the last time you are putting this in her head. You understand me? I don't want to hear this crap one more time." Then he told me to put on my coat and to go home. And before we left he said that he is tired of having to re-teach me the lessons my they have put in my head. Basically saying that they are bad parents. Now everyone is pissed at everyone and no one wants to apologize. My husband refused to apologize because he believes my family is the biggest reason for stress. And they feel the same. What do I do now?

Question: I am 14 and not allowed a phone?

Posted: 27 Nov 2018 12:21 AM PST

my parents refuse to get me a phone at this point i have been asking for a phone since year 3 and my parents just wont i understand there are people that have bigger problems than not having a phone but i need a phone i am constantly catching busses places because my parents work a lot, i dance which we have late rehearsals without certain finish times so i will have to wait sometimes hours on the side of the street waiting for my parents to come get me, at school we often do kahoots that help with learing i cant do them so i sit there staring at the wall for an hour. it is just so annoying not having one like seriously. there is also no reason i shouldnt have one i get good grades i am respectful towards my parents i am overall a decent person. i need someone to please tell me how to convice them can people stop with the i didnt have one when it was the 80s yeah because it was the 80s its not helpful and its different now

Question: Hey y all I need some advice about Floating holidays?

Posted: 27 Nov 2018 12:17 AM PST

So I was legit planning on using the floating holidays I saved up for the entire year for December to get weekends off but that didn t happen because my managers didn t tell me they re use it for my wedding. So a couple days ago I asked them where my floating holidays went and they said they used them up because they wanted to make sure I was using them but it kissed me off because they never told me. Also they used one of everyone s floating holiday for thanksgiving without letting anyone know. And never gave me a 2nd day with thanksgiving even though we were meant to have a second day plus the holiday which ******* pisses me off even more. And when I talked to the manager who was suppose to tell me she was like why didn t you tell me sooner? I didn t have to tell her **** about using floating holidays because it isn t her business and she told me that December was booked and I wouldn t even be able go use them anyhow yet she s telling others she could 😡😒 so I just need help understanding if they re allowed to use our floating holidays without letting us know.

Question: Is my mom a hoe?

Posted: 26 Nov 2018 11:45 PM PST

She married someone she didn't know when she was 18 and got pregnant that same day with my older half brother. Apparently she was raped on her wedding night. Then he divorced her and she married another guy who was abusive too and my older sister was made who is my half sister. She decided to never marry anyone else and so I came into the picture with my little sister who is my actual sister. My older half sister and my father were too close and he tried to have sex with her because she was kinda a slut in school too. My mom found out and my dad left me. My older sister isn't my family to me. She got mad and called us bastards and how she hates our mom for divorcing her dad. My older brother I have no idea what the fck he does. He has a bunch of baby Mama's and is a thief who went to jail many times.

Question: Living with a mom who doesn't respect me and I can't move out yet what should I do?

Posted: 26 Nov 2018 11:39 PM PST

I'm a 21-year-old who is still living at home, Recently I came to the realization that my mother doesn't have respect for me. During this thanksgiving season my mother would go into my room and move something that I value very much without asking me. Of course, she would like to clean a lot during the holiday season, so I thought nothing of it. But after the guests left, she would still move my valued item. So eventually I asked her to stop, but she was all like "this is my house and I can do whatever I want". That's when I just felt angry, after all I never went into her room and screwed with her things, yet she can't offer the same courtesy to me? then it hit me all at once, that this wasn't even new behavior for her. You see my mother had always been the one who would attempt to get her way no matter what. be it through pouting complaining or otherwise, it was her way or no way. There I finally realized or at least admitted to myself that my mother has no respect for me and never has, I would just like to move out, problem is I don't make enough money to move out yet, until then I must put up with my mother a little longer, problem is I'm at my wits end with her and my patience with her behavior has expired. what should I do?

Question: I want to move to New York really bad, but I don’t wanna leave my family. They’re my best and only friends. What do I do?

Posted: 26 Nov 2018 11:21 PM PST

My parents can't stand each other and fight all the time. I don't know why they're still together. My Mom hates to be alone with my Dad, and she's my best friend, so I always ease the tension and act like a buffer. I want her to move to NYC with me, but I she hates the city. My Mom also has a very fragile mental state, and I have to help lift her mood and calm her down a lot. I can't leave her. Also, I'm really close with my sisters. I love them all so much. They're my best and only friends. I can't leave them, but I can't find a job in this city. Should I try to convince them to cone with me?

Question: Help! Brother is staying with me and my fiancé and our 1 year old.?

Posted: 26 Nov 2018 11:02 PM PST

Ok so I'm 23 my brother is 21 I agreed to let him stay with me and my family temporarily because he had stayed with my mom who lives in a really bad neighborhood. so he can get on his feet (job car apt etc) with a max of 8 months. And it is driving my fiancé crazy we were both unemployed when he came a few months ago so I had a talk with my brother to be conservative with the utilities. First month he was not ....leaving lights on tv on all night so I had another talk with him basically saying hey if u can't follow the rules u have to leave . So today he advised me he starts a job ok good for him. Bad for me it's 30 mins away he has no car and want me to wake up 6 am to take him to work and also pick him up. With my fiancé starting work in a few weeks it's gonna be hard to do all that with my 1 year old. I dont know if I bit off more than I can chew or if I'm just really exaggerating. I need some type of advice my fiancé already expressed to me he want my brother to leave. I don't wanna seem like the bad guy here but don't want an unhappy fiancé either !

Question: How do i overcome unfair treatment?

Posted: 26 Nov 2018 10:51 PM PST

For a very long time now, I have been experiencing a type of pain that cannot be explained. Between my brother and I, it has always been my brother who is the favorite child. No matter what I did to gain the love from my parents. everything my brother does, he receives encouragement, love and affection. And me? only criticism. It has reached such an extent where now my brother has began degrading me, abusing me, passing comments at me. I had rescued a puppy from the streets and brought him home. He has won all our hearts but my brother's. My brother keeps taunting me to throw the puppy, he threatens me to give the puppy away and no one tells him anything. It's like he is the boss. He has even began giving my parents false information about me, for example he told my mom that I do drugs. and my boyfriend told him to smoke weed - which he never did. And this created a huge scene at home because my parents believed him!! He has lost all respect towards me. Yesterday, he raised his hand on me, he strangled me and no one did anything. NO ONE. The matter was left saying "it's his age, he's a teenager". Just because he is a teenager does that mean he has the right to disrespect and abuse me? due to this, I have gone into a form of depression where I feel like I have no one in my life and everyone hates me.

Question: My girlfriend and her brother are pretty close and I have weird gut feelings. Someone help?

Posted: 26 Nov 2018 09:55 PM PST

I've been dating this girl for about 7 months now. She was home for the winter break from school and we video chatted while we were both home. I noticed she was very close with her younger brother, like VERY close. She's turning 21 and he's 18. These are the things I noticed 1. He's in her room all day when she's home, just being in her company (nothing strange just very close) 2. When me and her met and started dating and getting serious she would take the phone in the bathroom and shower with the shower-door open. Her brother would walk in and just hangout while shes standing there nude in the shower. I became very uncomfortable and weirded out. 3. When i was at her house with her brother for the first time i kept having a gut instinct that they had some kind of incestuous activity 4. I asked her and found out when they were younger and had sleepovers at their grandmothers house with their cousins. They would sneak out and do sexual things with each other. She and her brother tried to have sexual intercourse. 5. I was on the phone with her the other day while she was in the bathroom showering and i heard her telling her brother she wasn't done and then i heard nothing. I called out, "babe?" And her younger sister picked up the phone and said "ohh my older sister is in the bathroom right now with my brother." Could she have an ongoing incestuous relationship with him? Or could it be that they became very close with each other because of their upbringing?

Question: My own mother didn't bother visiting me or even calling me during my long recuperation after surgery. How can I forgive her for this?

Posted: 26 Nov 2018 09:48 PM PST

I got a tumor removed from the side of my face and although she did go to the hospital the day of my surgery, she left 1 hour after. I saw her again 3 days later for just 1 hour again and only because it was my birthday & because my husband invited her to come see me. Well, after that she was mad & said she felt like I was acting "angry" when HELLO! I had just had a big surgery & felt so much pain. It wasn't that I was in a "bad mood" but more like I was in pain & felt weak but anyway I didn't hear from her again until almost a week after & she only called to tell me that some relative wanted my phone number to call me but she NEVER once asked how I am doing. I feel horrible. How can a mother be this uncaring?! She also knew that I could hardly walk after this surgery but she stayed away. It's been 2 weeks & she never came to help me or see me. Her stupid pride means more to her as she was "mad" at me. This time has been extremely hard for me. I have decided to cut her out of my life for at least 1 month. I need time to TRY to forgive her. She now knows that I am very disappointed with her. I'm sure she feels bad but I can't turn back time. I really needed my mother to be there for me & she decided not to be. It made me depressed. I will never get over this or forget it. Things will never be the same for me after this. I will probably always hold resentment. Any advice? Please, I'd like someone to tell me their opinion. Thanks.

Question: How do you thankfully repay your parents ?

Posted: 26 Nov 2018 09:09 PM PST

Question: How do I get my mom to stop paying my cell bill?

Posted: 26 Nov 2018 07:41 PM PST

I'm 22 and she pays like 90 bucks a month for me to have a cell phone. I don't even use my phone that much and if she didn't pay it I just wouldn't have a phone because it's not that important to me. But she continues to pay it so she can keep in touch with me. I feel like an asshole because it's like I'm making her pay it. I just feel really bad about it. What can I do?

Question: I know this might sound stupid, but I'm having a real rough time right now. I'm in honors geometry and I'm literally dying, I have a 79.?

Posted: 26 Nov 2018 06:40 PM PST

I want to drop out, even though I feel like I'll be the laughing stock of the class. I want to tell my parents about this, but I feel like they are not going to understand me and instead tell me how I should be like my brother. This grade has literally brought my self-esteem down. What should I do?

Question: My mother just passed away now what?

Posted: 26 Nov 2018 06:36 PM PST

My mother passed away suddenly about an hour ago. I'm in absolute shock. Went in for tests at 10 in the morning she was dead by 7 in the evening. Massive heart attack. When my father died my mother handled EVERYTHING. I've never dealt with this. What do I need to do Who do I need to contact Do I just call a funeral home How do I even access her bank accounts to pay for the funeral What are the first steps I'm in such shock I'm so confused can someone please just walk me through this process. I don't have any siblings so it's just me.

Question: How to handle a family member who talks too much?

Posted: 26 Nov 2018 05:52 PM PST

My father talks too much, it s incessant, and I dread seeing him. I ve told him he talks too much and I ve even set boundaries of when I am not available to talk, but he doesn t care, because he thinks what he has to say is more important. I remember countless times as a child and into my teens sitting there for over an hour feeling trapped and mentally exhausted having to listen to him ramble on about whatever was on his mind, like I was some kind of tape recorder and not a person. He s not any different now, except now I have zero time for that bs, so I only give him a few mins of my time every so often and try to completely avoid him the rest of the time. Of course that makes him angry, but I can t find another solution and he doesn t care to try to limit how much he talks or respect the boundries I made. Right now I am living at my parents house, big mistake, but they needed help around their house, because my dad is lazy also. Believe me I am getting out asap, but that s only going to partially solve his talking issue, because any interaction with him becomes draining and exhausting. I don t know what to do to fix the situation since he is not willing to try.

Question: Is it okay to go skinny dipping with your cousins if everyone’s cool with it?

Posted: 26 Nov 2018 04:44 PM PST

Okay first off we're all mixed ages and genders, and a bunch of us were in our own separate room on thanksgiving, hanging out, and someone jokingly mentioned the idea (because we go camping every summer and we swim in a lake and stuff) and everyone was actually like "yeah sure why not", our family like isn't afraid of nudity and stuff I just don't know if this is against society's rules or anything lol,

Question: I feel so nervous, how to calm myself down?

Posted: 26 Nov 2018 03:17 PM PST

I am going to a wake in a few hours for my grandmother but I am super nervous. I haven't seen my whole family in years and last time I saw them was when my grandma was dying at the house. It was super awkward but I'm still going to feel awkward coming back into the family. I am a 26 year old female. Also, I feel nervous because we all live at home and my dad is super controlling and I'm sure is going to want me to drive with him. I want to take my own car and drive myself to the wake. What should I do to feel less nervous?

Question: My mom makes me go to bed at 7PM, and won't let me wake up until 8AM?

Posted: 26 Nov 2018 02:21 PM PST

Okay, I'm 16, and my mom thinks I need the sleep. I always wanted to go to bed at 11:30PM and wake up at 5:30 AM. But no, not with an asian mom. She thinks I need the sleep so I must be in bed by 7pm, and i can't get up earlier than 8am. i go to regular 5 days a wk school, and i have so much uncomplete homework last year, my sophomore year, i took ap biology and ap human. i got 60's in those classes, and my mom beat me. i got a 2 on both those exams, and she beat me so hard with her fists, belt, fly swatter, rolling pin, and metal broom that i was severely paralyzed. now i'm on a wheelchair, and i still go to regular public school, where many people make fun of me. right now i'm in 4 ap classes and 2 de classes, and i have the sat coming up on may 4. please help me. i want to call the police and/or cps, but my mom says that if the police comes to our house she will tell them i was doing drugs in my room and bribe them to arrest me. my mom has autism and she is overweight, which might explain her weird behavior my first class isn't until 9am, so i don't need to physically be at my school until 8:40 am