My grandma is in her 60's and recently got into a motor scooter accident. She had to get surgery 2x and she still feel back pain and can not really walk. They sent her home to recuperate but she went back to the hospital because she got pneumonia. So the doctors found water in her lungs and they found out she also has heart failure. She thinks her time is near to an end and my mom is so worried. My grandma lives in mexico and we live in the U.S. My mom is waiting for her green card to come in the mail. So the problem is this, should my mom risk her losing her green card and never being able to come back to see my grandma? My mom hasnt seen her mom in 23 years so she would be absolutely devastated if my grandma passes away. If you were in this situation, would you risk everything to see your mom one last time, or hope that her time isnt ending and wait it out to see if she gets better and worst case scenario she passes away and you never got to see your mom one last time after 23 years? Of course i wouldn't want my mom to leave me or my sisters but i would support her because thats her mom. I would regret not being able to see my mom on her death bed to be honest. Thank you in advance. * Please - no anti immigration comments or racist comments *

I absolutely hate my dad. I despise him. I hate him with every fiber of my being. I've always hated him, ever since I was a little child. He's always taken out his anger wrongfully on me and yelled at me, screamed at me, and thrown things at me just because he needed an outlet for his anger. I used to suck it up and take it because my mom told me he was under a lot of stress, but as I get older, I realize, it's not right for me to be his punching bag (not literally) whenever he gets upset. He acts nice for a few days and then the next thing you know he's screaming at me for not answering his call fast enough. Today, he screamed and threw things at me for being 3 minutes late to him picking me up from a club. I know it's not really about me being late, it's about him being angry at something else and needing something to take it out on. I'm so pissed, this isn't right. But I can't do anything about it except apologize and suck it up because I'm stuck living with him for the next four years and my mom won't do anything about it except excuse his behavior because his work is stressful. I legit don't know what to do, I can't take his behavior anymore but I'm a minor it's not like I can just move out. I literally have no options here because if I try to tell him his behavior is unacceptable he and my mom will just yell at me. Is there anything I can do?

I wont go too much into details and I promise you I am a peaceful person but I really despise my moms husband, long story short. I use to live with my mom her husband and her husbands son who is 2 years younger then me, I hated living with them. Basically my mom married her husband in 2006 and that's when they both moved in with us, at the beginning everything was fine and he treated me nice but as months and a few years went by he started treating not so nice and my mom and entire family overlooked it just because he gave us our citizenship which is a huge factor as to why they always tell me to be grateful of him and I would be but he basically threatened not to give us our citizenship if I didn't move out, which is why I moved out of their house and moved to my grandparents which is where I live now, now its been 8 years since all of this happened and all of this years we were fine and I acted civil up until this year ,every timeI even looked at the man all I could think of was all the horrible things he did and said to me while living with him, now all I tell my mom is to not bring him over on sundays which is when all my family gets together because its my house too and I don't feel comfortable around him at all, how can I get my mom to understand this, now that thanksgiving is coming up they all want to go to my moms for dinner but I don't want to go there. what do I do?

I have a older brother and my nephew that comes over every weekend I can't really feel relaxed around him anymore he stressed me out to the point I get sick I have been sick for 2 weeks just got better but I'm not sleeping well I get 3-4 hours only sometimes none at all even I know it's because of him for so long I didn't want to admit it my nephew is moving across the world in April since his mom is in the Air Force I'm only happy about it because I don't have to deal with drama I love him dearly but not my brother so much the pay 2 times he was over we were fighting because I asked him nicely to be quiet he didn't I shouldn't ask him twice so I glared my tv all the way up he went to mom trying to blame me but she knows me so well every time he's over now I get horrible migraines lately I been thinking of telling my mom to get me hotel room when he's over or I'm going homeless for awhile I don't know anyone here really because we moved here any advice would be appreciated of how to cope with this or if anyone has been through similar I used to never stuck up for myself when he treated me like this but now I do which is a plus.

I am 20 years old by the way and live with my parents, I work and attend college. I am the only child, and my dad tends to work a lot. This year my mother's mom, dad and brother all passed away so it has been hard on all of us especially my mom. I have been considering doing this special school abroad experience that I am very very interested in that would start in February, something I have been considering for a long time. Would it be wrong to leave my mom to do this? She does not really have any family here where we live in the US considering her family is from the Philippines. Just a cousin, and a lot of filipino friends here. She seemed upset when I first mentioned it to her saying something along the lines, "my parents left, my brother and now you would be leaving me." I don't know what to do, I mean ofcourse the loss of the family is hard on me too but I know its apart of life and we have to move on. What should I do?

So it was me and my two best friends and I was kind of being rude I won't lie and he got fed up and as me and my two best friends were walking away he grabbed my wrist really really tight and started yelling at me that I was disrespectful and if I keep it up he's going to take my phone away so after he talked for so fricken long my friends and I went to my room and I think I should tell my dad he hit me and my best friends would totally back me up and say he did. Is this a good idea?

There's bedbugs everywhere upstairs, but she never called the exterminators. I tried to remove them using DIY methods, but they don't seem to work. She says she doesn't want to call the exterminators because "they only attract more bedbugs." Since I'm only 11, I don't have my own phone, so I can't call the exterminators. I use my mom's computer for writing this. and she's a single mom, so she makes all the decisions regarding the house

My Mom and her siblings flee town together when this toxic aunt is in town. I am an adult so can do as I wish but which should I do? I don't mind the toxic aunt that much but I do agree she can be mean to people. She has adult children I know also but don't know well anymore because of the issues she has with the rest of the family.

he's 25 years old, he's unemployed and he plays video games literally all day long every single day, he never goes out what should I do?

I've been estranged from my son for the past three years. He is nineteen. In 2010 I left his father after he had pushed me into a wall, and broke my nose. My ex had supervised visitation for over a year before, unsupervised visits were given to him. When my son was fifteen, he left for his father's place in another state. Come fall, he didn't want to leave. I went there to pick him up, the police were called but they wouldn't force him to come. I filed contempt charges against my ex husband, which he countered. After a six month battle, he retained primary custody. Six months later, my relationship with my son had changed. I've only seen him maybe a dozen times since he moved with his father. Each time has been worse than before. He's been rude, short and when we do get along he is distance. Six weeks ago he told me he wasn't going to come visit me on Christmas, and when I asked why. He told me he needed space. It resulted in me getting emotional and demanding to know what I did to him, for him to hate me so much. And then I went to know what his dad said about me. This is when he told me that I was hard to be around, because I just wouldn't let go of the past. He said he knew that his father had hurt me, and that he didn't expect me to forgive him, but that he had, and has forgiven his father. That I needed to let go because it was hurting him. Yet mutual friends had told me that my ex has badmouthed me, and is telling everyone I'm crazy. I just don't know what to do.

My uncle was married with a woman and they gave birth to my cousin then they got divorced and the woman remarried and gave birth to another kid who is my cousin s half-brother do i have no relations to him?

Now it is just my immediate family and one aunt. Used to be about 30 on both sides of the family, not it is about 8 all together. I mourn. Holidays are sad, not joyful. How do I make new memories and distract myself from what I don't have to what I can make good of it.

I already asked a question about them, basically the 14 year old has stolen my 15 year olds boyfriend. They argue incessantly about it. When I say argue, the 14 year old brags about how she is dating the boy now. My husband feels we should let them sort it out, but our older daughter is hurting so badly just now. I have tried speaking to the 14 year old and asking her to be more sensitive, but she insists she is doing nothing wrong. Anyway, she was out with him yesterday, and came home and told her sister she was a loser, and no wonder she couldn't keep a boyfriend, so I grounded her, which she took no notice off, and went out. I told my husband (her father, I'm her stepmother of 10 years, there mother has had not contact with them for 12 years) and he basically said I should have left it. He did have a word with the 14 year old though, but she took no notice of that either. I don't know what to do, I have tried everything. Thanks for your help and sorry for basically asking the same thing twice, I'm just really stuck.

she has been abusing me(all types) for the past 5 yrs.her father is not in her life, because he abused her.she promised to get me(mom) and her brother arrested, i would lose my job-car-house-all,and she would get to live where she wants to.no one can tell/ask her to do anything or they are reported to cps.1 week ago(after punching me for the millionth time)the police finally removed her to temp foster care.this is only for one week.her workers are trying to blame me.everytime her workers(prob.,case workers,councelors,etc.) babied her when she twisted everything around to make her look good-she became more abusive.my health has deteriorated(3OPERATIONS since March 08). i didn't sleep.i love her but, does someone have to die before they realize she is going to ruin my life at all costs.i haven't dated in 8 yrs(afraid she would scare away the man).now i am dating a great man(knows all/agrees with me).i think this is going to be longterm.everbody tells me to stand firm.i want to be loved.

To set things straight, I actually don't want to kill myself. Long story short, my mom and dad are getting a divorce and my dad, being the psychopath he is, is trying to gain custody of me by trying to accuse her of child abuse. Well I think he should be accused because he manipulates, lies, and is overall a horrible person in general. So I made a plan. My dad wasn't home so I texted him that I wanted to kill myself and I was on my way to jump in front of a train. I knew he was at a hotel with another woman (I have evidence). If he comes back then I guess wow then he might actually have emotions. If he doesn't then I can use that as evidence in court when he's trying to say that my mom is a child abuser. So I did. I told him I was on my way. I texted him a long paragraph saying I want to kill myself, I know you are cheating and yada yada. And as you can see from the title, he didn't come back or call an ambulance or the police. The only texts I received were him defending himself saying that he isn't cheating and nothing else. Plus, I'm pretty sure he wouldve believed me because he knows I talk to the school counselor regularly and I've also been through a lot. I'm pretty sure after I sent that text he just slept with his mistress. So is this enough evidence for me to prove that my dad is unfit to be a parent? I just want to know what everyone thinks. Ok, I may have written too vaguely. I know it sounds like I was trying to get attention, but I really didn't. I hate my dad because he's doing extreme things trying to gain custody of me, such as reporting my mom for assault, child abuse, and other criminal activity. I know It's messed up to lie about being suicidal but my point is that I need to prove that he is unfit to be a father. Overall my question is: if a father doesn't care if his child is trying to commit suicide, is it child abuse?

Later on the parents complain about their teenager's lack of focus and bad manners. It seems that the blame lies squarely on bad parenting. Any suggestion for parents who don't want to make the same mistakes, Do you think parents need to start teaching responsibility to teenagers. Do you agree that it could well be termed a battle to make a teen listen, but it is a battle worth fighting.

After school, I played softball with my friends when I got hit on the face by a fly ball. I got a black eye to me. It's just a bruise, and it will heal. So after the fly ball incident I went home and started my homework around suppertime my step mom started calling me to come down I didn't hear her because fell asleep listening to music, she came in my room and shoot me then took ear plugs out of my ears when she saw my eye, she screamed and was freaking out saying that she needed to take me to the emergency room because I could have a concussion. She made my dad take us to the emergency room. I don't have a concussion I feel like my stepmom overreacted about the situation I also felt bad because she got so upset. I did apologized to my stepmom for not telling her about it I meant she shook me not shoot. Lol

They always worry about me and send me stupid gifts for the holidays. I just want to forget they ever existed. I'm trying to get my brother onboard with the idea too. They will NEVER have grand kids EVER and I am grateful for that and their misery that they cant brag to their friends about stupid grandkids my dad has diabetes and my mother I'm hoping gets the alzeimers it runs in our family. flip a coin on who goes first? I'm thinkin pops

I don't know what's wrong with me to be honest. The only time I get extremely angry is when I'm with my 9 year old sister. I hate when she eats and chews and it makes me extremely angry. I'm only able to control myself from yelling and resorting to physical violence. But my eye always twitches and I glare at her whenever she ticks me off. I have trouble breathing and I try my hardest not to yell at her. I can't eat next to her or even near her or else I'll just get mad over and over again and it's so frustrating because my parents don't understand how I feel. It's fine when I'm with other people though. It's just her that makes me feel so angry. I hate the sounds she makes, and I hate her voice or when she talks too much. I don't understand??? And it's not just regular sibling fights and drama.

Ever since my grandfather(poppy) died,i have been feeling very guilty. 1.i was not feeding him enough. 2.i should have tooken him to the va to pick up his new dentures. 3.i should have spent more time with him when we were sitting shiva for my mom and every other day and night. 4.i should have listen to him more. 5.i should have not called the ems the day after he fell. 6.i should have checked up on him when he was in the hospital,but i was scared to see him in his existing condition. 7.i should have forced him to eat when he was in the hospital. 8.i should have talked to him more in the hospital. 9.i should have spoken to his doctors more about his condition. i feel so guilty about his passing and i miss him so much. i know he's probably cursing at me from his grave. i would eat lunch and dinner and not feed him. i am a very bad granddaughter. it's my fault he died. 10.i should have visited him 2 days after i fractured my foot and before he passed. i put 90% of my mom's ashes with him and 10% with me. i know my mom want me and grandpa to have half of her ashes,but i figured,he needs more of her ashes than me. he raised me when i was born and had custody of me. he was very overprotective of me.

My Mother in law passed away 1 week ago. It was a sudden lost from a heart attack inside our local walmart. She has always had medical problems with Diabeties, high blood pressure etc. She lived with us for 3 years. My husband is devastated they were close. Everything in our house reminds him of his mother. Her room hasn't been touched. He is wanting to move out ( We rent) asap. I told him lets give it until December & talk about it again In Jan. He leaves everyday because he can't stand being at home. My question is : Should we stick it out & just put all her stuff in a storage Or Should we move?

My grandmother raises us cause my Mom went out with a guy who had done child abuse before so we weren't allowed to live with him and he hit me once and it really hurt and scared me. I was nine then. So I have lived with my grandmother on and off ever since. We went back to live with my Mom and then her friend moved back in and they got married so we went back to live with my grandmother. So now my Mom has accused my grandmother of child abuse. My brother has a mark and she says my grandmother put it there. His Dad is this mean boyfriend of hers. He says "Grandma" but I think my Mom told him to say that and he didn't really get hurt by her. If she did it was an accident. So the police came and now my Grandma has to go to court. If she loses us as she thinks will happen the judge will send us to Foster Care in Cleveland near where Mom lives (we live in Westerville with grandma now). I am really scared. Do bad things happen in foster care? What will it be like? Will the people be nice? Will I be there forever? Will it mean someone can adopt me forever? And can i see my grandma again? I am scared.

He is awful to some mentally ill people we know. He was very negligent to his parents until they got ill. Then he tried to make up to make himself look good (one died suddenly but the other had Alzheimers for years). He also belittles three family members with mental illness. Lastly, he is very dishonest. So how do I avoid being linked to him by people who will paint a bad image of me knowing I am his son? Both great answers, thank you.

She is a bad person.

I'm 59 She's 28 and gorgeous I keep fantasizing about her but I know I can't do anything about it because of her mom What should I do? Can anyone please give me helpful advice??

hi. I am 13. my dad is turning 51 tomorrow and my mom is turning 49 next week. do you consider them old?

In other circumstances I wouldn't be asking this, as she is my best friend, but my mums boyfriend has a daughter, she is abused by her biological mother (not mine) and right now we are fighting for custody for her. My mothers boyfriend has ptsd from the war. So without my mum he'd be deemed unfit to raid her on his own. If I tell my mother she will leave him and he'd either Jill himself or not get his daughter and he is a really good father. He is a decent man too, just not when it comes to this, like he supports us financially and he feels bad if he's a burden but my mother is my best friend and I don't know if I could live with any of the possible outcomes of this if I was to tell her.. I just don't know...

I have been in a relationship with a woman for the past 4 years. We are both women and in our 40's. She makes 6 times the amount of money I make. We live together in her home however I still have my home and my expenses (car payment insurance cell house expenses). I pay for the groceries and buy things for her house. She belittles me saying that I expect her to pay for everything. Tomorrow is her birthday and I paid for an all inclusive trip to Mexico for 4 days to celebrate her bday on the beach as she loves the beach. She is yelling at me telling me I am selfish as I only took 4 days to celebrate her birthday but I can take my vacation to go see my parents for Xmas (I am not even arriving at my parents until 8pm on Xmas day so I can celebrate Xmas with my g/f and her family). She has been on vacation all this week and has had about 12-16 beers each day and has spent all night starting fights, yelling at me telling me how I have ruined her bday once again and states she will not be getting on the plane to go to Mexico in the morning. She tells me I am the most selfish person in the world. While I just worked 32 hours in 3 days and have been helping cleaning her house as her parents are arriving next week to stay with us for a few months. I also do everything for her family and especially for her nephews. No one ever does anything for her but me. Please help - what should I do?

I'm overwhelmed with this mess! I guess I adopted some of my parents hoarding behavior. :( What do I clean first? The messiest room? Because I can't even tell which room is messiest. The cleanest room? Because, again, NONE of it is clean. :( I'm lucky I don't have pets! My 5 year old twins are messy enough as it is! I can't afford professional help. And I don't need to deep clean yet. More like organize! I (cries) just (whines) don't want to (sobs) do it!!! Calling all single parents!! How do I do this?!

So basically I have this friend we used to email a lot but then we got in an argument because she thought I wrote to much and she started ignoring me and blocked me so months later recently I sent an email asking if we could start talking again and reconnect but she keeps ignoring my emails, maybe she got a new email and I'm sad what do I do

I'm in my 20's my sister is 36 going on 37 in a few months and still gossips about me to her friends. I recently deleted her off of facebook for always posting rants and vulgar language, she's always in some sort of conflict every day of her life. It's like she enjoys it because she will find a way to be right about everything. One of her friends posted an inspirational quote picture basically mocking me saying "Will posting these give me inspiration" then went on saying 'lame' and 'actually they're just stupid' The reason why I posted them was to clear out negative vibes from my older sister. I've never had a positive female role model in my life so I do rely on myself for setting that bar. I feel hurt, does anyone know any sister advice/quotes on being the bigger person when it comes to gossip from someone who says they care but really they don't?

Okay. I'm a 16 yr old guy and I have one sibling, a 13 yr old sister. Our parents are really strict Asians, so our bedtime is 9PM, with no exceptions. And my mom homeschools us, so homework is not an excuse. Anyways, we wanted to stay up late, so we played some chess and uno yesterday night. At 11PM, my mom walked into our bedroom and caught us playing. She got really mad at us, and spanked us, then grounded us. Here is our punishments: I have to wake up at 4:30 AM each day and do all the chores, inside and outside the house. For every one minute I wake up late, I have to do 100 pushups in front of them. (my parents know i'm sorta lazy, so they make me do all this crap) My sister's punishment is also pretty degrading. She now has to wear diapers all the time, and when we eat, she must wear a bib. Also, my dad ordered a wheelchair for her to use, and she must sit on the wheelchair, and I must push her around on the chair. (again, they know that she's snobbish and thinks she's mature for her age, so they want her to feel like a disabled baby). Now I'm thinking about committing suicide. I really can't do more than 10 consecutive pushups or get up before 6AM. And I feel really bad for my sister. They took away our laptops and phones, and I'm using my mom's laptop btw. She's at physical therapy, and my dad is still at work.

So me and my dad recently moved in with my gran because we needed a better place to live and also to take care of her. Her house is this really old, big 1800s property out in the middle of the woods, and it has a lot of strange features because of everything that s been added to it over the years. There is so much creepy stuff here, it s not even funny. So far I ve found 3 trapdoors downstairs, but I can only open one of them. It leads to a part of the basement that was otherwise walled off, and we found an antique jewelry box down there, nothing in it but it had the initials "A.E." and it kinda freaked me out. There s also crawlspaces in all of the bedroom closets. Most of them were empty, but mine was nailed shut, and my dad got it open and there were a bunch of mannequin parts in there. So that stuff s creepy on its own (and we haven t even gone through the whole house yet), but it s not the only reason I m asking this question. Basically, ever since we moved in, at night I ve been hearing footsteps and other weird noises coming from inside the walls. It goes on from about 11 PM to 3 AM each night (it was spooky as sh!t so it kept me up) and it definitely sounds different from the house settling. Then, last night, the sounds got louder, and it sounded like they were moving throughout the house. It stopped for a couple minutes, then suddenly I started hearing footsteps IN THE HALLWAY outside my room. Well, I barricaded my bedroom door and that stupid crawlspace and sat there panicking for a while, but I ended up passing out from exhaustion. When I woke up this morning, it looked like some living room furniture was knocked around and food was missing from the kitchen. My dad and my gran couldn t explain it and when I told them what I ve been hearing, they got super freaked out. My dad did try to file a police report today but they didn t take us too seriously. They thought it was rats, which I don t believe is the case. I m totally creeped out and I don t know what to do. Should we set up cameras? Call the police again? I just want to get rid of them. Help!!!

My grandma (father's mother) is the most SERIOUS person you'll ever meet. All she does is stay quite during a conversation and the only time she speaks is when there is something to criticize. Well my father is kind of the same. He does not spend time with neither of us (my brother and I) only memories I have of him from childhood are those where he is upset, or criticizing. He sees something that is funny to him on another person and that person could be next to us he would go like "look how ridiculous that idiot with the red hair looks" he cannot control his voice level he literally yells while he speaks, his face expression looks serious all the time. When he approaches me my face inmidietly turns upset >:( I can't stand having him anywhere near me. He does not create a happy environment with the people around him nor knows how to make jokes, everyone that meets him turns off inmeatly at some point or another. Postive things about him? He is a hard worker, never used physical violence, and I've never needed anything financially speaking. But money isn't everything in life. I did not have a caring, funny father growing up. he literally does not approach us to talk and when he does is MAD AWKARD. Thanks to him, I think is why I've always been so insecure, not growing up with the love from a father (I'm a girl) .I've always been so shy, insecure and not knowing how to socialize, I never recieved that example from him. Do you also think that is why my personality is like this?