If they have parents who pay for everything, there's no need to work. Everyone knows the only reason someone has a job is to get money. People on welfare don't need jobs, same with rich families or husbands/wives who pay for everything.

So my best girlfriend of 15 years took my ex's side when we were splitting up. It was odd because she talked badly about him...called him a loser, told me I'd be better off without him, even encouraged me to go after someone else. This is not why my ex and I split up, but it certainly added to my confusion when she told me later he was a great guy and I had treated him poorly the entire time we were together. I found out later he had been telling her lies about me for months and that they had sort of a secret friendship even while we were still together. He had also become good friends with her husband who took his side rather suddenly as well. She cut me off completely, suddenly blocked me on Facebook, and told me to never contact her again. Now she hangs out with him all the time when he has our kids and her husband is never there. I have to hear about her from my kids all the time, and every time I do, it stings. I ran into her at a sporting event and she looked at the ground the whole time. I'm still struggling to wrap my head around the whole thing and am so sad about it months later. We were so close that we were in the hospital room with each other when our kids were born. And now we are here. Has anyone had anything like this happen to them?

My husband has been verbally abusive to me since returning home from Iraq. I understand it was rough on him but he's been taking it out on me. I try and leave and he physically won't let me. He will grab our 3 month old from my arms and leave with him and refuse to bring him back for hours. My name is the only name on the lease but he says since he pays rent it won't matter. I've called cops but they say it's a family court matter. Please help.

He doesn't plan or do anything for me. He thinks sex and grabbing me is enough. He will change or a short time and goes back to nothing. He says he a routine guy but he doesn't make the effort unless I'm mad. We have two kids and I still work, take care of kids and make time for him. He knows It upsets me but only tries when I voice it. I don't get why...3 years of marriage and it already dull

Like what are some ideas of where I can stay for free or cheap? And what are some other tips and info I should know? I want to take a break, not to see other people, just to spend some time apart, so we can appreciate each other's company again.

Waking him up and apparently he was getting freaked out and scared when I did that. I was on my phone because I couldn't sleep and he threw it and smashed my screen and started shouting and making me cry. What should I do?

women are saying about over confidence men, what is it?

I cheated on my wife emotionally not physically. She says she forgives me but, every time we get happy she brings up my failure. And says shes mot trying to make me feel any sort of way. I feel either she should let us get pass it or hate my guts. Stop with the flip flopping but, I also feel she's entitled to it due to how I hurt her. I apologize every day several times a day. But she will smile and say shes okay then I hear her listening to her "I hate you!" Music tracks.... please only give advice I really dont have the stuff to deal with a random person dumping their pain on me too.and to all the people who agree with her just say your peace. Thanks

Yesterday she was being nice to me and wanted me to abandon my studies to have a family day with her parents and our son. It was really enjoyable! Last night she seemed happy and was treating me well. Until she got what she wanted from me. Then she turned on me again... I fell asleep on the lounge with my books and couldn't hear her mum knocking on the door to be let in. The intercom woke me up. My wife stormed out of the room accusing me of not sleeping and treating her parents like crap. In fact I did nothing wrong and tried to buzz them inside until I realised they were having trouble and needed letting in. Last night my wife increased her verbal abuse again. Calling me a stupid idiot, saying she wishes I would die, hates me so much, f...you idiot, you are just using me for my money loser, you do nothing for the family etc. I am wondering if she is bipolar? Because she was fine yesterday but suddenly in the early hours of the morning she is abusing me! Actually I have contributed a lot to the family. I don't need to justify it. I told her that she is projecting her negative views of herself into me and to stop being immature. But it has hurt me. Mind you, this is not the first time that she has abused me just before a major university exam. I have to put this behind me and concentrate! I know I'm not a loser or stupid. I learned not to take to heart what she says. The court ordered her to see a psychiatrist but I have no idea if that is going to work! I will say that she has been like this for years. Names like idiot and hope you die are nothing new. The accusations that I must be cheating with a classmate are something fairly recent because she got jealous of me talking to my classmate who is female. I had already introduced her to my wife and said she is looking to buy property from my wife. I study nursing so 90% of students are female. I used to be insulted and put down then she would calm down and come to apologise to me... I recognise it as abuse. I asked my psychologist about my wife's psychology report from the court case and she said it isn't narcissistic disorder. So, I can only try to shield myself and try to avoid negative thoughts by concentrating on my achievements and telling myself I am a sensible caring person who does the right thing. I work, study and look after our son. It also helps to cope by reminding myself that she is projecting and must feel really inadequate inside.

I apologize all the time and think everyone is mad at me. If something unexpected like they drop coffee on me or break hard when driving or look angry , I think I did something wrong. My soon to be ex husband would drive crazy when he was mad at me and destroy my things or not let me use the bathroom or watch tv to punish me .. I recently separated from my ex and had to apologize all the time . He will would usually accuse me of not being sincere enough and punish me for that. How long does it take to get to get over this? I am finding out most people don't care about the half the **** he would get mad about. I think I itch because I am nervous. I know I annoy people because I apologize too much

Whenever I accuse my husband of being gay (once in a while I think to myself he might be) and I accuse him of it, he gets super angry. He will usually not talk to me for ages after. Is this a normal reaction, or a sign?

5 years and 3 months, is that classifiable as having an 'active sex life'? And if your answer is going to be "for some people blah blah blah:, then please do not contribute to this, as your opinion is not necessary nor wanted. My hypothesis is that every 9.41 days will leave the guy saying he wants a lot more sex, and the girl saying they have sex 'all the time'.

So I live in Texas and I have a baby with a Marine and we are not married. He has a second job, a vehicle, and family that lives nearby but would be able to take the baby as often. I stay home to take care of the baby, I have a vehicle that needs some work, and also family that lives nearby but also a family member who can watch the baby anytime. He s still a newborn if that makes any difference. Which of us would most likely get custody?

My Husband got fired so he applied for 3rd shift job. Anyways we have 3 kid's and 1 on the way. Our kids are 6, 2 and 7 months. He exoects me too keep them quiet while he sleeps (he's not working yet) trying to prepare for the hours, but I can't expect my kid's to be quiet or not cry or babble. He doesn't help much putting them to bed at night or baths feeding changing and expects me to cook clean and do everything. So at night he stays up til 2 am with the tv on knowing I have to get ny 6 year old up at 7. I think he's becoming a jerk. We can't go outside because it's getting to cold and we live in an apartment complex. Also no family near to go visit and I'm working on my licence. He acts mad when he has to help too like cook or clean and thinks because I am a stay at home mom that I have to do everything.

What can he do legally to stop her, I know some states have laws to help the man.

So I'm 28 and got married 2 years ago, my parents got a divorce last year... my dad left and isn't in our lives anymore. I feel so broken and empty without the support system I used to know even though my Mom is incredible. Since then my husbands started treating me worse and worse any little thing and he says your mom must've been the same that's why your dad left. Keeps threatening to leave just like my Dad did. I'm soooo depressed because if he does my mom and I will be two divorced women and no one will want to marry me again because they'll think somethings wrong with us when in reality we both married men with anger issues. Idk what to do I feel like I don't wanna live anymore what's the point?.... I'll probably never have a normal loving family

I am sure there are people here who watch porn and have wife and kids. Is this considered cheating too? I am a highly users on a webcam site AdultFunCams.com and I really enjoy what I do. It's not that I don't love my wife, but when I am on this webcam site I can command these girls what to do and give them some tips and its reallly fun and urges my sex drive. its somthing I cant do with my wife (I sometimes tell them to go masturbate in public for example, I can't do that to my wife you know?) so ... is that bad?

So last year I suffered a panic attack while we were abroad. For me it was difficult being away from home, in strange surroundings and being at the hospital for a few days in a foreign country. Just getting home was difficult for me. Since we have been home I have gotten a few more panic attacks and now I mostly have anxiety but I constantly fear getting an attack. My husband has been amazing, supportive and kind. But I guess that lately his patience is running thin and his frustrations are showing. We had a fight the other day and he slept at a friends place. During the fight he said some hurtful things. He said: "You know I am getting really tired of your first world problems. You suffered a panic attack during our holiday, in a 5 star resort. Since then everything has been about you. We barely have sex, we don't do anything because you are afraid and honestly the best time during my week is when I am not with you. Tell me, what does that say about our marriage? You know I was hoping that being home would cure you of this, show you that you have nothing to fear. But I am reaching my limit. I need time to think". I understand that it is frustrating but I am trying. I know that for some people this sounds ridiculous but I can't help it. I feel like I am stuck. And him telling me these words is like stabbing me in the back. We made a vow. For sickness and in health. Well this is sickness. Where do we go from here?

He drives me insane! Stuff I posted in my mid 20s before I had kids. Stuff i posted drunk I am sure! He looks up all this crap while he is in NYC for "business" at 3am or 4am in NYC. Im not there with him but I know how he is and I guaranty he is drunk and on coke or who knows what else. He texts me while I'm laying in bed with my 4 year old daughter at 2am my time talking about all this crap I answered on yahoo answers 10+ years ago. Texts me and accuses me of cheating on him right now I'm fast asleep and have been since 10pm with my daughter laying next to me. We've already been to a detox center just 2 months ago to get him off of pain pills that he was buying illegally. Now he's in New York City and doing drugs ahaim. And i bet he was at a strip club cheating on me. I caught him before! Not in the act of cheating physically but being at a strip club is cheating if you ask me. Kids* we have 2 I have one from a previous relationship and he has 3 more older kids that don't live with us. He was doing so well. He stopped the pain pills and hadn't done coke in a long while. But every time he drinks too much he he's to do drugs for some freaking reason! Then today, after he woke my up and I couldn't sleep for 4 hours, he acts like he didn't do anything wrong! I doubt I would ever divorce him or leave him because when he's good he is good. And he actually is a good father. I don't get what relevance the questions I asked or answered when i was 24 has anything to do with us or our life or relationship now. I mean come on!!! We were both married to other people, and we barely knew each other then. I wish I hadn't been so dumb to answer so many questions on here with such personal answers, but I did and I can't delete them now. I just had to make 800+ answers anonymous so maybe he can quit looking my schiit up.

Isn't that an immediate red flag or a huge sign that he's a jerk/liar/cheater?

Got no wife no kids no bills. All I do is sleep with women and its so easy to save money. I will retire in a few years at 42. all my dumb friends got to work forever and can only sleep with one person

I used to date another man, he did not want me because of my past. I finally got over it, and married someone else. The other guy decides to pop up every once in awhile. Then I get hurt, because he tells me he doesn't want me because of my past, and he misses me. I get depressed, because I loved him the most. How do I get over him, and be happy with my husband?