Family: Question: Can Trump be personally responsible for negligence in ordering separation of families without a plan for identification and reuniting them?

Question: Can Trump be personally responsible for negligence in ordering separation of families without a plan for identification and reuniting them?

Posted: 08 Jul 2018 02:05 PM PDT

Incarcerating children, neglecting their basic needs, and illegally severing parental custody without any court approval

Question: Is it ok to make fun of your sister for being extremely shy?

Posted: 08 Jul 2018 02:04 PM PDT

Question: Should my mom be doing this with my ex husband?

Posted: 08 Jul 2018 02:01 PM PDT

When I was married to John, my mom thought of him as the son she never had. Mom's favorite thing EVER is to go out to a restaurant for dinner. So once a month we would take her to Sizzler or Golden Corral for a meal which she really enjoyed. I though these "dates" would end with our friendly divorce. I was wrong. For the past year John has been taking mom out to dinner once a month as we used to do. Mom did not tell me about this until recently. She said she knew I was trying to get on with my life without John so she did not want to remind me of him. She said there is one difference now than when we went out to dinner. He takes her to Ruth Chris or Mortons for a steak, her favorite meal. She told me they are the best meals she ever had in her entire life. I checked the prices of these restaurants and they should be great for the prices they charge. Mom gets her hair and nails done before each of these meals and is VERY HAPPY for a long time after each of these meals. I am not sure how I should feel about this. I want mom to be happy and John doing this for her makes her very happy. However he is my ex and if I get married again which I plan to do soon, will it be awkward for him to continue to do this if there is a new husband in the picture for me. Can I ask my mom to not tell anyone that John is doing this for her? Please give me some advice on how to handle this?

Question: Should I tell my stepdaughter how heartbroken I am? Is pretending nothing happened the only option?

Posted: 08 Jul 2018 12:47 PM PDT

My stepdaughter who is 20 confronted my husband about how he was never there for her, makes her feel stupid, and never did anything with her growing up. I have been in her life since she was 8 and I'm blown away because this is all so untrue. She was with us on two weeknights every week when she was a kid. My husband works 60 hours a week and she was with us on his days off. We did pottery painting, went to movies, bowling, mini golf, arcades... we had dinner at the table every night with no TV, just talking. we watched TV on the couch together the three of us. Until she was about 14 and turned into typical teenager and we had to pull her out of her room/off computer just to see her. I remember him asking her every week if the two of them could go out to dinner alone and shed say maybe next week, she was too tired or had plans with friends or homework. I'm feeling absolutely crushed and confused. Her maternal grandfather died recently whom she was very close with so that could have stirred up a lot of emotions. I'm heartbroken about this and angry too. We have provided for everything.. she's at a great university, car insurance, spending money... never a thank you. Then this nasty confrontation where she repeatedly said "it sounds like you're making excuses for yourself" to his every response. What do I do? I feel like I can't even look at her right now. I've spent 12 years doing everything in my power to make her life beautiful and bring her and my husband closer.

Question: How do I tell my parents I'm leaving home with no room for negotiation?

Posted: 08 Jul 2018 12:41 PM PDT

Question: How to Motivate My Brother?

Posted: 08 Jul 2018 12:40 PM PDT

My older brother recently was kicked out of community college due to his GPA. He has held down a job for a month and then quit. He is now 20 and doesn't even have a part time job. My parents are running out of money for him to leech and I am running out of money to give him for food. He's so lazy and it seems no matter how many scoldings he receives from my strict Indian immigrant parents, he doesn't care at all. I always ask him how he plans to support himself when my parents eventually get tired of his BS and kick him out but he never responds. He's very timid around my dad but when he isn't around he'll talk big about how he'll punch my father the next time he yells at him. I then ask, "for what?" How you get kicked out of community college over GPA is beyond me. I honestly don't know what else I can do. He talks about his dreams of being in the army as if he's a child with plenty of time ahead to plan his future. But he isn't, and he doesn't have much time. My parents are literally dying from stressing over him. They sit up all night worried about their son and the embarrassment from the rest of my family if they were to tell the truth to them. He is also extremely obese and doesn't care for hygiene. His bed has dark patches from all the sweat and his rooms smells of oil and musk. It's revolting to sit next to him at times. How do I motivate him to become a better person?

Question: I hosted a party with the family 2 weeks ago and felt disappointed after that I wasn't relaxed. How do I change my perspective on it?

Posted: 08 Jul 2018 11:50 AM PDT

About half of the party was still good. It was 50-50. I am obsessed a lot that it was a let down as I looked forward to it all spring. How do I change my perspective so I can consider it a good day even if it wasn't great? Can half be good when half is just as much bad? Please help

Question: How do I stop having the urge to cry?

Posted: 08 Jul 2018 11:47 AM PDT

I usually have the urge to cry when I deal with stressful situations that require me to communicate and talk with others people. My parents let me stay in a hotel and casino room on my birthday, and I did fine trying not to cry because this isn't what I wanted. I know they have the right to leave me there but it's just that I don't want to spend time in a hotel room while my parents go out and gamble. But on the day on my birthday this old couple went in the hotel room and saw me and told me this is their room but I told them these are our rooms and then this old man kept repeating "this is our room" and whenever he repeated it I started having the urge to cry but then they took a step outside while they let me call my parents and then when I called them i sounded so desperate for them to come here as soon as possible. And then after they left I started crying on the table. one day they left me and my little sister in a room and then after we packed in the morning my mom led us to the this place to sit and wait for her to finish gambling and she told us to stop and wait in the middle of the casino while she went to get something and then this lady employee went up to us and said "hey you where are you going you both are underage you can't be here" and I told her I was waiting for my mom and then she told us "you can't be standing here without an adult" and she stood by us waiting for my mom to come back and when we left to the place I went to the empty restrooms and cried.

Question: Are only children more likely to get away with doing something they shouldn’t?

Posted: 08 Jul 2018 11:40 AM PDT

Especially as nowadays, parents have to work more, especially in single parent households. A person can only keep an eye on so much. If a child is home alone a lot, wouldn't there be more time to do things that are disapproving? Kids will catch on that if nobody is there— nobody will know. There's no siblings who look out for them. My point is that only children can be left alone a lot (especially in lower income, less stable homes). They could go somewhere for two hours while the parents were working and nobody could tell.

Question: How should I deal with newfound family now excluding me?

Posted: 08 Jul 2018 11:35 AM PDT

Several years ago I found my half sister was living in my town, so I contacted her. I never grew up with her, but had met her twice when I was a teenager. I always wondered what happened to her. After contacting her I met her daughter, my niece, and many others in the extended family. I was invited to many family events & it was really nice. Now, several years later I see on Facebook my niece posting about friends & family at certain events I was never invited to. I go ahead & press the like button, but I can't deny that I'm not hurt I wasn't invited. I don't know what I did, but I guess they just all decided they didn't like me. I guess it was really a delusion to think I would fit in since I didn't grow up with my sister. I guess things like this just really don't work out. I wish I wouldn't feel hurt about it though.

Question: Accidentally seen something disturbing and don't know what to do about it?

Posted: 08 Jul 2018 10:52 AM PDT

A few weeks ago, I had gone to my cousin's house for a birthday party and I had to go get something from their kitchen (and no-one was in there). My uncle walked in and I don't think he knew that I was there - he had his pants lowered and I accidentally saw his penis. He walked out so casually with the pants still lowered and still didn't know that I had seen it. I decided to brush it off as an accident and forget it ever happened. However, that was several months ago and yesterday it happened again, twice. I was at their house again watching a movie with my cousins and I was sat alone on a sofa that faces a corridor - he was walking down the corridor with his pants lowered again and I saw it again. This happened twice yesterday. I don't know whether he is trying to intentionally show it to me or just has no clue at all. It's making me feel really uncomfortable and unsafe to be there. I don't know how to talk about it with anyone either as these kinds of topics aren't really discussed in my family. What should I do about this?

Question: My girlfriend used to be an alcoholic, she quit drinking for 3 years, now she's drinking a bottle of wine a night, now what?

Posted: 08 Jul 2018 09:49 AM PDT

In only a month she's gotten drunk 3 times, and we've been getting in these big heated fights that never used to happen when she didn't drink. Now, she's drinking a bottle a night, and last night I just expressed concern for her health out of love, and she totally snapped, hit me, called me every name in the book, said I was a loser, picked apart every little thing wrong and mistake I made. Of course I defended myself, then she was going to throw me out on the streets, and said if I didn't leave she would call 911. She ended up calling 911 by accident, lied about her name, and said everything was ok. Then the cops showed up, and she lied to them saying I wasn't there but I was right there in the other room, and she just told them everything was ok.....but it was nuts man. And on top of that she's trying to get custody for her daughter?! The reason why she doesn't have as much custody in the first place was because she was an unfit drunk. Every morning it's apologies, and then she says she's just going to cut it back to one or two glasses a night!?! Man, I'm on edge, and this is all recently happening within the month, but I'm ready to bail....what should I do?? After 5 years of a good relationship, should I wait another month before I bail to see if it gets better?

Question: I am really confused. Please help me sort this out. THANKS?

Posted: 08 Jul 2018 09:45 AM PDT

I was at a restaurant waiting to be seated when my sister's ex husband Sam walked in. He saw me and came over and give me a hug. We had a brief conversation and he asked me to join him for dinner as his guest. He asked how long it would be before we could be seated and they told him 45 minutes to an hour. He suggested we go someplace where we could be seated sooner. We went across the street to Ruth Chris steak house restaurant. We were seated immediately. When I saw the menu I knew why there was not a wait to be seated. The CHEAPEST item on the menu was $50. Sam saw my discomfort and said ignore the price. Order what you want and I did. It was the BEST meal I ever had in my life. I thought it might be awkward having dinner with my sister's ex husband but it wasn't. We had a great meal, great conversation, and a lot of fun. I really enjoyed it. As we were leaving it just slipped out of my mouth. I said this was a lot of fun, can we do it again some time. He said call me any time. When I got home, Oh My God, I realized what I had done. I had asked him for a date sometime in the future. What was I thinking? Should I tell my sister and ask her if she is OK with it. If not, should I forget the whole thing. She doesn't tell me who she dates so should I tell her who I date. As you can see I am REALLY CONFUSED about what I should do. Please advice me. Thanks.

Question: Is what I told my mother in law true?

Posted: 08 Jul 2018 09:38 AM PDT

I was at my wife's mothers, my mother in law's house and she was showing me her family photo album. It had pictures of her when she was in high school and college and to say she was beautiful would be an under statement. She was gorgeous. I told her I bet she had guys lined up around the block that wanted to date her. She said she had a lot of dates in high school and college but they all wanted to get into her pants. Talking about getting into my mother in laws pants was the LAST thing I wanted to talk about so I told her that is a problem most exceptionally beautiful women have. I think that is true. Anyone know for sure?

Question: Good way to teach children to not be bratty and mean?

Posted: 08 Jul 2018 09:08 AM PDT

About 2 years ago my mom walked out on my family leaving my father and I alone to raise my very young sisters who are 8 and 10 years old. My father is kind of an antisocial racist who think things like games and holidays are pointless. So a lot of the aspect of actually raising my sisters to have good experiences and be good people is on me. I actually don't like kids at all, even before this I didn't. I plan to never have any of my own. Anyway it's summer break and my dad works long days far from home, so we don't get out much and especially not together. Lately it's been hot and it's summer but my sisters have no interest in playing outside so we'e all cooped up in the house hiding from the heat. My sisters have been fighting and making problems. They fight over the tv remote, who is sitting in what chair, they can't even talk to each other without it devolving into bitchy bickering. Alongside that they don't pick up after themselves, they don't go to bed when they're told to, and they take things without asking (like they drank a whole 2 litre of pop this morning without asking if they could have any they have 3 meals a day plus snacks they have no need to take things without asking.) They've also recently been on a stint of stealing things and not doing anything they're told. I'm trying to teach them to grow into kind decent human beings with good manners and spades of empathy, who aren't just lazy, combative, and argumentative. How do I teach them to be better?

Question: I need job advice! Asap?

Posted: 08 Jul 2018 08:53 AM PDT

So my mum is a single mother and is struggling financially. I would really like to help her out so is there any proper jobs me, being a 13 year old girl, can do

Question: Boyfriend has the chance to get a job that travels, but he doesn t want to take it because he thinks I won t go.. Should I travel with him?

Posted: 08 Jul 2018 07:43 AM PDT

Okay, so, me and my boyfriend have been living together for 6 months, and he s an electrician. He has a job opportunity with another company making 25+ an hour, plus travel pay, that would take him to places like Tennessee, Arizona, and North Carolina so far (those are some of the locations if the job sites). I have a gypsy soul. I ve always wanted to travel the world, meet new people, and learn new things. The only thing that concerns me is I have a 4 year old brother that I don t want to miss growing up. My other brother (19) moved to Texas and doesn t communicate with the family at all anymore (except me every other week). Family means a lot to me. I don t want to let them down or miss out on being with them. So should I go travel with my boyfriend and buy an iPad to FaceTime them everyday, and visit every 6 months, or should I stay here and let him take a job that will offer him so much less than he deserves, while also not letting jyself get the experiences I want? Any advice helps. Thanks.

Question: My mom is stressing me out?

Posted: 08 Jul 2018 07:31 AM PDT

i live with my single mom shes legally married though but not in a happy marriage. anyways, my mom was seeing this guy from back home and he told her to come visit him so now we are going to my home country to visit him but he's married! why would she be seeing a married man with kids?! they're muslim but i dont like the idea of 2 wives at the same time. also this is my mom who raised me alone for most of my life, the idea of her becoming a 2nd wife for some guy really bothers me. if she really does stoop low to become a second wife, her image will be ruined for me :/

Question: Is it wrong to find your own sister attractive?

Posted: 08 Jul 2018 07:04 AM PDT

Question: Why are my kids worthless?

Posted: 08 Jul 2018 04:03 AM PDT

They aren't straight so they refuse to give me grandkids. They said even if they were straight they would not have any and they would love to see me upset. I hate them they are 17 I am 55 :'( I hate being a father

Question: What happened? I have no idea what’s going in. Please help.?

Posted: 08 Jul 2018 01:09 AM PDT

It's 12:15am and all of a sudden my brother (3 years old) wakes up goes to the middle of the room amd just starts screaming. If someone would try to grab him. He'd scream louder (this isn't his normal scream either, it's different) and just start hitting, hard and uncontrollably. My dad went up to him to try and calm him down, but my brother just kept hitting, and saying "I don't like". This happened for 30 minuets. We walked away to get him something to drink, and he's just sleeping in my parents bed. When he was screaming, it wasn't him, he wasn't him. My dad tried to pick him up and it was like he was back, he was a little teary eyed, but he just laid on my dads shoulders with his arms between my dad and him he was being caried. We've never seen anything like this.

Question: What if your child has a borderline personality disorder?

Posted: 08 Jul 2018 12:32 AM PDT

What if your child has a borderline personality disorder?

Question: Help! Why does he act like this?

Posted: 08 Jul 2018 12:31 AM PDT

We broke up and when I tried going back(6 months ago) he said he wouldn't forgive me for saying something about his mom when he said something to mine first(idiotic).I didn't chase him. We ran into eachother one day i expected him to ignore but he smiled and said hi.Now he keeps looking at me, making eye contact and i caught him looking at me sneakily through the door crack. He's started coming out about the same time as I do and he said hi hesitantly and smiling. Few Sundays ago I was going down the stairs and he was behind me. He was "on the phone" saying he was leaving church and would call back which wasn't necessary since church was already over. I feel like he did it so I'd know he was behind me. We walked next to eachother he smiled and said how are you. We had a few exchanges and I asked him about his sick brother. The following week he didnt show himself inside church(he's a deacon) as I was leaving he was behind me going down the stairs. I turned around just saw a glimpse of him and turned back around didn't say hi. It was my birthday this Sunday, we kept looking at eachother, he came out at the same time as I was leaving but I got caught up with church members otherwise we'd be gong down the stairs together. I'm assuming he did this because he wanted to talk. Could he be wanting to make a move? Why wouldn't he text me though?

Question: Ok I came back home from a friends house at 3 am from drinking and went to the living room. And my mom is sleeping in her underwear?

Posted: 07 Jul 2018 11:41 PM PDT

Ok I came back home from a friends house at 3 am from drinking and went to the living room. And my mom is sleeping in her underwear on the couch is that weird?

Question: Why is my 21 year old sister so lazy?

Posted: 07 Jul 2018 11:25 PM PDT

She never helps out in like cleaning our apartment, she will ask you to get or pass her anything when she can do it, if my parents ask her to do something she'll get all mad and won't do it, and she has bad body hygiene so she stinks up the restroom even if it's just to do her make up

Question: My boyfriend says once we get married i can move in with him while we save money for an apartment, is that weird?

Posted: 07 Jul 2018 11:11 PM PDT

Since it is his parents house and his sibilings still live their too? They said i can move into my boyfriends bedroom but i feel like the room is tiny and it wont fit most of my stuff. My boyfriend said his mom will make his brother take his things out of the room. (Apparently his mom wanted to talk to my boyfriend about this for some reason today) The only other solution is that they say if his grandmother who lives in the downstairs basement apartment (one bedroom, kitchen, bathroom and living room) ever decides to move in with another daughter (he has like 6 aunts) that my boyfriends mother will give us the apartment and charge us only like $500-$700 in rent which is cheap for NYC (staten island area). Thats if she ever decides to move which i do not think it will ever happen and im glad if she stays their. My boyfriends mothers words according to him. Would this be weird to you? We are already discussing marriage, looking for full time jobs, both have part time for now, i graduated college and my boyfriend wants to go back to school. Both have great credit scores. 25 and 26 years old.

Question: My brother makes me wish I didn't exist.?

Posted: 07 Jul 2018 10:48 PM PDT

My brother is sixteen, and I am fourteen. It's become increasingly frequent that my brother will yell at and insult me for little things. Just tonight, in fact, my grandmother came into the room we were in to look for something. She turned a lamp on that had previously been off to find it, and then left. Once she had gone, I turned the lamp back off because I prefer to have the lights off. I turned the lamp back off, my brother asked me why, and I said it was because I liked it that way. That seemed to make him extremely angry for some reason, because he punched the back of the couch before stomping back over to sit back down. He left the room a moment after that, and when he came back in, the first thing he did was turn the lamp back on. He then proceeded to tell me that "there are other people in this house, so sometimes things aren't going to go your way." Obviously, I'm aware of this fact, however, he will turn on all the lights and open all the windows in the room even though he knows I hate it. I have never once said a word about it, but this ONE time I do the opposite, I've apparently attacked him directly. This spiraled into him cussing me out and insulting me to the point that I hid in the bathroom so that I wouldn't cry in front of him. I will admit that I said my share of rude things, but he keeps putting me ENTIRELY at fault. This is not an isolated event. More and more, I just want to die. I can't continue like this. Someone please, what should I do?

Question: Would you make fun of your sister (16) if she was still afraid of the dark?

Posted: 07 Jul 2018 10:38 PM PDT

Question: I found my biological family what should I do?

Posted: 07 Jul 2018 10:24 PM PDT

My biological father left while my mom was pregnant with me. His family was in the military and they did move a lot but he just left without letting her know before hand. All she had left of him well was me and some pictures. Im 25 years old right now and I found his parents and siblings on social media. I tried contacting his mom but she blocked me. What should I do next I ran a background check and I found out where they work and have addresss, should I write to them or should I contact the rest of his family on social media. I also found out that I have 6 other siblings and he was with all of them and it kinda makes me feel sad because I did not have a father growing up. Any suggestions on what I should do.

Question: Why do my parents turn everything i say into something sexual?

Posted: 07 Jul 2018 10:10 PM PDT

Whenever i say something anything, they turn it into something sexual. I was eating dinner which happened to be fish and my dad called and asked me what i was doing and i said eating fish. He started laughing and saying how i don't need to tell my dad that I'm doing that. My mom chimed in and said well you're the carpet muncher. That same day i was at the gas station with my dad i was picking out a candy bar and i said i like the king size ones, i was gonna say because i like to eat half then save the other half, but i got cut off before that and he said you like king size like your momma. I was disgusted and just walked to the cash register. Just now my dad was here and was talking about my fee,t which are a little dirty from cleaning the floors. I told hm well whatever lick it off. I meant nothing sexual or disgusting by this at all. He started doing that weir laugh chuckle saying no your my daughter that would be weird. These are just a few times this happens, but happens every day and is very uncomfortable and unavoidable. I know i need to leave, but what do they do this??

Question: What do I do my dad doesn’t let’s me do some stuff?

Posted: 07 Jul 2018 09:40 PM PDT

My dad is Hispanic and doesn't let me do many things but I don't mind bc I still do them. Ha:p but it just bugs me that I have to be home early. When I wanna spend time with my boyfriend. My boyfriend asked me to spend the night at his house and I really want to but my dad would even let me do that not even with girls. It's just in general. I'm 18 now and I understand that it's bc I'm still living at his house but damn at least sometimes you know? My parents are constantly fighting I wanna get out sometimes. And about the tattoos. I asked my dad if I could get one when I was like 14 and he said when I turn 18 I asked him when I was 17 and he said no. I asked him again when the day I turned 18 and he said to wait til his January but I don't wanna wait I wanna get it already idk if I should. What should I do EDIT: I can't get a job bc I live far of city limits and my parents won't take me to try to get a job. I didn't do anything to ruin my dads trust I just do small things that are dumb. I can't move out bc I have no money

Question: My Brother Hits My Sister, But My Sister Provokes Him?

Posted: 07 Jul 2018 09:23 PM PDT

I'm the youngest brother, I'm 13. My brother is 17 and my sister is 18. My sister has an aggressive confrontational attitude she'll start arguments with my mom, random people in the streets, mail man, pizza delivery guy, etc. My brother has depression, social anxiety and mild ADHD, hes on meds. He generally wants to be left alone, but he immediately gets physically violent when someone verbally insults him. Never with my mother or me though Example, one day my sister was shaving her legs she took my brother's shirt and used it to clean her legs and wipe the blood from shaving cuts Brother - Can you not use my shirt and besides that shirt is dirty and sweaty, you could get an infection Sister - Ewwww, seriously, you put your dirty laundry on top of the bed, WTF is wrong with you, that's nasty, you're gross as hell Brother - so what, it's my room Sister - What kind of person leaves dirty laundry lying around, you're a nasty bum Brother - Can you please stop Sister - wtf wrong with you, you're a dirty fat bum, oh what you're angry? Go ahead tell me to go f**k myself, do it My brother gets angry and attacks my sister with a serious of punches, sister starts crying, but that won't stop her from provoking my brother next time. In one hand I don't approve of my brother's violent actions, words should never lead to violence, but I don't understand why my sister likes to provoke people, especially my brother knowing he has a short fuse. How do I handle this?

Question: I bought my 8 year old daughter a IPhone 6s Rose Gold. Was it a mistake?

Posted: 07 Jul 2018 08:49 PM PDT

Do you think is too much for an 8 year old? She's very responsible and very polite. Even more than her parents. Sometimes she puts us to shame. I just hope her friends don't start being mean to her because she has a phone this early. Will other parents look at us like we are idiots for giving her a phone this early? I hope the phone doesn't distract her at school. She's a A and B student. I'm getting pernoid right now. Part of me feels like it was a mistake. But she has it now and you know kids. They won't give it back. What do y'all think?

Question: What could be the reason he's doing this?

Posted: 07 Jul 2018 08:40 PM PDT

We broke up and when I tried going back(6 months ago) he said he wouldn't forgive me for saying something about his mom when he said something to mine first(idiotic).I didn't chase him. We ran into eachother one day i expected him to ignore but he smiled and said hi.Now he keeps looking at me, making eye contact and i caught him looking at me sneakily through the door crack. He's started coming out about the same time as I do and he said hi hesitantly and smiling. Few Sundays ago I was going down the stairs and he was behind me. He was "on the phone" saying he was leaving church and would call back which wasn't necessary since church was already over. I feel like he did it so I'd know he was behind me. We walked next to eachother he smiled and said how are you. We had a few exchanges and I asked him about his sick brother. The following week he didnt show himself inside church(he's a deacon) as I was leaving he was behind me going down the stairs. I turned around just saw a glimpse of him and turned back around didn't say hi. It was my birthday this Sunday, we kept looking at eachother, he came out at the same time as I was leaving but I got caught up with church members otherwise we'd be gong down the stairs together. I'm assuming he did this because he wanted to talk. Could he be wanting to make a move? Why wouldn't he text me though?

Question: My dad only lets me go out with friends if I come home early bc I have a a curfew to be home which is 8 pm and doesn’t let me get tattoos?

Posted: 07 Jul 2018 08:34 PM PDT

My dad is Hispanic and doesn't let me do many things but I don't mind bc I still do them. Ha:p but it just bugs me that I have to be home early. When I wanna spend time with my boyfriend. My boyfriend asked me to spend the night at his house and I really want to but my dad would even let me do that not even with girls. It's just in general. I'm 18 now and I understand that it's bc I'm still living at his house but damn at least sometimes you know? My parents are constantly fighting I wanna get out sometimes. And about the tattoos. I asked my dad if I could get one when I was like 14 and he said when I turn 18 I asked him when I was 17 and he said no. I asked him again when the day I turned 18 and he said to wait til his January but I don't wanna wait I wanna get it already idk if I should. What should I do

Question: My sister is a bully. However she is moving to LA and I am scared she will die in an earthquake there. How do I manage this fear?

Posted: 07 Jul 2018 08:02 PM PDT

I don't care myself if she dies in a quake as I would never want that but I can move on easy since I don't like her. However, it is my Mom and Dad I worry about if she dies since they will stop wanting to live life normally. My mother has always said she will die if one of her four kids dies. My life stability still depends on my parents despite me being an adult. How do I manage this fear? I have long heard an earthquake one day, could be tomorrow or in 100 years, will destroy LA and kill most the people there if not all. I am made my sister would be so selfish as to move out there. Like I say I would never wish for her to die in a quake as I do love her, but it is not a big deal to me if the quake does happen. However, my parents I worry about terribly and that is what will destroy me if the quake happens.

Question: What do I do when I accidentally revealed a family secret that shouldn't even be a secret?

Posted: 07 Jul 2018 07:58 PM PDT

My aunt is toxic. She mistreats everyone in the family. She even bullied my mother for having an anxiety disorder and once said "what drug are you on now". She called her niece fat and ugly last summer over a misunderstanding regarding her boyfriend's travel plans. So my Mom and I went to my late grandparents beach house last weekend through the 4th. I saw my aunt's friend this evening at a party on the other side of my family that my Dad and step-mother took me to. She asked if I was going to the beach this summer and I said how we'd been there last weekend. I am now scared this friend who I don't know that well will go tell my aunt that she saw me and how I'd been at the beach. The aunt had reserved the beach for mid-July. She will freak out thinking my Mom is still there. She will then flip and go bully psycho like she does. I am blamed often for giving too much info and I do mess up on that. Here though it was a total accident.

Question: I have an issue with my dad?

Posted: 07 Jul 2018 07:31 PM PDT

So I have 2 stepbrothers and I fell like my dad loves them more then me he always gives them what they need he treats them nicely even tho I don't think they are well behaved On the other hand he treats me like crap and I always feel that im left out and mistreated how to deal with these issues

Question: Grandpa by marriage tries to touch me inappropriately.?

Posted: 07 Jul 2018 07:21 PM PDT

i'm fifteen. my grandma married a man right when i was born, so he's been my 'grandpa' for awhile. about three years ago, my brother and i (my brother is ten) have been taken out of our parents house by dfacs due to them being drug addicts. well, as time passed, my grandpa would walk into the bathroom and try and 'talk to me' (i was 13-14) at the time. and after some uncomfortableness of him touching my chest, i started locking the doors. he stopped for awhile. he began to come into my room to tell me goodnight to which he would always say "let me 'love' you" and by saying that i've learned that he wasn't to touch my breasts. i would always say no and laugh it off as if it were a joke, and he eventually stopped. recently, i've been asking for a puppy and he said 'he'd think about it' (i've never told anyone about him touching me due to me being scared, our adoption isn't over and dfacs could take us out & i LOVE my grandma) our relationship was getting better and i was beginning to trust him again. until tonight, he came into my room and was like "let me love you" and i said "uh uh" and he kept pursuing me, saying he 'just wanted to pinch them' to which i kept saying no. he eventually said 'i'll just get down there' and began to go down to my thigh when i said 'no' and he said something like 'i thought you wanted a puppy' please help me. how do i get him to stop. my grandma loves him.

Question: What should I do about my family? Is there a way we can stop doing this?

Posted: 07 Jul 2018 06:59 PM PDT

I am 25 years old. I am trying to figure this out. I am in a family of 6; including myself. Its my mother, step-father, a 20 yr sister, 17 yr old brother and a 10 yr old brother. We all have different fathers. The youngest one is the kid of my current stepdad. I recently moved out 5 months ago because my mom is a person I cant be around for too long. Anyways, I feel like I love my family. I mean they are the only ones I have ever known, not like I had a choice to lean on anyone else. The problem I am having is I noticed that we cant be in the same room for more than 30 minutes without going at each others throats. We just took a trip to the beach and it was awful. The whole 5 days was just complete torture. The only person I can really tolerate is my sister. Its always been like this though. I tried to fix us, I guess. lol But nothing helps. I notice that we are just miserable around each other. The only time we ve actually been happy is when we all went our separate ways for vacation or our hobbies. It sucks because I feel like a family should be united. Is there something I can do so we can fix this? I mean if I plan on having kids, I don t want my children exposed to my family s toxicity.

Question: I'm feeling extremely overwhelmed with graduating college and my degree choice and future job?

Posted: 07 Jul 2018 06:54 PM PDT

I'm currently studying special education which I love. I've done my field experience in a resource room and I loved it. However, I just took my first certification exam and I feel like I didn't pass. I had really bad test anxiety before the test and there's a 5 limit to taking all tests and passing. I have to take a total of 4 tests. This first test I just took I feel pretty bad about it. The whole thing just gives me really bad testing anxiety along with having to pay $134 for each attempt. I just feel really scared of failing and not being able to pass these tests no matter how much I study. And I feel like i'm going to be lost into a job that's not teaching even though I have the degree and not get paid what I could be getting paid. I just feel lost and anxious about everything I guess what also adds to my nervousness and anxiety is disappointing my family, thinking about all of the money I've spent and have to pay back, and possibly having to explain to people if I weren't to go into teaching since a lot of people know that's what I've been studying

Question: Me and my mom don’t have a bond?

Posted: 07 Jul 2018 06:29 PM PDT

We argue everyday sometimes I hate her she always thinks she's right and never takes what I have to say into consideration she's always grumpy and attitudes sometimes when I'm asking her something she just ignores me we barley have good days and we just finished arguing about me wanting a doctor appointment we moved to a new area and she has to put all the paper work in for the new clinic she's arguing me up and down saying I can try home remedies and there's nothing wrong with me I have been trying them though I've been in pain a whole freaking weak trying them btw I have a yeast infection and I had to tell her that for her to make me a appointment I have no connection with her I don't even feel comfortable talking to her about anything an when I do it's a argument I thought about just not saying anything to her but that didn't work I ended stop being mad and sttarrted talking to her again plus she's my mother and I love her she's just stubborn I'm not going to lie I do talk back and stuff but it's only because she treats me like shi t what should I do life is to short to not appreciate the people I have in my life ...

Question: My family still talks to my grandpa who molested me as a child.?

Posted: 07 Jul 2018 04:53 PM PDT

My grandpa used to come stay with my family when I was a kid and he molested me as a really small child age 3-6 and I told my family when I was 17, yet they still talk to him. I finally moved out and decided to move on with my life at 18(I'm 22 now), but they've invited me on family trips and didn't bother telling me he was there ahead of time, so I don't find out until I show up. My mom says that he's repented and that I need to let it go, but I honestly can't. Do I need to stop talking to my family?

Question: Is this normal parenting?

Posted: 07 Jul 2018 03:26 PM PDT

Hi, I'm 17 years old, turn 18 next year. For awhile I thought the way my mother talked to me and treated me was normal. But my good friend who should remain anonymous said that is not normal, she is very controlling, and has a short temper. I have a job averaging 40 hours a week during summer time (20 when school starts) and I receive no money, even though I work very hard for it. The slightest thing can upset my mother, I was putting my laundry up and she got mad saying that I have to fold my socks a certain way (I lay pairs of socks on top of each other) Some days I come home late from work and want to go to bed and gets upset that I didn't do my chores for that day, even though I was at work. She degrades me almost every day, calling me a piece of ..... a dog, she tells me I'm just like my father. He left when I was 10 and I don't remember much of him. Everything is her way or the highway. I am not allowed to shut my bedroom door, even when I sleep at night. I want to move out when I graduate. My 18th birthday is a few months before graduation but I fear she will kick me out before I can graduate. I just want to know what is up with my mother. I know this is something that I should go to a professional and ask but if my mother finds out she will get angry.

Question: I’m 18, how much freedom do I have?

Posted: 07 Jul 2018 03:24 PM PDT

I'm almost 19 and just graduated highschool this past spring, and I'm unsure about how much more freedom I should have in relation to my parents (who are seperated but I still live with in segments). Both my parents have been awesome about giving me freedom and space to do what I want (within reason). I'm just curious as to what privileges I have now as a new adult. I'm pretty independent and I pay my own phone bill, car insurance, etc. Perhaps no more curfew so I don't have to worry about my parents getting mad if I don't come home until very late. I know everyone's situation is different but I'd appreciate some input.

Question: My Dad does not know how to have empathy on his adult children. Is this normal once a child becomes an adult?

Posted: 07 Jul 2018 03:05 PM PDT

Question: Dad is an alcoholic and my friends parents wont let them come over. How do I stop being so alone?

Posted: 07 Jul 2018 03:04 PM PDT

Question: How do I tell my bigoted family that being gay is okay?

Posted: 07 Jul 2018 02:20 PM PDT

They told me that I couldn't go to pride because supporting them is "wrong"and I don't believe that it's wrong. Last year my mom almost let me to go Brighton and as soon as she found out what it was for she banned me from leaving and it really annoyed me because I never got to go to pride. I'm from the UK! I had previously brought train tickets and booked a hotel room which I gave to dad.