Family: Question: Mom is pressuring me with Islam (im atheist), what to do?

Question: Mom is pressuring me with Islam (im atheist), what to do?

Posted: 24 Jul 2018 02:51 PM PDT

It feel like she controls every aspect of my life, I can't leave home until I've married, and I have to marry a very religious muslim, and when i have kids the most important part of their upbringing is teaching them islam. It's like prison! I can't escape her and all her demands, and she's realized that I tend to go against some of her values as I'm good with my arguments and instead of discussing with me she makes me feel bad about "treating her badly" it's almost like emotional blackmailing? She had a messy divorce with my dad and my older sister left her after a huge fight a few years back and now if I ever do something selfish (especially go against islam!!) she'll blame me more than she blamed those two. That's at least what she tells me. We have lots of other problems too with her wanting me to spends all my money on her dreams and (her words) "sometimes give up on selfish ideas and listen to what your mother wants" Back in 2015 when I did tell her I was an atheist she took it really calmly cause she thought it was just a phase, that summer day in and day out i had to read the quran, talk with a sheikh weekly, watch documentaries etc. until i got tired of it all and said i was a muslim again four months later.What should I do? im super scared to talk to her about all of this (again) since I don't know how i'll face her. I just need some advice.

Question: Why are my kids so spolied? No I do not spoil them! I do not let them drive, have friends, eat alot or have a phone?

Posted: 24 Jul 2018 02:17 PM PDT

They are 17 and refuse to get a job because I will not teach them to drive, give them their ssn's or get them an ID. They refuse to walk 16 miles a day(9 to get a job and 9 back) or they refuse to walk 30 miles to public transportation. I only allow them to eat twice a day and I have had both homeschooled for 9 years

Question: Hello now what do I do?

Posted: 24 Jul 2018 01:29 PM PDT

Question: My parents are drunks, should I call CPS even though I am 16?

Posted: 24 Jul 2018 01:27 PM PDT

Question: Why did my father say this?

Posted: 24 Jul 2018 01:24 PM PDT

"When I go away I'll be put in an institution. That place is for people who get angry fast or who are violent. They'll put you there with 3 other mad-azz. " Anyone who throws a single loving look at me, knows I'm not bad or violent, I never did one bad thing. Why would you say this about me.

Question: I feel empty to the point where I feel worthless. It's difficult. Where do I go from this point?

Posted: 24 Jul 2018 01:08 PM PDT

I'm in my 20s but I have few positive things and few people who genuinely care. My mother is resentful that having me meant fewer social activities - like holidays with friends - and a lesser career. I don't have too much to be happy about. It's crushing. It's sad but I feel most people are cold. Life is anything but enjoyable. It hurts because I'm kind and respectful to everyone.

Question: Depression returning after an in-law abandoned me?

Posted: 24 Jul 2018 01:00 PM PDT

Got married 5 months ago to a great man. His family loves me, except for his little sister. Months ago, we lived with his family (financial reasons) until his sister started a huge fight with me and we had to move in with my family. Her TV was too loud and I work early, so I asked her to please turn the TV down a little bit so I could sleep, but she took great offense to that as if I banned her from ever using it. She says I told her what to do in her own house, even though her parents own it. Since that night months ago, she's treated me hatefully. Her last words to me were "don't you ever f*****g talk to me again!" She then broke a glass door on the china cabinet that her parents promised to give my husband and I as a wedding gift when we get our first place together. She still looks at me like I'm evil and says that she'll never apologize to us and that I started this fight. The rest of his family says they side with me and know that the little sister has a history of instability and violent outbursts but I worry they will side with her eventually because she's manipulative. My husband has recently deleted her on Facebook and refuses to see her until she apologizes to us because he's hurt deeply, so now she says I stole him away from her. I have abandonment issues and had deep depression before and I think I'm relapsing. I know I did nothing wrong by asking her to turn her TV volume down a bit when I need sleep but I feel worthless despite my husband's reassurance. Advice?

Question: I was just kicked out. What do I do now ?

Posted: 24 Jul 2018 12:58 PM PDT

I'm 24 years old and was just kicked out. Long story short I have 4k saved up. I do not have any pay stubs and have been in my car since last night. Where do I go ? How can I get an apartment ?

Question: My father is alcoholic and the family staged an intervention and it failed. Am I wrong to still speak to my Dad?

Posted: 24 Jul 2018 12:58 PM PDT

My sisters no longer speak to him (he was already divorced). His siblings no longer do either. Both refuse to speak to him due to his drinking. I am the only one, along with my son, who still do. Am I wrong? I don't see him a lot as I want to protect my 11 year old son. But I see him about once a month and make it optional for my son though he chooses to come most the time. We leave early if he is drunk.

Question: My Mom just revealed to me I am adopted. I am shocked and scared. I am 22. I knew my birthmother and never knew I was her son, what do I do?

Posted: 24 Jul 2018 12:55 PM PDT

My Mom's cousin was my birthmother. She was a felon, drug addict, schizophrenic, and her partner was a pedophile. So I was adopted by my Mom. I'd be fine with it had I known. This cousin of hers committed suicide last week as she was convinced the government was after her and going to force her onto a space ship of some time and kill her. So she set herself on fire outside the local government center and then shot herself to death. It is frightening. She was sick and I am wondering how to deal with learning this after the funeral yesterday. I just knew her as Mom's wacky cousin who we saw every other year at a reunion. I had no idea she was Mommy. I feel so guilty cause I was never close to her and would have been if I knew she was my mother biologically. The real father meanwhile is a serial pedophile who is serving 60 years to life and has been in jail since 2001. I have no desire to meet him and yet feel guilty I have a real Dad alive who I've never met. My Mom never married so I have never had a Dad and was just told my real father was from overseas and died in a war and that he had no family. I believed that. No idea who the man in the photo was I was shown. I am not mad at my adopted Mom but just scared and confused. I feel I betrayed my real mother and even my real father even though he is evil.

Question: What do I do about my cousin?

Posted: 24 Jul 2018 12:46 PM PDT

So, let me start off by saying I'm not looking for some stupid answers. I need real answers!! So for a while now my cousin has been peer pressuring me into smoking weed and drinking I am ashamed, but she was supposed to be my older cousin, there to be a friend, not a drug pusher. I finally got the guts to tell my nana about my crazy a** cousin. She was so mad. She told my mom. My mom decided to call things off with her and stop talking to her. Or so I thought. Recently, she has been going over there to her house giving her money!! My cousin has apparently been smoking weed since she was 14. She even had the audacity to demand all of the stuff she "got me" back (which my mom agreed to pay her $1000 for!!) wtf. All of my stuff over there, she is stealing and not giving back. She even has my dads $800 gun. She has my $50 Auburn bag which she refuses to give back "to teach me a lesson".

Question: My Dad is always lying. How do I give up on expecting anything from him?

Posted: 24 Jul 2018 12:45 PM PDT

Question: I hate my life?

Posted: 24 Jul 2018 12:39 PM PDT

I'm a 19 yr old girl, this summer i've felt so much anxiety and I literally don't know why. I feel like my body is losing it's power and i'm never in the mood to do anything I work almost everyday for 8hours taking care of elderly people and then I just go home feeling like i'm doing nothing with my life. I have many friends but I just feel like nothing is fun anymore so I would just rather stay home and it's scaring me how i'm looking at my life and not able to change how i'm looking at it. My dad and mom are seperated and both alcaholics, my dad and his family never talks to me. I only have my mom who drinks all the time and my sister who has a family now and lives few towns away:( I'm also always getting heartbroken by guys they always end up ghosting me, I try to get over a guy by talking to another who just ends up breaking me. My self esteem has gotten really low and I just feel like a whore because I given so many guys a chance and then they just leave so the number keeps getting highter and i just don't trust boys anymore I feel like im worth nothing?

Question: I feel depressed as an adult and ashamed of myself?

Posted: 24 Jul 2018 12:11 PM PDT

My parent moved 6 hours away from my hometown to be with the person they met online. My parent sold out old home so they could buy a new home in a new area. My parent did that, but ran out of money because they didn't look for a job. I looked for a job but no one hired me as the area is poor and there isn't much available.We got evicted and we're not living in a home funded by a charity. Although I'm grateful it is a dump. My parent married the person they met online but they're spouse doesn't feel ready to live with them so they live apart. It's been 2 years now. My parent goes to their spouses house after work so I see them one time a week. I feel alone and depressed. I have no friends and family. A year after we moved I got a place at college in my hometown so I live there most of the year but stay with my parent for the summer. I'm looking for a job but no luck. I feel like such a failure, I'm 21 and I have no friends and I feel let down by my parent. Is it okay to feel like this or pathetic? i don't know what to do. I only have 1 parent and no friends I feel like an embarrassment for my age. Sorry about my spelling LOL

Question: Should I move away?

Posted: 24 Jul 2018 11:55 AM PDT

I feel like a slave taking care of my parents. I've called work and tell them I can't make it because I have to take care of them. My paychecks at times are small that I end up having breakdowns cause of my own bills. I have to stop and go to the restroom and cry due to stress. I hate when they tell me "you can't do anything right" My sister and brother don't help whatsoever. I told several friends about my situation and they all say I should just move and separate myself from my family. Let my sister and brother take care of them. I know to each their own, but I would rather die than have to put a burden on any of my future kids. I feel bad for saying this, but I needed to vent again. My parents don't know how I feel because they both didn't take care of their own parents.

Question: Crazy cousin?

Posted: 24 Jul 2018 11:43 AM PDT

What do you do when You have a crazy cousin who illegally smokes weed and forced me to and to drink, and when I told my grandmother and my mom she decided to be childish and take all of the stuff she got me (that my mom is giving her $1000 for) and she also stole all of my stuff that's was over there? What do I do in this predicament?

Question: Should I punish my child?

Posted: 24 Jul 2018 11:39 AM PDT

My 17 year old daughter turns 18 next month, she's also graduated from high school. Last night she told me that she was going to stay at her friends house but she really stayed with this boy she used to date for awhile. She never has done anything to betray my trust before so I was in shock. This morning I had suspicions that I tried to push away because I told myself she is almost an adult and is responsible. I checked anyways and she was at his house. He is 19 and graduated one year before her, we used to like the guy a lot but he broke up with her awhile back and they've recently came back into contact with each other. I called her when I saw where she was and I said what are you doing? She said "on my way home" when I asked from where she didn't lie to me she told me the truth. She didn't try to hide anything or lie when I asked her she just admitted it and said she has no excuse and is sorry. I am conflicted on what to do because she is almost 18, but she has always known she was never allowed to stay at a boys house. What should I do?

Question: My 17 year old sister doesnt know anything and fails at everything she does. Why is she so dumb?

Posted: 24 Jul 2018 10:27 AM PDT

Question: My Dad gets mad at me when I am anxious (I have OCD). Is this fair?

Posted: 24 Jul 2018 08:59 AM PDT

Question: Sono una ragazza di 14 anni, musulmana, che per colpa dei suoi genitori sta passando un inferno.?

Posted: 24 Jul 2018 08:50 AM PDT

Question: What do you think is wrong?

Posted: 24 Jul 2018 08:45 AM PDT

Does this mean I'm emotionally drained by my partner? The second date of our new relationship I felt tired at the end of the date. We didn't do anything crazy but I felt exhausted after an hour of hanging out and I looked forward to the whole weekend to myself. I felt like I needed the whole week to recuperate. I looked forward to hanging out and had butterflies in my stomach that overwhelmed me. Usually after hanging out for an hour I felt totally exhausted like I needed a break from them. We text all day every day. I'm always thinking about her. After we dated for two months I don't really look forward to hanging out with her. We arrange dates which I felt passionate for at the time but once the day comes I don't want to hangout. I just want time for myself and when I sometimes cancel I feel like I can breathe again. I also have high expectations of her and she has disappointed me more than once. I feel like she doesn't deserve to date me. The thing is I always felt this exhaustion since the second date. Is there something wrong with me to always feel exhausted since the beginning of the relationship? Is it a sign that I settled or I didn't like her that much or something?

Question: I think I’m stuck forever, what should I do?

Posted: 24 Jul 2018 08:43 AM PDT

I'm stuck in a situation I don't want to be stuck in. My family and I have been very close and we will always be close. I love my family it is only my brother mother and I. Our other family members are so evil. We've been through a lot. IM 26 years old and I feel like I'm stuck. The light and gas bill is in my name. My mother is in section 8. And our names are on the lease. I have the opportunity to move out and have my own apartment but I can't. If I do my mother is going to be in trouble. Her section eight voucher will go down and she won't be able to pay the rent. I feel like I can't live my own life. I'm tired of having my brothers bedroom right next to mine door to door... my brother is 30yrs old. I'm tired of hearing my mother's mouth every morning. It puts me in a Great Depression. My mother is so needy, it's like she can't do things on her own. My father was never around, her boyfriend was randomly killed. And she's by herself. I'm 26yrs old, I should be having my own apartment and traveling and enjoying my life. I'm truly not. I feel like I'm just exsisting in the world. I'm embarrassed to date because the type of man I want is the same women I want to be...how can I date a man that has his own if I'm stuck. I don't know what to do.

Question: How do I commemorate the 23rd anniversary of my family's funeral?

Posted: 24 Jul 2018 08:39 AM PDT

They died July 13th but the funeral was Monday, July 24, 1995. My Dad and I survived the crash as we were in another car. I was 11 at the time. I think about it more today, the funeral anniversary, then the day of the death. I remember him holding me tight throughout the day of the funeral and the next day my grandmother having me for the day and taking me around town and people stopping me to give me a hug. My Dad and his father went somewhere for the day.

Question: How do I get my Mom to stop punishing me for my Dad's drinking and his families issues?

Posted: 24 Jul 2018 07:58 AM PDT

She punishes me by banning me from seeing him instead of penalizing him. She also punishes me with all the gossip about him.

Question: Ideas how to bribe parents to not take car, phone, and computer?

Posted: 24 Jul 2018 07:55 AM PDT

I am an underage female, my stepdad recently found some alcohol in my room. He has given me the chance to offer a bribe monetary or not, to convince him not to take my phone, keys, and computer. I am currently in summer college classes 3 online, and 2 on Campus. One campus is 20 minutes away from my house, and the other is 45. If I don't have my car, I can't get to class, and I can't get to work either. If my phone is taken away, I can't contact anyone about getting a ride if I have my phone taken away. One of my classes is an English comp class, and we have to have some way to open and work on our document when we are in class, so I take my computer with me. I already pay $150 a month for insurance and $50 in gas once a week. I thought of offering to pay my portion of the phone bill. Im at a loss to what else to offer. My stepdad is the average Military veteran. Hard headed and hard to get along with. Its either his way or the highway. I can't just not come up with something.

Question: Is it normal for guys to do this?

Posted: 24 Jul 2018 07:01 AM PDT

I am a high school girl that has chores that help out my mom. One of my chores is to wash the clothes and sheets from the beds. I noticed the sheets from my little brother's bed were sticky when I washed them. They kept getting more sticky each week. I asked him how come they were sticky and he denied they were. I finally got tired of washing his sticky sheets and demanded he show me how they were getting sticky. Gals, YOU WILL NOT BELIEVE WHAT HE DID. I asked him if that hurt. He said no. It feels pretty good. Is it normal for guys to do that? It sure messes up his sheets. Should I tell him if he does not stop doing that, he will have to wash his own sheets.

Question: Why does this make my cousin so mad when I call him 25 years old?

Posted: 24 Jul 2018 06:56 AM PDT

My cousin is 21 but I like to call him 25 and 30 years old sometimes(I am 38) why does this make him so angry and pissed off? He'll scream I'm not 25 or 30 you ******* **** over and over just because I say it to him all day

Question: My coworker asked for $20 in gas money when we live in the same apartment complex, is that too much?

Posted: 24 Jul 2018 06:29 AM PDT

I offered her originally and she said its unnecessary since she would be hoping hat way anyway since she works with me. The other day she was at the gas station and I said I would give her gas money. Now, she straight up asked for $20.

Question: My dad won’t let me go to the beach with my friend and his family because of safety reasons and that I’m still a minor?

Posted: 24 Jul 2018 06:26 AM PDT

My dad won't let me go to the beach with my friend and his family because of safety reasons and that I'm a still a minor. I really want to go to the beach so bad and told him to at least think about it but he didn't. I'm 15 years old and about to turn 16 in October. How can I have him let me go to the beach next summer and would he let me go at the age of 16.

Question: Is it islamically not right to slap or shout at my children (who r 2.5 years old)?

Posted: 24 Jul 2018 06:25 AM PDT

Question: My Dad is always giving me money but he won't give me any emotional support. How do I get him to give that?

Posted: 24 Jul 2018 06:18 AM PDT

He gets disgusted that I am not always relaxed like him but is always wanting to pay me for stuff. He gets disgusted that I am good to the extended family he doesn't like, but he insists on reimbursing me any costs for it. He was disgusted when I hosted a reunion last summer, but wanted to pay me for it. How do I get him to give emotional support rather then hundreds of dollars? He has so much money he doesn't know what to do with it I guess. He is busy kissing my step-mother's *** and her mother who they both fear so I do the outreach to his family that he neglects. He was notorious for neglecting his mother and other elders so I did the outreach (they have died now). He has always had a child like fear of his 2nd wife and her mother. Her mother is perfectly nice but they fear her to the core of their bones because she is easily annoyed.

Question: How do I avoid my mother using me as a pawn in her disputes with family?

Posted: 24 Jul 2018 06:09 AM PDT

She uses me as a pawn by making it difficult as possible in the family schedule for me to see her enemies. Like last year she made my sister schedule her wedding the same day as a cousin whose parents my Mom hates so I would have to miss that cousins wedding. My Dad died but she still hates his family (she had divorced him) and resents me ever seeing them. She schedules her Christmas to make it difficult for me to see my late father's family. It is a real stress trigger.

Question: How to deal with controlling parents as an adult?

Posted: 24 Jul 2018 05:37 AM PDT

I've been controlled my whole life I finally moved out in June at 35.... My dad came over for the first time Saturday and my Mom asked him how he liked my apartment.. He said "It's nice, if she wants to separate herself from us"... I'm just tired of the constant guilt trips. My dad and Mom also don't accept my relationship with my boyfriend because we are 27 years apart... And tells me to go out and meet people, even though I've been dating my boyfriend for almost 2 years. Why can't I just be happy?

Question: Should I forgive my boyfriend of 2 years for messaging other girls?

Posted: 24 Jul 2018 05:15 AM PDT

So my boyfriend and I have been together for over 2 years. We have twin girls that are turning a year old this Saturday and I'm also pregnant with our third child...due next month. Crazy I know. I recently went into his Instagram messages and noticed some sext type messages him and another girl sent to each other back in January (we were very much together and living together) These messages were pretty nasty and there were even a couple dirty pics shared. They never actually met up. I am shocked that he would do that to me! Then from last month in June at 2 a.m. he exchanged a couple messages with a different girl asking if he could take the 40 minute drive to her place to "chill". She said she couldn't because she lives with her parents so he never went. He swears he never did anything with anyone but how can I trust him now?! And a third baby on the way and I have no license or car and I'm barely working so I can't afford to live on my own. He apologized and admits he screwed up but swears he never did anything with anyone and was only messaging bullshit*t but did

Question: How do I become the complete support for my son in this difficult situation for both of us?

Posted: 24 Jul 2018 05:08 AM PDT

My son became from a really good boy to a complete stranger. He wouldn't talk like before and he basically burst in anger, but never was disrespectful to me.or my husband. We tried everything, from psychologist, therapists, but he wouldn't open up. The last option was that his psychologists refered him to a psychiatrist and get him some time in a Mental Hospital. At first I wasn't sure, had a couple of conversations with the psychiatrist and finally decided that maybe this was the best. My boy didn't want to open up with anyone, but he did with the psychiatrist. Turns out my son was raped by a stranger, another man. I feel like a failure for not.being able to protect him, he's a mess and I am too. How can I be strong for him when I am basically breaking just to see him? What can I say or do if I feel like a damn failure? His father my ex husband teaches him MMA since he was a kid and still he couldn't fight back, he said that his body froze and his brain fail to work at the moment, he said to me that he felt like he was in a nightmare where he couldn't move. I thought this would never happened to my kid and it did. How do I be supportive?

Question: My sister gossips non stop. How do I avoid falling victim to her gossip?

Posted: 24 Jul 2018 04:06 AM PDT

She even insulted her autistic nephew and refused to come to Christmas dinner last year cause he was there.

Question: How do I get my Mom to stop punishing me for my Dad's drinking and his families issues?

Posted: 24 Jul 2018 04:04 AM PDT

She punishes me by banning me from seeing him instead of penalizing him. She also punishes me with all the gossip about him. Kevin K. -- Your answer is not true and sucks. However, to get 3 points I have to give you best answer. She is not protecting me, she is using me as a weapon.

Question: Mum wont let me stay at my dads?

Posted: 24 Jul 2018 04:00 AM PDT

I'm scared to tell her that i want to permanently stay with my dad as her and my sister are always arguing with me. I've told my dad to pick me up today but i dont know how to tell her because i'll know she'll scream at me and probably lock the doors, i'm 18 btw so she's not allowed to stop me from leaving but i don't want to get police involved or cause a big argument, what should i do

Question: Where and how to run away in a city. Where to stay, get money, and look like a normal citizen at the same time.?

Posted: 24 Jul 2018 12:58 AM PDT

I'll try not giving lots of personal info. Alright now we live in America and my dad doesn't like this place but we lived here for 5 years. Sometimes when he gets angry at any of family members he mentions goomg back to our country and restart everything. I still have time until I'm 17 so I can go to army so he doesn't get me :) But til that time I want to prepare for the worst and make a guide of where to go and what to do in any situations. We live in a big city that is active at any time, We also live in a place where nothing is too far. It might be a situation where I have to money. Phone is not a problem because I can charge it in Apple Stores. So how do I run away and look like a normal person. Plz help cuz I have friends, and lots of plans for future here. Thank you :)

Question: My parents are divorced and my dad is dating someone else. I'm 16 and I need advice on how to deal with this?

Posted: 24 Jul 2018 12:44 AM PDT

So, this is a long story, but basically, my dad left in April of 2017 after he and my mom and sister got into a massive argument. He's been renting a room at a house in a town about 20 minutes away, and I've ben seeing him for a couple of hours about once a week (usually we go to dinner or something) for about 16 months ever since then. He's been making preparations to move to Denver, Colorado for the past couple of months, since the particular profession he has offers significantly better pay and better working conditions up there. Apparently, ever since my dad moved into the room that he's been renting, he's been dating the lady who has rented him the room, and they've now moved up to Denver together. I was supposed to live with him in Denver for a little while each month, and I'm honestly really uncomfortable thinking that my father is dating someone else whom I've never even met. I really would feel uncomfortable staying with my dad when a lady I don't know is also living there. I'm really upset with my dad for keeping it from me for so long, and I feel really uncomfortable with the entire situation, and I hate thinking about it. My dad hasn't even confronted me directly about it. I found out through my mom. I go to a therapist regularly, and I've been talking it through with her, but I am incredibly uncomfortable and I don't know what to think about any of this. I really need help, preferably advice from somebody who has been in a position similar to mine before.

Question: Did my brother overreact?

Posted: 24 Jul 2018 12:40 AM PDT

Hey, So, I'm a 26 yr old female and I live with my older brother. But he's currently staying out of town because he has to work, so I'm home all by myself with my 2 animals. Anyway, today I stayed home all day and this random stranger (male) with a dog rang my doorbell 3 times. He rang it once this morning, then again in the evening sometime, and then again at 9 o'clock at night. I didn't answer the door because I have no idea who he is and it seems kinda strange to me that he'd keep coming back when he can clearly see that there's NO car in our driveway or anywhere near it. After the 3rd time, I finally called my brother and told him about it because it was giving me anxiety. He got really upset (basically cussed me out) that I didn't tell him about it sooner, and he was saying that the guy's a predator and whatnot, and he called up one of his friends to come and pick me up, so I can spend the night at their house. Did my brother overreact or was he right to have his friend come get me? Thanks! :) Oops, I accidentally posted this twice. Sorry. Yeah, but if he thought the dog was mine, wouldn't he have left a note? There was no note. I checked. @Merlin- Yeah, but he really cussed me out about it. Like, yelling at me over the phone that I should've told him sooner and he was saying "What the f**" k is with you!?! "...So he obviously thought it was a big deal, as well

Question: What happens if a woman is about to have birth but doesn't go to the hospital?

Posted: 24 Jul 2018 12:04 AM PDT

Like if her water breaks and the mom decides to not go to the hospital? Will her and the baby both die?

Question: Is he not interested if he's not making a move?

Posted: 23 Jul 2018 11:43 PM PDT

We broke up about a year ago because we were fighting and arguing and his tense family circumstances didn't help as his brother was diagnosed with kidney failure. During the fight he said i didn't know how to treat a man because my parents were divorced and i hadn't seen a loving relationship like his parents. I then went on to say that his mom had no voice in their household. He attacked back saying "at least she didn't come to church dressed in club attire, arms and legs showing" I then responded which I shouldn't have "your mom looked like she came from the stable, you never buy her new clothes." Fast forward two months I saw him staring at me in church so I texted him but he said he would never forgive me and wouldn't allow himself to have feelings for me again because of what i said about his mom. I didn't respond. Every Sunday in church he'd keep staring at me but I gave him cold looks and avoided his looks. He started smiling and talked to me as I went down the stairs saying hi how are you. Recently I've been warm to him looking at him and smiling. I texted him the other day and this how the conversation went. I asked about his brother then he asked me about school and when I get acceptance letters. This was last Sunday, yesterday I was going down the stairs he was a bit behind I"m wondering why he didn't catch up to me and talk to me. Could he be too scared?

Question: I'm 27 yrs old and currently living at home in my parent's nest and lack private and social life and wanted to move to a different city.?

Posted: 23 Jul 2018 09:47 PM PDT

Question: How to deal with father who you are NOT dependent on or live with to stop accusing you of disrespect (off of silly things)?

Posted: 23 Jul 2018 09:47 PM PDT

Question: Why does my sister keep annoying me about what I work out in?

Posted: 23 Jul 2018 09:40 PM PDT

Me and my sister work out at the gym together often. The other day we were both in the locker area, changing into our gym attire. I usually wear leggings with a sports bra and a tank top on top. My sister wears the same thing, but just no tank top, bare belly. When she saw me put my tank top on, she started yapping on about how I have no confidence and that I need to take pride in my body. I just scoffed and rolled my eyes and tried to walk past her, but she stopped me and started going on about self-esteem. I just wanted to end this conversation and work out, so I yelled "fine! Have it your way!". I pulled my tank top up and wrapped it into a knot, so that my midriff was showing. I was in a bad mood for the rest of the night, and I just tried not to talk to her. She does this emotional harassment to me a lot, and I don't know why. What I wear shouldn't concern her, if I'm happy with it and she's not getting harmed by it

Question: Should I feel bad?

Posted: 23 Jul 2018 09:35 PM PDT

So today my step father got hit by a car and was bleeding and stuff but honestly I don't think I should feel bad for him. He would physically and verbally abuse my mom not so much physically now but definitely verbally a couple weeks ago he was cussing her out because she's decided to switch her order in a fast food place and he wasn't quiet about it at all. These past few weeks it wasnt too bad but I don't forgive him so any of it he even yells at us saying he'll come and puch us or something if we don't do something. But what do you think is it's karma and should I even feel bad?

Question: Am I being unreasonable?

Posted: 23 Jul 2018 09:26 PM PDT

I taught my daughter how to shave her legs ever since she first started growing leg hair at around age 12. She said she wasn't interested in removing it. I was fine with that since she was still a kid. But now she is 15 and is starting to look like a woman. It is so embarrassing to go out in public with her when she wears shorts or skirts and her leg hair is visible. We get so many weird stares. I've even had one of my friends tell me "EWW! Why don't you make her shave it?". Trust me, I tried. But she doesn't want to. Well my sister is getting married next week and my daughter is going to be a bridesmaid and the dress she will wear is knee length. I told my daughter she has to shave or wear nude tights underneath if she won't shave. She said NO. I told her she cannot come to the wedding if she doesn't shave. She started throwing a tantrum and saying I'm the worst mom ever, and that i don't love her for who she is, and that I'm so shallow. That's not true. I do love her. But we live in a shallow world and nobody takes a hairy woman seriously. I didn't make up the rules. Well now she refuses to talk to me, but she called my sister behind my back and asked her if she can still attend the wedding with her hairy legs and my sister said YES. I told my daughter she is grounded and can't go, but she said I can't stop her and will go anyway. I am so upset at her, but she is so upset at me too and I feel bad that she thinks I'm such a monster. Am I being unreasonable?

Question: How can I convince my 17 year old sister to not move with her boyfriend???

Posted: 23 Jul 2018 09:26 PM PDT

I'm 27 and my sister is 17, our parents are out of our lives and she's been living and taking care of our grandma, unfortunately, she's just getting too old and needs more supervision especially since my sister works 12 hr shifts. She's been using her own money to pay some of our grandmas bills which I do think is a very mature thing of her to do. She definitely doesn't act like a child. She still has 8 more months until she's 18 and she wants to go live with her 18 year old boyfriend. Legal age of consent in her state is 16. I'm afraid she'll get knocked up or something. They're both good kids, I tried to be the cool sister and offer alcohol when they were over but both of them were disgusted. I know they are both innocent and not party kids but I'm just worried. I think she would be better in foster care or staying with our aunt. She's doing great financially at her age but I'm afraid of her settling too soon. I feel like she's just trying to finally have a place to call home after the pain our parents caused us. How can I encourage her to not live with him???

Question: Should I miss work my mother and brother fought?

Posted: 23 Jul 2018 08:57 PM PDT

So today my brother (he's 24) fought my mom and sort of my dad. It all started when my mom asked my brother could he take her to work tomorrow morning . He said yes but he needs gas money because he wasn't going that way. My mom got angry and said something like "all I have done for you ungrateful kids and you ask me for gas money?" Then they started arguing and somehow my mom started grabbing on my brother and then my brother slapped her. So she grabbed a glass bottle and threw it my brother. When I heard the bottle I ran out of my room. Tried to break it up but then my old father tried to hit my brother too. My mom was crying and my bro left the house. He said something like "I dont need this sht fck this family" I texted him but nothing Im supposed to be going to work soon and my other bro (he's 26) that wasn't at home at the time is taking me but Im thinking about not going. Saying I had a family issue. I'm just worried about my mom and brother? I'm 20 btw

Question: How can I get help for my little brother?

Posted: 23 Jul 2018 08:04 PM PDT

Now normally on this website I know how to respond to questions like this but my little brothers crazy! He's always getting into constant fights and has a criminal personality. He robs stores hangs out with the wrong kids all the time. He has had domestic violent altracations at home but mostly with my parents he has hit my mom in the back with a wooden stick because he refused to do homework and has thrown a Music CD album at my dads forehead which caused it to bleed. I've tried everything you can think of. When he's around me he's a totally different person. Me and him get along with each other and play video games and go to the gym with each other. But when I'm not around all he does is torment my parents. He dropped out of school at 17. I'm at a loss as what to do with him! Please help!

Question: My parents don’t understand how badly i want my licenses?

Posted: 23 Jul 2018 07:49 PM PDT

17, I moved schools when I was in 4 th grade to boarding school i'm in now. I have dyslexia and I sometimes can't process fast enough in school in public.. I got into mild accident and ever since then I gotten better at driving. I felt so confident and so comfortable behind the wheel. my dad always yells at me and tells me that I can't drive when I do the best I can and he doesn't credit me. I have two more lessons until I get my licenses. considering I got my permit lot more later than all my friends, I felt so insecure and stupid. I tell everyone I have my licenses so I can " fit" in, and not feel the odd one out. I want to drive and get my licenses because i've gotten so confident, but my dad yells st me and puts me down. my mom doesn't let me drive her car bc here is a Mercedes-Benz sport so it's faster. I drive with her friend which is the reason why I gotten better. everyone has there licenses and I feel like so odd. I spend my whole life feeling like the special need kid, and not enough. driving is the only thing that I feel fit in. I tried to drive w my dad and he screamed at me told me to wait and not get my licenses. i'm tried of feeling like this. no one doesn't give me credit and my dad always is *** about it. I wanna drive like everyone and experience driving places. I don't need anymore help, i just wanna fit in. it makes me sad and when I start driving i feel CONFIDENT.

Question: Would you be angry if your mother was on drugs and neglected you?

Posted: 23 Jul 2018 07:38 PM PDT

There is this girl that I work with. She has a mother that was Always in the streets with different guys and on drugs and basically left her to live with another woman (I think her aunt but not sure) and she was basically crazy and wasn't good to her either. They had fights and everything. But some of her other family members says this girl has no reason to be angry at her mother. I mean wouldn't anyone be angry?

Question: What do I do with a group member who wont contribute to a group project?

Posted: 23 Jul 2018 07:29 PM PDT

I am in a college upper level math class, and we have a case study due soon. We have three members, and me and one guy did the work about fifty fifty. The last group member has done nothing. I know he works and he is busy, but he didnt even attempt or pretend to do anything. The reason its a problem is because now we have peer review edits due soon, and we have to rate how well our team members did and what percent of the work they completed. I dont want to be that one jerk who rates him bad so he gets a bad grade, I have to see him all the time in my classes. But he really didnt do anything-- proff grades one case study document as a whole, then will reduct points if peer reviews indicate the person didnt contribute...

Question: I am 14, but when I am 17 I want to have a baby, why do i want to be a teen mom?

Posted: 23 Jul 2018 07:06 PM PDT

Question: What should I do if a 16 year old girl is very likely not meeting the basic needs at home?

Posted: 23 Jul 2018 07:03 PM PDT

I'm a 23 year old summer school program assistant. It occurred to me that this girl is always starving and says she's hungry. Every day, it's the same issue with her wearing dirty clothes that are inappropriate (because they're too small and outgrown). They are also winter clothes. She's been suggested to wear weather appropriate clothes, but she says she doesn't have. She has a learning disability too. I don't know if it's just her development or if she has problems at home as I do not know her well enough.

Question: Why some fathers hit their daughters?

Posted: 23 Jul 2018 06:57 PM PDT

Like my dad tried to hit mom and me but mom threaten to call police on him. My dad's dad use to hit him and his brothers and his parents divorced when he was 12. Many friends say their dad hit them or their mom. But why do they hit?

Question: Still like to sleep on my big sister’s lap.?

Posted: 23 Jul 2018 05:45 PM PDT

So here is the deal I am a guy 16 my older sis is 25 and I still like to sleep on her lap like between her legs . I mean since I was really young like 7 or something I used to just get between her legs and rest my head on her lap . We used to watch horror movies together so I used to get scared and it was kind of a safe place for me at that time and she never thought it was weird or anything. Moving on to present day I still sometimes do the same when we watch a movie together but now I get a bit nervous before I am about to do it. She still doesn't mind she still thinks it's cute . Is this normal ??

Question: Still like to rest my head on my older sisters lap .?

Posted: 23 Jul 2018 05:25 PM PDT

Question: I asked my dad if I could go to the shore with My friend and his family this summer and he said no. Please read the details?

Posted: 23 Jul 2018 05:14 PM PDT

I asked my dad if I could go to the shore with my friend and his family for 2 days and he said no just because of safety reasons and that I'm still a minor. I told him that I'll be responsible and to at least think about it because my friends family would be watching. But he didn't. I'm 15 and about to turn 16 and want to go to the shore as my birthday wish but I do not know if that's gonna happen and I want to go really bad. How can I have him let me go?