Ever since I got of school and he's retired, he's had all the time in the world, but spends it puttig people down, being picky or off doing who-knows-what with who-knows-who. My mom is the only one helping me get through life, and while there are finacial benefits to having a retired dad, my mom's the one helping me make good decisions on college, driving, and actually teaching me about life and supporting/advising my ideas and decisions. Everytime I try to talk to my dad about a problem I have with him, he says I'm talkig too much even if it's just a few sentences. When he tell me to do one thing, and I do it, the still punishes me for not doing something else he didn't say he wanted me to do. He keeps saying Im old enough to make decisions, but trashes my room And doesn't let me have fun if my bed isnt made the way he wants it to be made. It's unerving because i don't have a job and am still working on getting my license and am waiting to go to college in the Fall and my Mom is gone to work most of the time. My brother kinda sucks, and my sister moved out a while ago. Whenever I have an emotional issue, my dad insists he couldn't care less, but plays victim of emotional neglect because I don't give him hugs and don't say I love him anymore. And I kinda don't. How am I supposed to deal with this dude without giving him a reason to call me a spoiled brat? We used to get along but now he's a major stressor.

My brother has had some emotional control problems lately. I don't know what they are, but he gets unreasonably angry when his games crash or when he's not allowed to play them. (He shouts at the screen and says he'll kill the game, start yelling and crying, etc.). He cries and yells in front of his friends and goes on and on about his favorite subjects when I, my parents, and his friends are clearly not interested. He also still sleeps in his parents' bed. He asks the same questions every few days, and he repeats his sentences often. He'll also stop in the middle of a sentence when he is speaking and start again. When people ask him to pause for a moment, he continues speaking. He never stops. He yells at us to shut up and he says we're stupid and dumb. Also, he does this weird thing when he speaks where he emphasizes words differently from what you would expect. He has a different inflection in his voice. I've told my parents my opinion that this is not normal behavior for an eleven year old, but they just tell me to talk to him, when he clearly doesn't listen to anyone. I've suggested that he go to a psychologist or psychiatrist, but they just say they'll talk to him about his behavior. They seldom do, and it never stops. Whenever they talk to him, he just laughs at them and doesn't pay attention. Or maybe I'm just wrong and this is normal behavior of a moody eleven year old. Aside from his behavior, I would say he's a pretty normal eleven year old, gets good grades at school, respects teachers, etc. He has a hard time making friends though. He acts very differently at home than he does at school, where he barely talks to anyone and never yells.

You know I know I am 33. Making money in my career field starts at 30. I am 3 years late so my career starts now. I can either stay in the small town where my father lives but in my own apartment, and endures all his harassment (the correct way to shake hands with his new wife), especially that he shares the same career field. That field will give me a lifetime stability (stable job, retirement benefits of $6,000, free education, free medical care). Or I can choose to travel overseas, for a salary of $10,000 a month, but with no stability and benefits? The field I specialized in offers only jobs in 2 countries, mine and the one I might travel to. Know that my paternal grandmother who raised me died 5 years ago, my mother is crazy and has rejected me at 6 months, my stepmother was poor and is isolating my father from his relatives to steal him properly, my sister is married and has her own concerns, and my brother has run away from the whole thing and it's been 13 years that he never calls me! .

Our family's dog of 11 years was sadly put to sleep this week. She had a malignant tumor. Both my older brother and myself live 3 hours from home. And we wanted to be there for our dog's final moments. My parents had a vacation planned this week and coincidentally the dog was put to sleep the day before they went on vacation. Both my older brother and I had offered to watch Molly while they were on the trip. They declined our offer and said they were going to postpone the vacation until Molly passed away. I spoke with my mom a few hours before they took her to the vet and they said she said was in pain but they were keeping her comfortable. That evening I got a text from my cousin saying she was sorry to hear about our dog's passing. I was confused no one told me she was being put to sleep. And I was angry I had to find out from a cousin who found out from my aunt (my mom's sister). I texted my 2 siblings that still live at home and no one responded. I didn't hear from anyone for 24 hours until my mom called me from her vacation. I was suspicious about what happened and when I asked my mom it caused a major fight. And they're denying the fact that it's ironic Molly was put to sleep the day before their trip.Now my parents are disowning myself and my older brother for being "rude" to them and accusing them of killing the dog out of convienence. Any advice would be helpful, thanks

My mom died 25 years ago, I was told she was killed by a drink driver, I was 13 when she died... I just found a copy of the police report when going though some stuff, find out the truth. My mom was the drunk driver, the accident was her fault. I really mad right now, i was lied to for 25 years, I want to ask my dad why but also worried will bring up bad memories should I ask him

I have no time for her. There are bills, work, household chores and three children!! She keeps trying to tell me about what happened at school, what someone said online, how she thinks, etc. Mainly very petty, minor issues. I keep telling her off, getting her to do chores instead. She'll either secretly cry in bed or stay quiet for a couple hours. Things are less irritating without her around (learned from experience when the kids took a 7 day trip to Mexico without me!) Her younger brothers don't have this behaviour. They don't give me this issue or waste my time. It's just my oldest daughter who does this.

I recently went to the cemetery where my granpa's buried and I came upon a grave I'd never seen before. It's a family grave. there is written the following on it: FATHER (name/last name) 1893-1968 / MOTHER (name/last name) 1893-1980 / SON 1926-1945 (PFC US MARINE CORPS-WWII-MEDAL OF HONOR-LOVING SON,BROTHER,FRIEND) It just made me feel bad watching that. I tried picturing their whole family. Now everytime I go visit my grandpa I make sure to make a quick stop to see them too and say a prayer. I even placed an american flag on the boy's grave. I made a quick research and I saw that there is an elderly man with that last name (might be a cousin or a brother) that lives in my town. I was thinking about contactin him for finding out somethng about that family but I ultimately decided not to because I don't want to cause an 80 years old sorrow or somthing. My point is: everytime I see that grave I feel really really bad.Why do you think that is?

Everything I say every ten to twelve years after the months of April through December, I end up seeming like I put my foot in my mouth, I can't talk to one of my younger brothers a girl who is waitress at a restaurant and I can't say anything about how voices are in my head telling me about death without someone thinking I'm trying to commit suicide? Each time, my mother tells me that I should apologize, how come no ever apologizes to me?

I wanna move out bc I want more freedom for myself. My dad doesn't let me do **** he doesn't let me go out with fam friends especially a guy. I have a boyfriend which we're gonna move in together in a few months. Also I live in a ranch it's so far from the city. I don't have a car my parents don't have a car. How do I get a job I can't walk 20+ miles. I feel like if I don't get out now I will never leave. The only reason I'm getting money is bc I have a sugar daddy and it's helping a little. I've been 18 for a month and I don't wanna be here anymore. My parents fight a lot too I'm really tired of it and my dad is kinda mean to me too. The only thing is that I don't wanna leave my little sister alone.

Most people wouldn't do this to anyone, but statistically speaking, if a sick person were to.. they are more likely to hurt a stepchild than their own kids. Foster kids are also at a much higher rate too. Usually, people are more worried about their wellbeing if they DON'T live with their biological parents. But there's no mention of worrying about kids who are their own flesh and blood.

So I have been with my man for 5 years now. We have been engaged for 2. He is a hard worker and is gone literally all day because he's working, however, that leaves me alone in a house all day just doing chores and school work (I'm a nursing student). When he comes home, he expects dinner to have been made, the house to be cleaned, and his laundry to be done, which is fair because I don't have to work as much, and I'm a full time student. I have to ask for hugs and kisses. He will never willingly come up to me and give me affection. When he does (after me bitching about it) he will do it unwillingly, and almost in a way to where like I don't even want it because the action was so thoughtless... He doesn't tell me I look good, and often at times tells me he hates the way I wear my hair up, or because I don't wear dresses all the time, I look like I'm poor or whatever... anything he says is negative towards my appearance. We are really good friend though (in my opinion). If I ever needed anything, he would move heaven and earth to help me. He will financially help me if I need it. He always talks crap about my mother. (Yeah she's crazy and yells but calling her a c*nt then telling me I am turning into her isn't exactly nice)... He can be very nice to me though, however, his way of "loving" me is through money..he can buy me so many things that I will just toss into a jewelry box but he can't give me the things that are free such as hugs, cuddles, kisses. All I want is affection

I think he needs to break the constitution and run. Then make Donald trump his vice president. My Grandma says I'm in Love with the coco One time my grandma was stripping on my grandpa while a Pitbull song played. I was like, i wish I had a burrito right now Where are my pills

...she said she seen him on the bed and said he wanted to hug her to open the door ? OPEN THE DOOR? WHAT DOOR? my daughter is going to be 3 on 4 months she hasn't seen him since she was exactly 18 months? What can this be?

I feel that no matter what I do they still look down on me they didn't help me to go through all my troubles before my drug abuse I helped them through their financial difficulties and now I feel like they abandoned me and I'm so depressed

I'm an adult guy, with faults and flaws Just had a birthday, and nobody gave a damn. Sister didn't tell me happy birthday, I am always blamed and hated for something. Parents always bring up my faults, and defend my sister no matter what. My sister hates me, i have been willing to have a brother sister relationship, but she doesn't want to. She hates me. Though she hates me,i have done things for her. She can disrespect my mom, and it's ok, If i defend myself, i am the bad person. She and dad always talk, and she doesn't disrespect him. Mom keep her kid, and i help if i can. Though i love my nephew, he can be hard to deal with. I generally doesn't say nothing to him, because if i do it's an issue. My nephew told me, my sister told him he doesn't have to listen to me, and that she doesn't trust him around me. And that she moved out because of me. If i talk to parents about this, i am the bad person.

At home, she's the only girl out of 3 brothers. I notice that she isn't playing with other girl children at school. She just hangs around with the guys all the time. A lot of people seem to have negative thoughts about this - saying she's "emotionally crippled" and lacks social skills. In my experience, she socializes just fine - but all her friends are boys. She doesn't want to do "girl things", she just wants to hang out with boys all the time.

My mom is very stressed all the time. My brother is in the military and that stresses her out. My Mom hates her job and is constantly applying to new ones, but she keeps getting shut down and that stresses her out. She's an overworked underpaid single mom and I want to help her in any way I can. I don't have a job and I'm not old enough to have a job so I can't help like that. I just hate seeing her crying because she is super stressed. How can I help her not be stressed, even if it is only for one day?

I try to keep it a secret but whenever I am unavailable she knows it means I am with my Dad (even though sometimes I am not). She hates him and resents that I would ever speak to him again. Yet she will say things like "I am not holding you back from him, I just really need you this one day for your grandmother, we don't have her long". Yet, she doesn't mind when my sister is off with friends or the time I was off with my step-father and his parents to a Red Sox game. She just resents when I am with my Dad or anyone in his family. So what is a good reply to use next time she plays this game. I am 26 and out on my own but all this still gives me extreme anxiety as she has used me as a pawn for years with her divorce which happened when I was 8 and was very upsetting to me. She would tell me things like "Grandpa is the one who loves you like a son, I am sorry your Dad doesn't want a relationship with his own son" and so I felt rejected horribly. In reality my Dad was not rejecting me, it was my Mom's words that made me feel that way. My Mom divorced my Dad but in fairness my Dad was not good with money and lied about it. They were misfits who both expected too much from the other.

My sister is the same way and my mother always lets her off the hook since she is the youngest.

And you have tried to stay out of contact with them for years but you texted back asking who was texting you from their phone and they refused to reply. This person is a known narcissist

As his son I feel guilty as I did not see them much as a kid either cause my Dad never wanted to reach out to them or take care of them. He was very negligent until they got terminally ill. My mother was a big part of why. So how do I get over the irrational guilt that I represent my Dad's negligence.

My sister and I are very close. I don't have any other siblings, and we are only one year apart. Last night we got into a very heated argument about ice cream and now she won't talk to me. I miss talking to her. At the end of our days we would sit and talk and yesterday she locked her door. I really miss her, even though it's been not long. I'm scared she's gonna hate me forever. What do I do?

I know someone whose son used to be in a famous (not famous in the English speaking countries) boy group and his parents were not happy about it at all when he told them he would join this group. I don't understand why (I'm not a parent). He was admired by thousands of girls, made lots of money and travelled around the world. How can't that be good? Do you understand those parents and how would you feel about it? Please indicate if you are a parent. Thanks:) may I add that the guy in question was in his mid -twenties when he got in, an "old" boy:)

My wife sister lives about 3 miles away and her kids are frequently over,during the spring my wife wasn't working and the kids would be over about 2 to 3 times a week, there are 3 kids 8, 10 and 15 years old. there parents go on frequent vacations, and the last one we were going to babysit for 2 days with them sleeping over. Should they have left money for food? I love these kids and don't mind buying them food on unplanned outings (which we constantly do) but when there parents drop them off to go on a vacation should i expect there parents to at least offer money for their meals? need to know if I'm being petty or is the parents are being a bit fresh.

For example, the ONLY daughter out of 5 young boys. Are the parents (and even siblings) more likely to spoil them - just because they're different from the rest??

and your sibling does not respect them at all, cusses them out, treat them like servants, and even has broken things and gotten violent and does not help around the house at all. And they treat you worse? My sibling is exactly what I described. My parents treat my sibling better than they treat me. What do I do? How do I fix or resolve this? This is the older sibling and curses and swears at them and literally only treats them like servants/ slaves or peasants and bosses them around. I feel like I'm being taken advantage of and my parents are emotionally abusive. There's so much more I wanted to go into more detail about but I wanted to keep it short and simple. My parents and family members are emotionally abusive. And my mom would instigate fights with me and treats me badly. My dad and sister do not even respect her. They take advantage of her.

This is gonna be long - basically my dad has been cheating on my mom for years now. I first realized it when he told me to grab his phone, and a flirtatious text from an unsaved number had JUST popped up. I didn't say anything to him. He also acted weird with his phone, literally angling it from everyone when texting at dinner / in the car. My parents went to marriage counseling, but their fighting got so bad that my dad left. Hes been staying with his cousin for the past 6 months & hadn't come home since. My little brother had 5 emotional breakdowns at daycare during this time because it was so hard for him to barely see his dad. We were all begging for him to come home & fix things. He came to my soccer games, award show, & my little brothers play. But it wasn't the same.. I thought he'd eventually man up and try to fix things with my mom...but he just filed for divorce. I'm caught between wanting to yell at him for hurting my mom or just never talking to him again. Going dead silent. I know I can't do that, because when he dies I'll regret it. I dont think my dad is a horrible person at his core, we've had some really good times. But he's making bad decisions & our family has to suffer because he's being an idiot..

Almost 2 weeks ago, I lost my aunt. I hadn't seen her for 5 years which hurts even more. I just want to tell her how much she means to me, she doesn't even need to reply. I just want her to know. :'( And pls no silly answers

My wife has an older brother, older sister and a younger brother. The older brother lives across the country and rarely visits. My wife's older sister also helps her younger brother and his wife take care of their children. She is a "third parent" to her brother's children. The older sister also helps care for her elderly parents and does a fine job in doing so. I did the same thing with my parents and I know it is no easy task. However, sometimes my wife's sister believes that she in in charge of EVERYONE in her family-parents, brothers, sisters, siblings spouses and the children of the siblings and spouses. I resent this because I feel like she is trying to take over our lives. My wife insists that her sister is simply trying to be helpful, but has admitted to me in the past that she finds her sister controlling. I have told her sister to back off several times, which results in my wife either getting angry at me or weakly defending her sister with comments like "well she is getting forgetful and doesn't realize what she is doing." Younger brother is the classic baby of the family. He expects everyone to drop what they are doing immediately and come help him when he does something stupid like forget his children's birthday and scrambles to get a party together last minute. I think he thinks, much like the rest of my wife's family, that "your time is my time." I hate and resent this. My wife gives a half hearted explanation and moves on. How do I deal with this?

I'm almost 23 years old. I want to go back to college in a 4 year school, but I want to go away for school, as in living in a form. I'm not going away to another state, but I want to stay in a dorm college. I know what school I want to go to, but I'm still working on what major I should do. I haven't applied just yet. I want to go back to school for the Spring 2019 semester. Like I said before, I want to go away for school, but I do I go about telling my family that? They plan on going on vacation next year summer, but I want to leave home. I'm just personally sick of home at this point and I just want to go away for school. How do I tell my family about this?

There are so many reasons why not to. However she lives overseas and her country is suffering from brutality and political unrest and I would never forgive myself if something happened to her bc we did not let her stay here. She has stayed with us for 3 weeks previously and it was a nightmare. She is very lovely but is scattered and makes big messes unintentionally and even drew bugs to the home. We now have a nice 2 bedroom townhome and I was planning to be a stay at home mom when baby comes. If she came I would have to continue to work and the babys nursery would become the laundry den. She has been wanting to come here for some time and of course excited about baby so I have to wonder what is desire and what Is truly necessary. At home overseas her neighborhood includes many grandchildren and 3 grown children. Even my small dog would be jeopardized if she lived with us bc we just have different lifestyles and she leaves doors and windows open. I am afraid it would hurt my marriage and I am certain I would be miserable. Plus she would have little to no income and we would foot bill for everything. We already are stretched thin trying to accomplish our goals.

my mom keeps my passport and drivers license hidden away because she doesnt trust that I can keep it and not lose it. I'm 18 and still live with her. she doesnt let me drive, or take the bus, or get a job. she makes me come back inside the house before 7:30 pm. she says I'm selfish when I disagree with her and when shes mad threatens to take away all the food and starve me or kick me out. she never actually does though but she threatens this often.

I was have a tooth ache so I asked my mum to take a photo of my teeth and once I deleted the photo I went into deleted album on her iPhone and saw a pic on her v*gina and we both just kinda pretended it wast there I gave her my phone back but I can't get over it ,it makes me feel sick no child should have to see his mother's bits

I'm 27 and continue to live with my Mom while saving money to move out. My Mom and I think very differently. I feel she has slowly been trying to control my life. She is in her mid-sixties and does not work so she has a lot of free time. I work six days a week and am barely home. Knowing she is older, I try to make things easier for her in an attempt to make life easier. She constantly ignores my suggestions and categorizes them as "bitching". In my opinion, she is a borderline hoarder. A lot of our house is deteriorating, and when I suggest throwing something away, she gives me the "you can throw things away when you own your own house". I know the simple suggestion is move out, but I can't afford it at the moment. All these let downs and she still acts as if she is constantly supportive of me when I accomplish goals as she did when I graduated college.Thing that makes it most aggravating is she constantly listens to her friend's advice over family as if we are all ignorant about the world... PLEASE HELP.

Last month, my father caught my brother smoking while he was out with his friends but he just let him off with a warning. My brother though continued to smoke while he was out or even inside the house when my dad was at work. Last Monday allthough my father came back earlier and caught my brother smoking. He became furious and a big argument occured. My brother became disrespectfull, he called my father a few names. Now my brother is grounded.He has his phone,tablet and ps4 taken, his car keys also taken, he cant leave the house, he cant even go out to the backyard, he is not allowed to watch tv and he cant go to his football practice. He is grounded for 4 months. It has been 3 days and he already seems depressed he cant do nothing.I can understand that he has to be grounded, but isnt my dad overeacting with this punishment? Should I do something? He is really sorry, but my dad really angry

She keeps saying she wants to run away, die and a whole bunch of things like that. There is literally no talking to her.