The engagement started with happy thoughts of my fiance and I paying for our wedding and celebrating doing our own thing. Within a week my in-laws (parents of the bride), got extremely upset saying that it "Must" be a tradition wedding where the men have no say and only the women discuss everything that will happen. They also said that they will be paying for the entire wedding, when my fiance said we do not expect that, they essentially said then they will not be coming to the wedding unless they pay. Many things happened over the course of the planning, but recently my future-father-in-law called me to warn me that we are not allowed to do our own thing (celebrate my brother and my fiances aunt at the wedding), where we just wanted to sing happy birthday. Tensions rose during the phone call, and my father-in-law starting yelling and swearing at me. I felt sad after the whole phone call because I stood my ground of celebrating the birthday since it was something my fiance and I really wanted. Now, none of this is really about the cake, it is more about the fact of ohhh idk... men and their behaviors and role in life.... Happy Wife happy Life or something along those lines... I do not think he has many people ever stand up to him, and when I stood my ground firmly he got ticked off and started yelling. Should we still accept his money during this situation or should we do our own thing? How do you delete a question?

My fiancé and I have been together on and off for 5 years. During one of our breaks, I briefly got with another girl. During that time period, my fiancé and I discovered we missed each other, so I dumped that other girl. A few weeks later, that girl called me and told me she was pregnant. I got an in utero DNA test, and the child was mine. I told that girl that if she decides to keep it, all I'm going to be is a co-parent. My fiancé understood, and said she still wanted to marry me. Well, things got sour lately. My fiancé and I spent months planning a wedding. And by bad luck on our wedding day, my baby mama went into labor a month early. When I heard the news, I left and attended my baby's birth. My fiancé was angry because her parents had paid all this money for our wedding, and I left. I told her I felt bad, but I needed to be there for my son. She didn't even ask how the baby was doing. She even added that our wedding was more important than the baby because it cost more. I then got upset and told her she was being selfish. Now, she's demanding that we reschedule another lavish wedding. I think we should just go to the courthouse. I told her I don't have the money for that since I have a son to support. She said if I loved her, i would sacrifice my son's needs for her. Should I just pay her parents back and dump her? I'm starting to believe my son's birth falling on our wedding day was a sign we shouldn't get married. Am I right? what should I do now? Is she worth it?