Family: Question: My sister is an unkind person. My Dad wants her to come to a baseball game with us this weekend. What do I do if she accepts?

Question: My sister is an unkind person. My Dad wants her to come to a baseball game with us this weekend. What do I do if she accepts?

Posted: 18 Jul 2018 02:08 PM PDT

Question: I have a bad relationship with my brother, what can I do to at least tolerate him?

Posted: 18 Jul 2018 01:47 PM PDT

My brother is 15, I am 17. Ever since he was about 12, the conflict between us has been really awful. It feels like he goes out of his way to make my life hard, make sure that I feel bad about myself, and constantly diminish the way people see me. He's extremely sexist, and won't let me help my father with handy work because it's "not a woman's place". He is completely rude to me and treats me like a doormat, and when I try to talk to him about how I feel, he shuts me down and tells me he doesnt want to hear my voice. One example is that one time he dropped his debit card outside of my card when I dropped him off for football practice. I picked it up and put it in my wallet to keep it safe (I have my own, I wasn't taking it to use it or anything). I told him to grab it out when I picked him up, because I had to run and grab dinner. He didn't, and I forgot I had it. Fast forward a couple days I am shopping with my mom, and I am going to a friends grad party after we are done. I notice that I still have his card, and give it to my mother so I don't loose it at the party. After the party I have to pick him up after practice, and he wants his card. I explained that I told him to grab it out, and forgot I had it, and gave it to mom for safe keeping. He SCREAMS at me, saying its my fault, and calls me unflattering things, and treats me like garbage the rest of the day. Thats the nicer side of him. He's spread rumors about me, lies to my parents. I just feel like doesn't respect me.

Question: Found my 17 year old sisters vodka. What do I do?

Posted: 18 Jul 2018 12:53 PM PDT

So my sister stole ten dollars from me while I was sleeping and while I was home alone I snooped through her room and found vodka. She is a douche to me (as you can see by the fact she took my money, plus she hits me for no reason), so I was thinking I should tell or maybe even make her pay me off. What should I do?

Question: My 23 year old son will refuse to move out or get a job?

Posted: 18 Jul 2018 12:42 PM PDT

Question: What are thoughts on child (20yrs+) walking with parent through town or shopping?

Posted: 18 Jul 2018 12:16 PM PDT

Question: My son hates me?

Posted: 18 Jul 2018 11:56 AM PDT

My son is 19 years old and has his own apartment and is seeing a girl who is 16. She's pregnant with a boy. I don't approve of that, but I have always been nice to her but because of him, she has threatened me, tried to fight me, called me a ***** and said she'll be the mother I can't be. My son hates me for the stupidest ******* reason ever. I circumcised him. If he doesn't wanna do that to his son, fine. He told me that if I ever even reccomended that to his son, he would beat me up and send me to the hospital. He comes up with list and requirements for me to be around his son. He even told me for awhile he was gonna make me pay 5$ per hour to see him. And he said I always favored his sister, but it's not that it was just she was easier to deal with and he had aspergers. I told her before him, and I said sorry but I won't go over it i with him because I won't have a pity party around him. He just was harder to love. He also threatened to slam my head in a car door if I reccomended that, or am 'rude' to his baby(which I would never be) what should I do?

Question: Why does my mom keep her ex boyfriend around?

Posted: 18 Jul 2018 10:40 AM PDT

He cheated on her and all he does is take and take and then argues and whine when he doesn't get his way. I can barely look at him now because of what he did. The problem is that he has depression and suicidal tendencies. They actually separated for 3 days and he came back suicidal so my mom is in a really bad spot. The way I see it she should do everything in her power to contact the family and THEN cut him out. I don't see a reason why she has to do anything else. She has no obligations, especially because of what he's doing to our family. He actually caused a rift between me and my mom and we had to go to family counselling. thankfully there wasn't much of a problem to fix but she still sees the family counselor on an individual basis. My mom is also getting her masters degree in counselling in a couple weeks and that might have something to do with it. But clearly neither of them are addressing the elephant in the room. I don't know what to do. I have him with a passion and I hate the face the he's doing this to her even more. I know that the situation is more complicated then it seems but I don't understand why it should be. He shouldn't be on his own. He should be with family. Another thing I didn't mention is that he has kids. Kids that he is absolutely unfit to raise. His apartment is a pigsty and he'll go to sleep and leave a four year old and six year old all alone. Sometime he has his other child (A ten year old) And he has him take care of them while he naps.

Question: Am I a bad person to turn my back on my nephew?

Posted: 18 Jul 2018 10:25 AM PDT

My nephew was dropped off to me when I was 18 about to start college. My sister gave him to my mom and my mom got married and dropped him to me and left. I dropped out of college and raised him. He's 10 now. I have no kids and haven't had a life my life has been him and working 2-3 jobs to provide. Thing is my mom won't give over custody. I have yet to file him on my taxes or anything. She claimes him on her taxes and let her husband claim him, collect food stamps and child support. I dealt with this because I don't want her to go to jail but she won't stop. She never even offer us food. She uses my address to make it seem she stays in the same house as him. I'm just so tired of her taking from us. My sister( his mom) doesn't want him and his dad is in prison. It makes me want to drop him to my mom but she's not a good mom. She leaves kids and mentally abused them. I don't know to do without getting her in trouble.

Question: Do you give your grandparents a quick kiss on the lips when you greet them?

Posted: 18 Jul 2018 10:09 AM PDT

I know this is a random question but do you kiss your grandparents on the lips quickly when you greet them. One of my friends thought it was weird but what is the harm, you are their family. It's not like your giving them a big long kiss, there is nothing sexual about it.

Question: After mom died we put the home for sale.After closing my brother never spoke to me (4yrs now).Now he wants to reconnect ..What gives?

Posted: 18 Jul 2018 09:44 AM PDT

I think my brother felt he deserved all money for house sale. We split 3 ways between 3 brothers as mom wished.

Question: How do I tell my conservative Asian parents about my period?

Posted: 18 Jul 2018 09:28 AM PDT

Okay. So my parents are conservative Asians. Both my parents are Chinese, ad they'll probably get mad all the time. I started my period today, and I don't know how I ought to tell them. They're conservative, which means they believe in purity, and they're Chinese, which means they think periods are evil. Also, my parents are strict and Christian. I hope they don't disown me and kick me out of the house for getting my period.

Question: Is it unreasonable for me to request that my mom stops sexually assaulting me?

Posted: 18 Jul 2018 09:02 AM PDT

I'm a 17 year old boy and my boy mom is always touching me inappropriately. She will just slap or touch my butt randomly. I always tell her to stop but she never listens. She also pets my arm when I'm near her. I just really don't enjoy her touching me in general and especially not being pet or getting my *** slapped. I have expressed this to her many times but she just yells at me and says I'm mean. She tried to say that nobody is perfect as an excuse for touching me. There is a fine line between harassment and a mistake. You can't just go around committing sexual assault and just say "nobody's perfect" and expect to just get away with it. I don't necessarily freak out from just being touched. I'm not like autistic or anything. It's just when someone who is in a somewhat position of authority starts touching my butt, I get bothered, I don't think it's right, I don't like it and it's my body so I feel like she has no right to continue this behavior. I'm scared to really stand up for myself because I know that I will get in trouble. What should I do, if there is anything?

Question: Why are they rude for? Why won’t they not let me sleep?

Posted: 18 Jul 2018 07:52 AM PDT

My lil sis has kept me up and been up since 2am this morning and my stepmom has been up making noise since 6am. What have I ever done to them? Why won't they let me sleep? my eyes hurt bc I'm tired but I can't fall asleep and they're both retarded and dumb and my stepmom left the blinds and curtains open to the backyard and I'm here laying on the couch trying to sleep still. I don't ever keep them up. What do they have against me. I'm going to let my dad know bc I need to sleep too really.

Question: Why is my older brother so lazy?

Posted: 18 Jul 2018 06:59 AM PDT

My older brother is 2 years older than me he is 20. He plays games all day (like all day and never sleeps) he also eats a lot of junk food and still lives at home. Whenever my friend and I go to the store we ask him does he want anything, but when he goes tot he store he never asks us. He just sits back and plays games and doesn't have a job or go to college. Plus he watches movies a lot and gets money off our mother. The only money he makes is like $30-40 dollars like each month cutting our aunts yard or do stuff online for paypal money but spends all his money on snacks and games. And he complains that he has a little bit of money int he bank and needs money to pay its monthly fee.

Question: Child custody issue? What should I do?

Posted: 18 Jul 2018 06:04 AM PDT

Long story short. I've keeping my nephew since he was 1 year old. I gave him to my mom for one year to finish college. I paid for all his expenses and kept him on the weekends and when I had time. He sees me as his mom. His Mom doesn't want to be involved and dad is in prison. However all these years I've been keeping him. She's been filing him on her taxes, getting good stamps and child support. I've talked to her about this over and over but she doesn't listen nor does she care. She has paper work stating she's the guardian. So she has to sign him up in school and she uses my address like she stays with him and calls his school and tell his teachers she keeps him. It's easier said then done to just give him to her but I can't because she wasn't the best mo to me. She only care about money. Nothing more. I've enabled her to. Onto us because she's a big manipulator and my nephew cries because he doesn't want to stay with her. I know this isn't legal advice but I'm really stressed and don't know what to do. She also states she needs his Medicaid because she doesn't work. Sorry I needed to vent any advice?

Question: I’m changing my name at age 15.?

Posted: 18 Jul 2018 04:44 AM PDT

hello! :) I am going to be changing my name today. I've been waiting to do this since I was about 15, been going by the name I'm changing to for many years now. Though this may sound very strange or a bad idea due to how young I am, the name I was given is very very strange and looks extremely foreign, it's not even a name that anyone else could possibly have. My mom is white and my dad is black, they raised me in a vegan, hippie type of household. We were never normal, and my mother and father gave my brothers 'weird' names as well. Just nowhere as weird as mine considering you can find theirs on most baby name websites. This has resulted in social anxiety in any situation in which involves me using my name or needing to introduce myself, which is why for the longest I have been going by a different name. I'm so so excited to not feel so embarrassed anymore! Has anyone on here had experience with changing their name as a minor? Please no hate or judgmental comments. Thanks:)

Question: I grew up in a dysfunctional family. Is it normal I don't trust people and don't want a family?

Posted: 18 Jul 2018 04:38 AM PDT

I live alone and avoid other humans as I see them as the enemy. My Dad was in jail for murdering his sister so I never met him (my mother was pregnant when he murdered her). Then my mother married a man who hit her in front of me during my earliest memories. She would scream but then he'd come back until he held a knife to her throat demanding sex. He was arrested for rape and we did not see him again. Lastly she married a very nice man we thought. He seemed Mr. Wonderful. Then the sex abuse began and he was having sex with me, his 12 year old step-daughter. Told me he would kill himself if I told so I did not tell. I finally came out when he left my mother for another woman. She had him arrested and he was but no one believed (they thought it was a revenge thing). He eventually was convicted and others came out and he is now a sex offender in jail where he belongs. From here my Mom's drinking began and she drank. My brother was then arrested for contributing to a drug death and sentenced to 11 years (he served 6). My mother became a full blown 24/7 alcoholic at this point and I was in charge of covering up for her. I did so until I found her dead when I was 23. She had committed suicide. When I would complain my mother would say "you should have met my family" and I don't doubt it as we never knew her family. Her mother was notified when my mother died and did not even go to the funeral. My brother was estranged at this point and wouldn't go. It was just me alone So my question here is this, Is it normal that I do not trust people and have no friends or family when I grew up myself in a dysfunctional family? I hate other people, all of them, and sometimes I even hate myself. I am too afraid of therapy.

Question: Could someone who is 20 ever look 10 or 15 years older than their age?

Posted: 18 Jul 2018 04:31 AM PDT

Even if they have no wrinkles/ lines on their face, no grey hair/ are not overweight but actually underweight. Even though that is there a way someone who is 20 could still be 10 or 15 years older?

Question: What should I tell people about my father?

Posted: 18 Jul 2018 03:37 AM PDT

My father left us a very long time ago. People ask me what my father does about his jobs and such. My friends and teachers ask me about him and I honestly get so nervous when they ask me because I don t know what to say. I don t want to tell them that my father just up and left because that would make things so uncomfortable and awkward for me. When teachers ask I just tell them a lie my mother taught me that he works overseas but people sometimes ask for more detail and I just get scared. I don t know what to tell people because honestly I don t know anything about him myself.

Question: How can I reasonably punish my 19 year old when she continues to smoke marijuana?

Posted: 18 Jul 2018 03:25 AM PDT

I'm just stuck! I don't know how to handle my 19 year old daughter with this smoking crap. She's been smoking ever since she's been about 16 (thats when I caught her the first time). My husband and I tried taking away the car for a few weeks and letting her work up to show some responsibility so that she can get it back. But every time she gets it back she comes home smelling like smoke. I'll ask her has she been smoking and she will say no but we'll go back and forth when I can smell it. So then she just fesses up and says that she's done it, but thats after asking about 5 times! I don't know why she has to lie about it! Now she says that she only smokes vape pens but I know thats not true! This is an ongoing cycle and I know I cant physically stop her but I have no idea what to do anymore. She's a great kid and does great in school. She's going into her Sophomore year of college and she commutes. If she didn't her grades probably wouldn't be up to par like they are now. Thats a choice im glad she made as of now. I try to be reasonable with her and treat her her age but she just keeps giving me reasons why not to. I go through her phone and find nothing because she deletes everything! I advice on what to do.

Question: My mom and brother hit me for no reason?

Posted: 18 Jul 2018 02:28 AM PDT

My mom told me to tell my brother to stop screaming and than he came and screamed and hit me and than my mom told me she never did **** and started doing the same my depression is sooo bad rn what should I do ?

Question: I hate my mom.?

Posted: 18 Jul 2018 02:18 AM PDT

I need advice what to do so my brothers were fighting and my mom told me to tell my brothers something so they would stop I did and one of my brothers started screaming and hitting me than I told him that our mother told me to tell them and my mom starts screaming at me and hitting me for what she told me to say

Question: How do I get my parents not to go in my room and randomly throw away things?

Posted: 18 Jul 2018 01:40 AM PDT

They are stealing and dishonest people.

Question: My sister is mean to me. How do I not let her hurt me?

Posted: 18 Jul 2018 01:32 AM PDT

Our parents enable her, our mother especially.

Question: Does wishing death or praying for someone to die ever work?

Posted: 18 Jul 2018 12:56 AM PDT

Soo my older sister who is 17 has been insanely mentally/emotionally abusive towards me. She takes small things that I do and acts (obviously) petty about it. My parents love her, so whenever I try to tell them they think she's not doing anything wrong. She even uses a mental illness that I have against me to intimidate me, she's been doing this for about 8 months now. Im so so sick of this and have been praying and daily wishing that she would die. Do you think that these wishes will ever work? That the universe and God would see how awful she is and help me out? I never truly wished anyone dead except for her. I've written alot of pages in my diary how I wish she would die. Living with her for years and years and the way she acts towards me and other people, I can tell she is not a good person at all. My BFF's have been supportive and will usually comfort me after. Im just so hurt and upset that my own sister could do this. She's so forceful and scary to me but my parents only ever see her being nice to me.

Question: My mom tries to act young?

Posted: 18 Jul 2018 12:47 AM PDT

My mom is 39 years old and she tries to act young, I'm 13 and she copies everything I do like she has an Instagram and she likes memes and she uses words I do like lit or bae and it's embarrassing cause she's old what's should I do? Should I just tell her to stop or do you think this is okay?

Question: Is it possible my mom might have borderline personality disorder?

Posted: 18 Jul 2018 12:19 AM PDT

My mom often does not go out much. Its just me and her living togther. She often gets into fights with every single one of my sisters, and me as well. She often gets very hostile, thinks everyone is criticizing her when they arent. For example, she gets mad at me when I talk to my sisters because they are older than me. When they tell her that its fine that we talk because we are sisters, she takes it as they are calling her a bad mother and are questioning her parenting. She binge eats and spends her money unnecessarily. My mom barely has any friends, she doesnt go out with anyone. She spends most of her time with me or by herself. She is always asking if she looks good,if she lost weight, is shes ugly. Even if we say she looks good she will always find something that bothers her about her appearance, even if she looks perfectly fine. Along with that, she does have a sense of grandiosity, she talks about how she was an immigrant, learned english by herself, got straight As.I know it doesnt seem that bad, but she always flips a discussion onto that. My mom doesnt talk about suicide anymore. but i know that when i was little she always talked about how she wanted to shoot herself along with me as well so we didnt have to deal with anything in the world anymore. Up to the point where my sister was scared to leave me with her. She doesnt say stuff like that anymore.She often talks about wanting to run away and never come back,leaving me here with my sisters.Please answer soon!

Question: I feel stuck in this abusive relationship?

Posted: 17 Jul 2018 11:52 PM PDT

My sons father has physical and mentally abusive me for 6 years . I've gotten kicked , dragged across the floor , punched (broken nose) etc.. I finally talked to my parents about it, but they didn't believe me . My worst night mare came true . They said I'm just over exaggerating. I feel so alone like I have no one to turn to . . I know what you all are thinking "just leave " but it's easier said then done . I feel like dying .

Question: How do I get my family to stop saying "Are we still in America?"?

Posted: 17 Jul 2018 11:22 PM PDT

When I was little me and my family went on a very long road trip. It was my first time out of my home state so I was kind of confused and half way through innocently asked my family "Are we still in America?". They found this hilarious and will not stop randomly bringing up this dozens of years later at random times. My friends have even joined in and now I fear it will be brought up for the rest of my life. Please help.

Question: I was too scared to tell my therapist one of the main reasons why I m depressed, and to this day, I still don t know how to cope. Advice?

Posted: 17 Jul 2018 10:27 PM PDT

I am a victim of molestation from a young age but it went on from 5th to the end of 7th grade year for me because I was scared to tell my mom. It was hard because it was my own older brother.. I felt sick and he would even come into my room when I was asleep to do things (i woke up in shock and he would leave) so I would stay up late purposely as a child. (yes, school nights too) but I finally told my mom and she was mortified, but she only had a sit down talk with my brother and let him go. It was as if she didn t really care, I have gotten ptsd from my brother but she let him off the hook so easily and told me to learn to forgive him.. I can t tell anyone.. I hate this so much.. I ve felt like an object in my own household and disgusted with my body. Why does it have to be this way. Why. (Note: my mom had told me since my brother had no friends and he was antiscocial, he was experimenting with me because I was a good sister to him and he was a curious boy so she told me to learn to forgive him. When she told me that, I felt like I was completely lost and my mom didn t know what she was saying. I felt sick that she even thought this was okay.) What do I do? My brother isn t living here anymore, but the painful memories still stay with me and i want to move out of my moms. But i dont want to be taken away or put into a foster home.

Question: Should I be concerned about my daughter’s upbringing as a single dad? Does she “need” another girl in her life?

Posted: 17 Jul 2018 10:22 PM PDT

I have 2 sons and a daughter. The fact that her mom is absent is brought up a lot. It's just a concern about her welfare. Things might be tough when she enters puberty and has no female to relate to. I've done my part as a parent - explain the basic things to all my kids from an early age. She is a smart, thoughtful and introverted child so far. She does very well in school. I am worrying if growing up like this will become a problem in the LONG RUN. She has me and her brothers. Most of her friends are boys (at least, at this moment). Over the years, I've really thought about the future. My daughter shows no interest in wanting another female in her life at the moment (or hasn't asked?). I encourage her to join lots of extracurricular activities where she can meet different people.

Question: What is the best age to move out if you’re going to university?

Posted: 17 Jul 2018 09:23 PM PDT

Im turning 18 soon and leaving for university in the fall. I'll be staying in a dorm. My university is about a 5 hour drive so I'll barely be home. I'll be attending for 2 years, possibly 4 if I want a higher degree. My parents have been extremely generous, are paying my way through school and allowing me to technically still live with them even though I'll be away at school. So this begs the question - What age do you think would be good to move out? I'm so thankful for my parents, but I also want to be independent & have my own apartment around 21 / 22. I don't want to be a mooch either

Question: Child custody issue, what do I do?

Posted: 17 Jul 2018 08:49 PM PDT

Long story short. I've keeping my nephew since he was 1 year old. I gave him to my mom for one year to finish college. I paid for all his expenses and kept him on the weekends and when I had time. He sees me as his mom. His Mom doesn't want to be involved and dad is in prison. However all these years I've been keeping him. She's been filing him on her taxes, getting good stamps and child support. I've talked to her about this over and over but she doesn't listen nor does she care. She has paper work stating she's the guardian. So she has to sign him up in school and she uses my address like she stays with him and calls his school and tell his teachers she keeps him. It's easier said then done to just give him to her but I can't because she wasn't the best mo to me. She only care about money. Nothing more. I've enabled her to. Onto us because she's a big manipulator and my nephew cries because he doesn't want to stay with her. I know this isn't legal advice but I'm really stressed and don't know what to do. She also states she needs his Medicaid because she doesn't work. Sorry I needed to vent any advice?

Question: New stepbrother acting weird?

Posted: 17 Jul 2018 07:26 PM PDT

So, my Dad got married and his new wife and...stepson? Just moved in. My Dad and his Mom both are working late, and my stepbrother has been quizzing me about my Dad. He keeps asking about things that "set my Dad off", what sort of punishments my Dad meets out, and is quizzing me about my Dad's drinking. What is this all about?

Question: Was he deceiving me all this time?

Posted: 17 Jul 2018 07:22 PM PDT

This guy has been pursuing me for months and asked me to be his gf few days ago even though I didn't give him an answer. We were working out together and he asked me to hold his phone, then a text came from a girl saying "sweet dreams <3"I asked him who it was he said a friend then I asked him to unlock the phone but he didn't, and said it should come to that. I walked out he didn't run after me right away, but he came out a few minutes later. Anyway he says it's his ex gf and they've been broken up for over a year. I said he should have blocked her if he wasnt interested. The following day he got a new number so she couldn't get a hold of him. We met up and talked his eyes were teary he said I was his #1 priority, he's been putting me first everyday, spending time with me everyday and texting me. He claims he hasn't talked to her in months and that she's a master manipulator. He was there whenever I asked him to do anything, he made me soup when i was sick, brought me food when i was studying, made my birthday very special with coach purse and wallet and nice dinner. Could what he's saying be true? he said she doesn't matter to him and all she wants is a response etc. I asked for the text logs and he refused to show me them the following day saying I dont even consider him a viable option for a bf so why should he flipping it around on me. SO why shower me with all this and make me his priority like he said? He said congratulations you got what you wanted I"m out of your lif Why isn't he coming to the gym? Do you think he will reach out again?

Question: Is he giving me space?

Posted: 17 Jul 2018 07:13 PM PDT

This guy has been pursuing me for months and asked me to be his gf few days ago even though I didn't give him an answer. We were working out together and he asked me to hold his phone, then a text came from a girl saying "sweet dreams <3"I asked him who it was he said a friend then I asked him to unlock the phone but he didn't, and said it should come to that. I walked out he didn't run after me right away, but he came out a few minutes later. Anyway he says it's his ex gf and they've been broken up for over a year. I said he should have blocked her if he wasnt interested. The following day he got a new number so she couldn't get a hold of him. We met up and talked his eyes were teary he said I was his #1 priority, he's been putting me first everyday, spending time with me everyday and texting me. He claims he hasn't talked to her in months and that she's a master manipulator. He was there whenever I asked him to do anything, he made me soup when i was sick, brought me food when i was studying, made my birthday very special with coach purse and wallet and nice dinner. Could what he's saying be true? he said she doesn't matter to him and all she wants is a response etc. I asked for the text logs and he refused to show me them the following day saying I dont even consider him a viable option for a bf so why should he flipping it around on me. SO why shower me with all this and make me his priority like he said? He said congratulations you got what you wanted I"m out of your lif Why isn't he coming to the gym? Will he reach out to me again?

Question: How should I approach my mother about not wearing a certain robe?

Posted: 17 Jul 2018 07:05 PM PDT

My mother wears this robe that I hate a lot. It is revealing to me and I don't like that. I have to always be in a different room so I don't have to look at her. I sometimes want to take it out of her closet and throw it in the garbage. I don't want to hurt her feelings about how I feel of her wearing the robe. I just wish she would stop wearing it.

Question: Was he being fake to me all this time?

Posted: 17 Jul 2018 06:25 PM PDT

This guy has been pursuing me for months and asked me to be his gf few days ago even though I didn't give him an answer. We were working out together and he asked me to hold his phone, then a text came from a girl saying "sweet dreams <3"I asked him who it was he said a friend then I asked him to unlock the phone but he didn't, and said it should come to that. I walked out he didn't run after me right away, but he came out a few minutes later. Anyway he says it's his ex gf and they've been broken up for over a year. I said he should have blocked her if he wasnt interested. The following day he got a new number so she couldn't get a hold of him. We met up and talked his eyes were teary he said I was his #1 priority, he's been putting me first everyday, spending time with me everyday and texting me. He claims he hasn't talked to her in months and that she's a master manipulator. He was there whenever I asked him to do anything, he made me soup when i was sick, brought me food when i was studying, made my birthday very special with coach purse and wallet and nice dinner. Could what he's saying be true? he said she doesn't matter to him and all she wants is a response etc. I asked for the text logs and he refused to show me them the following day saying I dont even consider him a viable option for a bf so why should he flipping it around on me. SO why shower me with all this and make me his priority like he said? He said congratulations you got what you wanted I"m out of your lif Why did he stop coming to the gym? Do you think he's giving me space? Will he reach out to me again?

Question: Is my mum being unfair?

Posted: 17 Jul 2018 06:21 PM PDT

It's nearly 2:20am and my mum is keeping me awake with the TV in. I have to wake up at 8am tomorrow to go to work. She knows that, but it feels like she doesn't care. I've texted her several times to either turn it down or turn it off. The last reply I got was "just watching a few more mins then it'll be off xx"... that was over an hour ago. I then went downstairs a few minutes ago to ask her why she still hasn't turned the TV off, and she replied "stop badgering me, I can turn the TV off when I want". She then shooed me upstairs, continued to watch TV and told me not to message her about it again. Do you think she's being unfair?

Question: 2 different personalities?

Posted: 17 Jul 2018 06:12 PM PDT

So infront of family and family friends. I'm the shy unsocial quiet person. But on the other hand at school I'm the complete opposite loud, funny, trouble maker. Is there something wrong with me?

Question: What do I do about this conflict that has broken out in my Mom's family?

Posted: 17 Jul 2018 05:48 PM PDT

So I have this aunt who has become abusive. When I was a kid she was nice and had a daughter. Then when she got married and had two more kids she snapped. She is now a narcissistic bully. I am a descent person so don't believe in ex-communicating family members. My mother and her other siblings will not talk to this aunt. I have the aunt on Facebook and when she is in town seeing our grandmother I usually stop by for 30 minutes. My mother is sarcastic about me doing this but does not try to stop me. My father on the other hand is pissed that I would see this woman since she is verbally abusive to my Mom. My Mom and her three siblings just wrote to the aunt but I highly doubt anything will come out of that. The aunts temper tantrums have gotten worse since are grandfather died 3 years ago. I hate being used as a pawn and my Dad is using me as a pawn to make a point to this narcissistic aunt. At the same time I don't want to stoop down to the aunt's level and play the silent treatment game and block her on Facebook. I like being the mature family member and I know our grandmother appreciates it. Only one other cousin will speak to this aunt and my two sisters will not.

Question: How do I recover from the mental damage of growing up in a dysfunctional family?

Posted: 17 Jul 2018 05:30 PM PDT

Compared to other dysfunctional families mine was not as bad (not CPS, no incest, no beatings) however I did grow up in one. My mother was the dysfunctional one and my father the enabler. My Mom turned on her family and used us kids as pawns. Sometimes she was being protective (her father was an alcoholic) and other times alienating us from her family for her own gain. Her father was not dangerous to be around as long as we were supervised but it was banned when I was ages 8 to 15. We had little contact with my Mom's family in those 7 years and none with the grandfather. I feel great guilt for this. I feel I was disloyal and missed out. I envy my cousins for not missing out and feel they must look down on me as the "disloyal grandson". My grandfather died when I was 15 and we got closer to the family again. We have always been the least involved though and closer to our Dad's side. So I feel terrible guilt that is triggered whenever we miss a family event. I feel my cousins were loyal and I was disloyal and that I must make up to the family for my actions. Yet I was a kid. I was obsessive about making up to my grandmother as she lived 15 years after my grandfather's death. One cousin even told me how awkward watching grandfather drink was and yet I still feel so guilty that I was disloyal and am obsessively trying to make up. Along with therapy which I am in how do you recover from mental distortions and unnecessary guilt from the dysfunction?

Question: I have a crush on the cousin of my cousin.?

Posted: 17 Jul 2018 05:29 PM PDT

Ok i already know it sounds weird but lemme explain the family tree. So my mother is the aunt of my first cousin. And she had a child who is now my second cousin. My second cousins father has a sister who had a boy with her first husband and later had her second boy with a different man after breaking up with her ex. I have a crush on her second son. I cant see how we could possibly be related because my side of the family is only related to my second cousins mother side of the family not the father ..but i cant help but feel its weird because we both share the same cousin..is this normal??

Question: What do you do if your younger brother who is a minor threatens to take your life?

Posted: 17 Jul 2018 05:13 PM PDT

My own brother threatens that he was going to put a bullet in my head He claims hes in a gang and that he can get a gun whenever he wants to kill me , and then after that he mentions that right after he kills me he can get away with it because he is a minor Says that he will be out of prison within a month Now keep in mind this kid is 14 years old and hes 6 feet and im 23 years and my height is 5,7 so hes way taller then me but yet hes the youngest And this is the third time he threatens my life Its pushing to the point where im just extremely uncomfortable and fearing for my life and currrently im living in my mothers house and i want to leave But i have nowhere to go and no family or friends to go to What should i do ?

Question: "Did your stepmom ever received bad karma for mistreating you in the past?

Posted: 17 Jul 2018 04:30 PM PDT

"Is she did? please tell me what was her refund from sowing bad karma towards you?..

Question: I need to calm down my little sis?

Posted: 17 Jul 2018 03:47 PM PDT

I'm 13 years old and my mom had me watch my little sister for the first time. She's never been without mom at night and she won't stop crying saying she's worried she won't see mommy again. Anything I can do stop her screaming?

Question: I love my mom more than my dad and I can t help it I don t know what to do?

Posted: 17 Jul 2018 03:21 PM PDT

I have always been closer to my mom since she was the parent me and my little brother spent the most time with but my dad isn t home that often my parents are not divorced but my dads job doesn t really give me a chance to spend time with him and when I do get to spend time with him he s usually angry or upset both him and my mom smoked weed and I ve always felt like my family is dysfunctional because of this and the fact we often were broke I don t know what to do anymore its gotten so bad to the point where I m kind of scared of my dad

Question: Custody of a child?

Posted: 17 Jul 2018 12:38 PM PDT

Who has custody of a child when the parents are not married then sometime after birth they get married?

Question: My Mom's cousin had an affair and we have been distant from her ever since. Even if she was immoral, is this any of our business?

Posted: 17 Jul 2018 11:00 AM PDT

When I see the cousin people get annoyed with me and say I am enabling. The cousin of hers left her husband for some low life she met. I feel it is not for me to judge even though of course I don't endorse adultery.