Family: Question: Can thin girls get jealous of fat girls?

Question: Can thin girls get jealous of fat girls?

Posted: 27 Jul 2018 01:45 PM PDT

Like when I was chubby, some of my thin relatives use to put me down and they seem jealous of me. It happened with one of my friends too. She was super thin but she hated me for some reason.

Question: Why won't my dad wear his new shoes?

Posted: 27 Jul 2018 01:41 PM PDT

He has about 6 pairs of new shoes in boxes that he has had for years but he keeps wearing his old ones. He has glued the soles back on twice and they have glue all over them now and he keeps wearing them. He looks like a homeless person. I even bought him some really nice boots for his birthday but he keeps wearing the old ones. Why is he doing this?

Question: Sister may have anger issues and it is breaking apart the family... what do I do?

Posted: 27 Jul 2018 01:39 PM PDT

My Sister always and easily gets mad. Even if she doesn't attends to be mad. She always has a rude tone and will get mad at me mostly. Apparently she sees me being the favorite child which I don't see because I distance myself from my parents and her. But, this mostly happens because whenever there's a argument, when my parents agree with me and that causes her to say "your always on her side! Always the little sister". I don't do this in purpose so it always hurts me whenever she says it but I keep it to myself. My mother has gone crying to me because my sister yells at her. I always wanted to take her to a anger management class or a therapist but My parents refuses to accept that she needs one even though they agree that her behavior is "extremely rude". I love my sister and I want to help her but do I need a doctor's help for a diagnosis ? What do I do? Where do I start? Where do I go?

Question: I have alcoholic parents and now have to buy their liquor for them cause the store won't sell it. Is this enabling?

Posted: 27 Jul 2018 01:11 PM PDT

I also am working this summer for them cause they said they need the money. They don't work cause of their drinking but my grandfather on Mom's side gives them funds. Am I enabling by buying their liquor and if so how do I get out of it? Right now I got the keys taken away when I wouldn't once. I am 21 but have to live at home for money reasons. I have been asked to buy their liquor ever since turning 21 last December. My two siblings are younger then me.

Question: My Mom is narrow minded and uses her kids for her own advantage. Now that I am an adult is it okay to never speak to her again?

Posted: 27 Jul 2018 01:08 PM PDT

Question: My step-daughter wants to marry my brother who is adopted. Is this allowed by law? It seems just weird to me.?

Posted: 27 Jul 2018 01:04 PM PDT

Question: My Dad is embarrassed to have me around him if others are there cause I talk a lot (am ADHD). How do I get over my anger about this?

Posted: 27 Jul 2018 01:02 PM PDT

He has his daughter from his 2nd wife who is just as hyper as me if not more. She is also mean whereas I am not. I am ADHD so likely still talk more then others. For example, this weekend my brother is in town and he asked me not to come around when he is there, he gave no reason why. Then I learned my sister is coming by. Likely my Dad didn't want me there cause I am ADHD. He is nice to me as long as his wife and other kids are not present. He does let me see my grandmother, his mother. However, he does not anyone else. How do I get over my anger at my father for this?

Question: My dad is trying to blame me for messing up his lawn mower?

Posted: 27 Jul 2018 11:57 AM PDT

I use his lawnmower at least 3 times a week to cut his yard and I've never had a problem. We'll yesterday he decided he wanted to cut the yard so he used the lawnmower for about ten minutes and then it just cut off and now it won't crank. I never ever change the oil or anything in it I always let him do it. He says it has the wrong oil in it and he thinks I did it. He says for every lawnmower engine you always use the same oil so that's what he put in it. I read the instructions and it says to use a different oil than what he put in it. But he's say I put the wrong oil in it. I haven't put any oil in it. Is he crazy?

Question: I have two Moms and no Dad. Is this okay and normal?

Posted: 27 Jul 2018 11:57 AM PDT

Question: How to convince my mom to let me put up posters in my room?

Posted: 27 Jul 2018 11:25 AM PDT

This sounds crazy and weird, but my mom believes that evil spirits and ghosts will possess the images of people in a picture so she doesn't let me have any photos of people or posters in my room according to Feng Shui. I'm not saying I completely don't believe in it I feel like this is going too far! Ghosts possessing pictures of people? Really? She even threatened to throw away my stuffed aninals because she thinks evil spirits will possess them!! Help please.

Question: My Mom's parents were alcoholics. Should I avoid alcohol cause of this?

Posted: 27 Jul 2018 11:25 AM PDT

My Mom has always been unstable as a result.

Question: I was sexually abused as a kid. Is it normal to be extremely anxious that my child might be and overly protective?

Posted: 27 Jul 2018 11:24 AM PDT

For example it is just my son and I and he is not allowed to go to sleep overs. He also is not allowed with my brother and his family unsupervised as my brother was promiscuous as a teen with other girls and even into porn more then normal. As a result I fear "what if he is a pedophile and hasn't gotten caught" whereas it has been almost 20 years since he was doing any of that and he is happily married at 13 years now. He is always respectful and I doubt he is any pervert but the 1 percent chance makes me hold my son back unless I am there. My other brother is a priest and while he is fine I fear what other priests might do cause of the small minority that have been abusive. So likewise I have to be there though I did let him go to a baseball game with that brother. I was a nervous wreck the whole day and never would let him again. That brother is a saint and understood. My mother / step-father / and I are the only ones with him. Luckily he is okay with this and since he has learning disabilities he doesn't have friends which I am sad to say I am okay with so he won't get molested or raped by their parents. So is this normal for a woman who was sexually abused by her father for years? I got pregnant at 15 but that baby I made the horrible mistake of killing through an abortion. I am even more protective to make up for that also. I was 20 when my son was born and am 31 now.

Question: My Mom's sister is mostly estranged from the family and comes to me for family info. How do I politely tell her I can't give the gossip?

Posted: 27 Jul 2018 11:14 AM PDT

This woman is excluded from all family activities so I can see how she is hurt. She does however, turn on people and hurt them so I think my Mom and her siblings are just protecting themselves. Also this woman is WAY too bitter towards her son while spoiling her two daughters. She has something called Borderline Personality Disorder (though never formally diagnosed) and so I don;t know hoe much of it she can help. I am the only one to talk to her along with one niece (a cousin of mine). Everyone else hates her. Her kids don't know us anymore other then the son she is estranged from who lives with his Dad.

Question: I need a clever nickname for Savannah.?

Posted: 27 Jul 2018 10:22 AM PDT

I need a clever nickname for Savannah. Do NOT give me Sav, Savvy, Savannah Banana, or anything like that. I'm looking for something unique. Like Lauren is Laurenegade, Alyssa is Fearlyssa, Sofie is Sofierce. Please think outside the box.

Question: Why do single mothers talk to me more than one who isnt a mother?

Posted: 27 Jul 2018 10:22 AM PDT

I have noticed just how often single mothers try to flirt with me. I dont make assumptions, i go based off of their actions and the type of vocabulary they use when speaking to me. Just recently, there was one that sent me her naked pictures and well i will be honest, Im not the type of guy to go with just anyone. These type of incidents have happened 5 times with different mothers. There was one who went as far as getting my cellphone number from an acquaintence just so she could tell me she was moving out from the house she was living in. Why is it that single mothers talk to me more than any other women? I consider myself pretty boring, completely boring actually. I wake up in the morning, go to work, come home, cook, go to the gym, then for a walk and last, i will go on late night drives. Needless to say, i am hardly ever home. Out of 24 hrs, i am home only 6 and that is to sleep. I dealt with epilepsy my entire childhood and adolescent life. I grew up pretty much isolated so i learned to value emotional support and great friendship. It is real difficult for me to show emotions or to even try to pretend that im feeling something Im not. Its hard for me to show affection no matter how hard i try. It is difficult for me to try to bond. The only children i have ever came in contact with were my sister and all those i see during my career as an EMT. Why would a single mother want to talk to someone who is hardly home? Has no knowledge of emotional bondage or social skills?

Question: My family mocks and belittles me after having changed my name. How can I explain to them that what they're doing is really hurting me?

Posted: 27 Jul 2018 09:16 AM PDT

All of my immediate family never accepted that I changed my name to one that feels more like me. This isn't a gender-change situation, just a name-change. But their not accepting it isn't really the bad part, it's that they are cruel to me about it. They call me stupid, say my name is dumb and that I'd be better off being called jacka** than the name I chose. Then they laugh about it. They tease me about it constantly; whenever I ask them to call me by my new name they belittle it. I've always just brushed it off because I didn't want to make things worse by insisting that they accept my name; they make me feel like I'm a traitor, that if I insist then I won't be a real member of the family anymore. Everyone else accepts my decision, even if they don't understand. But having my closest relatives be so hateful about it is really damaging. How do I go about explaining this without hurting anyone further or inciting extreme anger? They don't have to understand why I changed my name, I just want them to understand how hurtful their reaction to it is. Please help.

Question: How do I convince my Dad to stop being an alcoholic?

Posted: 27 Jul 2018 08:45 AM PDT

My aunts and cousins won't even have us over cause they don't like him.

Question: How much do you pay for CHILDCARE a week? Geez.. It s expensive!?

Posted: 27 Jul 2018 07:40 AM PDT

Question: I hope my mother die?

Posted: 27 Jul 2018 07:29 AM PDT

Is it evil that I hope she die. She keep abuse me mentally and physically. This is how monster I have become.

Question: My mother from hell?

Posted: 27 Jul 2018 07:18 AM PDT

Since I was young, my mom keep scolded me and beat me when Im not listening to her. She keep beating me eventhough I was crying because of pain. I grew up to be a quiet girl. I have four other siblings that my mom never hit. I used to think im evil and bad because of my mom. She keep tell me im ugly, want me to die, want me away from her. The thing is I really want to die, and want to run away from home, but ya know no gut and no money. When im in college im having anxiety and have no friends. I never have boyfriend too haha sometimes I really want to feel how it is to be loved by someone I love. I have no tears left to cry, I dont want to waste my tears again because I need to be strong. I hope soon when im getting married my husband could love me as much as my mom couldnt love me when im with her. Thats all, I dont know who I need to reach out.

Question: When I was a kid my Dad turned me against my loved ones he was in conflict with. How do I make up to those loved ones now as an adult?

Posted: 27 Jul 2018 04:32 AM PDT

I fear they will blame me. I was a kid and just believed my Dad was perfect and yet I see as an adult he was bitter. My Mom played along. I feel so guilty and don't know how to make up to his family which I don't even know much at all and would like to get to know. We don't even get asked to cousins' weddings as they likely see how disloyal we are. My father died last year and I feel I should make up for my disloyalty to his family. I am only 20 though and fear they see my Dad in me. My mother said she is fine if I see them and said she might even reach out a little but cautioned me that they don't like her. That makes me fear they will dislike me. I saw his siblings and one nephew at his funeral. The other 8 cousins didn't come. I run into his sister and her daughter occasionally.

Question: My Mom has a friend who loves to stir up juicy gossip about my loved ones. How do I get my Mom to stop being friends with this woman I hate?

Posted: 27 Jul 2018 04:11 AM PDT

Question: MY brother has bad grades, but he won't get a job... My dad threatened to kick him out!?

Posted: 27 Jul 2018 03:45 AM PDT

My brother has always been someone who is lazy and doesn't have good grades. He only got 1A and after he graduated my parents told him to either continue to study or to find a job... Unfortunately my brother isn't qualified in any of the colleges or universities... My dad kept telling my brother to find a job and even helped searched for my brother's job. My brother finally relented and agreed to work. We then moved places and my dad told my brother to find a job AGAIN.. He found a job 3 times and quit 3 times, and all those times he had those jobs, he caused problems... Now he currently doesn't have a job for already 5 months((?)not sure) and he still won't find a job.. My mom and dad kept scolding him many times, but he still doesn't have the motivation to find a job... My dad has already tried threatening my brother multiple times to get his *** out of the house, but it NEVER WORKS! WHY WON'T MY BROTHER FRICKING FIND A JOB SO HE CAN ENSURE HIS FUTURE? I'm worried about him because I don't want my family to be in ruins. Every time my dad hits him so he would listen, he doesn't do anything, he just plays his games and text his 'future wife'... Why. Why is my brother like this? I can't stand to see my family like this.. Please help.

Question: Advise?!?! About family?

Posted: 27 Jul 2018 02:23 AM PDT

I caught my brother in law recording me in the bathroom. My sister threw him out of the house and then 3 days later got a house and is moving in with him. I just don t understand how she could stay with him. He works with my father being his boss and my mom works in the same place. They don t tell there co workers what happened and speak to him normally. I can t even tell my family members because they don t want my sister to be judged and they don t want him to be hated and shunned by the family. It s so frustrating because when it happened both my parents went to comfort my sister while I was crying. I ran out of the house to my friends and they didn t come looking for me for about 20-30 minutes. I asked her to leave him, my parents to fire him but they won t. They use excuses like "that s your sisters husband, you need to try to understand" or "you ll lose your step-nephew". It just makes me more sad. They just don t understand and I don t know what to do. I want to leave but just as I was trying to my work cut my hours drastically, I work 3 to 10 hours a week and I ve applied to other jobs but this online application bull crap makes it harder to get a job. She also came up to me and said she told his mother, she doesn t blame you for kicking him out. I just can t deal with this. Any advise other than getting out of here? I love my parents but this is ridiculous.

Question: I miss looking like my mother?

Posted: 27 Jul 2018 01:02 AM PDT

i used to look like my mom until i was about 13 and then after that i never saw a day in my life i've always hated my dad he was very cold hearted and mean and a asshole my mom hated him and every time i look at old pics of me and my mom when i looked like her it makes me wanna cut myself and cry and i know i can't fix that ps i still have my moms eyes and hair and skin tone

Question: Is a step cousin from the same gramps but different grandmas blood related?

Posted: 26 Jul 2018 10:03 PM PDT

I need to know I'm inlove with my step cousin! Thanks! I need to know if its incest if I love a cousin from my grandfathers previous wifes daughter and her husband?

Question: My brother and parents keep fighting. How do I stop it?

Posted: 26 Jul 2018 09:34 PM PDT

I'm 15 and I have two brothers. Ones 16 and ones 19. My youngest brother always fights with my parents. It's usually about him always on his phone and PS4. The fights seem to go on for an eternity. My oldest brother and I never get I trouble and it seems that only my younger brother seems to get into these fights. Sometimes I go to my room and cry for a good 15 minutes or so. Today they fought again and my dad said if it happens one more time he'd smash all my brothers stuff or sell it. I don't know how to end the fights but sometimes if I try i get scolded or told to shut up. My family is nice but if they're mad, they get really violent. I don't know how to stop it and I'm too scared to tell anyone else about it. How should I stop the fights before it gets too bad?

Question: How to deal with shitty stepdaughters?

Posted: 26 Jul 2018 07:58 PM PDT

My bf has 2 daughters one in her late twenties one just a teen. The older one has a child she doesn't take care of, will not work at a job for nothing, uses drugs and constantly begs for help but no matter how much we help her (provide a place to live, food, money for gas & cigs) she will always guilt trip her dad the one time he says 'no' or just can't help her out. He's been a great father to her, raised her, helped her out always when she needed it. He and I have been dating for 4 years and it took me coming into the picture to convince him that she needed to be out here working. I felt it was only fair for her to work and pay 1 utility bill if she was going to stay with us, eat our food, and especially not even clean up after herself. She is rude, a compulsive liar, always trying to stir up drama between him and I. Her younger sister just turned 16 and got a job. She does the same thing throws a major fit when she doesn't have her way. We caught her in a lie about where she was spending the night- she stayed with a boy so we drove to his house and got her at 1 in the morning. She had the audacity to yell at her dad for waking her up out of her sleep! Their mother is a drug addict so when the younger one is with her no she's used to doing whatever she pleases. How to deal?

Question: Were my brothers and I born in the same decade?

Posted: 26 Jul 2018 07:53 PM PDT

I was born in 2005, my bros in 1999, 2000, and 2001.

Question: Without my medication, I'm a monster!?

Posted: 26 Jul 2018 07:34 PM PDT

Without medicine, here's what has happened, despite it happening more lately: Tuesday- Freaked out over thinking I'd get sick and told my mother to shut up. Wednesday- Told my sister I hated her for no reason and I cried uncontrollably throughout the whole day. Today- I told my brother that I wished he was dead and told my dad to try to beat me up and that I dared him. What has happened to me?!?!?

Question: Since my Mom's cousin had an affair and is still with the person she cheated on her husband with, should the family refuse to speak to him?

Posted: 26 Jul 2018 06:18 PM PDT

We have to talk to her since she is related but what about her lover? It has been 8 years and people have started being nice to her lover. He won her over while she was married with 3 kids and seemed to be happily married though I am sure there were some problems.

Question: My younger sister is blunt, spoiled, and mean. She is mean to me even. Am I wrong to avoid her outside of family events?

Posted: 26 Jul 2018 06:14 PM PDT

She wouldn't even come over last month when my other sister was in town with her son, my nephew, who is autistic. My sister says "he makes me uncomfortable" and boycotted Christmas dinner last year cause the nephew was there. The nephew says weird things but of course cannot help it as a 16 year old with autism.

Question: My mom said if I’m fat, no one will marry me?

Posted: 26 Jul 2018 06:13 PM PDT

Like since I was 13, mom forced me on diet and she said if I was fat then no one will marry me, and she spit at me and hit me a couple of times. I'm in college now and she says I need to gain weight and dad said it looks like I have AIDS. Why?

Question: My Dad lies to my mother about finances. Is this arrogance or is he just trying to keep her from worrying?

Posted: 26 Jul 2018 06:04 PM PDT

Question: Should I poop on my parents bed and blame the dog?

Posted: 26 Jul 2018 05:31 PM PDT

Question: How can a human being ever deal with this crap!?!?!?!?! I am sick of being the oldest child??

Posted: 26 Jul 2018 04:55 PM PDT

I am the oldest child and my brother who is 15 gets everything he wants the past 2 years have been miserable. I have gone to the point of attempted suicide 3 times. He always tells me how much he hates me, my family is always right there beside him though. I have tried for 3 years to talk to people about it, now it has got to the point where my mom just gives him and gives to him like he is 2, and he brags so much it is ridiculous. She literally gave him $300 this week and he would not shut up about it... all he does is hang out with his friends and bloat about being so much better. Yet I do anything and I am wrong. My mom is always downgrading me. I published a book, I saved my money up from work and finally got it done after 6 years and never heard nothing out of my family about it, they do not seem to care that I am trying to do something with my life, I have done 3 so far and still nothing... my mom, my dad, my brother all act as if I am a ghost EXCEPT when they want to rub something in my face. They went as far as leaving me at home while going on vacation for 2 weeks. How can I make myself feel useless when everyone around me hates who I am and does not want me around

Question: My sister dated a felon. Why is this a family secret?

Posted: 26 Jul 2018 04:51 PM PDT

Question: My father lies to my mother. If they get divorced whose side to I take?

Posted: 26 Jul 2018 04:50 PM PDT

It looks like they are divorcing, I like Dad more but he lies to his wife, my Mom, all the time. My sisters said they are taking our Mom's side, whose side to I take? This has been the worst summer ever. I am 15 and a boy (rising sophomore in high school).

Question: My father likes to devalue me for being mentally ill. How should I respond when he does this?

Posted: 26 Jul 2018 04:40 PM PDT

Question: Should a girlfriend come beween siblings?

Posted: 26 Jul 2018 03:45 PM PDT

Ok, so my brother (D) and I are really close — he basicaly raised me. Recently he went abroad and we Skype, like thrice or twice a week. However, I noticed between these calls that his gf seems to not like me for some reason. Even our calls aren't longer than 10 mins, so I dunno what is her prob. Once when she thought I wasn't listening, she asked whether my brother was "at it again with the needy child". That hurt 'cause my mother left us young, and our father could care less about us, so he's all I have, and he raised me. I've limited our calls to once a month, and even then he calls. From what I gathered from our recent call, I fear she might ask him to choose between us. I don't want to be any cause of distress for him, since he means a lot to me. What should I do? I'm 16 and I feel like I still need a good adult in my life.

Question: I’m constantly filled with anger, depression and have no one beside me.?

Posted: 26 Jul 2018 03:37 PM PDT

No matter what happens with my siblings (I'm 18) they can throw me under a bus. And I'd be explained to on what I did wrong and I'd have to apologize..and I'm the youngest..I'd be sitting down and one of them would just start screaming and my mom would defend them until forever. I can't. I punch, kick and throw things in my room and I blast music so no one hears but I can't anymore. I just want to leave I don't even know where I just don't want to live here. I stayed in college just to have time to myself because I cried at work for this, and my mom called me saying so you decided to stay at work to punish us for the way we treat you? I want to leave I want to leave to any place besides this I'd rather die than live here I'd rather do anything than be here I'm looking to even get married now just so I can leave I'd do anything to leave. Then they all go and laugh saying how stupid and dumb I am about everything after every thing that always happens. Someone please help me I'm embarsssed to be in my own home. And I know this grammar is **** but I don't care to even fix this right now. Just someone please help me or tell me something that makes sense

Question: How do I get my Mom to go to Clifton, VA with me the weekend after Labor Day to relive what we did in 1996 when I was a kid?

Posted: 26 Jul 2018 03:30 PM PDT

Question: How do I get my parents to reconcile with their girlfriends?

Posted: 26 Jul 2018 03:30 PM PDT

I have two Dads

Question: What s the best way to get a drug addict crack whatever to leave you alone when they keep talking and follow you to your car?

Posted: 26 Jul 2018 02:59 PM PDT

Today me and my little sister went to the store and this guy walked up to me when I was at the deli getting meat I took a step to the side cause he got real close I assumed he wanted to look at was at the counter and I was in the way, he right away said something I ignore cause I m hearing impaired an didnt hear what he said I smiled an said I thought I was in your way he then starts flirting with my sister shes a grown woman I figured she could handle it on her own, but he take our cart from her and shops with us. We are polite the whole time but he keeps cornering my sister shes my baby so yes I was getting mad he follows us to her car we are getting in shes taking down his number thinking if she keeps being nice he will leave well he holds her door leans in an he starts giving me a lecture on how to be a good sister, so I lost my cool I got in his face an told him to get the **** away from her to **** off and just i was ready for a fight he was on her door and i didnt want anything to happen to my sister but he got scared and left as soon as I freaked out an jumped forward my sister told me I handled it wrong that he would of left because she was being nice and respectful. I admit I acted rashly because I didn t know what he was capable of or if he had a weapon but I got scared once he leaned on her door into the car to talk **** didnt want him to hurt her. So how can I handle a situation like that better and keep my sister safe in case it happens again?

Question: I m having issues about gaming?

Posted: 26 Jul 2018 02:34 PM PDT

Up-front, I live with my future in-laws and my fiance. So my future brother in-law plays from 8-10hrs a day on his Xbox when he s off. He has leisure time because he doesn t help around the house. When I m off I might be able to play for 2hrs max because of helping around the house I.e taking the dog for a walk/or bathroom time, washing dishes, laundry, cleaning the house or separate rooms back to back, or even yard work and car maintenance if needed. I don t understand how he doesn t have to help around the house and can play whenever he pleases and if try to relax I get judged as "playing too much" and not him once that I ve heard from my in-laws. Given I work 40+ hrs a week as a mechanic and he pushes carts at Walmart. I don t feel like I can enjoy my console as much since I m constantly working and helping out. I don t get why he has so much leeway with his damn mother with his damn Xbox and I don t.

Question: How bad is it to forget your child's birthday?

Posted: 26 Jul 2018 02:32 PM PDT

I know the my children's birth dates of course and never used to forgot their birthdays when they were kids. But ever since they are grown up and we all have our seperate lives and see each other very infrequently, I sometimes forget to call on time. Has this ever happened to you and do you think it is really bad?

Question: What can I do about an abusive situation?

Posted: 26 Jul 2018 02:00 PM PDT

Im 18, living with my dad and mom. My dad is very mentally abusive and somewhat physically. He barely buys food, and locks it all in his room and rations it out to us. He refuses to buy us toilet paper. He repeatedly all the time insults us and cusses us out and blames us for things that arent our fault. He takes my moms car and runs all the gas out so that we cant go anywhere or keep a job. He steals from us all the time and its just a really bad situation. What can i do about this? I cant get a job, i have no trandsportation to do anything. He makes it impossible to do anything.