I am supposed to act nice like I like her when I don't.

She's nice to me but seldom sees me. The family strongly dislikes her and she strongly dislikes them and plays victim.

Family is the meaning of my summer, I didn't see many of them this year.

I went shopping with my sister at the mall for some new clothes. After we got home and were looking through what we had bought, my sister took out her new bra and said "I want to get a mans opinion on how this looks". I thought she was just going to take it in the living room and show it to my husband. Instead she went into the living room, pulled off her blouse and her old bra and put on the new bra and asked my husband how it looked on her. He immediately got up and left the room without saying a word. Was my husband being rude to my sister for not answering her question and just leaving the room? What do you think?

My mom lost her job and got behind on her mortgage payments and was in danger of losing her home of 30 years. Of all the people she could of asked for help, she asked my ex husband Bill. She really liked Bill when we were married and he really liked her. She thought of him as the son she never had. I guess that friendship did not stop with our friendly divorce like I thought it would. Bill immediately paid the back mortgage payments and also he paid 1 years mortgage payments in advance. He also used his business contacts to get her a new job. That is totally in character with Bill. As long as I have known him, if he finds out someone needs help, he helps them. Mom went from VERY DEPRESSED to VERY HAPPY in one day. I am not sure how I should feel about this. I and my siblings agree that mom should of asked us first for help but we all admit we could not have helped her like Bill did. We just do not have that kind of money. I told Bill we would somehow repay him. He told me he would not accept any repayment. He said mom was great to us when we were married and this was his repayment to her. Am I off base to think mom should of asked us first before going outside the family for help. Is it possible that it would be too embarrassing for mom to ask her family for help? How should I feel about what Bill did? I am totally confused.

I let my younger brother use the internet, and he used it for evil. He watched the absolute worst videos on YouTube. Is it okay to boil the internet router to try to get the evil out of it, if not, how?

There's a really nice room for 500, shared bathroom, shared kitchen, shared laundry. However, I know the landlord, and her son and two grand kids stay there every other weekend. The grandkids are little hell raisers and her son is disrespectful, so I'm not sure if that will work out, but I might be willing to get along for the price. There's another apartment available but it's 900, but I would have private parking, my own bathroom, and it's two bedrooms. It's a basement apartment though... Each is month to month, however the 500 dollar apartment she stated she wants someone to stay at least a few months if possible, but it's not set in stone. I'm starting up my business again, so money isn't an option, but man, saving 400 a month sounds good, but I don't think it's worth the headache.... What should I do?

I've asked this question many times, about my parents sheltering me and ****. I just can't handle it. I'm always stuck in the house, on the computer, or I'm sleeping, or I'm shooting hoops in my backyard (but that has limits). I'm so lonely and depressed, and even though I have 3 other siblings, they're all younger than me, all different by age, so they can't really "relate" through what I'm going through, they're too young. My parents have sheltered me so much. Like for example, I always wanted to help my parents out when I was younger, either mowing the lawn, doing chores, etc. They always told me no, I kept asking when they said no, but eventually I stopped. Now all of a sudden, they say **** like "Oh you can't mow the lawn" or "You can't take care of yourself" well I was asking before, but you always told me NO so I gave up on asking/wanting to know. They always say no to social events, school events, for me to do chores, for me to simply do anything besides go to school. Literally, all I do is either go to school or volunteer. That's it. Now because of all this, I'm starting to lose my own happiness. Like I don't feel any emotions anymore. Meaning, I don't feel sadness, happiness, regret, laughter, etc., things like that anymore. Things that make me happy, don't make me happy no more, because at this point, I feel like I'm living only to graduate, go to school more, get money, and help my family. That's it. I always wanted to get married in the future and maybe have a family, but that doesn't even matter to me anymore. I just don't know what to do at all, I'm at a breaking point. Sometimes I feel like when I die (naturally) that's when I find peace, and many people feel as if I am being selfish/ungrateful, but I am grateful for what my parents have done. I really am. But they've taken it to a point in which they think that it's ok and should be ok to shelter me and provide as much as they can But that's not how the world works. I just don't know what to do anymore. I'm currently 16, entering my senior year of high school. I used to be excited about applying/going into college, but now it's just become one of those things I'm being forced to do, and if I don't do it, then I feel as if I'm a failure and have nothing to live for. I'm sorry if I sound pathetic, or if I don't sounds like my age. I've been raised to think like I'm 35 or even older. That's just who I am as a person.

My mother is the most negative and bitterest person I've ever met. She always has something negative to say about people. Even about her own "friends" and family members. She hates seeing people do better for themselves. It's crazy how much negativity a person can have. She's also kind of racist and it's weird cause she is dark-skinned, but talks **** about other people with dark skin. I made a comment about how I was happy for my friend getting hired where I work at. And she replied with "That f-word got hired there, what a surprise". Another instance is her friend that got married to a guy with money. God, she wouldn't stop talking **** about her own friend.

I know this is a weird question and it's kinda late to ask this but my family adopted my cousin 4 years ago because his parents died. What should I tell my friends about him, I don't know if I should call him my brother or cousin since he is basically technically my brother now.

recently a family member of mine died. He suffered from PTSD after serving in the military. He s had a rough life. I'm 19 and I've been working 48 hour weeks to help save up for college. recently, he texted me at 3am asking me how I was, like I said I work constantly, and I fell asleep while answering his message. I completely forgot to text him back once I woke up. He died a week and a half later. I feel completely guilty. That was probably the last time i wouldve spoken to him. what if he needed help or needed advice? I just feel horrible. any advice? i know its wrong to put personal stuff like this online... but i just need advice from someone. He had addictions, and so did I. i just overcame them. He didn't get the chance to...

My mother passed away on June 19th 3018. It was semi expected because she had had previous strokes recently and was declining. My dad later informed me she had a cardiac loop monitor transplant. I am a registered nurse, but relatively newly graduated so my knowledge on loops isn't as great as I'd like. The reason I bring this up is that when I arrived in the hospital room to pay my respects to my mother after she passed (I live across the country so it took me a night) her nurse showed me a log of loop recordings going back 6 months to January. She pointed out that as far as 6 months ago she had multiple occasions of a rate as low as 30 bpm, and regular pauses. She also showed me that prior to being brought back with cpr the day before her passing, the rhythm was essentially another pause like what had been happening before that unfortunately did not get restarted as they had previously. What I'm wondering is, why was my mom/dad not notified way back in January (6 months ago) that there was issues going on? Isn't that the point of being "monitored"?! And on top of that, the physician immediately insisted on an autopsy on my 71 year old mother. Does this seem like something was missed and now doc is trying to cover his ***? Or am I reading into this? Thank you for all the help!

I hate letting those people watch our children, but was desperate. They are so irresponsible. I yelled and screamed at them and my older stepdaughter , she knows better than to sit in the front. She will be punished. They said they had no where to put her. The smaller kids were sleeping in the back and she is almost five foot and weighs 90 pounds. I told them they need a bigger car. I ranted to my fiancé about this and he said was uh huh and whatever,like it was no big deal.

so I have this friend who's mother won't let her stay home alone since she has to go to an appointment which I find a bit ridiculous to be honest. it's not the first time she stayed home alone for a few hours but I don't think her mother understands that. I mean she's really responsible and knows what not to do so I don't understand what the problem is? And I always think to myself how she's going to act when she gets a job or moves out.

The reason I'm asking this is because I grew up in a dysfunctional family. My mom always criticizes my dad on what he's doing wrong as a parent but never takes any parental action herself I know she loves me but I've tried every approach you can think of to convince her that she's stressing herself out whenever we have to go somewhere important which leads to my dad Being nasty to her by rushing her in a rude tone of voice which sets her off more but doesn't give a s**t. I've been dealing with it my whole life and am f**king tired of it! I don't understand the whole parenting thing in family situations like this.

I have a 14 year old sister Nancy that has been my best friend for my whole life. I really like her. I am a 19 year old guy. We are very close. I am very protective of her. She has developed into a beautiful girl. She recently ask me to tell her about boys and sex. I think it is VERY IMPORTANT that she know the facts especially about sex. I don't want her pregnant. I told her I would prefer she talk to our mom about this. She said it would be to embarrassing to talk to our mom and she wants me to educate her about these subjects. Should I tell our mom about here asking about this and ask her to talk to Nancy or should I tell Nancy the facts about her body and how to prevent pregnancy. Nancy trust me completely and feels she can talk to me about anything without embarrassment. Mom and teenage girls, PLEASE give me some advice her. I only what is best for Nancy.

I am a 25 year old single guy with a 15 year old niece Jill, my sister's daughter. Jill often comes to my house for help with her homework. If we finish her homework late she spends the night a my house and I take her to school the next morning. She told me she was a nervous wreck from her mom and dad fighting all the time and they were getting a divorce. She wanted to stay with me until the divorce was final. I told her that was OK with me but she needed her parents OK which I thought would NEVER happen. However her parents must have thought it was best for her not to see them fighting all the time and agreed she could stay with me until there divorce was final. I was very surprised by their decision but I think they were thinking of what their fighting was doing to Jill. Jill moved in with me and has been living with me for 3 months. She is a very nice person and is no longer depressed. We have had a lot of fun time together going to school events and sporting events. Jill ask me if I would adopt her so she could stay with me permanently. I told her that I doubt if her parents would let that happen. I don't know if you can adopt someone that has living parents. Does anyone know if that can be done? Is there a better solution than adopting her? Could she just live with me if her parents are OK with it?

It has gotten out of hand. My twin sister and her family are too controlling and refuse to let me work. I have been begging my music/army friends that I write songs for. They are 5 to 18 years older, but are more like me and understand me better and care about me better than my own family does. Even when they hate me! I am tired of being a slave they treat me like a 16 years old, have my private life on vote for the whole state. I cry at least once a week, I NEED OUT. PLEASE HELP ME. No one deserves this treatment.

My parents withheld me from my Mom's family as a kid cause my grandfather was an alcoholic and would get angry easily. As a result I feel I was disloyal. My mother even would tell us that our grandmother thinks we're disloyal as a family and doesn't want a relationship with us. This hurt more then anything else in my childhood including years of bullying at school. As a teen I got close to my grandparents and we joined my Mom's family again though didn't participate as often in holidays cause of my Mom's discomfort. Now well into adulthood I still dread family holidays cause of the fear we won't participate and this be disloyal like when kids. So I go to obsessive measures to make sure I see everyone. So how do I explain this to my parents who are ignorant of trauma and anxiety and think it goes away at age 21? Sometimes we are overlooked on invitations cause people know my Mom dislikes family events. Anonymous: Why do you say I am a Christmas /holiday Troll?? I never ask about Christmas or holidays on here other then this family part.

first off i'm a Muslim girl, (i don't wear hijab yet) so I'm in year 9 (8th grade basically) and there's this school camp at the end of the year which goes for probably 4 nights. the last time i went on a school camp when i was a year 6. my dad doesn't want me to go to camp which i'm a little disappointed about. there's still a few months to go til camp though. the reason he doesn't want me to go is because he doesn't want me to go swimming (he's so serious about modesty), but honestly i wear like a black tshirt and board shorts over my swimwear. there are a few other muslim girls at my school as well, and i'm betting they are going to camp. money isn't a problem, and i don't want to miss out on camp :( oh and my mum isn't muslim, and i'm sure she'd let me go to camp. eh this whole question thing was probs confusing sooo yeah hopefully y'all can give me some tips or ways to persuade my dad into letting me go !!

I'm 13m and it's almosg 1:15. My brother is 16m. Do you think I should go into his room and reach under his covers to try and touch his dick. He wears boxers to bed so I think it will be easy. I've wanted to know how big he is and how if feels for a while now and I think that would be the best way to find out. Should I go for it right now or maybe wait a couple of hours? Please let me know what I should do!

I was in a student film on June 18th. It was a small role, but I didn't mind. The director told me that she would send me the footage of it when finished. I contacted her on July 1st and asked her when the film would be done and she said she's almost done with it and probably be done by the middle of the week. It's July 17th, it'll be a month from now tomorrow, and still absolutely nothing. I want to contact her again, but I don't want to be a pest. How long does production on a student film really take?? I understand that it takes a while, but why THIS long. She even said that this film was for her final. So if it's for a final, why is it taking do damn long?? When exactly IS your final exam?? How long does post-production take on a student film? And should I contact the director again?

I did not do very well in math this last school year, which my parents were pretty mad about. I m retaking the class right now in summer school, and it s just as hard as it was during the school year. I wanted to have a tutor help me, but my parents won t let me. Instead, they re taking turns helping me, which has been pretty miserable. Sure, they re both pretty smart, but I don t think either of them really know how to teach. One of them just drones on and on, going in way more detail than I need, and then the other one is super impatient and gets annoyed when I don t get things but then is super critical over everything. I always just get into fights with them when I m studying or doing homework. I ve asked them if I can just have a tutor help me, but they think a tutor would be a waste of money, and they insist on just helping me themselves. I hate it, and I don t think I m going to pass the class. What should I do?

Her sexual assaulter is apart of my family. He is my Asshole inlaw.... I can't event call him brother-in-law right now. I hate him and he needs to be beat. He is not sexually assaulting her anymore but he did. He did it a few months ago & my sister didin't say anything about it until today.

Me & my BF live two totally different lives. I'm an only child, I've never been in any legal trouble, had it pretty good growing up. My BF, has been on the news numerous times, has been to jail numerous times, charged numerous times etc.This all happened under age 18.His record only has a disorderly conduct misdemeanor now.My boyfriend grew up in group homes , couch hopping,gangs ,etc .He just graduated Hs & is trying to earn a degree & get his brother out of a group home.I feel like it's adding stress on my life , am I being selfish? I'm going to school in Miami, & He's trying to move to a middle of no where area where everyone want to move AWAY from(my home town).He wanted to move to work in fast food&go to school. He asked me to leave FL and move in with him.I have to send him money sometimes(For food)he asked me to put HIS car in my name because he has suspended license.Not to mention the complaining and negative energy because of the position he's in. I feel VERY bad about it &guilty sometimes because I grew up the complete opposite. I'm young and trying to get my life in order so I can be financially stable on my own... should I stick it out and try to build with him? Or should I just try to be friends and we go our separate ways ..not to mention he told me things like " you're my motivation and what I look forward to" " idk what I would do without you" stuff like this also make me feel more guilty.He's a GREAT,goofy, hilarious,&charming guy at heart.I'm lost .HELP!!!!!

They have ZERO respect for me, & I even lived out of state for over 5 years. I tried to give them numerous chances. They see me as the problem, but I've always been the scapegoat. When I was younger, they put me in debt & destroyed my life. Now, I can't get a job, a car, or a decent house. I have student loan debt that my family robbed me from when I was younger. I'm just finding out a couple of years ago that they're narcissists & set me up for failure.

Soy hombre, todo inicio por mi hermana en una discusión que ella empezó! De ahí la verdad nos fuimos a empujones y golpes entonces mi papá al ver lo que pasaba me aventó un tubo en la cara que hizo que perdiera el control, cayera y que se me abriera el labio por completo, me levanto voy inmediatamente al baño y veo mi labio partido y comencé a llorar fui a confrontarlo le dije el porque de su acción y le escupí de ahí me sali y no pienso regresar! Que creen que debería hacer?

This guy has been pursuing me for 4 months and asked me to be his girlfriend few days ago even though I didn't give him an answer. We were working out together and he asked me to hold his phone, then a text came from a girl saying "sweet dreams <3"I asked him who it was he said a friend then I asked him to unlock the phone but he didn't, and said it should come to that. I walked out he didn't run after me right away, but he came out a few minutes later. Anyway he says it's his ex girlfriend and they've been broken up for over a year. I said he should have blocked her if he wasn't interested. The following day he changed his number for me so she couldn't get a hold of him. We met up and talked his eyes were teary he said I was his #1 priority, he's been putting me first everyday, spending time with me everyday and texting me. He claims he hasn't talked to her in months and that she's a master manipulator. He was there whenever I asked him to do anything, he made me soup when i was sick, brought me food when i was studying, made my birthday very special with coach purse/wallet Could what he's saying be true? he said she doesn't matter to him and all she wants is a response etc. I asked for the text logs and he refused to show me them the following day saying I dont even consider him a viable option for a boyfriend so why should he flipping it around on me. SO why shower me with all this and make me his priority like he said? He said congratulations you got what you wanted I"m out of your life. This was on Friday and I still haven't heard from him we worked out everyday but he's stopped coming to the gym since Friday do you think he'll be back?

It is my mother's family. She will be intoxicated (she is an alcoholic) and Dad will get mad if I show any anxiety or if my siblings do. The uncle who is racist will be there and since I am newly divorced he will attack me for getting married when already pregnant. He also will attack the race of my friends and remind everyone that I ma technically not related since I am adopted. Lastly, one cousin who abused me as a child might be there though he usually doesn't come. Everyone else is fine and I am going because I always feel guilt when I don't and like I missed out on all the nice people there. It is just these three people and my Dad's anger that I am nervous.

II have very religious parents, so needless to say they pushed their faith onto me and my brother. Eventually, I became more independent, so when I was 13, I declared myself to be atheist. This isn't the only thing that created the problem. As my parents are relgious, they are EXTREMELY conservative. I can't wear anything above the knees or shirts that are "provocative", go to the mall/amusement parks without an adult, and basically anything that they don't want me to do. Honestly, I have talked with my mom about the clothing problem, and she finally let me get short shorts for soccer practice...but I often change into them at them to school. A very long time ago ago, when I was 14 (I am 16) my mom gave me her phone and I saw her text her friends that I was too "big for shorts and dresses" and that I "didn't have the body for it." She would insinuate this every time we would argue about shorts, but she never outright said it. To my surprise, her friends got mad at her for shaming me, and said that her words would only stunt my opinions of myself. With my mom thinking of me like this and my brother calling me a fatty every time he saw me, I guess it isn't shocking that I developed a mild eating disorder. I lost 10 pounds in a year, and I couldn't stop myself. My mother almost never lets us eat other cuisine than our cultures, and I not only became sick of the food quickly but I also couldn't digest it. (continued in the next para)

I was 5 years old when it all started, I remember myself sitting at the table alone at a Christmas family reunion while all of my cousins were opening gifts. I didn't anything of it and just started playing with them. When I was 6 years old I was at my grandmas house with my cousin and our aunt came to visit, she bought a gift for my cousin and I asked her if there was something for me and she said that it wasn't my birthday... It wasn't my cousins birthday either. I have never in my life received a single birthday wish from them and lets not talk about a gift. Everytime we go out (if they actually invite me, that its rare they do) they always pay for EVERYONE except for me. Anyways those are just 3 examples of like a 100 things my family has done to me. Right now I'm 18 and recently graduated none of my family went to my graduation because one of my little cousins had a dance recital after my graduation. This year I'm going to one of the best universities in my country with a perfect GPA and all they have done is tell me all that can go and will go wrong in my life (not even a congrats). Honestly I don't now what to thinks anymore I feel like left out and it actually hurts because they practically raised me when I was a kid and my parents were working.

I've been with my girlfriend for 6 years, and have gotten very close to her family. She has a daughter, and her daughter is always excited to have me over, wanted me to move in, wants us to get married... So I move in, and now all of a sudden the daughter is super moody about me being around? It's not like I take time away from her and her mother, because I always keep to myself, in my room, with the door shut and away. Now the daughter is getting upset because "im around and living there". I don't understand, she wanted me to move in and now things are different? My girlfriend is upset too, I mean we've been together for 6 years and have a solid relationship and are thinking about getting married. I'm just not sure what to do? We invite the daughter to hang out with us, and I always want to give them their alone time, but it's the daughter's way or the highway?! It went from the daughter wanting us to all being a family, to the daughter driving a wedge between my girlfriend and I.... How is that fair? How do I handle this?

My son is 19 and his gf is 16 and she pregnant with a boy. He told me when he found out that if I recommend circumcision he will send me to the ER and get a restraining order. He hates me for that and a few years ago he got some tugging device for it and I threw it out and he got MAD. Her (K) and her parents hate me. They were nice at first and then cause they love my son so much they hate me cause of probably what he told them. I also think he's bisexual (his internet history when he was younger and the way he hung around other boys and girls too and he acted gay when he was little but doesn't anymore). K is also racist (she's Hispanic) and called me white trash. She said she'll be the mother I can't be. My son also hates that I didn't tell him he had Asperger when he was little and told his sister and talked to her about some of his issues before even him and claims I favor her (it's not that he was just always harder to love) he also threatened to shoot my husband if he came near his gf or son. Also they live in a little apartment in a ghetto part of Pennsylvania I don't wanna say where but near philly and he got mad when I said it wasn't safe to raise a kid there. He also hates my dead dad and spread lies about what a bad man and child beater he was. (After he died he could not be bothered with anything about him) and didn't cry at all. My son also smokes pot at least once a week and drinks. He implies I'm stupid all the time how stupid I am and I can't take it?

I don't know how to get through to her. She's lazy, refused to get me medical or dental for years, irresponsible, and in love with herself. I don't know how to get through to a Mom who just doesn't budge, even for the sake of-- seriously-- her own child's health.

I am 15 (a girl if that matters), and right now I am just really angry at my mom. She always tells people I am feeling upset or mad about things I am fine with just because she disagrees with them, she forces me into situations to "help me" when in reality they don't help at all, she assumes I have depression when I don't just because I sleep in and like to stay in my room (I have three brothers, it is a mad house out there, no way am I going to other rooms of the house), and when I try to tell her I don't and try to reason with her, she continues thinking I do anyways and tells family members and friends. How do I reason with her? I am beginning to think she doesn't even care how I feel, I mean, I used to think she was just looking out for me but it has gone way too far past that point. Recently, we had planned for me to meet up with some of my friends who live two hours away (I can't drive there on my own since I don't have a license, and they were coming into town anyways so them and their mom were gonna take me on their way back) , she got the dates wrong and I ended up not being able to go (I was okay with it) and instead of recognizing that there was just some miscommunication, she got mad at their mom and started talking about how it hurt my feelings that I wasn't able to go and that they told her the wrong dates (they were the right dates). How do I handle her? Every time I try to talk to her about things like this she gets mad.

I met my brother last year. He is technically my stepbrother but we are so close that i sometimes forget we have no blood between us. i am 15 and he is 17. I look up to him, i tell him everything. he tells me lots as well. i love him so much. the thing is, he is involved in a lot of ****. he's done a lot of bad stuff and is in a gang. i don't want to say too much, but i will say there is a lot of people out to get him & they are dangerous. i've woken up in cold sweats from terrible nightmares of him getting killed. i'm so scared to lose him. i've been disowned by my biological brother and he has taken me in. i don't know what i'd do without him. i'm so terrified

Like my mom go on vacation and stuff and is stay at home wife but she is always obsessed the way me and my sister look. She gets oil for my hair and eyelashes ( YES EYELASHES TO MAKE THEM LONGER), and she bought medicine for acne and taunts me if I gain weight. She screams at me not to get fat. She get me boots and stuff and said she wanted me to be "the best girl" and that woman means beauty. I cant stand her, I want to enjoy life. But mom always screams at me to look good.

We were going to vacation yesterday & at the airport, we had lunch at McDonalds. During the meal, my dad stood up on his chair & sang "Old McDonald had a farm, EIEIO" Everyone saw him sing, wearing a pair on denim short shorts & a girly white tanktop During the flight, my dad wore those denim short shorts & white tanktop. When the flight attendants came by to serve snacks, my dad asked for a LOT of beer. Later, when he had to use the bathroom, he took off all his clothes before the bathroom door & went in without bothering to close the door. He diarrhead so loud everyone heard him & he made a mess in the bathroom stall. He then put his clothes back on & returned 2 finish his beer. Once he finished his beer, he squeezed his own private area & also squeezed the private areas of the people next to him for a while. 20 min later, he took off all his clothes, propped his legs up on the seat in front of him & began farting. Fortunately, my family sat separatedt, so we didn't have to endure the humiliation up close. Even the flight attendants were so horrified they didn't know what 2 do. When the plane landed, my dad rolled around. Everyone laughed at him, kicked & spitted on him. My dad rolled around naked in the airport, farting & diarrheaing all the meanwhile. When we arrived at our hotel in Cancun, Mexico, my dad ran 2 slouch on a bed & he watched TV naked for the rest of the day, while farting & diarrheaing & drinking beer he got from the mini fridge in the hotel room.

How do you act if your mom doesn't care how he treats me.he has no right to curse or yell at me