Family: Question: Everyone in my neighborhood make fun of my looks and face, call me a bearded lady and a man, and said I have a really ugly weirr face?

Question: Everyone in my neighborhood make fun of my looks and face, call me a bearded lady and a man, and said I have a really ugly weirr face?

Posted: 17 Jul 2018 02:09 PM PDT

My whole neighborhood called me a tranny, said I am really disgusting and nasty and my chin makes them wanna vomit, they said I need to get my hormones checked, they called me freddy Kruger face, shrek, really ugly face, and they called me nasty AMD disgusting, and said who would wanna date or sleep with that? She's disgusting, they also said that I'm really really ugly and they get neauses from even thinking about me, they said that I'm hiding my ugly face and I'm scared to come out the house because people gonna make fun of my face and call me nasty and disgusting they also said I'm to ugly to walk the streets. And they said Halloween coming up so I'm gonna hide my face. These guys also said that I turned off so many guys and made them neauses form my ugly face, they also said that nobody on earth would marry me and they said a granny even got neauses from her chin and her face and they said it looks like I have a beard and they called me a bearded lady. Everyday they gossip and laugh and make fun of how I look and how my face looks and also talk about my chin and how hairy it looks and said it looks like I shave my chin like a man. They also said that I'm really weird and afraid to go out the house because of my beard and they said my face looks really strange and called me monster face, a am an adult and all these people talking about me are grown like in their mid 20s, 30s, and 40s, proabbly 50

Question: Is it common for an image to bring back traumatic childhood memories and reopen a wound we thought was healed?

Posted: 17 Jul 2018 01:43 PM PDT

I had dealt with the death of my mother, but when I saw album covers of the singer Sylvia, I had to deal with the pain of losing my mother all over again. I realize that the woman on the album cover was not my mom. Sylvia looked so much like my mom and stepmom that it brought forth the blocked out memory of what had really happened with my mom and my step mom. My step mom looked so much like my mom, acted like my mom, wore all of my mother's clothes and jewelry after my mom died, and then married my father one year later, on the anniversary of my dead mom and my dad's wedding date. I had forgotten all about how painful that was as a child for me to see a woman living my dead mother's life.

Question: Why do someteens get mad about doing house chores or helping out around the house?

Posted: 17 Jul 2018 01:38 PM PDT

Question: I moved to spain w my mom &my dad lives in Miami &I’m in Miami w my dad now &I hate madrid,what would happen if I refuse to go on theflight?

Posted: 17 Jul 2018 01:34 PM PDT

Neither of my parents have full custody or are legally divorced and I'm 14

Question: What do you think about my real mom?

Posted: 17 Jul 2018 01:32 PM PDT

I'm 23 and an only child. She doesn't care if I work or not. She still wakes up me for school and only asks if I'm going to school. She hands me everything and lets me freeload. Whenever I buy something, she reimburses me, when it was her money in the first place. She never taught me about work, responsibilities, or anything about the real world, really. She never taught me how to communicate with people. I got a job voluntarily when I was 18 and she didn't like it and she got mad at me. Until I was 19, She never made me wash a single spoon, never made me wash my own clothes, clean the house, make my own bed, never let me have a boyfriend. never let her go anywhere by myself. She picked her up from school everyday and we went straight home. It's like she wants me all to herself, for the rest of her life.

Question: Why do I feel so bad about myself?

Posted: 17 Jul 2018 01:01 PM PDT

Hello, I'm 21 years old. I am currently in nursing school at UT and I work a retail job 35 hours a week. I am exhausted. On my days off I volunteer at the hospital. I still live with my mom because I save all my money to pay for my education. I don't want to graduate with loans and my mom doesn't help me pay for school. My mom expects me to do something everyday, and when I don't meet that expectation she gets mad at me. I'm in my third year of college, I had made straight A's all the way through until I recently got one B+ in my first semester of nursing school. My mom was very disappointed in me. I feel like my mom sets the bar too high and when I can't meet expectations I feel very badly about myself. How do I boost my confidence? I feel like I haven't achieved as much as I am supposed to and I'm not sure if I even will feel satisfied.

Question: How can I better myself?

Posted: 17 Jul 2018 12:57 PM PDT

I'm 24 years old male, but I am having a rough time being independent. My whole life I have been protected by my parents, they do everything for me and make me believe I am the best and smartest and things like that, now that I'm working I realized that you can't be too nice and I have been made fun of, no girlfriend, I missed out on the high school life experience because they kept me at home, I was at girl's house once and at midnight my dad went there to take me bacj home, I was embarresed now I feel ashamed if want something, I don't know how to stand up for myself. I trying lo learn how to cook and my mom makes fun of me for it, I'm going to plumbing school and my dad says that I ain't fixing ****. They make feel like I'm useless, I'm scared all the time, I'm scared of people, I can't sleep. I feel angry that I wasted my teenage years and now I'm worry I'll never grow up, they get mad if I try things.

Question: I don't know what to do?

Posted: 17 Jul 2018 12:37 PM PDT

Ever since I was little I have hated school, whenever I think about it I just start crying (I can't help it, I have tried not to and it happens anyways. It is just an immediate reaction and it makes no sense to me), and I want to curl up in a little ball. Nothing bad has happened to me during school which is what makes this so weird. I am behind on so many credits (going into 10th by the way) because I dropped out in the middle of the year to homeschool for a few years because I couldn't handle it. Every morning I would wake up crying because I hated it so much. My mom just came into my room and told me she was enrolling me in school again and that I had no choice to be homeschooled at all, then she started yelling about how dumb it was that I hated it so much. While yelling she dropped the news that she and my stepdad were getting divorced, and we were moving so that didn't help at all. Advice please? Just any advice? I don't know what to do.

Question: I don’t know what I should do can you help me.?

Posted: 17 Jul 2018 10:59 AM PDT

My dad has no snapped at me over the smallest things and it doesn't make any sense how he reacted. One time I told him I was gonna go home a day earlier than he had wanted and he just blew up and started yelling at me. He has now done it a second time and I'm tired of it and I don't know what to do.

Question: My mother strongly dislikes my brother's wife. I find this mean. Are her reasons valid?

Posted: 17 Jul 2018 10:58 AM PDT

Her reasons are the following. 1. She is definitely not attractive (that part my mother has now gotten over). 2. The daughter-in-law is loud and came from a loud family. (my mother is very quiet) 3. They come visit with their 3 kids and stay a week instead of a day (they live 10 hours away). 4. She, the daughter-in-law, is sloppy and does not pick up after herself or her three kids. 5. She spends and shops way too much. The only good thing my mother has ever said is that she likes that the daughter-in-law is kind to my brother's son from his 1st marriage and respectful to the mother for the sake of the kid. Also she acknowledged that she had sympathy on the daughter-in-law when her brother died of an overdose last year (the daughter-in-law's brother). Are these valid reasons and if just some are which ones? I agree 10 days is a long time to visit, I would do 2 or 3 if in that position. Otherwise I don't get why my mother feels this way. Numbers 3 and 4 are my mother's main complaints. I feel a mother-in-law must like the daughter-in-law or is just as guilty as if a parent disliked their own kid. angela---My mother does have issues of her own but don't we all? My mother is not nearly as hostile as when I was a kid though so she is better. She was not hostile to us kids when little but to adults in the family.

Question: My sister is a selfish person and our parents enable it. Do I have any moral duty to like her since she is family (cause I don't)?

Posted: 17 Jul 2018 10:45 AM PDT

I love her in the sense of being polite if I see her at a family event and I don't wish any harm on her but otherwise I find her to be like a bratty 7 year old at age 25 and see no good in her at all. Am I bad here? I am older, 32. She even would not be around her autistic nephew (my other sister's son) saying he says "inappropriate things". The nephew had said something inappropriate but of course could not help it as he is an autistic 12 year old. This sister left on Christmas last year cause of the nephew.

Question: My father neglected his elders. Do I need to rise above that with him or in order to vent is it okay to do the same in a milder form?

Posted: 17 Jul 2018 10:40 AM PDT

He never would go see his grandmother who was in an assisted living home and his aunt would ask him to come see her. He'd go at Christmas and that was about it. He wouldn't even visit his other grandmother when she was passing through town saying he'd love to see her but was too busy. His mother struggled with anxiety related issues and he totally ignored her which I know hurt his father a lot. He was good to his parents when they got terminally ill but negligent when they were in good health. Sometimes even at Christmas he would fail to see them and seldom went to his father's birthday until I started pressuring my Dad to. All his elders were wonderful people. They did no wrong in this. Family I guess was just not important to my Dad. He is EXTREMELY loyal to the point of obsession on his wife's family and her elders. He is loyal to the point of putting everything down to go visit his wife's racist great-aunt when she was in town when I was little from Alabama and yet he wouldn't go see his own grandmother. So my father really disappointed me here. Now that he is mid-70's would it help me forgive and let go of this to be mildly negligent myself. I am not going to be as cold as skipping Christmas or calling only on his B-Day. But do I need to be really loyal like checking in 3 times a week or since it was not a value of his is it fine to just see him if he calls or family events and otherwise wait till he is gravely ill to be loyal? My mother was always hostile to in-laws so I don't think he would have been as negligent had he been single. However, even my mother loved his grandmother that would visit from out of town and yet my Dad was most negligent to her (only visited her two times in my life before she died in 1992).

Question: Is it okay to show that I love my 16 year old daughter way more than her 22 year old sister?

Posted: 17 Jul 2018 10:35 AM PDT

For one thing, the 16 year old doesn't try to be a mentally grown adult. She is so peacemaking, unlike her sister. The older child is annoying! She goes clubbing on a Friday night and if something bad happens at those wild places, she might just come home crying...she's so opinionated and THINKS she's mentally adult, but her behaviour is still like a teenager sometimes. I find myself badmouthing her to my 16 year old a lot. My daughter seemingly agrees that she can be a burden. The younger one, meanwhile, is at home peacefully reading a book or finishing up schoolwork. She barely starts conflicts with me about money, college, friendships and boyfriends.

Question: How do I tell my parents and our neighbors that I cannot babysit a 4 year old girl anymore?

Posted: 17 Jul 2018 09:45 AM PDT

I'm a 16 year old girl. This little girl suddenly started acting inappropriately and violent when she wasn't like this before. She takes her clothes off in public and dances inappropriately, for example. It's embarassing. I can't handle her, if I try, she gets violent. People stare at us in utter shock, like they can't believe what they just saw or heard from a preschooler. Her wording is pretty bizarre too. She has knowledge about threatening people that are beyond her years, etc. She doesn't have any older siblings nor do I watch anything bad in front of her. It gradually started within the last month or so. I just can't do it any more, she's gotten too much to handle. Again, the behaviours are way beyond her typical age and typical knowledge. It's more like dealing with a swearing 11 year old now.

Question: How to deal with a rude and bossy 11 year old?

Posted: 17 Jul 2018 09:42 AM PDT

My sister has really started to terrorize the family as of lately. She verbally abuses my youngest sister and I with words like retarded, lazy, stupid, you know. She also likes to feel entitled to be bossy and rude, like when she locks our youngest sister out of their shared room whenever she wants. She has a bunch of double standards, and she only accepts me as authority when she feels it's convenient. She's not like this around our parents, but when we're alone, she's abusive. Any advice would be great right now...

Question: My parents are separated and I really want to go to a concert, my dad says I can but my mom won’t let me. What should I do?

Posted: 17 Jul 2018 09:31 AM PDT

I want to go to an upcoming concert with my friend. We both have jobs and can drive and have been to concerts before. The tickets would be paid for completely by us and my mom doesn't have to do anything. My dad said I can go but I really don't want to do this behind my moms back, yet she refuses to even consider letting me go. What do I do?

Question: Why are my parents unfair towards me?

Posted: 17 Jul 2018 09:06 AM PDT

I'm a guy, 18 and my sister is also 18. My parents know she smokes weed and they don't care. They also know that she has a juul. Just yesterday they found my juul and took it saying "you shouldn't be doing this stuff". They have no problem with her going out all night and partyinf but for some reason I am expected to be home by 1:00 a.m. Is there any reason why they would do this? They won't really tell me why they just blow off my question.

Question: My parents made me move to Spain and I hate it, I’m in USA rn, what will happen if I just don’t get on the flight back ( dad lives here ) 14?

Posted: 17 Jul 2018 08:19 AM PDT

Question: I took my ancestry DNA and learned my Dad is not my father. Should I disclose this to his family (he is not alive anymore)?

Posted: 17 Jul 2018 08:04 AM PDT

I want to tell my aunts and cousins as it is a cool discovery but I am scared they will reject me. My parents have both died so I don't know the whole story but I found an ancestry marriage record that my mother was previously married and divorced two years later citing spousal abandonment. Turns out that man's last name matches last names on the family tree of some of these cousins and a nephew I found on ancestry. I am not upset or anything. My Dad will always be who raised me and it makes sense now as there is a 11 year age difference in me and my 4 siblings. I do remember my parents having a wedding and when I asked years later "so you weren't married when I was little" they seemed surprised I remembered the wedding (I was like 3 or 4) and they just said, our wedding had been small so we re-did it for a big ceremony when you were little. I accepted that answer. So do I tell my Dad's family? I am 45 and close to all of them. I did not bring it up at the reunion last month and will see them next at the holidays. I did tell my son who is 20 and he also found it neat.

Question: I have a complicated family tree. What are the risks?

Posted: 17 Jul 2018 06:15 AM PDT

I have a complicated family tree. My great-grandmother from the branch of my father's family had children with several different men. One of these men is also my mother's grandfather, which makes my parents second cousins. And one of that great-grandmother's daughters with another man is my girlfriend's grandmother by the branch oficial her mother, which makes us second cousins ​​too. Complicated, right? My question is: What are the risks to our future children? What precautions should we take?

Question: I have a helper who has been caring of me for 8yrs. She has become a huge role in my life and I’m scared of her leaving in a few years time.?

Posted: 17 Jul 2018 05:44 AM PDT

Question: How to get over an EXTREMELY BAD embarrassing thing my mom caught me doing when she woke me up? hard to explain?

Posted: 17 Jul 2018 05:06 AM PDT

i was masturbating last night, apparently i fell asleep and still had a hairbrush in me (wow how fortunate) and tomorrows my birthday so thats fun too yay. when she came to wake me up to take my dad to chemo, she found me asleep with a hairbrush sticking out of my vagina wow what a great scene huh of course i reacted naturally and basically was extremely pissed with myself and the world and embarrassed and ect. the look on her face is one ive never gotten thrown at me and honestly im disgusted with myself. so, timeskip 10min, she asks if i want to go to burger king with her to get a cheap sausage biscuit. i say no. she persists. i say no more. then she says shes going to force me even if she has to "drag me by my hair" so i say something along the limes of "no you weirdo" which i have NEVER said. my mom and i have always been close and though there are issues here and there, i always treat her with respect, but i didnt even mean to say that it just came out. the "situation" was still on my mind but i guess that just hurt her extremely even though ive been called worse but i cant blame her i guess... she said "you know what forget it" while crying and walked out and i followed her a few steps and said "wait im sorry obviously i didnt mean it it just came out" and she said "no i dont want you to come anyway i dont want to see you" or something. how the **** did this happen and how do i fix it.

Question: Pre-College Graduation meltdown?

Posted: 17 Jul 2018 03:11 AM PDT

My sister did an overload of 20+ units, followed by participating in a play (rehearsals were 5 nights a week for 4 hours). She was limited of tickets, and had a list of who she wanted to invite. Our parents stressed her daily to get more tickets to invite people who she did not want to invite. Its finals week and graduation is in 3 days, we find out a family member will not be attending, our mom said to give the ticket to our Aunt and uncle (who are jerks) just to please our dad. My sister lost it, when I say lost it, she started yelling, screaming and crying and throwing things at us. It got to a point she was having a hard time breathing. She felt our parents didn't respect her wishes. Does this often happen pre college graduation? Was this an anxiety/stress attack? All I know is I never seen my sister that way it was kinda scary.

Question: What should I do tell my brother?

Posted: 17 Jul 2018 01:24 AM PDT

He has been staying over at my place for the last 2 weeks. He some days comes over and some days doesn t. I love him to death but he isn t paying me any rent or pitching in. I work full-time, attend online college courses and sometimes he comes over at 1-3 a.m expecting me to open the door. I m getting really tired of this and it just hit me that I m being used. I bought him food today and he said something rude that really annoyed me and I think it s from that. Should I ask him to leave? He doesn t work, doesn t want to pay rent, he just smokes weed with his friends and doesn t come till midnight. I m unsure if he s coming over tonight. He has his clothes and stuff here and I m really close to throwing it out.

Question: Advice needed on emotionally abusive mom?

Posted: 16 Jul 2018 11:44 PM PDT

So me and my mom don't have the best relationship. She has changed a lot these past 6 years. Her and my dad fight all the time, and my dad is planning on divorcing her. Whenever I try to talk her, I get yelled at. She won't listen to me, and ignores me a lot as well. She has threatened me and my brother that she would "knock the air out of us" because I asked her something and she got mad. My mom constantly calls me a *****, and denies it to my dad. She would even come into my room and threaten me. I have really bad anxiety and depressing thoughts because of this, and it's like I have no one to be talk to. Any advice would be helpful, I am not sure what to do about this

Question: My abusive parents almost broke my arm? what to do?

Posted: 16 Jul 2018 11:27 PM PDT

Question: Man I feel like such a loser, what am I going to do?

Posted: 16 Jul 2018 11:15 PM PDT

I started out renting a room in a "boarding" house, shared bathroom, kitchen, washer/dryer. Then i moved into the in law suite on the same property, which was my own apartment. Then I moved into a really, really nice house out in the country, modern and updated. Now, after a car accident where another vehicle hit me, I have been out of work for almost 2 going on 3 months, and because of this I'm not renewing my lease, because it's super expensive considering I'm not working. So I'm actually moving back into the same room for less than half the price. I feel like a loser, I miss my house and independence, it has all been taken from me. I don't know what to do, but this has been the last straw, as many "accidents" have happened to me not through any fault of my own, and I blame this area and the people in it. So I'm going to save up and move, is that what I should do? What else am I going to do, live in a boarding house my whole life? I feel like such a loser and

Question: Are there any websites that make you look older by 10-20 years instead of 60+ years?

Posted: 16 Jul 2018 11:08 PM PDT

I like altering how I look. Don't ask me why. I'm totally comfortable in my skin. Anyway, I tried a couple of websites and apps that make me look younger. They work like a charm. I just can't find one that alters how I look just a little and not making me look like a full fledged geezer. (I tried in20years.com or something. Kept on redirecting me to winning a $1000 Amazon gift card that it won't let me claim.) Anyway, if you know alternatives or are just gonna say "no", either is appreciated.

Question: Whenever I tell people I'm going to come out to my mom, they tell me not to. Why is that?

Posted: 16 Jul 2018 10:35 PM PDT

*Come out as gay

Question: Am I wrong?

Posted: 16 Jul 2018 10:28 PM PDT

I have a sister and she has a girlfriend, well today i asked my sister to turn the water off the outsife hose and she did know how to i told her and she told me to do it i didnt want too so I told how to do it and yad yad yad, we started fighting and she didnt do her chores right so i told her to do them again, she got mad and yelled at me and so i will admit i was being a ****** about it and kept pestering her well anyway her girlfriend came over, my sister was folding clothes and she threw them on the floor and started folding them and i confronted her about it, her girlfriend got pissy at me i told her to leave she did my sister started after her and well any way her girlfriend punched her in the nose and now they are arguing in my driveway did i start this

Question: My family are spies? What to do?

Posted: 16 Jul 2018 10:27 PM PDT

Question: Is it bad that my mom (60) goes out drinking all the time?

Posted: 16 Jul 2018 10:25 PM PDT

I am 20 years old, and my mom is in her 60s. She goes out to bars multiple times per week, rock concerts, etc. She is divorced and so she goes alone a lot and it worries me. She doesnt listen to my concerns and she ignores me all the time. I know that I am grown now, but shouldnt you always be there for your kids and not just ignore them and go out drinking all the time? She drinks and then will drive home and I worry about her so much but she doesn t care about anything I say. I ve been telling her for years and trying to help her but she does not listen. Is this type of behavior acceptable for someone her age? I mean, arent you supposed to put all the partying behind you and be a responsible adult when you are older? I feel like I am the one parenting her and not the other way around. I dont know what to do?

Question: Is it worth calling CPS if a parent refuses their teen to wear eyeglasses and it’s effecting safety issues?

Posted: 16 Jul 2018 10:13 PM PDT

This young girl cannot see without them. She's had major accidents resulting in injury. I'm sure this will become a problem at school too. Her dad believes that glasses are harmful to her eyes. He threw them away after thinking they are too thick. I've tried talking to this family after several accidents happened. They refuse to budge, saying it will harm the girl. She's probably at least 13 or 14, so an adolescent. She crosses the streets and roads (I've seen her walk across them, and who doesn't?). My biggest worry is tragedies and a severe accident, if she cannot see properly.

Question: How to deal with abusive parents?

Posted: 16 Jul 2018 09:41 PM PDT

my parents are abusive. police came over before, and they were insensitive. they just took notes and told me that i could move out when i'm 18. they were complete jack asses and mocking me. my parents lied to the cops about the abuse and pretended to be decent parents. then they went back to treating me like ****. i'm 16, and i'm so upset with their aggressive behavior. they hurt me both physically and mentally. all i want is them to actually care about me, be involved, be nice, and apologize to me. how can i deal with 2 more years of this? what about college? their constant yellings at me prevent me from focusing in school, so i have lame grades.

Question: Should I tell my mom I'm bisexual?

Posted: 16 Jul 2018 09:14 PM PDT

Question: Is it wrong to be annoyed by my sister? I get no space?

Posted: 16 Jul 2018 09:07 PM PDT

For context I'm 17. My sister is 24 and still lives at home. I love her but I'm getting more and more annoyed with her. For the past 3 years she's talked about how she's "planning" to move out - yet she doesn't even have a job. She mooches off of everyone, and has even tried to borrow money from me. My issue is that I get no alone time unless I'm shut in my room. She wakes up at noon and sits on the computer all day. Her computer is by the front door too, so she sees everyone leave & come home. I feel crowded in, and unless I leave I get no time away from her. She doesn't really leave or have friends. I'm working this summer, and any time I come home shes THERE. I get frustrated feeling like I can't even go to the kitchen & make food without her noticing & trying to talk to me. She stays up really late as well, until like 2 am. Is it fair for me to be annoyed that my sister is always home when she should have a job?

Question: Is it considered child abandonment for my dad to move without telling me and refuse to talk to me if I'm 17?

Posted: 16 Jul 2018 08:59 PM PDT

Im a 17 year old female and I havent lived with my dad for a year now, he and my stepmother have stated that I can not come home. Ive been living with different family members and in shelters, today my younger brother who I haven't been able to see in a year texted me to let me know they are moving 2000 miles away from me. How can they do this secretly and leave a minor behind? I'm hurt and confused and would like some answers on what to do. I'm currently sleeping in my uncles basement on a couch I don't know where else to go. Help!!

Question: My brother hates me but I never done anything to him?

Posted: 16 Jul 2018 08:58 PM PDT

We're not a perfect family but not many ppl are. He's 18 and I'm 39, almost 21. I'm the type to keep the family together because honestly I love my parents and my 3 brothers and my sister but my younger brother that's 18 said he hates us all except my dad and our youngest brother 15 yr old brother. He said out older sister is a btch that he never liked. He said our mom is selfish which I can vouch she does have selfish traits. He said My older brother and I never been there for him. Now my older brother is basically not doing anything and have depression And stuff but I know I've been there for him. I used to take this kid and my youngest brother to school when I was like like 18 cause they are my younger brothers. I told him all the things I've done for him like paid his phone bill. Gave him rides, bought him stuff for birthdays. I even cried I got so angry we almost fought. I just feel like I love this family too much for someone to hate me for no reason. I guess my question is should I reevaluate the way I think of my family. I try to be the best brother and son I can be and still live my own social life.

Question: If my mother passed and grandmother passed, what do I get?

Posted: 16 Jul 2018 08:52 PM PDT

My mother passed two years ago and my grandma took most of her stuff. 3 specific things belong to me, a truck, a phone, and a jewelry box. I looked it up myself that whatever my grandmother had, if she is single (which she is), her parents would get her stuff. Her father is still alive so he would get the truck, but the other two things would to me, right? The box was my mother's and my grandma told me face-to-face that once she gets her son's phone fixed(he too had recently passed) she would let me have her phone because I wanted a new one. What do I do? Do I have the right to inherit the jewelry box and phone? My grandmother had had already passed without a will, that's the problem. I'm afraid her sister or someone else sold the jewelry box and wiped out her phone.

Question: How do I find out about a relative who died in the 90s without asking the family?

Posted: 16 Jul 2018 07:51 PM PDT

I recently moved across the country and cut off contact with my extremely abusive family. I was thinking about some things recently and I remembered that my mother used to have a brother who died before I was born but we were never allowed to talk about him. There were never any pictures of him and I gathered that when he died nobody had spoken to him in years before he died halfway across the country. My grandmother said he had meningitis but my mother said he had AIDS. I'm only now thinking about it because I'm gay and I thought it would make a lot of sense if we had matching stories it would explain a lot about why my life ended up the way it did. I looked into it last night and found him, but it turns out he died almost two years after I was born but they'd lied about it my entire life. He was only 24 (only a year older than I am now) when he died and I have basically no way to get further information though now I'm curious. I can't ask my family because it's unsafe for me to be around them so I was wondering if there was another way I could find out. He died before Friendster was even a thing so I don't even know if he had any friends or ANYTHING about him except he was in LA in 1996. Also, I can't ask the local archives in my hometown because they're run by someone close to the family who would tell them that I'm prying.

Question: What are the chances my daughter is left handed?

Posted: 16 Jul 2018 07:23 PM PDT

My 2 year old has been using her left handed to eat, hold her cup and color, but everything else I can't tell. I'm left handed and so is my Grandpa. We're the only two we know of. What's the possibility and my Husband is right handed. My oldest who's 6 is right handed.

Question: My mom enables my almost 40 yr old sibling. Should I keep ignoring or try to make my mother see the light?

Posted: 16 Jul 2018 06:59 PM PDT

My mom has 4 kids but has allowed my 36 year old brother to live at home his entire life, with no job for the past 12 YEARS. He also did not finish college, doesn't contribute anything financially and hasn't bought gifts on holidays for her in the past 12 years. She cooks for him, gives him gas money, buys his toiletries and replaced his Ipod, 2 of his tvs when they broke and fixes his pickup truck when it breaks. The only thing I give him credit for is that he keeps the hedges trimmed, cleans gutters and boards the house if a hurricane approaches. We live in Florida. I told her she enables him and she got very angry, fussing at me yelling "I'm not an enabler. Get away from me saying that." She's never gotten this angry at my brother, given his situation. She also lies to family members and friends if they ask how he's doing by making it seem like he's got a temp job and everything is normal. He's not on drugs and doesn't go out, except to pick up our nephew from school once every other month. I try to ignore this but today, her neighbor complained how his step-daughter just wants to lounge on the beach and not get a summer job, now that she's home on college break. So my mom told this to me, laughing, acting like the situation with my brother is not 10 Times worse than what the neighbor told her. Anyway, I got angry inside but didn't say anything and changed the subject. So should I continue ignoring or try to make her see the light?

Question: Why does life have to be so complicated and miserable?

Posted: 16 Jul 2018 06:42 PM PDT

I think it's just the state I live in (Virginia), but tell me if I'm wrong. It's hard to find good, decent, honest people. Seems like the world is infested with evil people, and therefore, it makes it very difficult for good honest people to survive. Good honest people get taken advantage of, even now more than ever, (phone scams, interest rates, crime, etc). In general, doctors, (not surgeons), don't help, and don't seem very knowledgeable at all. The law seems to protect criminals, more than honest people. Price of housing is going up while wages stay stagnant, and most jobs are just so mind numbing it's soul sucking. Why does life have to be like this? If someone breaks out of this mold, something usually whacks them back down. (my friend owned a business and after the equifax scam, he lost everything) Taxes keep us down, although I agree with reasonable tax, but there's so much tax. WHY IS LIFE LIKE THIS WHY DOES IT HAVE TO SUCK!!!! I might move to California, Michigan, or Massachusetts, because I can't take it anymore. Another example is that heroin addicts get better treatment, than people who want to self medicate with cannabis... I feel like a prisoner, one way or another. I WANT TO BE FREE!

Question: How to convince my mom I don't want to go to a camp for 5 days??

Posted: 16 Jul 2018 06:42 PM PDT

I have already been on a 7 day trip with church this summer and was homesick the whole time. I just don't want to go to another camp. I want to be home so I can work on driving school, finish my 2nd summer reading project, and be able to do more fun things with my boyfriend before summer is over. I feel like camp would just be a waste of time and I would be stuck missing my family and boyfriend the whole time and not getting anything important done. And I feel like if I did go to camp, I would have to rush this week to finish all my work and I would be behind schedule for driving school. (camp starts Wednesday next week and it is a sleepaway camp) Any ideas on things I could say to convince my mom that it is not a good idea for me to go??? Help is very much appreciated!!!

Question: My Mom tells me if my Dad loved me he would have been a better husband. Is she right and does his being a bad husband make him not love me?

Posted: 16 Jul 2018 05:41 PM PDT

I am obsessed that he might not love me cause Mom says this. Others tell me she is just venting. She left him in 2012 when I was 8. I am now 14 and starting high school in the fall. My Mom wouldn't even let him come to my 8th grade graduation cause his new wife was going to be with him. She re-iterated that if he loved me he would have waited to date. Is this true? He did take me on a trip the week after the graduation.

Question: My 8 year old daughter doesn t want to visit her dad. Custody is shared?

Posted: 16 Jul 2018 05:34 PM PDT

Ok so my daughter hates her dad we share joint custody but she lives with me anyway she has been expressing some feelings that have me worried for example he tells her she s not allowed to text or call me. Also she says when she s there he treats her like a slave. And the big one I suspect there maybe sexual abuse but I have no proof I have asked my daughter why she doesn t sleep in her room or grandparents room she says her dad won t allow her to sleep anywhere else only his room, my daughter s behavior is changing, shes fragile, she is 8 years old when I ask her if he s touched her inappropriately her face changes, she almost cried but she said she was crying because it wasn t true but now I feel like maybe she cried because I insisted on asking. I am going to report this to cps asap and see what happens from there. Any advice would be appreciated I don t know whether I m supposed to call the cops or involve cps. I also don t want to make false accusations but I know something is wrong she doesn t want to go see him for a reason. Any advice would be appreciated

Question: Where do I apppy to become a hobo?

Posted: 16 Jul 2018 04:54 PM PDT

I don't know wtf I'm doing with my life anymore and now I'm willing to admit that I am a burden to my family and a useless peice of **** :). I enrolled into college today and don't even know wtf they told me, I literally just said yes to everything because Oklahoma is so god damn poor to teach us how to do stuff right my parents want me to be successful but I don't even want to go to college and jobs ? Haha! No one wants to hire me every interview no call backs! Idk how ima make it on my own. And with what money am I even suppose to pay for college!??? Those ****** scholarships and everything it's just that I'm a damn Retard that doesn't know how to fill out ****. So now I'm here planning my future, how do you run away where no one can find you and so that you can live your life as a hobo? I just don't want anyone of my family memebers to ever find me. I'm done with life and I admit I'm too much of a lazy *** that relies on everyone I want to disappear as soon as possible but can someone set up a plan for me to me on how to do it? I just don't care anymore I'm done :) no I don't want pity just a serious plan. Yes I'm being serious I'm just completely done with trying life, least then I won't have to worry about no one. I'll hope to find a stray dog I can chill with on the streets. Laugh at me if you want at least this makes someone laugh at how miserable I am.

Question: How do I get my parents to accept that I am moving to Chicago ?

Posted: 16 Jul 2018 04:41 PM PDT

I am 19. I am over this small red neck town. A friends parents gave me a job at thier restraunt and I just paid my first momths rent on a studio. in my hometown you have to drive 30 minutes to be able to do anything and I am over the Christian small town drama.

Question: Is this a weird reason for not taking care of my health?

Posted: 16 Jul 2018 04:16 PM PDT

I want to die at 70. It's messed up, but I will say it anyways. I want to die before my loved ones, so I don't have to be alone.

Question: My brother committed suicide at 24 last summer and I absolutely hate him for it. Is this normal? Does it make me a bad person, I love him to?

Posted: 16 Jul 2018 03:44 PM PDT

I love and miss him but also hate him. I feel both love and missing and absolutely hate him for his selfish act. He has ruined our mother and hurt our father and the rest of us. My mother had to be hospitalized for Christmas last year cause of her distress and her own suicidal behavior. I am now totally obsessed that another family member could die suddenly. I was 19 when it happened (a rising college sophomore) and am now 20. My anxiety got so bad I had to leave college. I have a sister and she too is having a hard time with it. A part of me hopes things I find on line that suicide is a sin that can result in hell are true as I want him in hell for the pain he has brought us. On the other hand I cry after thinking that because I don't want him in hell forever because he was a good person and very sick emotionally for a long time. Again I love and miss him but at the same time hate him for what he did. Does this make me a selfish person myself or is this very normal?

Question: I am so afraid my Dad will disown me again. how do I get over this fear?

Posted: 16 Jul 2018 03:33 PM PDT

When my parents divorced my mother told me and my brothers that our Dad did not want a relationship with us anymore or he would have worked on the marriage. The divorce was amicable but our mother said Dad was the bad guy who didn't love us enough to save the marriage. This hurt a lot. For 5 years we did not see him except on Father's Day in June. Mom kept reminding us he did not want a relationship with us. Yet, once I was a teen I realized she might be venting to us. I got closer to my Dad and now at 22 I see him monthly. My siblings don't see him as often but they see him about 6 or 7 times a year (all three of us are boys). My Mom gets mad that I do as much with him as I do so try to keep it a secret now that I am an adult. Meanwhile, I am TERRIFIED that he will reject us again. He is remarried and I am TERRIFIED he loves her kids more then my brothers and I. I feel I am partly to blame for the 5 year estrangement since I believed all my mother said and so hated my Dad with her for five years. I do not discuss any of this with him or he might reject me again I fear. So how do I get over this gut wrenching fear that Dad will disown us again? I am out of college because of anxiety issues (I left half way through sophomore year) and I feel this fear is a big part of why I have so much anxiety and did not finish college.

Question: Should I just run away?

Posted: 16 Jul 2018 02:52 PM PDT

I'm apart of this community whose main focus and only cultural aspect is endogamy (where we can only marry someone else from our community or face excommunication and shunning) and my parents are strict, traditional people who have huge roles in this community. My father is president of it and it always feels like we're the royal family with the amount of people that watch, Judge, gossip, and know us. I'm in love with someone outside of the community and his family is on terrible terms with my family. They practically hate each other. If I left without any notice (I would tell my siblings and my friends thought who wouldn't tell anyone else) my parents would most likely have to hide themselves in shame and come down from their pedestal with disgrace. They'd be more angry with their reputation than if I was ok and honestly it has always been that way. I've had to hide my depression and anxiety in shame and to save them. I've had to let go of best friends because they weren't "of our status." I've had to watch my father beat my mother up, put yellow and purple bruises on her arms and cheat on her and not say a word to say his reputation. And my mother supports it all. Should I just run away with my lover and never come back?

Question: Is this considered kidnapping or not please read?

Posted: 16 Jul 2018 02:18 PM PDT

Okay I'm considering leaving my Husband. He's mentally abusive always putting me down about myself. Telling me I should get a job I'm a stay at home Mom, but I don't want them in a daycare. I wanted to work different shift as him, but he doesn't have sturdy hours. Could be home at 7 of 3 etc. Blaming me for how our kids act and all. I've applied and never got in. He NEVER helps with the kids just yells at them. He thinks kids shouldn't express feelings, but it's okay for us adults to be sad, mad etc. He never does his laundry, dishes or helps me with the kids and if he does he complains. He also doesn't want to do anything with my family because of my mom they don't get along. I feel like I'm not loved and appreciated. I also don't let him hug me because half the time he tries grabbing my boo** after I say no. He also threatened me he'll take the kids from me if I take them and I can just move on with my life. I'm taking them, but will cops do anything for him to get kids to him?