She is always assuming that something is wrong with me when there isn't, yet when something is actually wrong, she refuses to listen by changing the subject or just blatantly mocking what I say in a childish tone. I remember one time, I was feeling down and I wanted advice or some sort of comfort from her (doesn't every teen?) and she told me that my problems are "meaningless" compared to hers. Not only that, it was followed by an imitation of me crying. As for when I don't have any problems and I am minding my own business, just recently I was in my study-zone for college exams and she busts in my room. She starts yelling at me and calling me an idiot for opening my windows because people are "looking inside" and that it's an "open door for rapists." I tried explaining to her that I like studying with my windows open because it helps me concentrate, and that nobody is purposefully lurking outside just to do something to me (it's a pretty peaceful neighborhood, especially during the morning). She told me to shut up, that I must be in a bad mood because my boyfriend and I are "fighting" and that I have no right to yell at her because she knows better than me. For starters, I am not fighting with anyone, even less my boyfriend, and secondly, I didn't yell at her. This is all a funny, but frustrating situation, because when she's down and sad, I am supposed to comfort her, not because I have to, but because I want to. Why doesn't she do the same for me...

My younger neice and nephew have bdays that follow mine, 14th and 16th. Mine is the 12th. Every year their parents plan their celebration before their actually bDays and it conflicts with my plans. I myself would like family to attend but because of the timing, they don t. This year they are doing it on my actually bday. Should I say something to them? Why can t they do it the following weekend? Or do I let it go?

I also do not want to give them their ssn's or get them an ID either. Am I a normal parent?

And Why? For example, 3 kids, boy-girl-boy, 2 year gap between each

I'm gay and my parents found out about it a year ago. They are not accepting of it. There's still a bit of tension when the topic of my "lifestyle" comes up, but things have been better than when they first found out. Even though it's been better, my dad has still been a pain. I have a gf that lives outside of the town that I go to college in, which is 5 hrs away from home. We met at the beginning of the last school year. My dad finds an issue with everything about her even though he's never met her. He claims that it's not because she's a woman, but I don't believe him. I'll be going back for the fall semester soon. My dad made a big deal about the fact that he and my mom have no contact info for anybody I know there and asked me today if I would be willing to give my gf's or one of my friend's phone numbers to my mom in case something were to happen to me. I think that it's stupid considering my sister goes to the same college as me and lives 5 minutes from my apartment. Why couldn't they call her? Also, they only asked me for someone's contact info and not my sister. This will be my third year at this school, but they didn't ask for that the other two years. Why now? I understand if they're just being concerned, but to me it seems like there's more to it since they didn't ask my sister. I just feel like ever since they found out about my sexuality that they've treated me a bit different and have been less trustworthy of me. How should I handle this?

So, I just clogged the toilet really bad in my house and I'm scared to tell my parents that I did it because then my brother might make fun of me. What do I do?

so I have a niece that's 8 years old that I take care of. Im her uncle. she stayed with her grandmother in grand father pretty much her whole life. father has been in and out of prison and not really there for her as he's out now what messenger wants or twice a month and call her but that's about it. her mother however he lives 5 minutes down the road from her. She rarely sees her unless I offer to bring up to her job where she sees her for a few minutes or she comes to her grandma's house just because she needs to borrow money or something like that and she will talk to her for maybe 3 or 4 minutes and thats about it. Now she will message her just about every day or every other day and say mommy misses you and loves you what are you doing or something like that and my niece will say nothing and that's pretty much it where the conversation stops.. She has a boyfriend that she stays with that I feel has some cloudiness or some wrong influence against how and what her priorities should be. I take care of her 100% now. She calls me her dad. Her mom has told her that the only reason she doesn't live with her is because she doesn't want to struggle to feed her and not be able to. But meanwhile grandma gets food stamps for her every month as her mom is her legal guardian of her but she lets my nieces Grandma ( which is the moms mom) take care of her which is her mother) I'm taking care of her now. My cousin has a girlfriend and within a few days of my niece meeting her she start calling her mom because she was showing her some care (hugs asking how her day is taking her for ice cream etc) my niece has never stayed what her mom even this much as a weekend by herself just them at all. She looks up to me. Her mom has told her daughter to tell her dad to step up and be a father and this whole time I'm thinking you need to be looking in the mirror and saying the same thing about yourself... people have told her that she was a bad mom but she said she takes care of her daughter and also takes offense for anybody that calls her a bad mother... I really don't see how she feels she takes care of her. Yes spent 70 bucks on Christmas gifts. Yes recently took her to get her hair done. Yes a couple of months ago took her to get her an outfit at Walmart but that's simply not enough. Especially right after that she takes her back home to me or her Grandma's wherever she picked her up from. She's all into her man and thats mainly who she talks about all the time but she will will post Fb pictures of her & her daughter on Fb almost (it's like a front) shes just not there for her like she should be in my opinion at least. Grandma and Grandpa are providing her a stable home took care of her as far as providing a roof over her head but at the same time we're old & didn't really interact with her like they should help her with her school work play with her Etc etc.. I tell you I can't stand how the parents these days making the grandparents raise their kids. And get this the mom is talking about possibly giving the guy she's with a baby of Their Own!!!! Are you serious?? You don't even take care of thet one that you have. She's never stay with you how's it she going to feel if you all have a baby and she sees that baby living with you all?? I tell you I can't stand how the parents these days making the grandparents raise their kids. And get this the mom is talking about possibly giving the guy she's with a baby of Their Own!!!! Are you serious??? You don't even take care of that one that you have. She's never stay with you how's it she going to feel if you all have a baby and she sees that baby living with you all??? I feel my niece is living a lie and that she deserves to know the truth.. however I don't want to make her feel like I'm bad-mouthing her mother either when she tells me that my momma takes care of me she just works a lot.. it kills me it's like I'm covering up a lie for her which is a good thing but also I don't want her later on too grow up in 3 or 4 years and asked me why didn't I ever tell her because we have a bond that we tell each other everything and are honest with each other. I'm going to be there for her no matter what... Suggestions answers advice please would be great again sorry for the late fee story just wanted to give a pretty detailed description so everyone knows the gifs of it. Thanks in advance Does she deserve to know the truth? Should it come from me? She tells me to be honest with her & i just dont wanna see her grow up and regret that i knew the truth & didnt tell her & let her believe a lie...

Not even from close family members... she is too shy and reserved around people in general.

My Dad's father died in Vietnam before he was born. My grandmother got so upset at the funeral that she went into labor that night and my Dad was born. My grandmother remarried when my Dad was five and his step-father was pretty much his father. My Dad was a bad teenager. Among other things he got a scholarship to Boston College and then flunked out. His step-father began drinking at this point. The stress of my father was what pushed him over. The rest of his step-father's life my Dad had less and less to do with him and they were estranged 11 of the last 20 years. Was this likely cause my Dad had guilt at realizing he turned his step-father into an alcoholic? The step-father was only mean when confronted about the drinking or if so drunk he didn't know what he was saying. He became this way though because of my Dad's failings in college.

Two years ago my grandfather passed away and my grandma has fallen into deep depression. She had gotten sick from pneumonia and was in the hospital for several months. When she was discharged she moved in with us. She has fallen into depression and refuses to leave her room and barely her bed. She flushed all her pain medicines down the toilet and is refusing to go to the doctor. She said she would rather be back in the hospital so she could just die. She misses my grandpa a lot. I just need advice on what y'all recommend to cheer her up any. I started taking my dinner in her room so she won't be alone and I make it a point to talk with her and visit her room often with my baby. I'm also going to the store and attempting to find her favorite candy as well as get a plant for her to care for in her room. Any other suggestions? I've called family members and asked them to try and call her more and make plans with her.

My younger step sister thats 14 is going to come today and I really dont look forward to it. Last time she was here visiting, all she would was play a bragging game and talk about who makes more money and who has the best phone. She's 14 and she works a low income job with my mother and recently told me she bought an iPhone8, while Im working a weekend job where I isually get $150 and I mow and make noney during the week. Now im paying off a car loan to my parents. When she visits I know she will want to get her hands on my car and ask my parents if she can step inside which I do NOT want to happen. I dont know how to stop that IF it does happen. When I get pissed she fake cries to manipulate and make everybody feel bad for her. I dont know what to do and what is best for my game in this situation but it is bothering me and I need a better way to do this.

I am constantly blamed at home by my father for things I don't do. One place that this never happened was grandparents,recently my cousin came home from another state. I have been blamed for his actions by my grandmother and it makes me very sad that I get blamed here now.

Hello, me and my wife are starting to talk about children and we are a little worried about how it will be financially. Between the 2 of us we bring home a little over 60k a year and want to know if that's enough to comfortably live on with a baby. We live really good now, our only major expenses being mortgage(800ish a month) car payments(250 a month) and healthcare(500 a month). We have minor expenses obviously but those are the biggest.

My nephew is 21 years old. 6 months ago lost his job as a warehouse forklift driver. Since he had no job his mom kicked him out and his dad wants nothing to do with him. My wife and I opened our home to him with the understanding that it would be temporary while he got on his feet. Things started going badly from the beginning. He refuses to apply for jobs, eats all our food and complains about the quality, uses what little money he does have to buy video games and, worst of all, he refuses to shower or wash his cloths! We can;t take it any more and we want him to leave but I feel terrible putting family on the street. What should I do?

So I'm the older sister we are 8 years difference.She gets on my nerves every damn time.Whenever I tell her something nicely and politely she raised her voice and shouts at me.I get extremely angry because she is so disrespectful while I was asking her politely.Even if I asked her disrespectfully she mustn't shout at me because she is younger.Then I again try being polite and she always answers rudely.She feels like her word needs to be the last.She is the youngest in my family yet she thinks her words need to be last like what the hell.This makes me so angry that I start to punch the table and can't control myself.She then acts as a victim saying I started first when I just asked her politely in the beginning.She makes me feel disgusted and an awful person when I'm really not.Ugh this has been going on for forever how can I finally handle her? It's not even good for my health to stress so much.

told him hundreds of times to not do this because honestly it annoys me and makes me angry so much i want to attack him. It once happened to hit his hand when he burp close to my face and he hit me back(wtf it doesnt make any sense). I have told him also kindly that is rude but he dont listen at all and he doesnt care. This is serious, my skin crawls in anger because of this. Any idea of what to do next time he burps loudly close to him without getting to trouble? *in trouble

He eventually got clean but when he was an addict they always gave him bail.

I have 5 brothers & 2 sister. Growing as kids we all had to share a room it was terrible I can smell their breath their farts I hated it. All 7 of us shared 1 big room together. Later on when we all grew up mostly all my siblings moved away with their gf or bf so is just us 3 now me my 3 brothers. Im the youngest 1 is the oldest 1 of them are in the middle 1 is the 2nd youngest theirs 3 rooms. 1 is big 2 are small rooms when we moved to the apartment I really wanted a room for myself so I can get away from all of these family problem because almost everyday my brothers would argue at each other but nope the 2nd youngest brother who is older then me wanted to move to this small room with me instead of the big room with the middle brother. The thing is the 2nd youngest & the middle brother always got along together their is never any arguments between them. So i share room with my 2nd youngest brother the reason why I hate sharing room with him is because he never takes shower he smells so bad he dont clean the room he always boss me around they both smell. Im like dude why cant you just share room with our middle brother that room is bigger and you 2 get along more. When we were kids he was very annoying too he always do what i do he always want what i want he would never leave me alone. He still dont really leave me alone to this day. I think he just likes to bother me.

In the past month or so, I had gotten in trouble with my parents. Nothing huge, just hurt my sister (as in she started crying, I didn't break her arm or anything) while playing karate on the trampoline. Mom started yelling at me and on instinct I started crying which caused Dad to yell louder, "I'll give you something to cry about if you don't stop!" and demanding I look him in the eye... Which only made me cry harder (once I start crying it takes a long time for me to calm down) so not very effective way to stop a crying child.. anyway, I got spanked for crying and not making eye contact. So, I got in trouble recently over something equally stupid and when Mom started yelling I steeled myself and looked her in the eye with a blank face and responded Yes ma'am, no ma'am etc. in as flat a voice as I could manage (very hard not to break down crying). And she got *really* mad at me for "making that face" at her and got dad to spank me again. I don't know what I did wrong (aside from getting in trouble of course), I thought I addressed the problem? It seems like they just want an excuse to punish me. To be clear, I uhm, want advice on how to deal with getting in trouble in the future. (not getting in trouble isn't an option as usually the only reason I get in trouble is because I didn't know there was a rule against it, such as getting two scoops of gravy when the first was too low at the school cafeteria, seriously who assigns a detention over that?) Guess Yahoo shouldn't be used as a discount therapist.. I'd honestly like real answers, if I don't find a way to cope I'm pretty sure I'm going to do something I'd regret.

So I'm 17 and terrified to drive. My mom is a good driver but she's on her phone 24/7. When I'm in the car im already scared. I'm terrified I'm gonna hurt someone or get hurt. I always ask my parents to not get on their phone when I'm driving because I want them to be able to talk to me not be side tracked on their phone when I get confused. For instance. Today my dad wanted me to drive him to a restaurant to pick up food. I drove him and it was good I wasn't doing bad the way there but the way back was horrible. My dad got on a call. He wasn't talking to me at all. I forgot what to do. I looked over and dad was pointing. I did what he was pointing me to do only to have screwed up. After that I started shaking i was so nervous and scared.

My father and mother specially mother was too much in love with me because I am the older boy but time passed my father and mother had great hope in me they teach me every single word they know they spent more money and time to make that boy live greater live but the hope they were willing to achieve was become sad story I become ill I am 22 years old they expect to be manager of my father's company I married but one day I was in my mother's room she was talking about someone will be killed and the plan is to kill me to prepare normal death without any sign of in them I suspect what to do why they are doing that? I love them they desperate for long time I don't die young what to do?

I turn 27 next month and I know I've been held back by staying where I'm at. There are no gay men around me, no good paying jobs, no apartments I can afford, I hate the weather, I have no friends, I can't even find a car (I have one but I've wanted to upgrade and haven't found anything in months). I want to leave the state. But every time I think about that, I think of how my parents are in the early 60s and very sedentary, both with heart disease in their family and both sides of the family don't live past their 60s or 70s. And I don't want to go and start my life somewhere and be busy with it and not spend time with them if I've only got a few years left. Other people I work with are in their 40s or 50s and their parents are still around but I'm not going to have that and I don't know how to start my life and not worry that I won't ever see them again. I had moved out for a year when I was 21 and if I went more than like 2 days without contacting my mom, she'd freak out.

I took my sisters bra out of her drawer and sewed a small pocket with it and I hid it somewhere in her room one thing I didn't know was it was her favorite bra and she asked me if I did anything with it ( she was gonna wear it because it's her softball tournament tomorrow) I said no and she searched her room and found it she didn't notice the pocket and she wore it and won now she won't take it off cause she claims it's lucky it's been a week and it was a hundred dollars

This guy has been pursuing me for months and asked me to be his gf few days ago even though I didn't give him an answer. We were working out together and he asked me to hold his phone, then a text came from a girl saying "sweet dreams <3"I asked him who it was he said a friend then I asked him to unlock the phone but he didn't, and said it should come to that. I walked out he didn't run after me right away, but he came out a few minutes later. Anyway he says it's his ex gf and they've been broken up for over a year. I said he should have blocked her if he wasnt interested. The following day he got a new number so she couldn't get a hold of him. We met up and talked his eyes were teary he said I was his #1 priority, he's been putting me first everyday, spending time with me everyday and texting me. He claims he hasn't talked to her in months and that she's a master manipulator. He was there whenever I asked him to do anything, he made me soup when i was sick, brought me food when i was studying, made my birthday very special with coach purse and wallet and nice dinner. Could what he's saying be true? he said she doesn't matter to him and all she wants is a response etc. I asked for the text logs and he refused to show me them the following day saying I dont even consider him a viable option for a bf so why should he flipping it around on me. SO why shower me with all this and make me his priority like he said? He said congratulations you got what you wanted I"m out of your lif I can't understand if he liked me as much as he said how he can go not contacting me until today from Friday and not even coming to the gym. Why was he talking to the other girl if he was pursuing me so hard? I know he talked to her the entire time he was getting to know me. What was the point of this?.

My parents already wanted us to come live in their area (that seems much nicer!). Our current neighbourhood has gotten so bad over the years. There is an epidemic of kidnappings (which we'd worry about if we stay). The local schools' have HUGE problems. There is little education there and from what I heard, their main issues are children who are in street/criminal gangs. There are so many incidents that go on, even with 6th graders in middle school (from drug raids to bullying suicides). I wish I were exaggerating! As future parents, we are wondering what is BEST for our child. My parents' neighbourhood is more expensive, but safer on child upbringing and a much better community for us to connect with others. We CAN afford it, but it might be a little difficult. Also, we'd want our baby to have an excellent relationship with their grandparents. But if we do stay (even temporarily) here, will this environment effect our child's wellbeing and behaviours? Even during the first few school years, where they are exposed to other kids?

Okay, so my dad and my stepmother are having a baby... and we don't know the gender yet. However, there is going to be a huge age gap between me and the kid. I'm really hoping for a sister, because then I can buy her cute things like dresses, dolls, pink colored toys, hair bows, etc. I get if it turns out to be a boy there's nothing I can really do, but I would prefer a girl. What's it like having a sibling? I've been an only child my whole life and I have no idea what it will be like... and is it wrong to want one gender over the other?

...I need to know about driving but it's not convincing her to respond and she has not seen the last messages on Facebook though it's clear that she has been on it yesterday. I am not just telling about rules, but how to think quickly to avoid law breakers and know what everyone else is doing. Earlier, I learned how to operate a car but only in a parking lot. As far as I know, my mom just doesn't feel like it's safe for me or anyone else on the road. Asking them questions doesn't help either so that's why I getting more information for myself. I know some autistic people drive.

My sister asked me what happened to the idea that you're going back to philly to take advantage of the increased standard of living... and I said... It didn't work... Then she said... I thought you were going stay away from violence.. and I said... well... it didn't work. Then she said.... What about what you said about the demographic change going on in the cities, that better people from the Burbs are coming back to the cities.. and I said... Yeah well... guess the news was wrong. Then I continued punching the speed bag... Then she tried to shove me away the bag... and told me to shut the f)uck up and slow down and listen. :P

onfronting me through text about it. This isn't fair that just because she's doesn't get what's she wants, she gets to accuse me of something so horrible. What should I do?

I feel so guilty when I know he is the one drinking.

I don't have my own room, the six of us live in a one bedroom apartment, it's me, my three brothers, my father and then her. I havee 3 drawers where Iput most of my clothes and personal belongings. She constantly "organizes" it and if a shirt is too low or revealing she'll throw it out. She'll throw out shirts and jeans that "look too old" or used AND SHE DOESN'T EVEN ASK ME. I can't deal with this anymore, a lock won't stop her I'm sitting here crying as i write this because I'm so ******* tired of it. Someone please offer some advice and help em out, my father works all the time and never intervenes or when I beg him to, he always sides with my mother. She's also an incredibly strict Muslim and I can't escape her ******* bullshit, close-minded ****.

My sister is 18 almost 19 she just had a baby last Saturday she's dating an older guy he's twice her age he's old enough to be her dad he's in his 30's maybe 40. Now they're engaged but they're just getting married for the kid I know she doesn't really love him or even knows what she's doing. Our mom passed away when we were kids we have our dad but he lives far away it's just been me and her. She watches the shows 16 And Pregnant and Teen Mom lots of the girls who are on there saying like us half of them didn't have a mom or dad growing up but when they do have kids they wish they would have waited it doesn't make sense. They think a baby keeps them together it doesn't. Why do so many teens get pregnant ?

Im 30 and my boys are 9 and 7. I got into trouble with police when I was young and did time in jail but got my life back on track and tey dont know abot this, Anywat I got taken advantage off and got involved with something else and got caught and a facing prison time - about 2 or 3 years. They dont know about this yet and I am trying to figure out how to tell them I see them about every 3 weeks but I feel bad ans ashamed. I even thought about saying I was going overseas to work so that they wouldnt have to know. Any advise on what to do or how to tell them?

Im young with kids nd no help what so ever.d dads always at work,its as if im a singleparent.work nd sleep thats it nd i do everything and i try my best 2 keep it together but there are times i feel as if i could b dead nd no 1 would care.no1 calls me like family and friends nd all i get from my bf is lies that eventually surface up.i wish i could start fresh with my kids though i dont think i could do it financially nd im scared il b alone nd it would b hard to find someone else(cause of d kids)i love him but i feel as if i mean nothing to him, yes he works hard for d family but the lies nd never anytime for me makes me think is this worth it?you only live once I also think he cheats on me nd im not good enough for him which is how i became bulimic and stoped now cause i woke up and realised its not normal and its stupid.i have no support and im tierd i just want to runaway from everything i dont deserve this.i also tried 2 seek professional help nd they all said they cant except new clients even d free help,they sent me to d other side of the country how could i do it?i dont need anyone labelling me 2something i dont know of,googling it and become worst anyways.i try 2 be d best i can.honest,respectful clean house,work nd welkept kids most of d times im ok but i cant always b strong i feel asif i mean nothing 2 everyone nd they only call nd talk 2 me when they need sumthing.having kids ties u down nd tiers u out atlease i have them nd im thankful there healty nd im healty.

All i have left is my mom and brother, but since my dad and grandparents are all gone, ive been missing a father figure and a family to fill a gapeing whole in my heart. My personality is litteralty spiring downhill bc my dad was my motivation bc i always wanted to do better then him. What do i do? Where do i look for a new family? Im 26 years old and i know alot of people dont look for an adult to adopt or even take into there family, so im all fresh out of options...

I'm a 36 year old man and I have a brother who is 34 and special needs (lives in a group home). My dad is 69 and mom is 63. The time will come where they develop health problems and will need help. It's only me and my brother (no other siblings). The city they live in is a major city by Canadian standards and I am sure that I could find a job in my field there (although it has less opportunity than the larger and generally more desirable city that I live in now). What happens when old people with no family to support them start to develop dementia and health problems and cannot take care of themselves? I wonder if I should move to their city or if that would not really be helping them much anyway and not be necessary. Also: I have some toxic relatives who may try to take advantage of them (my parents are not what I would call rich but they are fairly well off). However, unless I actually live with my parents (which is not going to happen) then being in the same city may not stop this anyway. I won't name either cities, but they are around 3 000 KM apart. That is not exactly close, but they both have major airports and direct and cheap flights. Perhaps I can have a close friend check on them from time to time.

I am almost 13 years old and i really want a phone. My Mom said no a trillion times. Most kids my age have a phone. I have so many friends that id like to get in contact with. I am even willing to pay for the phone itself and the phone bill. I am very responsible and my grades are high what do i do?

My parents yell at me and call me a **** up. They've never hit me, but have hit my sister. I have to clean the house even though I have a brother that's 2 years younger than me (11) and is more than capable to pick up after himself. My parents and even my brother call me names and make me cry myself to sleep. I get yelled at for no reason, and when I say this I am UNDERESTIMATING this. Thank you, I just want to know so I can hopefully move in with my grandma.

Some teens just died in a crash where I live and two of the three sets of parents are talking to the local news 3 days later, why?

"It's so dumb that you can't hit a disabled person with your car even if they are in the wrong" Later that day I noticed in the news that there was an apparent hit and run near where we live. Should I be concerned?