my siblings and I moved to Colorado with my father after he got out of jail. we moved in with our grandparents (his parents) so they could help him "get back on his feet". that's what was suppose to happen, but it didn't. long story short, my father dropped my two younger siblings and I off and left. he lives with his junkie girlfriend, he doesn't have a job, he doesn't let us use the food card, he's doing heroin, he won't take me to the doctors, to therapy, to anywhere. im 16, and my parents haven't made me any appointments of any kind in YEARS. I still have my old glasses from when I was in elementary and they're broken but it's all I have to use. I need to go to therapy for personal reasons I wont get into, but he wont ******* do it. and now school is starting soon and he won't sign me up for school. my grandparent's hands are tied. they don't have custody of us. they don't have our birth certificates, social security cards, they don't have anything. my dad abandoned me, he abandoned us. he was bad before, but now he's doing heroin and he's even worse. I've tried to avoid cps because I've been involved with them before and it's too much for me, and also because I love my dad. but I just cant take this anymore. im suppose to depend on my parents for things but how can I do that when the only parent in my life is so unreliable. don't ask about my mom, she's out of the picture. sorry this was a mess, I just wanted to ramble. my grandparents have been helping. they've been feeding us, they've given us a place to stay, they help my brother and sister with homework, and they've been giving me emotional support. but they can only do so much without custody of us.

he's been locked up since Feb 2016 for murder and he's bipolar. He's been ignoring her letters and visitation every since he got locked up. Now he finally let her see him and she couldn't help but to cry. Why?

I will be seeing my parents tomorrow. He was 44 and abused me as a kid. I am glad he is gone and had not spoken to him since he got out of jail. He showed no remorse. I was 13 years younger (a half sibling) and he took advantage of that. I am glad he is dead and hope there is a hell and when he gets a cop to cool off he finds it with a whole in it. So how do I show compassion when around my parents who despite their failures in protecting me I do still love. They loved him and pretended he was an angel and nothing happened. I am hoping I can get closer to them now that the Satan spawn they made is back in hell. How can I show sadness when I hate this person so much and am glad he is dead? Please advise. He is my mother's bio-kid from her first marriage. My Dad pretty much raised him from age 9 up though as the real father left the picture completely.

She is a liar in this way yet divorced my Dad cause he was a liar about money (as he was). My parents are both liars and so I feel abandoned.

I don't want to be estranged yet I don't want to be close to someone this bad.

My son (29) are in England for a wedding (I'm his dad). He fell very ill unfortunately and went to bed very early yesterday. He seems to have some kind of stomach flu (high temp and vomiting). We were supposed to leave tomorrow, but he is so weak he can barely make it to the toilet, let alone travel (we both live on the continent). I'm his closest relative here. He told me he will be fine and I can travel home without him, but I don't feel quite comfortable at the thought of leaving him behind on his own, despite the fact that he is an adult. Somebody will have to take him to the doctor if he is not feeling better by tomorrow. Should I stay with him? Thank you

So, my brother with autism recently graduated from high school, and my mom is pushing him to grow up and get a job. She wants him employed by next year but he complains real hard and throws a huge tantrum whenever she brings this topic up. She also wants to get rid of all his beloved toys, but he's begging her not to, and she wants him to stop watching the cartoons he loves to watch. She does not want him to act like a child anymore, she wants him to act 100 percent like a normal adult, and she doesn't care if he doesn't like it. She doesn't care how he feels, and this is really disturbing me. I really care about my brother, and I feel he doesn't deserve to be treated this way by his own parent. I cannot tell you how disturbed I am of this. My mom has been really stern and strict with my brother due to his "child like" behavior, even though he's being innocent. Please, can someone tell me what to do here? My mom really needs to understand that this is too hard on him.

Court order is in place for me to pick up my son on fridays at noon from his dads. I have to work and cant get him until three hours later. His dad says he will violate me on court order if i don't AND says he will take him to work with him out of the county. I have offered to help set up daycare where he lives. There is a clause in current order which says neither parent can "relocate" out of the county without consent. Dont know if this matters? His work is 1 1/2 hours away from where I live. We live only 30 min apart. His work is not appropriate for children as he works around gambling and he works from 11 -9pm. He is mad because I won't let him change his visitation days to his days off..which is against court order. His GF also willfully kept my son from me. she picked him up at 450 from daycare (I confirmed with the daycare) and took him to library and get treats and were 20 min late while I sat in my car and waited not knowing where my son was. They said they did this because i was late one day (10 min) dropping him off...his dad wasnt even home. He was also late 30 min one day pick him my son up from school. He said due to road work. What do I do if he takes him to work with him on Friday? Do I call police? Do I go get my son at his work and take police with me? Do I wait until he brings him to his house at 9/930 at night? My son is 10. I do have a lawyer, and so does my son but I wanted to get my thoughts together before I consult.

What do I do? We leave Tuesday morning before Mom gets back. She is with friends but my Dad said it is her boyfriend. We will be gone when she gets back. I'm scared cause I might never see her or my grandparents again. I'm excited about going with Dad though as it is just me and him, he is leaving the girls with Mom and my older sister has a different Dad. Mom got home, they are fighting now, Dad said he is leaving but told me he was just venting, It is okay now. Not going to Europe after all. Mom says they have to work that part out. It's 2 hours later, they are back together. All is good, thanks though. Mom said she wasn't cheating and Dad was over-reacting cause of his OCD, whatever that is

So I've been in and out of foster care (police protection) several times after getting abused physically, emotionally even sexually. & i always end up getting sent back home, I really hate being in foster care it makes me feel so lonely. Since I am turning 16 on august 20th I've read on various websites like childline that I can leave without permission at 16. Is it possible, i'm very skeptical about leaving as I don't wish to be sent back home again. My friend is willingly giving me a space to live with her as she is an only child and only lives with her mum. Please let me know

She has double standard when it comes to what she calls "helping". It's OK for me to help her and it's expected. But if the same situation occurs but the roles are reversed, it's another story. She won't do for me, what she is expects me to do for her.

i'm turning 18 in 4 months and I'm legal to do things on my own

So I got accepted and a full ride to an amazing school in the Bay Area ( California) I currently live in North Carolina ... I've always wanted to live in California (no not to become a movie star lol, I'd be going to school for software engineering/ web development so I'd have a career in Tech) with that being said , my current boyfriend doesn't want to go straight to a 4 year because he's afraid of debt/cost. So is working & thinking about getting his CDL's (he has a lot going on in his family so is going the fast route) he's from New York, and Is currently in NC as well. He said because he's lived in the city forever he loves N.C. & that's his final destination ... he doesn't want to leave. He said California is out of the question because it'll be too far from his mother/family and is giving me a hard time about going because I'd be moving far. WHAT DO I DO? I'm not very happy in N.C. because of the fact that I've been here FOREVER. I've been on the west coast before & I absolutely love it. HELP!!

Every time I order I package online my sister ends up getting the mail and steals my package, she either keeps it for herself or turns it over to my parents who if they don't like/approve of what it is will try to get rid of it. What can I do to stop them from doing this?? Also they've been doing this as long as I've been able to buy things online

My absentee father invited me and my friend down to visit him in Florida, promising he wanted to start over and have a relationship with me. The first 2 days of the trip were totally fine, he seemed like he cleaned up and normal. But he then took us to he Key West and started drinking... completely wasted. Started verbally abusing me, telling me because I'm 21 I should be drinking with him and getting naked... horrible disgusting things. It got to the point he was no longer speaking real words and pooping with the bathroom door open. I was so scared he'd do something to me I pretended to be asleep through all of it. But how can I get out of this situation?! I may be an adult but I'm far from having the financials and independence of one. He drove us down here, i'm originally from Maryland and have no idea how to get out of this situation and asking asking an alcoholic to not drink may be a bad idea because I'm completely at his mercy and I'm scared. I tried contacting everyone I can but no one knows how to get my back to the Florida mainland let alone Maryland... should I feel totally helpless as I do or is there some how a way out of this?!

My mum cooks meals for us throughout the day and whenever I get in trouble for anything she tells me off and always finishes by explaining to me the troubles and difficulties of being a mother. She literally complains how she sacrifices everything for us and does all the work for us. But when I do her a favor by cooking something for me to eat, she doesn't allow me to cook. She always asks my siblings to do it for me. How am I supposed to learn if my mum never lets me even try to cook? She probably thinks that I shouldn't cook by myself because I'm a "male" and that's usually their wives or others cook for them. I know it's sexist af but that's just how she lived during her time and she doesn't want to accept that the world is changing. How do I tell her that I'm capable of learning? Sometimes she doesn't let me cook because she's thinks I don't know how to use the stove, even though the buttons are clearly marked and even a child could use it.

It was 1991 and I was aged 5. I had a terrible life since. I was adopted at age 7 into a family where I wasn't good enough. The adopted father I have some good memories with but the adopted mother was narcissistic and only adopted me cause her sister had adopted and she wanted to be like her sister. She favored her own daughter by far and the son was developmentally disabled so a pawn for her. I was the one with emotional problems, wack job, she called me. At age 15 she shipped me off to a boarding school and when home she would largely ignore me. After Christmas each year we'd travel to see the extended family of hers and she'd leave me with grandparents (her parents) at the end of the holiday and go home early and they'd take me back to school. So after high school I became largely estranged from them. Since then the adopted mother has done all she can to assassinate my character to the rest of her family. My adopted father's sister I hear from occasionally. His parents died before I came to the family and the rest of his family was distant. So long story short I constantly wonder about my real family. My adopted family hurt me just as much as the real mother. I am an adult now and so I wonder what a reunion would be like. Yet if she choked me as a kid I don't want to get too close. Am I allowed to only be close at a distant? I don't get close to anyone and don't want to since all they do is hurt me.

So, I'm in high school and I've been struggling with family issues my entire life (I'm not here to complain about my life so don't mention starving kids in Africa, I'm allowed to have issues) but anyway, my dad is the only parent I have left and sometimes I guess he says things he doesn't mean but hey still hurt my feelings and have me thinking. He blamed me for wanting to kill himself and said that if he didn't have to take care of me his life would be better and he would be happier. I don't want to be dramatic but it just overall really makes me regret even being here because I don't want to be a burden to him and I never meant to ruin his life? My question basically is, because everyone tells me it's not a normal thing for a dad to say, is this just a typical dad thing? He's a drunk and bipolar and has depression so I guess it's just his illnesses Sorry for grammar issues ah

Okay so let me start off by saying that I am 22 years old. My whole life, my mother has been controlling. She put a tracking device on my phone in high school and claimed it was not because she didn't trust me but because she didn't trust other people. She has financially supported me and I'm very grateful for it however I do not expect it. If she were to tell me to start paying for my own stuff tomorrow I would do it but because I'm in grad school, they say do not have a job if you can cause it's very hard to work during a grad program. Anyways, my mom is just so controlling I hate it. I've never been a bad kid and have always made perfect grades and stayed out of trouble so idk why she's like this. For example, tonight I accidentally left my wallet at the house (I'm staying with my parents for the summer until grad school starts next month) and my mom called me, left a voicemail, and texted me a bunch freaking out that I left it. I literally was 10 min away at a friends house and she knew this. I told her it wasn't a big deal and that I'll just be careful to not get pulled over. She freaked out and started lecturing me about the law overreacting. I know it's against the law to drive without a license but I wasn't intentionally doing it and people make mistakes such as forgetting their wallet at home every once in a while. Well while I was gone, she went through my wallet, rearranged everything and she's just so controlling and I'm tired of it. What do I do?

I can't stop thinking about the times my dad disrespected me. He's purposely doesn't clean his room or throw food wrappers bc he says he wants me to do it. Also he's hit me and called me names when I got in trouble. Yes, there were times when I disrespected him. And also not listening to me when his nieces or friends bully me.

I'm struggling finding employment, back in 2016 I got in car accident I crashed my car no other vehicle was involved. One of the passengers got injured broke a collar bone was not wearing seatbelt but that doesn't matter. I was drinking while driving and it was all my fault. Got sued for 100k and somehow got passed the lawsuit, ever since then my mind has changed and doors have closed. I have a DUI /Felony And Have Done everything to get my DL Back, Just got it. I'm currently depressed I feel like time is moving fast and I'm just a rock in a river. I can't find employment, my family is kicking me out and don't know were to go. I pray all the time but get no response, I don't have a girlfriend less friends no car but a sr22. I'm starting college this August my first year , I feel hopeless I don't have my family by my side. Ever since 2016 I have accomplished nothing, those friends that I use to hangout with I cut them out of my life because I realized they weren't my friends. Thanks For Taking the time to read this.. any advice would be greatly appreciated god bless.

So...this past week something that happened really upset me. My mother was admitted to the hospital for internal bleeding and, it seemed to me, like my grandmother made the whole thing about herself. Every time the doctor came in and asked my mom questions about her health history, my grandmother would chime in and talk about herself and her health history. The doctor was asking about my mom. NOT family history. Then what really irked me is when my mom was getting discharged the nurse asked her if she would like a wheelchair to the door and help into the car. My grandmother chimed in and said "no. I'm fine." As if the nurse was talking to her. She wasn't kidding around either. Since we've been home (my grandmother lives with me and my mom) I've just been noticing little things that make me feel like my grandmother cares about no one other than herself. She has beeen acting like she doesn't feel good and can't do anything. My mom is the one who is sick. Am I just overreacting or was what my grandmother did not ok?

I'm a 26 year old female. I live in an apartment about 15 minutes from my mom and her dad's house. My mom has me come over every other day for at least an hour and eat dinner. She asks me every aspect of my life and if the littlest thing comes up and she can't do it, she expects me to do it. Like, recently when her dad (my granddad) had a car accident and expected me to stay at the hospital with him over night. I had to work in the morning... but she would say things like "no daughter of mine would just leave their grandfather at the hospital alone" and "you can take off work.. I can't." She works as a dispatch. I work at a restaurant but my bosses are getting really tired of me asking for days off just because my mom expects me to do something. My mom doesn't care what I have to say, if she wants me to do it I have to do it and she will even try to guilt trip me into doing things if I show signs or not wanting to do it or indirectly tell her "no" or ask her to find another way to do it herself. One day she asked me to cancel a date I had to go return a book to the library in the town over. I asked her what she was doing renting books from the town over. She said "don't question me. I like to visit different libraries ". Then when I told her I didn't think I could do it because I have been planning this date for a while.. she says "I raised you for 18 years and did everything for you yet you can't even find the time to help me return a book"? Long story short, I had to end up returning the book because my mom got really frustrated and upset. Recently, she's also expecting me to give up my apartment and come back and live with her and her dad. It's not something I want to do.. but she says she wants me to be closer. What do I do?

Ok so I just got engaged to my bf after 6 years. I'm happy n glad that he finally did it. But it's this one issue that I think will really b a deal breaker. Ok so his mom is in rehab but needs somewhere to go. If she goes to a assisted living it'll b well over $2,000 but if she come to live with us she'll just have to pay rent n one bill. My issue is I kno it's not easy taking care of someone that will depend on u for everything. We at a space in our life where we need our space and our own house again for once. He says he feel like he gotta choose between his mom n me. I tell him not to choose that's ur mom. But what do I do? I feel like if I don't agree that this will b something that will always come up. His other children don't wanna b bothered n it's not fair that she has to come live with us. I kno that sound harsh but it's reality. We haven't even got married yet. We already been living our lives as if we married. I know if she does that I'll b the one caring for her far as personal care. He said well what if it was ur family. Tbh I would make arrangements so they can stay at they own house

I did one of those DNA ancestry tests and learned someone else is my father and he is even on the Ancestry system and has shared his name. I want to contact him but know the story first. My account is named "Private" so it will show to others how I am related but I didn't put my full name. Now I want to meet this father as I see he lives only 35 minutes from me and I actually know his sister and her kids and have met him. Do I confront my Dad who raised me who I know is not my real Dad? Do I tell my Mom? Right now no one knows. I am 19, almost 20, and a rising sophomore at University of Toledo.

This renunion is only for my Dad's side btw. My uncle died last year. He left behind an 8 year old daughter and a 10 year old son. This is the second child my senile grandparents lost. They only have 2 left, my aunt and dad. This is the 2nd brother my dad and Aunt have lost. This is the first reunion without him. I miss him very much, but we were not very close, not like the rest of my family. I feel like this year is going to be very sad, but I really want to cheer everyone up. I have no idea what to do tho that could maybe help everyone be a little happier. They have all been having a hard time, especially my grandparents and cousins. I just want to cheer them up. Any suggestions?

And cut off all communication? He has not changed & has gone back to jail once again, I can't continue to send him money for commissary and send him food & pay for him to make phone calls. Today I realized that I won't nothing else to do with him.

I really hate living with my grandma she constantly says she is going to put me in juvenile where supposedly people would rape me according to her.... and the last time she threatened to call juvenile on me was when I used Noxzema (an Acne Treatment) in her bathroom today. She hates the smell of it but I forgot she told me that I told her i'm sorry I wont do it again so she calls her daughter who lives behind us and she broke into the bathroom while I was naked and starts slapping me everywhere over and over (different Gender)... but i'm done she constantly makes me feel bad about my self everyday.. she has guardianship over me but I don't like her and I want to live with my aunt that loves and understands my feelings. I mean my aunt came in the bathroom when I was naked and hit me

Okay for starters I was adopted & I have always felt that she treats me very differently from her biological children. I live three hours away from my parents & I visit when I can. My mom has been raising her two grandchildren from my sister for over a year & I know that my mom has been under a lot of stress & has been trying to get my sister to take her children back. Last week I drove back home to spend some time with my mom & my nephews, I spent about four days there & spent a lot of money. During my visit my mom tells me that the kids will be flying to be with their mom in a few days & that the airport that they would be flying from was in my city, my mom made a point to say that they could stop by and pick me up & then we all go to the airport & I said "Okay". I leave from my visit with her last Monday. During the week I only spoke to my mom once and I asked her if the plan was still the same in regards to picking me up before going to th airport, she says Yeah Today is the day that she dropped them off and their flight was at 11am, my parents never called or text me to tell me anything, it now 10:00pm and I have yet to hear from them but according to my sister after they dropped the kids off they stopped by my other sisters house and hung out with her for hours. I rarely see them, how could they come to the town I live in & not say hello. It makes me so upset. I would never go back home without seeing them. I refuse to call or text her. Am I wrong to be upset?

My mom is two faced. One minute she is nice and then she turns around and yells at me. One time she came in my room and told me she loved me, and she started talking and when she exited she called me a little b****. She calls me this along with other bad labels such as mean and spoiled. She says this so much that it gets my self esteem very low and i think that I am these things. A lot of times I just avoid her and cry.I have very bad anxiety around her but she always says that its my fault. My parents never take responsibility for anything. If I tell them that they are doing somthing that is hurting me they'll say that they aren't doing it. They make me believe that I am the one that is wrong and that it is right and normal to be abused like this. One time I was at a therapist and I was talking about them because they were making me feel bad. I got yelled at afterwards because they were "listening" to what I am saying and I wasn't allowed to talk about them. I always have to keep secrets about their fighting or the way they make me feel. If I talk to them in public because they're arguing, they'll tell me to stop because I'm embarrassing them. They fight alot. They swear and act crazy. Once my mom called the cops on my dad and they took him away. Another time she stabbed him in the hand. My dad hits us alot, me in the head. They both drink alot of coors and stella. They say lies about my family and compare me to others. It makes me feel like some family members are bad.

What do you think?

Okay so 2 or 3 years ago I was living with my aunt for like 2 months (She had no WiFi or cable) so I spent my time just going to work coming home and minding my business, I'd help her out and sit and talk to her.. Then I'd go to my cousins house smoke weed and come back home and she'd let me smoke weed at her house but I had to do it outside ... So out of nowhere she'd say that I was sneaky and just like my mother , Idk what I was doing wrong I respected all of her rules and gave her no trouble. One day when I was sitting outside this guy from the neighborhood would come to me and we'd talk and quickly she'd tell me to come inside and fuss me out saying I can't go back outside because I had unwanted visitors coming and I told her I didn't know him we just said a brief hello.. She showed favoritism to my cousins when they'd come over and whenever they'd come over she would just diss me. She even kicked me out because she said I stole her pants and she called me a thief so she put me out. Now every time I go around her she looks at me rolling her eyes and she talks bad about me saying "oh you got fat your cousins not fat. And you're not smart and you're sneaky like your mom you steal things" and that hurts I've tried explaining to her idk what she's talking about because she's like a size 6 and I'm a size 13 so there's no way. Does anybody have any advice on how to go about this situation???

My older sister is 11 months older than me but she acts like she is 11 years older. She thinks she is always right even when i prove her wrong. When i prove her wrong she gets pissy. If i try to interact with her she ignores me. I try to be nice but we constantly argue because of my mental sickness and her mood.

Recently someone in our house stole something from my parents, my mom won t say what it was that was stolen. The people being blamed are my sister and I because we re the only people who could ve done it. I know I m not the one who did it and my sister has stolen from them in the past. I have bad anxiety and I don t like being blamed for this knowing that I m innocent in the matter. I m afraid that my anxiety will get the best of me and that they ll think I did it. They ve been threatening taking things from us and I hate that my sister won t fess up. Is there anyway I can try to prove I didn t do it or try to get my sister to confess?

suddenly and my body gets tense. My health gets affected because of a fu**ing sneeze. What should I do?

I just learned that my dad took his girlfriend on a CRUISE for their anniversary but he didn't do sh*t for my mom in June on their anniversary. Their still married. I'm a young teen so how should I feel about this? Should i hate my dad for hurting my mom's feelings or should i like, not worry about it? P.S I learned this information (about the cruise) while my mom was on the phone with my dad. The only reason I listened to their convo was because my dad wasn't home for a week for NO REASON. I was worried sick but then that's when I learned the real reason.

Ok so basically I'm in a city w my moms side of the family w/o my dad (parents are divorced) and they wanted to take me to a beach for a week where you have to take a plane to get there. I asked my fam if I had to ask my dad permission to go and they said no I didn't and to actually not even tell him to avoid any problems. So I'm at the beach and my dad calls me no biggie but the. He starts askin a bunch of questions abt where I am what I'm doing and I'm starting to panic but I play it cool and COMPLETELY lie to him saying I'm at my grandparents house etc. I felt rlly bad but whatever. So I'm.bcak from the beach I finally call him after avoiding his calls and outta no where he asks oh how was the beach and I was like oh what and he was like ya the beach why didn't you tell me you were there? Why didn't you tell me when we talked if you were already there I started panicking helllllaaaa and just pretended I couldn't hear him anymore and hung up. So now my whole moms side is claiming they NEVER told me not to tell him I was at the beach so now I'm stuck as the big fat liar when I HATE lying and never wanted to do it in the first place. I eventually have to call my dad back what do I say????? What's a good excuse for not telling him AND lying. Even if it's a **** excuse can't rlly tell the truth or my moms side of the fam is gonna be pissed at me PLZ HELP!

I wonder because our 3 year old son lives with me and I do school drop and pick up and sees his dad on weekends sometimes. His dad is not working now. Sometimes his dad only ask to see him like every other weekend or 2 weekends out the month because he's gets overwhelmed and frustrated when his son comes by. I feel so bad because my son always ask for his dad but he doesn't understand that his dad doesn't want to see him as much.