I have finally supporting my dad since I was 18 and I am 28 now. At first we couldn't find a job. Then his excuse was that his back hurt, then his excuse was that it is hard in the winter because he doesn't have a car and the cold weather makes him sick. I have been pushing him to get a job and he finally did 2 months ago, but twisted his leg . he was limping for a week but it been 2 month since that happened and he hasn't returned to work. He goes out fishing with his friend but the moment you talk about work , his leg starts hurting . I tried to talk to him nicely today. My sister had health problems and just had a baby but nothing had been obstacle for her to find solution to her problems. I tried to tell my dad that. He is been living with me. Sleepimg in the same room as I do and I really can't spend the rest of my life having him like if he was my kid. I need to move on with my life. However, he started calling disrespectful, that only he knows how he feels, that he isn't as healthy as I think he is. Everytime I talk to him about getting a job , he gets offended and stop talking to me. I do not know what to do anymore.

I am a girl. A few years ago, I lost my older sister. At first I was kind of fine about it. I was happy to know that she wasn't in pain anymore. I could hardly wrap my head around the fact that she was gone though. And lately, i can't stop thinking about it, wishing I could just spend one more day with her. Or even just an hour. I think it's like some kind of delayed grief...I know she's safe now and i'll see her again, but I just wish I had her here to guide me again.

My father has both a French and Ethiopian citizenship for he was born Ethiopia and his mother was French, and he now lives in France. I was born in france and I have a french citizenship, but shouldn t have I got also an Ethiopian citizenship since my father has it? And is there any way to obtain it now, without having to live there?

She often imitates my mom's signature if she gets into trouble at school and they send letters home. She has summer school this year too. They're notes that say she is disruptive in class or she upset the younger kids by engaging in teaching "inappropriate use of words". Obviously, she wouldn't want our parents knowing those things. The teacher must've assumed it was actually our mom because no one ever mentioned these complaint letters.

Like I had some friends and relatives just hate me even if I didnt do anything bad. They have issues in their life, but I sense they dont want to see me happy. I am respectful, but I feel like they dont like me

We broke up and when I tried going back(6 months ago) he said he wouldn't forgive me for saying something about his mom when he said something to mine first(idiotic).I didn't chase him. We ran into eachother one day i expected him to ignore but he smiled and said hi.Now he keeps looking at me, making eye contact and i caught him looking at me sneakily through the door crack. He's started coming out about the same time as I do and he said hi hesitantly and smiling. Few Sundays ago I was going down the stairs and he was behind me. He was "on the phone" saying he was leaving church and would call back which wasn't necessary since church was already over. I feel like he did it so I'd know he was behind me. We walked next to eachother he smiled and said how are you. We had a few exchanges and I asked him about his sick brother. The following week he didnt show himself inside church(he's a deacon) as I was leaving he was behind me going down the stairs. I turned around just saw a glimpse of him and turned back around didn't say hi. I was always stand offish and would not really look at him when he'd constantly look, so he started not standing on the stage as much. I've started looking at him more and mildly smiling. He looked and smiled big this Sunday and left early to pass by me and smiled I smiled back and he winked.

After ex bf said he wouldn't get back together and would never work months ago, I was upset and avoided his look at church. But I'm past it and now for three sundays in a row I've been openly looking at him, this sunday he looked at me and smiled big. Then when he passed by me he smiled and winked at me. Why hasn't he texted yet though? he constantly looked at me but I looked away but now I"m not looking away so he stands there longer looking at me etc. But why isn't he doing something?

After ex bf said he wouldn't get back together and would never work months ago, I was upset and avoided his look at church. But I'm past it and now for three sundays in a row I've been openly looking at him, this sunday he looked at me and smiled big. Then when he passed by me he smiled and winked at me. Why hasn't he texted yet though?

I always feel like I'm starting over. I met a crazy ex, and had to move out and start over after she almost ruined my life. I moved into a rental, and it turned into a bad situation so I decided to move and start over again. Then things were going so good, until some lady T-Boned me, totaled my car, and put me in the hospital. On top of that the cops gave me a DUI because they're ruthless around here and I had a bad concussion (I don't even drink). So now I have to pay for a lawyer, can't renew my lease because I was running a successful business and it's been shut down for a month and may even go under. So I'll have to start another business, but I took a huge financial hit by shutting it down. Also, I got some pick up work at Ruby's, but I'm 33 and everyone is female and younger than me, like 18. I feel like such a loser, and I have really bad headache's now after the accident which is affecting my ability to work in general. Am I a loser? What should I do? I have a college education but it seems hard to find jobs in my area. I'm thinking of doing car sales, but I don't even know what I'm doing anymore at this point. Can I have some advice?

My mum does this little thing where she never believes what you say or do unless she sees for herself. For e.g. I go to a store looking for a certain item, I first scope the shelves and then ask workers there if they sell this. They say no so I leave and call my mum telling her that they dont have what shes looking for. Instead of saying ok how about that other store, she just assumes that i did something wrong and starts asking all these questions. "No way they dont have any" " Who did you ask" "Ask the manager only they would know" " Did you ask someone who works there" Im like thinking wtf do u think, I just walked in looked left looked right then left. So then I get annoyed at her, and she gives me attitude and says im over reacting. Ok yes this may seem like over reacting if it was a one time thing but now that i think about it she has done this for about as long as i have been alive.

She thinks she can be happy that way but I dont believe that. How can I tell her that she must learn to interact with others and stop being so quiet? There is no reason to be afraid of people. She doesnt even have friends and never does anything fun. Even her classmates have asked me many times what the hell is wrong with her because she almost never speaks at school. And at home she is in her room almost all the time. She is 17 and I find it really weird that she is still so shy at her age

I was sexually abused in my childhood. My aunts boyfriend raped me then shortly after my aunt started molesting me and doing weird things to me. My aunt would have me n my parents room on their bed, while my mom would be in the front of the house cooking. When she was 'done' with me we would walk out and my mom would always be smiling like she knew what was going on. Now I'm 22 and she wonders why I do not really have a relationship with her. Has she tried to gaslight me into forgetting about this to the point where she did, or what? She wonders why i am not close with her, and this is the main reason. I want to think she did not know, but i know better than that. I think she and my aunt just sit back and cackle like witches about it, i do not know. She keeps asking me what my problem is with her, although i do not owe anyone en explanation i feel as though maybe i should tell her. I am also going to call someone and tell them everything and hopefully take some sort of legal action or at least get them to check on my cousins. Any advice will be appreciated.

My family and I were supposed to go off to vacation for a week, My Father took off, My Mother took off from work too. Then I heard a huge fight Monday night. My Mom found out Dad was seeing a girl at work, it's not Fathers first affair, but my Mom is really upset this time because Dad is having sex with a black girl. My Dad shouted back at my Mom that she is a racist. But my Mom said skin color doesn't matter because my dad is still cheating on their marriage. But my Mom doesn't want our neighbors thinking she is racists , so my mom lets dad have fun with this black girl at work. so, instead of vacation, Mom went to see a psychiatrist , dad went to a barbecue with his black lover. who is right? I don't know what side to pick//

I am 14 years old and my biologicap dad died when i was 10 i never knew him i havent seen him since i was 2 and i struggle a lot with his death but my stepdad has raised me since i was 2 we fight a lot but i appreciate what hes done for me but after 12 years my mam and stepdad broke up 6 months ago and 4 months ago she moved into a new house now she has a friend names craig and i really dont like him i dont trust him i dont like him as a peraon i never did for the 2 years i know him and my mam came in and told me a few days ago shes seeing him and shes pregnant with his baby i think its too soon after my stepdad there only seperated 6 months and shes 2 months pregnant my younger sister whos 11 doesnt like the situation either what should i do i have talked to her about it but she gets angry anytime i say i dont like him

Basically, I've had a bad childhood with parents, they always put me down and were really negative towards me, even though I don't do drugs, drink, or anything bad. They are nasty peeople with hardly any friends ( I've paid for everything, including tuition , not that I'm owed anything ). But how do I tell them I want to go my own way and never talk to them again?

My birth father has never been in my life. He knows about me. But because he hates my mother so much, he decided he won't contact me until I'm 18, so he doesn't have to deal with her. I'm 15 right now. I've never once spoken to him, or contacted him. No letters on my birthday, nothing. My moms friend was in town, she knew where my birth father lived. I was able to coax it out of her. I wrote the address down and wrote an angry letter. I filled it with my sadness over him never being there, and how I just wanted him to contact me, at least once. I called him selfish in the letter. I will admit, I went overboard. But I feel like it was all justified. He refuses to be in contact with me, all because he hates my mom. My mom told him she didn't want to have to deal with him, either. (This was told to him, through a friend, he refuses to directly speak to her.) I'm just.. wondering. Is this all.. okay? Am I crazy for sending him the letter? My mom doesn't know I sent it. I plan on telling her, if I get a reply that is. I suppose I just got fed up with him refusing to be in my life, all because he doesn't like my mom. How can you do that do your own daughter? I am his CHILD he can't put up with my mother for 10 minutes, just so he can have a relationship with me? Am I justified in all of this?

She doesn't want to see him at all he gets her every other weekend. He tell her bad things about me and she is afraid to speak for herself I'm worried should I go to court asap regarding this

Hi.. I just turned 17 this year and started working abit on summer-break, I had already told my family that I wont work all summer so I decided to work 6 weeks,We're gone 9 weeks for summer-break so that's already more than half the summer. And now that I'm not working I've helped my dad with some stuff, He needed so help building his garage, He wanted me to remove some fences which I did etc... So I've worked quite abit for him now and out of nowhere he had gotten me a new job, WITHOUT saying a word to me about it at a place so I could work all summer instead, I instantly said no I wont work over there etc.. And now he's legit trying to ruin my life, I live at my moms apartment mostly, So he came over here this morning and tried getting me out of bed to work for him, I said no.. He then went on rambling about how spoiled I am and how I need to work as an adult, which I understand but when he goes around doing stuff, making me employed for 2 weeks without me even saying yes just makes me furious. To the "ruin" part, Now he's trying to get me Evicted from the apartment, He's taking all my food over here so I can't eat, He's trying to make me move to him but he already gave my room away for some random worker to stay, So I legit have no room over there to sleep in, He's calling everyone in my ancestor to make me look bad and says **** that isn't even accurate to make it sound way worse, He's also taking my router and computer. What do i do

I'm not saying I'm perfect. While I attend an elite college, I was high all last year(They're aware) and generally stupid. But I just feel like my parents might not be good for me, despite the fact that they love me. My parents are wealthy & do almost everything for me to the point where I barely know how to do basic tasks & pay for all my stuff. None of my outfits are under $2k. My parents both think they're great parents. When I do something that moderately annoys mom she pretends to be sick. When I was little I took her razor and she told me that b/c I took it, it cut her. I can never predict her mood-swings. When she has screaming fits of rage with me not raising my voice, she says that I was being "a pyscho" and "ridiculous." Every time I need them they aren't there but when I don't they are. I was molested as a kid, where were they? Not present. I was raped at 15, did they show empathy? No.I was depressed and wanted to die, did they get me psychiatric attention? No. Almost every conversation involves my parents teasing me. My mom thinks I'm a whore and tells me no guy will want me if they knew my body count. She tells my Hispanic friend wants to sex traffic me. My parents took my phone(even though I offered to pay for it) & are made fun of me by counting all of the guys messaging me. I feel like a fraud and that no one will like me if I don't hide who I am. I'm incapable of maintaining long-term romantic relationships and sex is the only way I know how to bond with men They treat me like I'm 13 to a kind of hilarious degree. They say things like "you have to build our trust back" even though I'm literally not going to be home pretty much all year, or really ever again for a long period of time.

i have someone in our family that is constantly making up lies, stories to get other members of the family in fights with each-other. they show complete dedication and love towards one family member and anyone else that try's to get close to that family member they will create lies to cause drama between the two of them . even though some of the things have been proven to be wrong they continue to fight and cause more drama . there is no reasons for lies noone is threatening him or wanting to ruin his relationship with this family member . what is this all about? is there a mental disorder that i can read up on to help figure this all out ? thank you

I'm 13 years old, I'm taking summer school with the same teacher i normally have. She told the school counselor about it once. They sent a note home but I hid it from my parents. They say that it will eventually be a bigger problem, especially in high school next year. My teacher kept complaining that I squirm too much in class. My PE teacher got mad at me once cause it took too long to put my normal clothes back on. I still wear the same clothes I did when I was like 9 or 10, idk. I never wore bras . My mom never suggested on getting new clothes. I never bothered to ask either.

She talks down to me, and like I'm this clueless little boy. She repeats herself,is very dramatic. Has a personality disorder, denies thingz, gets defensive, acuses me of treating her bad. but she's does not respect me as an adult. Since I was a child, the more I grew up, the less we got along. She said life was easier when I was 8. She's become violent, verbally abusive, and controlling, so I moved out years ago after I was paying rent to her. Anyway, she's seeing a counceler who said to cut me out of her life, even though I'm the one who almost changed my number because she's been a toxic person and bad mom. Which she admitted, but just called all hysterical like it was doomsday just because I asked to borrow some money, which I would never have before. It's just crazy how she causes me of exactly how she treats me, and tells everyone I'm this,angry abusive guy. She's always with the drama no matter what. She recently got clingy so I mentioned it, and she started crying. So should I just say hi on hollidays only or not at all? She hasn't changed.

I should say can I have had a good time still even though it was 50-50. I know the party was great for others but I mean my experience. I am torn whether it was good or bad. I am so disappointed I can't even think of the good parts. I want to think of the good parts though. OK anonymous, I will stop. Please pray for a cure for my OCD

My mom has horrible credit at less than 500. She is trying to make me co-sign a car loan so that she can get a car. My fiance and I live with her yes but we pull our own weight and more. We buy groceries, pet food (including feeding her pets + ours), buy household materials, and I have helped her more than once to pay her car insurance, loan her money, buy her medicine, etc. My fiance works Full Time and pays her rent ($150/month) + pays the cable she wants+ buys groceries+ loans her money. I feel like she just expects me to do this as we live with her. I do not want to ruin the credit that I have worked hard to build (I pay all my bills on time and spend responsibly). My credit is a 679/ 687 (something like that). She is guilt tripping me because I won't do it! Yet she has never been responsible and had a car repossessed. What do I do?

She has done things from accusing my mother of trying to hit on a married man she knows to turning on her own son to calling her niece ugly when the niece misunderstood a direction to writing us a 14 page email about how bad her son is. She also worships her two daughters, one in particular, falsely accused her now ex-husband of adultery, ranted at me years ago because of an ADHD social mistake I made, pulled me aside to bad mouth my mother for an hour, and most of all thinks the whole world revolves around making her feel good. I avoid her but my mother is trying to fix her and so always talking about her though she seldom sees her. The aunt refuses to come to family functions cause we ask her son who is 22 and all on his own now though his father is good to him. She is also the woman when I was in college who emailed me crap against my mother until I asked her to stop and she had a temper tantrum when my grandmother traveled one summer with my family instead of watching her kids when they were little for her. She was asked on the trip but declined. Her narcissism has grown over the years. Her parents seldom said no. She is 49 and not sure if menopause has made this all worse. Her father has died but her mother is still alive. She made a big rant to me when I saw her last (2 years ago at my grandfather's funeral) because my sisters had left and not said bye to her though she then praise me for saying bye.

She has been married to my uncle for 12 years so an aunt but only by marriage. She is unloving to him and only married him for his wealth.

How do I get them to see they are enablers and forming a narcissist? My sister is like the devil sometimes. She is 23 going on nine. Serene E: she lives on her own. I helped my folks move her two years ago and she ranted and insulted us the whole time we moved her. My father threatened to leave but guess what, he caved and kept moving her.

A couple of weeks ago, my younger sister came home drunk and threatening suicide. My mother, being my mother, called me up so that I could fix the situation for her. During the call, I overheard her screaming and yelling at my sister, saying things along the lines of "How could you do this to me?!" "Shut up!" I didnt want to leave my sister alone with her especially because she does have a history of suicide attempts and self harm that prior to this only I was aware of. I thankfully managed to convince my mom to take her to the hospital, though she resisted because she "is an expert in suicide" and "knows what (Name) needs right now." My sister called me a couple of hours later when she sobered up a bit and told me that my mother threatened to kill herself in response to my sisters threats. Ironically enough my mother called me a couple of hours after this and told me how she wasn't suicidal, but when she was. she had it so much worse than my sister. She also told my sister that her suicide attempt were so much more traumatic than hers and implied that my sister was horrible for "triggering" her. My mom also wont shut up about how much this is costing her and how she had to take of work for this. I seriously think shes jealous of the attention. My sister is not a minor so there's not much I can do to help her. My sister is out of the hospital, but she is currently living with my mother until she moves back into the dormitory in the Fall. I cant force my sister to cut contact because shes an adult, only recommend it.

They don't trust me. I do a lot for us. I do the cleaning, dishes, cleaning the litterbox for our cat. A part-time job. Most of the time I make us all breakfast. I help them reach stuff higher because I am taller than them 🤣. But they don't trust me. The biggest lie I have not said to them is... my sexuality. Second is not having a crush on someone. I don't lie anything important of immediate concern. Say I want to run to QuickTrip to buy something, the rare time they say yes and to just go by myself. But than one of them goes a bit behind me in the car when i am walking and watches me. I can see him from the windshield. They say "So when I bring it up they say something like "Oh so you where watching for us". I only noticed because the car is loud. Another example of another time my brother broke my fan by putting water inside the engine thinking it would make it faster (he is 5 years old, cut him slack) he said "I [referring to me] got angry at him and did it thinking it was mine [referring to himself]" and when I called his bluff they said "How can we trust you, you don't do anything around here.". When I ask why they don't trust me they just say "Don't question your elders! It's rude." So how can I get them to notice what I do and trust me more. Do you have any ideas on how to be more trustworthy. Thanks.

My dad is 64 and he's always flirting with this younger girl who is only 21. They call each other on the phone and talk for awhile every night. The reason he met her is because he used a own a grocery store and he made her the store manager when she was only 18. Now he's retired and she went to work somewhere else but they still keep in contact. I also worked at the same grocery store and was mad he made her the manager over his own son. They would always flirt and joke around with each other at work, it was so strange. He also went on a 1 week vacation to hawii with her sister who is only 26. Do you think this is weird? Should I say anything to him?

Don't get me wrong, I love my sister. I just hate the fact that she gets so hypocritical and invasive. I recently went swimming and I didn't want to get my phone wet (I didn't have my towels at the time they were with my sister) and I aske my sister to get my phone for me (with the word please). She went to my phone and asked my what the password was. I had to tell her. People might not understand, and since I am a teen. She thinks if I hide my password and what I'm doing, she automatically thinks I'm doing something inappropriate. But she's being totally hypocritical! Sometimes I just casually glance at her phone (by accident) and she straight grills me on how I need to show respect and not talk back to her, when all I asked is if I can see her phone. She thinks she can do whatever and say whatever she wants to me cause she's older. Others times we have a great relationship. Were also really close. But I can't help but feel like she is so controlling of everything I do. I've recently made a friend with a boy, but all my sister (plus my family) thinks we're in some secret romantic relationship! Can I not be friends with someone that's a boy? Do I really have to stay obligated to be friends with girls all my life until I'm of the age to date? That's a really unhealthy mentality. I mean shouldn't all people be free to choose who they want to be friends with?

me and my sister are going up to crivitz wisconsin in about a week (45 min from greenbay). my aunt currently lives in her guest house because her home burned down and there is no room for me inside so i have two options 1. to sleep in a tent or 2. in my car. im worried about bears and raccons and i would feel more comfortable in the car with the door locked but is it safer? i have heard animals can try to break into cars but if i take the food out of my car and lock the doors and close the windows will i be ok?

My dad thinks we should keep in touch with our mom because she's our mom. I understand, but she isn't just our mom she's also an abuser. I've always wanted to be free from her, but dad seems that's wrong. I'm a teen btw What do you think?

Alot of big trade companies are like this, they have their inexperience new workers with very low pay, and get trained by a a little more experienced co- worker who may not want to show them everything. It'll take years and a lot of mistakes to learn. Say if you have a dad with good standing in the company and decade of experience of training others, Why not have the option of personal apprenticeship from the dad- that is more than likely to teach you everything you need to know and set you up to take over after the dad retires Or to just teach you a lot so you can do more things. There was one time my dad needed an assistant set up. From what he said, it was not hard to learn, since I was already certified in school, however not experienced. He recommended me, where he would show me everything from top to bottom, they said no. Instead they gave him a rookie, however more experience then me. My dad showed him well and did him good. But If it was his own son, he would had went the extra mile.

I was running late for a very important meeting I had a work in the morning and as I went to my garage to go to work, my garage door was jammed shut. I called everyone in my phone book trying to find a ride to work. I came to the last name in my phone book, James, my ex son in law. I was in good terms with him when he was married to my daughter Cindy, but I had not spoken to him in over 2 years. It took all the courage I had to call him and ask for his help. James immediately came over and took me to work in time for my meeting. I got a ride with a co worker home and much to my surprise when I got home, my garage door had been fixed. I did not know who had fixed it. I finally called James and ask if he had fixed my garage door. He said he did. I offered him some money for his work but he would not take it. I knew I had to repay him someway so I asked him to join me for dinner. We had a wonderful meal and great conversation. I thought it might be awkward having a meal with my ex son in law but it was not. I knew I had to tell my daughter what James had done. My friends told me to just tell her straight out what had happened. I did tell her and I was TOTALLY surprised at her reaction. She was cool with it. She said "Mom you did the right thing taking James to dinner". I was so relieved that I hugged her and said "I am so proud that your are my daughter". Was I fearful for nothing? Daughters, if your mom did what I did how would you feel about it?