Hey everyone, Me and my girlfriend have been together for a little over 4 years now. I am planning on proposing to her this weekend and need some help. We're going up to stay at her parents vacation home for my birthday weekend. We're having about 20 or so close friends and family stay with us and I really would like to propose with everyone there. #1 how would you all feel about being asked "the question" in front of family and friends? #2 if you don't like any of my ideas please feel free to share yours =) I've come up with a few options. My first is to call everyone into the main living room and give a thank you speech to everyone for coming. Then, I'll turn the attention to my girlfriend by thanking her for helping get everyone together and always being there for me. I'll do the whole "we've been together 4 years, have a daughter together, we're looking for our first home, etc." and ask her to marry me. And yes it'll be recorded. My second option is a million times less lovey and romantic but we're bringing up some guns bc they have about 55 Acres of land. I was thinking of putting holes in the target she's shooting at so when she goes to check it, it'll say "Will you marry me?" The 2nd option is more of a fall back in case I fumble over myself during the thank you speech. Please let me know what you all think. My hands are shaking just typing this lol I'm not nervous (cold feet) just overly excited.

I got married and my surname is hyphenated with my last name and my husband's. I don't like it, and it causes problems. Would I be able to change it on our marriage certificate?

What about a marriage without a wedding?Isn't that a great idea? That way I can keep my money and use it to buy furniture for the house. Or maybe a better car.

Besides having sex.

oh and the wedding is May 28th okay first off one of them is MIA kinda ALL the time 2. one of them scheduled her boob job the weekend before my wedding... it recently got moved up to this Tuesday, she was suppose to be planning my party, just told me the other day that "its only Feb we dont need to worry about it and i have a lot going on right now". 3. had a choice of dress (one was a spaghetti strap low cut, the other was a halter top. (she is over weight with big boobs) she is one of those girls who wants to wear what the other girls are wearing so she went with the spaghetti strp. well now she said she is spilling out of it and needs to have it altered into a halter top. which then led her to say "well i am the only one married and the oldest so i should look different anyways." she also agreed to be in another friends wedding the night before my wedding which means she will miss rehearsal. 4. wants me to stay home for my bachelorette party and do a lingerie party and eat penis pasta. which i dont want to do wither of those. when i mention doing something else she says "well you have to think i dont have money and neither does my sister so you need to be more considerate and do something we can afford." also she is dictating how her hair and makeup will be. 5. doesnt want to come to any of the get to gathers and instead makes plans.she just wants to get cute and be in the wedding. so what would u ladies do? am i being super butt hurt? oh also i know its only Feb but i am a teacher and have to find a sub if Im gonna end up missing work for the party...

I have asked this question already but according to others I should have been more specific. My fiance and I got engaged June 2016. We found a venue which she fell in love with straight away. It's pricey so to save for it we are delaying our wedding till December 2018. The venue is not just any function room (as I assume most people thought last time I asked). It's a castle restored in the 1920's and ,according to the women I asked, it's the whole wedding, so decor, theme, everything is the venue. Short of covering everything in the place there is really only one kind of wedding that can be there. We also live in the South West of Ireland so venues are abundant. (One street, in one town alone, has over thirty of various capacities and tastes). A friend of mine (also a guy) got engaged in December and 2 nights ago asked if he and his fiance would be "cramping our style" if they used the same venue (so had the same wedding) as us in April 2018. Now I haven't discussed this with my future wife yet, and to tell you the truth it wouldn't really bother me, but I'm a guy (duh) and as such may not fully understand the wedding etiquette. It's that he asked about "cramping or style" that got me thinking and I figured I better seek outside council. Is using another person wedding before them nothing, or is it like using somebody else's baby name? P.S. Is asking me a way of turning me into the bad guy if I say "it's in bad taste"? I ask because I definitely don't want to do that to the woman in my life. P.P.S. Obviously I didn't ask this question correctly last time, chances are I didn't ask correctly this time so if there are some parameters which may sway your opinion one way or the other please include them. The women I asked that know the whole story seemed to mention "personality of the wedding" and theme allot but I'm still a little lost.