I have brought up marriage on several times during this time..response each time-"someday"..I use to think we ll living together is the same without the paper..but as time goes on .I m having feelings of resentment that he thinks I m good enough to live with and split the bills but not to marry. Even brought it up when my son and his daughter got engaged....same answer...uggghhh...I m 54 now...am I wasting years with someone that makes me feel our relationship is just a convenience?

All I do is cry and look at my boyfriends ex girlfriends instragam she's so beautiful and seems to have the "perfect life" she just graduated a school program and now has a big job and I'm going to school now I'm anxious to be done with it too..sometimes I hate my boyfriend..because when we weren't dating I liked him but he got with her..he never comments on her photos or likes it but I know he's watching..my boyfriend says that he only wants me and wants to be together forever but all I can think about is his ex girlfriend...she has lots of friends everyone likes her and I don't have any friends..on her Pinterest she has "wedding photos" does she think she's gonna marry him? I ignore my boyfriend I get angry at him but this time I really think I'm done with him..because I'm not "miss cheerleader" how to stop this? Or am I right?

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I just started dating a guy we've been dating almost three months now. He has been divorced for two years and everything is going great except for the fact that he talks about his ex-wife almost everyday we're together. He says alot of good and bad things about her. Not only that but he keeps refering to her as "my wife." I know it might be a habit because they were married for 14 years but I'm starting to feel like he's doing it intentionally he tells me it's the medication or the food he eats that makes him do it and I told him it bothers me and to stop five times and he hasn't stopped he just says she was apart of his life and he said he might "accidentally call her "his wife" AGAIN. He even calls me his wife now to make me feel better. It just makes me feel so suspicious that they still might be legally married because it seems like she rents so much space into his head. I even asked to see a copy of his divorce papers. I'm starting to get irritated what should I do?

She's very gorgeous and I love her to death. However, it seems she think about sex all the time. She claims to masturbate when I'm not home. Also, we have sex 2-3 times a day. When we make love, she describes the guys she lusts after. I'm so turned on by her but at the same time, I'm worried.

My boyfriend and i are in a relationship. He is divorced and has two kids. Daughter is all grown up but son is 13. She has childrens allowance from state, but she doesnt pay a single thing. He pays all and she uses him as a rug. His main excuse is that he doesnt want children to get involved. Not only did she gett 80000 dollars after divorce but she also spent it so fast and then he gave her furniture for apartment, gave her his other car for use when she crashed hers, paid children and her a SUMMER VACATION. It really bothers me. i dont want him to be her *****

My spouse has had 2 affairs in our 10 years of marriage. We have been "rebuilding" for the past year and he has been trying pretty hard. The "other woman" threatened to sue us last Fall for some websites she was put on so it really made things fresh again. The entire thing was ridiculous to start with. I found out this morning via our phone records he talked to her for 217 minutes ago. He says he was "fixing" the lawsuit mess and all of her threats. I will NEVER believe he talked to her for THAT LONG about "business" matters. No way. He says he did it for me and never expected me to react this way. He also called her and talked for that NEVER TOLD ME. He clams he could have done it in secret but he used his phone because he had nothing hide.......ADVICE??

I'm in college studying to hopefully work in the criminal justice system. I honestly don't care about love at this point. I have friends, we hang out a lot but that's enough for me. I don't think about looking for a girlfriend and hoping one day to marry her and have kids. I want to just focus on what I'm doing live in my house freely and live my life. Is that wrong to think that way? Is marriage actually worth it for me to try to pursue it?

so why stay married?

I'm sure this is very similar to a single mom who's also caring for an aging parent, or even a sick child. No one really offers to lend a hand, and our income has dwindled down to little. So I don't really know what to do with all this. My husband is sick and won't get better. When he *is* feeling better - as in, able to get to the bathroom on his own, etc., he gets a really nasty attitude, so I have to deal with that on top of all else. Right now I'm dealing with shoveling DEEP ICE and snow (unusual blizzard- not seen in 30 years here), trying to figure out how to replace kitchen faucet sprayer (apparently it won't just twist off and replace - so now i have to figure out how to remove it), taxi my daughter around, and still find time to shop and get food on the table tonight. It's almost noon, and I'm already exhausted. I swear, I'm about ready to do some self-sabotaging mistake if I don't get ahold of myself. Please advise. I just need a "friend" right now.

Authorities came to his house and took his computers however he was never charged in either case. He claims it was a big mistake because he looks up regular porn. Would you trust him?

of turd that hangs out of anus, why is this? is it age causing this? it pops its head out but sometimes goes back in, some women aren't so lucky.

Im so tired of it all! Hes an incessant complainer so lately ive started complaining when he messes up just little things, because he complains about everything- his shirts were hung up in the laundry room too long etc etc. and last night he decided to start yelling at me because he said im insecure and I need counseling because he feels like hes never good enough and im going to leave him. Yet hes the one that previously cheated and made me insecure.... im going to counseling (again) this week but ive lost alot of respect for him and I dont know how to not be insecure at times because if I mention anything I get yelled at so I cant seem to get past things, im not a child but he treats me like one. Help!

We were best friends and we never fought. Up until a few years ago when he had a pill addiction which graduated to heroin, stealing from me and two overdoses. Leaving me devistated and not sure what to do. He then went away to rehab for a month and seemed ok for the past year when he came home. I was so happy, he was finally able to hold a job, we started having fun again and I was slowly trusting him again. Two months ago, I came home from work and my home was destroyed. Apparently, a toilet upstairs overflowed and it ruined my entire home. He happens to be in the restoration business so he quick got people there and hired a public adjuster. We had to live in a hotel and now an apartment. But here is the kicker, since the flood he has been downright mean. Short with me on the phone, hardly here always working. When I ask questions about the house, he gets irratated. No work has started there yet. Last week, he was a no call/no show for his very important doctor visit for his vivitrol shot which has been helping him stay clean. When I found out that he didn t go or even bother to cancel because he said he was tied up with work, we argued in a text. He said I'm on my own and I can get his name off saying he will come here to talk and never does. I flipped out again and now he threatened about bill money and hasn't come to drop that off either. He isn't communicating with me at all and our home is in ruins. I have constant knots in my stomach and I don t know what to think.

My husband watches porn on a weekly bases. I've asked him several times to stop. He usually gets mad and goes on a rant about that I'm trying to control him. He tells me that I'm an insecure person and that he won't ever stop.

My wife is great, she's a nice person, and very sweet. We have 3 kids and I don't want to ruin our family. I've been having doubts lately, and I don't think I love her anymore. I know she loves me, she tells me all the time. But it's not there anymore. How can I get it back? I want to love her. I couldn't see myself with anyone else, and want to avoid divorce, for my kids and her. We've been married 7 years. Together for 11. We are both 34 Well, she used to make me smile at the thought of her, and my heart always felt so full when I saw her, but now I just feel empty. I'm scared to tell her about it, so I don't know if I could ask her to go to counseling with me. Yes, all 3 times.

Several months ago I posed the question on whether you can force someone to get a job. My wife doesn't think you can or should. I do! Our son, my step-son, her bio-son, graduated back in Dec with his AAS degree in graphic design and one rule in our house was that as long as you're in school we'll help you and you are not required to pay any bills. Well, he's out but my wife doesn't think he needs more responsibility. He works part time at a sandwich shop maybe 20 hours a week. He spends 2 or 3 nights a week at his girlfriends house, who still lives with her parents. Many months ago my wife and I had the discussion of him paying rent but she refused to go down that road. Ok, him taking over the internet bill in the house was the possible solution but I honestly think my wife is paying that. I feel that now since he's out of school he's an adult in all sense of the word. My wife wants him to remain a kid. He constantly has her car to go to and from work and to take his girlfriend out on dates but when she's low on gas she looks to me for gas money. When her car needs washing she fusses at me to do it but he son drives it more than I do. She refuses to make him do anything. The other day he borrowed his mom's car and was hanging out with his older brother and when he came home he went into the bathroom. A few minutes later I went in there and there was a strong smell of pot. I told his mom and she refused to believe that he was smoking pot even though we've seen the blunt wrappers in his room. I told her that any kid smoking pot would not be getting my car to go anywhere. Her defense was that he wasn't smoking and driving. I told her to explain then why the bathroom smelled like weed. She said that he probably did it outside when he came home. Ok, so now he's sitting on our front porch smoking pot before he comes into the house? I do not know why she fails to see what's hitting her in the face. I've talked to her and talked to her but the more I talk the more we argue about it. I feel that if we give him more responsibility and less free time then he'll either want to move out or get a better job to support himself. If we give him a larger bill then he'd be forced to find a better job to keep more money in his pocket. If I couldn't afford to pay the bills in my house then I either need to find a better job or a second one. That's simple economics. So, again, can you give someone a time limit to get a job? He needs a 40 hour a week gig to pay his fair share at home or he needs to find somewhere else to live. He graduated early Dec and I want to give him toll April. My wife won't even consider it. The kicker is this. My daughter is the same age as he and she's away at college working on a 4 year degree. She's only home for breaks or the summer. She's had the same summer job for 3 years now working 40+ hours a week. No, she's not required to pay anything because she's still in school but my wife doesn't think it's fair that she gets a free ride because she decided to go to college for 4 years compared to her son who flunked out his first year of college then decided to go back to school and go into a 15 month AAS program. school and go into a 15 month AAS program. Our internet bill is $90 a month and she just told me that he didn't make enough money to pay that so she's going to help him with that. He can't even save $90 in a month to pay the one bill he's gotta pay. Yeah, if he stops spending it all on his girlfriend then he'd have that small bill amt. If I tell him he's got till April or May to get a full time job or he needs to find somewhere else to live then she takes it I'm putting her child out. No, I'm not putting out a 14 or 15 year old. I'm putting out a 20 year old college graduate who would rather spend more time with his girlfriend than actually looking for a job and supporting himself. My wife just sent me this in an email. "Look, I smoked weed at one point in my life. I haven't done it in years and have no plans nor desire to smoke anymore. I don't condone the weed smoking but I also don't put him in a category of being a bad person for smoking it. People smoke it." She's condoning his bad behavior. No, I've never smoked weed.

I'm Bengali, my parents are quite modern but i know for a fact that they'll want me to marry someone from my own kind. I've met someone (Tamil) and I believe he is the one, I would like to spend the rest of my life with him but I know my parents would probably not accept or it will take A LOT of convincing. What do I do? I don't want to marry any one else . Because I know in Islam a marriage doesn't count if you don't have a male guardian or something

I've met someone who treats me properly and wants to convert and start practicing Islam. I've hinted to my mum already asking if she and my dad would accept me marrying a revert and her answer was no, but I cant help who I've fallen for, this man has been there for me when I needed someone to speak to, help with work etc. She also mentioned that cultural differences is something that will ruin our marriage, but that's something I'm willing to work through. I've done my research and I've read that Islam is against racism and I should be able to marry someone as long as they're Muslim etc and personally if my child wanted to get married to a revert I would accept it because I'd be happy that he found Allah. I'm scared my parents will not accept and I have no idea how to bring this up to them? I know that this man is the one for me, I don't want to be with someone else , so I really would like him to be accepted but I'm scared . What should I do

Been married to my husband for 8yrs and this Valentine's Day again he didn't got me anything or even acknowledged me. I would of been happy with him telling me happy Valentine's Day.b For the last couple of years it has been the same no matter what the occasion is. It bothers me because I pay bills and rent and I still get him gifts. I have told him how I feel but does nothing to change. It is not about gifts that I'm upset but the fact that he doesn't make any attempts to make me feel special on those days. I honestly feel he doesn't care about me or my feelings. It really hurts me that he is like that especially when I see other guys treating their significant other during Valentine's Day. This year it was hard because every client house that I went they had their vday gifts on display and to me it was a reminder how unappreciated I feel. I feel angry and i am starting to resent him. I told him that I wanted him to change and that that this time I want actions not words because at this point I feel used. I have a good career, make decent money, and I am back in grad school so I am the point that I feel that any other guys would love to have a women like me who will appreciate me more than he does. (I have told him in many different ways how I feel when he is like that and it never changes) Should I leave him? or what? He hasn't yet booked any appts for a marriage counselor like I asked him to do if her wanted our relationship to work. Instead he is like nothing is wrong.

So my wife let her mom stay with in our house since she went bankrupt in August. She kept getting DUI's and causing trouble with no effort of getting out. She mistreated my wife and didnt follow the rules. She moved her husband in without my consent ( I am deployed). Her mom let her use her ipad since my wifes phone was broke. Well we been having conversations since I left in October, sharing credit and debit card info, my tsp info to get into my account, and my bank info. Well my wife told her to get out of the house because my wife is due for twins any day and she didn't want the drama around the babies. My wifes mom got mad and took the ipad even though my wife asked for it back to sign out of her stuff. My wifes mom had my wifes brother get the ipad so she got video of her wrestling with her brother over the ipad to try and hold that over her for charges to her advantage. Well my wifes mom went through all our conversations on several accounts that had all my private information. She kept sending me messages saying wait till I show her family all of the messages and post them as well. What should I do? I feel like my rights were violated.

My husband's uncle(uncle A) lives 2 hours away from our house and his other uncle (uncle B) and his wife visiting him soon, so my husband has to pick them up at the airport(LAX) and take them to uncle A's house. The problem is, the airport is 1 hour away to opposite direction from our house. So, it takes an hour to the airport and 3 hours to uncle A's house and 2 hours to come home, which makes 6 hours drive. Traffic is bad on the freeway most of the time, so it could take 7 - 8 hours or even more. I asked my husband if they could use the airport shuttle or ask uncle A's stepson or grandson who live next door from him, and he said I'm cold or heartless and what's wrong with me. I think it's not fair to make someone drive for 6 hours to go to airport and come back when there are many other ways. I wouldn't ask anybody to drive such a long time for me. My husband is taking a day off for this. He's self employed so it's not hard for him to take day offs, but he's been busy and we have lots of bill to pay. Uncle A is about 80 and doesn't drive anymore. Uncle B is younger and his wife is much younger than him so I think they still drive, but I guess they don't want to get a rental car. My husband asked me to come with him, but I don't know if I want to go and sit in the car all day. If you were me, would you go with him and sit in the car all day or not go? Or would you drive 6 hours or longer if you were asked to do this? Thank you everybody, I've decided to go and hang out with them.

We were best friends and we never fought. Up until a few years ago when he had a pill addiction which graduated to heroin, stealing from me and two overdoses. Leaving me devistated and not sure what to do. He then went away to rehab for a month and seemed ok for the past year when he came home. I was so happy, he was finally able to home a job, we started having fun again and I was slowly trusting him again. Two months ago, I came home from work and my home was destroyed. Apparently, a toilet upstairs overflowed and it ruined my entire home. He happens to be in the restoration business so he quick got people there and hired a public adjuster. We had to live in a hotel and now an apartment. But here is the kicker, since the flood he has been downright mean. Short with me on the phone, hardly here always working. When I ask questions about the house, he gets irrated. No work has started there yet. Last week, he was a no call/no show for his very important doctor visit for his vivitrol shot which has been helping him stay clean. When I found out that he didn t go or even bother to cancel because he said he was tied up with work, we argued in a text. He said I m on my own and I can get his name off the house. Then after work, he storms in the apartment, takes clothes and goes to live in his dads basement for a week now. I tired to go there and talk to him, he yells and dismisses me. Then he will text saying he will come here to talk and never does. I flipped out again and now he threatened about bill money and hasn t come to drop that off either. He isn t communicating with me at all and our home is in ruins. I have constant knots in my stomach and I don t know what to think. I just need to vent somewhere, thanks for listening .

I just don't want to see them