I'm scared of losing my virginity and I'm about to marry this guy in 2 months. I told him I wanted a virgin marriage and then he got pissed. What should I do? I'm so scared of having sex it's one of my biggest phobias. I want to stay a virgin for life. I'm 25 years old. Sex scares me to death. I cry at the thought of having sex.

Hi everyone I need some solid (preferably Christian) advice. I'm 21 and he is 22. We've been dating for just over five years, we both have university degrees, I'll be getting my postgrad degree next year and we both have good jobs. I'm a teacher at a private school and a tutor and he is a pharmaceutical sales rep. I'm qualified to be a medical rep myself. We have a really good cars that are completely paid off. Together we earn enough to buy a house and to maintain our lives together. We have a budget plan and I have already saved almost all of my target half for a wedding. Being in a relationship without sex is hard and we don't want to get married for the sake of lust but it does effect us sometimes not having that intimacy. My parents want me to wait another five years but I don't think I can do that. Although we've had downs, our relationship brings a lot of freedom. I have my ducks in a row and so does he. We know each other inside out and spend every day together - I cook; he takes out the trash and packs the dishwasher, I mop the floor; he takes care of the dogs; we praise God together; we budget together; we save and spend together and we still have lives outside each other. I don't want to disappoint my parents but they have too much control over my relationship! I'm only allowed out until about 22:00 once a week and 19:00 the other days. He has to leave my house at 22:00 and we aren't allowed to touch each other. It's driving me crazy. What should we do?

My husband works swing until midnight, and he commutes so he doesn't get home until about one. He eats dinner and goes to bes and usually sleeps until ten the next morning. Tomorrow is his day off but his work decided he needs to cover the morning shift tomorrow. He would have to get up at about 5. I told him I m not letting him go to work on two to three hours of sleep. I take healthful sleep very seriously and I am not okay with this. I know some people work doubles and stuff but he already works 8.5 hours a day and I won t allow this. Am I being unreasonable a and controlling?

My cats were coming close to breaking my collectables so I put then in a deep, supposed to be safe, bureau drawer. My husband said he wouldn't put anything on them but he did and broke 3 of them. These 3 collectables are $500 - $700 now that they are retired models and can never be replaced.

I am 22 and everyone is engaged at my age here in Alabama. Maybe some of them will suffer a miscarriage or a divorce so that we won't have to hear about her perfect their lives are. It is not my fault that the girls were too dumb to buy condoms and get on birth control. It is so ******* annoying. What happened to finishing college and becoming something other than a baby making machine?

I'm a 21 year old guy and I don't believe in marriage. I don't see how it benefits men in any way. I tried explaining this to some coworkers and they thought I was crazy. Its just that there is a legal contract in it where you can lose everything to the woman in court and these girls today don't seem like marriage material at all. Does anyone else think this to?

He's a gym teacher at my daughters school and I noticed he was very playful and flirting with me. A year later we got a little close. I asked him if he had a girlfriend and he said no. Then his story changed to he was actually married but they were getting a divorce. I don't remember at the time when exactly he finally told me he was married and etc because we already slept together. I started to blow him off because something about him didn't sit with me. I was wanting to have an actual relationship but I was noticing he only called/texted when he wanted sex. I started blowing him off. So we haven't been intimate in months and the other day I got a call from his wife telling me to stop calling/texting him which is very shocking because I don't even call/text this guy. I don't know what to do or think because the way she's coming off is like I'm still trying to be with him and I'm not. All I am is being friendly if I bump into him but nothing more. The way I acted never changed regardless...he's the one that would try to ask me on the low if he can see me or for me to call him or he'll call me. I don't know if he feeling upset that I stopped seeing him and he told her my info or she got it from other school trachers because she said she told some teachers to look out. I haven't seen him since, it's like he's avoiding me which is fine because I have nothing to say to him. I just need some insight

I am 19 and my wife is 16 but we are legally married in tn. We veleive she is pregnant and I am wondering if there is a way that i could still get in legal trouble even though we are legally married

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His hormones are low which is making him angry also the alcohol so he left the house couple days ago and supposibly a divorce can make a son behave bad is this true I read an article or can I be happy since he caused so much problems or am I suppose to be mad

My company offered me a post in Thailand. With a promotion and a salary raise. It's a great offer. I'd be insane to refuse, but my wife doesn't want to go there. She wants to stay here. I don't know what to do now.

Me and my wife were watching the movie channels she saw the commercial for the movie The Shallows she said we are not watching that. She hates sharks she doesn't like shark movies the only one she really likes is Jaws. She said sharks are her biggest fear. Her family went to North Carolina a few years ago she didn't swim much because she was nervous about sharks. Then a couple years ago there was a shark attack right there at their hotel she said she's never going back to the ocean. She had a friend who is obsessed with the movie Soul Surfer she made her watch it she had nightmares she was little at the time. She wouldn't get in the shower , the pool or even drink water she wanted nothing to do with water for a long time she wouldnt even go fishing. Shw was too scared. To this day shes still scared of sharks. Shes glad she doesn't live near an ocean. Shes even nervous to swim in the river. She has a daughter from a previous marriage she's 4 she doesn't know what to do if a shark came after her or herself. I can't tell her it's a movie because shark attacks do happen. She said now that she saw it shes afraid she'll have nightmares again shes 8 1/2 months pregnant with our son. How can I help her feel better ?

I have full sole custody of my 5 year old son . His mom is not in our lives and she lives in another state. I also have a 1 year old daughter and she lives with her mom. Recent we been on the downs and she wants to take me for child support. I'm worried because I don't know if with her taking for support will effect me taking care of my son. My salary is only $36,000 and I currently have been giving my daughters mom $70 a week plus buying other things. She says that's not enough smh. I told her we don't need to go through child support but she wants to. She says the money isn't enough and even though I give it to her every Friday's she doesn' want to wait until later on fridays when I give it to her (even though she's getting on Friday smh) So I told her to get a bank account and I'll put it in when I get paid smh. I feel like she being difficult.

boy/girlfriends & spouses? Besides, the obvious, meaning blood relations, what are the similarities in the relationships between siblings/cousins to spouses/boy/girlfriends?

I tried being easy on her, but she sucks at playing video games

My husband moved out we are getting divorced. We have a daughter. He told me he wants nothing to do with me or my daughter and wants to sign off his rights. (I'm fine with this.) Then, he called me insisting he wanted to see her. (I have no problem with that either.) He then told me he is going to call the police and insist I "abducted" our daughter to spite me. I've went to the police and asked if I could go out of state with my daughter to my parents house. (I don't feel safe) They said it was fine. I called to give him one last opportunity to see his daughter before I leave for 2 weeks. He flipped out said I was abducting our child, he's getting a restraining order and that he's now going to file for full custody. This is crazy I feel like this is a "control" thing. I want to leave the area as I'm scared of him. Any advice?

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My husband and I have been married for 6 and a half years. We have been together since 2002. He went to prison while I was pregnant with twins in 2005, he got out 2008. His ex mistress, told me he only married, because I asked for child support in 2009, because I work and will take care of him. She told me he started pursuing her late 2013, and they started sleeping together March 2014. We went through a two year separation, filed for divorce, got back together, broke up because I found out he was still sleeping with her. We separated last March, I filed for divorce in August and ended up together and had the marriage abated in November. As soon as I did, the woman contacted me and said that they were still seeing each other and that she will break it off with him, because he will not let her go and that he loves her and he said your mine after finding out she went on a date with another man. I wanted to work on my marriage, but I will not sleep with him. I feel he played both sides and I believe he wants her or at least wants to sleep with her, because we fight everyday. I think he leaves me and he goes sleep with her and when he's done, he comes back to me. She told me financially, she won't take care of him and he's waiting for housing to come through because he's on disibility and just using. I feel that everytime he comes back, its not for long and he's resentful. What should I do because even if I don't want him, I don't want her to have him. I'm trying to let go.

My wife and I disagree about mass effect. I feel that it s a great sci-if shooter outside the love interests. She hates the games solely based off of the "sex" scene which wasn t anything worthwhile apparently. She doesn t want me to own or play it, but I don t feel it s worth arguing over, but I want to know why she hates it so much. When I ask I don t get an answer other than that she "just doesn t like it". Am I wrong for not wanting to cave?

Okay so I went to pizza night with my friend n his family n his bro and best friend (we'll just call him dude) and during it I could tell dude sat next to me right away and asked me who I was and tried to make conversation here and there. Then we went back to my friends family's house to play video games for a couple hours and of course dude sits next to me the whole time n it looked like he was closer to me then his friend. He started asking me some personal questions like if I work then I asked him if he works he's like yea I'm like where n he says dominoes with a big smile at me lol plus I noticed he would laugh at me and the things I say like if I acted a lil awkward or shy he laughed idk if he thought it was cute but during the game he'd always be on my side and against everyone else lol anyway I'm just wondering if it was flirting or just being nice?

A few months back my fiance started watching porn because i wouldnt perform oral sex on him when he wanted me to.. (I always do it) and i got really angry when i found out. He says he didnt get off and right after he tried in the bathroom me not knowing i did it for him anyway!!! Later that day i asked to borrow his phone and he wouldnt let me i asked if he was hiding something and he told me why. I was pissed.... A month or two before though i did the same thing and it was lesbo porn i was curious he found it on my phone and got really upset almost broke up with me but didnt.. Now everytime we watch a movie and there's a sex scene or woman nudity i think of him watching porn and it makes me SO MAD! I told him i didn't want him to he said he doesnt anymore but idk... One night we were at dinner and i SWEAR i saw him staring at a girls *** she had short shorts on but looked really young. . i was pissed and asked him why he got upset cause he said he didn't but i swear to god i catch him looking at girls asses and looking at girls and it really just makes me mad. Im pregnant so in the summer time when i have a big belly hes gonna look at other girls with flat stomachs who look good and i wont.. It makes me angry thinking about it. Im the only woman he should check out. I bet when im not with him he does all the time. I swear i catch him and he denies it. Of course!!!!!

Last night I was talking to my husband about when I lost my virginity (we ve talked about it before but never in detail). We were joking Around about something over the phone and that subject came up. I told him about how I was sexually assaulted at age 13 by someone who was 30. My sister was also sexually abused by our step dad, but I never thought it affected me. I blocked it out. Just some background info: My husband is deployed. He is a marine. Now moving on...he wanted to open up about his own personal experience similar to mine. He told me an older cousin of his had sexually assaulted him by forcing anal on him and two other older cousins forced him to perform oral on them. I WAS SHOCKED and furious with these men. I asked him to please tell me their names since they are family. He said one of the names and I realized that s one of the cousins he is still close with. I FREAKED OUT!!! I asked him why? He said because he forgave them. We believe in God and believe that God can heal anything/anyone. After that, I saw his cousins fb page and they liked each others pictures, posts, and all I could think was "is he bi sexual?" And ....now.... I know I can t divorce. I love him but what am I supposed to do? I prayed and prayed. I cried all night. I need advice or someone who is humble and can talk to me about this. And no my only concern is NOT him being gay or bi, but I have a three yr old from my previous marriage, and my husband and I just got married last yr Oct. It has been feeling like a nightmare because the things that happened to him as a boy, he has acted out with me. He would say stuff that make me uncomfortable but I just let him say it since it turns him on. Such as; (I wanna sit on your face and F your mouth, I would like you to lick my butt, I wanna rape your P and make you cry, etc)

My wife and I have pretty good jobs, eveytime we see family they ask "hows work going?", I'm pretty cut and dry, "work is fine." but my wife likes to get into detail like our salaries and bonuses I make. I live in the south and my family is up north so seeing them is not very often. Well, her brother she hasn't seen in 20 yrs found her on Facebook, and they are planning a trip to come over this way. Im sure we will be talking about everything but how do I tell her to keep our financial part of our life private with out her getting upset.

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the child but their relationship becomes a curse? Why is this?

I remember hearing her say that she loves sports cars, especially Porches. So I did some searching for used ones and I found a really good one for sale nearby for only $30,000. I showed her the car and asked if she would like it? I thought maybe she would be happy? I just wanted to be nice to her. I remember hearing her say that she loves sports cars, especially Porches. So I did some searching for used ones and I found a really good one for sale nearby for only $30,000. I showed her the car and asked if she would like it? I thought maybe she would be happy? I just wanted to be nice to her. But this is what she said to a friend of hers in an e-mail, and I was so TOTALLY SHOCKED: ( "he tried to seduce me by saying that he can buy me a small used Porsche to drive around for $30K because it will suit my personality better. I don't care, I want my peace and the feeling that some one is always by there by my side supporting me more mentally than financially. I don't want gifts if I will have to pay for them with destruction of who I am, destruction of my dignity and pride.") I am always trying to be there for her, to listen to any problems she has, to be a helping hand, to offer my emotional support, to do whatever is needed to help her, to help solve any of her problems. And then she turns around and accuses me of destroying her dignity and pride ???? What on Earth is going on here ???? So I just would like to know if my offer to buy a new car = is that a husband who is being kind, or is it the actions of an abusive and horrible man? Her e-mail continues: (( "As for being friends, I want to know that I can be with the person who can be attracted to my personality not only the body. It may seems to you as stupid, but I it is important to me. And if it doesn't happen I feel like you are with me just to get sex, and who cares what she wants. - - - - - - - - That is why I want to see if you can be a friend, because body goes, but personality stays. If you can't take my personality and just do the things that friends can do together, than you don't see me as someone that is serious. Then why I will waste your time? You can get any peace of a$s that you want with less troubles. " ))) What is my wife talking about when she is talking about sex, friendship, and 'Piece of a$s' ??? What's going on here???

I still keep in touch with some of my ex gfs even though they're married - friends only - One of them is always nagging at me to get married and settle down etc. I told her i had enough of the dating scene plus im getting old - early 40s - So would it be rude to ask her to look for someone within her circle of friends ? Kelly..wheres the answer ? I didnt ask about your personal life, ex etc..see ya.. kelly..and i can see why he's looking for someone else.. Kelly..do u get the D on a regular basis ?

We were high school sweethearts, been together 12yrs. married 8yrs. with three children. For about 4-5 years my wife was a stay at home mom and I was the bread winner. During these years I worked and hung out with co workers for drinks, fun etc. My wife would huge on me, kiss me etc. but I didnt acknowledge it or her at the time due to stress and all the weight of responsibility I had on my shoulders to make sure we were ok financially. When I would go out she would cry, feel alone and bothered. Now the tables have turned. I work PT and I m at home with our kids more while she works 10 hour shifts and goes out with her best friend almost everyday (who lives with us). I now find myself crying and being emotional a lot because the acknowledge and affection I show her, she doesn t want it all the time and I don t know how to deal with it. I know she loves me but I really get emotionally frustrated because she s the one constantly going out having a good time and not giving me all her attention. She has really never had friends and has only been a wife and mother over the course of our marriage. How do I deal with this and not get in my feelings and allow her to live a little without being so attached?

So, my buddy at work was married for 15 years and than divorced for 4 years until his ex wife died unexpectedly. They owned a house here in Texas and had two children together. She had no will and custody of both children while living in the house. Neither were remarried after the divorce. After she passed, my buddy didn t hire a lawyer, and her brother handled her property. The brother tried to charge him to live in the house. Who is supposed to inherit her properties?

I'm a 28 year old man and my wife is also 28 but 3 months younger than me. A few days ago my wife was going for a night out with her friends. They were going clubbing together and afterwards they all went to one of their houses for a drink. I was working my night shift that night so I couldn't of accompanied her. The next morning she didn't return home and I thought she slept over at her friend's house so I didn't worry about it. It was early evening and she still wasn't back so I tried calling her but no luck. I received a call later on from the hospital saying that my wife was raped by 2 men on her way home from her friends house. Hearing this, I was devastated and I rushed to the hospital as quickly as I could. My wife had bruises all over her body and one of her ribs was broken. I was so upset to see her like this and I was angry at myself for not taking better care of her. When I got to the hospital she told me everything the 2 men did to her and the words I heard killed me. Fortunately she didn't get pregnant but seeing her suffer like this has caused me just as much pain. I haven't gone to work these past few days as I have been staying with my wife in the hospital. I have never been more upset in my life, so what I am asking of you people is what can I do to help my wife as much as possible? Thank you.

what is the best way of refreshing or starting over a relationship especially when you are married. My wife want me to start over with her and really don't know where or how to start.

I took a job at same place my husband works at. I didnt go looking for this job he called me from work asked me if i was interested and would do it 3days a week so i did. I noticed after a couple days the other women in my dept started acting wierd toward me but i just shrugged it off figuring cause i new or something and just stay focused on my job. Finally it has gotten so obvious so i asked another person who told me that the others were afraid cause i supposidly will confront them about sleeping with my husband. Its insane because i have never done that to anyone the person spreading the lie is part of management there my husband admitted to telling her i thought he was fing someone a couple months ago. He has only worked there 4 months. I just dont know what to do. He is begging me to not leave but that is non negotiable at this point prob is now i need the job i could care less about him anymore after this. It hurts i dont know how to best handle this its not fair that he would do this to me and especially after talking crap to begin with why have me go work there too?

We both hurt each other, how do we get through a difficult time in our marriage? His drinking has hurt me and has had a toll on our marriage for the past 10 years. He's improved greatly over the past few years. I hurt him because of I'm not respectful of him and how I talk to him. Over the course of our marriage, I have said very mean things to him that has hurt him. I can be controlling. He just recently told me and he said he's felt this way during our entire marriage. I know that I can be this way, he says I have improved a little... We have one son together he's a year and a half years old. I love him so much, I just want to cry I don't know what to think or do....

I don't really drink that much and I'm not hurting nobody. So what's the big deal? And why should I take orders from her higness?