My husband has been deployed for 3 months and I still have quite a few to go. I can't seem to get to sleep at night cause I'm so used to him sleeping next to me. I know it's been a while but I just can't get used to it. It's starting to effect me and I have a two year old so I really need to be rested to take care of her. I've only been getting around 4 hours a night. I just can't seem to turn my brain off so to speak to get to the point where I can really sleep well. I was doing good for a while...but not anymore. Any suggestions or words of wisdom are more than welcome.

When we argue and I want to walk away from him, he'll manhandle me as in grabs me with excessive force and doesn't want me to leave him. It never hurts and he's never left bruises. He's never actually hit me but I'm tired of all the grabbing.

The other day my husband came home with a plate . I simply asked where it came from. He shut me down and said what's the deal with me asking. A girl made him breakfast and they do that a lot at work so drop it. A couple of months ago he came home and there were women's shoes in his car. Same response. Then he lied and said they were his moms. Next day they were in the trash and he said they were from an ex before we dated. Then he asked why I didn't just trust him. I mean am I not allowed to ask why there are women's shoes in his truck? Every time something like this happens he acts like I'm a terrible person for even asking. I'm starting to feel insane.

My husband has one child from a previous marriage and then me listed as beneficiaries 50/50 on his life insurance. We had a baby last year and I am confused as to whether it would be better to leave it as is and add that if I die before my husband the money goes to our son, OR should I have my husband divide it equally among the three of us? My husband says I would need the money to pay off the house if he died... He said that he does not want his first child to get less to divide it three ways would be ripping his child off. I am concerned that our child is being lost in the process here; it just doesn't sound right. But I am unfamiliar with how these things work. I am not trying to shaft his child from his previous marriage. I am just trying to look out for our child as well. Please help. Thanks. thanks. some men feel that way but mine doesn't. his child resides w his mother but is with us on weekends...

I grew up where we did not receive tb shots. My husband has big job interview and without asking if I was ok he yelled at me. I had no idea that I had this. I have been going to different doctors and was finally diagnosed. I feel terrible and he's not speaking with me now.

My husband has a little side job where he puts up money, he does not offer me any to tend to there kids of take care of other house hold expenses. He has started to accuse me of steal ling from him lately saying that he has noticed that he has been short 30 and 50 dollars. once I have taken 25 dollars and i did tell him I let him know that I need money to buy shoes for the kids. he wanted to buy shoes for my kids nad his 3 kids and not give me a dime. I am just hurt by the act that he constantly accuses me of stealing from him when first of all we are supposed to be married. and second of all half of the time he turn around and find the money laying somewhere else, He quickly thinks that if something is missing I took it and that is really hurting my falling due to the fact that everything I get go to the kids, the house and even him never me what am i to do?

We are good friends with the neighbors who live in the house behind ours. Our Son Matthew is four and is best buds with their Son Steven. He also likes Penny who is Donald's sister who is seven. She is a very pretty little girl. They bought some new drapes for the rear of their house that we never had reason to tell them were thin which you could see thru. Yesterday after school our Son seeen over in their house where he seen Penny with her skirt off and about to go across Mommy's lap. Trust me I got him away from the window! After I sent him to play he went upstairs to his room and watched Jill give Penny a good long spanking on her panty. Matthew is corious is all about seeing Penny's satin white underpants. The only time I know of Matthew seeing her underpants was when he spent the night and she slammed her bedroom door closed in his face!! LOL!!! So he was courious about seeing Penny's satin white underpants... which he later told Donald! He told him that we seen his big sister in her underwear getting a spanking. This I am afraid will create an issue not only with Jill and I but with the kids (PENNY!) I wish that I had told Jill about the drapes when I first noticed you could see thru. What should I do now?

I have a issue and I feel so fed up because I feel I have to stress about it. My husband drives I dont. My mom everywhere she wants to go we have to take her we take her to work every night. We have a baby on the way also my husband tolled her anywhere she wants to go she has to tell him because he's the one driving not me and she got upset about it. We are in such a tight situation with money but his parents and mine don't understand that we have a baby on the way and not a savings as yet. They think you have million of dollars. Its so hard for me to tell them back off because I know they will be upset no matter how much you talk to them they don't listen. What to do any advice I am so confused?

I think some people get married for the sake of it to people the are 'settling' for and don't really have that amazing connection with anyway. Some people see marriage as the be all and end all of life. A lot of people have super depressing marriages anyway. 1. Marriage does not mean you are attractive - super hideous people get married so dont feel like you are somehow more special and more desirable than unmarried people 2. It wont necessarily make you happy So why do married people act so smug ? Why do people think it's such a huge achievement?

Our divorce was final on April 13th 2010. My ex husband was seeing a woman prior to our divorce and since the divorce has been going between two women for six months now. My two boys who are ages 14 and 12 never know which woman will be with their dad when they spend every other weekend with him. He never spends the weekends alone with the boys. And now this past weekend he was with a third woman in the presence of the boys. I feel he setting a very bad example for his children. We have a 19 year old daughter who is very disappointed in her dad's activities with woman. He has a bad drinking problem and smokes heavily. He drinks freely in front of his children and has no problem driving while drinking with his children in the vehicle. He pays reduced child support and spends large amounts of money in the bars. This is all very frustrating and I just want to protect my children. I am always cooperative with him and letting him see the boys whenever it's convenient for him. During the summer months my ex has a camper at a resort next to a bar. My boys have told me that their dad allows them to spend evenings in the bar when a band is playing. Otherwise my ex goes to the bar and leaves the boys alone at the camper or freely roaming the campsite. My children live with me and have a structured home. I have been with the same man for 2 years, we do not drink or smoke. He has been an excellent father figure to my children and they respect him. Is there any legal action I can take? Can the court order him not to drink in the presence of his children and what about all the woman he is exposing his children to? I am very worried about my children's safety and well being. Please advice of how I should proceed.

My husband's been working night shift for 10 years, we have been physical except once every other month or so and it is not very long...maybe 5 mins. Could it be due to stress? He says he's still very much in love with me and thinks I'm attractive still, but I don't understand it. I offered to go to the bedroom the other day while our daughter was spending the night at a friends house and we were watching a movie, he literally turned me down bc "he didn't want to miss the movie"....I've never been in this situation before and was hoping for some advice from people in long term relationships or people with spouses who work midnights or in law enforcement. Please, I'm really confused and what he did really hurt. Thanks in advance.

is when the boy begins to masturbate.

I have these friends that are married. The woman is a number 10. I masturbate to pictures of her and fantasize about her. What do you think her husband would think of it or what would any husband think of someone masturbating to pictures of their wife?

I've been married for 10 years and I have 2 children. I love my husband dearly but there is no sexual attraction on my part. Wr got together when we were young and I wasn't very much into sex at all then so it didn't make a difference to me because I didn't have that urge with anyone. I do fancy my husband but he just doesn't get my heart racing. As I've gotten older obviously I'm more into sex and me and my husband have experimented with a lot however there is only one thing that actually turns me on and that is cheating. I don't know why because the thought of getting caught fills me with dread but at the same time I can't get enough. It would kill my husband if he knew and I know he would never agree to it and to be honest it would probably take away the excitement if he did know... I don't know what to do I feel so bad but I don't want to divorce. What is wrong with me??

Right now I feel like I'm in a pressure cooker and that I've become karma's personal kick toy. My marriage is ending - and my wife is laying all the guilt and anger on me she can muster. I'm building my dream home that I've put my heart and time into trying to finish - which I'll probably complete just in time to lose it in my impending divorce. My current house isn't selling and I might have to carry two mortgages somehow until it does, and my work is going through a big merger creating lots of job uncertainty and craziness. I feel like I need something in my life to not suck and need to feel even a little normal for just a while. Today I felt like I was just simply going to implode. Has anyone else felt like this sometimes? How you deal when it seems like everything in your life is falling apart?

Okay so.... my husband typically goes to the bathroom 4-7 times a day and takes 45 mins to an hour each time. Some times longer. But each time he comes out he will have a full erection. He claimes that it is because he gets one when he uses the restroom however he makes sure he always has his phone with him. He also never has one after he uses the bathroom when we are out or not at home. When I ask him or look at his erection he gets very defensive and mad at me. He has cheated before so now I m kinda wondering if he s cheating again or watching porn in there... or maybe I m just paranoid..? I m really trying to make our marriage work after him cheating but everything I see him walk out the bathroom I get very angry and upset and it makes it hard to move on. Help

It seems now it is very common for married couples to share a double/queen bed, however, in older shows like I love lucy it always shows married couples sleeping same room but in 2 single beds, and I remember now my grandparents would sleep in separate beds and sometimes separate rooms. Was it more traditional back then for a married couple to sleep in separate beds?

We would never do this for real. I saw this as a fantasy for women didn't think it was true. I saw this as a fantasy for women didn't think it was true.

Several years ago my daughter set up a bank account because she had a summer job and wanted to deposit her paychecks. She went to the bank my wife and I had our accounts. A little while later I left that bank and set up an account at another bank while my wife and daughter stayed there. When she went off to college we decided to set her up an account so we could add money to her account. Given that she was still at my wife's bank my wife set up the acct as a student account with her being the primary so that when the bank card came it was in her name and not my daughter's. Since this is my daughter, her step daughter I took the card and have had it in my wallet ever since. If she needed money I'd just go deposit some in the ATM and call it a day. My wife knew and have known for several years that I've had the card. A few days ago we noticed some fraudulent activity on the account so I called the bank to have the card closed and re-issued under a new number. Since my name wasn't on the account my wife had to call. She emailed me asking for the card number and PIN. When I gave that to her she asked me was that the original PIN. I told her no that I changed it to something more familiar to me. This was her reply. "Well it's a shame that I don't know the PIN. Once you took it over, you just took it. That is the only card I have once I helped set it up. So I don't have a Wells Fargo debit card." Again, 2 years later my wife is questioning why she doesn't have access to the card or the PIN. She's never put money into her account. All she did was set up the account since her and my daughter were still at the same bank. She's been with me with I've gone to the ATM on several occasions but now she wants to make an issue out of not having a card. Anything I have she feels she's gotta have. We don't need multiple cards for the same account. I have one to put money in here and my daughter has one to get money on her end. Why does my wife feel she needs to control everything?

I'm a model and thinking about doing it

I've been married for 6 years now my husband has a neck disability 14 years.when we first got married he explained it was like a nerve feeling in his neck now its a nerve feeling with lots of pressure pulsing throughout his neck and head. I noticed as time went on he became nastier, even though he had appointments to get cat scans MRI and see a neurologist he did not go to these appointments even though his problem is as severe as he says. He wont get his prescription from the doctor or get his medication from the pharmacy I do. He wont talk to anyone that has to do with bills or important things. I do most cleaning, budgeting, cooking, and errands. He does shopping 1 day at a time and stays up from 7pm-11am playing video games or watching TV if I ask him to get up to regulate his schedule or to try to get him to appointments I have made for him he screams "Leave me the f alone I have an fing neck problem I need sleep you stupid B" I try to be as patient as I can even spend lots of money on him buying him things he likes thinking it will make him comfortable. Lately I am so frustrated and almost at the end of my rope he has started this new thing saying he thinks he might have cancer, I cannot say yes or no as he will not make an effort to see whats wrong with him. I dont know if I am wrong in saying this but thats why I asked this question, I dont understand why he is treating me this way most days I go hold my dog and cry wanting to leave him. Any advice welcome. Thanks.

My husband insists I have nothing to worry about, but his 23 year old secretary has her sights set on him and I'm concerned it's not as harmless as he claims. The girl flirts with him in front of my face. Every time I go to his office I notice she's wearing inappropriately short skirts and low cut tops. She'll come into the office while I'm in there and make herself obvious in some way and sometimes she'll even say things about my outfit like, my mother has those same shoes or where did you get that top, I think my mom would love it, obviously to make me feel like I'm old enough to be her mother, which I'm not really. I'm 38 so I would have had her when I was 15 in that case. I want to ask my husband to fire her but I don't think he will consider it. How else could I handle this?

I share children with my ex husband. I remarried to years ago and my husband is great with my kids. I am friends with my ex husband because we share children together and i attend sporting events, kids events together with my ex husband. My husband is fine with this however my ex husband will even come over to our house and hang out while my husband is not there to see his kids. This is where my husband draws the line. My husband has said he's fine with me having a good coparenting relationship with my ex however he doesn't want him hanging out at our house especially when he's not home. Is my husband being controlling?

I can't understand why my wife continues to accuse me of being unfaithful to her. I have never cheated on her in our 25 years of marriage. I try to reassure her that I love her and that I'm not the kind of person to do this kind of thing, but she continues to accuse me of wanting to have affairs with any woman who I even hold a casual conversation with. I had seen warning signs of her behavior when we first got married, but I was always able to reassure her, and try to make her see the common sense truth, that I am only interested in her. In the past, her accusations were just a flare-up, and then I might not hear anything like that for a few months or a year. Lately the accusations go on day by day, and have periods of intensity on her part. I try to be reasonable and rational.....but I hate to be accused of doing things I have not done, nor desire to do. Eventually I end up walking away, or trying to go to another room to escape the intense name calling and downgrading. I don't downgrade her, or call her names at all because I don't want to intensify the conflict, but this tactic doesn't seem to be working either. She is in menopause, but I don't believe that is a total reason behind this, although it might have something to do with the frequency of it, when compared to years ago. Her name calling, and accusations are beginning to wear me down, and wear me out. Every day is becoming a struggle to do my job, and then to face going home. Night time is the worst. She has trouble sleeping, and then wakes me up to begin the name calling, downgrading, and accusations. I couldn't even count the hours of sleep I have lost because of this. She has also begun to use the frequency of sex, or the lack thereof as proof that I am cheating. How can anyone feel like making love when they are constantly being attacked and accused of bad things like this. It becomes a self fulfilling prophesy. I don't know what to do anymore. There have been many times I have gone into a room by myself and just sat with tears rolling down my face. She refuses to go to counseling. It has gotten so bad, that almost anything can trigger the cycle. A wrong number call by a woman, mere talking to a dental hygenist, any conversation with any woman is enough to do it. I don't know what to do anymore. I still love my wife, but I feel like I'm in defensive mode all the time. I have no friends, and I don't spend time with anyone but her. It doesn't make sense, and I'm rapidly losing confidence in myself, and don't know where this is all headed. It is so frustrating, and painful, and I'm lost as for answers.

How would u handle constantly being accused of things your not doing, from ur significant other? Iys a difficult situation bc what if this person doing the accusing is great in all other ways, trustworthy, hard worker, extremely intelligent, funny, good looking, very loving to u n kids, good morals, just all around great person. But they are always accusing u of things ur not doing. Like in my instance, im accused of always trying to get attention from our neighboor, whos spouse is my friend. If i come outside and our neighbor happens to be outside, "i went outside bc i supposivly knew they were out there and i just went outside for their attention n so i could see them". N it crazy bc i dont even find this person attractive, n im a loyal friend n would never do that to that persons spouse! Its getting ridiculous the things i get accused of...n its drivong me nuts. But other then that my spouse is awesome n we have a good relationship. I tried talking to gim about it but he insist he KNOWS i do these things n he says of coarse i wont admit it. But I AM NOT DOING THESE CRAZY STUPID CHILDISH THINGS. Advise plz!

We have an 18 year marriage and three teenage daughters. My husband was caught by our 13 year old daughter watching pornography. He lied to her about it and she remembered the site he was on and was exposed to the images. She held on to this info for two months until he was out of town to tell me because she was scared of knowing this was pretty bad. I confronted him right away and he denied everything. Then I went to the computer history and found lots and lots of usage as well as him seeking out horny sex partners on craigslist. I am sickened beyond belief. The kids won't talk to him and I'm doing all the parenting right now. He denies every meeting anyone on craigslist and that he was just looking. To me that shows intent especially with the kind of sick porn he was watching. I'm so confused right now. I've been going to counseling with him but I can't get over this and the lack of trust. My girls want me to divorce him. He tells me if I leave I can't be a stay at home Mom anymore. He claims he's changed and now see's clarity and wants to start anew. He also says he was just depressed. However he's 52 and knows better. I would love to hear some advice as I'm so upset and feel stuck with all of these lies.

I want to marry an IIT Bombay boy. I want a boy who can understand me, teach me how to code and be a kind hearted, obidient person. I am by nature an ambitious person, but my own family is not very supportive...I don't know why but life is unfair so yeah. I want to start a company and I am 25 years and trying to teach myself how to code. Eventually, I want to start a company with lots of help from my husband and I want him to understand ME. I dream, breathe about my ambitions. Do you think I'll find one? I have dreams and I don't mean to impose my ambitions on my husband. I want him want the same thing as me- a go with the flow guy.

Been married twenty years, my wife joined a bowling club 8 months ago she goes there on Fridays She started buying fancier clothes and putting lots of make up on She gets back later and later. I've noticed she has started faking orgasms so she can finish me early. We normally make love for an hour, I always wait for her to come first She moans and thrusts her hips after 5 minutes but there are none of the usual gripping vaginal spasms on my c ok. I am convinced she is seeing someone but am afraid to ask Advice

She is Korean, med 50's.

So i have a girlfriend but i was at the bar with some buddies. This girl was talking to me and it seemed harmless at first. She knew i had a girlfriend as i told her early on in the night. Next thing i know she says oh what i would do to you if you were single. For some reason i simply asked, oh what would you do, tell me. She proceeded to tell me and she gave me a kiss on the cheek and left. I txted the girl that same night for 10 min and that was the end of it. I know this was very inappropriate behavior since i have a girlfriend. Is this considered cheating, should i tell my girlfriend