Ive been with my girlfriend for over a year and every time she gets mad at me or we have a fight she takes a trip out of town to visit her male platonic friend that I have never met and she stays with him for several days. They grew up together. I dont think she is having an affair, he is unattractive and very short, but I believe she knows he will give her attention she wants. The last time she did this we got into a fight over money (she spent a bunch of money without telling me) then she took the trip to see him an didnt include me. Should I forgive her? She says she can go visit whomever she wants and I should trust her and stop being jealous.

I share a house with my divorced brother, we have our own apartments, his divorce was nasty, I helped him through it financially, emotionally, and processed lots of paperwork which took over a year to complete. Now 12 years later he wants to move some of his ex-wife's family into the house even though we agreed at the time of his divorce that they weren't allowed in the House. In other words, be reconciled with them, but I didn't, so now I am the bad guy who doesn't want them here and they are all best friends now! I am so disgusted I want to sell the house and move far away.

My husband and I got married last year in April, well we had our interview for his green card in October of 2016, well we found out he got denied.. well recently I ve been thinking of divorcing him because he s so controlling and emotionally abusive, and he blamed the denial on me.. im 22, and he s 23.. I really did love him at one point but he s changed so much .. he threatened me saying if i try to file for divorce, he s going to call immigration and say I asked for money for him to get his green card.. basically try to say it was fraud.. when it wasn t.. i am still filing for divorce though.. would immigration really believe him, if he says something like that? I am just wanting to move on with my life and be happy .. i am done. and what will happen to him if we get divorced? am i going to prison? i know it sounds silly but i am a general paranoid person.. and all i want to do is divorce him.. i dont care about his green card or him anymore..

Could You Kill Someone?

My dad repeatedly uses his hand on my back to push/control where I go and I've asked him to stop, but he says that it's my fault that I'm not affectionate enough. He also grabs the back of my neck to the point where I can hear the blood rushing in my ears. I've asked him to stop, same story, except one time he squeezed really hard and then let go. He is emotionally abusive, which i can deal with, but I guess I just don't know the extent of what he's done, because its all I've known.

My boyfriend is going to counseling this morning with his wife and while I know how he feels about going, I still can't help but feel insecure. Does he still care about her? Does he not care about me? He didn't want to go but I told him maybe he should because a counseler was who told my parents that they weren't going to make it work and so I said maybe it'd be the same for him and then his wife wouldn't be as upset when they split because she'd feel like at least he put in an effort before hand and tried everything before they got divorced. They have two kids so he wants everything to be good between them of course. So he's going into the the counseling session hoping that maybe with a professional there it'll help sort out the fact that they just aren't working. I'm doing my best to be supportive but even still I feel upset right now just because it does hurt that he his married to someone else. This is exactly the kind of thing you can talk to anyone about and I'm sure people here will still judge the situation even though they don't know the whole thing, they only know what I choose to write in this tiny box. But either way, I'm sitting here alone crying while he is at counseling with his wife and I just need somewhere to write.

Dealing with a spiteful husband. Constantly he lives by this motto. There are a lot of happy times. But, this spiteful was does not help with any insecurity issues I have. I'm told don't be insecure or give me a reason to be spiteful and he won't. Also told if you want to be insecure I'll give you something to be insecure about. I tell myself I have nothing to worry about. He's not a cheater or anything of the sort but it's little things if he feels wronged he will purposefully do something back to me. I just feel lost during times like these.

I was a very difficult teen and my mother says it was the stress of that which caused them to fall apart. They divorced when I was 20. They both had different ways of handling me and fought about it. I am 41 now and still feel so guilty. Did I cause their divorce like my Mom says (and some of my extended family has said this)? There is no doubt as a teen I was very difficult. I'd been bullied in grade school so in high school I was a people pleaser and vented my anger at home.

Haha? Dunno if I am scared or exacted, lol, kidding just excited.

For my mental well being I need an honest and accurate answer. And if I will marry, WHEN? Depression and anxiety. They would be so much at ease if i knew for a fact that I am getting married. Im 35 and have not even a prospect. Depression and anxiety. They would be so much at ease if i knew for a fact that I am getting married. Im 35 and have not even a prospect. Depression and anxiety. They would be so much at ease if i knew for a fact that I am getting married. Im 35 and have not even a prospect. I am a woman. No guy wants me why? for a level of companionship that you cant get from just a friend, or from a mere relationship.

My wife is feeling upset shes afraid I might leave her pr something will happen to me. How can I comfort her ? What should I say to her ?

We're going to a new counselor next week. I'm trying to gather my thoughts.

My husband is a big guy, tall and muscular, but I don't like to get him upset, and I don't want him punching people, for obvious reason he could get hurt or go to jail... However as a woman in a sick world I will encounter men who are sexually harassing me or even something worse... Ever since I met my husband my instinctive response will be to say, my husband will kill you. I was raped 5 years ago and before he raped me I said get your hands of me I'm telling John about this, he will kill you, I am looking at dead man. He raped me anyway and then he threatened to kill my husband, bf at the time if I go to the police and I am left with this retarded notion that I gave him the idea to go after my husband. Well, he couldn't hurt my husband and we did eventually put him in jail, but is it wrong then when a men tries to be sexually or physically violent to me in words, or action, I immediately start threatening him with my husband. Is that wrong? I never had a husband, I sort of lived secluded in a poly family, I had 4 bfs and I never went anywhere without them. I know weird, but that's how I lived. I was very protected and apparently sheltered. There's some sick men out there. Do other wives do this? Also my husband has type one diabetes and epilepsy, and he think that's why i don't like him to fight, but no, he's so big and fit that even with health issues he can take on any man who hasn't got a gun, but sometimes some men will have a gun, I just don't want him fighting, yet my first instinct if a man tried to dehumanise me or violate me is, John will kill you. Is this normal, do all wives feels this way? I don't know why I say it because he can't kill people it's illegal, I guess it's just shorter than saying my husband will put mask on an beat you The Town Ben Affleck style. No no, if a guy harasses me or tries degrading me. Not if a guy flirts and says stuff but takes no for an answer, I'm not a complete psycho. If a guy tried harassing me, debasing me with words or assaults me sexually. If he does bad s'hit, but am I putting my husband in danger or is ti normal to feel your husband is your protector. Women please share some insight?

They fought all day long. From 8 am to 11pm. And yet they're still together!! How and why?

Scaring them is OK, hitting is for the perverts. I can handle words, just for physical reasons cannot handle physical violence.

I'm very anxious and depressed right now. I can't talk to anybody about it. Because people will judge. It's not that I don't want that baby. I'm just not sure if I can handle the responsibility.

My husband and I haven't been happy in a long time. I have been trying to work it out but he didn't want to, and I've been saying let's just divorce. He was okay with it. He's been going out a lot and not coming home until the next day. Just recently he admitted that he gave out his phone number to another woman (supposedly a year or two ago). He's been so dedicated to not letting me tell him what to do, or in adulting terms "compromise," that I find it so weird the quick turn around. He said it was because something just hit him. I feel like calling bs. I feel like the quick turnaround is because he did something he shouldn't have. Or am I just paranoid?!!

I'm not saying it's all his fault but is part of his board is they would've kept working on their marriage had they not had him. He's real sensitive and complained about their fighting where is there other two kids are fine and I didn't have to worry about it. He had Aspergers so it was taking a toll on him.The other two kids were not as upset by it is they function normally. So while I would never publicly blame him is it fair to say that part of this is his fault because he exists? Even though the majority of it is the husband and wife?

Wont let me go down on her then which she loves think she is cheating

She left her husband for me

so my daughters mother is neglectful and abusive, no im not saying that. we recently got divorced in michigan however, the childs home state is ohio so custody was never established. so when filing do i need a lawyer or can i use a paralegal to file and go down there plead my case?

Marriage is just a peice of paper, I don't need a peice of paper to show my love for someone. There's no point in wasting $10,000 for a wedding and a wedding party and cake. But for some reason she does see a point. Why can't we stay the way we are now. We're happy the way we are now. Marriage is just a waste of money

I don t think I would honestly mind. Is it just my freaky side?

I have a gym about 1/2 mile from my home, but I want to go to a gym that is on my way home about 15 away. What is a good reason to tell her without her thinking I'm cheating?

So this guy and I developed a friendship that's made in heaven. We are somewhat attracted to one another but I'm married so we agreed to be friends. I see him when my husband is at work. We have luch, laugh and just talk. One of my friends told me that this is just wrong because I may develop feelings for him. I love this guy but not in any romantic sense. He is 26 and I'm 41. We talked about girls that he liked and even introduced me to his potential girlfriends and his daughter. Am I wrong for being his friend?

I'm 25, married for 3 years, and married to a soldier deployed for the second time in the middle east. For context, before my wedding night I was a virgin. In fact no man had ever seen me nude. I've also been very hard on people who cheat on spouses while deployed in danger zones, going so far as to write a blog post the first time my husband was deployed, claiming that doing so was tantamount to treason, and that if I had my way the cheating party would be tried as such. My husband is currently on his second deployment. I had no intention to do what I did. I've always been a very sexual person, but also very faithful, both to my husband and my morals. This morning a neighbor was over helping me fix my leaky toilet, and we started talking about a variety of things. I was lonely and missing sex, and before I knew it. Well, you can connect the dots. I feel horrible. I feel like a total whore. I also, honestly, I feel like I committed treason, and I wrote the public blogpost to argue that what I did constitutes treason! What do I do now? Tell him? Not tell? I feel incredibly guilty and think he deserves to know. But I also am quite certain it'll be the end of our marriage, not to mention it'll hurt him beyond words. I don't know what to do.

I don't want her back. But, I get upset when I see semi-nude photos of her on dating sites. What do I do? Should I try to go for full custody since she is f*cking other men on the days I have our daughter? We are not married. Glad I didn't marry her. She broke up with me 2 weeks ago and now I want full custody. So far, I have visitations, 3 times week. But I'm tired of being civil with her. She just wants to get f*cked by random guys on the internet. She doesn't have men around my child. It's the fact that she has semi nude pics on her profile. I don't like it, it stresses me out to know my child's mother is a hoe.

Like does it ever cross your mind to think about other women suggestively? Female friends, random co-workers, etc. Do these feelings subside as time goes on?

I feel like I can handle the work and study... just have assignments due and need to study late. My wife has been on my back to do an assignment for her because her English isn't very good. Well, tonight she was angry because I've been staying awake until 1 or 2am trying to work hard. She wants me to sleep at 12 no matter what and try to concentrate on trying to conceive instead. I couldn't perform tonight because she was talking divorce and sending her parents home so that she can sleep in the other bedroom... Nothing was working to get me properly in the mood after those hurtful comments. She also mentioned that another of her colleagues is pregnant (knowing full well that we are struggling with my fertility issues as I was tested to have lower than normal morphology). The fertility issues are being investigated but I feel l am to blame for us not having a child when everyone else is having no trouble. I sometimes tell myself that maybe I'm not the right man for her if it turns out I won't be able to get her pregnant. I am aware of ICSI and IVF if needed. I sometimes struggle to get in the mood. Especially when she acts hostile and treats it as an act and not something done out of love. I made the decision to go back to uni to work towards a second degree. I started it only 2 years ago part time in order to improve my employment and earnings.

I'm a big introvert and my husband is the total opposite! He is type A personality and I'm a type B personality. I love staying in, but he likes going out. I'm a very shy individual, ever since I was a little girl. You'd think a girl would grow out of it when she's 22 years old right? Wrong. I feel like he has to force me to go out with him and his friends.. I don't want to be forced. I love staying at him and I love being comfortable. He says he knows who I am and he loves it but I know it bothers him that I'm shy or an introvert and very quiet. But there's just a lot of stuff going on in my mind. Maybe I have anxiety? I get really nervous meeting new people. I just want to k ow tips on how to be outgoing or extraverted/fun! Any tips.

My husband and I have been married for 14yrs we have a 13yr old daughter, He has a 21yr old daughter and I have a 22yr old son, but only our 13yr old lives with us. We always have had our ups and downs, but this past May18 2016 Wednesday morning around 3am he had an incident at home while we were sleeping and just happen to wake up to go to the bathroom and notice he was making some weird noises. I thought maybe he was having a bad dream so I started shaking him trying to wake him up and he would not wake up so I rolled him over and he was barely breathing and his eyes were rolled in the back of his head. so I called 911 and did everything they said to do to get him on the floor and do CPR until the ambulance got there, well he ended up being in ICU for 3weeks. I was there every single day between visiting hours and even stayed the night during the week. Well every sense this incident he is very mean and short tempered. He gets mad at me for everything. He says things like I should of let him die then I would of had money for everything, but I have never had anything so all I wanted was him. I worship the ground he walks on and I get nothing in return and all I want is for him to love me and show me some attention and he never does and he is always cussing at me, don't get me wrong I give it right back, but I am not going to let anyone run me over. Is that a hard request?

I have filed for child support but me and husband reconciled in less than a week after that. The court still keeps sending us letters for us to show up in court. How can I cancel my child support case? I called the court and told them about us being together again, they said we still need to show up (so they can charge us a court fee $$$), can I mail them any form to cancel this?

My husband and I are recently separated. Nothing court ordered or even filed as of yet. So we divided to split child responsibilities based on our work schedules. He is off the weekends. But with football he hasn't been choosing child/family friendly activities. He has taken to his friends house. Where there is football and beer. But justified it with the fact that there is also a pool and the people have children the same age as our kids. He has taken the m bowling where the kids have said that they bowled while he watched the tv behind the lanes and drank beer. He says that he is staying in and ask if they can stay the night. But at the last minute he wins concert tickets and leaves them home alone. Wedging the door closed with a block and a car battery. But asks the neighbor across the street to watch his house. Not letting anyone know that he won't be back til midnight. So I tell him no more. Not unsupervised. That made him mad. Verbally attacked me in front of the kids and told them that I was keeping them from him. Then he starts picking our daughter up and not taking her home. Took her with him to his friends house. So I started taking the girls to my job with me. Now he is really mad that he can't just stop by the house and say "Let's go girls". Now here is the kicker. Superbowl Sunday. He wants the girls to go with him even after I said no. but he talks like he is taking one child to get supplies for a school project Another child goes with leaving one with me. He just happens to stay done long enough for me to HAVE to leave for work. Taking the one child with me and him having to take the other two to this party of men and beer. The girls get dropped off at home before I get home from work. They say Dad made them stay in the house and watch Netflix. Messed up since my 11 year old actually likes football and spending time with Dad. Now I am considering not letting him see them at all without a court order

If my wife isn't using birth control and we just use condoms, but we don't want anymore kids, does she sound like she wants more? Or maybe because of side affects she doesn't want to?

My ex filed for divorce and didn't give me a chance to fix the things that made her to reach this decision, she met someone in parallel with filing for divorce. In my religion, she will lose custody of the children once she marries and moves to the same house with the new guy. This is good news for me because I don't trust this new guy. What I am worried about is that my daughters aged 4 and 6 are still very attached to their mom because she gets to spend the most time with them. Once I take the custody, it will be hard on them and they will miss her. From my side I am not really used to take care of girls because their mom used to shower them/ dress them/ fix their hair/ etc. If I take them I will need to bring a baby sitter to help me. I really wish things don't get this far, I am ok that they stay with their mom for many years to come as long as she doesn't marry, but if she didn't care to marry she wouldn't have filed for divorce but instead would have tried with me to save our marriage. What is gone is gone but I am just worried about the future of my two beautiful angels. For their safely I wont allow them to sleep in the same house with a stranger which is also divorced and has a boy aged 8.

This older man and I were kinda like friends and I ruined the friendship by asking him out. He seemed kinda angry. How do I win the respect back? I truly like him and was not after money or whatever. People always say I'm loyal, considerate, attractive (though now I'm thinking the latter is a lie).

The girl i love is pregnant and got married and since she is now married i hate my life and i hate her husband because he gets to be who she loves and who she wants so **** him and **** my life 8 years of effort for nothing i was never given 1 chance not even a date all she thinks of me as is "like a brother" and shes with him for 1 year and is having his kid and married and the only girl who likes me is ******* fat and ugly so if thats the best I can attract my life really does ******* suck