Family: Question: My parents still try and control me im 18?

Question: My parents still try and control me im 18?

Posted: 11 Feb 2017 01:54 PM PST

My parents still want to control me they always ask me where I'm going and what time ill be back home if i come home late they try and ground me or take my phone? I just don't get it once you hit 18 you are considered a adult they treat me like a baby i still have to do chores they still call my teachers to check on me or see if im doing bad in school i just want them to stop treating me like a kid my older brother is 25 and they didn't treat him like this growing up i don't get it they always say im still a kid ? But by law im not so Whats the deal? I don't get it but i want to run away

Question: Was what my mother did child abuse?

Posted: 11 Feb 2017 01:41 PM PST

I am now in my early 20s but growing up from a young age my mum would punch/slap me on the face when she lost her temper, often for trivial things and her reactions would be over the top. The first time I remember was when I was 4 check slapped me across the face for speaking to her when she had chilli in her eye. She would also pinch/scratch my arms, I remember at around 8 her leaving a few bloody scabs on my arm. At around 11 these occurances got worse as I went through puberty and stopped being as submissive and forgiving as I had always been as a child. When we would argue very often she would leap on me, drag me around by my hair extremely hard, but scratch my face until it bled, punch me until I had huge dark red nose bleeds which left the flat covered in blood, kick me in the hips/stomach, sit on me and refuse to let me up, twist my arms and fingers as well as emotional abuse. Do I have a right to not be totally over this now? Was it child abuse? I forgive her but I cannot ever trust her or forget.

Question: How do I talk to my wife about this?

Posted: 11 Feb 2017 01:31 PM PST

My wife's mother Jean, a woman I admire and adore, told me she wants to start dating again and hopefully remarry. However she is afraid that her daughter, my wife, will not approve of her replacing her dad. I told her if male companionship is what will make her happy she should go for it. Her daughter will get over it if she has a problem and Jean WILL NOT be replacing my wife's dad. Jean wants me to discuss this idea with my wife and see if she is OK with Jean remarrying. I told her I would do it but can someone PLEASE give me some idea on how I should approach this subject with my wife. I really don't want to screw this up and cause a problem for Jean or my wife. Should I just straight out ask her what she would think if her mom remarries? Is that too blunt of an approach? Women and daughters Please give me your advice.

Question: My mother says I smell, should I tell her she is getting old and looks fat and ugly on the inside and out?

Posted: 11 Feb 2017 01:30 PM PST

Question: My mother is in a battle between bad and evil. There is no good, it is just the fight against evil, which side should I be on?

Posted: 11 Feb 2017 01:20 PM PST

She and her sister have done bad things. I don't know who to take sides with, neither is good. Both are evil but on opposite sides of evil. It is like the Vietnam War, both are bad, which is the lesser evil. I think my aunt is better since she did not start it but my mother gives me things and I need her more. Which do I taker sides with in the battle of evil vs. evil?

Question: Is my brother a pervert?

Posted: 11 Feb 2017 01:18 PM PST

My 13 year old brother and I were in the back seat of our parents car going on a trip. I felt sleepy and laid down with my head on his lap. Soon something big was poking me in the back of the head. I got up and looked at my brother. Oh My God. He had a b0ner. He was VERY EMBARRASSED and started to apologize immediately. I really felt bad about the problem I had caused him. I told him no need to apologize. Wanting to make him feel better, I said you have something to be proud of. He said what is that? I told him he was hung like a horse. He smiled and said thanks sis. I feel a lot better now. You are the greatest sister ever. Please tell me if you think I handled this situation in a good way. Is there a better way than what I did. Gals, what would you have done? Is my brother getting a b0ner a normal thing for a guy that age to do or is he a pervert?

Question: Will my ex husband do this for me?

Posted: 11 Feb 2017 01:16 PM PST

I have been divorced for over a year now. During that year I came to realize that none of my boyfriends were as good in bed as my ex husband Jim was. When it came to sex Jim was a world champ. We had a friendly divorce. Do you think he would do me a favor if I ask him for sex sometimes when I get horny? I would be happy to return the favor for him by doing anything he wanted to do?

Question: I'm in love the person who is going to be my step brother. Help?

Posted: 11 Feb 2017 12:05 PM PST

The person I'm in love with is 2 years older and went to the same high school as me. I liked him before my mum started dating his dad. My mum was dating his dad for a little over 3 years before they decided to get married. I never really cared who my mum was dating. I only knew who he was because he came over a lot. One day my mum invited me to dinner with his boyfriend because she wanted to tell me she was getting married and we are moving to the new house they bought together. My mum never talked about her boyfriend so I didn't know he had a son. How I new was when she told me his son will also be going to the dinner. Now that I know the guy I am in love with is going to be my step brother and is going to live with me, I feel happy and scared at the same time. I am happy because I will be able be close to him. I'm scared because right now he doesn't know how I feel and probably never will because I plan on not telling him. If he found out and doesn't feel the same way, our step brother and step sister relationship will change. It is not like I can avoid seeing him. I don't want to not being able to talk to him in the house. He will always have a feeling where I might do something that makes him feel uncomfortable. I don't know what to do.

Question: What do I do if my Dad dies and my mother never lets me see his family again?

Posted: 11 Feb 2017 12:04 PM PST

I am worried if he dies my mother will do what she can to sabotage my relationship with his family. Also what if his family stops inviting me to things when he dies? He is healthy now but like he is a bad driver and his Dad died at 67 of a heart attack and my Dad is 61 though he is a lot healthier in weight then my grandfather was. I am scared of this as my mother is destructive in relationships.

Question: Since my Dad is an alcoholic what do I tell my friends when they see him drunk?

Posted: 11 Feb 2017 12:02 PM PST

Question: My Mom loves her family with conditions attached. Is this how love should be or is it supposed to be unconditional?

Posted: 11 Feb 2017 11:57 AM PST

By her family I mean her parents and siblings (she loves me unconditonally).

Question: Grandparents who smoke in the house?

Posted: 11 Feb 2017 11:32 AM PST

My daughter, every other Saturday spends the night at her other grandparents. They smoke HEAVILY, and in the house and around her. They don't smoke inside while she is there. At least right next to her. They will smoke while she is asleep. I HATE IT. She comes home and smells awful. From her clothes in her bag to her hair. It's disgusting. If all of that is sticking to her body and belongings. I'm afraid for her health as well. I don't want her going over there as long as they smoke in the house. That's wether or not she is visiting or not. I don't want to cause issues, which it will if I forbid her to go there. But my daughters health is more important. Anyone dealing with this or has dealt with this? Advice!!!

Question: My Mom and I have no happiness ever since my grandparents died. How do we find happiness one day?

Posted: 11 Feb 2017 11:29 AM PST

It is just the two of us. My mother was an only child and her parents died five months apart two years ago. She and I have had no happiness since. We just go through the motions. We get along fine but there is no happiness in life anymore. At Christmas we just sat by the fire alone all day as she gently rubbed my back when all other families had extended family coming to see them. Both of us are scared of rejection so we can't go seek people out and so it is just us. We have enough money in the estate that neither of us ever have to work anymore (I am 20 and she is 53) but the days of happiness have ended. How might we find happiness one day? PS----I have no Dad so there is no extended family anymore.

Question: Is there any hope to actually form a good relationship with my father? I'm tired of pretending everything is okay.?

Posted: 11 Feb 2017 11:29 AM PST

Can I ever have a good relationship with my dad? Growing up my grandparents used to manipulate me into thinking my dad was the best father in the world and that my mom was no good and that she was the reason why my parents broke up. But when I grew up I started noticing things that I never paid attention to. Whenever he comes into town he pays me and my little brother no attention he goes out to party and go balls deep into some slut from Highschool. He's selfish, never takes responsibility for his actions, makes excuses for everything,he's a Douchebag womanizer, only pays my mom $90 in child support while paying his 4 other exes $300-$500. He makes good money so I don't see why we get such a small amount. He only calls around report card time. He doesn't know what I like or the kind of activities I enjoy. I only see him during the summer. We don't hang out at all anymore. He really hasn't taught me anything growing up. I learned everything from my mom and grandfather. He was in town to visit a friend and didn't even call me or swing by.

Question: My aunt is estranged from part of her family. Should I still count her in the family tree?

Posted: 11 Feb 2017 11:23 AM PST

I still see her but none of her siblings do. This is my Mom's sister.

Question: My mom didn't let me go to my friends funeral?

Posted: 11 Feb 2017 11:10 AM PST

My dad took me to her wake yesterday. Today is her funeral. I really want to go because this is so important to me. My moms not letting me go just because I have an F in a class. Thats ******* ridiculous! She's punishing me by not letting me go to my friends funeral! My dad can't take me either because he worked all night and says he's too tired. I can't stop crying this is so wrong. I've been screaming at my mom to let me go but she won't do it. I don't know what to do, I can't believe that this is all happening. update: My mom said that if i would get my work done then i would get nice things. She then hit me with a belt because i wouldn't stop crying,after, she called me a "selfish brat" and threatened to record me to show how ridiculous i look crying. what a nice day I'm having :) i just really needed to rant about this

Question: My dad is codependent and driving me crazy. he thinks we are best friends and calls multiple times a day and try s hanging out every day.?

Posted: 11 Feb 2017 11:08 AM PST

I m 27 and he is 56. If he doesn t hear back from me in a day he says leaves voicemails saying I m worried haven t heard from you in awhile. It s been 1 day. He is also a chronic talker and drives me crazy when I do see him. He blames everyone else every time something goes wrong or If he s having a bad day wants me to drop everything to go over and talk. I love him but he s my dad not my best friend I want to talk to and see everyday. Also I love keeping to myself for the most part and don t like to hang out or entertain people often. I have tried talking to him about it but he just gets upset and tries to make you feel bad for him. What can I do?

Question: Am i being too controlling or jealous or am within reason?

Posted: 11 Feb 2017 11:04 AM PST

My friend has been living with me now for over 2 years.. i give her 140 / wk and she pays no bills..We equally do house chores.. We arent totally committed but i do everything with her and her family..I pick her up often to what suppose to be her relatives..She demands that I park on the side of the house where her relatives are suppose to stay..She never comes out the house where i pick her up but the house next door..Ive been doing this for months now and she knows i suspect she is with another man..Yesterday i accidently parked on the side where she came out of and she said i was being slick which initiated a fight.. I feel that she should put my mind at ease by allowing me to park in front of the house without going crazy or tell the truth..it just dosent make sense to me

Question: My uncles are out to get my mom she and I are hiding what do we do if they find us?

Posted: 11 Feb 2017 10:48 AM PST

They want to get my mom because she got to spend more time with her granny than they did. They're jealous and they're out to get us and she and I are hiding. We can't even go to granny's grave because they might be there waiting for us. I think they want to get me to and I'm only 15.

Question: Why is my dad so nice to my stepbrother? shouldnt he be beating him and murdering him like you hear on the news?

Posted: 11 Feb 2017 10:42 AM PST

hes too nice to my 13 year old stepbrother and invites him everywhere with us, even when my stemom isn't coming. its so annoying

Question: My family treats me like a child and gives me no privacy?

Posted: 11 Feb 2017 10:10 AM PST

I am almost 22 years old. My family gives me no privacy. I plan to move out in the fall semester. Until then, what can I do? My mom went through days' worth of texts between my boyfriend and I a few days ago. (One of my siblings got into my phone when I was sleeping and showed her the texts, which was odd.) My mom has nothing to do with my phone...she neither bought it nor does she make payments on it fot me. My entire family is freaking out because they found out I have a boyfriend. This is not nornal behavior..relationships are a natural part of life. My mom is now threatening to kick me out of the house because I have a boyfriend and also because I sent him photos, which were not even inappropriate. They just showed my cleavage. What occurs between my boyfriend and I is private. I honestly do not care if my mom kicks me out. But is this odd...that my family is invading into my private life? They don't need to know everything. I feel as if I am still treated as a child.

Question: My parents won t give me my money ($85) and I m only 13 how can I get them to?

Posted: 11 Feb 2017 09:58 AM PST

I m owed 85 dollars it s a lot for my age and it s money I earned from my odd job They re only gonna give me 20 that I gave to let there borrow a few week ago but it s not fair I want my money and I ve cried so much it s unreasonable it s my money I ve done nothing wrong to get it taken I never got it they said they cashed the check and given to me and I Already spent it but I know I didn t and I m so mad I have a really good memory and they don t believe me!!!

Question: 26 year old brother is toxic to our family. He doesn't pay rent and eats everything/makes a mess. He also is super mean to my mom. See below?

Posted: 11 Feb 2017 09:57 AM PST

My 26 year old brother is a college graduate and still lives at home and doesn't pay rent. I'm not homophobic but I'd like to mention that He's gay and we don't really have much in common. He's super gross eats everything and doesn't clean up after himself, he also pisses on the seat and leaves dirty dishes everywhere etc. He even steals my underwear because he is too lazy to do laundry which is gross af. my mom is trying to get him to move out and be productive and he yells at her every time she tries to help him. My Dad passed away a few years ago and my bro has been really weird ever since. He gained a bunch of weight and is depressed for sure. I have a hard time feeling bad for him tho because I am 22 finishing up my degree full time and I have an internship/weekend job. I also cook, clean up his mess and the house do laundry, and outside work while having a normal social life. He works at a hospital 30 hrs a week and sleeps when he's not at work. How do I help my mom help home to get his **** together. I'm being held back by being in a toxic/disfunctional family. I want to tell him to **** off and get a life but he's super sensitive and in a bad spot. Please let me know what you think, thanks.

Question: My dad hit but it was kinda my fault?

Posted: 11 Feb 2017 09:54 AM PST

me and my dad got into a fight cuz i forgot forgot to put the cereal box in the trash and then i went to the couch and then he started yelling about something and i got scared and tried to put the blanket between us but he just ripped it out of my hands and started putting that thing into my face so i swatted his handaway and then he hit my cheek and started yelling about how i can't hit him and. im still crying and it kinda hurts. this had happend like i've playfully hot him and then he hits me back really hard so that it actually hurts but like it only happens sometimes not everytime and when i told him he can't hit me he just says that he can him me back but like i don't even have to hit him for him to hit like if i make him angry he hits and besides there's a difference between a 14 year old gorl and a 40 year old man right? or am i in the wrong here

Question: My mom doesn't like my dad and she gets mad when I go see my dad. Should I cut back on seeing my dad in order to be loyal my mom?

Posted: 11 Feb 2017 09:33 AM PST

I like my mom more and I live with her so I guess she's that A parent. However I'd like my dad to even if he's only a B parent. So if I stop seeing my dad I'll be disappointed but if I need to for my mom I don't mind. So what do you think is a Stranger should I cut ties with my dad in order to be closer to my mom?

Question: Is this fair or not (dad pulling my hair and sister pushing me) I m 16 btw&my sister had always been my dads fav my mom and eveyone sees it?

Posted: 11 Feb 2017 09:32 AM PST

my parents told me to get ready because they wanted to go to LA which is 3 hours away from where I live. I have 6 AP classes and I do community service after school, sports &I wake up at 5 every day to go to school, I m exhausted all the time & I know it s disrespectful to say "no I m not gonna go" I tried explaining to them that I m really tired & they don t understand instead I was walking upstairs & my dad pulled me by the hair and grabbed my arm really hard & yelled at me telling me to get ready that he Dosent care what I have to say & I have to obey because they are older & I understand that I was being rude bc I told him not to touch. Well, he left back down stairs& I went to my room. He came back up & my door was locked I was scared to open it. Well, he told me to open the door and I said no I m getting ready and he told me again & that s when my sister came to my room through my bathroom door & she came in and opened the door for my dad to come in my room & my dad was yelling at me again for not opening the door and told me to get ready to go to grandmas & I told him ok & my sister still in my room, yelled at me & called me a disrespectful fuvking ***** & a midget and i told her to get out of my room and she refused to I tried to close both my doors so she would stop telling me stuff bc it hurt my feelings & she grabbed both my shoulders and pushed me onto the ground & I told my parents & their response was "good your older sisters can do whatever they want to you".

Question: Should I go see my sister today?

Posted: 11 Feb 2017 09:22 AM PST

I haven't talked to her in 4 years. It's been a long time because the last time she was here (the rest of our family lives here too) she went crazy. She has these angry outbursts and things get violent. 4 years ago she was visiting with her children and had planned to leave her husband. She didn't tell anyone this until she was here for a month. She had a boy toy out here she was seeing. After a few weeks her husband came and got the kids so they could start school back home. She stayed. Her boy toy broke up with her and she decided to go back home with her husband who came back out here to get her. Their last night here it was obvious she didn't want to go and found every reason to get angry at people. She wasn't making any sense and got violent. She was delusional. To this day she doesn't think she did anything wrong and everyone else was crazy. This wasn't her first outburst while she was here. No one talked to her for a while but one by one my mom, sisters and other family members started talking to her again. I'm the only one that hasn't come around yet. She hasn't changed. When her husband was deployed earlier last year she had another boyfriend and acts like there is nothing wrong with it. I know now the the outbursts come from insecurity and not coping with change. She still has them and doesn't think that anything is wrong with her. She is visiting with her daughter and I haven't decided if I want to see her or what I would say. What would you do?

Question: I caught my mom's cousin with another woman. I told everyone I think he's cheating and then I learned it was his mother-in-law he was with?

Posted: 11 Feb 2017 08:41 AM PST

Should I go correct everybody I said it to so they don't go around thinking he's a cheater?

Question: I am a grandmother of two boys. They live 150 miles from me. My son, 33, is married to my 8 month old grandson. She is 27. They are?

Posted: 11 Feb 2017 08:23 AM PST

angry with me because sometimes I refer to the baby as "my baby, my angel, my sweetheart, etc". They don't want me using the word "MY". I sent an email to my daughter in law and I must have said MY baby or something and she ran to my son complaining. Also, my son grew up here with me, and then moved back to New York. He left behind good friends. This particular friend just had his 30th birthday. My son was invited, and I was invited too, even though I live in Pa. and he is in NY. My son didn't go, but I attended representing my son, with a gift, card, etc. My son is angry with me for going, and does not understand that I was going FOR him. He chewed me out harshly for both things, calling my grandson "MY" baby, angel, etc., and for attending his friends birthday celebration (which BTW was one hour each way). How would you handle this? I am a grandma of an 8 month old baby. My son, 33 is married to his mother, 27. They live 150 miles away. They are

Question: Could I have my older sister be my caregiver?

Posted: 11 Feb 2017 07:40 AM PST

im a 16 year old girl. i cant take my house with my parents and my younger sister they all just yell at me, fight with me and such. Is there something where i can just have my 21 year old sister take me in??

Question: Is it true ?

Posted: 11 Feb 2017 07:38 AM PST

So I'm 13yo boy and I wear perfume and colonge and I buy perfumes like heat rush and mild bold perfumes but my mom tells me it's weird and guys will think I'm gay when I'm not gay I'm straight idk what to do 😭

Question: How do I get over the sadness of having no family and no friends?

Posted: 11 Feb 2017 05:55 AM PST

My family disowned me after my parents died because my dad was slick and saw a business deal had gone bad. My mother would enable him so they disowned her also. My two sisters don't want anything to do with me because when I reach out to try a little too hard and it makes them awkward. Also they're mad that I got my parents house when they died. I don't make friends because I'm socially awkward and no one likes me when I try so family was the only hope I had. I'm alone all day every day. I'm 51 years old and the only time I leave the house to go to Sunday church and the grocery store. It's too scary to be around people because they've hurt me my whole life. I'm finally safe being away from other people and when I die my body probably won't even be found for years. I doubt anyone will even give me a funeral. How do I accept this and get over the sadness of it as it's two anxiety causing to try to make friends in the family hates me because of my dad and they've even said they're not interested in getting to know me because I'm a reminder of the hurt my dad caused.

Question: What to do what does relationship?

Posted: 11 Feb 2017 05:55 AM PST

me and my spouse how to dispute this morning he's always talking about the things that he wants to do for himself and wants me to help him but how supposed to help him if he's always talking about himself and then he'll bring up my past when he doesn't get what he wants he called me a bastard today and told me that's why I didn't have a father to raise me and that's why I got rapedhe always throws my past in my face like if it's going to hurt me it used to but not no more but I look at him like you saw your mom get hit and you seen your siblings get beat by your dad and that doesn't hurt you stop judging people and look at your own family timeline before you judge he has a real big problem judging others before he looks at himself he thinks he is better than others I'm

Question: My mother likes to discuss other people's finances with me and others. Is this gossip?

Posted: 11 Feb 2017 05:50 AM PST

It's comments like "I don't know how they got all that money though I guess their father must've left them in the state before he died since he had Alzheimer's ". Or "I think she's getting more from her parents when they die and her siblings I guess they favored her or maybe she's just more needy". So is this gossip or is this what all people talk about? My mom strikes me as tacky

Question: My sister is deranged and evil. How can I get other people not to like her?

Posted: 11 Feb 2017 05:46 AM PST

Question: My older sister is behaving like she's my parent!!!?

Posted: 11 Feb 2017 05:26 AM PST

I'm a 20 year old female and I live with my parents... I have a 25 year old sister, who's married and she lives in another city, faraway from here... Whenever she comes home, she stealthy goes to my bedroom and opens my closet and drawers to see what I have there! I've explained to her a thousand times that if, I hide anything "dangerous" in my room, it's our parents' business to find out what it is, not YOURS!!! I locked my room once, but she had another key, so I decided to tell my parents about this and they said that she's my older sister and she's right if she's worried about me!!! Come on! I'm not a baby anymore!!! What should I do??? I CANNOT STAND THIS SITUATION ANYMORE! Since, she's got married (about a year ago), my life has become to hell!

Question: My sister is so strict?

Posted: 11 Feb 2017 04:50 AM PST

I am 13 and I can't have anything in my life chosen by me, because thanks to my 15 year old ugly sister, all she does is talk about mom how she should not make me get any video game I want and she'll find anything just not to by it, there are so many games and shows out there and I end up watch Dora for my own good so my sister can't tell my mom that I was watching "porn". One time I really wanted Call of Duty Black Ops III and Modern warfare Remastered, she told mom that it's offensive and violent, I promised I won't enter the campaign, but my sister insisted that there is "porn" and offensive maps, now mom said that if what she said was true I will get punished, thanks to my bigger sister. I always get anxious and sad trying just to make a disicion of my own, then my brother butts in and tells mom not to buy it. One time I bought a game my sister told mom not to, then they all jumped and wanted to play it. It's not fair, I am not a robot I am a human, please guys help me get a life.

Question: Setting my Dad up with a 21 year old woman (same age as myself), is it weird?

Posted: 11 Feb 2017 04:45 AM PST

Hey guys, I'm a 21 year old white woman and recently I set up a date between my Dad (who's 45 years old and divorced for10 years) with a colleague/friend who I run a website with who is 21. They met a few times previous and had great chemistry (she even jokingly said my Dad was hot) so I thought they would be a great match and set them up on a date which they surprisingly agreed to. However I am now receiving intense backlash and criticism from my Mom and sister and some of our friends who say this is 'sick' and 'gross'. How so?! They are both consenting adults and have been dating for about a month and both seem to be quite happy. My Dad's been divorced for 10 years and my friend's been single for ages and they are both really great people, the age difference never mattered to me. However it looks like I'm the one getting flamed by everyone. Did I do anything wrong?

Question: Am I too old to become a father?

Posted: 11 Feb 2017 04:20 AM PST

I'm 50 years old. My wife 30, and we've been married for 10 years. My wife wants to have children, and I would love to have children, but I worry about my age. I've already lived half a century, my kid is gonna have a lot of energy; especially when little, and I dont know if I'll be able to keep up with him. And by the time my kid graduates from high school, I'm gonna be damn-near 70 yrs old. He'll be starting out in life while I'll be nearing the end of mine; which is not a comforting thought - period. My first wife couldn't have children, and after he died, I went into a depression for a long time, fueled by drinking. When I met my current wife, everything changed. Now I want children, hopefully at least one son. But still, my age keeps bothering me. I feel great right now, physically and mentally, I work out and I swim regularly, I eat healthy, don't smoke; not even E-cigs, drink moderately, and etc. I can still run pretty good, and even rock climb. One day though, I won't be able to do what I can now. But then again I can't necessarily do as well what I could 10 years ago. But still, when my kids gets to be an age where they can do all kinds of fun things, I'll be in my 60s. Am I too old?

Question: Our daughter is being stalked -I'm wondering if I should confront him as her father?

Posted: 11 Feb 2017 03:21 AM PST

Question: I really think my aunt or someone is doing black magic or whatever on me? I had people do it before on me, does it sound like it now?

Posted: 11 Feb 2017 03:15 AM PST

If your getting negativity and thoughts that came out of no way to harm people I love after taking a nap, and I was no way near thinking about anything like that, plus when I google black magic symptoms i have most of them. I have a aunt that is dark, 2 years ago my parents were having issues and etc, I was feeling very disconnected out of no way, my mom call a man from crunch and when he was praying he ask who is doing whatever to us, let there be a sign.........there it was, my aunts name and phone number on my house phone, she didn't call for 2 years. The vibs and everything was crazy that day while praying, if almost bad. Then my uncle was told that her son was wishing or doing bad on my uncle. I have dreams of my aunt and her son always dress in black as well as my mom, now my aunt lives near me and ever since she came this way I been feeling this, plus my uncle now lives near me and my uncle is always with them, when he came over one night his negative energy too strong that me and my parents felt it and the funny part is not only me but my parents as well didn't feel it leave this energy until later on before he left. I get scared that I can't really feel my emotions and I'll do something, but I don't, I just want this to leave, I think mental illness but I have to keep remembering that right before I took that nap I didn't have any of this just felt disconnected, and days before I was perfectly happy and myself. After that nap everything change.

Question: Adult kids, too old to live with me, refuse to move out?

Posted: 11 Feb 2017 03:08 AM PST

My kids are 17 and 18. I took them out of school in middle school. I was going to homeschool them but I never did. They have never been or done any high school grades. They refuse to walk 15 miles away to the city to get a job and 15 miles back home. I do not want to get them a learners permit or a license or a bike. Why won't these worthless old ADULTS move out already? Their older cousin 24 is in college but not them!

Question: My sister doesn't like me. Is this normal in a family that one sibling dislikes the other?

Posted: 11 Feb 2017 12:51 AM PST

Question: Age gaps in siblings? I'm the eldest of four and there are more depending which way you want to count.?

Posted: 10 Feb 2017 11:33 PM PST

Alright im a explain this slow because most people get confused. I am the oldest out of four When it comes to my mom I am 19almost 20 My brothers and sister are 14, 13, 12 and I was like their mom growing up due to our mom remarried to the fourth ones dad when I was 17. Now my siblings are my half siblings they have 5 siblings all together from 20-4 yrs old now I've read psychology books due to curiosity and my major in college and wonder if our age gap has to do to the reason we do not act like our stereotypes and since their order changes from the parent ( my sister is the eldest at her father's most the time since her brother 5 months older than me goes to college) and that's why even though we have a decent birth order can the age range effect it ? My siblings and I are best friends especially my sister and I (I'm 19 she's 14) as see as my brothers and I (also is it normal for little brothers to be protective of big sisters because my brothers will pest me and my bf and try to get my attention away from him I think it's funny but curious).

Question: My sisters 17, and my mom and her always fight. How do I make them stop. Not that it bithers me I just want them to be happy.?

Posted: 10 Feb 2017 11:18 PM PST

Question: How do I deal with my parents wanting me to stop smoking weed and controlling my life?

Posted: 10 Feb 2017 10:20 PM PST

I am 16 and have always been known as the shy, quiet, smart girl who never gets into trouble.. up until this summer. I began partying/drinking and I soon got caught so I was grounded. I turned to weed and began smoking a lot. It is an outlet from life but I have gotten in trouble for it and my parents would never approve and never accept the fact. My mom smokes weed and also takes adderall so she is a hypocrite. I am 16 and they can t change who I am by grounding me. They always tell me I can t make my own decisions but expect me to act mature. I got caught recently and they grounded me for two months during my winter break. I was MISERBALE. I still keep up with my life but they think weed is the worst thing that has happened to me

Question: Why Is My Older Sister So Immature?

Posted: 10 Feb 2017 09:51 PM PST

She's sixteen and makes mom sleep in the same room as her because she's "scared of ghosts." She also still says "ewww" when talking about boys. Seriously, boys don't have "cooties," this is highschool not elementary school. She's always arguing with me and calls me a terrible and insensitive person, yet she brags about herself and tries to make me look bad in front of our parents. She has zero friends because she has no social skills whatsoever + she backs out whenever someone invites her to sit with them. I just think she's weird. Yet she says I'm the weird and mean one. Also, she's really fake. She's all nice to relatives/acquaintances but she's a ***** to me. I'm actually pretty worried for her future. Going out on her own with no social skills or friends will make it a hard journey for her.

Question: I made my sister cry ?

Posted: 10 Feb 2017 09:40 PM PST

I was showing my sister some movies on YouTube she wanted to watch the movie Helter Skelter we.watched it she did fine during the first half hour but when it got to the parts where Manson did the killings she got scared. When his family went to the house and murdered the actress and her friends that's when she really lost it. She loves scary movies but she doesn't like to see actual killing they showed them stabbing the people. I didn't know it would show it lots of scary movies don't. I feel like a bad older brother for letting her watch this now she cant get to sleep. Shes afraid of someone coming in and stabbing her. I didn't know it was gonna be about him I thought it was gonna be about The Beatles. At least they played the song in it the only part she liked. I didn't mean to scare her. Now she's mad at me. I can't tell her it was just a movie because it was based on a true story she don't know it but I'm not telling her I don't wanna make her worse. I feel terrible. What should do to calm her down ?

Question: Can I ever have a good relationship with my dad?

Posted: 10 Feb 2017 09:35 PM PST

Growing up my grandparents used to manipulate me into thinking my dad was the best father in the world and that my mom was no good and that she was the reason why my parents broke up. But when I grew up I started noticing things that I never paid attention to. Whenever he comes into town he pays me and my little brother no attention he goes out to party and go balls deep into some slut from Highschool. He's selfish, never takes responsibility for his actions, makes excuses for everything,he's a Douchebag womanizer, only pays my mom $90 in child support while paying his 4 other exes $300-$500. He makes good money so I don't see why we get such a small amount. He only calls around report card time. He doesn't know what I like or the kind of activities I enjoy. I only see him during the summer. We don't hang out at all anymore. He really hasn't taught me anything growing up. I learned everything from my mom and grandfather. He was in town to visit a friend and didn't even call me or swing by. , he was jeered for 5 days to. So Is there a way to fix our relationship or am I just sitting on false hope here.

Question: Son I haven't spoken to has returned home after 9 years what should I say?

Posted: 10 Feb 2017 09:04 PM PST

My son has never really had a great relationship with us meaning me, dad, and older brother. Growing up we constantly compared him to his older brother which obviously caused some problems between us. He wasn't a straight A student like his brother and would only make grades in the B-C range. He wasn't really out going like his brother and that was kind of a problem for me I guess. Anyway instead of going to college and staying like his brother. He wanted to join the military. His father and I completely disagreed and told him college was a better choice. So he went to college for 2 years and when he turned 19 he dropped out and joined the army. Needless to say we were both infuriated but he obviously didn't care because he didn't even ask us. Since then he hasn't called or tried to get in touch with us since then. So one day out of the blue he shows up with his family( cant believe they had a wedding And i wasn't invited). Anyway he's been here talking and I have no idea what to say any advice?

Question: My dad is cross all the time and it's wearing me down?

Posted: 10 Feb 2017 09:04 PM PST

Since 2013, my dad has had a major personality change. Until 2013, he was funny, cute, positive, energetic. Then in 2013, a few months after we moved interstate, he changed. He became cross and bitter and talked in an aggressive tone. For some reason, he is venting his anger out of me, his oldest daughter. I don't know why. When he talks to me, he sounds like he's going to explode at me and reduce me to tears. If he's not upsetting me, he's scaring me - or both. He usually explodes on people outside the family who he thinks is wronging him and the family in some way. He had stood up for me against other people by talking in a confrontational and aggressive manner - but then he talks the same way to me, the person who he is supposedly protecting? I really want to move out to get away from him but can not do so because I don't have a job that will provide a decent income to support me. I try to respect my dad (because that's what offspring are supposed to do) but he's being so dislikeable and horrible to me and I spend a lot of the day outside the home to stay away from him. Oh, if this helps, he's 67 years old.

Question: Am I being unreasonable?

Posted: 10 Feb 2017 08:46 PM PST

I'm 16 and I do 6-7 hours of school a day, clean the entire house, make my family dinner (which usually takes a few hours because I try to make really good quality meals), make myself a separate dinner because my family eats meat but I don't, and lock up the house at night. I handle grocery shopping and taking care of my little brother. Sometimes I feel so angry about my situation. I have an 18 year old brother who plays video games all day and doesn't help out at all and a 10 year old brother who barely does any chores. Once and a while he gets asked to fold some clothes but he gets angry and my parents let him get out of it. Then I end up finishing his job. There's just so much expected of me. I feel like it doesn't matter how I'm feeling or how I'm doing, like my worth only depends on how productive I am. My mom gets mad and starts yelling when the dinner I prepared isn't something she likes. They'll come home and complain that I haven't done enough after I've spent hours cleaning. Everything revolves around my little brother too because it's my job to take care of him. All of my friends don't do as much as I do. Their parents cook for them and don't give them so much responsibility. As soon as we move in a month or so I'm gonna have to get a job. I really don't know how I'm going to get everything done. I still worry that I'm being selfish and unreasonable for feeling so unhappy about it all. Do you think I am? Is it normal for a kid to have to handle so much?

Question: My brother Cody is obsessed with the Hatfield and McCoy feud. Is that normal?

Posted: 10 Feb 2017 07:58 PM PST

My little brother Cody is obsessed with the Hatfield and McCoy feud. He's 16 yo and it all started around Christmas when my aunt who is doing our family tree said that we are related to the McCoys of the feud. We are direct descendants on my mother's side of Randal McCoy, who was the main person on the McCoy side of the feud. Since then he's been reading books about the feud. He watched the Netflix series about the feud. He even wants to drive down to Pikeville, KY where the feud took place to do a Hatfield-McCoy feud. And my parents are letting him! Seriously shouldn't normal 16 yo boys be wanting to go to Florida with buddies on Spring Break. Oh and when someone says or does something he doesn't like, he'll say, "You are such a Hatfield." And what's going to happen when he goes to Pikeville and runs into someone named Hatfield? Is he going to say "You killed my kin!" and try to start something? My mom said that he'll soon lose interest in the feud and even if he doesn't there are worse things than to become the worlds utmost authority on the Hatfield-McCoy feud. So am I the only one worried that this kid has gone off the deep end? If its not normal then what can I do to end his obsession? He wants to go to Pikeville to do a Hatfield-McCoy TOUR. Wrong word sorry

Question: My parents are fighting and its my fault.?

Posted: 10 Feb 2017 07:12 PM PST

my throat is really tight now. my dad let me use his credit card just to reserve an apple watch, $400, my dad and i refunded it at the apple store and paid with cash so it doesnt have to paid later. apple canceled my order three times, they refunded. my mom got mad at me and now their fighting and its all because of me. my mom is going back to school and im making her even more stressed. and before anyone even thinks im spoiled, i earned this money, it took me two summers. @jordan Stop it. Do you even feel sympathy for me? Having your parents fight over something that is your fault? Having your own house become a war zone, so loud you can't shut it out? I guess not since your answer is mocking me.

Question: Moms would you have done this?

Posted: 10 Feb 2017 07:06 PM PST

I just got home from taking my daughter to her friends house. Since I did not go in anyplace and came right back home I drove barefoot and did not bring my shoes.

Question: Is my mom emotionally abusive?

Posted: 10 Feb 2017 07:05 PM PST

She sometimes neglects to do laundry, take me to appointments, or even buy food for at home, we usually just go out and eat despite her having a "money problem". I feel like she threatens me, and in the past she has hit me or told me to stop being so sensitive. I m scared to talk to her most of the time, she has yelled at me, my grandmother, and my dad(they are divorced.) She always sleeps, or is in the midst of a problem where she cries or talks to me about it. She thinks everything revolves around her. There is so much more I could add, im just so tired.

Question: How to convince my parents to let me travel for Spring Break?

Posted: 10 Feb 2017 05:23 PM PST

So, I'm female, 21 years old in college. One of my friends recently moved to the west coast (i'm on the east) and he asked me to come out and visit for spring break. He said he'd cover the cost of travel and have a place for me to stay. Problem is my parents don't want me traveling alone because they think it's dangerous. They also feel they don't know this guy well enough, but he's a college friend and they never would have met him anyway. I get they're being protective, but this seems unfair and I would just go but they would kill me if I did. I don't have any friends/relatives I can bring either. How can I convince them to let me go? Any other options you guys can think of?

Question: I hate my life..?

Posted: 10 Feb 2017 05:16 PM PST

I truly honestly don't see the point of living? Like I always wonder why god continues to keep me alive if my life and my family's life is just full of pain. We don't have a lot of money and stress everyday. My mom ******* pisses me off when she says I'm only 17 and should not have anything to worry about like.... what the **** do you mean how could I not worry when my family is always stressing and crying? How can I not stress when we are unable to afford new clothes or go out and have a little fun. Idc wtf we do I would appreciate a walk in the park or a bike ride! But we can never do **** bc everyone is always stressed out.. I ******* hate my life I swear I do. My mom doesn't know how bad I want to just vent to her about what's going on in my life but I CANT because she always finds a way to make me out to be the bed person... I don't know what to do anymore i can't even finish typing this because I'm so angry I want to die I can't stop crying

Question: Is it normal to have as much freedom as I do at my age?

Posted: 10 Feb 2017 05:07 PM PST

I m 15, a freshman in high school. A lot of my friends are already driving around and partying late into the night, their parents let them do whatever they want practically. I m barely ever allowed out of the house and I don t even have a phone yet because my parents don t "trust" me with one. I feel left out a lot and sometimes feel I should be allowed more at my age but my parents treat me like I m 10. Is this normal? Or should I have more freedom at my age? I don t wanna seem ungrateful because my parents provide for me well. Please no hate.