So a few weeks ago, my husband and I got into a really really bad argument which lead me to text an old guy friend. I don't know why I kept those messages but today he went through my phone and found them. He confronted me crying hysterically and was very angry. He has a bad temper and I got afraid. I always want to get away from him when he's upset so I said to him that I'm calling a family member to come and pick me up but he grabbed my phone and then grabbed me and picked me up like you would pick up a baby. He has really bad abandonment issues. He's never hit me but he grabs on me when I want to get away . Because of this I'm losing respect for him. I feel that a man should never put his hands on a woman out of anger. Should I file for divorce?

I am 18 and a senor in high school. I am getting married in July and I found out that I am 3 months pregnant. Since I only have 3 more months of school I am going to graduate high school. My boyfriend who will soon be my husband has a good job and makes good money so for the first few years after my baby is born I am going to be a stay at home mom. When my child is old enough to start school I am going to get a job. Even though we should have enough money I want to work in case something would happen and my husband would ever lose his job or God forbid something would happen to him or we split up. We were not planning on being parents this early in our lives but are happy about our baby on the way.

My husband is very *hot headed* and gets mad for the slightest things! Every thing i do he criticises it. He'll slap me in the face and call me a dumb whöre or sometimes he'll grab me buy my neck and punch me. We've been together for 11 years now and Im hesitant to leave but ive been putting up with the abuse because we have a child together and I dont want our son growing up without his father. What should I do!?! I'm so lost and frustrated. This is also affecting our son! I've spoken to family members and friends and they all said I should leave because it would be better for me and my son. But the real question is, should I really leave him and shut him out of our lives completely?

Ok so I don't know how to interprete this, I am an intern at an office and when I started I got a booklet with the info of all the staff like their contact info. Anyways one day I answered the phone and I got a message for one of the staff memebers so unrelated the message to him. Oddly enough he gives me his business card saying I didn't have his email, and I should give the caller his email. Although the business card had his contact info he then takes the card turns it around and writes another business email, which I found weird. I didn't think anything of it until another intern saw his business card and started mocking me. It then had me thinking. What do you think what's your initial reaction.

Her groom lives in the US and her parents want her to marry him. I've loved her very much and we have been good friends. I haven't told her that I love her though. What shall I do?

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Long story short my wife was bullied out of her daughter when she was young by her mom and big sister who "wanted a kid." It may sound ridiculous but that is pretty much what happened. At one point her sister basically took her daughter to another state. Her daughter 3 at the time came back calling her sister mom. She refused to call her real mom mom. They all lived together for another year until one day her sister again took her daughter this time to Los Angeles. Supposedly for 4 days but they were gone for a month. My wife left the apartment they shared to live with a friend. When my wife seen her daughter again she tried to take her but her daughter was screaming you aren't my mom and refusing to go. So my wife just gave up. (I know that's horrible.) It's a year and a half later and now I'm married to my wife. But we moved from Cali to New York. She gets a call basically saying her sister is homeless and her daughter maybe too. So now we think it would be best to try to get her. We know her sister isn't just going to give her up willingly. My wife has all rights, her sister has none. What would be the best way to go about this?

I have mixed feelings regarding marriage. Sometimes I think it could be a really beautiful thing. But other times I see it as pointless and overrated. Is it?

My husbands mom talk to him on the phone 8 times a day and he got him his job at her company. She gives him relationship advice and tells him I should be more involved and do this and that. Quit frankly I don't allow my parents to be that involved in my relationship and I think it's weird. She also is at our house a lot and gives him money and wants him to accompany her on dinner dates and work functions. Is he too attached to his mom? He is 38.

I woke up 4 in the morning to prepare for work as the place I work is 200kms away prepare my breakfast and lunch I come back home around 7 in the evening when I come home I always order dinner outside I have been trying her to cook something as eating outside is expressive but she never did on top of that every time I come she stars shooting why are u late and all that I tried to convince her recording the traffic jam I'm in everyday but she never stops yelling sometimes she locks the door and will never open and I have to manage sleeping out side we don't have sex problem financial problem I don't cheat all I do is go to work and come home and taking out the kids and her in the weekend Now I'm tired and don't know what to do every time I'm thinking about my kids. What to do

My husband gets angry with me because I do not attend all of his kids(my step kids) activities on the days I am not working. I don't feel it is necessary I am at all of their activities for a couple of reasons. 1. I only get two days off work and usually have errands to run 2. My husband, his mother, his ex in laws, his ex wife are already at all of these activities already. I don't feel I really fit in or exist when all of these other people are around 3. I feel his kids could care less or even notice if I am even there as all they care about is if their mom and dad and grandparents are there. However my husband has made it a big deal and made me feel bad for not attending even though I feel like I don't exist when I'm there. I don't feel it's a big deal wether I'm there or not to my step kids, they couldn't care less if I'm there to be honest and my husband barely even talks to me at these things so why would I do?

She is in indirect contempt of court (whatever that means) for not fulfilling her part of the divorce agreement. She wanted to keep the house, so we agreed on a fair market price and she was supposed to re-finance and pay me my equity share (about 60k). A year later and she hasn't done it. We have been to court several times and it kept getting kicked down the road - mostly because she lied and said she had a closing date etc. But now she has stopped showing up. At the last date the judge delayed for 2 more weeks, but said if she doesn't show up then she is issuing a bench warrant for her arrest. I am torn about whether to email her and tell her or just let it happen. Our daughters are 21 and 18 and both still live with her. I don't want them to see her get arrested.

Marriage should be treated as a business agreement because that's what it is. Finance.

she has beach photos--this upsets me so much that I wont talk to her, but my friend at work tells me my husband is objectifying her and loves me. nothing to worry about. is this sound right?

I've been friends with this girl, Jess, for about 7/8 years now. We're best friends and have been all this time. But recently she's changed a lot. She's sleeping around and having an affair with a married man. Now this usually wouldn't bother me, I think people should be free to do what they like, but i have issues with it because she's doing it to make herself feel loved and wanted. Also, the affair is what is making me lose respect for her. She knows that my dad had an affair when I was young and it made my Mom suicidal and affect me deeply at the time. I tried to talk to her about it but she accepts no responsibility, saying it's his fault he's cheating on his wife and not hers. I don't know what to do, I feel like she isn't the same friend anymore but should I just drop her after all these years?

3 months ago when my daughter was home for winter break from school I took her to get her depro birth control shot. Well, now that she's home for spring break it's time for a follow up shot. My wife told me last week that she was going to be off this coming Fri because of "an appointment." Well, my daughter is trying to schedule the appt and in speaking with my wife asking her if she could take her at 8 AM Friday morning to get her shot she tells me that she took the day off for some "Me Time." Also that she had a hair appt at 7 AM. She said that because she felt we're not taking a vacation this year she just needed the day for herself. Excuse me but don't most women who have jobs schedule stuff like this on Saturdays? Well, she just told me that she will reschedule her hair appt till 9 and I quote, "I guess I will accommodate this time." I'm sorry but keeping your step-daughter from getting pregnant in college should be more of a priority than your hair and your me time. I'm tempted to call her and give her a nice piece of my mind but I'm trying to remain calm here. Do women take days off work just for a hair appointment or just for some me time and am I wrong to ask her to do something for me or my daughter on her day off that will interfere with what she already had planned? Am I the only one who feels that simply because she's 20 I don't just throw my hands up and tell her you're on your own? Yes, she's 20 and technically an adult but she still doesn't have a way to the doctor. I told her to focus on school / college and let me worry about everything else. Uber and Lyft are great but not everyone feels the need to utilize those services. My 22 year old step son has a 10 month old daughter now so should we let her go without food, clothing, medicine and the essentials simply because that's his child? Do we throw our hands up and "you made her, you support her because you're an adult" knowing he isn't working? Oh, according to the wife we need to help her son because he's not working and can't afford those things for his daughter but my daughter should just grow up and figure things out for herself.

My husband got upset with me last night. Several times he told me to go get up and get the cat because she was getting in to things. I got mad because I m currently seeking out jobs and the applications to the places I applied to have q time limit befor it expires. He tells me what to do all the time saying go do this or that and I ve told him he needs to learn to ask. Last night I got Fed up when he asked for my pillow I slammed it down on his faced he raised his hand and said I make it hard for him some times to not go agents what his mother thought him to never rais your hand to a woman. I said if you hit me that me the last time. He Scoft and said yea because then you learn your place. I said no I would leave and divorce you. He merely scoft again. I m still upset and another thing he can be sweet spoiling me but then holds it over my head so I don t ask him for anything now I either get my self or do with out. What do you think I m I just being a spoils brat like he says?

Finds something wrong with every counselor we go too. He told me he doesn't feel like it's helping. Which stop just anger management classes. I thought we were doing better with the classes. Until I found out my husband lied to me. Keeps lying is doing any of the couples homework. I'm feed up. I told my husband i want a divorce. Now he's stopped talking with me & eating dinner & cries all the time. I begged him before counseling to talk with me, spend time, I cried & he never apologizes until now for anger. I'm feed up with cleaning, cooking everyday & paying outreach bills. I feel emotionally drained. I feel like it's a little too late for us. I'm scared I don't seeing my husband changing. He wants counseling now I'm saying divorce. I admit I need to communicate better with him. I done all I can. I'm afraid he will just leave counseling again. I know our relationship is toxic. I see the look in his eyes. He barely wants to touch me or have sex. It's hurts so much. I gained a little weight from my medicine. I'm afraid to call my friends or family around him. I'm scared at all times. Please do men like this change? I'm 28 I want kids but just not with him. I picture myself without him. Yet him when I try to leave it wonder what everyone will think about my failed marriage. Especially since we're a Christian couple our church hates divorce. My family is begging me too get my puppy & leave. He's starting to not talk witb me anymore when I bring divorce. we dated 6 years

A year an a half ago, my mother in law decided to move out of state, we entered into a verbal agreement that my husband and I would rent her Townhouse. The agreement was that we would pay rent (which is the amount that the asking rate in the area is going for) plus Utilities. We have been paying rent on time each month and paying our utilities as well. The issue is that in the last 9 months, we has been coming back and forth to the TH as she pleases. She has been coming and staying for months at a time. How do I let her know that I do not want her to come as she pleases in a nice way. We are planning to purchase a home, but our goal is to move out in a year when we have enough money saved up. It's taking a toll on our marriage because neither myself of my husband want her there. She is very pushy, annoying and has a strong personality.

I just found a video of my husband saying n*gger REPEATEDLY. And also saying "n*ggers we hate you" "where are you lazy n*gger". This video was made a little over a year ago. I m HALF BLACK HALF FILIPINO. I don t know what to do. I could probably really hurt him if he wasn t deployed right now. What do y all think?

I go back and forth between wanting to be very sexual with my wife to not wanting to touch her and thinking of her as just a good friend or a maternal figure to thinking about her as very hot. Our relationship goes back and forth between no sex for months on end, to having sex every single night. One of our good friends recently divorced her husband after having an affair, because she saw her husband as a brother and another of our good friends (male) refuses to have sex with her husband for years now, because she feels like she is his mother. However she will not split with him because she feels too responsible for his well being. I feel that our relationship is going down the road to sexless, because we love each other too much. I have recently read "Mating in Captivity" and "Heart of Desire". These books both hit a nerve with me. But I am not wanting to bring the "other" into our relationship. Is there a way to keep things alive without the tension that these books recommend?

he wants to bring along our son too, do I let him and not make a big fuss over it? I say no.

Absolutely shocked and hurt at him having to use a rubber vagina while watching porn! We have a happy marriage, 12 years isn't my vagina enough? I am so disgusted with him I want to leave him, men are such pigs he says he was thinking of me and my vagina whilst doing it but it was black and so were the women on the computer screen.

I have been married for 3 years to the man I love. Sadly, he has grown up in a distorted family without getting any affection from his parents. I promised him to make it up to him and that I would be his family and give him all the love he will ever need. Sadly, my husband is emotionally distant. The closer I try to get to him, the more he pushes me away. He fights me without reason. He calls me names, he disrespects me and disrespects my parents who have been nothing but kind to him. He gives me the silent treatment for months. Every now and then, he says he wants a divorce. Now he is saying the same too. I have been nothing but a kind good loving and faithful wife to him and everybody knows it. On the other hand, he is never considerate towards me and he makes me cry. He has been out of the house for 3 months now and is coming back tomorrow. I think he wants to divorce. I dont want a divorce but my self esteem is suffering a lot. I am bruised and injured and I feel he doesnt love me. What can I do to make him see my real worth??? I am a great wife and I dont wanna wreck my marriage but I cant deal with his immaturity and lack of responsibility anymore!! How can i make him see he is screwing up?? Talking wont help. We tried talking a lot to no avail!!

I guess I am what you call a prude, quite reserved in sexual matters. Been married for 15 years sex is mundane but ok. I went a bit wild bought a 'rabbit' vibrator it spins inside me and the ears tickle my clitoris OMG this opened a new world! Can't stop using it and fantasizing about all sorts of other men, even had my first double orgasm!!I feel so guilty. I darent tell my husband he would be very upset, do I broach the subject, or keep it secret?

To explain, my husband wants me to be his servant when he isn't feeling good and I barely feel like doing anything for myself when I am not feeling well but I have to because who will? So why does he want me to ignore how I am feeling?

my husband used to cheat in the beginning and I forgave him those 2 times. Well I have made the stupid decision and did the same, we have moved on and he has "forgiven" me. BUT I always wonder if inside he still resents me bc they say its almost impossible for men to forgive as women do

I'm happily married and my husband and I have no desire to have children. We don't hate kids we just don't want them. I have several nieces and nephews and so does he and that's enough for us. However society, mainly people who have kids, keep saying things along the lines of me being weird and selfish for not wanting to have kids. Why is this? Why can't people just be happy and accept that not everyone wants kids?

Say he would always get his kids like promised and do things for them, meet up with you on time for scheduled visits, child support checks are coming like normal and then one day it all just stops. He's now ignoring your calls, standing your kids up, changed his job so the child support people have to find him and then you find out that he got back with an ex that didn't like you and was insecure of your relationship so he has now ceased communication. Is this because of her, is she brainwashing him into not being there for his children?