It s a lengthy one.So,please put up with me.Here's a little abt me.I am 25F.Got married at 22.It was arranged. Its pretty common in my country.I wanted to be the 'good' daughter to my parents and agreed to it.I am educated and was independent.But after marriage, I had to move with my husband to a foreign country (he is working there). I gave up my job. I didn't want to sit idle at home. So I did my masters and graduated last fall. I am actively looking for a job now. Problem-I tried for the last 3 years to try and understand my husband and be good to him while managing my life.But, my husband is so selfish and always tries to take control of my life.He says that I wouldn't hav done my MS and not have this so called happy life if it wasn't for him.He just doesn't think abt what he is saying or how his words would impact me.Being the only child, never in my life I had to beg someone to buy something I want.Now I feel like I am trapped in this jail.Even after all the insults that he throws at me,I thought I could still make him understand by talking to him.But it becomes an argument and he starts talking crap about my parents and how he was not given a dowry for the wedding.(he refused to get any when my dad offered him b4).My dad paid for my MS.I feel I hav reachd a breaking pt becoz he's forcing me to choose a job that he thinks is right for me while my interest is elsewhere.I don't even hav the right to choose the work that I would do till I retire.Pls help. I AM CONFUSED!

And not to go to work as they're a stay at home mom

I get asked a few times a month and I always tell them: Based on the number of sex partners I have I'm over 50 and under 60. I should be at over 200 and under 300 "special ones" by the time I die. These feminized dorks actually get angry at my answer. Feminism has really did effective work on these bozos.

So he can see her as well. We had her about 7hrs got back from picking her up around one. Shes been sick and had the runs. I changed her diapers twice the three hours I were there (only when needed) and I know my father probably did as well (he's a good grandpa) I get a text from my ex saying thanks for making her have diaper rash and putting her in pain. Saying she wasn't like that before and pretty much saying I didn't vhange nothing. And calling her 'her' daughter. And pretty much acting like I'm ignorant. I also get text from her constantly saying change your address even tho I did awhile ago, no text about my daughters well being or nothing just anytime time to put me down. What can I do. I tried being civil. I just can't take it.

even sexual touching makes me laugh from being ticklish even before im touched

In fact, I was never meant to be a father. What happened was a mistake. Should I leave?

all bitches feel women should have no accountability, yet want to be treated as equals, funny, let us know how that works out (if you convince anyone with a brain, that is)

I am an exotic dancer and I have a pair of 8 inch clear lucite heels that I wear for work. I want to wear them to go out to town. My jeans are pretty long and they cover pretty much all of the heels. Would it be inappriopriate to wear them going out ??

He told me recently that he has a fetish for exotic dancer shoes and he is talking about the 8 inch clear Lucite heels. He says he thinks that 8 inch stripper heels would look good on me and be good for the bedroom. Should I go get some ?

and he says he can help with that and her response is I think he would kill you. is she just looking for attention or should I be worried? shouldn t her response be like I wouldn t cheat because I love him instead? this was a long time ago when this conversation happened but I cant stop thinking about it and it keeps coming back to me and I dwell on it at work, how do I get over these thoughts about this? does my wife actually love me or am I just overthinking things? this was about 8 months ago, we have talked about it numerous times but I still cant stop thinking about it

and he says he can help with that and her response is I think he would kill you. is she just looking for attention or should I be worried? shouldn t her response be like I wouldn t cheat because I love him instead? this was a long time ago when this conversation happened but I cant stop thinking about it and it keeps coming back to me and I dwell on it at work, how do I get over these thoughts about this? does my wife actually love me or am I just overthinking things? this was about 8 months ago, we have talked about it numerous times but I still cant stop thinking about it

I don't know if I should randomly bring it up or what? I do everything and more that a husband and dad should do. She goes to bed the same time as kids and falls asleep so we never have time alone. I want to make it clear that I am unhappy. I have expressed this before and she said she doesn't like the way she looks. I need some help.

I love my husband tons but he watches way too much TV. some days when he is home 17+ hours a day! It's hard to have a real conversation, I try to talk during a commercial but one can not really get into much of anything then. He spends a lot of time on the PC playing baseball games, Then, he plays golf twice a week. I just don't fit in. He is retired now, and I want him to enjoy retirement but time with him feels like we are only together when we go on vacations. Eating meals in in front of the TV too. Once our kids legft the house, we stopped eating at the table per his request. It is getting to be lonely with him home and when he is gone so often. Anyone out there that has been married a long time and now going through the retirement thing? ,,,sorry kids, this just isn't a question you can answer.

A lot of my friends on FB are married I think they're way too young but I think the only reason guys marry girls is because they're pregnant or had kids which is what happened to my friends. Sometimes I think my husband only married me because I was pregnant. We've been married for 6 1/2 years. We got two kids 5 and 4. I was 17 when I was married to him. I got pregnant not long after we got together only a few months. He worked for my aunt so I known him for a long time but we were just friends before we were together. But we were really good friends. We do love each other but I think that's the only reason for our marriage. I still don't know how we ended up together. He is a wonderful father and husband and friend. But I hate it when guys just marry girls because they're pregnant but they're not old enough like 13-16 year olds. My cousin has been with this girl for 2 years I think he only stays with her for the kid she has. I don't see him anymore he lives far away so I really don't know. My friend was like me she got married after graduation only because she was pregnant but she was the same time as me. Our kids are a month a part. I don't get why guys do this to girls. Why do some guys only marry girls because they're pregnant ?

My mother in law is very close to my husband. In fact he even works for her at her business because she got him a job there right out of school. She calls him 8-10 times a day and is at our place all weekend. He also calls her for relationship advice when we are fighting and she does help matters. What should I do?

I should say first off, I wasn't perfect in my marriage. I left my husband for another man, so I accept most of the blame is on me. We had 2 kids. I struggled with the divorce because my kids were having a hard time, but I had a new baby on the way with my new bf so I had to accept things could never go back to the way it once was. My ex husband was a very good man, but something was missing for me. Fast forward 7 years, I feel like I ruined my children's lives by not trying to keep my marriage. My ex husband has since remarried and had a child with his wife. We share joint custody of our 2 kids, but when the kids are here with me, they tell me how they feel like they're not a part of a family anymore. My current bf and I broke up because our relationship was toxic, so now Im a single mom. When I look at my ex husbands life, I feel envy that his new child will have that family unit that my kids will never have again. Theyre gonna go on vacations, traditions, etc..and my 2 kids will feel like leftovers from a failed relationship. My ex treats our kids great, but they still feel like they dont belong in dads "new family". My oldest said it hurts when he sees Dad hug his wife and daughter when he walks through the door because he feels like he will never have that with me and his father. This hurts. I feel like I messed up their lives by making one foolish mistake.. Advice would be greatly appreciated.

I was watching a show about tornadoes. I love them but they scare me. I was watching one where a little girl lost her family in a tornado. She kept having nightmares about it months before the storm happened. Then her nightmare came true. 5 people died those people were her family. Her mom dad and baby cousins died in the storm. She was only 7 when it happened. It made me sad. I have a 5 year old and a 4 year old I don't know what I do if something happened to them or to my family and leave them. She said she went to heaven with her family but they send her back. She said if a loved one or someone you like dies you'll see them again it may take a long time. It was the saddest story about a child I ever heard of. Even sadder than Heaven Is For Real and Miracles From Heaven I have both and I watched those 1,000 times and I didn't even cry. I'm a born again Christian so I believe that heaven is for real. I go to church every Sunday. I hate it when people say they don't believe in God or Heaven but I don't listen to them. I believe in it. Is it ok to cry in front of my husband ?

Under normal circumstances I'd leave things alone and continue with a 'no fault' reason, but I figure explore my options. He had a child with another woman while I was pregnant with our 3rd child, their child is about 6 weeks younger. I had my suspicions, but he didn't admit it until later on. We had been separated at the time I got pregnant, were in the process of reconciling our marriage when I had our 3rd. He moved away to another state the baby was 4 days old. His roommate, the woman who was pregnant with his child at that time shortly followed him. He was there for the birth of their kid. Lied for 9 months about who the father was, said it was a mystery, said it was a test tube baby, eventually admitted that they got drunk one night. Apologized constantly for having a child with another woman. He was also dating another woman during most of this, lying to me yet again that she was just a friend. Needless to say, they are dating in another state now. He hasn't seen the kids in 7 months, which is ironically our 3rd's age. Although he's been trying to get me to take them there to see them(ikr?!). Anyways, he's wants to get this divorce done quickly even though i told him we need to resolve the custody of our youngest first. But, would him having another child with someone else be proof enough for adultery? ***** no negativity please, I regret my mistakes. I tried believing and trusting my husband for our marriage and our children's sake*****

That last questions you do not have to answer I know it, I am. He has been doing it for years but I found out about three years ago. I worked a lot made very good money but I do like to shop. But I did not even have time to do it except by internet or catalogs which is no excuse. Unknown to me I wa very ill and almost died which made me a stay at home On and wife. I love sex even offered to have a three some but he still has email address most I know about but he swears it's identity theft?!! Haha! Most are for women in our area I downloaded his photos ne to our computer and that is when I found out most of it. Some are even Illegak websites but the FBI nor local authorities will do nothing?? WHY? Because it's is my husband. I WANT SEX all he wants is a hand job or ********. His doctor gave him samples of Viagra and he will not use them, except for a box of them that is missing??? I screwed I do not have my own money now ?? Help???

I'm a petroleum engineer, meaning I'm always traveling 2/3 of the year. I'm thinking of marrying my girlfriend, who most of the time, I only talk to on the phone till I get time off. If I get married and have kids or something, I'll barely get to see them. Should I get married?

I'm 24 married only for a year but we have been in a relationship for about 8 years. Our marriage is seriously lacking intimacy now. We have sex maybe once every other month if i'm lucky, I ALWAYS have to initiate or it simply won't happen. At this point I feel as though my partner is only obliging to keep me quiet for another month. I try not to argue when it comes to this topic or bring it up anymore because there is always some sort of excuse as to why we aren't intimate anymore. He says it's because he's unhappy with his weight (which i've never had an issue with) so I wait it out so he could be happy with himself and still nothing a year later. We don't even kiss or hold hands anymore (he says we're to old to make out). I am beginning to feel deep resentment towards him, when we get into little disagreements I feel myself fiercely lashing out at him now because I feel like I don't have that "release" of stress that being in a sexually active relationship provides and I cant help it. I don't need to have sex everyday. All I'm asking for is at least twice a month or maybe other forms of intimacy like making out or something just to keep me somewhat connected to him. I am at my wits end, he even saw a therapist who agrees that he needs to work on this part of his marriage, yet absolutely nothing has changed. I don't know what to do anymore I feel like am giving up on this marriage because he feels like this isn't important enough to acknowledge. What do I do?

I ve been married almost 30 years...I have 3 kids. 2 are grown, and still live at home. they are 24 and 27...I also have a 16 year old son with severe autism. He s like a toddler, and needs constant supervision. My older 2 kids are working and saving to find a place of their own. My 24 year old works with his dad in his business, and he tries so hard to please his dad, but he keeps firing him for personal issues, (like if my son borrows his jacket without asking)...then my husband gets mad, curses him out, and fires him...then proceeds to ignore me for days over this. He s acted like this for the majority of time that we are married. If I try and talk to him, he just walks out..doesn t communicate, making me feel worthless. He also has treated our kids like this for many years, and is minimally helpful with disabled son. Yesterday, he was so mad that my 24 year old took his jacket, that he told me he s moving out. He came home and slept on the couch. I m so tired of this roller coaster. I have been a great wife, helped him through everything..but I can t do it anymore. I m already exhausted from working for him, and taking care of my autistic son, the house, and everything else. I have some money saved, and can leave if I really want to, but I cannot take care of my autistic son alone. He s aggressive, and hard to handle. I m trying to get him a good residential placement, but it takes time. Any advice would be greatly appreciated I get that he's probably tired of our kids living at home at this point, but they are not lazy...they both work, and they are saving to leave...they also are afraid to leave me alone with my youngest son, because he's aggressive...I do have medicaid workers for a few hours a day to help me, but it's hard to find consistant workers...that's why I'm considering placement for him (which is a hard decision) :(

I ve been married almost 30 years...I have 3 kids. 2 are grown, and still live at home. they are 24 and 27...I also have a 16 year old son with severe autism. He s like a toddler, and needs constant supervision. My older 2 kids are working and saving to find a place of their own. My 24 year old works with his dad in his business, but he keeps firing him for personal issues, (like if my son borrows his jacket without asking)...then my husband gets mad, curses him out, and fires him...then proceeds to ignore me for days over this. He s acted like this for the majority of time that we are married. If I try and talk to him, he just walks out..doesn t communicate, making me feel worthless. He also has treated our kids like this for many years, and is minimally helpful with disabled son. Yesterday, he was so mad that my 24 year old took his jacket, that he told me he s moving out. He came home and slept on the couch. I m so tired of this roller coaster. I have been a great wife, helped him through everything..but I can t do it anymore. I m already exhausted from working for him, and taking care of my autistic son, the house, and everything else. I have some money saved, and can leave if I really want to, but I cannot take care of my autistic son alone. He s aggressive, and hard to handle. I m trying to get him a good residential placement, but it takes time. Any advice would be greatly appreciated

I love him to bits, but we are more like brother and sister than husband and and wife. I feel really bad because we hardly ever have sex. We split up for a couple of months the last year and since we got back together he tries really hard to do everything to keep me happy but I know that it really hurts him that we don t have sex very often and it is affecting our relationship. What should I do? I am not sure if it is just the lack of physical attraction or if I just have a very low libido.

I am happily married for 14 years but recently ran into a huge problem. I developed an inappropriate crush on a very young guy at my gym. He is 27 and I'm 41. We hit it off but I backtracked when I realized may be crossing the line with the way I think about him. The good thing is he is somewhat shy. However, if he pursued me any further and really pressed on, I don't think I can resist him. I am that attracted to him and he drives me bananas with his insane sexiness. My husband is not ugly but it seems 16 years of being with the same man has its pros and cons. What should I do to get over this carnal desire?

I married my husband and turned in marriage licence just a few days ago. We married while he was in ICE hold. Now this marriage was real. But then my feelings started to change for him...I don t think I want to be with him anymore. We really did want this but we just decided maybe this isn t the way to go....How do I file for divorce. I have never done this before and I need to get it done asap before his court date right now while he is detained.

I an attracted to a young man who is 15 years my junior. I've done everything I can to avoid him and completely stopped talking to him. I say Hello and really cut to the chase if we have to speak. However, there are times that I still run into him and it seems I just can't shake him off in my head when this happens. This young man seems to know I have a thing for him it seems... and flaunts himself just to be known he is there. He seems to always need something that I'm using or has to be in the same room as I am(at work)- he's a contractor. How do I shake him off? I'm too old for my own mind games.