I ve heard that marriage, like a business, will make it if the couple can survive the first 5 years. So what are common things newlyweds will argue about?

I'm a retail Sales Manager, I worked for a company until a few weeks ago, I noticed my boss took a liking for me. He always checked me out, stared at me, he showed me in every way that he was attracted to me. He would get jealous and vindictive when I got close to another male coworker. I too started liking him. Until one day, I was transferred to another location, it was like a demotion, which I did not like. When new opportunities came up, I was never considered for them. It was like, I was being punished for something I did not know or do. I was very hurt and felt all of my hard work was not really getting me anywhere. He would go out of his way to help others except me, I thought he was angry at me and hated me. I even asked several times for a transfer, I loved the company I worked for and wanted to move forward with my career. THAN ONE DAY I FOUND OUT THAT HE WAS STILL MARRIED......AND HE WAS STILL IN LOVE WITH ME. I also found out that every promotion or opportunity that came up at a mall was where his wife worked and he did not want "that for me". His wife is a Regional Loss prevention Manager at a retail store. So basically he was keeping me away from her, or vice versa. The areas I wanted to go work he barred me bc his wife had a store in that mall. What do you all think? Am I conjuring things in my head, or was he keeping me a secret and away from his wife. Is it bc he did not want his wife's and my paths to cross?

My husband and I have been married almost 3 yrs. At first I did cook every day but he hardly ate unless we bought fast food or something like it.. I like cooking and i know how to cook I have worked at different restaurants and have experience cooking plus i have always cooked for my family since my parents always had to work.. Noone else has ever said anything bad about my food.. Yesterday my husband told me that the reason he always eats fast food before i get home from work is so that he doesn t have to eat what i cook cus he doesn t like it.. He has even told me before that it isn t like his mom s i have asked her to teach me the way she makes her food and even if i do it exactly the same he still doesn t like it, many of his friends tell him he is lucky to hsve a wife that works 9 hrs. Daily comes home and still tries to cook for him and keep the house clean but he doesn t see it that way..It did really hurt my feelings when he said that he doesn t like my cooking and maybe my feelings are not ok right now because am pregnant and maybe my hormones are making me feel this way.. But when he told me i felt like crying but i tried to hold it in.. now i feel like i shouldn t even try to cook for him anymore.. But I don t know what i should do? :(

1. He cheats on you. 2. His new girlfriend who you've never heard of calls you directly just to tell you to get tested for STDs.

I think this guy I am seeing may be married. I could be completely overreacting here but things just seem a little "off." Anyone know of any signs to pick up on that he might be married?

My fiancé lost her job about 3 weeks ago and since then appears to be having a hard time understanding boundaries. She texts me just about every hour of the day. I work and often can't answer my phone. She will continue to texting me (as if she's talking to herself) I'll pick up my phone and I'll have 5, 10, 15 messages in an hour timespan. I understand she's having a tough time being unemployed but I am starting to really question this pending marriage now after seeing this side of her. Any advice? I've tried speaking to her about it and she tells me she's just bored and wants to talk.

My boss at my new job trains me one on one. He's always punching my arm and laughing or teasing me. He will hear something I told someone and bring it up later to tease me. He also constantly stares and tells me he likes me to be around him and spend time with him and that I make his day happier. He will also stare for long periods of time and I am often unable to break eye contact. He is always asking me to come in the office even when newer people need to be trained. Also, he looks at my hips and stomach a lot. Is this normal? What's it mean ? He is always asking what I like, details about me, etc. Weird. He is always asking what I like, details about me, etc. Weird.

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Been seeing a guy on the side, I am mad about him but worry my husband will spot something in my behavior What tell tale signs will give me away? I keep the sex up even though I think of my other guy is that enough?

So the two co-workers are also friends and the married female coworker just found out that the other one was sleeping with her husband, and she is a wreak and is now in process of divorce. My question is they are both friends, and I'm very disappointed with the one that messed around with the husband. And in addition she is set to get married soon. I can't believe it, now a marriage is destroyed. How could she do this. I don't know how to react. I have a lot of compassion for the one that her life is now destroyed. I don't know what to say to the other one either, she is also my friend, but this sucks what she did. I don't know what to do. What sucks more as I said these two people were friends. It feels like it's hard to speak to her after what she did, I just don't condone cheating.

The divorce was not his fault as his ex-wife was a deranged lunatic who had not gotten over her own parents divorce. We celebrated the divorce by getting her a vibrator and saying here knock yourself out just don't put another husband through what you put our brother through.

So my husband and I have been together for almost 10 years, married for almost 6 this October. Overall we have a loving & solid relationship. Like all couples we have faced dark times but I am happy to say that we overcame those obstacles and decided to stay together after a 6 month separation over 4 years ago. My husband and I became very bothered by the fact that his family never acknowledges our relationship, our successes, etc. Every wedding anniversary we have had since then is irrelevant to them. It was my brother in laws anniversary yesterday and my mom kept blowing up our messages wishing my bro-in-law and his wife a happy anniversary and would not stop ranting about how "perfect" their love is. My Husband told her why she never wishes us a happy anniversary and in a nutshell she said because she doesn't know which one to celebrate....the new one or old one (being sarcastic of course). If she is not going to acknowledge our anniversary why does she throw my brother-in-law's in our face? I am tired of her constant bragging about them. I wish them the best but I'm getting so tired of her indirect insults. Any advice? **MY MOTHER IN LAW NOT MY MOTHER LOL.

I have a friend whose from India. Three of his brothers and two of his cousins were forced into marriage. Each of them begged and cried about getting married. By friend lived here in New York with his older sister and grandfather. He left India to focus on school and work, instead of marriage. He's only 25 years old If he was in India and refused to get married, he would of been beaten and forced to marrying a woman This would never work in America. No one can force anyone to marry anyone in America.

Hi everyone. So I need to get my own bank account but my husband refuses and says in his eyes that means I don't want to be with him. He blows money like crazy. When I first started my new job, he blew all our money in four days at gas stations and on things we didn't need. We can't get our own place because he's constantly blowing money. I yelled at him about this and he says he'll stop, then the next time I get paid he does it again! Later I find out he's maxed out over $1,000 dollars on credit cards with my name on it, so with my next check I bail him out there. Not even two weeks later, he's already maxed them out again on things like 200 dollars in nutrition supplements. I cannot do this anymore. I'm not greedy by any means, but I feel it isn't even worth it for me to work anymore. I'm working for him to go blow my money. I've tried and tried to talk to him and yelled at him about this, he won't budge. He says if I get a different account he would consider that me leaving him. Please help me?

So, here's a little background. A few years ago, my husband caught me cheating on him with his best friend. He didn't divorce me but a few months later it was kind of awkward so I divorced him. Luckily, the judge threw out the pre-nup because he thought it was unfair. So after the pre-nup got thrown out, I was able to "take my husband to the cleaners" as it is called. I got the house in the divorce, and he has to pay me alimony, damages, and child support. Even though he has had to live in a motel for the past few years (and he says he can only afford 2 meals a day but I am not sure that's true), is there any way I can make him pay me more alimony? I want more money (personal reasons).

Becoming a father is extremely important and I refuse to ever become a "weekend dad." I want to raise my children. If a divorce happens, I want custody of the children. Is it wrong that I feel this way? Would it be wrong for me to explain this any woman that I meet? That should "extremely important to me" That should say "extremely important to me"

My heart feels more sad thanks to the way she spoke with me tonight. I've known her for 7 years. Married for 5 years. She is very driven and we just want different things. She talks her native tongue with others for hours. So they all know her well. Meanwhile we barely talk. I used to challenge this but got told we are different. I gave up. She works very hard at becoming successful in her job and building a team. I usually don't know what's going through her mind and what's happening in her job. My job is simple. I also study. Balancing shift work and uni is a challenge. Tonight I was accused of not seeing what our marriage is like and that she needs a man who quietly understands her. Can give her the feeling of being understood. She has said that on and off in our marriage. No matter what I've said and done... What's she trying to tell me? I'm not achieving the high level status like her. I'm quietly working towards becoming a nurse. I enjoy the study and helping people. If I attempt to start decent conversations, they sometimes go nowhere. I think I understand her. Is she playing a mind game with me? It's not fair to be told by your partner that you're not good enough for them! Suggestions and advice to better understand would be greatly appreciated. Thankyou! To understand a woman is to listen to them and acknowledge their feelings. A bit hard to do if they're not communicating much. Throw in and language barrier, my introverted nature and it becomes hard. I thought a husband and wife were supposed to understand each other and be supportive of each other.

NY husband told me years later that when we were struggling with money between my jobs, that it was worse than he let on. He said I knew things were tight, just not exactly how tight things were...That he was worried that more pressure and stress could trigger my epilepsy. I was looking for a job and that was all I could do. My friend just told me her husband texted this morning "car trouble. being towed home." and when he got home, the rear end was quite damaged from somebody rear ending him. He didn't tell her until he got home because he didn't want her to worry the hour that it was going to take the tow truck. Personally, I don't really like the "little white lies". What are some you've told or heard, and how do you feel about it?

My husband is absolutely wonderful, he's been my best friend since we met. His mother was diagnosed with cancer, she's also recently told there's nothing else we can do but they will keep her comfortable. My husband is a mama's boy so he's taking this really hard, I am trying to be there for him, but he's got to where all he does is yell and has became emotionally abusive. I did try to talk to him about it, it turn around on me that I don't want to be there for him. I asked him to find a in between the old self and this pain. You told me that I just have to deal with this and he can't find it in between he's hurting too bad. It hurts me to watch him like this and the words he says but I don't know what to do.

He is an alcoholic. His drinking got out of control after our son was born. He says and does aweful and stupid things while drunk. His family knows his drinking causes problems but they still have alcohol around him and even offer it to him. Before he used to literally thank me for taking the beer away now he just curses at me and says I'm causing problems for telling him to stop drinking. His friend knows all the crazy stupid stuff he has done while drunk and his family has said they used to. It want him around because he caused problems when he drank. Is there anything that can be said to his family about not enableing his drinking by drinking around him or at least to keep beer away. They are an awesome tight family and they have family get togethers very often and some drink which is a problem.

Long story short. I married someone after being with them for 10+ years. My Grandmother passed down her wedding band to me for the wedding. I was over the top about this. Now fast forward a few short years and the marriage ended due to infidelity on his part. I felt as though my cherished wedding band from my Grandmother was wasted. I returned it to her with such guilt and remorse. Now fast forward. I miss her ring. I do not miss the marriage or anything within the whole relationship time period. Honestly it feels like that time didn't exist to me...EXCEPT her ring! I am extremely happy with my life and the man that has my heart now, but I miss it. I am looking for thoughts, opinions, feelings, ect.

7 months ago he moved out gave me zero notice said he didn t want me anymore so i was like ok well lets try to be friends we have several kids and so life went on then a month ago he said he wants me he wants us to be a family the whole nine yards i asked if he was sure he said he was so we have been getting along good very positive then 4 days ago out of the blue he freaks out says he was lying he just didnt want to be away from his kids he said im not what he wants, every time we get close or start to get along its like he picks a fight and this time my gut is telling me something s wrong hes not telling me something or something but i just cant figure it out and i need some insight.

My bf and I have been together for over 4 years. When we first started dating I was a lot skinnier than I am now. We had sex very often and he would always initiate the sex. He wanted to have sex at his work while people were around hot tubs the car.. etc. now we have gone a year and 2 months without any sex or foreplay at all. I ve found porn on his computer and phone and he claims it s "pop ups" or someone else did it. I ve seen him check other girls out in public. Is it because I ve gained a bit of weight? He s overweight and always has been so it shouldn t matter if I am right? Also his shift at work was 11-7 but over a year ago he got a new job same place working 7-3. He has never gotten out of work on time since he s had that job. He gets home around 5-6;30. He doesn t seem like the guy that would cheat but I don t know anymore. I ve tried to talk to him about it and he makes up excuses. He s too tired, were fat and wouldn t be able to do it, or he just doesn t say anything. Is he cheating? Is he not attracted to me anymore? I ve told him before what ever the issue is, if he s not happy with me to just leave. I don t know what else to do, but it s really getting to me lately...