How can I feel that I am adequate just the way I am? This is my story. I have always apologized for being who I am. I've always felt inadequate. I've felt not good enough because I've a squint in the right eye. I have a burn in my belly. My brother is disabled. I've been abandoned by my mom when I was 6. I was among the least wealthy students in my school. I have felt inadequate for 23 years. I have never been able to like myself because I am stuck with glasses since 6 years old. I was so ugly with glasses for many years. In finally the attractive glasses came. However, I was still feeling ugly. Let make it simple. I had a life with many outward appearances. I had rich possessions. I was in many school for wealthy people. However, I didn't have a lot of money. I didn't fit with wealthy people. I didn't fit with poor people. I didn't even fit with people in middle class like me. I was a kind of upper middle class. I didn't know many people like me. I didn't really know who I am. I was a middle class who was in upper class sphere and start apologizing for not being wealthy. How did I apologize? I apologize by not saying the truth about my family. I apologized by lying about my family's wealth. I apologized by not being myself. I apologized for being just a middle class by claiming that I am in the upper class I was living a miserable life because I found I didn't fit anywhere. I wasn't rich and I was't poor. However, I was richer than average people in middle class

I have two cousins ages 16 and 17 who have betrayed me by revealing all my personal information to my former neighbors. I am 28 years old by the way and I lived with them for about 6 months in that time I would talk with my aunt about personal things and they would listen to everything. At one point after I left from their house they started to reveal everything I spoke with my aunt to my former neighbors. I don't know if to even talk to them after what they have done. The sixteen year old said that she even wanted to send her friend to come beat me up for being stupid. I haven't done anything to her. I have spoken to my aunt about her but my aunt doesn't believe she has been speaking negatively of me or that they have revealed anything about me. She spoke with them and said they haven't done anything but they are sneaky because when we had a family gathering they started laughing when they saw me. What should I do? I have to see them at family gathering and I feel uncomfortable being around them.

I have only been friends with this girl for 2 years but as of lately she has become extremely attached, jealousy, seemingly obsessed & just over all not a good friend & not someone I want to be around any longer. She has been asking to hang out with me consistently for the past two weeks and I have just been putting her off, should I properly end the friendship or just continue to disappear on her?

This guy is my neighbor and he comes up to my in school and said that he had a dream about shooting me in the head, heart, and privates. He asked about my family's income, and says swears every five seconds and im super uncomfortable, he talks about the things he searches up in the internet (porn), and makes fun of people, and he tells everyone im his neighbor and everytime he sees me he nags my by the shirt or punches my arm. I told him to leave me be but he wont nudge. He has no friends either which makes me feel bad. Help I told him to back off but he didn't actually hurt me yet and its just yeah

So my sixteenth birthday is coming up later this month, and I waited to the last minute to plan it because I could not decide what to do. I always wanted a big party with a dj, big dress, and dance floor. But it s very late now and I don t know enough people to invite to it. I also feel uncomfortable inviting some of the boys I know. Then I thought of a dinner but lately I have not liked my friend group and I cannot stand to sit for dinner with them especially for my birthday. They have made my other birthdays miserable where I would end up crying at each one because they either couldn t come because they had to study had a cold or made me feel left out at my own party. I just don t know what to do and I really need ideas because I really want this one to be special and different from all the other ones where I didn t really enjoy them. All my friends had batmitzvahs and I want a chance to feel special. I just don t know what to with this group of friends because they r not mean, but they are very immature for they re ages. The conversations with them are boring and now make me angry because I feel like I m talking to a five year old. I only have one close friend who I like. I also can t do just one thing with only her cause my other friends I have known longer and will be offended. I k ow this is a lot of information I m sorry but please help me with ideas!

So my ex and I have been spit up a little over a year. He broke up with me. We re both seeing new people now. We haven t talked in a very long time but the last we talked we said we d be friends and I assumed we were on friendly terms. I started getting messages from my friends that he d invited them to his record release party on fb. My friends. People he s met maybe once. Every single one of them. But not me. They all found this very bizarre when they received the invite. Because they dont even really know him. What gives?

like I was being controlled. I feel like they take advantage of me because I'm a funny guy. They even said to me that they were entertained by me. I've already said many times that I have a certain limit, they somehow stopped it, but did it again. They seem make fun out of me but n a subtle way. If I get mad or don't talk to them, they behave differently, then pressure me again to do what they want. I feel like I'm a laughing stock. One time left he group on messenger, but one of them added me back. They seem as if they care for me.. That's why I'm confused.. I don't know if I'm just being sensitive or.. but my instinct is telling me to stay away from them.. but.. can't.. They said they really needed me and that wanted me to come back to them. Have I been manipulated by controlling or manipulative friends? I remember one of them kept telling me what to wear, what hair style I should have had.. It's just sickening.

So I'm not rlly good at any sport so I constantly have this problem. Lately I have been coming home crying or just very sad. And I'm not one of those who stick up to people. What should I do plz help. Thx for reading.

So I ve been friends with this girl for the past 6 years since we met in College. We hit it off right from the beginning and basically were best friends up until recently I guess... She made a new friend at work and they ve been getting super close because they re both of the same ethnicity/religion so I guess they have a lot more in common (similiar festivals, etc.) However, we were always best friends whenever we saw each other in school. But, over the past few weeks, we ve made friends with other people in our class and I feel like now she s drifting away. She doesn t focus much of her conversation towards me anymore and she hardly even texts me (we would text each other when we each got to school, letting each other know we saved spots for each other, etc) I feel like her attitude is changing.... Has anyone gone through this?

Popular college girls have fake tans and hair extentions.And nice outfits.Famous is someone whose life others want to have but cant.Whats your opinion?

im a sopmore in high school i have no friends and sit alone and lunch and im honestly sick and tired of it. Im ready and dedicated to making friends. I joined sports team for my high school but get cut off because i suck, eveyone on the sports team have years of training and i dont even have a week. I really want to play sports to but my parents can't afford a trainer or gym membership for me and even if they did I would have no one to drive me. Please help me What should i do?

Last week, a kid named Lajuan saw me biting my fingernails but he saido ut loud that i was picking on my nose. I told him ti shut up and kept saying mean words. the teacher did not like what he was doing then told him to stop but he did not realize how embarassed and upset I was. Class was over and then he started saying the mean words at me i pushed him and no one noticed , just students.On saturday i saw him at the mall and he called me a mean word and said he saw me at the mall. I said i know that and i don't care. I was trying to stand up for myself the teacher saw me and told me to sit down. what do i do? im really mad and upset im in 8th grade as a muslim and it has happened to mesince 6th grade.

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So I have anxiety a lot. So in class today we were in groups and the teacher had to make us pick other people. So I had my hand raised, and I was the only person with their hand raised. But my classmate ignored me, and I waited for someone else to raise their hand. To me it felt very uncomfortable, and I kinda started crying a little. But of course I didn't make it obvious. I just put my head down. I felt so embarrassed afterwards, because I don't even know these people that well, and I let it get to me.

At school we have a free period in our schedule, we can do whatever we want that period so my friends and i usually go out to starbucks and get drinks. 3 of my friends are in that period, wherever we go to starbucks i pay most of the time. Lets call my friends A B and C. Either i pay or my friend A pays. B and C never pay. I understand, B and C don't have much money, their parents only give them gas money and no spending money. But still. Itd be nice for them to sometimes buy me lunch. If we go out to lunch i pay too. Sometimes they do have money but they only pay for themselves. I feel bad if i buy a drink and i dont offer them something at least. I'm not rich or anything i just feel really guilty so i always ask if they want anything and pay for them. What do i do

Ok, so for 2 years now I've been pretending to be someone from England online, and have had this e-friend. She badly wants to meet me in person, but she doesn't know I actually live in California (and so does she). She even went on vacation to Europe last year looking for me, but I told her "I was on a holiday in the U.S." Now she's inviting me to go to Hawaii with her. How am I going to put an end to this? I know what I'm doing is wrong, but I'm afraid to blow my cover! What should I do here?

I'm almost 14 and my (single) mom passed away in Sept. It has been difficult, but I've had a lot of emotional help and I am doing reasonably well. But I need to make a decision of where to live, and it is really difficult. My dad and I have next to no relationship. He left when I was 2 and we have barely had any contact since. He is offering to take me, but I think it would be really awkward, he's never really been in my life, he is remarried with kids of his own, and he hardly sounds excited about me now, more like he is "willing" because it is the right thing to do. The other option is my aunt, who is married to a wonderful man and has 2 daughters I am very close with. She loves me, wants to adopt me, wants to make me part of the family. And I want that too. But she has also been very clear that if I want to live here, that means her treating me the same as she does them, and her discipline does include spankings......only as a last resort, not common, but they do happen, and she isn't willing to negotiate. And right or wrong she is steadfast on this, and my age does not change her opinion. I've never really been spanked (like maybe once when I was little), I'm a total wimp about pain, and this really scares me. I'm a good kid and rarely in trouble, but I'm not crazy enough to think I'll NEVER get in trouble, especially because she is fairly strict (reasonable, but strict). So it really scares me. But so does living with a "father" I don't really know.... Advice???

I have like one friend in school and I don't have any other friends because I'm a bit anti-social because people scare me with their fakeness. There was a time that I had friends but they were fake asf so I rather to sit alone or with that one friend during breaks or something. When she is not at school I'm always alone. I look around and I see everyone with a group and having a good time. I always sit alone and thinking of me being weird but then I remember what happened when I had a group of friends. It is not that I'm ugly or something or unfriendly but people don't talk to me. I have a straight somewhat arrogant face but it is how my face is, maybe I scare people or something idk. I also dont fking know why am I writing this but it feels good 😂 Is anyone in the same situation as me?

We always flirt but due to some issues I stopped talking to him n thus stopped flirting... I started flirting with another guy he would stare at us from far, he would not even participate in games when I was playing..why does he do that ??

I'm bitter and I don't need friends. Why bother? Let's be real, are you really going to see your current friends 5, 10, or even 20 years from now. No! I've been alone my whole life! No emotional support or anyone there to cheer me up. I survived and I'm still alive! If you need other people your weak. It takes a strong person to handle the pain by his or herself. Don't hide behind friends.

My friend is pregnant she's 16 years old she's scared to tell her boyfriend he's 20. I'm surprised he hasn't noticed she's 4 months along. She's really afraid to tell him. How can I help her feel better ? She wants to know how can she tell him ?

I've been talking to someone for over 6 months and the last two months she's just been giving me short replies like faces or lol. she seems bored with me and i'm always the one to start conversations. it's been almost three weeks since we last talked and she never wanted to start up another conversation. we've only met online so i can't meet up with her and do things in person. Also, should i keep talking to her?

Im always alone at school.

I don't want to be a snitch, but it hurts my feelings. What should I do? I've told them to stop, but they don't.

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I work in an office with 31 other people, mostly women. Most of us are single moms. We got a new boss 6 months ago who was only 27 and single. He has proved to be a great boss. Our old boss was fat, ugly, married and hit on every female that worked for him married or not. We were so happy to see him go. We had a going away party AFTER he left. We have all been working very hard on a project for the last month. It involved a lot of overtime at nights and weekends. We completed the project on time and everyone was happy. Our new boss told us the company could not give us a raise but he converted a room to a beauty salon. It is open at noon, after work hours and on Saturday and everything was FREE for the employees. It was something we all very much appreciated, especially us single moms. It will save us a lot of money and is so convenient. We were very surprised as who would have thought a 27 year old single guy would know how much we gals would appreciate this. The two guys in the office complained that we gals were getting better treatment than they were. The boss told them they could use the beauty shop if they wanted to. Us gals think the guys just like to complain. What do you think? Also do you think we have the best boss in the world?

I have a guy "friend" who comes to me for emotional support all the time. I've known him for a while but it just started happening recently within the past month. On one hand I think he may like me because he's been flirty before so I'm always trying to keep him at a distance since I don't like him like that and don't want to give him the wrong idea. But as a friendship it feels so weird. And I do consider it a friendship. We end up talking a lot and I like talking to him but he always shares a lot about himself to the point where I know so much about him and he barely knows who I am. The only reason I don't share or initiate contact and stuff is because I don't want to give him the wrong idea. On the other hand maybe he's just more open with me because guy friends might not offer the same support. Either way I don't know how to deal with it because I would like a friendship with him (but nothing more). I feel like I should just assume friendly intentions until he explicitly says he likes me but then I worry that I look like the bad guy for leading him on. TL;DR: guy friend is moving too fast in sharing personal details and cultivating a friendship. I want to initiate hanging out and stuff too but don't want to make it seem like I'm leading him on

hi, I am 16, a guy. I want to do a challenge with my cousin in Australia (17, a girl) and see who can gain more friends on Snapchat within a week. isn't this called a "treck"? please let me know, thank you.

I'm honestly so tired of it by now. Yes, I'm aware I look like a 13-year-old even though I'm 18. I'm normal height and weight (5'6, 130 lbs) but I have the babiest looking face. Even when I wear makeup, I somehow still manage to look around 13-14. Most 14-year-olds nowadays actually look OLDER than I do. I was even mistaken for a 12-year-old one time at the movies and they were about to charge me the same amount as a child's ticket. I'm a senior in high school and whenever people find out my age or even the fact I'm not a freshman, they start to question me and tell me I must be kidding. So we had a sub in my third period class earlier today, which is an elective so there are students from all grade levels (9-12) and people were talking about how old they are. When I said my age, the entire class burst into laughter and a few just looked shocked. The teacher, who doesn't even know me, joined in and people wanted to see my ID. One or two times is okay, but it's becoming something that's actually annoying me, especially how big of a deal people make it into. It also adds to my insecurities and makes me wish my appearance corresponded to my age. How can I deal with this? And does anyone by chance have any similar stories? You don't understand how irritating this is unless you've gone through it yourselves. I'd be rich if I had a dollar for EVERY TIME this happened to me.

I'm trying to become friends with this guy at school, and i asked him yesterday yesterday on facebook: ''Hey do you want to go to the movies and watch the new kong movie?'' And he said that we should talk about it next day at school. When i met him at school, i asked him again and he said that he didn't know if he had time and that he would write to me when he got home. He never wrote to me when he got home. I'm so hurt. I really like this guy. Should i keep trying?

Dating for 2yrs. We aren't an official couple. We've always been open. He is still friends with his ex who still wants him he told me he has feelings for her,though she ended things with him because she wanted more and he wasn't ready. Her & I mutual acquaintances, yet we aren't friends and dont even speak to each other. She doesn't know he & I have been seeing each other. Because he is still friends with her and knows it would hurt her to know we started dating weeks after they broke up, though she has questioned him about me becasue she has "heard through the grapevine". Initially I respected his friendship and care for her feelings, at this point I know longer care. He said they talk once a month and he doesn't give any more than that monthly convo., because of me and my feelings. He expressed the depth of his feelings. We are good friends, we talk daily for hours, see each other several time s a week, not always sexual, we have an amazing sexual relationship. We are major fixtures in each's life. Everything is nearly perfect except her being in the picture. He doesn't see anyone else, we consume so much of each others time. He thinks maybe we should forgo the sex aspect, because he wants to maintain our friendship yet worries w/o the sex I will stop everything else. He might be right because at some point he is going to seek sex with someone else and spend time with that person and less time with me and I will lose my friend. We dont want to let go, why do we have to.

Someone stopped the girl Ive been seeing in the hall at work asking if she was spending time with me.. she said yes and they told her to stay away from me, I was dangerous, selfish-- among other things. This really upset her and she came to me telling me what just happened. Obviously I'm not perfect, but I'm not an ax murderer! I have always been nothing but a gentlemen to this girl. What do I do?

Stuff like this I usually post on social media... but not this time because social media is actually one of the primary reasons why I'm posting this here. So thing is, I feel like I'm not allowed to be sad, or show any inch of sadness at all To provide some context, I came from a middle-class family in a third world country, where almost everyone dreams of starting a new life in America. Through numerous events and circumstances, I was blessed to not only be able to move to America, but also get a good job, a car, and enough income to support myself and help my parents out as well. We also have a decent apartment in the suburbs and all is well. But of course, this did not come without a cost. My long-term girlfriend and I, whom I had so many dreams in the future with, eventually broke up in the process due to long-distance relationship issues. Most of my friends are still in my hometown, and it's hard to gain friends when you're already done with school. So back to the topic in question -- I feel like I can't feel sad. I feel like my family and friends will judge me for not being content with what I have. I'd like to argue that no matter how good one's life is, they may still have their own problems, but I feel like it's going to be a pointless conversation that won't make me feel better. I'm stuck with this facade of impenetrable resilience, while I'm actually sometimes crying inside, with nobody to lean onto (used to be my ex-girlfriend, but whatever). Pretty sure some will think "DUDE some other people have WORST PROBLEMS than you how about just stfu and be happy with what you have" ^ And that exactly is the kind of thing I avoid in social media. Everyone has problems. I personally don't say this to people who express their problems because we all have our baggages we have to worry about. So if you're going to answer that, please just don't. Thanks a lot.

I feel very sad everytime my two friend talk to each other and not to me. They always talk about things that I don't know and I'm sitting there listening to what they're talking about. Everytime I talk to them,they would change the topic shortly.I feel like they don't have any interest in what I'm talking about.When we walk, both of them would talk in front of me and I'm walking behind them alone. I feel like I don't have any friend to begin with.