My big brother is successful, smart, cultured, worldly & an overall bigshot in life with a great personality & a lot of money. I'm the bad seed of the family. All I have to go on are looks & smarts, but I have an anxiety disorder that prevents me from sleeping & makes me an awkward weirdo. As long as I don't have to speak to anybody, I'm just the handsome young guy in the room. But personality is everything, I'm not even close to as dynamic as my brother. He forces me into social situations, forces me to meet with his bigshot employees & fellow bosses, he forces me to speak in public but I screw up a lot. I think he completely hates me deep down. He won't admit it but I can see it in his eyes & he says certain things that make me know. We were on a plane & he said "we should have booked separate flights." He wanted me to make an important phone call then was like "I'll just have to do this myself" before I got the chance. He's like Donald friggen Trump & I'm a weirdo loser, we're oil & water when it comes to social awesomeness. Extroverts tend to look down on introverts, would you be ashamed of your bother like me? I want to commit suicide, my whole family is better than me. I work for them, can't even find my own path like a man. I can't tell if he hates me because although he belittles me, he always drags me along to use me as attraction bait. What would you do in my position? I want to escape but don't have the money or prospects.

I heard them do it and how i know that, we were somewhere and we had seprate rooms and my dad snuck in and I heard the bed creak and after 15 min. That slut sait , "that was amazing " What am I supposed to do?

I am 14 and want a mother. My Dad bans my siblings and I from ever seeing her or talking to her or her family. HE says he family lets her be an alcoholic and does something called enable her. When I say I want to know her and love her he says I shouldn't because she picked alcohol over me. My step-mother is equally as blunt and even makes jokes about her. I don't want to live with her or anything, just know her and see her a few times a year and get to know my grandparents (her parents). I was 5 when I saw any of them last.

They are mad about money stuff that they think wasn't fair to her so they get mad when I see my cousins and aunts-uncles. They also don't tell me when invitations to my aunts come. I am on my Mom's families side because they DO NOT hurt me due to this like my parents do. By hurt I mean emotional. I get nervous about the grief I get when my parents find out I've seen them. I am an adult living on my own so most the time I am able to do it in secret but sometimes I am not. My mother is a very bitter person and my Dad enables her bitterness and does NOT support me. They (my parents) both have failed me. My siblings don't mind but I do. So what do I do?

She was beaten as a kid and raped by her father and later a partner of her mothers and a grandparent on her mother's side. So she I guess is used to it. I want my brother in jail but she won't press charges.

She hates my Dad because her mother (my aunt) does. My parents are divorced so my aunt hates my Dad as the ex-sister-in-law. The cousin is 31 and I am only 17.

Me and my husband are having alot of trouble between us he treats me bad but hes also loving. The only problem is when he gets mad he wants to hit me ( for no reason ) and talks to me ugly ( for no reason ) we have been together for 5 years and we have a 3 yr old, im 18 and he is 22. hes brother is so different, he had a crush on me before i met his brother ( my husband) i wish i could of chose him instead of my husband. My brother in law is constantly staring at my eyes for like 10 seconds. He makes me nervous like idk i cant stare back. When he does that kinda sh*t i always tell him WHAT? In a rude way and he laughs or says nothing. When I'm with my husband he never does that but when I'm alone he always does. Also he is always bothering me not in a bad way but like playing around with me but sometimes i get mad because he gets annoying! I had never caught staring at my body or anything else always diect to my face my eyes for a long timee!

The daughter was abandoned over non serious issues however it was a 20 year old daughter so not a kid. My mother says the aunt, her sister, is a narcissist but I disagree. However I think she does favor the really good daughter over the daughter that was unmotivated and otherwise had normal teen mistakes. A son is the middle child, not the scapegoat bad one and not the angel messiah one. Rebecca---I don't hate my aunt at all, it is my mother that does. I like her.

My mom has stage 4 breast cancer and basically what that means is it will someday take her life. I m 17 years old and as you can imagine, I m a typical busy teenager who is also trying to have a little fun in life. The problem is, anytime I want to do something out of the house for my own enjoyment my mom always makes me feel awful. She says things like, "I m dying and you re going to regret not spending more time with me." I always try to spend some time with her every day but I m also trying to balance school, my boyfriend, friends, job, etc. I guess I just wish I didn t have to feel guilty for trying to live my own life too. I love my mom but sometimes I wonder if this is fair to me. But then I also wonder, am I being selfish? Should I sacrifice more for her? Some advice would be highly appreciated.

I live in New York and he lives near Seattle. There was no fight or anything we're just not really close with, I talked him is via Facebook message we just hitting the like button and I sent a condolence card when his wife's mother died. Since our parents died with kind a lost touch though it's not due to a fight or anything like that. Is this perfectly normal? I still be polite if I saw I am or if you needed something

My parents say they can see everything I do on my phone... I mean my dad did buy my phone but I'm a teenager doing teenage things my parents wouldn't approve of. And so is my brother, but they can't see what's on his phone? They bought his phone too. I don't want to ask him how because he has a loud mouth but how can I keep them from seeing what's on my phone?

ok soooo im a 14 year old girl who respects her privacy very much. but my parents are a bit...protective?? I'm not doing anything bad, buuuut whenever i had my old phone, i noticed that my mom and dad knew what i had been texting my friends about and what id look up and they'd pretty much know my life lmao. this had lead to a bit of trust issues because I really don't want them seeing anything. and i don't want to tell them anything because i know that'll make them suspicious (my parents are very paranoid) and again not that im doing anything bad, i literally just want my privacy. so for christmas, my dad got me the iphone 7. and whenever I was setting it up, I did use my own apple id that i had just made when I got it. (Before I used his) Buuuuttt I have logged into his twice to download a few apps, but I'm back in mine now. I'm just wondering??can they see what's on my phone still?

I m 18 years old (going on 19) and my parents (mostly my mom) are SUPER strict - to the point where I m not allowed to ride in any of my friends cars (let alone people under the age of practically 30.) My mom uses the excuse "it s not you we don t trust; it s the world," "they don t know the area," and "it s illegal (though it isn t.)" She makes semi-valid points, but she says I m still young and guilts me into thinking soon I ll be gone and having my own life..again, how can I convince them that I m fine and that my friends are safe?? PS - they know all of them and love them...I don t get it.

I often feel trapped between a rock and a hard place. I'm the youngest of 6 who lives the closest to my Mum who has become a little too dependant on me. I also have a daughter who has 2 children and is pregnant with her 3rd (she has a partner). I'm also in a relationship with someone who works away all week as a lorry driver. Meaning I only see him on a Saturday and Sunday and it is guaranteed that either my mum or daughter require my help either for baby sitting or taking grocery shopping on the weekend. Then when I say no I can't they get really stroppy and call me selfish. This is after I spend almost the entire week with them and my grandkids helping mum with her housework and chores and helping my daughter by picking her up and taking her places as well as doing the school runs. Am I wrong for wanting to scream and runaway from them sometimes? I can't even keep on top of my own housework because I do so much for them but if I stop they get the hump on and my mum stops talking and hangs up if I try to call her and my daughter throws a strop and stops me from seeing my grandkids. They seem to hold grudges until I make the first move and apologise to them for being a *****

My mother and her family always gossip about people and does my heading. I told them why don't you not say it infront of their face? They say we don't Gossip.

I am 25 now and parts of his family never wanted to see us again as they blamed us for his suicide. He was manic depression and my mother was getting divorced from him which is why they blame us.

Why can't we just forget about it as it's in the past and sad?

Whenever he says something, he says it to criticize someone. He always find something negative for everybody. Whether this might be someone he knows, the radio presenter or the tv presenter, the politicians, etc. And he doesn't keep it to himself. I often times hear him insulting the whether presenter at the radio morning news. He talks alone "yea right, you know nothing give me a break". He never told my mother dinner was nice. He all the time find something to be wrong.. Like "it needed more salt, it wasn't cooced enough" My mother feel the same about him. But she cannot do anything about it. I remember one time when he overdid this, he went to her room telling me he can't stand his negativity anymore. Even about me,he never told me one time that i'm good enough for him. I have achieved so much so far, and he didnt tell me well done for anything. I got a master\s degree, i succeed in so many sporting competitions, and nothing. I've lived alone for 8 years and now that i had to came back home for a while now i see problems in this family that were already there long time ago. What do you thing guys should i talk to him? I will soon go out of here but i feel sorry for my mother now.

Its really a long story but i m getting mentally and emotionally abused to the point where my health is declining. i have very bad anxiety, i have migranes everyday and i break out into hives due to very bad stress. I ve tried getting CPS and my counselors involved but they didnt help at all. I stay with my sister and her girlfriend and they both love to make me miserable, she has took my phone so i cant have any contact with my mother or father. i basically only eat bread because thats really the only thing in the house i can eat. her girlfriend buys all the food and i cant touch the food because she ll get mad and tell my sister in her words "tell your sister to stop touching my ******* food" and they basically eat out everyday and i cant come along. i really just want leave.. my plan is to get a greyhound bus ticket leave when they are at work and get a uber to the station and go back to va stay with a friend for a while and get into job corps

Hello,We live in Florida. My brother has not seen his daughter for two years, we have been searching high and low, for months asking people if they have seen of have even heard about them but nothing. We were finally able to save up enough money to hire a lawyer. The lawyer finally located the mother and my niece and her school she told us to go to the school and have my brother add his information on to the emergency contact card so we did just that, he had his court papers from before, birth certificate and we went and showed proof and added all the information. Now the mother found out and is very angry from what the child tells us (yes i said we didn't see the child but her grandmother found out we have been looking for her and has been letting us facetime the child without the mother knowing because if not the mother and the boyfriend will prevent the grandmother from seeing the child as well so everything is on the low) anyways the mother is now taking the child out of the school we had added the information too. Can the mother do that? Is that even legal? My niece was so scared and nervous to tell us. This makes my heart break to know that her mother is putting her through all of this!! Mind you she disappeared as soon as she got with the man she is now, she is also telling my niece that her daddy is that man, not my brother! I don't understand why she would do this? I get along with my daughter's father and his wife just fine.

Im 33 and I recently started talking to my parents after a long while being away (7 years). I found my mother a procrastinating self denying prick, and my father just depressed by what happened over the years. I live with my mother for years and now I can't stand her backwards beliefs that have no proof. She lives on welfare and says she does the best she can. (lie)

I m about to turn 18, but I want to go farther and cut them off completely. My father has abused us all my whole life. He restricts us from developing friendships by not allowing us to see anyone after school or visit/talk to anyone outside our immediate family on a regular basis. He demands we greet him when he comes home from work by hugging and kissing him even though he literally never hugs and kisses back, acts disinterested as it happens, and seldom even looks at us. He only occasionally greets us when we come home from somewhere but he just says hi and most of the time ignores us or expects us to once again go out of our way to greet him. He constantly insults all of us behind our backs and to our faces over trivial things like styling our hair a way he doesn t like or making a food dish that he happens to dislike, and if anyone tries to stick up for another he explodes, gets defensive, and turns on not just whoever is involved but all of us. When this happens he makes threats such as threatening to kill himself or to kill all of us, he sarcastically apolgizes for offending everyone and says he has to take decisions and make changes to do the right thing, he says that we are disrespectful and ungrateful and rude, accuses us of yelling at him when we can barely here ourselves over his own booming voice, and on certain occasions has hit my mother in the face with his hands or nearby objects, punched my sister in the mouth, and grabbed and threw me across the room.

After my first semester of university, during which I was constantly yelled at and abused, my so-called parents kicked me out to the streets. I had to live in a homeless shelter for 4 months to find a job and a home (leading to me to give up second semester). I also had to take a break from school for a year to save money. I've heard of parents who were former crackheads and would support their children's education. Yea, maybe you wouldn't agree with me, because you're a f-cking moron who work minimum wage all your life with a f-cking GED.

I love my mother very much and she is honestly so great but lately she's been so abusive towards me because my igcse examinations are coming up and I started getting low grades, she expects ALOT from me and keeps on telling me about how much hopes she has for me and how my WHOLE family see me as a doctor and I appreciate their trust but it's just been too much like I feel so pressurized and I know that I can't get up to their expectations. Today, she hit me cuz I got a low grade in a school WEEKLY class test like it's not gonna reflect any way in my certificate but I just feel so fed up of her and the way she's treating me like I'm a pawn of some sort, whenever I try talking to her she gets even more mad pls tell me what to do I might even commit suicide from all the pressure!!!

I'm currently 17, but will turn 18 in November. I'm going to move out of my current house, and into my boyfriend and his parents's place. I'll be a senior in high school by this time. My mom can be controlling and likes to make decisions, although I tell her a hundred times that I can make them myself. She even has me riding a special education bus, and although she knows I can manage on a regular bus, she doesn't care and says I'm staying on the bus, which I hate. That's how I'm going to move out, since I will have control of my IEP when I turn 18, and although my birthday is almost a month before Christmas, I'll probably leave on my birthday, or soon after. My boyfriend wants me to move in, and his parents are letting me. He's 18, but will turn 19 two weeks before I do. I live in Indiana. My older sister, who is 20 (but will be 21 next month) moved out last June to Ohio with her boyfriend and his mom, but she was pretty much living with them in their apartment before she left. My mom was upset about her leaving, but they still talk on the phone or text every day. I still want to do that when I move out, and I'll be living a couple of streets over. What can I do about moving out, and from my situation, when should I? NOTE: I don't plan to move anywhere but to his house, and I'm aware of any potential problems. But, I'm still going to move in no matter what, and we don't currently want a baby until we get married.

I m a struggling single mother of a 7 month old. The father won t help me with anything. If he doesn t have our son that day then his father duties don t exist. I can t take it anymore of my job being on the line because I don t have a babysitter and can t afford $80 a day for child care. I want to give up, give him custody of our kid and I do every other weekend. I have a bf right now who treats me amazingly but I just want to break up with him. No he doesn t help me financially and no I would never ask him to. I am fed up. Has anyone else ever felt this way?

My mum brother went on holiday and spent his time at my father in laws house. My mother in law cater for him, looked after him as a guest, washed his clothes and iron them etc. Prepared meals, taking him outing in their car. After he returned from his holiday, my mum brother was complaining saying they did not look after him, whatever he was saying was all negative towards my in laws. My brother decided to record what he was saying and then i forwarded to my in laws. Obviously they were angry, they stopped talking to each other. My mum brother was in the wrong, living in someone else home and saying bad things is unacceptable. My mum is taking his brother side and she shouted at me for sending the recording. Am I in the wrong? What would you do in this situation? I allowed my uncle to stay in my house for few weeks and my wife helped him as much as she can and made sure he's happy. In the end, this uncle said negative things about us to my mother and his family. This uncle thinks and feels he is "superior" than everyone and we should get his approval for everything! He went abroad and had no place to stay so he asked me to tell my in laws! When this uncle speak, nonsense comes out! He just talks behind everyone. I cut all comms with him.

6 months ago my husband and I separated. I allowed him to take our son for a visit and he never returned him home. I finally got my son back, he is 3 years old. For the last 5 months he has really bonded to his grandma and daddy. The last few days have been hard and he is resistant to me. Im so happy to have my baby back and its killing me that he keeps crying for his grandma. I want more then anything to have our bond back and not sure how to fix it.

Another adoption-related question because others were answered only by a few people each. I am not comparing a bad bio family to a good a-family. I know there are a lot shitty bio families, bad bio parents, etc. But if a bio family is at least decent, would you rather stay with them?

My mom has work school and my siter and me and recently i see her act diffrent she doesnt seem normal today my mom had acted like she wanted to choke my sister and my mom normaly doesnt do that and now i feel that she is going to kill us at night. we sleep in the same room but i scares me alot i geting insomnia now because of this

Ok so my sister boyfriend my sisters son and I want to pack up and move to our home state. I m 19 almost 20 my sister is like 26 and her son is 8! I love with my parents and I don t want them to be mad. How should I tell them? They are kind of explosive people..

Sometimes my boyfriend have mood swings or he just flips out. I don't know what it is but I'm going to leave him if he don't change. We argue almost everyday. I thought maybe it was an affair but it's just him. He started yelling loud for no reason throwing things playing. But I look at it as something else who does this ? I will tell him stop and he keeps going. He gets worse. He yells in our face my baby face. He turn off the light last night. While baby in my arms starts to play around and push me and play. I'm like what tf are you doing stop. My baby is about to fall on the couch. So I start punching him in the arm defending myself, he then starts choking me on the bed. I'm yelling stop can't breathe then finally break free for air , trying to fight him off. Baby is crying . I break down in tears cannot believe this. He's saying he sorry just playing and then acts as if nothing happened after go on about things , I'm leaving him !