My sex drive is nada so he got pretty frustrated about the no sex. I gave in and ended up pregnant again. Just as I found out literally the next day woke up and had a miscarriage again. Another critical blow to the marriage. I no longer have any desire for sex. Every day all day long it is a huge issue for him. I can t wrap my head around it. We recently went through myself saying I can t do this and that I didn t want to be married anymore. And a little while later I decided to start my walk with God. He is a non believer and afraid of what it is doing to our marriage. But I don t push it on him or anything. I just feel after everything I am no longer in love and that this marriage is done. I am asking for guidance or words of wisdom. I didn t put everythjng here but I have been through so much and I am just so tired now. The only peace I get is knowing that I have found God. Thank you in advance :(

I'm filing my husband's I-130 and I-485 forms. I'm still confused about EXACTLY what I need to mail with my I-485 form. I want everything to look perfect for the immigration officer. I was told that my husband needs to take a full medical exam but I don't know if I need to mail it with one of the forms or does he takes it with him when he has his up and personal appointment with the U.S Department of home security.

not forced againts will but pressured you not completely forced too

My boyfriend is Jewish. I am not Jewish. We have never had sex because I believe it s good to wait until you re married, or at least engaged. We have talked about me converting, and I have agreed I would do so. We would like to get married sometime soon, but I m hesitant about something. My boyfriend will only have sex with me, even if he is my husband, when I am Jewish because he says he would only ever have sex with someone Jewish regardless of whether that person is his wife or not. Only being Jewish matters, not the being married. Is this normal? It doesn t seem very normal at all.

Every time we get mad at each other she takes her wedding ring off. She does this at least 4 times a week and it's starting to get annoying. Any thoughts she is 20 years old

My husband recently disclosed to me that his grandfather sexually abused him when he was 10 over the course of a year. He said it happened 3 to 5 times. He has not yet felt comfortable enough to disclose details. He is making an appointment for therapy. He is a well adjusted adult, he has no outward or obvious signs of abuse other than sexual problems, including feeling uncomfortable during sex at times and being emotionally closed off. After much discussion we feel at a crossroads. Telling his mother would hurt her terribly as it is her father. After all, this is 20 years later. Will it do more harm than good? Should he just work on it himself (with me for support) and leave his mom out of it? Not to mention he has a younger brother who could have also been abused. I also have two young girls from a previous marriage. I really don't want to take them around him anymore, but they'd miss every birthday and holiday get together. It would be noticed and an explanation wanted.

I am 14 and my parents married when I was one. I have two younger siblings and one older half-sibling from my Dad's first marriage.

I do have a boyfriend but I don't want marriage nor kids.. well the kid part I can't have any kids.... Am I cruel?

I'm a successful black guy in my early 30s with a law and MBA degrees. Ever since I was a kid, I realized I'm only attracted to white girls and I used that as a motivation to work hard and have the financial resources to marry someone I'm attracted to. Don't get me wrong, I love my mom. My parents worked very hard to give me and my brother a good life and I went to suburban public schools where most of my classmates were white or Asians. I don't think I'm racist or a self-loathing black guy because it's just personal preference (I know white guys who prefer Asian girls and my brother only dates Latinas or light-skinned black girls). I was the "black nerd" throughout high school and most of my friends were Asian or biracial nerds. I didn't have a good time in college either because I studied 24/7 and didn't lose my virginity until I was 24 in law school to my first girlfriend (who is white). Anyway, long story short, all the girls I've dated in my life are white and it's creating a lot of tensions with my family. I also make it a point to avoid "talking black" (always using proper grammar, even adopting a slight British accent) and always dress respectably. I find African-American culture distasteful and trashy. I go to Broadway shows, listen to classical music, go on vacation in Europe, play tennis and squash, and enjoy Renaissance art. I'm also a Republican. I've experienced racism but nothing too bad and I generally see it as a "cultural issue" (if blacks assimilate, they wouldn't be discriminated against). I have a great relationship with my white fiancee. I've experienced racism but nothing too bad and I generally see it as a "cultural issue" (if blacks assimilate, they wouldn't be discriminated against). I have a great relationship with my white fiancee. She's blonde-hair, blue-eyed with an amazing figure and extremely beautiful. She's from a well-to-do family and her family seem to approve of me. But mine doesn't approve of her and my dad threatens to disown me. My mom cried and blamed herself for raising a self-loathing sellout. My brother called me an Uncle Tom and said we have a black first family with Obama and it's 2016. But I just never find any black female attractive. Not Michelle Obama. Not even Beyonce, Meagan Good, and Gabrielle Union. I don't like nappy hair and I don't like their attitude either.

Life is too short & I don't got anybody to talk to. I know my problems aren't as big as everyone else's but I'm isolated to the point where I feel enslaved. Most of my friends don't understand me because all they ever want to do is joke around while I talk about serious problems like world hunger & trying to solve them. I don't really have family besides my parents. I barely see my dad & my moms always working. I'm almost out of high school & I'm making power moves but I feel incomplete. I wish I had a REAL family & REAL friends who understood & supported me. I'm never satisfied with myself I always brush off people's compliments & what's hurts most of all is I don't believe in myself. I want somebody

Every month since he had to start paying child, all my ex-husband does is whining and complain about paying child support. I wish really wish he shut up about it. The judge said he had to pay, and that's final. My ex-husband says that I'm raking him over the coals, and I should be entitled to "his money". The money isn't for me, it's for our kids. What's done is done, and I really wish that he would move on. I do have a full-time, but my ex-husband makes a lot more money than I do. @ Bam, I was given full/legal/sole custody of our kids, because my ex-husband is a recovering alcoholic. He made some bad decisions, and the judge felt that they are better off with me. He can see our kids anytime he wants to, and he calls them all of the time. However, he chose to move across the state, and he only gets to see them 2 times a month. It's NOT my fault he chose to move.

I don't plan on taking it to the next level nor telling my husband about it. I really like this young man and I know he is very attracted to me. We talk casually here and there and I trust myself to never cross the line. Is he safe to hang out with or no? He's 13 years my junior.

also tell me how long you been married cause I wanna see if your feelings about it change over time.

I know cliche but this is really about my best friend .. Ok so her husband got really drunk and he got really pissed off for some reason and hit her. It wasn't too bad. I know still. I would personally end it there. What do you think ? I think he will just do it again but she is clueless

I'm 4 months pregnant and in the pass two weeks my husband has stopped spending time with me. He works hard and is tired, I get that but he use to come home shower, eat and watch tv with me then go to sleep. Now he comes home showers and then either goes to his moms house or goes straight to bed. He keeps saying his mom is lonely. Being pregnant makes it even worst because all I do is cry about it.

My husband just got promoted and with this promotion we'll have to move to another city. He annoys me because he's a typical white man and I'm biracial. We have 4 young kids and I'm 6 months pregnant with the other one. As much as he annoys me with his jokes and tardiness I'm proud he got promoted. The problem is I have my friends and family in this town and so does he, the kids are settled. The only good thing about moving is me not having to see his annoying mother anymore. He's really keen on this house that's like a 20 minute drive from his work in a small suburb. I googled the place and it looks boring and I don't like the house. I told him but he thinks the kids would love it. I wouldn't be able to go shopping and I fear I would get bored. What do I do?

We only had sex once within 2 years abd 4 months is that bad ? We are in our 20s. I been waiting to have sex with hubby after getting married but never happened!:(. And I'm still waiting . I love him to dealth but marriage not getting consummated is killing me . I been suffering inside for 2 years!!!!!!! He say he wants it but make up excuses to stop such as I got to make dinner or I need to make a phone call . I respect him That's seem more important to him then being one with me . Hubby is great and loves me but don't make love with me - we make kiss but then I need to go further but he don't go any further then that and it's killing me inside

I went into her gallery he downloaded the picture today he is not friends with her on Facebook. I know he is going to keep denying it. He called me thick and said he doesn't know why he married me

A lot of stuff happened in that house . His brother died in that house in 2010. He been living in that house since age 15. Also , he spent a lot of time there with his brother before dealth and two cats before dealth ( died in 2008) . He has therpy and we been married for a year and 8 months and I really want to live in a house with only hubby . I want to share my life with him ! For the past two years I been arguing to move out and share life experience together! But it's always no. He can't move out . I'm moving out right now because I can't live with my in laws . It's been 2 years and 4 months living with them . I'm 25.

Monday, I surprised my wife with a gift certificate for a massage. That evening, after the kids went to bed, we had sex and it was really good. She is really not ok with oral, but a couple times she hasn't pushed me away from the "region", which is what happened that night. I really enjoyed doing it, told her that, and want it to do it again. But I don't want to be pushy as she has expressed disinterest in the past. What really makes me think she might be ok with it now though, is yesterday, I noticed she had her personal shaver on the bathtub. Did she get that out, as a way of telling me she's okay with me going down there? I'm not sure if my getting the gift certificate for the massage had anything to do with it. But did she allow me to do it as a circumstantial thank you for that? Obviously, I can ask and talk to her about this. This forum is created to receive objective viewpoints of it's readers. I'm just seeking out people's thoughts, opinions and similar circumstances with possible solutions.

I'm still hoping we can work things out but it looks like there is no chance anymore. and i didnt want my wife to look bad but she leave me no choice. Pls advice. Tnx!

I have been married for 15 years , about 5 years ago, in the office where I worked I had a co worked that told me he likes me, I didn't tell my husband about this, but I continued talking to the guy. Never went out with him to lunch or anything but I regret not telling me husband. is it considered cheating? Knowing the guy liked me, still spoke with him, had him as a friend on FB , my husband knew I spoke with him , but didn't know he actually told me he liked me. He never even touched my hand. I just feel the guilt of not telling him at that time.

I work all the time so my husband is Usually the one in charge of making the kids meals. We have three kids and he spends about $20 a day on all of them. I think that's crazy but he's convinced that it's cheaper than buying ingredients to make real food. He gives them junk food so much that they refuse to eat healthy food... Ever. They barely want to eat fruit. Even though I work more than him, he makes far more money than me so I don't have a big say so on the groceries he buys. When I have a little extra money I try to go to the farmers market and get healthy groceries. The only things he gets from the grocery store are cakes, cookies, and soda. He said soda is cheaper than orange juice which is only a dollar. I told him getting $50 worth of groceries will last longer than $50 worth of fast food but he's still not understanding.

he never told me that they text with each other. recently i went to my friend s house and i was talking to her about something and she told me she already knew because my husband had told her i didn t know they spoke like also while she was showing me the messaging in one of them it saying come over and bring beer and food when i confront him he say he was joking because he knew she wasn t gonna come. he say im taking stuff out of proportion and that she knew her before even me so i couldn t get mad please am i over reacting

He's done this so many times I've lost count during 3 decades. He gets really mean, sometimes violent and he leaves. This time there was no violence as far as physical. He is the bread winner. He makes good money.. It is myself and our teenaged daughter. Groceries are scant and now he's cut off my phone. My cell was just 50 bucks a month. I use very little data. I have a job, but I don't make much. 3 days ago he stopped by, leaving a few groceries. He was very nice and looked sad. I'm wondering what he's up to. I haven't talked to him since. I've decided I'm not going to reconcile. Not this time.

I recently found out the my best friend is the father of my child. I had dated him during my time in highschool. However it wasn't clear at that time who my child's biological father was. The person that I expected it to be, my current spouse was not the father. My best friend currently has two baby mamas with 2 kids and one on the way. Likewise my current spouse are in a troubled relationship, we only probably got together for the child. I haven't told my current spouse as of as it, I was just planning to let our relationship slowly end. Since I know the truth, I feel it would be unethical of me to still expect my current spouse to be financially responsible for the child. My child and my current spouse have an amazing relationship, so I don't want to be quick to end that either. Therefore I told my best friend that I was going to file child support on him. My reasons being it would be unethical for me to ask support from my spouse. I don't want to have to hunt my best friend down in his life to ask support from my child. I don't want to be told "no" if I ask my best friend for something for my child. If me and my spouse do breakup, then that leaves me as a single mother with one income. I want my current spouse to be that father and my best friend be financially responsible. But my current spouse does not like my best friend. An then my best friend feels that this is coming out of spite, of me being secretly in love with him. So which is it? an what should I do?

My soon to be husband ignored my text yesterday. I know he can't always hear his phone ring, but he still needs to look at it for work. Just wondering why I felt like i was a 2nd fiddle to him? I cook for him and always have his back, I know in the past he didn't always reply or not right away. Just wondering why i felt like that now?

been married for 15 years , I have worked in an office ever since got married, I have to interact with males not only females. at some point my male coworker told me that he liked me , because I was a really nice person and so on. Any how, knowing that he liked me I still was talking to him, never accepted going out like for lunch or anything,... but I feel bad that knowing he liked me , I didn't tell my husband at that time... and I still spoke with him... would that be considered cheating?

I was on the layoff list where I work. I had a stroke of good luck and found another job at the company will a larger salary that I took immediately. Then I found out I had an unexpected problem. At my new job I am the boss of several guys. They are all great guys and they accepted me as their boss without any hesitation or problems working for a woman. My problem is my husband. He wants me to quit my job because he said "I don't want you to working closely with all these guys who want to get into your pants." I told him they can want all they want but it is not going to happen. I pointed out to my husband that we need my income to make our mortgage payments and I would be happy to quit work if he got a job that would cover all our expenses. Are all husbands this way? I have never given my husband any reason not to trust me. Why does he think every guy wants to get into my pants?

I m pregnant an I hate my spouse. I know it can be pretty normal during pregnancy I just don t know if I m being.... Extra? This pregnancy is so different from my last two, I m over emotional, insecure, and can t control my temper. These are all things that are VERY out of the norm for me. I ve been going through his phone lately (again not something I usually do I just have this feeling I can t trust him) and he s talking to other girls. I ve told him 3 times now that I don t like it and it really upsets me. He gets mad at me and tells me it s nothing. It s just stupid little stuff like "hey cutie, what s up, when can I see you" the last one is what really annoys me. However, he doesn t really go anywhere so I don t think he s physically cheating. But that s enough to put me through the roof right now. Plus he texts them only when I m not around and when I m sleeping. He keeps saying it s nothing, he s bored but.... If it bugged me that much wouldn t you stop? So my question is... Do I bring it up AGAIN and cause another fight. Or just leave it alone until it s really "something" ... Thanks for the help

I took off of work to take my husband to traffic court was upset with my hair having trouble finding what to wear having bit if a meltdown he pickup left me crying U know I was overreacting but seem he didn't care how I felt we haven't spoken in days I don't know what to think I have done everything for him supported his dream to have his own shop just finished long battle with immigration to legalize him seem like he no longer needs me or cares we have never stopped talking this long is it over should I apologize I'm so confused

I'm asking because I proposed recently to my girlfriend that was my neighbor when I was younger. We haven't done anything sexual yet so going to save it for marriage this summer. That's the only time we've talked about it. We haven't talked about kids yet and I'm not ready nor know if I want one. So how do all these married couples do it all the time and don't have babies? Also, I've only done it once...at a party and my friend gave me a condom and we both had sex with this girl he knew that he knew and we were all high at the time. I was nervous that night, took me awhile to get the condom on and I only lasted a couple minutes. I'm not sure if I should use condoms if I'm going to be married I don't know. I was hoping to talk to her and get on the pill or something or should I just do pull outs?

My husband has left for work and is really hitting it off with his new boss/coworkers. But after work (7pm) he goes out with them to the bar. He will call but only have enough time to say he can t talk. He promises to call me back but never does. He is staying at his boss s house (a husband and wife combo) and tells me he refuses to walk in with the phone glued to his head. It is only the three of them at work during the day, and he s making me feel like he has to continue the conversations even after an 8 hour work day with them. I NEVER talk with him during the day and night time was always our time to talk. (he travels a lot). I feel like I m on the bottom of his priority list... not to mention we have two children 4&6 years old. If I can squeeze in one thing about the kids while on the phone he tells me that s all I talk about and he doesn t want to talk about them. What do I do? Every time I try to bring it up he tells me I m not letting him solidify his career and I m bugging him. 5 minutes a day is all I get.

She is constantly making threats to do crazy things like get my parents involved in disputes we're having, her parents, divorce, moving back in with her parents, she won't work with me she just immediately starts the threats and won't talk. I'm pretty much done living life doing everything she wants so she won't leave. Should I just no longer cave into her threats and let her leave or do whatever it is she's going to do? I feel like I'm getting owned in this relationship, always having to apologize, always having her to beg to not do whatever she's threatening.

It was early in our marriage. His brothers were involved in it and maybe it was a minor lie to them it was a huge thing to me hence me telling them to give me their word. Now I'm supposed to have kids with this liar in this liar family? Do you ever just feel screwed by your husband and his family? I just found out about it. I did talk to him about it. He is taking the what are you going to do about it attitude. He got what he wanted and "talking to him about it" is amounted to butt hurt whining because there are no solutions to this problem. He got what he wanted and there is nothing I can do about it. Maybe there is a solution to this problem and I'm just not seeing it. But he just takes the attitude that he got what he wanted so he doesn't care that I'm hurt. I really wanted kids soon but in a family that lies to me this easily without it bothering them? I've tried being friends with his family over the years, babysat their kids, gave the mom rides to a bunch of people who lie to me. I feel so powerless and taken advantage of. That's the whole problem. He sees it as unrealistically blowing up but it was huge to me. His brothers will never care if I hate them. He's just taking the "what are you going to do about it" attitude.

Let's say teens have a baby and the teen father gets child support, what if 5 years later they get married and live together would hold support go away?

Mad/upset at you? So mad she is crying. Do you do something or just let her anger run out of steam once she realizes it doesn't affect you and her anger is only making her miserable?

I ve been married ro my wife for only 5 months, we have a blended family. She has PMDD, and i knew this before we were married, since we lived with each other for a bit. For 2 weeks out of the month she s an angel, for the other2 weeks she s the devil, it s absolute torture. Every thing gets blamed on me, i can t do nothing right, i don t discipline the kids enough, I m a slob, i can t clean enough,Her kids like me, but don t respect me, because of the constant put downs and being called stupid in front of them. It seems lately that it s been all month long, at least before i knew if i hung in there, i knew I d get 2 weeks of pure bliss with my beautiful, now there s no break, i try to talk to her, she says it s me, not the PMDD, i mention if you dont love me anymore divorce me, she says She s not going to be the one that looks bad by filing for divorce. How can someone so in love with me hate me so much in such a short period of time? Is it really me? Or is it the PMDD talking? She s been seeing an endocrinologist which i give her credit for, she put her on birth control pills. Since she started those is when the constant PMDD started, meaning i don t get a break from it. I m at the end of my rope, i want to help her through this, but don t want to spend the rest of my good years being bereated and yelled at because i left a towel on the floor after taking a shower ( because maybe i was tired after work). I need i sight please

My husband and I are in the middle of a dissolution which he initiated back in the beginning of January this year. A month ago I started hanging out with an old friend and we hooked up once. My soon to be ex husband found out and he is saying that he is getting me for adultery and that he's gonna say I'm an unfit mother because of it!! Can he do this? I know it shouldn't have happened but it did. I live in Ohio.

We'be just celebrated our first anniversary and when my husband asked me to look something up on his phone while he was driving I saw he had a chat app [omegle]. Should I be upset? We haven't had many problems in our relationship but now I can't help but think of the worst. Any advice?

Not to ask if your frequency is up or down as a couple, but your individual sex drive higher or lower without regard to your partner, for example, do you fantasize more or less, or u "kinkier" or less, are you more or less open with your partner than earlier in the relationship, etc. And lastly do you feel your as matched today in drive by your partner as when you first became serious.

1. Treat me as an equal. 2. Don't compete with me, which one of us earns more money, who is the more successful one, the more attractive one, the smarter one - I'm not his rival. 3. Have a hobby and/or circle of friends and/or ambitions at his workplace 4. Have at least one common hobby. 5. Give me space, don't want to own me. 6. Don't have drug/alcohol/gambling/smoking addictions 7. Be honest with me. 8. Respect my opinion and ambitions 9. Never be too proud to ask for help, if you don't know anything.

So I grew up as the youngest of two siblings. He grew up as the 6th child out of 8. I told him I only wanted maybe 1 child. He said wow lets split the difference at 4. I was like omg lol. Is compromise possible considering he grew up with such a large family?

"If a man" is correct /here is no edit button/ Is it possible to get married without adoption of her kids? Will she accept everybody to pays for his expenses separately

It's an unusual situation. It was my first and only relationship. We have to live with our parents because he lost his job and we are saving money. The relationship was filled with lots of lying behavior on his end (to the point of seeing a therapist about it). He was mad at me for one of our typical arguments about the lying behavior. I have since apologized over and over and said I missed him. I waited for 4 hours in our favorite park today. He knew I was there and barely texted. I waited and waited, but he never showed up. I know this whole thing sounds stupid. I've never dealt with anything like this. What would you do? Please be nice, I already know I sound stupid and that most people would have left at the lying, but I just want to be with my first everything (I know it sounds idealistic and dumb :(