Family: Question: My parents yell at me and they never really seem proud of me but always proud of my brother?

Question: My parents yell at me and they never really seem proud of me but always proud of my brother?

Posted: 26 Mar 2016 01:33 PM PDT

I always tell the truth to my parents and I always tell them about school and stuff. and when something I get a bad grade my parents yell at me even though it is the only time I got a bad grade. and I am sensitive person and when I cry my dad and mom is always yells at me and says stop crying. But when my brother gets in trouble my mom always stands up for him and is always proud of him and it feels like they re not proud of me at all. It makes me sad. What should I do?

Question: Christians my mom told me to get naked should I do it?

Posted: 26 Mar 2016 01:18 PM PDT

I'm a guy and my father has passed away at age 27 from cancer. Now I'm 20 and my mom is 50. She hasn't done anything sexual for several years. And she has bipolar disorder. And today she asked me to get naked and to do something sexual with her. And this made me uncomfortable and the reason why she said that is because she hasn't done anything sexual for serval years. So should I do it? @ Jessica Thanks. And yes it's very hard to love with her. And I can't leave her alone because she could do something dangerous. I'm not trolling!!! And just forget it.. I decide to ask this question in another site because none of you help me. Goodbye.

Question: I wanna go to a bar but I'm afraid my mother will say no..? HELP?

Posted: 26 Mar 2016 01:15 PM PDT

I just turned 23 2 weeks ago. I talked to my twin sister and she said i don't need my mom's permission because I'm legally a adult now. Is she right? We still live with our parents though so I'm feeling obligated to get permission.

Question: A mother should know her child...shouldn't she?

Posted: 26 Mar 2016 01:00 PM PDT

My dad wants to buy a house in a college town where I am right now so that I can live in it for the rest of my time in college and so that my siblings will have a place to live when they get to college. He wants to put it in my name because of legal issues on my mom's side of the family (her older sister is wanting to sue her over their dad's death; her sister was power of attorney and my mom thinks she killed him to get his money, but she handled the situation very poorly). If we do get sued, and the house is in my name, we wouldn't lose it. My mom doesn't want to put the house in my name, thinks my father and I are conspiring to keep her out of it. I wish it didn't have to be put in my name, because I'm not looking forward to having a 100k mortgage for 15 years. She has explicitly told me that she doesn't trust me not to kick my siblings out someday if they make me angry, and if I ever sell the house, she doesn't trust me to split the money among my siblings. It really hurts me that she thinks I'm capable of being so selfish and cruel as to kick my siblings out of a house that they are meant to live in when they are in college, just because my name is on the deed. I've asked my siblings if they think that I would do something like this, because we are all very close and I figure they would tell me the truth. After I asked them, all three of them went and confronted her. How could she think I would do something like this?

Question: Do you think it's unfair for people to make their children's grandparents take care of their kids?

Posted: 26 Mar 2016 12:53 PM PDT

For example, there are some people who have a better relationship with their grandparents than their parents because they spent more time with them. It's like some people make the grandparents feel required to babysit their grandchildren even though they already raised their own children. I think it's kind of sad when kids need to spend so much time with their grandparents that they have no relationship with their parents or feel resentful towards them.

Question: I need help with a issue that is occurring in my head. If someone could help please? ( please don't judge)?

Posted: 26 Mar 2016 12:52 PM PDT

So I have been dealing with over thinking everything as of late. I am 17 and I turn 18 on May 1st of this year. I am going to finish high school in a week or so. My problem I am running into is the idea that I think my dad is gonna throw me out when I turn 18. Even though he says he isn't going too and he didn't throw any of my brothers out. They all left out of there own free will and whenever I mention this ideal of getting kicked out he gets angry so does my mom. I also have enlistment papers in front of me for the USAF. I presented the papers to my dad and he says that I should wait for the election to see who is gonna be in office to dictate my decision. He also noted that I should go to college this summer and work part time. All this conversation and I still think I am gonna be kicked out.

Question: My parents always yells at me and never really lets me do anything!?

Posted: 26 Mar 2016 12:35 PM PDT

My parents always say to my brother that oh he gets to go to the movies with his friends and he can do his homework later. To me they re always like "oh did you do your homework?" "oh did you do you re chores" "oh this" "oh that!" it gets me really annoyed and I don t have a very strong temper. and when I ask my parents why my brother gets to go they re always like it for your own benefit. I don t want to yell back at them or else they will yell at me and be mad. WHAT SHOULD I DO????

Question: How to get your parents to take you somewhere when they are clearly too lazy to do it?

Posted: 26 Mar 2016 12:22 PM PDT

I'm trying to get some of my friends to go to the mall with me, but we can't unless we have three people. My last hope can but her brother and mom are too lazy to do it. She's afraid that she will get in trouble if she ask. Any ideas?

Question: Parents, what is a more healthy way of venting out ones frustration instead of self-defamation?

Posted: 26 Mar 2016 12:13 PM PDT

It has come to my attention that one or more of you assume I'm a troll when I was only self-defaming myself as a coping mechanism. But am eager to change that and look for other ways to vent out this frustration. I'm non-violent.

Question: I feel like I always have to do something if I can...?

Posted: 26 Mar 2016 12:13 PM PDT

My brother dropped his laptop after he tripped on the cord and it fell on the floor. It broke and now I feel like I need to buy him a new one. I don't know why I always feel like I'm reponsible for keeping my family happy. I'm always the one making sure everyone is okay and it doesn't even have to be my family. We had this work thing for adopt a child for Christmas and I ended up with everyone that wasn't taken and bought for all of them because I felt bad that some would have gifts and others wouldn't. I don't know why I'm like this. I just wish I didn't care as much and I'm trying to get out of this but I'm not sure how.

Question: My family is always mad at me?

Posted: 26 Mar 2016 12:11 PM PDT

My family hates me? What Did I do wrong? I clean the house and they say it just isnt good enough. When I cry they say to grow up and stop being a baby. When others cry they take care of them. When I want to go out they say they will watch tjhe baby but then says no its not our job. My mother canceled her plans today because I was going out ( this was planned out for months. My family never wants to spend time with me. If I want to talk to them about a problem they say they dont want to here it and get mad. They say I am a bad mother my brother says she should be taken from me. My brother says that he is better then me because He is popular, smarter, more ffriend and better at things besides dancing or singing and that no one cares about that. He says I should be imbarressed to be me. Because I am 25 at home, no friends, not married, cant drive, no job, and plain fat ugly and stupid. I am going crazy . What did I do wrong.

Question: I am 31 and my father believes I shouldn't be able to even touch a firearm.?

Posted: 26 Mar 2016 11:59 AM PDT

I am 31 and my father says I should stay away from guns. I live alone and away from him. I have very mild cerebral palsy and I am a very responsibly adult. It's one of my bucket list items to go to a shooting range. Does he have the authority to say no to me? I know he is very over protective, but I will take the opportunity to be as safe as possible. I have touched 3 guns in my life...all unloaded (2 without his knowledge - he overreacts). He has got to realize that the more he says "don't even touch one" will only mean a rebelling adult child. What can I do to convince him that I am not Adam Lanza or some gun-wielding pro-gun person? I am not for guns. I have even once had the dream of being a police officer in my life. He said no to this, too. What about the draft? Isn't it illegal to not sign up at the age of 18? He disagreed with me when I said I needed to back then because I'm disabled. I am very capable of doing most things that regular people are able to. It only takes me a little extra time and patience to get it done. My brother has shot a gun, my other brother has a real gun in his home (an old old one), but my father doesn't bat an eye when he hears this. But when I get close to one he says don't touch it and gets upset when he knows I'm over 18 and I am living on my own now. I am a very liberal person. I am sickened by what happens to most people who use guns for violent crimes. I am not one of those people and my dad knows this but won't let me touch a gun.

Question: Is my mom abusing me?

Posted: 26 Mar 2016 11:47 AM PDT

My mom used to verbally abuse my half sister. she made her feel like complete **** all the time. My sister and I don t share the same mom, therefore she is not her mom. our dad never did anything about it, because I think he s afraid of her. Now, growing up, my mom did that same thing to me. made me feel like ****, told me how I was going no where in life, told me how much of a failure I am, etc. sometimes, she gets too mad and slaps me across the face. she s pretty strong actually. she hits hard. The other night, she flung a cord at me. the cord made me bleed, swell, and now bruise. she was yelling at me for the longest time. she doesn t leave bruises that much, but I mean this time, she made me bleed AND bruise. I m 14, idk if this is considered abuse or not. all I did was forget to turn in my excuse for being absent in school. I told my dad about it, but once again, he didn t care.

Question: How do I get my mother to stop being so blunt to me about my father? Also how do I know if the things she says are true?

Posted: 26 Mar 2016 11:43 AM PDT

For example she says she divorced him because he lied a lot. She says he likes me but doesn't love me and that her and her parents (my grandparents) are the ones who love me. She said he is ignorant. How do I know if any of this is true and if he does only like me but not love me? She feels had he loved me he would have been honest to her during the marriage

Question: Help my parents watch me poop, they don't give me any privacy in the bathroom and always have me keep the door open what should I do?

Posted: 26 Mar 2016 11:39 AM PDT

Question: My parents never let me have any privacy in the bathroom even when I'm pooping, what should I do?

Posted: 26 Mar 2016 11:38 AM PDT

Question: How do I tell my husband.?

Posted: 26 Mar 2016 11:37 AM PDT

My husband's uncle is young just a few years older than we are. We were at a party together and one thing led to another. We ended up a threesome with him, my husband and me. OMG It was so fantastic. Every opening was taken care of and their size was big and felt so good. I want to do this again. Should I tell my husband.. I love him but really liked the threesome with his uncle.

Question: Is taking the phone into the bathroom suspicious behavior?

Posted: 26 Mar 2016 11:30 AM PDT

Is taking a cell phone everywhere with you including the bathroom suspicious behavior?

Question: How can I get my husband to stop?

Posted: 26 Mar 2016 11:14 AM PDT

My husband has a soon to be 5 year old that he treats like a baby, he doesn t let him wipe his own bum, doesn t let him brush his own teeth, doesn t request that he takes a nap when it s nap time, when his son doesn t want to eat what we ve cooked for dinner, he will make him something completely different. I don t understand this, he eats what they give him at school, he wipes his own bum at school no problem and he naps at school when he s told. Why is it such a big deal for him to do those things at home? My step son calls the shots in the household and it infuriates me. He chooses when he naps, when he eats, when he bathes. A few months back he wanted to watch a DVD in his room, his dad says, "OK I ll go put it on in a minute" the little one replies, "no, now!" And walks off without my husband saying anything, just following along behind him. If the little one puts up a fight for ANYTHING, daddy vehicles and gives in, no matter what it is. I feel like my home is being overrun by a child and when I speak my mind it turns into a huge fight, he thinks I hate his son, that I don t want his son here, etc. I don t hate his son, I dislike his parenting skills. We are 6 weeks away from having a child of our own and I m terrified to co-parent with him, I don t want him holding our son back from growing or learning how to do things for himself.

Question: My dad makes my sister spoiled?

Posted: 26 Mar 2016 11:09 AM PDT

Okay I have to watch my sister right for 10 hours everyday. So today in the morning I woke up and my dad say give her breakfast. She 6 and when I took her she started to cry but my dad had to go work cause of sleep. He woke up and told me make sure she doesn t cry so I pick her up and took her downstairs cause she was acting spoiled. BUT AS SOON AS WE GO DOWNSTAIRS AND I HAD TO TRY SO HARD TO GIVE HER WAFFLES. I pick her and she is heavy that is besides the point. He comes down stairs and let s her spoiled way go through and he didn t sleep for work. He can t take care of the child by showing her how to act. When he us around she can do whatever and get away with it. She broke all the decorations he says it was accident don t worry. But 1 time I hoppee over the bed he says what are you doing are you an idiot. Look I m trying to show the kid how to act but no my dad is to soft. He can do everything a parent needs to do but can t teach her how to act. The only good thing she is good at school

Question: Everyone goes into my room while i'm away for a few days?

Posted: 26 Mar 2016 10:59 AM PDT

It seems every time i'm gone for more than a day my family thinks they can just go in there and take stuff or look through my things without asking. They've done this a few times, and it seriously irratates the hell out of me everytime. It's not like I have anything bad in there, it just bothers me that they are looking through some of my personal stuff. Or taking my laptop and looking through my drafts I write. Do you have any advice to how I can get them to stop coming into my room? I just came back today and walked into my room to see that my laptop was missing and my things were moved all around the place. I got pretty upset and my dad acted like he had just 'borrowed' my laptop. What can I do to make them stop? A lock on my door doesn't seem to stop them either.

Question: Why do my parents get so mad when I eat? About anything related to food?

Posted: 26 Mar 2016 10:59 AM PDT

Unlike most teenagers, my parents get angry when I put effort in my diet or even if they see me eating in general. I eat as healthy as possible as a struggling student with a budget. Mainly salads, fruits, those kinds of things. My parents are the exact opposite. So I can't even eat an apple at the freaking dinner table without a 10 minute commentary from the peanut gallery. This gets especially bad if I'm eating and they're not or if they've finished their meals before I have. Every time I return from the grocery store, my mother instantly explodes on a MULTI-HOUR tirade. It's not like I'm buying with her money. She's never cooked a meal for me, never brings back food for me, and when she does, makes a point only to do so for herself and my father. My father couldn't care less as long as he's fed. Some of my earliest memories are of them going out to dinner at nice restaurants every night while I stayed home. Until two years ago, I ate one meal per day because they seldom bought groceries and income was nowhere near low enough for free lunch at school. My calorie intake is currently somewhere around 800-1000. This may seem surprising, but it's a drastic improvement since my part-time job and purchase of my own vehicle. Unfortunately, it will be two more months before I can move out, so until then, I would very much appreciate some answers from you guys because I have no idea why they act the way they do.

Question: When is too old for a daughter to be nude in front of her mom?

Posted: 26 Mar 2016 10:55 AM PDT

Question: Concern over stepdaughter?

Posted: 26 Mar 2016 10:50 AM PDT

Oh man. So a little while back I was home alone with my teenage stepdaughter. I started to rough house with her a little. Play fighting. I picked her up on my shoulder and spun. That sort of thing. It was very brief because the rest of the family came home. She seemed to get slightly upset because they came home. She said to me "you knew they were home didn't you?" She seemed slightly upset but also said it in a semi joking manner. She went to her room. I was confused by her question. So I tried figure out what she meant by asking or why in the world it would make a difference if I knew the family was home when I initiated the play fighting. I was shocked by the possible implication she was making. But then I brushed it off as being nothing to be concerned about. But here lately I have asked some others that conclude she may have had certain expectations of something coming from the encounter. That was not me intentions at all. Anyway, I am hoping that someone can explain her statement and behavior as something that was actually innocent instead. Thanks but be realistic. No captain obvious or rudimentary answers. If you don't understand the depth of it, don't bother answering please

Question: Am I being selfish?

Posted: 26 Mar 2016 09:57 AM PDT

I m 16 and soon I m going to get my license. And I will really need a car because my mom hates driving me anywhere and make s a big deal out of it. All would be ok, because a couple of years back, my mom put 5,000 dollars in a bank account for me and my sister(5,000 each). This was when her dad died and got his money. So about 2 years ago I was looking into buying an oboe. We had to pay shipping to get it sent to my house And in the end we only looked at 2 oboes and didn t buy one. We only used about 300$ for the shipping. that came out of my 5 thousand dollars. I m ok with that. But then times got hard and without even telling me my mom started taking money out of my account. (I should also say she was not even looking for a job) She used ALL OF IT. So now my mom is working 2 jobs and making minimum wage (this makes her even more angry to drive me). But the thing is The car I want is only 5,000. The thing that makes me angry is She did not take one penny out of my sister band account. And now she acts like I am a horrible person for wanting a car and yells at me every time I bring it up. But it is sooooo unfair to me how she used all of my money for bills and hasn t touched my sisters. So when she needs a car she will get one (my sister is 14) and my sister is calling me selfish also. And I being selfish about it? (But my mom favors my sister and its obvious that she does. I m not even going to go into how unfair she treats me to my sister). Am I wrong to be angry at her?

Question: Why was my little sister such a bully?

Posted: 26 Mar 2016 09:55 AM PDT

I have a younger sister. Now when we were teens, she used to call me names. Because I was kinda heavy as a teen, she used to call me "fat" all the time. She'd called me "big sl*t", "monster" (relating to my size), "fatso", "big pig", "cow"... the hurtful list goes on. She also used to have a go at my face. She would say I look like a "hard core man", that I had a small mouth that no men would ever want to kiss, that I was plain looking and I looked old. She doesn't talk like this anymore but those words hurt me then and still hurts me now. I don't know why she would be so mean and nasty to me.

Question: Should I not let my daughter hang out with her friends anymore?

Posted: 26 Mar 2016 09:53 AM PDT

My daughter is 14 yrs old and I understand how teenage girls feel at the age- they want to have boyfriends, wear makeup, go to the mall with their friends, chat with their friends on social media, and go to parties. I understand that since I used to be a teenage girl myself except we didn't have instagram or snapchat back then. But I think my daughter is overdoing it. She goes out with her girl friends to malls or restaurants until 8:30 at night. When we go to shopping malls together, she consistently asks me to buy her eyebrow pencils, red lipstick, and other makeup products. She and her friends call each other "ho" or brag to each other about how "on fleek" their eyebrows are. She's considered very popular at her school, is on the soccer and cheerleading team, has an Instagram, Facebook, and Snapchat. Sure, I want her to enjoy her adolescence, but I also don't want any bad influences on her. Besides that, she makes VERY good grades at school. She's been making all A's every since she was 12 and is a good student overall. I still have to remind her to do her homework, however, and she stays up until 11:00 on school nights. I'm getting really worried. Should I put some boundaries on her? She also has a 17 year old sister, so you can probably imagine how difficult it can get, trying to take care of two teenage girls in this generation! Sometimes, she goes out until 10:30.

Question: My dad has no patience?

Posted: 26 Mar 2016 09:51 AM PDT

My dad from my understanding has always had a short temper. To make it worse he inherited Diabetes from his dad even though he's in shape. His consequences for his temper have little to no actions. As an adult living on her own I have said to him Im not rude to you and I always am always polite. There's no need for your rude behavior and snippy attitude. He and I are great when we get along but growing up if we fought it was nasty. I told him respect is earned and why should I go out of my way to be nice to you when you don't even own up to your bad behavior? Sometimes my mom used to defend me most times she doesnt. How do I call his behavior out while he's doing it without making his temper worse? Thanks in advance

Question: Why is my mother so stubborn?

Posted: 26 Mar 2016 09:45 AM PDT

I asked my mom if I could move my computer from the dining room(Where I have to have it for some reason) to my room. I have had computers in my room before, so I really didn't know why she would say no. When she did say no, I asked her why, and she responded with "I don't want you on there all hours of the day," to which I responded with "If you don't want that, then I can unplug my keyboard and mouse while I'm not on it. I can use the computer without those." She yelled no at me. The reason I want my computer in my room is because I use Skype to talk to my friends, and while I'm in the dining room she can hear me talk(I tend to have a loud voice) and she ends up yelling at me, even though she knows who I'm talking with. If my computer was in my room, that would solve the problem. I explained this to my mom, but she still won't listen. She won't even take two seconds to explain why she doesn't want me to move my computer. I have a feeling that she doesn't trust me(although I've never done anything to break her trust.) If anyone could help me out, thank you!

Question: Am I neglecting my child?

Posted: 26 Mar 2016 09:34 AM PDT

I have a 13 year old daughter who is also an only child. I, her dad, goes to work at 6:30 P.M.(at night) and return home at 4:30 to 5:30 A.M.(in the morning.) So, I try my best to get all the rest I can get when I'm at home. I go home and sleep until 2:30 P.M. (in the afternoon.) My wife, on the other hand, goes to work at 8:30 in the morning and comes home at 7:30 at night. Due to our different work schedule, we almost don't see other throughout the day, and I sleep in a separate bedroom because I don't want to disturb my wife when I get home from work late at night. On weekdays, I see my daughter for about 40 minutes each day since she comes home, eat, and go into her bedroom. I don't go to work on Tuesday and Wednesday, however, so I see her more. On weekends, sometimes, I don't even see her at all as she's always in her bedroom with the door closed. There are some days where she refused to come out of her room, and she comes home gloomy and sulking sometimes. It's really hard for the 3 of us to get together as a family and go on vacations or to restaurants, so I try to take maybe 3 or 4 days of off work a month or when I have PTO. However, my daughter doesn't want to go anywhere and just wants to stay at home all day long, even during summer vacation. She doesn't have any friends at all and never goes outside to play with the other teenagers in the neighborhood. On weekends, she wakes up and eats breakfast, that I have already prepared for her, alone. My daughter spends many hours at home alone because my wife might be going to the grocery store, which makes her come home even later, maybe at 9:30 at night. She stated that she didn't want friends and definitely not a boyfriend.

Question: Daughter wants to know about mom?

Posted: 26 Mar 2016 09:33 AM PDT

She's 5 and her mom 6 months after she was born because parenthood wasn't fun for her. Now my daughter is asking tons of questions and I try and change topics. How do I explain this to her so she can grasp it?

Question: A weird saddness moment?

Posted: 26 Mar 2016 09:30 AM PDT

So I am an only child, well I have a brother and a sister but, they are not direct siblings, my dad married twice, so I only live with my mom, I am 13 and today, when my mom was busy so she had to leave so I stayed home alone cuddling my cat, and I watched the sunset trough the door of my balcony, and by the end of it I had a weird sensation of wanting to cry, even now when I write this part I have this sensation, is there something wrong with me? Is this normal?

Question: How can I get my father to want to see me?

Posted: 26 Mar 2016 09:25 AM PDT

He always puts off seeing me like he doesn't really care. He has a new wife, new family, etc... He sees me at get togethers and is always nice but never asks me over to his stuff (it is my grandparent's get togethers he sees me at as well as weddings or funerals). Like tomorrow I offered to go by for Easter and he said he and my step-mother were going out for the day with their kids (he could have asked me to come along but he didn't). How can I get him to be a father to a 22 year old son? He has been like this always some but especially since he remarried 14 years ago. My mother says he doesn't love me, is this true also?

Question: I don't believe my blood relatives when they say they love me?

Posted: 26 Mar 2016 09:25 AM PDT

I don't believe them I don't even call them my family they ignore me often if they loved me they wouldn't do that it's only the 3 of us living together my brother and mom I can't wait to get my life together and move out I been wanting to say this long as I can remember I feel like I am being used for the disability money

Question: What can i do as a brother in influencing custody of my brothers?

Posted: 26 Mar 2016 09:23 AM PDT

This is going to get real messy real fast. I'm a 20 year old brother of 2 younger brothers (10 and 8) in a dilemma. My mom is spiraling out of control with alcohol and poor decisions to where it's becoming a safety hazard to my brothers. On the other end of the specter, their father is an immature **** who refuses to contact me because of personal spite when my mother divorced him. However i really think my brothers could do better with him. Is there anything i can do as a brother to bring a custody issue to court? I live with my mom and bio logical father so i can't really take them myself. At this point being anywhere else could be good for them.

Question: Should she get a divorce?

Posted: 26 Mar 2016 09:06 AM PDT

My parents got separated when I was barely 1 years old and i am now 15 alternating weeks between my grandparents and dad. My mom lives an hour away from me with her husband. They got married 2 years ago and seemed happy. When they visited me they also seemed happy but really they are anything but that. They argue all the time and my mom kicks him out of the house 2-3 times a week. She said she is bored with the marriage. She said he is like a walking zombie. He works, eats, and sleeps. She caught him watching porn and broke his laptop and another time caught him in a live chat room with girls. She suspected him cheating and put cameras in the house, followed him where he went, put a voice recorder in his car, and raided his phone. I told her yesterday that she should consider marriage counseling and she said she has asked him to go but only refused. She asked him again last night and it led to a big argument. She said she felt the marriage was over. She is not happy and just wants a divorce but can't bc she is broke. What should she do?

Question: How do I make my mom happy?

Posted: 26 Mar 2016 08:54 AM PDT

My mom is really depressed and all the time she talks about leaving us and going far far away and I always say go out with your friends but they're always busy or she doesn't want to. She is on depression medication and she hates her job. She cries a lot and yells and gets mad and every time we suggest something it's not good enough for her. Nothing is good enough for her and I don't know what to do... I was looking at some old pictures of her at her wedding and she was so happy... I just don't know what to do. Her medication is Wellbutrin or something if that helps but I told her to change to something if that one doesn't work but she doesn't want to. She hates the way she looks and she's always tired and sick but she isn't ill. I have tried doing little things for her like showing her old pictures and talking to her about appreciating the little things in life but she just gets pissed off. but it doesn't work and I'm worried. We don't have a lot of money and she hates the cold and we live in Western New York so that doesn't help. The summer used to maker her feel better but it doesn't anymore. She is really menopausal and I just want to see her genuinely happy again. Thanks for any help.

Question: Do I tell my mom or not?

Posted: 26 Mar 2016 08:53 AM PDT

Last night my mom didn't have cash for my brother to go out so he borrowed 20$ from me. Later he asks Me if he can have another $20 (I'm not good at saying no so I said yes) he said "don't tell mom okay?" He isn't good at paying back money so do i tell my mom or not? (Ps. My mom is already paying me back the other 20$ but she doesn't know about the other 20 he took

Question: I have lived with my aunt for almost three years and my mom won't give her custody.?

Posted: 26 Mar 2016 08:51 AM PDT

I have lived with my aunt for almost three years and my mom won't give her custody. We have a place right next door to my parent's and everytime I come over my mom tells at me to leave because my autistic brother tries to kill me and my mom says it's all my fault. My mom is a manipulative snake and everytime my aunt asks for custody or for my mom to compensate her, she says she'll pay her, but never does. My dad isn't much help either. My aunt buys my food, my clothes, my products, everything. My aunt can't have health insurance because Obama care found out I live with her and they say it's fraud. I wanted to know if there is a way for my aunt to get custody of me without consent from my parents.

Question: Im grounded for a month and im going to go insane.?

Posted: 26 Mar 2016 08:45 AM PDT

ok so yesterday i told my mom i was going to the mall with my friend and that i had a ride so that i could stay out later. Instead me and my friend meet up with a bunch of people and went to go smoke (weed not cigs) at some football field and me being the dumb *** that i am just had to get overly high and snapchat everything and where i was and what i was doing and usually when i put things on my story of me doing **** im not supposed to someone snitches on me and tells my mom , but i was too high to think of all that so i just started snapping away, my friend the one that i was supposed to be at the mall with was going to sleep over but my mom texted me at like 11 pm and was like get home rn , soon as i got home she cussed me out and said she found out what i was doing and took my phone and all my privliges away , no more sleeping out , no more money, no more hanging out past 8 pm and that when im off punishment , while i am on my punishment im only allowed to go school , track practice, and home and she took my phone and grounded me for a month , idk what to do i want her trust and privliges back , i just want to be able to live a normal teenage girls life , im going to be 17 soon and i just wanna prove to her that i can be good , also im not a pot head i only smoke on the weekends bc i have a lot going on during the school week .

Question: Toxic Parents…….Need to vent.?

Posted: 26 Mar 2016 08:35 AM PDT

I'm 26 years old and my parents are upset because I purchased a car last week. The car I believed I was buying off them turned out the money was just going for rent. My mother took my car away when I was going to work (she kept verbally abusing me) so I handed her the keys. I'm a college grad, full time job, applying for law school (although I'll delay that until next year since my parents are not letting me focus). They are upset because I go out with my boyfriend (I only see him once a week) and they make a huge deal out of it. My dad said I have to follow rules which are whatever my mom says it is right. They make me sick to my stomach. It's coming to a point where I just hide in my room all day so I won't talk to them. My mother told me last week that I'm dead to her and my father said that if I die, he wouldn't care. THey also told me not to tell my brother anything of what's going on. I have recently been diagnosed with depression due to my parents but they said they don't give a crap about it. I'm going to marry my boyfriend next weekend since he's the only person I'm happy with. I can focus and his family loves me. Anyone else going through or has been through the same situation? It won't really be a mistake. We love each other. I don't just want to move in with him without marrying him first.

Question: My son and I are in a disagreement, what should I do?

Posted: 26 Mar 2016 08:31 AM PDT

My son (17) and I are in a disagreement because he doesn't want to perform at his piano recital, however I want him to. He's been playing for 11 years, and this recital is his last one. He's not quitting piano, he just doesn't want to do his recital. But for some reason he really doesn't want to do it. Am I being to hard on him, by making him do it? What should I do?

Question: Do a lot of people in the military have horrible spending habits?

Posted: 26 Mar 2016 08:23 AM PDT

Okay my brothers in the military ( in for about two years ) He makes around $1300 a month after everything is taken out with that $1300 there is nothing he HAS to buy besides maybe his military clothing he lives on base so he doesn't have to pay rent and he can eat there too. Yet with into two years he put himself into over 12k in debt buying sh*t he doesn't need! (An Xbox one a ps4 and games a computer, goes out to eat every single day ect) and to me I don't see a reason why he should even be in debt he could easily come out of the military with a few thousand saved up. Question is do a lot of people in the military have bad spending habits ? And I know people are gunna say the way they spend their money is none of my business wellllllllllllllll my brother has a dog that costs over $300 a month to care for and I get maybe $27 every few months to buy a bag of dog food for her and even then it's like pulling teeth to get him to send me the money

Question: Is my older brother the boss of me if I go stay with him at his house?

Posted: 26 Mar 2016 08:22 AM PDT

So I am a guy and sometimes I go stay at my older brother's house and he always watches me and I am not upset and I don't break his rules but one time I was messing with him because he was telling me to hurry up so that we can leave and I told him playing around that your not the boss of me and he told me that "Yeah I am". So is he the boss of me? My older brothers even tell me what to do when they come over to me and my parents house. Can they do that?

Question: Why does my dad refuse to fix the dishwasher ? He does them by hand?

Posted: 26 Mar 2016 08:20 AM PDT

My mom said that she refused to clean the dishes unless the dishwasher was fixed. My dad for weeks, did dishes by hand. He is over 50. Yesterday, he said that we were dirty, and he wasn't going to clean the dishes. Why did he get so aggressive? What is so hard with fixing dish washer? He pays 100-200 dollars? We are not poor, we have a house and he makes good money. He gives us money to buy clothes, food, vacation, but God forbid he fixes the dishwasher? What is his deal?

Question: Is it wrong to not let family live in my house?

Posted: 26 Mar 2016 08:06 AM PDT

My family is very dysfunctional. My sisters don't work and have six kids each. I just brought an home ( I have no kids yet). I worked so hard to get my degree for my home and both of my sisters are asking can they stay with me some. I'm afraid they won't ever move out and when they lived with my brother. Their kids damaged his Hoke literally. How do I tell them no? Everyone is telling me I'm mean and nasty. But everyone is grown and need to do for themselves. Am I wrong?

Question: Should I believe my parents of my boyfriend?

Posted: 26 Mar 2016 08:01 AM PDT

My boyfriend is such a sweetheart.. he just made some bad mistakes in the past that my parents know about. He cheated on me twice out of rage and anger (I cheated on him beforehand), he is clingy and doesnt understand the amount of homework I need to do, my parents hate him with a passion and would blow a screw if I came home engaged to this man, He disagrees with life choices I want, He wants to start a family now and I dont want those things quite yet. However, my boyfriend is the sweetest person you will ever meet. He is very forgiving, loving, and shows me a lot of affection... the only issue is, his whole world revolves around me and only me. He doesnt have any other friends here (I'm his best friend and his girlfriend). We go the entire day talking on the phone. If we're not talking on the phone, we're skyping. If we're not skyping, we're with each other. He wants to spend a lot of time with me all the time. I can't go to the club with my girlfriend's because of other guys. He doesnt want me to do cheer at my school because it takes time away from the relationship. I'm starting to think my parents are right... What do you guys think?

Question: Will I regret not spending more time with my parents, even though...?

Posted: 26 Mar 2016 07:53 AM PDT

I've always avoided my parents because I am the black sheep of the family and have completely different values from them. They are always wanting me to change, telling me how to live my life, and criticizing me. The only time my dad talks to me is to yell at me. One time he called me and I was shocked, then I called him back and realized he only wanted to reprimand me about something... (I am an adult, btw). They make me feel worthless and I am now in therapy for anxiety/depression because of it. I am lucky if a visit doesn't end in tears. So, will I regret not spending more time with them when they're gone? Edit: There is also a history of emotional abuse.

Question: What should my 13 year old daughter listen to?

Posted: 26 Mar 2016 07:23 AM PDT

My daughter listens to people like Melanie Martinez, Troye Sivan, the weeknd, and Hayley Kiyoko I might have gotten there names wrong I m a strict parent but me and my daughter have a good relationship between each other her father and I specifically told her she can t listen to music with anything with sexual suggestions, swear words, or any thing related to suicide, or anything to drugs or alcohol. She recently was telling me about these people because I asked her what she likes to listen to and I feel like it s completely inappropriate what should I tell her? I don t wanna ban her from what she likes.

Question: Why does my six year old sister act like a baby? She's the youngest and she screams and cries until she gets her own way.?

Posted: 26 Mar 2016 07:22 AM PDT

Question: Should I allow my kids to go to visit my father on Sunday, he suffers from alcoholism?

Posted: 26 Mar 2016 07:19 AM PDT

They want to go for the Easter Party and some cousins from out of town are in town. I worry because when my father drinks he becomes grouchy. The kids haven't seen him in 3 years as we avoid holidays with him and just do stuff with my mother (my parents are divorced and my father remarried). The kids are 11 and 9 with both of them wanting to go. The 16 year old is with his Dad so away anyway. My father is not physically abusive but he says things like "hey shut up, I am trying to hear" when he is drunk, when sober he is fine and pleasant. He refuses help and has for years now.

Question: If I end my life so my brother has a place to live will God forgive me?

Posted: 26 Mar 2016 07:05 AM PDT

I used to be really close to my big brother (he's 16yo) and he was spending much less time with me and being all secretive so I spied on him and found out he was dating a guy, so out of jealousy I told my parents he was gay (I knew they were homophobic) and they kicked him out and know he's homeless and sleeping on a friend's couch. Now he hates my guts, it's been a month and he still won't talk to me, my parents won't reconsider, I must be the worst brother in the world and I'm so lonely. He'll never forgive me now! I really do love him and I miss him SO MUCH! If I commit suicide, my parents will see how mean they're being and let my brother back in and accept him, because they'll be afraid of losing both sons and my brother will know I love him. So in this particular case isn't ending my life the right thing to do to get redemption?

Question: My dad is always irritation by me I am irritated by the whole family Nobody in my family calls me My mother block me from Texting her?

Posted: 26 Mar 2016 06:32 AM PDT

Question: Is it time for me to move out?

Posted: 26 Mar 2016 06:22 AM PDT

Hi, I am a 21 year old female currently attending college. I still live at home with my parents, 2 younger sisters and an older brother. The thing is, we live in a 2 bedroom apartment. My 25 soon to be 26 year old brother has a room all to his own which he fills with figurines, new video games and things he buys new at the mall. Meanwhile, us 5 share the other bedroom. I did not mind at all when I was younger, because I understood we couldn't afford a new home. But I think it is ridiculous that 3 adults share one room now. I do not mean to place blame on anyone and so I feel like I am the one who needs to leave in order to let my younger sisters have their own space, especially as one has just started middle school and only has a closet in the hallway to call her own. I know my brother had no plans on moving out. I don't even know how he has the heart of seeing us 5 in one room and not doing a single thing about it. I spoke to him the other say trying to hint about it but all he said was that if my parents didn't have the 2 younger girls, everything would have been alright. It is partially true, but it's such a cold way of saying it. So should I move out or try to piss off my brother convincing him to move out? I have brought the topic up to my mom, but she just said he can't leave (he is a source of income). My parents are super passive, so things like my brother telling my mom what to cook are okay. We are Hispanics if that sort of helps explain a few things.

Question: Is my mother in law hitting on me?

Posted: 26 Mar 2016 05:58 AM PDT

Question: My sister won't shut up about being gay?

Posted: 26 Mar 2016 05:48 AM PDT

I have two sisters and one identifies as bi and the other is gay. My older sister (gay) CONSTANTLY talks about how she's gay to everyone and I feel like she's just looking for someone that disapproves to fight with them. My little sister (bi) does everything she does so she's starting to do it too. Every time I see them and they're together they say "how does it feel being the only straight one" ??? That's just such a weird thing to say to someone and they always do it. The other night at dinner my boyfriend and I were joking about each other being gay (we both went through a curious phase that neither of my sisters know about) and my sister had nerve to get mad at me and even write a post about it with the hashtag #why do straight ppl do this like???? Idk I'm honestly very annoyed and just wish she'd shut up about her sexuality because literally no one cares.

Question: My girlfriend s 16yo son plays these humiliating pranks on me, is he being disrespectful or playful and what should I do?

Posted: 26 Mar 2016 05:31 AM PDT

He s spiked my drinks with powerful laxatives, replaced my sunblock with inert lotion (I burned) itching powder on my underwear, Nair in my shampoo , and pinned me down and tickled me until I almost lost it.

Question: Should i kill my mom?

Posted: 26 Mar 2016 05:22 AM PDT

1. My mom talks like a whore 2. Keeps cursing 3. Keeps bothering me in a way that i lose motivation to study for my A-Levels 4. Talk bad about my friends 5. Threatens to do bad things to them if they come to visit. 6. She is Dumb, keeps Screaming even if i tell her to calm down, not to be a *****. If she wants something she needs to say it normally. Every time she says something to me, her voice is so ******* loud that my ears are going to explode and my eyes are shut closed tightly with reflex. It's on her if i fail my A-Levels. She is currently 54 years old. I Keep telling myself it's just the age acting up. I Never talk to her, and i don't want to.

Question: Is my mom ok looking..she feels plain?

Posted: 26 Mar 2016 05:17 AM PDT

http://i.imgur.com/hbNTXlQ.png

Question: My older sister hurt me but has since been remorseful about it. Should I forgive her?

Posted: 26 Mar 2016 04:29 AM PDT

Last week I made a mistake of winding her up when she was annoyed and stressed... she reacted badly. Never before has she been violent or this angry. Normally everyone thinks she is little miss perfect - and she wants to keep it that way. She has always been quite controlling towards me and my younger sister. But she does seem remorseful for being violent and has begged me to keep quiet. It also worries me that I could one day be dating a girl who is violent towards me.