I have a sister and a brother. When all 3 of us graduated from high school, mom and dad told us they would pay for any addition schooling we wanted. I chose to go to college. My sister chose to go to beauty school which mom and dad paid for and my brother chose not to get any additional schooling and immediately get a job. It is now 10 years later and at family gatherings we have this disagreement. My brother and sister want mom and dad to give them an equal amount of money they spent paying my way to college. Mom and dad refuse. They say they gave us a choice and we have to live with the choice we made. My brother and sister's latest argument is that I should give them the amount of money mom and dad spent on my college education because I am now very successful and I can afford it. I am not inclined to do that. Do my brother and sister have a valid argument?

I am uncomfortable with physical affection. I can do hugging, and occasionally a kiss (usually from my parents, on the head or cheek), but I am very uncomfortable otherwise. I have never had a boyfriend or girlfriend, but my brother was awful to me. He mainly used words to hurt me, rarely used violence, and even then it was just practically slapping my head. Anyway. I mean, my other brother and dad were not really affectionate (I think my dad felt obligated to show physical affection), but my mom and sister were affectionate. I had a rocky relationship with my sister for a long time, and usually pushed away her affection, and I was on okay terms with my mom. None of my other family really showed much affection, and I didn't have friends until I was 10. But I just don't like being touched, or people talking about my body. I don't like any private areas being touched by anyone, and the only time I'm okay with my body being talked about is if it's something not dealing with private areas (butt for example). People always call me a prude, but I just don't like it.

I have a teenage son John and a teenage daughter Lisa. They are good kids and get along good well with each other. They just like to have fun especially with each other. One night at the dinner table Lisa ask me if she could get some balloons like John had. John said "What are you talking about? I don't have any balloons." Lisa said "I saw them in your desk drawer". "They are Trojan brand balloons". OH MY GOD, am I going to have to have the "talk" with Lisa again. But what she said next told me the "talk" was not necessary. She said "John, do you have to special order the balloons to get the size extra extra small". Should me daughter be teasing her brother like that? John thought what she ask him was REALLY funny.

A lot of them are negatively obsessed with me and watching my every move in real life and on Facebook no matter how private I make my profile. They just want to bring me down go their level of filth, anti white ness and hate. Worst is my own father. He's mind ******* me all day. He's insomniac and doesn't sleep.

She made me spend my whole weekend doing a project that's due in 3 weeks, and then she took away all my electronics since I got 2 B's on my report card. How do I get her to lighten up?

I'm 13 and get good grades in school and everything and my Dad doesnt buy me anything and my friend smokes weed all day and his parents buy him everything. :| My dad spends his money at strip clubs and beer he is rich but doesnt buy me anything. =|

no i didnt kill anyone but i did something without permission. i sold my older iPhone to a friend without asking my parents. this was over a month ago. im not worried about the actual selling of the phone but the fact that my parents are now searching for that phone. my dad was planning on using that iPhone to trade in for a discount towards another iphone. im worried because i just lied to my parents about having knowledge of where my phone was. if i tell them i sold it, they will immediately assume i have used it to purchase something bad such as drugs. i dont know what to do but simply let time pass and hope they will forget or just assume its missing. even if they assume it went missing they told me they would put up a fight looking for it. i used the money to purchase a sweater but they think i had the sweater already since it resembles another sweater i had. ok so how do i get over the guilt of lying to them about selling my phone without having to tell them because that would create more problems.??

okay so I've had this dream a few days ago and I saw my fav fictional character in it and I've been loving him for literally eleven years now(dontjudge) then there was a little locked room and I had no key but inside of it was my father bones, I saw my mom and she had the key to the room but she kept lying to me and telling me she doesn't and she looked unstable and insane. could this mean anything no rude ansrs or parahraph answers pls thx

So I was using the toliet and my mom walked in she was like oh hey honey and she started to do her makeup at the sink and she stayed the whole time I was using the toliet and chatted with me it just felt really uncomfortable and strange I didn't want to say anything though would of sounded rude I felt,like really uncomfortable though do you think I should say something to her about it or just let it be

i live in a 6 story apartment (i live on the 6th floor) , my parents are both light sleepers. my only two ways to sneak out is by the main door and the emergency fire exit. if i go down the fire staircase, people will see me and call 911 (doesnt help that i look young for my age, 16). if i go through the main door my parents room is right next to the door and the door is very loud. dont say "dont do it!11!!!" because i need to sneak out for my friend (she has 2 more months to live and i need to see her before she dies)

I saw red flags since the beginning of the marriage but I thought he was just nervous as a new groom. But it's now 1 1/2 years later and it's only gotten worse. He has no respect for his elders, he makes fun of anyone and everyone, he uses foul language all the time (I've learned of these words only because of him), he has anger issues, and I can see that he's very controlling (especially over my sister who's apparently blind to it or scared to say anything). And this is just some of the issues. I've tried hinting to stop, but when that didn't work I just got right back at him - and I'm not that kind of girl. I'm shy, quiet, sweet, never-hurt-a-fly type. He was shocked when I actually got angry at him. It shut him up for a second, but he just never stops! I never knew it was in me to hate anyone, but now I do. My parents feel the same way about him and they've also been trying to think of what to do. But they're the in-laws and don't want to hurt their daughter, my sister. Once when we were talking about this problem, I even just let it all out and said they should get divorced. I never want to hurt my sister, but I really don't think she's in a good relationship. She says she's happy, but I truthfully think she's too scared to say anything. What can I do about this awful brother-in-law? Oh, and they have a 1 month old baby now and I really don't want this to hurt her either. Please help!!!

My mom got mad at me, because she thinks that I faked dying with my friend. I was crying, and I was having an asthma attack and she yelled at me for being selfish and a sh*t. She s ignoring me currently right now. She turned every adult towards me wth disappointment, but I didn t do anything. My friend and I are furious. My dad also lied about it too. Hes a little more unsure, but Parents are suppose to help you when you need it, My mom yells at me and only glares at me with a stiff answer. It also doesn t help to her im adopted now.

I had slept with a man thirteen years ago and that gave us our twins Ali and Alex. He was married before we were together and they have a son Manny together (they were divorced before I slept with him and it was one night thing) I moved to live with my great grandmother to care for her and stayed there for the next thirteen years. Recently I moved back to my home town (baby daddy still lives there) and the twins have been spending a lot of time with their father, grandfather, and half brother (mom left Manny with his father before leaving). Baby daddy and I decided to try dating and we lasted about a month before realizing we just weren't right for each other. I was wondering how we could explain to Ali and Alex that we weren't going to get together but we're still a family. They love their father (and their half brother) and I don't want to break their hearts about their father and I getting together. They seem to realize that we aren't but I'm not completely sure. Any ideas on how to explain?

Thank you

Ok so my son is 11 and i recently bought him a new phone he straigtly went on youtube to watch Girl Meets World and i slapped him saying dont watch that gay fag show he cried and i took his phone back to the store i feel kind of bad

I'm a 16 year old girl and my brother is 18. My mom says we have a really weird relationship. Well we always hang out, like a lot. It has never been awkward for us. A lot of people have asked if we are a couple. We have no sexual feelings towards eachother and I know that for a fact. We are really chill around eachother like once he walked in my room and I was wearing a bra and my jeans on (I was getting dressed) and he didn't even care. My mom has caught us smoking pot together and she got mad for a while and then she sort of shrugged it off. She doesn't care if we do it in the garage or outside at night, just not in the house anymore. He is very protective over me, (we don't have a dad so he tries to be the dude in mylife he says) Anyways, we are just like super close to eachother. Is that weird in any way or is it ok?

To stay in my hometown living with my parents and sister or move in another country with my boyfriend...? I love him very much but I feel like if I'm leaving with him, I abandon my family... Can someone give an opinion or suggestion, please? I have some kind of difficulty in taking a decision right now. :(

I'm a 14 year old girl and I hate my dad! He is ugly inside and outside. Today he punched and I vomit. I hate him to the point that I'd rather die than see him! He puts way too much perfume that I can't even breathe! Also, there's this guy who's 17 who likes me back like I do and he can't be compared to my dad. Why? Because my dad is the complete opposite. I feel so bad have him in my home. I want to live alone or at someone's. Help please!

People tell the difference between us because she's always been a bit chubbier than me, but not in any unhealthy way. Our mom cares a ton about looks and being skinny and has told her to stop eating so much IN PUBLIC before. My mo has these diet pills and they've been going missing lately, and I found a mint box filled with what looked like pills, not mints, in my sister's drawer. My sister stopped eating at home but at school she eats large portions of food and then goes straight to the bathroom. Her weight has dropped dramatically and our mom has been congratulating her and encouraging it. My sister is so pale looking now and sleeps a lot more. She moves really slow and feels a ton of fatigue. I tried telling my mom how I've felt but she told me that I should be proud my sister is taking care of herself. My dad isn't in the picture and if I tell the school, my mom will be pissed. Help, I'm really worried. My sister and I are only 14.

They assigned me to be gay when I was born but I am 22 now and certain that I am not a homosexual. It is not that I have anything wrong with anyone who is, in fact my sister is, but I am not. They still think I am and I pretend to have a boyfriend (I am a guy). However, I am not gay. At 22 I feel I should reveal that I am not to them. How do I best do this

Okaay this is what is happening if your wondering.. i dont really remember how old i was and when it happened but when i was younger my mom said somethng to me that i still remember till this day.. i didnt do what she told me i think it was to do the laundry or the dishes or some type of chore and she got mad i guess and she told me to my face she didnt care about me. Keep in mind she was dropping me off somewhere with my brothers and sisters before i got out of the car with tears pouring down my face she said "if anybody ask you why are you crying tell them thet your mom said she didnt care about you!" Thanks to those words i have to spend the rest of my life with this feeling that my own mother doesnt care about me😢😢 i feel like i should tell somebody but its only going yo get worst. I feel like she kinda doesnt really like me because im "different" or something.. WHAT SHOULD I DO SHOULD I SAY SOMETHING

She gets mad for even asking the basic questions about my father and wants me to consider my step dad as a father and I dislike him

I m 16, (in 2 more years I ll be 18 and legally able to move out on my own I ll be pretty much an "adult") shouldn t my mom be willing to let me express myself,make my own decisions, make mistakes on my own? In this generation, kids are different. We are more technology advantaged and express our selves differently. Can we be our own person and make our own mistakes sometimes so when were adults we don t make them agian and Learn from them. My mom is a very close minded person (to me at least). I ve tried talking to her to (at least) let me get a second Lobe ear piercing. But she won t even let that happen. Her excuse is you can do whatever you want when you are older and after b you graduate. But to me I look at ithe as its just an ear piercing and if it s so bad I can just take it out (like any other piercing). But she refuses. I have talked to her plenty of times about expressing myself and she says that it will effect my career but I m not going for anything business and/or very professional, also I m not unaware that certain things can keep you from getting a job/Career and I would keep that in mind with my selfexpression.. so what s the deal? How can I get her to realize I have to make mistakes to not make them agian. I have to learn from my own experience and not just from her telling me? Any help. Thanks

My parents and older sister decided to go to Florida this week. This week is also my spring break. They decided not to take me as well and I'm really confused why not. I don't want to seem selfish, but I was really hurt by this. When I asked why, they didn't give me an explanation and I was practically ignored. I haven't done anything wrong and my grades are good. I'm not sure if it's because of financial issues, either. Now, I can't leave my house because I can't drive. This is also making me sad because I'm just wasting my spring break when I could be hanging out with friends or something. Anyways, I feel left out and slightly neglected. Everyone I told this to said I was being selfish. Even if I am being selfish, I'm not trying to. The question is...Is it wrong for me to be upset by this?

So I discovered porn when I was 8 because I googled the word sex because I was curious and then I discovered pornographic videos. I knew it was wrong but I ve been keeps it from my mom for 6 years now. I haven t told her. I never will tell her so don t tell me that I should. I m just scared... What if she hates me? What if she gets really over protective.. I can t risk letting her know what I ve been hiding. Not a lot of girls watch porn so I don t know what s happening to me. I feel ashamed and disgusted of myself .. Please someone help me I don t want to tell anyone but I want to stop watching it.

She's 14 years old, going on 15 in 2 months. She's very prone to violent outbursts at home, but at school, she's been described by her teachers as very quiet and shy. For example, for her 14th birthday, she wanted a coconut cake; however, I couldn't find a coconut cake and, instead, bought her a pineapple cake, which was just as good. She refused to eat any on her birthday, but the next day, I woke up and saw that the rest of cake was in the trash can. My sister asked my daughter to take care of her little 3-year-old boy while she was away. I came back and heard the baby crying. My daughter was sitting there on the sofa, twisting the baby's hand until he turned red. She had even tried to choke the neighbor's puppy before, and she said that it helped her to get rid of her anger. Whenever she is mad about something, she'll either hit herself, throw hard objects at the wall, or slam the door hard. Her social skills, or lack thereof, hinder her from being able to form friendships with other children her age. Other children see her as being "weird" and "awkward," as shown when my nieces, who are her age, came to visit her. She threw a TV remote at my niece once when she was asked if she wanted to play. She had said on multiple occasions that she doesn't and will never have any friends at school, and that they're just her schoolmates, whom she sees on a day-to-day basis. Despite being academically intelligent, her social skills are still quite retarded, especially for someone her age. I have tried getting her out of the house more, maybe ride her bike with other kids or visit her relatives, yet she just stays in her bedroom all day. It seems as if the older she gets, the more quiet, sulking, and emotionless she gets. Sometimes, she just sits on the sofa with her face emotionless and blank and just rock back and forth in solitude. I think something might be bothering her, but I don't know what it is exactly. However, she does do very well in school; she's always making straight A's and has never gotten a discipline form. All in all, she's prone to violent outbursts, is usually introverted and socially awkward, acts inappropriately in public, and has attempted some "sadistic" things, like violence to animals, before. She can also get obsessed with certain activities or ideas very easily. Should I get her a psychiatrist? She said nothing is bothering her and that "it's just hard for her to be happy."

I'm 13 minutes ago my mom and step dad were fighting and i was trying to ignore them, but I couldn't help it and looked at him for like half a second then he just screamed at me what the hell are you looking at?!While he was holding my BABY sister two feet away from his face and then he put her down on the little foot rest thing of the couch nobody said anything for five minutes I noticed that her head was halfway off the thing I put my homework down to go get her since he wasn't paying attention to her and he screamed at me what the hell r you looking at go take care of the dog and I have already taken her outside fed her and gave her water and her ear drops and screaming at us for no reason is a regular thing I finally got fed up and yelled back at him "Im looking at you like your crazy because you ******* are!" And then I ran up to my room and these are the bits of their fight that I have picked up: M: she's a child, she was just trying to help,and you don't get to ******* talk to her like that! S: I can't do whatever the **** I want to! I'm tired of you people telling me what to do! M: you are not allowed to mess with my child's mental health! That's sick! You know what, Give me the baby! s:that baby is fine worthless *****! m: give me the baby! You are not going to talk to me like that! And that's all I picked up.I've been going to a therapist for the past two months and she knows to some extent what's going on, but not enough to call them for me.what should I do

So I was living with my dad and 2 sisters in a house but then my sisters moved out to work overseas, so my dad decided to downgrade to living in an apartment (which I hate). Now good news is, he wants to move back to our house which is great but I have my stepmom to deal with (married to my dad) and she just annoys the crap out of me. But me and my dad were super close and we were like best friends. Sadly, she's making us more distant to the point where he would defend her over me. Anyways, then there's my mom who lives in a tiny studio apartment and she wants me to move in. She said we could live in a bigger apartment and I could even get a cat (my stepmom is scared of cats so if i lived with my dad, there's no cat involved). Anyways so I really love my mom but she's more of a friend like if I did something bad she would be the good cop and my dad would be the bad cop. And she's financially unstable (i think) but she tells me not to worry because she can afford this new apartment (she's even letting pick the new apartment within her budget). But I love the house that my dad is moving back to because then I could have my sister's room and get good memories from it. But then again, if I lived with my dad, there's my stepmom who is very rude and depressing and doesn't talk to me so she's very hard to live with. What should I do? Sorry for the long paragraph :)

Growing up in Europe most of my friends had siblings and those siblings were their best friends , there was no one closer to them than their siblings they would hang out all the time and do stuff together , but when i came to America i notice here that majority of my friends tell me "Im not that close with my brother " . "Me and my sister dont talk much" or when they ask me for help about something i tell them why not talk to you brother/sister about it they always tell me "Were not that close and im not comfortable talking about it with them" , my boyfriend has a brother and he never talks to him , he never hangs out with him , and he never says anything good about him. ive talked to ALOT of people and all of them seem to say the same damn thing , so what is with you Americans? i think that your brother/sister is supposed to be your closest friend , your other half they are pretty much on the same level as your mother and father , so why is it that no one here seems to give a damn about their siblings or have any kind of relationship with them. It really upsets me to see this because i would give anything to have sibling , im an only child and it sucks.

My bio dads aunt and her husband adopted me when I was 11. She is now technically my "Mom". When I was 15 her and my Dad got a divorce. I call them Mom and Dad now. What I didn't know was that she was divorcing me too. I would ask if I could go with her to see my "brothers" (my cousins who became my brothers when I was adopted) and nephews. She would say maybe next week and again I would ask and same response. She never once called me like ever. The thing is that we go to the same church where her brother (my uncle) is the pastor. I would see her twice a week at church. She would say hi and not even hug me. My heart slowly broke because for the second time my "Mom" rejected me. I lived with my Dad by the way. Later I found out that she never wanted me. I broke all over again. A few years ago she started to get close to a man from the church that we go to. He had 3 kids including a young girl who Is 11. My Dad was hurt too because he still loved her. Anyways the girl has my same name and bday and looks just like I did at her age. I feel even more rejected now. Anyways the thing is that I am getting married in June and since she's technically my "Mom" do I sit her at my table? Oh and I also have to invite her other "family". I don't really want her to come but my Dad says that it would be rude not to invite her. So what do I do? Like where should I place her? I don't want to think about the rejection or Seeger happy with her new family when I still feel broken inside. Just writing this out has helped me a little bit. I hate rejection and it's something that I've dealt with since childhood. I try to move on but I guess the bookworm and fairytale loving person that I am can't accept that there isn't always a happy ending.

I'm 26 , college grad, working at a full-time job, My parents have been driving me insane and sadly it started all because of my boyfriend. They do not like him for no reason. They have never given him a chance which is what bothers me. He's 30, own place, full-time job and is going back to school. There is nothing wrong about him. Everyone that has met him loves him because he's an amazing person. However, my parents have been made recently because I purchased a new car (however, they don't know it's mine) because my mother took my car keys away this past week when I was going to work. The car I was buying off them, turns out it was free and the money was just for rent. I have restrictions on the car, I can only use it for work and school. They told me that they don't like my attitude. However, when I asked my dad what exactly is wrong with my attitude, he doesn't know what to say. He basically said that I should not question anything my mother says. Please keep in mind, my mother insults me on a daily basis, calls me fat, she told me nothing goes good for me in life because I'm a bad daughter and that I'm full of myself. (I suffer from depression and have low self esteem). I'm moving out soon and I'm cutting them off because they are not letting me focus on my goal which is to go to law school. They informed that if I marry my boyfriend, that the relationship is doomed and we will divorce within 2 years. My dad also said that I will be a lowlife on welfare with three kids.

My dad was always an emotionally abusive a**hole. He is really a mean guy. I tolerated it for 18 years and right after that, I moved out to go to college. I had twins 2 months ago at 29. I am not ever letting him see them, and besides, we haven't talked in 11 years. He found out about them and is trying to see them. I just don't trust him anymore. Should I let him see them? Maybe he changed? FYI He always said that he loved me, but he costed me 100s of dollars in therapy and definitely scarred me. Could he have changed?

I was in school and I was helping a girl carry something to another room. She had one end and I had the other. I thought I was doing fine, but I guess I was walking to fast for her because she said "Hey can you slow down, I'm a little bit smaller than you, on case you haven't noticed." I just feel like if she wanted me to slow down" she could have done it without having to point out my size. I feel like maybe I'm just overthinking it. She probably didn't mean to make me feel bad. Sorry for the errors I typed this on my phone and yes, she is petite but I'm also overweight.

My mom started having anxiety attacks from him being there. He is a very dirty man. He is from Mexico and he has come here illegally. Can social service help get rid of him? My dad is too stubborn and doesn t understand that no one wants him around. He doesn t clean up after him. How can we get rid of him? He isn t even family. My great grandmother married him and passed away. So I could honestly careless about him

My cousin is an extremely wealthy investment banker by the grace of Almighty Allah. My elderly aunt lives with him, and her only income is her monthly Social Security cheque. Yet he makes her pay for her own groceries and toiletries. Is he right to do this, especially considering the fact that she supported him her whole life as a single working mother?

I am a freshman in high school. My mom gives me 15 minutes a day to use social media, games, and anything not study related. She monitors everything I do despite the fact I get straight A s. She thinks I need to study 24/7. How do I prove to her I need more time?

So I'm going to be 14 in June and i workout and train (tennis & squash) all the time and i normally wear black or grey t-shirts that are loser fitting because 1, they are 2 of my favorite colors and 2, i train most of the time on turf and they don't really stain. Also because when i train in the weight room i don't have to worry about sweat (and everyone else's) and they also give me breathing room and are just what i feel good wearing. But my mom is always starting fights about it and telling me that i don't look strong or like an athlete. And telling me that no girl wears t-shirts and that they all wear tight fitting tanks, she has even not let me go to training or even took away my phone (witch doesn't have any internet and is also the only way i can talk to my brother) and even yelled at me or made me feel ashamed of it. But i'm just not that confident with my body and wearing really tight clothes. I just don't see how it's a bad thing if I'm being conservative and not showing of my body all the time (but keep in mind that i still wear workout shorts just not really tight ones and really short ones) Ya know becuase to me i'm still kinda young and i can wait till i'm a bit older or more confident to start dressing differently. But she always wears tight and shorter clothes so in her mind i should be dressing the same. Is she right?

My son who has turned 21 is literally going crazy with his looks, when he started college, he was descent looking, well dressed, fat & chubby. But over the 4 years he's started all this nonsense fashion trends he sees on the TV.Doing all these 'undercut' hairstyles, thick beards, wearing thick frame no power glasses, magnet ear rings, lost like 85+ lbs of weight, he used to weight about 250 lbs but now weighes 165 lbs.He lately didn't go to the salon for like several months & has long hair which he ties up, he says its called 'man bun' whatever (isn't that what we women do ?) & his beard is quiet thick.I was shocked by the way he looks but he gets constant compliments from people of his age, obviously the young generation..... but that is clearly not descent.He keeps telling me he is later going to get tattoos over certain parts of his body,real ear piercings and lighter eye lenses.I clearly am disturbed to the thought of him doing that.The body is the temple of God & he is spoiling it with all this fashion.He is a real good kid though,he doesn't smoke,he admits he occasionally drinks in 2-3 months only at parties,still a virgin,does fine in studies,is kind and helpful,but his looks just makes his persona the opposite of what he is.I'm not against fashion,but I feel he is going over board,what would others (other than ones of his age) think?How do I make him understand that he is spoiling his image & is getting too carried away with the media,but he rather be himself?

My mom is verbally abusive. I feel like everyday my mom yells at us (my siblings and I). Sometimes we don't clean up properly so I understand why she'd be mad, but I don't think she should be yelling at us. By the way I'm a college student and my siblings are younger than me. My mom has degraded me, too. She criticizes my outfits, hair, and lack of makeup, which has lowered my self esteem She accused me of having sex and bring pregnant multiple times and I have never had sex. The first time was in middle school. When I confront her about it now, she said she was joking. Last month she started accusing me again. When I explained to her through text that she was hurting my feelings, she never replied and never said sorry but she did stop. She also doesn't like me going out late with my friends and wants me home by 10pm. I've never been out with friends before college, so I want that experience. It's not like we're doing anything bad either. Whenever I stay out later than my curfew she'll yell at me when I come home or the next day and tells me she doesn't want to deal with me and for me to go live with my dad (my parents are divorced). I do want to, but his house doesn't have enough room for me. My mom was raised strictly. She wasn't even allowed to hang out with friends growing up. So I feel like this is a reason why she's like this. I feel like we're both disrespecting each other but I don't know how to deal with it.

Now there are many reasons I want to change my last name, but what it comes down to is this. I desperately need a fresh start in life. I didn't get a kind loving family, and I have been through a lot of hardships in my life that would break anyone's heart. I have tried to move on in life but the toxicity and the ghosts of the past keep haunting me so much that I can't be happy and functional. Our last name is tied to these ghosts and toxicity. I have a cousin that betrayed me in the most vile way. I have a stepbrother that is so abusive that he is putting me in an early grave. I can't move out (I'm over 18 but I am stuck here. It's a long story but just trust me) and I can't stand up to him because a fight will stress my mom out and ruin her health. He takes advantage of me and my single mom and trust me you would want to kill him if you had to live with him. My bio dad cheated on my mom when she was seriously ill with cancer and left our family, and he won't see me or visit bc his new wife won't "allow" him to (he loves her more than me). These three people share a last name with me. It's humiliating to have to bow down to a name that honors all this abuse and chains me to this toxic past. Don't say, "You can't just change it out of desire." I've talked to an attorney and the answer was, sure you can. It's expensive but my mental health and well being are priceless. I'll always have emotional scars but I can't live in chains. Get married and take my husband's last name? First of all, I'm 34. I feel like it's too late for marriage. :( I would have liked for there to have been a husband but I'm accepting there won't be. I have been very sad and tried to deal with it. Furthermore, I'm very squeamish about that tradition. As a feminist, I feel like I need a last name and identity of my own. I would like to have a couple of daughters and I want them raised with feminist values too. My mom's maiden name was Solomon and I looove that name! :) I feel like it suits me My grand dad was kind and loving. My Grandmother had a lovely French last name. (We're French/Jewish/Canadian on mom's side.) :) G, you can't change the past but you can get rid of toxic things that harm you. I recently had my appendix out. I lost part of my body, and will never be whole again, but I don't feel like I "lost" anything. I got rid of something that was harming me. I feel like my last name is a toxic organ, emitting bile. I want to amputate my last name. Not a physical amputation but an emotional one.

My mom told my sister about my prom. My sister, for whatever reason, wanted to chaperone me to prom. But I did NOT want her to at all. She kept insisting that she chaperone and forged her way in! I told my parents how pissed I was, and they basically agreed with that she didn't need to go. But my sister went with me to prom anyways and I was miserable the whole night. I just wanted it to be me and my friends. Yet, my sister was there, spying on me. Then when we got home, my whole ganged up on me. They all started yelling and being mean to because they said she should've taken me to prom and that ungrateful. My dad wouldn't even let me defend myself, he just kept badgering me and threatening to send me away. And every time, I cried.. they'd just get madder. I don't really know what to do. Why does my life suck this much?

My son has been living with his father for the past 2 years (custody battle), and ever since all this started I've notice my son behavior and attitude has changed with me. My son has also gain a lot of weight and I'm concern for his physical health as well as his mental health. I think his father has brainwashed him. I need Help!

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My fiance wanted to move back into her dad's house because her father is terminally sick. I strongly advised against this although I understand the reasoning because its her father, so we did. A month went by, found out she was pregnant. We were excited but I was a little more reserved due to the fact we were in a tough financial situation, and we both work a minimum wage job. As the months went by tensions started to arise between my fiance and her family. Seeing this i put more money aside. We talked several times about the concerns I had over our tenancy but she quickly disregarded them and said they wouldn't put us out. Well my fears were accurate because now they put us out. The police even suggested my 31 week pregnant fiance leave to keep the peace. I have 800 dollars saved up; hardly enough to afford an apt and only a hotel for probably a couple weeks. I am now thinking about the welfare of our child. I am heir to my fathers residence in Chicago IL, he passed last year, and has a 5 bedroom duplex at our disposal.. I told my fiance this, she doesn't want to move. I understand Chicago is a world away. However, we don't make enough money to be able to pay for a motel and still get an apt. We will fall a thousand dollars short every time living in a motel and that's just with the rate and gas; after all this is California. What should I do? Should I take my baby and leave? I know it would probably be best for our baby but it would destroy my fiance.

My mother's birthday is coming soon, and I'm only a 13 year old and I don't have money to buy her anything. Anywho, I know that as a child of a mother, I have to show her love, but that's still not enough. I want to make her 'happy'. Now, the reason why I said that I want to make her happy is obviously because she isn't happy with her current life. She lives in a different country, she hates my family because of my siblings (and they're both 20s. They behave rudely towards her) and my father doesn't care. My mother really misses HER family a lot (aka her sisters and brothers, and they all live in different country). Whenever I see that sad expression on her face, it kills me a lot. I don't know what to do. Please Yahoo users, I do really need your help.

My boyfriend put his little brother in jail yesterday for his destructive behavior. His little brother can't keep a job and just lays home all day long. He also has a girlfriend who lives with them who has a kid with another guy and she is also pregnant with his kid as well. She has no education, job, high school ged... nothing. There basically living off my boyfriend mom for free. They wanna pop out kids and take no responsibility. And on top of that my boyfriend brother beats the **** out of his pregnant girlfriend. Yesterday, was just the last hope for him.. my boyfriend and him got in an argument and his brother just started hitting things and throwing things all over the house, dirt all over the living room floor from a plant that got knocked over. So my boyfriend put his *** in jail. Now my bf mom is mad at my bf for doing that. She doesn't see what he's doing so she sides with him. She's blaming my bf for everything because the brother is the "little brother". One day he's going to hurt someone really bad and then she's goi you to realize. And if there dad was alive, he definitely wouldn't put up with all this nonsense. What advice should I give my boyfriend? Was he wrong to call the cops on his brother?

So I've really been considering moving away from my family. I love them but they truly treat me like crap, I have no self esteem anymore. I feel if I don't move out soon I'll be in a deeper depression. My family is pretty close, me and my sister always play video games so idk if I'd actually be able to leave that? Plus my pets, we have two dogs and a bunch of cats, they are truly the only thing that makes me happy when I'm feeling depressed, I don't think I can leave all of them.. I love them so so much. How will I ever be able to leave??? I'm close with my family but I'm just the doormat of the family, they walk all over me and I'm the target to everyone's jokes. We have good times too tho... I'm 22, I really just think I need to get away from this negativity it's really impacting me.. But I love my childhood home, I love the country the outside, I love running around with my dogs, I love my cats sleeping with me, how do people move out with such attachment??

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This is probably not a place to ask for a help..but i don't know what to do anymore. My father is very strict, very controlling, egoistic i would say. I have an older sister and i younger brother. I'm 19 years old. We had a "fight " last night. Or should i say he had a monolog since i hadn't said a word. He made a rule that we can go out only 2 times a week. By go out i don't mean clubbing, i mean simply stay longer somewhere after school or grab a coffee with a friend. I already spent my 2 times this week and i asked him to go out to a birthday at my friend's house. He said no first. Because i already went somewhere 2 times. Then he started his speech by saying how he's a good father, how he's the smartest, the head of this family..and finished it by saying how i'm the worst. I'm disrespectfil, lazy, and he doesn't want his daughter spending nights clubbing. I know that I'm neither of those. I never even go to clubs and i rearly stay anywhere after 10:30 pm. This is not the first time. He put me down many times. The worst was when i dyed my hair few years ago. He told me basically that i'm a whore and that no man will ever want me looking like that. Do you know what kind of impact that makes on a teen? I'll never forget that... I can't stand up to him. I can't hold back my tears when he starts yelling at me. Yesterday was such a shitty day..I didn't even want to wake up. hhh this feels a bit better..doesn't matter if nobody ever reads it.