I'm having my baby in a couple of weeks. I separated from my ex husband when I was weeks pregnant. I file for a divorce months ago. Obviously I will still be married when I have my baby. My baby will not have his last name and I will not put him on the birth certificate. Can he still try to get custody?

I have now fallen in love with another woman who is amazing. She also buys things for the kids for holidays, birthdays, given money to help pay their tuition. I want to start a life with her but I can t. I know I m not being fair to her but I love her and just need her to be patient till I have full custody but I see how much it hurts her when I can t stay the night or see her as often as I would like. It kills me because she is who I want but I have to do what I have to until it s over. What should I do since I know she s hurting in waiting?

I m just young and a situation a friend got involved in got me thinking a lot. In short, she started hooking up with a dude who said he was divorced. Super cool dude, super nice, very selfless. I ve interacted with him myself, he s one of those dudes who s always considerate and always trying to help others. But then my friend looked him up on facebook and found what seems to be his wife s facebook- there are pictures of the dude, the woman we suspect to be his wife and two children- one of which is for sure theirs since there is a pregnancy photo and stuff. After snooping around, she even found their wedding pictures on facebook! They were posted on the photography s company page. We looked through them. What got to me was that, in one of the pictures, dude was actually crying! Like, you know, in the movies where the men start crying I guess from love and/or happiness? The photo was dated to 2013 so it wasn t too long ago. All of that just got me thinking about this ****. Dude is a super cool person when you meet him, super selfless, nice with EVERYBODY. Going by the pictures, he seems like the typical, devoted, loving husband. He cried at his freaking wedding- and yet here he is, hooking up with my friend. :/ I guess cuz I m young and stuff I just... have a hard time comprehending the thought process. HIS thought process. I m interested to know what you all think, or any experiences you have.

My wife filed for divorce last week. Today she said she signed a form to put the divorce papers on hold. This was because she took a home pregnancy test yesterday and it was positive. After she returned from the errand in which she claimed to have put the papers on hold, she told me her father has a conference in Denver, where we live, this weekend. This is the first I've heard of it, but since we haven't communicated in two weeks that might not be weird. He plans to fly out Monday, but she said he can drive back to the South with her and the kids. She's been wanting to visit family there. I feel iffy about this. We haven't talked about how long she's taking to thing things over or really about any future plans. I worry her putting the papers on hold is some sort of way for her to take the kids out of state and stay out of state without me being able to claim abduction. I also have no doubt that once there her family would do whatever she asked to help her stay. Including lying to the police and making up whatever they could make up so that she could stay. I want our marriage to work and I worry telling her no would only harden her resolve on the divorce. But I'm more worried that she could try to pull some bs. Can she? What should I tell her? FYI I'm a stay-at-home dad, if that matters. Help!

Also why do people like sex for pleasure? Do you need it?

Be it porn, weird fetishes, etc. My husband has secretly taken nude photos of me and of us having sex together. It appears he has a camera fetish. He has taken pictures of other women too, not nudes, but pics of them walking about outside or at their work. There are pics of some that are scantily clothed. This makes me uncomfortable and is starting to freak me out.

At some point in my relationship with my husband I had my doubts about his ex Fiance'. I knew that he loved he deeply and she broke his heart very badly. I started asking all these dump questions and one of them was if he loved her more. He said he didn't but he felt more comfortable with her. Few months after this story and awhile after my doubts have settled, his father (my father in law) accidentally tells me that my husband spoke to him and asked for advice about my question !!!! Asking for advice meant that he had his doubts and that he actually loved her more. when i found out and confronted him, he couldn't say a word, he kept quite and all he said was that i am special! I was in complete shock and all i said was why, why you loved her more! He kept quite all the way back home and in the care he was holding my hand and kissing it so softly once twice 10X. when we arrived home he came close to me, hugged me and said "you're the best thing that happened to me" What is he trying to say? He kept quite about loving her more but why is he acting that way !? Any Comments about the kisses and "you're the best thing that happened to me" ;) is he feeling guilty or truly loving me!

Met my guy he great. I m 26 he is 33. I care for him but he doesn t have a lot of money at least that s what he tells me. I have 2 kids so we can t go to my or his house. Plus we both have roommates who are family. It s been 6 months about 2 months ago we wanted to be intimate so he takes me to low budget hotels. I care for him so i get a nice room sometimes. How do I tell him a low budget hotel is not working. We both share expenses but Im not feeling these hotels. This is embarrassing. But I have to tell him I m beginning to lose interest in us. He says he don t have much. I understand cause I can t afford alot either. Plus I m not with him for his money. We need a better way. neither of us are ready to bring our kids into the relationship yet but what should we do?

but when i called another female answered and now i smell something fishy he says he don't know her how do i find out if he is lying???

. My husband is always accusing me of cheating on him because I wear makeup to work or if I come late from work he's always assuming that I'm with someone. I just can't take it anymore. And about 8 months ago we don't communicate at all it's like we're just roommates. And when he does talk to me he's always yelling at me to get things done around the house right when I get home from work and he's been home for hours it's so frustrating. I can't even do anything because then he thinks I'm doing things behind his back. Things aren't the same anymore,we don't go out as a family, we sleep in different beds, he doesn't complement me and all he does is just be on his phone. Another thing that bothers me is the he expects me to not have a passcode on my phone but he's the only one allowed to have one on his phone. There have been a few incidents that I've caught him talking to other women on Facebook. And just last week he confronted me about talking to my best friend about our problems and it turns out he's been spying on me with a hidden camera. I've talked to him about our problems and he blames everything on me. He feels that if I get pregnant things will change but right now I'm just not prepared to have a child specially if we're fighting constantly and he's always doubting me. Please help

I had an emotional affair with a married old friend, and I am married also. His wife lives in a different city. My relationship with hubby is good but somehow I fell for this guy. Never planned this at all. We started texting and got very intimate; we even did video chat for hours. We went on for about 10 months - all via text and never met cuz we are in different state, but towards the end I would have to start the conversation first. Almost seemed like he lost interest. It has been 9 months since he last responded to me. I think about him and miss him constantly. I know what we did was wrong, and I respect it if he wants to do the right thing and stop, but at least tell me; not ignore me like this. Yes, I fell in love with him; not sure if he felt the same way or just passing time. I just miss my friend and I want him back; doesn't have to be an affair partner like before, but I miss him as a friend. We connected so much, finished ea other's sentences, made ea other laugh. I miss that. Why do you think he stop? I was always very nice to him and was never rude. How can I make myself stop thinking about him?

I am getting married soon and I have quite a bit more assets than my fiancé. I also have a large sum of money to go towards a down payment on a house. He doesn't have hardly any savings. We plan to have a prenup but from what I understand this is only effective in the case of divorce, not death. I keep thinking, what will happen if I die young, unexpectedly after just a year or so of marriage? Will he get everything? Will he be free to remarry and bring another woman into the house I've worked so hard to save for, possibly allowing her kids to move in too and possibly having her raise my kids in my home?? I know this is the worst case scenario but it simply doesn't seem fair that this could happen. Is there a way to prevent it? The land we plan to build on is only in my name, not sure if this makes a difference. Thanks.

I've been with my husband for almost 11 years and at the start there were some small problems which I thought we could work out so there was no big deal. He just couldn't concentrate during sex, his mind would wonder then before we knew it he just wasn't into it any more and he would just give up (yea, I know, does wonders for a woman's self esteem!) Thus begun my ten year battle to try and help him with this. For the first few years I tried the gentle approach, finding out if it was a chemical thing, if it was stress, if it was that he needed his fantasy fulfilled. I even explored if he might be gay. I tried pretty much everything to fancy dress, toys, herbal pills, self-help books, even porn. But nada. There were some okay times but it always came back to him not being able to stay in the game. It got to the point that he would go into it so quickly and it would be over with before I knew what happened because he didn't want his mind to wonder. Not really any better but at least something. Anyway, ten years on, a few kids later and my self-esteem pretty much no existent I have given up. It has only just hit me recently that I am the only one that has been working my guts out to try and fix this, blaming myself for not being attractive enough, banging my head against a wall trying to make it work when it all boils down to the fact that well, he just doesn't like sex very much. At least not with me!..lol Don't get me wrong he is a wonderful husband, an excellent father and a very very decent human being. I guess I just got greedy and thought that I could have the whole package. Great guy, great sex...lol Any ideas that can help me. I have no intention of leaving him, but I love sex and think it is very important for a healthy marriage. He's said many many many times that he will get help for it, go to a doctor, go to a shrink, but he just doesn't. He thinks it will pass and just drops it. I don't even know what a doctor could do to help him! What to do?

not from pain. but like you just started crying and had no idea why. and not booo hooing, snot bubbles crying. but that soft sweet cry. the "beautiful cry" as my husband calls it. did it scare you? did it scare your partner? i've been with my husband for over 13 years off and on (we recently married this past summer) and last night was the 1st night I've ever cried during sex. It was wierd to me because im usually not overly emotional.... but last night i was for whatever reason. I felt really vaunerable after it was over with. I think it kinda scared him too because im not really the "crying type". and its almost like im afraid to let him touch me again because i dont wanna keep wetting up his shoulders. lol but i know i cried because last night it really kicked in exactly how much i love this man and everything that he means to me. so anyway, if you've cried... do you know why. and are you still with the person who witnessed those beautiful tears?

it is not scary if people have high expectations? For example , the wife thinks you have a big cock but it turns out not to be.

So I am currently going through a divorce... my soon to be ex husband just only got a full time job this past January. Our lease is up on May 30th. I am moving in with my current boyfriend and my ex still hasn t found an apartment. He said he is worried he wont be able to afford it on his own. The problem is we have 3 cats together. I sadly cannot take the cats because my boyfriend is allergic and I m worried that my ex will just give the cats away. I don t want that to happen. I was thinking I should just offer to pay part of his rent so the cats can have a safe loving home. Is this a bad idea?

I am getting married this summer to the love of my life. I am very excited and I am looking forward to it. However there are things we need to discuss. Practical things, like money. I talked to a friend of mine and he has a shared account with his gf. He said that is the dumbest thing he has ever done. And the biggest problem is that it's hard to back away from it. We were talking about it and she is also in favor of that idea. Having a completely shared account. After talking to my friend I am a bit skeptical. I was thinking that we have seperate accounts but save and pay bills together. We calculate what all our bills are, food costs and other expenses and we put that money in one account. Then we decide how much we are going to save every month and we put that into a savings account. What's left we split down the middle and each of us can spend that however they want, without the other having to butt in. What do you think? How do you do it?

. Its good for society. For one it means better genes are passed on. Society is passing on the worst genes now because the least successful people have the most kids. Polygamy reverses that. It's also better for raising children because they always have parents around. 80% of human cultures throughout history have been polygamous. Monogamy is extremely rare in the animal kingdom @universeone- that's what prostitutes are for. And yes I could keep several women happy at the same time. I've done it before. Why does being married change anything?

Ok please no rude comments. We have been married for 8 yrs been together 10 we are 28 have a 2 year old and a 7 year old. I made a horrible mistake I know I was stupid I regret it but more so regret hurting my husband. I would give anything to change what happeed but can't I realize that. I never blamed him only myself I know its not his fault. I have appoligized and said I'll never do ti again I know at this point words mean nothing. I wanna show it and that he can trust me. This happened on a wed night I told him friday so 2 days later I know people will say he would have eventuatlly found out I know and he knows he wouldn't have. I did withhold information at first but not because I didn't want him to know but I knew it would hurt him more. I have told him everything. This is the first time ever I have lied or hid anything from him. I am trying to do anything I can. I am so greatful he gave me another chance. I have since changed my phone number I have had no contact with the other guy. I never had any feelings for him. I cut all contact before I told my husband. I am trying to do everything I can. I origionally deleted my facebook acct on my own not because he asked me to. He didn't want me to do that so I reopened it. We sat together and decided who to delete and keep. I changed my phone number we sat together and decided who I should give my new number to. I am texting my husband everytime I go anywhere and leave anywhere unless im home. I text him periodically through out the day. This is all stuff I decided to do. I installed a tracking thing on my phone and told him he can pull it up on his when ever he wants. We are going to marriage counseling. I am kinda out of ideas but I know he keeps wondering if this will happen again and I know it won't I know the reason y it happened and am taking steps to fix it now mind you I won't get into why it happened but it is something that goes into childhoood and past relationships and I didn't realize until now that I still carry some of this with me and I am taking steps to forget about this past. Any advice will be appreciated. I know he does love me and I love him more than anything. I am trying to spend as much time with him as possible mind you with kids that is hard but I make time. I know if we get through this our relationship will be better than it ever was. I know he does love me he just can't bring himself to say it I still say it and tell him its ok if he can't say it back right now. I know one day he will be able to again. Any other suggestions please.

like four months ago i found out that my husband has been hitting on this girl but the girl turned him down. i found this out from the girl when i found a message he wrote her asking her why she is saying no to his advances. the girl told me everything and she was very coperative with me and gave me every little detail of their conversation. she put my husband to shame when he tried to deny that he hit on her but she even gave evidence by fowarding me his texts. eventually my husband accepted his mistake and said that he wasnt serious when he asked for her number and said those things, that he was just playing around and then he told her that if he was serious about her he wouldnt have told her about us... he told her that he has a wife and two kids and that he loves me to death but still he had the nerve to want to mess around with her. the girl told me that she sensed he had ill intentions( she guessed he wanted to sleep with her) and told him off. on the other hand he swears that he doesnt love her and that he doesnt even remember her face if she was infront of him right now. at first i wanted to divorce him but i stayed so that my two kids will not experience a broken home. now the thing is this girl now works two blocks away from us, at first when he met her she was in another town but now she is so close. i found this out from the girl when she called me and said hi. she didnt tell me where she worked until i asked her and she doesnt know am just two blocks away or maybe she does, who knows maybe he told her where he lives when he was going behind my back but all the same i dont know what will happen if i tell him that she is just around our house. am scared they might run into each other and the sparks will fly again. should i tell him or just shut up. who knows maybe he will never find out coz she told me he has stopped calling he since i found him out and obviously she doesnt call him. sometimes i feel like this girl is hyporcrite and looked for a job near our place on porpose and called me to rub it in my face so that i get insecure or she told me so that when i tell my husband he will look for her ... or maybe its pure coincidence that she works there. am confused on wether to tell him or just stay worried every time wondering wether he will run into her.

My wife and I have been together for 16 years and married for 6 and a half. We have had some intamacy issues(she's not that interested) and have been working on them together. For the past three months we have been going at it like rabbits, but lately she has cooled. I asked her why this happened and she said she felt that I was only interested in sex. When I took a good look at myself, I found that she wasn't that far off from the truth. I love my wife and want to stay with her, but I'm afraid that if I keep going in this fashion, I will lose her. I guess my dilemma lies in the fact that I want to make my wife feel more wanted, but not lose the physical side of our relationship. How can I find the balance necessary to keep our relationship going in the right direction?

My question is who out there has started dating the ex after the divorce? Or know people that have? We were divorced last summer and recently decided to start over brand new. We have been texting and talking on the phone, we plan on living apart at least for some time and just date like teenages. Our marriage fall apart over different view, there was no cheating or broken trust. I have been checking and stats say that we have double the chance of making it work as opposed to marrying other people. Just wondering

I'm recently divorced from my husband who had an affair with another woman and left. I now know the main reason he chose to do this was because we were not having sex. But since then I have shared my story with other women who have had the same experience and I have spoken to many men as well. Across the board I get the impression that men who don't get sex from their wives feel unloved and unappreciated. Unfortunately much of the time this is not the case at all. What happens to most women after being married for many years, especially as they get into their 30s and 40s is their sex drive dwindles, it's completely normal. Even though men know this they still expect that it's a wife's obligation to perform sexual acts on him "if she loves him". What men don't understand is performing any sexual act is a pretty daunting task when you're not in the mood. For women, our minds have to be totally in the right place, we cannot simply perform these tasks in a mechanical fashion like men do. There were times I did that for my husband (because he was acting like a baby) and it kinda made me feel like some sort of a prostitute, like it was my JOB to pleasure him. So why is it that men even bother getting married and plan to grow old with a woman if they cant accept that a woman's sex drive CHANGES? What they usually do is run off and cheat rather than grow up and realize a woman's low sex drive is NO personal attack on them. Some women have resorted to taking medication to increase their sex drive (to make their husbands happy) but if a drug has to be taken to artificially create a sex drive, doesn't that tell them anything? Why can't men adjust to a life that doesn't include sex all time rather than use it as a threat that they will cheat or leave? Anyway, for me personally, I will never get married or be in another LT relationship with a man if its expected to be my DUTY to pleasure him sexually. That is too much pressure and I'd rather hang out with my cats!

I would like to hear some moral argument against polygamy, and why it is criminalized ? There is no natural difference between having multiple affairs which is not criminalized and having multiple wives with written papers. So why, marital affairs aren't criminalized and polygamy is, there is no logical reason to criminalize it, in the first place, your moral isn't another. On the other hand if you do so criminalize it, why don't you for the other Thank you

Hello, i have a friend she is 23 i am 54 we are friends , but i have feelings , however i want to move to where she is and we are starting a business, my wife and daughter here in fl are so terrible , no respect from daughter shes 24 never worked no ged , she says i have to take care of here until she is ready, my wife of 26 years has bi-polar she doesnt do anything , no cooking cleaning no sex ,i do all for 26 years ..i'm miserable ,this is my last chance for something in my life , i could fail but its a risk in anything you do, onnce i leave i cant go back ...i am not feeling well emotionally ... the girl has issues too she is going though bad relationships and rebelling against all i do for her , i help her financially ....whats your take on this She's just a friend , i think more of a daughter figure , she has no one to speak of so i look after her we have known each other since she was 16

He gets mad over the smallest things but the big one is me falling asleep, we have an infant and it's me that gets up 3 times a night to feed her, change diaper, I'm her primary caregiver through the day, so sometimes when she takes a nap my eyes get heavy and i doze off and he will yell WAKE UP, and around 10 pm I can't stay awake and I will fully go out and he won't allow it, it's wake up! And I will but doze off again and he is like omg wake up! Any idea why???

It's been suggested by a few people now that my husband is emotionally abusive. I wanted to know if anyone has been in a similar situation and could give me advice on what I'm need to do to fix it. I'm 21 and have been in this relationship for 4 years total. A few of the main reasons people think this are that sometimes he just comes of as being kind of rude or mean. Just the tone of how he speaks to me. He also used to get really jealous of my friends, so I see them less now and don't go out unless he is there. He sometimes makes me feel bad about myself, but I have low self esteem anyway, so I'm not sure if that is actually his fault. Without going into details, he did something a while ago and I found out, and it really broke my trust and damaged my self esteem, so alot of it is probably just me trying to get over that. Our sex life used to be great, but he hasn't been as interested lately. He seldom initiates sex. I try to please him when I do get to have sex with him, but I never get to have an orgasm, unless I do it myself. If I seem like I am not satisfied he snaps at me a little. It hurts my feelings. Those are some of my biggest issues. Now, it's not all bad. He does do alot to show me he cares. Sometimes I feel as though he does too much for me. I lived in a home as a teenager where I was sexually and physically abused by my foster parents. My relationship with him doesn't feel nearly that bad. Maybe it is just me.

My husband has a high sex drive. I on the other hand do not. So instead of talking to me about it, or possibly trying to get me in the mood he looks at images of other women (they are naked pictures). From imgur.com, to me this is cheating.... but to him it's not. I asked him to look at it from my point of view and he said he would be hurt if the roles were reversed but he doesn't consider it cheating. So I'm asking, if it's something I should get over? Or would anyone else consider this cheating from their significant other?

I've been really confused about this lately. Why is it that we don't want our partners to look at others in a desirable/sexual way, and yet it's normal for anyone to enjoy looking at attractive people. I do it myself, lol.

example she loosened her *** for anal with him but with me it s like she barely tries..

I never understood the notion that porn destroys marriage and relationships. I see it as another form of sex education and it would enhance a couple's sex life. And it's unfortunate a lot of wives won't do what those on TV would do. But at the same time, they get upset if their husbands turn to porn. If the wife isn't showing love or affection, what else can a man turn to. At least he isn't cheating. Porn doesn't hurt.