Family: Question: I don't like my stepdad what to do with him?

Question: I don't like my stepdad what to do with him?

Posted: 19 Mar 2016 01:21 PM PDT

I'm 18 now I have been living with my stepdad in the same house for the past 10 years. We have never gotten along as friends or family. I never felt good around him, he always makes me feel uncomfortable, he acts like a jerk on purpose cause he knows I'll get mad about it. I'm organized and like to keep things clean and all he does is throw things around , doesn't put things where they are supposed to go. Me and him never had a conversation or talked to each other. My family goes to church and in church the preacher always tells us that we should be great kids upon our parents. My mom and I get along pretty well and my dad and I speak on phone and I do have a good relationship with him. My stepdad never set a good example upon me or my brother. He has a son with my mom and he's seven and he does try a little bit harder with him. I'd always prefer my dad. I'm scared that I don't want to have kids and I'm a girl. What do I do?

Question: Yesterday, was my last day of school before break, and no one was going in so a few dayI asked my mom if I could stay home, she said we ll?

Posted: 19 Mar 2016 01:19 PM PDT

See, so the day before she said I should go so I could go to lacrosse practice and then she said we ll see again. My dad called and asked I told him she said we ll see. The next morning when my dad woke me up I just said I don t wanna go, I didn t think he would actally let me stay home but he did. Around nine my mom came in and she said why aren t you in school. Then she ignored me for the rest of the day and night, she wouldn t even make me dinner. The day after she continued to ignore me until she called me sneaky and that I had a bad character and that I m a bad daughter and I make her unhappy. I can t stop crying because I always I always work hard in school and never ask to stay home. She doesn t trust me anymore please help

Question: My gran says she has a sewing fetish, help please?

Posted: 19 Mar 2016 01:19 PM PDT

Is it just old people slang? If not, then how do we cure her of it?

Question: Isnt this a poor excuse for domestic violence from my dad?

Posted: 19 Mar 2016 01:07 PM PDT

Him and my mom were arguing about my grandma. And my mom threw around some insults (shes got some funny insults) and he threw some lame ones back. And my mom ran at him like she was gonna hit him, but she didn't even get a chance to land one hit cuz he pushed her on the floor. and my mom cried. Then I said to him he told me not to hit girls. And he said this situation is different cuz he loves my mom and has been married to her for 16 years. Wtf has that got to do with it? Don't u think he's just a bully? He even toad her to shut up before he makes her when she said she hopes his mom dies. I think they should divorce. And my mom cried for like 30 minutes until he said you're like franky (me) which I found very insulting

Question: Am I a mean big sister for trying to teach her a life lesson?

Posted: 19 Mar 2016 01:06 PM PDT

My younger sister wants me to tell her what to wear every day and it's getting annoying. I want her to learn how to dress herself. So, now that it's getting warmer out, I still suggest she wears her warm winter layers. I plan to keep this up until she decides to dress herself. Is this mean? Or a good life lesson?

Question: Why do my mum and sister criticise every move I make?

Posted: 19 Mar 2016 01:06 PM PDT

I literally can't do anything without them telling me it's wrong.

Question: Please help me decide who to live with? and how to tell my mom I'm going to drop out?

Posted: 19 Mar 2016 01:03 PM PDT

Hi im a 17 year old guy in 11th grade. My parents divorced when I was in 2nd grade. I have a stepdad and I live with my mom and stepdad and siblings. we moved cross country between 9th and 10th grade. me and my siblings will gou to his house for summer. I want to stay with him for a year before im all grown up and an adult. How should I tell this to my mom and stepdad? My dad would love if I moved in with him. My life here is not bad. I mean my grades are horrible but that's my own fault. I am going to drop out when I'm 18 in September

Question: What do adults do other than work and watch t.v?

Posted: 19 Mar 2016 12:33 PM PDT

Im 16, and it seems like everything is for kids or teenagers. All music exept for 80's and pre 80's is considered 'teen' music, most comedy t.v shows are considered to be just for teens or kids, most movies are aimed at teens, most video games are aimed at teens, pretty much everything is criticized as being for teens. All i see adults do is work, and come home to watch the news and reality t.v or a drama show. Is that all there is to being an adult? Once you turn 18 or 21 it seems like if you still have fun your labled as immature by adults and trying too hard to fit in by the teenagers younger than you. So what is the point of being an adult if you just work most your life and spend the rest of your time watching boring shows.

Question: Dealing with a jealous friend?

Posted: 19 Mar 2016 12:12 PM PDT

My friend who will remain unnamed called my a spoiled brat. She thinks I'm spoiled because my parents gave me a credit card to use instead of cash, because they think it's safer. I have an iPhone 6s Plus, but it's mainly for the camera because I'm into photography. I go to a private catholic high school for educational purposes. I have an iPad mini 4, for school work, and an xbox one for leisure. When we go shopping, and I find something that I like, she makes excuses for me not to buy it, but I haven't been listening to her lately. When she wants to sleep over at my house, which is all the time, I usually just tell her I have stuff to do, even if it's not that case, because she roams around and snoops through my stuff, like its her own. She calls me spoiled, because my parents can afford certain luxuries, that I am more than grateful for. My house is about 9-10,000 sq feet with 8 bedrooms and 5 bathrooms, and my dad installed a pool in the backyard because where we live, it's hot all the time. My parents have 3 cars, two basic bmws for driving, and one Bentley because they're into that kind of stuff. I'm trying to save up so I can help pay for my car, because I'm getting my lisence in a little over a year. The last time she came over, she used my bathroom, and wouldn't shut up about the jacuzzi tub, but it was a Christmas present. And now, I'm starting to not want to accept my parent's presents, because I don't feel like I belong anymore. Should I ignore her?

Question: What to do about my controlling parents?

Posted: 19 Mar 2016 12:10 PM PDT

I am a 16 year old girl about to be 17 and my parents have always been strict. I hear people say parents are always the strictest with the oldest child but this is going to far. My mom has an app on her phone to track my location so she always knows where I am. This hurts my feelings especially because I am a good kid. I get straight a s and occasional b s in school and I am involved in after school activities. I have never done anything to make my parents not trust me. This has become an even bigger problem recently because I have a boyfriend now and my mom is always making up excuses on why I can t hang out with him. She asked me for his moms phone number which is embarrassing I don t want my mom calling his to check up on me all the time if she wanted to know what I was up to she could just ask me. I ve tried to talk to her about it but she just gets mad when I ask her.What should I do?

Question: My Aunt Always Makes Comments About My Weight, is This Okay?

Posted: 19 Mar 2016 12:05 PM PDT

So usually every thanks giving my aunt likes to measure my waist and my leg length so she can make a pair of pajama pants like she does every year. I know it was a long time ago but I still think about it. It was this previous thanksgiving. My whole extended family gathered at my grandmothers house for dinner. After we all ate I went up and hung out with my cousin. I heard my name called from the other room and I walked in and she was standing there with the measuring tape. She asked my too lift my shirt up. I lifted up it up till about my bra. She wrapped the tape around my wais right at my belly button. "40?" Wow Nicole! That's surprising" I just kind giggled awkwardly. She then measured my from the my hip to above my ankle and said that it was the same as my waist! She sat up. She's about 36, she's a little taller than me and lifted up her shirt too and she's a bit overweight and she said "you better skip dessert tonight or you'll look like this haha". I went into the bathroom and stared at my belly for about 20 minutes staying to make it look thinner, but I couldn't do anything cause we had just had dinner so I was super stuffed. I got called to have dessert and ate my feelings away lol. And wouldn't you know it that Christmas they were to small in my waist. She like couldn't believe I had a 40 inch waist and made it smaller. If it helps I'm about 5'7 and 160 pounds. Is it weird she said this? Should I not be so offended?

Question: My mom thinks I m her servant?

Posted: 19 Mar 2016 11:45 AM PDT

It doesn t sound right to me. I don t know, she said I was her servant one day and yelled at me for not understanding why she called me that.

Question: How come my family doesn't reach out to me?

Posted: 19 Mar 2016 11:42 AM PDT

i feel like I can't live anymore. I'm not allowed to see or speak to my blood family because I'm a bother. I'm always getting in people's way. I can't leave my house because I don't have a life. I'm isolated it's been this way since January. I can't link up with my friends cause I'm going to look like I'm lonely. I haven't left my house in since Christmas. I'm a good person but I just had to go on hiatus. I'm ussually family oriented but now that they have bigger priorities I have to leave. But lately I've had dark thoughts. I've been thinking of cutting off all contact with my family members because they have other priorities, there's no bad blood or anything but I've over stayed my welcome. My nephews birthday is tomorow but I don't think It be right of me to go, I'm also not going to my cousins wedding or my nieces wedding. Again there's no beef but that would be overstepping boundaries. I'm almost 18 & still don't have kids of my own, I'm a giant let down. I only leave my house for school. I reach out to everybody wishing them a nice day but they either tell me to **** off or just don't reply. I'm not going to off myself but I'm never showing up to anything ever again. I'm done with being sweet, I'm about to disappear like Judas.

Question: Any tips before i start babysitting?

Posted: 19 Mar 2016 11:40 AM PDT

i am gonna start babysitting for a couple 4 Times a week and they gave me a checklist I need to check off. I'm pretty confident but are there any tips u can give me

Question: How do I change my assumption that my parents divorce was partly my fault and reflects poorly on me?

Posted: 19 Mar 2016 11:34 AM PDT

For years I have thought this way. I worry my cousins must look down on me as the only person in the extended family (along with my siblings) who has divorced parents. Why might this be? I don't like myself because of it when it was my parents that had the falling out and got divorced.

Question: Broken relationship with father?

Posted: 19 Mar 2016 11:25 AM PDT

I m currently on a vacation in DisneyLand (California); I ve never been here before and I ll only be here for a few more days (spring break). So I m pretty excited to be here. Yesterday, I (while in DisneyLand) received a text from my 18-year-old friend saying she got drunk with my 37-year-old father the night before; keep in mind that we live in the USA. I was shocked and asked her if that was all they did, and she said her boyfriend was there and that my father told her boyfriend that he should treat her right. I asked my father, through text, about the situation, and he said he didn t do anything with her and didn t even notice if she was drinking. He seemed really defensive and even said "end of story" in his last text message to me. I haven t heard from either of my parents since, and I don t know if my mother knows about any of this. I m really confused. Why do you think he s being defensive? Do you think something happened? Do you think my relationship with my father/parents is broken? I m scared because I ve had a good relationship with both of them my entire life, and I m only 16. Thank you for all opinions.

Question: I hate my mom?

Posted: 19 Mar 2016 11:24 AM PDT

I literally am depressed for life.. She ruined my childhood all she did was ***** and ***** and ***** I promise to you guys.. I never got to go on any vacations or do anything fun.. And even worse. I'm half Arab . My mom is European and i only claim the European side. But my mom is a wanna be Arabic *****!!!!!!!! I always have to be involved with the Arabic side I'm sorry I'm not trying to be racist but I just extremely dislike Arabs. Now I'm 15 and my childhood is over she ruined it. :((((((( I never had fun, always teased about being Arab always called a terrorist and my mother bitching. Today I called her a ***** maybe 20 times cause I think she deserves it. I hate life I honestly wanna kill my self I'm just a piece of ****.

Question: My mother and her sister are fighting over their late mother's house, could there be more then just the house behind their feuding?

Posted: 19 Mar 2016 11:24 AM PDT

My mother wants to sell the house her sister wants to stay there (she has lived there since before their mother died). Now they aren't talking because of it. Meanwhile my uncle is the mature one who just said it is between the sisters and now both are mad at him for not taking their side. My mother gets mad whenever I see my aunt and cousin who live there and my sister is barred from having them to her wedding in October. So my question is if there is more to this and what can I do to help them resolve this? I am a 25 year old male.

Question: How do I get my mother to stop insulting my father to me (her ex-husband)?

Posted: 19 Mar 2016 11:20 AM PDT

Question: What is the difference in my family and my relatives?

Posted: 19 Mar 2016 11:20 AM PDT

Question: All my mother does is gossip about relatives. Is this normal or is family supposed to be more respectful?

Posted: 19 Mar 2016 11:19 AM PDT

Question: God purposely made me ugly?

Posted: 19 Mar 2016 11:17 AM PDT

grew up fighting off crowds of people in school everyday till point I quit school in 9th grade, left family in 9th grade as well got tired of being treated like the ugly step child (there are 6models in my immediate family alone if that tells anything and 1 of them is my older brother) bullied by my family haven't been to a family get together since 2011. finally muscled enough confidence to start getting my GED now at 26 years old ..I feel so behind and had so much I wanted to be doing by now . truly hate life but if I want anything good I need the confidence to do so and wondering how to go about building it

Question: My mom doesn't care about me but won't let me live with my dad??

Posted: 19 Mar 2016 11:00 AM PDT

Ever since she got remarried in late 2013 it's like I don't exist to her anymore. She makes it extremely obvious she prefers my step dad over me. I don't get it though because she was never like this when she was married to my dad, we were pretty close and I don't know what I did wrong. I hate my step dad more than anything, he's really rude to me and is always threatening to beat me when my mom isn't around (he has never actually hit me but he always threatens me) but I don't care if he hates me, he's not my father, the only thing I care about is why my mom seems to hate me. It hurts really bad because I'm her daughter and I honestly don't know what I did wrong. My step dad absolutely hates it when I try to talk to my mom and will do everything he can to exclude me from like pretty much anything. My mom knows but she doesn't care. I've talked to her before about it and she just ignores me. What's even more annoying is that she doesn't care about me but she still won't let me live with my dad. Even though she treats me this way I still love her idk why but I really want to get away from her and him

Question: Do I matter? How do I cope with my stress?

Posted: 19 Mar 2016 10:53 AM PDT

Last month, my alcoholic dad called me a pussy ************, hit my mom and said he wished I was never born. We called the cops and he was arrested. He stayed in jail for one day and got out. It was all over the news, public radio, and a Facebook page, and I feel as if everyone knows. My mom and I are so stressed, and dad keeps getting loans with credit we don t have. We are so poor and paycheck to paycheck. She says she wouldn t want to live without me, but I really want to die. She throws up everyday with stress and is always crying. I m so sad with life and on top of everything I have a kid stalking me and when I tell someone or tell him to go away, everyone calls me a bully and he acts all innocent. I have loads of school projects, homework, and subjects I hardly understand, a girl I like who completely ignores me for another person. What do I do? Can anyone help me? All I have to talk to me is my mom and I m too insecure to talk to my friends because I m afraid they ll make fun of me. Help please.

Question: Summer Camp Troubles?

Posted: 19 Mar 2016 10:50 AM PDT

My parents want to sign me up for summer camp because they think I have no socialization skills (which I do). I usually skip lunch and eat at home and they thought I had no body to sit with. But truth is I don't like sitting in such a messy and loud environment. They didn't believe me though and now I have to go to camp this summer. But my sister from college came over last week and wants me to come with her to New York to visit our family. This is very important to me because the last time we saw them was almost a decade ago. We have new cousins that were just born 2 years ago and our great aunt just passed away. Heck, I don't even know what my new aunt's name is. Long story short we have a lot of catching up to do and it would be a great way to learn more about our family history. But my parents still want to send me to camp! How do I convince them otherwise? I really want to see my family, it's been years since I last saw them (I would go more into detail but we have a complications in our family relationships...). Thank you for your advice and help!

Question: Poll: have your parents ever bailed you out of life?

Posted: 19 Mar 2016 10:39 AM PDT

After getting fired,legal trouble, etc

Question: Is my dad an alcoholic?

Posted: 19 Mar 2016 10:34 AM PDT

During the week after work he drinks about 4-6 cans of beer every day. On the weekend he drinks all day. At least 10 cans a day. I don t know if he is an alcoholic or not. He doesn t get drunk but it still concerns me. Maybe I dont think he s drunk because he s like this all the time? He get mad very easily and is in a bad mood all the time. Is he an alcoholic? I m 15 by the way

Question: What's It Like To Have Your Own Room?

Posted: 19 Mar 2016 10:08 AM PDT

My family is probably in the lower middle class but we're not poor. We have phones internet and cable. We can't afford the newest stuff but we have pretty good stuff. Things like Beats ot the Xbox One at the price it is now we would never buy. Anyway, all of my 4 siblings have had their own rooms at one point or another but I've never had one. When I was a kid I'd sleep with my dad and when I outgrew that I slept on the couch. Then my brothers room. Now on a bed in the living room that we put away when people come over. I've never had my very own room. And to add to that sometimes I've gotten mad but I think I'm just being a baby about it like is it okay to be mad about it? We have cable and etc. To keep us entertained but I've always been the one in the family with the least I think. What's it like having your own room?

Question: Am i being naive help?

Posted: 19 Mar 2016 10:02 AM PDT

I was a senior & dating a girl in hs. We lasted a year with no sex since she said she wanted to wait (claimed to be a virgin). I had no choice but to wait. She left to college and i stayed home. We broke up but remained friends. We'd still talk but only through social media. I'd then see her upload pics of her drinking, partying, dirty dancing with dudes, sitting on dudes laps posing for the camera. A year later she moves back home because she missed everyone. She called me one day (she's moved back home at this point) and invited me to lunch. I said ok and we hung out. We started to talk/kiss and hold hands. I however wanted to know if she dated/slept around since it's been a year. I asked if she dated? and she said "nothing serious". I asked how far she got? and she moved her eyes side to side and to the back of her skull (what people do when something gets annoying). I re-asked her and she speed walked and started to sing a song to avoid my question. I then admitted i slept with one girl and that was it. She looked pissed and said "so that's it? just one girl?". We got into it and she said to never bother her again or she'll call the cops. She blocked me on all social medias. I never heard from her again it's been months now. Needless to say do you think she slept around or no?

Question: Stuck making this grim decision, help please, anyone.?

Posted: 19 Mar 2016 10:01 AM PDT

My whole family (I don t have a big family with lots of aunts and grandparents etc) (my mum, Nan, brother and sister) are moving away due to circumstances I can t explain. They are moving far away were talking South Coast of England to the top of England. They are due to make this move in a matter of weeks. I m 22, I m about to go into my 3rd year at uni and I ve no idea what to do. I ve recently got into a new relationship, I ve been single for years with someone that s totally perfect. I wouldn t want to leave that. But I ve also got university to consider too. Meaning it s impossible for me to move that far anyway. I have anxiety - and I don t cope well without my mum around and I m so close with my siblings (9, 1), and I just don t know what to do! It s breaking me from head to toe. Any help would be really appreciated. Also if I stay, I need to find my own housing, as well as run my car making me feel that dropping uni is my only option because I ll need to fund for my car, and living! :( please help

Question: Please help me decide who to live with?

Posted: 19 Mar 2016 09:59 AM PDT

Hi im a 17 year old guy in 11th grade. My parents divorced when I was in 2nd grade. I have a stepdad and I live with my mom and stepdad and siblings. we moved cross country between 9th and 10th grade. me and my siblings will gou to his house for summer. I want to stay with him for a year before im all grown up and an adult. How should I tell this to my mom and stepdad? My dad would love if I moved in with him. My life here is not bad. I mean my grades are horrible but that's my own fault. I am going to drop out when I'm 18 in September.

Question: Photographing a minor in lingerie with parent consent? Please help and advice?

Posted: 19 Mar 2016 09:15 AM PDT

Hello I am a female photographer and I posted an ad on craiglist for photoshoots and head shots. I was contacted by a father to do a sexy shoot of his daughter in club dresses and linger. At first I was thinking NO WAY. I thought her dad was a pervert or somthing. I spent about a half hour on the phone with him and feel much better about the shoot. Her mother passed away 8 months ago and she has been depressed and having a difficult time coping. Her role model is miley cyrus (i know explains a lot!). She wants to do a sexy shoot for something fun and to give herself confidence. They want full rights to the photos and to keep the sd card to make sure no photos ever surface the internet. If I agree I will be creating an agreement that states these photos may never be posted to social media or any other wesbite. Her father wants to support her and not restrict her so that she is in a safe environment while rebelling. I believe in this type of parenting a lot so that when kids grow up they already feel free and no need to party by themselves in an unsafe environment and end up in a drunk driving accident or raped. Please do not chastise me that this is so wrong and I am a pervert. I have no decided whether or not to go through with this shoot. I am leaning towards doing it because I think it is for a good cause despite the 'racy' photos. I have already state that no nipples or vagina may show or be implied to be showing. I also have sent links to photos of poses that are too racy and I will not allow. I want this to be a professional photoshoot where the girl feels special and gets some great shots. I will focus on head shots and keep the poses classy not trashy. I simply am looking for agreement/contract help if I decide to go through with the shoot.

Question: I want my parents to divorce?

Posted: 19 Mar 2016 09:09 AM PDT

My parents absolutely hate eachother and I'm not exagerrating. They have told me on several occasions that if it weren't for us kids they would've divorced the month they got married but instead they've been living 16 years with eachother in hell because of us. My dad cheated on my mom for over a year with another woman and continues to hide messages and phone calls even when they mean nothing and gets mad at my mom when she starts getting doubtful. They haven't gone two weeks without fighting since my mom found out. The both have gotten divorced before pretty much for the same reasons and I want to tell them to get a divorxe if they hate eachother so much. They're ignoring eachother now because of a fight and I cam usually get them talking to eachother but now they're saying they don't even feel like making up or talking to eachother. My dad admits to cheating on my mom and says he's sorry but that my mom's paranoid about everything else. That she's crazy because she won't let another girl talk to my dsd. Whenever my mom asks my dad about a girl he flips out and they both start yelling and screaming over a simple question. I know they want a divorce and they're only staying because of us buy I want to tell them to get a divorce so they can be happy again.

Question: Belittling Questions?

Posted: 19 Mar 2016 09:07 AM PDT

I met my new partner about two years ago.. We have a 3 month old son.. I have two daughters, 13 & 8 from a previous 11 year marriage.. I had a house, job and was a self efficient single Mum when I met my new partner.. I lived in a different town from him and it interfered with his work.. We were offered to move in with his Father so we could find a home near his work which in turn is my hometown where my family live.. After about a month I m pulling my hair out.. They ask me seriously belittling questions such as, are you still bathing the baby? Or are you taking the baby out every day? Or why are your blinds shut etc etc.. I can t even describe the extent of these questions as its too much to type but I m being treated as a new 12 year old Mum.. Does anyone have any idea why I m being treated like this? Are they diliberately being nasty? I ve remained polite because I was brought up that way but I m getting really angry now.. I do ALL the housework, washing and all other household duties, I manage my money and three children without asking for so much as ten minutes break.. Why do they speak to me like I m incapable?

Question: How do I overcome the blame I put on myself for my parents divorce?

Posted: 19 Mar 2016 09:06 AM PDT

I was a really rough teenager. My parents divorced during those years and I know I was part of what drove my father to alcoholism (a big part of their divorce). I would rage to vent frustration and go with the worst crowd possible to fit in after being bullied in Elementary School when I as still a nice and easy going kid (I had a stutter and learning disabilities). So now I feel I drove my father to drink (my brother feels I did also) and drove much of the issues leading to my parents divorce. My father died 6 years later of liver cancer we didn't even know he had until we got the call he had died. I am 41 and still feel responsible. How do I overcome this? I know therapy and I am in that but also looking for other words of wisdom.

Question: I want my parents to get divorced?

Posted: 19 Mar 2016 09:03 AM PDT

Both my parents are already divorced and this is their second marriage. They absolutely hate eachother and I m not exagerrating. My dad had an affair with another woman for a year and he claims he s sorry for that which he is. But he keeps hiding things deleting messages off his phone even they mean nothing. He s the only one that brings money into the house and makes us rich because he owns a lot of buissness. My mom can t take how much my dad hides things and always doubting my dad because of the affair she believes he s never going to get better. My dad admits to the affair but besides that he thinks my mom is paranoid and says the past 16 years of his marriage were hell. They both say if it weren t for us kids they would be divorces and happy. I don t want them living in hell with eachother just because of us. I want them to get divorced because I ve had enough. Enough fighting and arguing and ignoring eachother. They re ignoring eachother now because my dad sent a girl (his buissness partner) to get a coffee machine. They don t want to live with eachother and I usually can get them talking to eachother agaib by telling them to stop ignoring eachother and usually one of them steps up. But neither of them want to talk to eachother. I just want them to separate cause I know no matter what it s never going to get better. It s been 2 years am I selfish for wanting them to get divorced?

Question: My mother says people like myself are why my uncle hasn't changed his ways, read below?

Posted: 19 Mar 2016 09:02 AM PDT

My mother later said she didn't mean it as harshly as it sounded but I see my uncle from time to time and am nice. He left his wife for someone 17 years younger he is now living with and doesn't see his kids very often. I see him through other relatives and a grandparent and am nice to him when I see him. My mother says if me and others like me are nice to him it is why he is not going to see how wrong he is. Is she right? Am I at fault if he never repents? My mother won't speak to him

Question: How do I know when familt is just busy and when they truly don't want to see me?

Posted: 19 Mar 2016 08:59 AM PDT

I have long believed that my extended family thinks less of me because my mother was hostile to them. My mother died two years ago and I have been trying to reach out more to them. The majority are often too busy to do anything. I don't want to impose on them so I don't ask too frequently. I am 23. So how do I know if they just dislike me because of who my mother is or if they genuinely are just busy? I have always felt bad they don't know me and my sisters as well as their other cousins. This is my mother's siblings and nieces and nephews I am referring to.

Question: My family and friends think I'm a spoiled brat. Do I deserve to be called a spoiled brat?

Posted: 19 Mar 2016 08:40 AM PDT

I turned 16 a couple of weeks and my aunt gave me an iPhone 6s and an iPad Air 2 as presents. Instantly, my sister called me a spoiled brat and my parents joined in with her. Since my birthday, my sister and parents have been calling me a spoiled brat whenever they see me using my iPhone or iPad. My parents aren't the only people who are calling me a spoiled brat, My friends (well I thought they were my friends) are calling me a spoiled brat as well. Sometimes I have heard them call me a spoiled brat behind my back, and they think I don't deserve the presents as well. Are my family and friends right to be called a spoiled brat? Do I deserve to be called a spoiled brat?

Question: What are ways we can still feel connected to our loved ones who have died?

Posted: 19 Mar 2016 08:17 AM PDT

Question: How to help a stubborn, prideful person?

Posted: 19 Mar 2016 08:11 AM PDT

I think my Mom could use my help...she's a wonderful person who is extremely independent. But now she is having really bad thinking problems, even for an 86 yo. I'm not allowed in her house (my dad) but we talk on phone daily. She still drives which is scarey and won't let me go to Dr's with her. IDK what to do, I want to help

Question: I really want to buy something expensive but I feel too bad asking from my dad to buy it for me?

Posted: 19 Mar 2016 08:11 AM PDT

Okay I'll try to sum it up the best I can: my parents are divorced, I visit my dad only once in two weeks. My birthday was last week so two weeks ago when I was at my dad's, he and his wife decided to take me out to the mall to celebrate my birthday a bit earlier. They took me to clothing stores and all and I didn't even want to buy clothes but they were sure this is what I wanted. So I got a bit stressed so I just agreed to it and made them waste $200 on clothes for me. Now I'm at my dad's again, and I feel really sad and frustrated because the gift I really wanted was a few games for my 3DS (which cost around the same), and instead of telling them, I let them waste lots of money on birthday gifts I didn't even want. I can't return the clothes because I already took the tickets off (yes, I know, I'm that stupid and impulsive-thinking). I'm so stressed and sad because I feel so bad whenever my dad buys me expensive stuff. Not because he's poor, he's actually very rich and has no problem spending money on me. The thing that bugs me is the fact I barely see him, barely talk to him, and I'm pretty sure it's obvious to him I feel more connected to my mom, yet I expect him to buy me things that aren't exactly cheap. It makes me feel as if I'm using him only to get expensive stuff, and it really breaks me. any advices?...

Question: ADOPTING PARENTS IN TEXAS?

Posted: 19 Mar 2016 08:09 AM PDT

My best friend lives in Georgia, and her parents abuse her. Physically, emotionally, and verbally. We both want her out of the house because she is not safe in there. I live in Texas, and I really want her to be close for emotional support because I am the only one who cares about her in her life and I'm 11 miles away. She is 15, and I am 17. And before you ask, yes she has called CPS, no she will not call again, I have begged her to try to call them again but she refuses because the last times she did her parents beat her. I want to know if there is some way I can get her the good adopting parents that she needs without her parents finding out because she isn't safe if they do. Please help us. Thank you

Question: How do I convince my family to give me more freedom?

Posted: 19 Mar 2016 07:55 AM PDT

Hello, I am an 18 year old woman living with my dad and maternal grandfather. The two of them are so close-minded and traditional and won't let me get out of the house for whatever reason because I'm a girl. I never go out with friends or leave the house without their company, and receive no allowance whatsoever, I'm sick of it. I want to work to earn money they refuse to give me, but whatever opportunity I find, they won't let me take it because it doesn't match their criteria. I found a really good job that pays a lot, and would offer me food and place to stay, but they won't let me take it because it's in another province in the country. And also because it involves cleaning hotel rooms which I'm perfectly fine with. They think the job is too degrading but I don't think so since this is their opinion about nearly all jobs. Since when was working and earning clean money degrading? I tried talking to them and begging them too many times and it never works, they are too stubborn and their opinion never changes. I believe I'm entitled to work however I'd like since I'm 18, but they don't think so. They think I must stay as close as I can to them, and it's has ruined my life. I stay at home all day doing nothing, and I want to change this. None of my relatives want to help me. What do I do? PS I don't live in Canada, UK, or US.

Question: If your mom marry a man and that man has a brother and marry the mom's sister and they both have a two girl. Are the girls are half sister?

Posted: 19 Mar 2016 06:53 AM PDT

Question: How can I help my young adult daughter to speak up to me?

Posted: 19 Mar 2016 06:38 AM PDT

I am a single mom around (60)and mu daughter (21).Somethings hurting her from the inside .As she said does not have anything with the family problems.She is living with me and I am responsible for everything. She has a part time job that gives her a good and enough money for her pocket.I would like to be helpful and make her happy.

Question: My mom is always at my room?

Posted: 19 Mar 2016 06:31 AM PDT

My mom spends the time at my room because the only computer we have is at my room and she always uses the computer. Because of that I need to go to the living room for hours.. It was like that for mor than 5 years and I was kinda used to it, but now, I'm 18, and it's getting in my ******* nerves. Wtf I feel like I don't have my ******* private room as other normal people. HAVE YOU EVER HEARD OF A MOTHER WHO SPENDS HER WHOLE TIME IN HER DAYGHTER'S ROOM AND THE DAUGHTER NEEDS TO GO TO THE LIVING ROOM???Have you ever heard of that?? IS SHE ******* SERIOUS? I'm sorry, but I'm really angry right now. Really really angry. I don't have privacy, I don't have my own room, I can't study there because every 5 minutes she quits the room to the kitchen and comes back to the room so I always hear the ******* steps. And also, she watches movies and series and I hear it in the living room and it's annoying. A month ago I was like "Mom, can we change the computer's location and move it to the living room?" AND SHE IMMEDIATELY SAID NO. And I asked "but what's wrong with changing the location of the computer like why does it matter lol -___-" And she didn't even explain she just said "NO WAY". ARE YOU SERIOUS??????????????????? Wow. What a selfish mother, seriously. She just wants the room to herself (She has her own ******* room like wth) and it's comfortable for her... BUT WHAT ABOUT ME???? WHY WON'T YOU THINK OF ME????????? What now? What do I do?

Question: What do i do when my parents force me to speak with relatives in phone?

Posted: 19 Mar 2016 06:25 AM PDT

Damn it Its so awkward. When they have nothing to speak then they force me to speak. I have to talk with people that i havent met in 10 ******* years and i am 17. And my parents stay beside me and keep embarasing me. **** **** ****. When i talk with my relatives nothing comes in my mind to speak.the silence is so awkward.........

Question: My parents never hear me out?

Posted: 19 Mar 2016 05:51 AM PDT

It's like my parents don't view me as a person, only as a someone who takes care of their house while they're at work. I'm not allowed to invite friends over, I can't go out with my friends either. I can't get a haircut or dye my hair, I can't wear band shirts or clothes I like in general.. I spend most of my time in art school but when I get home I need to clean the house and make them dinner or lunch (it depends). It's really annoying, I'm currently 15 (16 this year) and I can't stand it. I don't feel like I'm at home when I'm in my parents house, it's more of a place to spend a night

Question: Do single mothers stop caring about their kids as much as they used to when they were married?

Posted: 19 Mar 2016 05:45 AM PDT

My father left our family when I was about 14 years old all she does now is get home from work and immediately turn on the laptop and sit in her bed watching TV shows until she falls asleep. She doesn't cook or clean the house at all and hardly gets out of her bed to do anything like get water or shut the door and calls me to do it for her. She doesn't start conversations with me at all other than asking me to do her a favor like closing her window or picking up dinner from somewhere. Is it normal for her to just stop doing anything for the family other than work? I know it's tough to support a family of 3 on her own, but I feel like she just stopped being a mother and accepts that making money for us is her only responsibility. I want and need my mom. I have no one to turn to be my parent or guide and I just worry my mom doesn't care about me as her son anymore. What can I do to mend things with her? Am I doing something wrong?

Question: I have no where left to turn. I need support, kind advice, please. I am desperate.?

Posted: 19 Mar 2016 05:20 AM PDT

My partner and I had a child 7 mo ago. My soon to be FIL temporarily moved in with us from overseas to watch her FT. He is living on our sofa but cooks and washes dishes (which is nice). My partner and I have lost our communication completely. He works 7 days a week and is not in the mood when he comes home- for anything. I work pt (24hrs) and am in school ft. We live 1hr from my work and school, friends and family. I need him emotionally. I have concerns on how his father cares for our child- my 'problems' are dismissed. My partner will be disowned if he corrects his father with anything. We share a huge language barrier. Yesterday, my partner and I had a BIG argument, I gave his dad my hand and said "do not let her wave to him (my partner) as he does not deserve any type of greeting with the way he is acting." I disrespected his dad. His dad has opt to leave, go home earlier than expected and now my partner is beyond fed-up with me. Has threatened once his dad departs from the States, we are over. I sincerely appologized later in the day yesterday to his dad and said I was beyond rational, really upset and really angry at his son he just happened to be there, my fury wasn't intended at him. His dad says I'm forgiven and we talked. Regardless of begging him to stay, he wants to leave and see his other children at home. I feel like an ****. I'm not ready to be a single mother. Please, help..

Question: My parents do not want me seeing some relatives of my mother's (I am 14) but I like them, how can I get them to change their mind?

Posted: 19 Mar 2016 05:11 AM PDT

They had a real estate spat with my mother (my mother's siblings) and now I am not allowed to see them. Yet, I like them and was not the one to have the spat. So why am I being punished? How can I get them to let me see them? I can't drive so can't just go on my own as I am just a teen, age 14. They are punishing me for someone else's issues. I am especially mad at my mother as my Dad is only keeping me back to impress my mother, it is my mother's idea and her family.

Question: When a boyfriend or stepfather abuses their daughter, why do people act like the mother was blameless despite not protecting her own child?

Posted: 19 Mar 2016 05:04 AM PDT

Question: I'm tired of my mom?

Posted: 19 Mar 2016 04:28 AM PDT

Okay so I'm just really tired of my mother. I do what I can to help her but nothing I ever do is good enough for her. She never taught me anything when I was younger but still gets mad at me when I don't know how to do something. She rants everyday about how I don't know how to do anything. I'm not feeling well at all, I was diagnosed with something and I'm not really supposed to be doing much rn and haven't slept properly in days and she knows that but still forces me to do whatever she wants to. I know she's my mom, I'm underage and I have to do whatever she tells me to and I do that but it's like nothing I do is ever enough for her like ever and it's so frustrating and I feel like I'm liking her less and less everyday. idk if it's my fault and if I'm just being bratty or if she's asking for too much. I'm 15 btw

Question: What can i do to not feel so bad ?

Posted: 19 Mar 2016 02:27 AM PDT

Ok so im 22 and recently lost my job. I am staying with my inlaws due to lack of finances while i look for another one. I lost my job one week ago because of am emergency surgery that was going to keep me away from work for 3 weeks to recover. Anyway, i feel really crappy because of where im staying and that i no longer have in come. And my father in law keeps making jabs at me for it. "Maybe, (my name) should find a job! So she can be just as miserable as i am." "No offence to (my name) but youre not going anywhere flipping burgers!" "Why are you smiling? Find a job." "Youre about to end up in a homeless shelter because i cannot handle all this STRESS!" And i just end up crying because 1 im in recovery still and 2 i am looking for work and even if i have to start tomorrow before im healed i will. I dont smile anymore because i dont like being put down for it. I dont really eat because im always questioned as to why im eating. My husband works oart time and is trying to get more hours so he isnt home when it happens. When i ask my father inlaw to please stop making jabs he tells me im "too soft" and to "toughen up and get over it". I only have 1000 dollars and its in saving so my husband and i can move when we can afford it.not just move in but to actually keep up with the rent. But i just dont know how to stop feeling bad about myself or how to deal with whats going on. Id like some advice please.

Question: Do you guys think I have a mother-son type relationship with my teacher? Details are sorta long sorry :/ It's becuz I want an accurate answr?

Posted: 19 Mar 2016 01:32 AM PDT

She is 37 and has 1 kid which is 10.I'm 16. She always shows us pictures of him! Anyways, lately I've been going after school every time she has after hours and I just chill and use her iPad. By the way, I'm probably the only student she allows to use her iPad whenever I want for non-school related stuff. One time afterschool when we were both packing up to leave I told her about my mom who always comes home super late and I rarely get to see her. She said "Awee so you're all by yourself?" and asked if I was a only child and I said yea. She said just like her son and that she should adopt me jokingly. And I always go to her if I have issues and she knows about my family issues. Today afterschool I got sad that she couldn't go to our basketball game so I cried a little because she promised me for the longest time and this was our last. Even though she was busy because nobody watches her son she agreed to come for a while then she had to leave. She said that she doesn't like when I make her feel guilty. And that she tries to be there for me but she also has a son which I totally understand. I email her everyday as if we were texting and I usually title it "hi mom" and she is fine with it. I always get her gifts when I can. Once in a while I ask her to bring me a little treat that she has from home. And this one time where she brought it to me I asked her if I could put my lunchbox on her desk to hold it and she said "yes son" lol

Question: Is this counted as a sister fight/sister brawl between my older sister and I?

Posted: 19 Mar 2016 12:41 AM PDT

There was this one time years ago, I was probably either 10/11 years old and my older sister Jasmine and I were arguing about something with the computer in our computer room. We were at each other's throats and arguing. Then Jasmine went into the guest room and I followed her there. While she was sitting listening to get iPod, I kept talking sh*t to get face. Then when I got everything off my chest, I got up and walked away and then out if nowhere, Jasmine punched me on the back of my head. Then we started scrapping like crazy in the kitchen. There was a lot of hair-pulling and scratching, though. I forgot what happened after that, but I do remember she wanted to permanently make us enemies, but I wanted to make up. We eventually did and I started crying. We both got cut on our finger and went to the bathroom to treat the wounds. So was this counted as a sister fight/sister brawl between me and my older sister??

Question: Mom and Dad have four daughters, and each daughter has one brother. How many people are in the fami?

Posted: 19 Mar 2016 12:14 AM PDT

Question: Is this arrangement favorable for a widow?

Posted: 18 Mar 2016 11:34 PM PDT

Recently my dad passed away and my mom who was a housewife the entire time sold everything she owned and placed an ad out on the job website. The ad basically marketted herself as a house nanny that lives with you and your children and helps. Basically an old fashioned servant to a family kind of thing. Not surprisingly somebody answerred her ad and she is currently living with a couple who have just had thier 3rd child.they put her in thier guest room with its own bathroom.she has basically no bills and is being paid to do the housewife thing for this family.my mom is 35 years old. She is under a work contract for the next six months and then they will either renew the contract or she will go work elsewear. just wanderring if its a safe arrangement.i mean i have never heard this kind of working arrangement and non of my friends or coworkers have moms that are housewives.most of thier moms were non traditional and pursued careers and most of my friends are the products of single parent households. Is my mom safe working like this? She really enjoys family life and says spending her twilight years being a servant to a family would be ideal for her. Im away at college right now but i really dont know if i should say eff all and go home to take care of my mom I just want to specify my mom is only a servant not anything weird like an extra wife. My mom seems to have no interrest in ever remarrying and it seems she really enjoys this kind of life.im in school to become a doctor and mom has always been supportive of this goal. But she herself has never been overly ambitious.after its been hard on her since dad died and i hav been away.is this something homemaker moms did alot when it was typical for women to be housewives?should i have her move in with me after i graduate?our family is more traditional and old fashioned

Question: Am I wrong for feeling the way I feel?

Posted: 18 Mar 2016 11:33 PM PDT

Well my fiancée and I have been together for 5 years and we are getting this year in October. We've had our ups and down like any other couple, and have went through counseling and everything to get our relationship back on track. Everyone like his best friends and mine also have been rooting for our relationship and are so glad we've gotten it together and are doing the right thing.... Like basically my family and everyone else around us are excited for our big dat... Except his parents and his family. Like they literally don't mention it or talk about it, its like to them its not even happening. I just feel like really hurt by it... And I know I probably shouldn't care because I'm marrying him and not them and that what he's says also... But its hurtful that they act like they can careless they we are getting married in less than 7 months... They show no interest at all.