Me and my significant other have been dating for years. We dated in the past separated for a year and then reunited and later had 2 children. I want to move forward. I want a guarantee that I am someone he truly would be interested in being with for a future and not just surprised pregnancies. I am not asking him but for a proposal. I told him I love him and I would say yes even if he didn't have a ring, even if we just had a court ceremony and had the big wedding later. I don't care about the materials They aren't what is most important. Yet, after all these years he says he isn't ready. I have brought it up a few times over the years and it's about time number 3 that he has turned me down. And I just get more and more depressed every time. I am starting to think of moving on for sure after we hit our next annual anniversary. I just don't understand how a man can have two kids with a woman, live with her for years, be financially together, love her, yet not be ready.We are what a marriage couple is except without the paper work. I just want to be recognized as the one. It makes it worse that everyone around me is either married or engaged when we have been together much longer than most of those other couples.. We have experienced the worst and best with each other, moving away from each other, family deaths, not being financially able to just do whatever, and through the best, taking vacations, lots of meeting families, family time, financial stability...Yet I'm not enough

Hi everyone I was just wondering if there is any women who s married to a Arab Muslim men like me . If yes how is the marriage so far ? How u deal with religion and culture differences

I'm in 20s and I never went to college and now I figure out a career in passionate about bit there no online education for it . The college I want to go to his 3 hours away from home . I love hubby soo much I can't leave him behind yet he don't want to move for me . He rether stay with his parents and work on his career as a pharmacist.

I got married last August, and I was under the impression that my maiden name became a second middle name, and my husband's last name was my last name. I asked if this was possible, and the woman that was assisting us said yes. Tax time rolls around, and my taxes are rejected, because the SSA has me on file as having two last names (maiden and husband's) and I filed with just husband's last name. I absolutely did not want two last names. I would like to see if it can be changed to a middle name, or if it would just be better to drop my maiden name completely. I'm in Georgia, and I've been told that I would have to petition the court and run a piece in the newspaper for 4 weeks in order to change my name. I know I should seek professional assistance, but it's 11 pm on a Sunday and it is really stressing me out. Any advice?

The person is talking about being wronged in the past by others and how he chooses to cope. I'm not sure of the hidden meaning in this message, if any at all. Just a concerned friend. I am very vindictive, which is my worst trait.I will stay because I'm in love. But I have to put up with things in order for that to be. You have no idea the ends of which my twisted mind will go. In its demented way of being, it helps my "inner child" cope. Immaturity? The word "mental" comes to mind. And though on the outside it may seem as though the offenses have been forgiven, they have not. I will trust from the onset. But I will only do it once. Now you know why you deserve better.

I feel they are betraying me and my siblings. I am 14 and my folks married when I was 2 so it is a divorce after 12 years of marriage.

My dad broke up with my mom a month ago and now my mom's getting married to some rich guy named Ryan, this has never happened to me before and that's why I'm having trouble accepting it.But his daughters kinda hot so I'm gonna put that out there.But my mom is getting rid of everything that reminds her of my dad while she's engaged to Ryan so what if he's rich? Idk if it's gonna be bad or good for me. Advice maybe? Thoughts on the subject? That'd be great right now! !!

My husband and I been living together for a about a month, marrying after we found out I was pregnant, but been together for three years. For the past month he has been more attracted to his game than me. He would have sex with me and then go back onto his game not caring if I reach orgasm or not. He would play his game for 6 hours on the weekdays and pretty much the whole day on the weekends. I ve given him some space by doing my own things but him playing game just bothers me. For the month that I moved in he never slept at the same time as me and wouldn t even say good night. Before we married he always slept at the same time and would say goodnight. It s got to the point where when I comfort him about it he would say he ll get off in a bit or make me feel guilty.

Me and my ex girlfriend got married last year, we were in a long distance relationship and we've been together for 2 years and a half. She lives in Arizona and I live in California, after we got married I went back home here in California but we just couldn't get along within a month of being married and things just didn't end up good, after that we broke up, we contacted each other after several months to talk about getting a divorce. We're are still good friends despite what happened, we just wanna get this thing done as soon as possible. We don't have kids, we don't have any shared property, we don't have anything together at all. So my question is do I still have to fill up the worksheet for summary dissolution (Income and Expense Declaration (Form FL-150), ( Determining Value and Division of Community Property) (Determining Value of Separate Property) and (Determining Community Obligations and Their Division). I already filled up Form FL-800 (Joint Petition for Summary Dissolution) and Form FL-825 (Judgment of Dissolution and Notice of Entry of Judgment). Thanks!

My wife and I are coming uo on 20 years of being married. We are both 43 and had our first baby at 17. We were poor i the beginning and now we are wealthy. Me and my wife both had normal childhoods and we have no clue on how to spend our fortune from construction. What do you guys think a good idea for our anniversary would be. Girlfrieoand wives only what sound cool for an anniversary. I looked on royal carribean and i though about booking a cruise on the royal suite. I also thought of maybe chatering a jet to some tropical island. Also what about maybe like a new car because she is obsessed with this new Cadilac Escalade Platinum we saw at the dealership the other day when i got my new truck a gmc 2500 hd sierra denali any ideas are welcomed

Unburden and explain what is happening to you, be it good or bad thing. Relief? Tiredness? Happy? Depressed? In love? News? ....?

I want my family to be happy so I have bit my tongue. However it's tough at times. Not sure if anyone has had this happen to them.

You get married, become a devoted housewife and live your life by the word of God...

I am in love with an air hostess--she serves on domestic flights. She's so beautiful and lovely. Although she found me very attractive, she rejected me initially but over time has started loving me. Before boarding her last flight, she came back, hugged, and kissed me saying "I love you and would miss you a lot". That was the most romantic moment of my life. But unfortunately the time has now come for me to go to the US. It is not that I am choosing my career over her but I definitely have to go there. But the problem is that she loves her job and despite her mother once telling her to quit, she didn't. So, I guess she would no way quit her job and come live with me in the US. Or maybe she will. I don't know and haven't told her yet that I got a job in the US. if she chooses not to give up her job, will she think bad of me if I choose to go to America? On the contrary, will she leave her job and come with me? I am feeling very depressed that she might let go of me and my heart has started to pain already :(

So I have a son who is 5 years old, his Dad has not seen him in over two years, and my son has some bills I need help paying. My son goes out for two sports, and some of the events are two hours away. I asked my ex if he'd be willing to even give me $50 a month to help a little, and he refuses. He says I just want child support money so I can sit around and not work. With all of my sons expenses, I thought $50 wasn't unreasonable to ask for, as if I filed for child support I'd be getting atleast $400 from him. His wife says I just want the money so I have some involvement with him when this isn't the case either. What are your guys'a thoughts?

The country i live in has some refugees coming up from the mountains of Iraq, Iran, Syria and so on... Some of these refugees are young men with their even younger wires and children. Most of these women are 16 or 17 years old and quite are few are even older(18,19). However 1 of the girls are 14. Most of the men are 18 and over, and the 14 year old girls husband is 19. She is 7 months pregnant with their first child. Most of the slightly older girls already have children. The 14 year old has explained to a therapist that she is of good health and is happy in her marriage. They have come to a European country where the legal age of marriage is 18 and the legal age for having sex is 15. The government has decided to remove the men from their wives and children, and the husband of the 14 year old will be charged for rape. What is your take on this? Do you agree with the governments decision or what would you do?

Hear me out before you call both of us pigs - I have secretly been in love with a coworker for two years. I know with certainty that it was kept a secret as I'm very professional and not even my closest friend knew. I kept it a secret because he was in a relationship. In December, he got engaged. Naturally I was heartbroken but still never said anything. I actually lost contact with him a few months prior because he switched departments at work. Well, about a month ago we started getting coffee together, which turned into lunch, which turned into kissing in the car and very explicit txt messages. I know it was wrong but I couldn't help myself, after being in love with him secretly for two years. He still doesn't know, I keep a very "casual, all in fun" attitude with him. He must've felt guilty and stopped things with me. I respected his wishes. Two weeks later though, he came back. He asked me if I "found anyone else in the meantime." I told him that I wasn't looking. I also said "I'm sure any woman would say this but I never do what we did. It was just different with you." He responded with 'I think I backed off because I was beginning to like you and the idea of you a lot. Coincidentally, that is what is drawing me back to you." Now, I know it's wrong. If you've ever been in love with someone, I'm sure you can at least UNDERSTAND, even if you don't agree. So please humor me, do you think he would say that if he didn't mean it just to hook me again? Or does he mean it?

So my wife earns more than i do, so she said i have to stay home taking care of the baby. It seems logical, but it so freaking embarassing. I'm a man. That's not my job. What if my father or one of my family came by and see me with the baby while my wife's working. What should i tell them? I loaned her my balls? She's the man of the house now? I'm ready to work 2 jobs. No 3 jobs. I'll become a slave if i need to!! Anything but this.

How can your spouse expect you not to leave & gain their trust that they ll change, when you have caught them in the same messed up lie going on 4 years now?

I'm 32 and she is 30. I posted many times and I have actually tried a few things that everyone suggested. I haven't sought solo counselling but it's very much playing on my mind. She has absolutely no feelings for intimacy or sex. I tried to coax her today but after watching the video and complaining of no feelings, I have to wonder. We tried sex but it was uncomfortable for us both. She was snappy and told me in no uncertain terms that she feels like sh** because I forcef her. Which is rubbish. I never forced her and she could have stopped at any time. I am now confused! I reiterate that she consented to both oral and intercourse. Ok, enough of that. She has been nice to me out of the bedroom. Showing signs of caring about me and we have been to the GP to discuss family planning. But the lack of feelings sexually towards me (or maybe in general because she said she even feels bored by porn)...that has me confused. I don't think I'm that unattractive. Out of the bedroom she will comment on how handsome I am and our life together. But something has affected her mental state. I haven't seen her this bad towards me since a couple of years ago. We have been together for 8 years and I've never done anything like cheating etc. So I don't know where the bossy anger in her comes from. I've tried. I've said things, tried creating the mood etc. Nothing works. I am now wondering if there is something wrong with me or if she is sleeping around behind me. Right now I feel like she has no real love towards me. I don't know if she is cheating or she has something wrong mentally? Or why she can't make an effort toeards me. I am starting to get tired of it all. Sex to me is emotionally involved. I can't perform well unless my mind is into it too. She won't be honest as to what is stopping her. She has used a few different reasons. One is in my control: the fact that her nasty fights with me have caused me to talk to my mother. She found out and got so angry about it. The other issues are out of my control: money and our home not being built yet. Money is out of my control because I'm trying the best I can in my job. Do you think I'm being strung along? She wants to use porn because she states no feelings with me!! The first time she started using it, I felt dehumanised and completely humiliated. I haven't recovered entirely. I long for that emotional connection and every small thing we do together gets me revved up for her in a loving way. But she tears that down by saying bo mood for anything. She has never been keen on foreplay either. In the beginning it wasn't this bad. But she used to hit me if I didn't give her a release with oral. To the guy who said she is getting sex outside the marriage...I did neglect to mention yhat for her job she meets young guys from her culture for meals (usually dinners). I have no idea now if it is a problem with her ir with her getting interested outside the marriage. But she is otherwise very affectionate and wants a child with me!

I live in South Carolina. I have filed for divorce. My spouse has been served. She has been uncooperative. I have a feeling that she won t respond with an answer to the summons and complaint. When I request a final hearing for the actual divorce and serve her, I believe that she will show up and contest. She is evil like that. I have 3 kids She hasn t lived with us for 18 months. . She doesn t help with anything and does as she pleases. However, she won t agree to a divorce.

My husband's excuse for never doing anything is that we're "too poor." We're actually better off than a lot people. We live in a one bedroom apartment for $500 a month. We have one car that we share because we work in the same building (different departments though) and the jobs aren't that great but we're able to survive. He doesn't want to buy a house. He doesn't want to get rid of our 2002 dodge car for a nicer, newer car. He doesn't think we have enough money to have a baby yet (we're 28...time is ticking). We have 20K in the bank. We started saving only a little over a year ago. We've each saved 10K so far. We just put 400 (200 each) a week in our savings account. Keeping at this pace, we'll have 40K by the end of the year. And we have zero debt. I think it's safe to say that we're not exactly "poor." How do I convince him to stop being dramatic and live a little? I'm not looking for a mansion or trip to Europe every other month or 50 kids. Just a cozy little 2-3 bedroom house, a better car and one kid!

My husband is EXTREMELY broken after I admitted to a one night stand. The main issue it was with someone he hates. I'm debating on lying to him in a way that I KNOW will unbreak his heart but idk if it's a good idea for my karma. But I just want his pain to go away soooo bad.

Ok me and my wife have 2 boys and haven t been together since august of 2014 but no divorce or seperation had been filed.She got pregnant by another guy and now has a daughter but I now got another woman pregnant myself. What should we do ??

My husband would rather jerk off to porn than have sex with me, he deliberately withholds sex, in this situation is it OK if I cheat on him

Friend just got divorced. He spent several years in marriage after finding out wife cheated with BIL. Friend finally made decision to divorce. New wife is old flame with a nice house and striking resemblance to ex. They got married 4 months after divorce.

I am pregnant with my ex who is married. My ex contacted me 4 months ago and at the time he was separated and divorce was filed but not final. We ended up hanging out, had a great time together, and ended up sleeping together. We then stopped talking again after 2 months. I then found out I was pregnant and when I finally was able to contact him and tell him, he was back with his wife and divorce was on hold because they were gonna try working it out. About a week ago was the first time I seen him since I found out I was pregnant. He stopped over to my apartment, we talked, he stayed the night, and we had sex. He told me the next day his wife was out of town. Couple days later he told me that he was sorry for what happened and he is the bad one because he was married and can t do that. He said that I was his weakness and he has to do right for me and his present life of him being married. He then said it s hard for him and that he is here for me and our baby and that he is trying. What does he mean when he said "I am his weakness"? Advice, thoughts, and opinions greatly appreciated Thank You!

My husbands friends just immigrated here and in their culture it's totally fine to breast feed uncovered in public. I think it should be the same way here in the U.S. And I totally don't have a problem with her breastfeeding like that in my home. But I'm a little ticked off at my husband, because whenever she whips out the tit he's always trying to sneak a glance... The other night we were playing monopoly in a circle around the table and her baby wanted to nurse so she whips out her boob and tries to get the baby to suckle and I'm watching my husband hold his head down low and is watching the whole thing for like 20 seconds. Well he ended up winning the game and wants to take a pic with all his money while he's next to mom and baby nursing and I comment "should I really take a picture of her while she's nursing the baby?" And he's like yaa why not?! I just find it really childish he's doing this, and I know as soon as I bring it up to him, even in the nicest way I possibly could, he's going to go straight into defense mode. It's not like I'm jealous, I find it more disrespectful to her and disgusting behavior of my husband. I'm just wondering if I should let him know that I have seen him watching her...or if I should ask her to be more discreet with it, or if I should catch him in the act and call him out on it... Or just say nothing at all? Thanks for reading, keep your negative comments to yourself please.

I m a U.S. citizen. I have been with my boyfriend 4 years and its been long distance. We love each other very much and want children. We each take turns visiting each other every 6-8 months if there are funds. The economy is Japan is terrible and so he has been jobless for 2 years taking odd jobs here and there to pay his bills. He had to move home and his family is in debt and almost in poverty because his father s business went out of business, his mother had cancer at one point and his father has been dying slowly of liver and kidney failure for the past year. He wanted to get married two years ago but was laid off, and so he had been refusing to get married without a job to support me. The plan was for us to get married and that I would move there, but things have changed so since I have a job, it would be best for him to move to me after we get married. But I keep hearing horror stories of US citizens being used for money and green cards. My family personally knows a few U.S. citizens who married Chinese and Filipino women and as soon as the 5 year mark for their citizenship was met, they left their husbands to raise children all alone. Should I make him sign a prenup? I would hate to think that he would divorce me after the 5 year mark and leave me alone to raise our children. I am entering the marriage with love and I assume he is too. But my father keeps pushing me to make him sign a prenup if I m petitioning him here. He is fluent in English and Japanese. English is my native language and I am semi fluent in Japanese with confusions here and there. He has a bachelor's degree in Computer Engineering so he's not some uneducated bum looking to freeload or ride on my success. Things just happened to take a turn for the worse in the economy everywhere in Japan once the great earthquake and tsunami happened. We're both from a working class family and we don't have much in assets individually let alone together. Mr. Anonymous we met in person and fell in LOVE and I had to leave after studying abroad. The original plan was for him to petition me. You think we haven't looked through every route? Do you know how many times we've had meetings with the U.S. consulate and city hall with translators and lawyers to make it happen? It can't happen as easily as you think because petitioning in Japan is similar but the rules are 50x more strict because I'm not an Asian foreigner. If I wasn't white it'd be easier.

Ive only done it twice, the first time I woke up before my husband woke up and I got him "hard" and had sex with him, and he woke up in the middle of it half-asleep. The second time i had sex with him after he fell asleep from having a long day at work. Does this make me a bad person? Am I being a bad wife? Were in our 20s, newly weds, and I just want to be a good wife to him. He hasn't complained about it either after I admitted to doing it both times right after I did it to him. Thoughts? Advice? We both had talked about this before it even happened, and we are both okay with me doing that to him or vice versa. So yes, there was consent so it wasn't rape, and yes, Id be okay if he did that to me too. And it may seem creepy to you, but hey whatever youre into, I can probably call it "creepy" too.

It doesn't have to be a traditional restaurant (okay with warehouse or random, last minute secret venues). Any place that will accommodate special requests (i.e. willing to bring out cake or dessert with candles, lights, etc) would be ideal. Some other specifics; -Cost: $40-80 -Cuisine: Open to anything (her faves are Italian, Thai, and Sushi) -Venue: Preference for a spot with a view (downtown or water front) or large, open floor plan with dim lighting -Live music is a plus. -Capable bar/bar staff (able to make a decent drink, Margaritas are a fave)

Is there anything she can do legally to make him come home and deal with the house and all his stuff and support her until they can fix up and sell home, get a divorce and go their own way? she is limited in her working capabilities and he is on SS disability. He is an idiot and thinks he can do whatever he wants and she is ready for a breakdown worrying about everything. They reside in NY state. I believe there must be something that can be done to bring him home and make him face his responsibilities and he has shown abandonment. Help!