I know this is pretty normal for men, but I can t help but feel upset that my husband has been watching porn. The reason is because he only feels like having sex with me maybe 2 or 3 times a month. I wouldn t mind if we were sexually active more than what we are, but because he never feels like having sex with me and I always have to be the one to ask, I find myself feeling inadequate. Im not sure what I should do. We ve been together for years, but I haven t let myself get out of shape. I don t think I m so unattractive that it would cause disinterest (Ive modeled and used to compete in the action sports industry), and I ve also tried doing new things with him, but he s not interested. Is it wrong for me to feel upset? Is there something I could do differently or should I just let it go? He knows it upsets me because of the situation but lies about it anyways to "not hurt my feelings."

Would you rather marry a man who has a job that makes him a millionaire Or Has a job helping others that he is extremely passionate about? And why?

My husband has a lot of female friends and he has a lot of freedom in our marriage and I am not the jealous type. He met a woman 3 years ago who lives across the country and he has maintained a texting relationship with her. He had to go back 2 more times and by the last time I was suspicious. I expressed my concerns and he says she is a friend, they have literature in common as it is their field of expertise. He says he wants our marriage and he is not going anywhere. I have snooped his text as I know he has not been entirely honest and he deletes texts and entire conversations with her. He promised me he would not spend alone time with her but did. I confronted him and he first denied it yet admitted to a couple of occasions they had breakfast together (I know it was more than a couple and they spent more time with that but he won't admit it). He says she is just a friend and I have nothing to worry about and he hides because he doesn't think I understand and I am worrying over nothing. It feels like a EA because he has lied and deleted texts but it is possible a friendship that I do not understand.

Me and my boyfriend are both 16 and want to get married. In Wisconsin can we get married without parental consent if I'm pregnant?

Im in the worst love predicament. Im married and deeply in love with my soulmate for about 1 year and 7 months. He s the best man ever and hes my other half. He s faithful and extremely funny and he spoils me. we ran away 3 times together! Im 21 and hes 22. But here s the bad part. I developed an insane celebrity crush that my hubby didn t know about and i loved him secretly but guess what..the singer came to me! He liked me more than he should like a fan and he told me hes falling deep in love with me and how im so different than other women . I keep telling him im married and in love but he keeps coming back for me telling me how hes gonna fly me to his mansion and im gonna be his wife and have his kids. The temptation of the one man im weak about trying to take me from my husband is beyond stressful. And to make it worse hes a has the sexiest singing voice that most females are crazy about. He tells me he ll give me the world, and begs me to be his. Im already happy and my current husband is about to become famous . The crush is so strong that i could lose my marriage and im fighting this battle on my own. If i stay then the singer will only keep trying to get me since im in closer reach but if i go my reputation will be ruined where im from. I try to not listen to his music but its always a hit .I love my husband but temptation this strong makes it hard to be a good wife. My one weakness is being used against me. Either a fan dream or nightmare. What to do...?..

Wife needed a few things but never seem to have the time to grab them . ( I left something I adored at my Dads house . I asked hubby to get it for me and he agree to . It's only 5 minutes away from where hubby works . Then once hubby got to my Dads , he got scared and didn't want to grab that item I really needed in order to feel better about myself . My dad was sleeping but I told him hubby was coming over so he left the door unlocked for him . My dad loves hubby ! But hubby got scared and decide to go home and forget that item . It took a week for me to finally have time to grab it myself . Was my hubby being compassionate to me by offer yet let me down .. ? We are in our 20s.

I love my wife. Let me say that first, she and I have been married for a year and a half. So we live in Provo Utah but I have been dealing with some stuff and so I took up very heavy drinking. When I was drinking I would pass out drunk and wake up hung over the next day, shower brush my teeth use mouth wash and go to classes/work. One night when drinking I fell and hit my head and broke both my legs, I fell down the stairs. Anyway I was given some pain medicine and started taking it with alcohol and was rushed to the ER. I guess the final straw was when my wife tried to take my vodka away and I pushed her....I hate to admit that that happened. I do not like to think about what that does to her. I am experiencing night terrors from being abused as a child, was homeless for four years until a family from my church took me in. I am a damaged man wanting to get help but I don't want to deal with these feelings alone how do I get her back? I need her to be there with me when I go to counseling and I need her to be there when I get back. As you can tell from the question my wife left me and went to stay with her sister at her place. She said I need to think about us. How do I apologize and show I want to get better. Also she said she still loves me but won't talk to me until I am better, sober, and a loving person again.

First why would you marry someone just to continue cheating on them with other people? If the person you're cheating with were to develop a relationship, it would be nothing more than a lie since that person would be married to someone else. Plus I heard that these " open marriages" are only for people who are currently, or formerly married to somebody. So single people are blocked from swinging. It's stupid

Ok so my husband never met his dad his whole life. He started talking to him last year and my husband said he would like to meet him. So we made a plan that we would go to Oregon and meet his family but we would come back and make a living here. So we went on airplane and when he met his dad everything was fine then he started going to his dads often and leaving me alone in his grandmas apartment. Yes that is where we stayed. I got depressed because I had no one there with me and I was pregnant so I feared for my baby. In December I decided to leave and I told him to come with me he said give him until the baby is born to spend time with his dad. I said fine and went back to Texas. He became a jerk he got distant doesn t have time for me doesn t take interest in the things I tell him about the baby and he talks to me like hes being forced to. He got a job and now he said he is not coming back at all he wants more time with his new family and he wants me to stay with him in Oregon. I said no he got mad and said he wants a divorce because he says its not fair that he has to sacrifice his family he just met so I can be happy. So I m so stressed and hope I dont go into preterm labor in scared and I feel like I m losing him to his family. Oh and his family is the one who gave him the idea of a divorce. I m sad that he wont be here for the baby s birth or to be here with me

Should I be upset if my husband can only get it up if he looks at porn before sex?

When you used to have a desire to him during the engagement and then zero after marriage. But you still has a desire to other men.

We have bee working very different hours and never got a chance to go to the SS office and the marriage license has and expiration date. But does that mean I can t use it to change my name? Do I have to reapply for a marriage certificate?

My daughter is away at college for her freshman year. Her mother and I never married but after we broke up remained good friends and parents for the sake of our daughter. I got full custody of her in the custody case so she's lived with me since she was about 2 years old. Well, my wife doesn't care for my daughter's mom. One reason is because before we got married she found out me and my daughter's mom almost hooked up once. She hates the fact that we are friendly. When she would break up with someone she doesn't remain friends with them. Well, my daughter was home for spring break last week and she said she though she may have a UTI. I told here to drink nothing but water and cranberry juice for a few days to flush her kidneys. She goes back to school and the UTI got worse so she went to student health and they sent her to the hospital. Tues. I was calling and checking on her and she sounded really bad so I told her that I would be on my way to check on her. I called her mom to let her know what was going on and she asked if she could ride with me. Yes, she drives and has a car that will make the 2.5 hour trip but she wanted to just get in the car with me so we both could go check on our daughter. When I told my wife we were going she seemed a bit uneasy that I was leaving work early and her mother and I were rushing to see her. Especially that her mother was riding with me. My wife wasn't feeling well and I told her she didn't need to go because I didn't want her passing germs back and forth cause at that time we still wasn't sure what was wrong with my daughter. We got home later that night. My daughter is doing much better. Yesterday my wife made the comment, "I wasn't happy with the fact that she went with you" then she tried to pull it back. Long story short, my wife thought that would have been a perfect time for me and my daughter's mom to hook up again. We weren't in the car on a casual joy ride to see our daughter. We were rushing down to her college to check on her well being yet, my wife assumed we'd take the opportunity to hook up. I guess she thought we'd pull over on the side of the road. Her and her son's father (first husband) hardly speak to each other and no one has seen him in over a year. He didn't come to his youngest son's high school graduation. Why does m wife think I take every opportunity to try and hook up with someone? We went to counseling several years ago to get over that hurdle and I would have thought my wife was over it but apparently she's not. Anytime I'm not with her she assumes I'm out doing something I shouldn't be doing. But in that case my only concern was for the health of my daughter.

Its well known fact that 50 percent of Americans marriage end up in divorce in 5 Years.

If you have to leave your country forever, leave your friends, family, job and everything to marry the man/woman that you love so much...will you give up on all this??

My husband's mom walks into our room whenever she feels like it. If we say anything about it, she says it's her house and she's seen his body before. Is this acceptable or not? Let me make something clear to you guys who just want to be rude for no reason, we live with her because she needs us to pay for her rent for her since she can't afford it herself. So we're not "mooching" off of her and it's not as simple as moving out. And no, the door doesn't have a lock.

I kinda like his name and he's not bad looking. It turned out he lives close by- like a block away. I don't think I'll ever be interested in him because of the language barrier and age difference. Go forth with meeting him or just cancel the whole deal? I was thinking he could be a friend but not sure now.

people have been marrying forever without a governments or republics stamp of approval. among most of my peers who are aristocrats..especially the ones of formerly sovereign houses it wis not a requirement at all. you simply sk the permission of the head of your house. art makes things so much easier. my wife and i never fight..we don't have rights or claims to the others [property so www don't have that ace up our sleeve threat of theft. when people separate they do so in -peace and dignity without the expensive and drawn out legs battles which destroy people. lawyers don't get rich off us...wealth stays in the family line with the proper heirs always and we rarely divorce or leave one another. why do so many people feel the need to involve the govern,nt in their personal; lives this way? aside form the small tax benefit they might get..which you only really get if you live off wages instead of investments...there is no upside and the government, courts, judges, lawyers and government makes a lot more income from having you do it that way than you save from complying

My husband was at his dad's and was going to the bathroom (the only bathroom is the one in his sisters bedroom), wen he walked in he saw her posing for a nudie in her panties with nothing up top. I know this isn't his fault but I feel weirded out by it. He saw his sisters boobs.. Am I wrong for feeling weird about that? Is that normal? Because my brother never even saw me with anything less than a tank top

My husband and I have split up many times in the 6 years we have been married. He has cheated on me and been very distant at times. We split up again recently and once again thought we could fix things. We decided that we would take it slow and not just jump back into married life. Well, I saw him and I can't really say how I felt about it because I don't know honestly. At one point I started to cry after we talked about our situation. He held me for a few minutes and I thought I was fine. At some point during the evening he kissed me.. It was the first time we had kissed in months. I didn't feel anything during the kiss. I mean, I felt nothing and during the kiss I thought, "why don't I feel anything?" While we were together I always felt something whenever I kissed him. We ended up having sex and I stopped him half way through and I started to cry because I just didn't feel right about having sex with him. I know I love him but I don't know if I'm still in love. The thought of us getting divorced still hurts me and makes me cry. I would like for us to be together and have a family one day but I don't want to get hurt again and I honestly don't trust him at all. I know he's not going to change but I can't let go of that little hope I have that maybe one day things will work. Am I still in love with him or am I just holding on because I married him and I don't want to start over with someone else, who may not even exist?

My wife had cancer a few years ago. Shortly after her treatment I was gone from home for a while and, she had an affair. She seemed alive and well and since we ve reconciled I know she s truly sorry and things have been good between us but she seems to literally be sick everyday. I care about her wellbeing and want to support her but at times I get confused and frustrated because she was so healthy and alive for that short time and now I can t even go one night at work without texts about her not feeling right or her chest, her head, her stomach, etc... Again if she is ill I will always be there for her but I just don t get it. Am I holding resentment? Is it just her fear from past illness? I care about her but I just want to be more than the husband that is always worrying about her while she is constantly miserable. Any REALLY advice would be greatly appreciated.

First of all, I am not married to my partner but im know we are considered domestic partner (common law) so divorce doesnt exactly apply here. Either way, Ive tried with my spouse but all we do is fight. I dont see it working out. The last thing I want to do is live in a house other than where my kids wake up and go to sleep, everyday. But I wonder if you can raise the solid kids when they grow up in a broken home. I dont want that but my relationship SUCKS! Nagging, non communicative, i could go as she could too about me. But it just sucks Im getting to the point where I just hate even speaking to her.

My husband and my mom have put so much strain on me I am so lost and handling each day is getting harder and harder. So my mom bought a house and we are going to be buying it from her in the next month or so-she said we should just treat her like a bank and just make payments to her until we can either pay it off or get a loan. So my husband and I are extremely grateful that we have this oppurtunity after raising our two children in a small 3 bdrm mobile home/trailer. My mom can be quite controlling at times and often finds ways to critisize my husband behind his back to me (Ex. He doesnt take his time in projects, wasnt raised to act a certain way, etc...) I defend him sometimes it leads to fights..but today she said when we start cleaning and renovating to move into the house to take her suggestions and to make sure my husband is in line and doesn't break salvagable material ) She makes him out to be some careless, ignorant boy when he is infact the opposite. I dont tell my husband these things because he is so soft hearted it would hurt him and he would never go around my family EVER!...Now my husband and I have been arquing quite a lot lately and I believe it is because how stressed I am. With both my husband and mom my anxiety goes through the roof because I am constantly worried if a desicion i make will make either of them mad or go off on me. I just feel so stuck I am to the point I just want to take my two boys and leave everyone else behind,

My wife is black and I am white. She says that it is easier for a black girl to be with a white man in America. Before Tamisha married me she says that police would harass her and that and that it was extremely hard to get a job. She moved in with me and I make enough to where does not have to work so she says that I made her life so much easier and that police or anybody treats her bad because she is married to a white man. Is it really easier in America on a black girl to be with a white man?

I'm 28 and bf is 37. We have been dating just shy of four years. We are college grads: teacher/me, engineer/him. so we're stable adults. We live an hour away and only see one another one -maybe two evenings per week. I've been ready to move forward for a long time now. He says he plans to marry me and even makes it sound like it could be soon, but he refuses to give a timeline. I'm considering telling him that after four years, I need some sort of timeline and am not ok just going on and having no idea of how my life will turn out (Ie, will I move to his city and lose job tenure, should I sign another two year lease etc...) and beyond everything I miss him daily and it's just hard not being together. I'm thinking of just saying this involves my life too, so if he's serious, he needs to give me SOME sort of timeline. and if he genuinely has no idea, then I'd like out since I've been wanting marriage for at least the past two years now. I don't want it to come off as mean or an ultimatum. I'm just honest in that it's driving me crazy and I have a low of days where I feel like a rain cloud is over me because I have no idea when marriage will happen -hell, even a proposal. Elizabeth - I don't want to go through the trouble of picking a ring then returning if things don't work out. I think we need to mutually discuss a timeframe -as of now I'm not even sure that he would say yes! Living the dream -His family lives overseas but I have visited them the few times they flew here and we all get along extremely well. In fact, they have asked him repeatedly why he hasn't proposed yet. I agree the situation doesn't sound good but he ASSURES me he is super serious and he has always been a man of his word, so that's what puts me on the fence. However, I feel I'm at the point where I need something a bit more concrete if I'm willing to wait any longer: a timeframe for example. If he were to seriously give me a timeline, I feel like I could only make it another year maximum, and then we need a marriage date in the very near future after proposal. I think even giving him another year is beyond generous -even stupid on my part, but I don't want him to feel pressured, but at the same time I need him to know I'm seriously going to leave him - yes, it's an ultimatum, but not a mean one. I plan to be totally calm when telling him this. I just genuinely need to know the game plan or I need to check out for my own sanity.

So I found out my husband cheated on me (irrefutable fact) and I said the foulest things I could imagine to him... Then he stared at me and didn't say anything back? What does this mean?

She is 25 and I am 29, we got married 5 years ago. We were separated for 2 years because she started using drugs (I tried to help her quit with no luck), the breaking point was when I found out she was cheating on me with her best female friend. We got back together with the agreement that she would go on Methadone treatment and we were to stay faithful. Recently found out that she is using drugs while on Methadone and is now openly dating a girl (it's in the open now because I found out through texts). I wanted to leave but she expects me to stay and be ok with all of this. I don't understand why she wants to be with me if she is a lesbian and why am I so weak that I stay in this mess?

I m a married college student and currently dorm due to.my hectic major. So as I mind my own business in my room all alone my roommate brings our mutual friend who happens to be a guy. While I m on the phone with my husband I become anxious because my husband is very jealous and believes girls and guys shouldn t be friends. Anyway I was in sweats and had a see through shirt with no bra so I hid myself under the covers while on the phone with my hubby. Our mutual friend decides to annoy us since that s his thing and I immediately tell my hubby I ll call him back knowing my friend will charade his shananigans. I m unable to leave because of my attire so I tell my friend to leave because I feel uncomfortable. He refuses to listen. Knowing my distress my roommate asks him to leave and he doesnt. So now my hubby calls and calls and gets upsets. When I answer he tells me to control the situation or he will. Let s just say my hubby ended calling campus security to remove our friend although he left voluntarily after finally realizing my distress and apologizes. My hubby is still furious feeling I disrespected our marriage and our trust and felt I was being shady. On the other hand I was upset he wasn t understanding of my predicament and felt he took things way to far. What do you guys think?

me and my wife went on a cruise together, for a week, stopped at multiple islands. during this cruise, we have never been so connected. we drank wine, and out every night, laughed had fun, and it was the most incredible time in bed i have ever had, but that might have been the wine. we just feel in love all over again, there were sparks like crazy, i never wanted to leave. now that I'm home a few weeks later, all i can think about is the way i felt on the cruise. the emotions we had i want that every day, but things went back to normal, i am even looking at cruises again even though we can't afford it. how do i get those sparked back? how do i feel like we felt then now, i never realized the stress until i felt the relief, you know? do i talk to her about it?

I am currently 20, I will be 21 in June. I got married when I was 3 weeks away from turning 19. It will be 2 years in May. My husband just turned 28. I love him and chose to marry him because I love him and wanted to start a life together. I have never regretted my decision of marrying him, up until this past Saturday. We had a small party at my parents house and there was another guy that I felt a strong physical attraction to. Nothing happened, I was with my husband, but since that day I've felt sad. It's as if after that day, something made me realize that I was married too young. I don't go out to clubs or parties or hang out with friends. And I regret not doing that. I regret not meeting new guys and having fun. My husband being 26 when we got married was older, and of course he was more ready to settle down with someone, and I thought I was, but now I feel like I made a mistake. I'm especially not ready to begin having children. I'm finishing my career in August. I want to have more freedom. But I have mixed feelings, I don't want to separate from my husband. But lately I've just been wondering how my life would have been if I was not married. Has anyone had similar feelings? Was this just a phase you temporarily went through, but then eventually got over it?

He told me he has enough stress at work already, he doesn't want people to keep asking him about it, he is a very private person and he doesn't talk about his personal stuff at work. It bothers me that he doesn't want to wear his ring, what do you guys think? Is that the norm? He also said that he will wear his wedding band when he's with me (when not at work)....

I am a married woman in my mid 20s. My husband is 5 years older than I am. He had the "normal" drink and experiment teen/young adult transition. I did not, so I opened up about the things I want to try with him. I mentioned I always wondered what it wasike to kiss a woman. I am not bi-curious but I do want to kiss a woman. After talking it through he wants me to try something the feel normal. How do I even begin to accomplish this when I have no friends that it wouldn t be awkward with and I dont want to catch anything. Suggestions please?

a man cheated on his wife and his mother in law stressed about her daughter being done wrong. he apologized to his wife but his wife now want him to apologize to her mother. what are your thoughts?

So I recently found out my husband was cheating on me... Which then led me to ruin his life and now he's making me feel sorry for him... Was I wrong for reacting to being cheated on?

I am currently 20, I will be 21 in June. I got married when I was 3 weeks away from turning 19. It will be 2 years in May. My husband just turned 28. I love him and chose to marry him because I love him and wanted to start a life together. I have never regretted my decision of marrying him, up until this past Saturday. We had a small party at my parents house and there was another guy that I felt a strong physical attraction to. Nothing happened, I was with my husband, but since that day I've felt sad. It's as if after that day, something made me realize that I was married too young. I don't go out to clubs or parties or hang out with friends. And I regret not doing that. I regret not meeting new guys and having fun. My husband being 26 when we got married was older, and of course he was more ready to settle down with someone, and I thought I was, but now I feel like I made a mistake. I'm especially not ready to begin having children. I'm finishing my career in August. I want to have more freedom. But I have mixed feelings, I don't want to separate from my husband. But lately I've just been wondering how my life would have been if I was not married. Has anyone had similar feelings? Was this just a phase you temporarily went through, but then eventually got over it?

I just don't have the money. I was laid off. My husband wants to put another mortgage on the house to pay for our son's education. I dearly love our son, but we just don't have the money.....

My wife and I have been married happily for 4 years this October, we're happy, she is very beautiful to me, we're totally in love--but there's just one problem: I look at other women too much. Sometimes, lustfully. I know this isn't a problem most guys come out about, but it bothers me. It hurts my wife, she doesn't get mad or come at me with anger, she just cries and tries to keep it to herself. It hurts so much to know that I do that to her. I'm her husband, I'm supposed to be her protector, her lover. But I just feel like a jerk. I'm afraid one day that I'll lose her. I also have a problem with pornography, a habit I can't seem to kick. She comes from a very strong Baptist family, and she was taught that porn is poison to any marriage. Which, I think, is just another way of saying it's a hurtful thing to do to a spouse. When we got married, she was a virgin, her views on marriage are so pure and I walked into it with a full heart but treating it sort of like a game. I know better now. My wife waited for me, and everything she does is sweetness an innocence and she doesn't deserve to have her feelings hurt. What can I do to take my focus off of other women and just pay attention to my wife? Also, I apologize for my English. I'm very limited on English words.

I am 25 years old and I have been married to my wife for 2 years now and now have a 4 month old daughter. I've been struggling with my sexuality for years now and she has found out about it by going through my emails seeing me talk to gay men on online dating websites. I know I am a bad husband that much is clear. But I don't want to hurt her anymore by lying and saying I'm not gay or bi and that I want to be with her when in reality I am not sure what would make me happy. She has been surprisingly understanding about the whole matter and is advising we go to therapy which I have agreed to. I cannot help but feel awful, is it too late for me to seek happiness with my sexuality?

I am currently 20, I will be 21 in June. I got married when I was 3 weeks away from turning 19. It will be 2 years in May. My husband just turned 28. I love him and chose to marry him because I love him and wanted to start a life together. I have never regretted my decision of marrying him, up until this past Saturday. We had a small party at my parents house and there was another guy that I felt a strong physical attraction to. Nothing happened, I was with my husband, but since that day I've felt sad. It's as if after that day, something made me realize that I was married too young. I don't go out to clubs or parties or hang out with friends. And I regret not doing that. I regret not meeting new guys and having fun. My husband being 26 when we got married was older, and of course he was more ready to settle down with someone, and I thought I was, but now I feel like I made a mistake. I'm especially not ready to begin having children. I'm finishing my career in August. I want to have more freedom. But I have mixed feelings, I don't want to separate from my husband. But lately I've just been wondering how my life would have been if I was not married. Has anyone had similar feelings? Was this just a phase you temporarily went through, but then eventually got over it?

Everyone wants us to divorce but we love eachother x

I love my wife. Let me say that first, she and I have been married for a year and a half. So we live in Provo Utah but I have been dealing with some stuff and so I took up very heavy drinking. When I was drinking I would pass out drunk and wake up hung over the next day, shower brush my teeth use mouth wash and go to classes/work. One night when drinking I fell and hit my head and broke both my legs, I fell down the stairs. Anyway I was given some pain medicine and started taking it with alcohol and was rushed to the ER. I guess the final straw was when my wife tried to take my vodka away and I pushed her....I hate to admit that that happened. I do not like to think about what that does to her. I am experiencing night terrors from being abused as a child, was homeless for four years until a family from my church took me in. I am a damaged man wanting to get help but I don't want to deal with these feelings alone how do I get her back? I need her to be there with me when I go to counseling and I need her to be there when I get back. As you can tell from the question my wife left me and went to stay with her sister at her place. She said I need to think about us. How do I apologize and show I want to get better. Also she said she still loves me but won't talk to me until I am better, sober, and a loving person again.

She's so energetic and lively. And i'm just a lazy ******. I'm basically a corpse. As she likes working so much and i don't like to do anything, i let her do all the work. Is that wrong?

I am very interested in a coworker of mine, to the point where I want to present my wife the idea of an open marriage. I love my wife and want to stay married to her, but I also find myself very attracted to this particular coworker. I'm not sure my wife will be entirely receptive to the idea, so I am looking for ways to present this idea in a positive light that will convince her to agree. Any suggestions?

So I will try to keep this short... Me and my husband have been together for almost 3 years, married for 1.5 years. We have a 2 year old toddler and I'm pregnant atm. My husband is bipolar and recently started meds about a month ago. Since the start of our relationship he has lied to me more times then I can count, hides stuff from me, cheated on me at least twice (maybe more) was addicted to porn, was emotionally abusive, I've gotten STDS from him. Anyway. I always saw the good in him, I did leave him twice but came back after a couple weeks. Now that he's on meds he's done so much better, completely different person. Although I still sometimes feel the little bag that he lies to me but have no proof anymore... Point being is we've been trying to move on from our past... But I cannot seem to get over all the lying he did... He was extremely good at it at the time and now I always feel on guard. Maybe he is honest now but how can I move on from feeling like he is gonna lie to me and hurt me?? I've been SO hurt by him before many times. Is there anyway to move on? I don't want to have to divorce him.. Especially now that he is getting help with meds and seeing a psychiatrist every couple weeks... But I don't know how to get past my own personal hurt and to trust him?

My husband has a very strong temperament, he has an anxiety disorder and is easily irritated. Of course I knew this when we married, but he had it under control, however it's recently gotten worse after the passing of his sibling.. I completely understand his frustration especially after losing someone so close but I hate that he takes it out on me. He's never laid a hand on me but he often yells for things that don't even seem important, he gets upset and slams doors, etc. Sometimes when he gets angry at me for small things it really hurts my feelings because it makes me feel worthless, like I'm doing something wrong. I'm trying to help him cope with his loss and I'm trying to be strong but how can I do this if he's constantly angry? How do I let him know he's hurting me without making him upset?