My husband's family are really nice and the sweetest in-laws. There is just some things that completely turns me off and makes me not want to be too close to them. They are really religious people and the number 1 priority in their life is their church duty. My husband's sister got pregnant at 18, and the family didn't want anyone in the church or anyone else for that matter to find out about this. So they hid her until she gave birth, they move out of town for half a year and returns home with the baby telling everyone that the baby is an adopted son of theirs. They let my sister-in-law go on with her life like nothing happens, and my husband's parent took all responsibility for the baby. And I feel totally bothered about this. We go to the same church, and there is a rumor going around that the baby is really my sis-in-laws baby, but ofcourse my husband and the entire family denies it. Even to our church minister. They lied straight face to our local minister. I am so bothered about this lie, and my family is also asking where the baby came from. I would say I don;t know, and it gives me a guild feeling that I also have to lie to my family. What's even worse is some people is also thinking that the baby is my husband's child out of wedlock. My husband would jokingly admit he is the true father which is totally unfair to me. The parents-in-law would also not correct some of their relatives who thinks that the baby is our child...This thing just keep bothering me, :(

engaged for 6 years and living together most of it. He keeps saying he wants to wait till we have more money. But he's even more in debt now. He says getting married Won't change how he feels about me and it's just a piece of paper. No one else in his family is married but marriage is important to me. I feel like it's a time for our families to come together and celebrate. Our parents have only met once when we first got together Even though we all live really close. He says it's my fault for not planning anything but every time I've tried he's gotten pissed off and said not to keep worrying about it right now. I'm about to give up but he's the only relationship I've ever been in. I'd be starting completely over. When I've mentioned us taking a break he always says "really? Your gonna waste a 6 year relationship and just let it all go down the drain" or "after everything me and my mom have done for you? "

My boyfriend and I have been together for about 4 months now. He is stationed at Ft.bliss and I live in El paso, so we see each other quite often. He s from florida and got stationed over here 1year ago. He has always been so sweet to me and has given me some great memories in the short time we ve known each other. Only thing is... is I found out he s married!! He went to his field training for 2 weeks, and on the 2nd week while cleaning our drawers I found his bah military papers stating he is married to someone in Florida! I immediately called him and told him about what I found and why he didn t tell me? Why he let us go as far as moving in together and could keep this hidden. He tells me it s just a contract marriage. That he just married her to get bah and benefits. Checking through his Facebook and seeing that he talks to girls in flirtatious ways while having her still as a friend I kinda believed him. Her mom is really good friends with his mom so my chance of running into her is quite high. I wonder how I would feel about that. He is taking the steps to end the marriage, but I ask myself if I stay will I be happy that I did? I just don t want this to scar our relationship. I don t want to be having this feeling of betrayal in the back of my mind. What would you do in this situation? In need of some advice...

I was just served divorce papers by my husband Feb 29th, 2016. We have not been intimate since November 25th 2015. Our court date is set for April 18th for the initial hearing. We still live in the same home but in separate rooms. We also have three children together. Today he was home and kissed me in front of the "security" cameras he has set up in the house. Hes been a jerk for quite a while and today he was especially nice, kissing me multiple times in front of the cameras. i was stupid and kissed back, although it didnt get any further than that. What is he trying to do? How could this go against me in the divorce? Truth is Ill always love him but i dont want to be with him anymore. Our marriage has lacked respect and trust for quite some time now. I just want to move forward and dont want to prolong this whole ordeal. i feel so stupid....especially because im getting help with paying for the lawyer...

I don t have money for a lawyer I need to know what form(s) I need to file

The father of my child has visitation with our daughter every other Tuesday & Saturday. Tuesday is from "when school releases till 8pm" (meaning he picks her up from school when school dismisses students) Saturday is from "9am-8pm". If the kids are out for springbreak, what should I do?! How do I go about this....?

I've been married for four years and for the past year since my husband has started traveling with his job we have been falling apart and fighting a lot about pretty much anything which has never happened before. I mean in the past even when we were dating we rarely fought about anything and now it seems like we fight about every thing. A couple of weeks ago we had a fight and he walked out of our bedroom and started sleeping on the sofa bed in the den and has been sleeping there ever since. We do have sex occasionally but that's it and it feels more like some hook up since we aren't really doing anything else. We have two kids who are both under 3, that we have to think about as well. But I asked him about going to counseling and he said no because in his words "That junk never works," but he's not doing anything else to make it work either. So I'm wondering if he really wants us to stay together at all. I tried talking to him but he either ignores me or tells me to stop being dramatic. I don't know what else to do. It makes me believe that he really doesn't want to work things out, am I right or am I being paranoid?

My husband of 23yrs age 44.Father of our 5 children died of a heart attack on Dec 25,2005 and on a daily basis I visit his grave site I take a snak, and relax as it makes me feel the reality slowly but surely that indeed my soul mate is really dead.How ever every one around me critisize me going to the cementary every day Is my behavior crazy Or can some one please explain what would be normal reactions after a huge loss like mine

Okay so I m 16 years old and my husband is 26 I got married in October 2015 the plan was we d stay in the states and if go to college he agreed to this before we got legally married and now after we did last month he went back to his country and wants me to go live there and I can t because I m going to college next year and have planned a life here (I was born and raised in the USA) so now I want out. Should I get divorced or an annulment? And how do I go about it?

This always creates conflicts between me and my husband. Well, he obviously loves his mother. His mother isn't so bad, but she is two-faced...she pretends she likes me when she talks to my husband, but when she's with me, she is not so nice. My husband doesn't believe me when I say these about his mother. His mother is one of those people who is so skilled at being two-faced and playing the nice person while deep down, she has tricks...always! When I post pictures of me and my husband on FB, she only likes those pictures of mine when my husband is alone, NONE of pictures of me...and like 1 of the pictures that we are together. She then goes ahead and likes ALL of her daughter and son in law's pictures!!! I get amazed!! And she writes all the lovely sweet things for them but not for us! Why is it so?! They are both her children but she obviously behaves differently between the 2. My husband doesn't pay attention to these details...but they really get on my nerve. And then he treats her so nicely as if I don't matter...and how I feel and how this woman has tricks for our life! She uses sweet language with him to get the control of our life. And my husband is so nice and kind..he doesn't understand her tricks. I'm suffering this. What do you think I can do? It's been 8 years like this now. I really wish this woman leaves us alone. She and her tricks and her games and plots!!

We've been together for 3 years now. We live together and share financial responsibilities. Out of the two of us, he is by far the affectionate one. He always tells me about his plans for us in the future and the steps we have to take to make sure that future is attainable. He tells me everything a woman would want to hear. He is the man of my dreams and I know in my heart that he will be the man that I will grow old with. My family adores him. My mother even calls him my husband accidentally when referring to him. Lately, the topic of marriage has been something that we talk about a lot. He tells me that, yes, he would like to marry me. He has even bought me a ring and asked me to marry him. I just laugh every time he brings up the topic and even though he laughs with me, I know it probably hurts him that I don't give him a direct answer. I don't know why I can't say yes to him. I don't even know that I'm ready. We live like we're married already and I tell him all the time that he'd be a fine husband to me, but I don't know why it's difficult for me to just accept his proposal. Has anyone else had this problem or heard of friends having this problem? If so, what was the outcome? What would make a person not want to get married?

He says only kicked me out not our daughter that's fine. If was even home at the time he told me to get our. He knew I wasn't going to leave my daughter. Then even when we were couch surfing doesn't care . He even changed the locks get my daughters things her bed my bed my dresser. Is it control thing him changing locks so I have to go back

I'm 27 year old and I work as an RN in a senior complex. I'm also a mother of an amazing set of identical twins girls (they are 5 year old) I met my boyfriend back in 2013 when his grandmother was part of our family at the senior complex. She passed almost 2 years ago but we kept in touch and that's how our relationship developed. My boyfriend is married and he has 2 small kids with his wife. However, he's not happy in his marriage, his wife is someone very difficult to get along with, she always in a bad mood and acting won't even take care of him as a real wife should or is supposed to. Anyways, we've been together for about 18 months and our relationship is amazing. I see him almost every day since his work is like 5 minutes from mine and when we can we do lot of things together. My daughters love him and now that his wife found out he moved out is renting an apartment. I have my own house and we are planning on living together. His wife now wants him back but he doesn't want to be with her anymore, so now she's trying to contact me. Yesterday she left a letter in my mail box where she's basically begging me to break up with him and not see him anymore. Today send me a long message on FB talking about their kids, life, the time they've been together etc. I guess she is trying to make feel pity or sorry for her, and in part I do but I love him and I won't let him go. She said also that she wants to meet me or talk to me on the phone but I'm not too sure about that.

My husband and I have been married for 6 months and are both very strong willed people (he is a lot more than me though). When we get into an argument, it usually gets pretty heated but with no real physical violence. The part that kills me is afterward, he doesn't talk to me for days; EVERY TIME we get into a decent sized argument. It kills me and he knows it. He uses it as revenge and I believe control. The revenge part is not speculation. He has told me after we have made up that he does use it to get back at me. Well, tonight we got into a HUGE argument over something I did. I got defensive and mad at him because of something he said and I was responding with yelling. I PROMISE that sometimes I really don't realize I am yelling and I know that it is no excuse, but its truth. Well, he responded by yelling as well (which i can handle) but then called me dumb and lazy. I lost it and we got into one our crazy arguments. Now, I am so upset because he isn't going to talk to me for days...if not a week or so. I want to fix this. I went to apologize for yelling but he started calling me more names and i lost it again. So, to my question: how do i deal with my temper during an argument? i really want to fix that but don't know how to go about it. and, How do I deal with the silent treatments? I have already told them how it makes me feel like crap and he has apologized and said he would do his best to stop, but nothing changes. I don't know what to do....

I m married to this shy n reserved guy for 8 years. He never planned anything for me ever . Didnt plan honeymoon; didnt take me out for sightseeing n gave me lame excuses whenever I asked him for going out; Didnt come to meet the doctor while I was pregnant ; He being reserved ... I didnt know what goes in his mind but he keeps his money tight . So I became d way he likes me to be . Not spending his money in clothes n food. I even started wearing his t shirts until when one day a friend of mine asked me to wear something decent for going out. N suddenly I realised i used to wear most stylish clothes n with this man I m too much lost . He does everything after I fight with him. I started getting scared from planes n hav not met my mom frm the last 4 years. I had no phobias n fears b4. N then thrs is this girl who hurt me like anything n I cried to him about her. That girl joked wth him once n he so happily asked me to take a scotch to that gathering . While my hubby was asking me to be aware of d expenses as electricity n water bill was high that month. When i confronted him that we cant spent in scotch at this time. He got lil stubborn that he is going to buy it.He denied n said scotch wasnt for her n that he is sorry if he hurt me. Then after 6 months he asked me to take my fav sweets to this another beautiful girl's home. N then he immediately said that he is sorry n he shudnt hav said like this. Wat kind of man is he ? I m not in good health too

I know it's a sin to have intercourse before marriage but is oral sex a sin if you are married?

I've ben in a relationship with my partner for 7 years & am now expecting.Our relationship is fine aside from his parents interfering in it & him always defending there toxic behavior.He goes as far as to verbally abuse me when I tell him what they're doing is offensive & will leave our home to go to there's if I tell him I will not tolerate it anymore.Since I'm now expecting,I don't know what to do about this because I definitely don't think he will change & I'm very vulnerable & dependent on him now.I really don't want to live the rest of my life settling for second place & being mistreated by his racist family.Any advice on a possible solution would be appreciated:)

5 years of marriage, no kids. We are 23 and 25. We trust eachother, we care for eachother and support eachother. We met online and talked for 2 years, never lived together until I visited him and married him shortly after, so 7 years together. But, he s so lazy. I cannot stand how much of a slob he is and how he does nothing to help me around the house. When I ask him to do a simple chore, he ll "forget," or just doesn t do it. Then he throws a fit when I start nagging which I try not to. We fight about housework and chores ALL THE TIME because we both work and I end up having to cook AND clean. I ve tried asking him nicely but he ignores me, I ve tried making a list and he doesn t do it, I ve tried to reward him if he does, nope. Nothing freaking works cause he d rather sit on his computer desk and play video games. Or, it will work for one day and that s it. Every time I try to talk to him he just shuts down and doesn t give me a response. He will just sit there in silence and then proceed playing games. My marriage doesn t have any passion, and he doesn t do anything romantic either. We re both VERY independent people and are complete opposites. He has no motivation in life, and I am driven and want to be successful. He doesn t feel the same as me. I just don t know what to do. He s a great man and I will always love him but, I can t help but wonder if this is it. I ve been feeling so lonely. I can t imagine leaving him but I don t want to live like this forever.

My husband just started this new job like 3 weeks ago and left me to deal with his daughter, which is my step daughter, she lies, cheats, steals pretty much everyday, pees in her pants every night/morning/day, talks back, yells and screams over me when I'm talking to her and she's only 6! We've had her in and out of counseling for the last 4 years. We've been told by numerous counselors that everything is strickly behavioral. There is NOTHING wrong with her medically, I've even taken her to the Neurologist. Last night I had a complete breakdown, I have 2 boys of my own so I have a 3 yr old, step daughter is 6 and my oldest son is 7. I go to school full time online, house work, laundry cooking dinner, I do EVERYTHING. Last night when I had the breakdown it was like my husband just didn't care! I tried to get him to hold me and he said he had a headache, when we went to bed, I was still crying and he didn't even acknowledge I was there. I feel completely alone and stressed out like I've reached my limits and I just don't know what to do. Any advice would be great. Thanks!

My husband never seems to want sex. Recently he has just stopped initiating sex entirely. I try really hard. I'll wear a black lacey garter belt and thigh highs to bed. I'll just outright tell him dirty things. Sometimes he doesn't respond at all. If he does, I almost always go down on him, or sometimes I do all the work and let him *** in my mouth or on me. Other times, if he is an active participant, he does what he needs and then is done. I seldom get to have an orgasm, unless I do the work myself. If I'm noticeably disappointed, he'll snap "Do you need me to touch you/ go down on you." Because of his annoyed tone, I usually don't take him up on his offer. It shouldn't seem like a chore to let your wife have an orgasm, right? I have always had low self esteem. I used to play a sport, but after an injury, I had to quit, and I put on some weight since. I realize I'm not the best looking lady. But he's a pretty big guy too. I just don't know what to do anymore. I don't understand what I'm doing wrong. We used to have great sex. Pardon my language, but I just need a great ****.

My wife doesnt want to change her name to my last name, she seems too proud of it, I dont want to give her the pain of doing so. Plus it seemed sexist to me that the lady had to change their name, so i was wondering if it could be me instead?

I have been married almost two years, I have tried everything I absolutely could to keep him happy and he just wasn t, he was never affectionate, never loving, had very bad anger issues, and liked to change jobs and buy toys a lot, it got to the point that we were so broke we had to move into my parents basement..after that he started to not come home till 3am..was secretive with his calls and texts, deleted all our wedding pictures off of social media..long story short I found out he was seeing other women while I have been in school. I have offered to try marriage counseling and he refused saying that it was stupid to tell a stranger your problems..I finally told him to pack his stuff and get out, and currently we are going through a divorce. His family has been calling me all sorts of names and putting me down on social media..posting things that aren't true and condoning his cheating..I feel so hurt, I am not sure how to overcome this..I feel like I'm in a nightmare..I have done nothing to these people..how can I get through this?

I met my husband on a dating site a week after breaking up with my ex. I didn't expect to find anyone so quickly. It feels like an act of God to both of us. In the beginning my husband and I were just hanging out and he knew the story of my breakup and the details of that relationship. The thing was, the man I was with before lived in another country (dated for 3 years - ended badly, hadn't seen him in 6 months) and even though I broke up with him over Skype we both needed closure. So during my business trip (before this new man asked me to be his girlfriend) I met with my ex and closed any loose ties. Nothing happened. I did happen to meet with him twice though because I travel a lot and we further got to close loose ties. I only told my husband about the 1st before we got married time. Should I tell my husband about the second time? Nothing happened at all. It was for closure. Also, before my husband asked me to be his girlfriend all ties and communication with my ex were over for good. I just feel guilty not telling the whole story to him but it's so complicated. I didn't tell him everything to begin with because we were just meeting and it probably would have scared him away when I KNOW my intentions and loyalties.

As of last check, in America it appears that about one sixth of all American families have a married husband/wife couple in which the wife is the breadwinner. That I can see as a plus especially if the husband is disabled in any way and can not work, or at least can not work full time. Does anyone know if countries in, for instance, Asia, Indonesia, and/or Europe have similar percentages of such families?

My girlfriend and I met a year ago while i was going thru divorce. I hide this fact from her but she found out right after Moving in wich happened 6 months after we have met. She Moved with me because she lost her job after her new boss found out she was pregnant of my kid. She Startes to flight Almosen everyday and felt cheated. I told her that i loved her and that i Thought that she would not be with me if i told her i was going thru divorce. Something she confessed was true as she said that she would not marry a divorced man (3 times divorced). She is also divorced, Indian, and have a small Kid. Now that we have a kid i want to get marry but everytime i am about to proposed something comes up that makes me think twice. When she met me i had a very good Job, was driving a BMW and was overweight. Still, our sex was fenomenal. She did mention that i needed to lose weight before meeting her Patents in india. She also said we needed to get marry too. I did not like the weight as she met me overweight. Now she doesnt want to have sex anymore and today asked me when i was going to lose MY weight. That if i die not lose he weight better leave her. I also changed MY BMW For a family SUV and lost my job to a disability. I want to Mary her but feel that she only Wants to be with me for security as i still pay for everything in the house. I believe we will be heading to divorce down the road if i get married. I wanted to be with her because i Thought she was humble and a family girl The other day MY friend came with his family and while driving back home from a trip the told her that they noticed that she was not helping me to keep MY weicht on watch. This because she bought soda and other candies during the trip for me and the kids. Then she said that she tried to help me but that i apparently did not care How i Looks any more. That i may have this Attitüde because i am not Meeting Girls anymore and if that was that way then is should stay by myself. The comment was weird

Around Christmas time, I told my husband about an upcoming door buster sale a jewelry store was having on a pearl necklace. He did give me the pearl necklace for Christmas. Two months later, I was looking in our safe and noticed a jewelry box with another necklace exactly like mine. I asked him why did he purchase two necklaces, his response was to give one to his mohter. He bought her a pearl necklace two years ago and I waited for mine. It took the feeling special part away, because it was suppose to be a gift for me. He could have gotten her anything else, but not the same exact thing. And the fact that he had already bought her a 300.00 strand just two years before. She is coming here to vacation this summer and that is when he will give her the gift. Funny thing is, he never mentioned that he bought them. He must have already known I would not agree to give her the same gift. He thinks its a perfectly normal good idea. I think its insulting.

I often see husband doing all kind of things for their wives... and buying all kind of things for their wives... and giving all kinds of compliment to their wives... I also notice that men are so unlikely to file for a divorce even if their wives are guilty of cheating or domestic violence... do husbands love their wives a lot more than wives love their husbands?

I'm 32 years old and my wife is 30. She is Chinese. In the early years of our marriage she used to give me a hard time. I mean hitting me and using verbal put downs. Then apologising later....all that stopped two years ago when I attempted to leave. Fast forward to now. She works in real estate and makes good money but her sales have dropped off so she has no income. My income is just enough to pay off a car and pay all the bills such as rent etc. I work 50+ hours per week as a trainee manager. I also study nursing at university part time. Our apartment is due to settle in June. There's a lot of pressure in handling the debts and every time my wife gets a sale, she uses it to pay off any remaining ctedit card debt etc. We have had sex only once this year. She says she doesn't have mood anymore and that her mind is preoccupied with the property. I feel deprived and constantly stressed. She still shows me affection but just isn't interested in sex at all. She will say things like the debt is worrying her, I'm gaining too much weight, my salary is too low etc etc. We never make time for fun. We have no passion. She talks about wanting sex to have a baby and after we move into the new apartment. That means we won't have sex for a minimum of 6 months. I'm starting to wonder what is the point in me taking on the pressure of a house etc if I live in a sexless marriage. My life at the moment consists of work and study. No down time or time for relaxing. I have held off on friends until we have our own place. But now I have been dealt a heavy blow. My boss wants to make me redundant when he returns from holidays. That's about the time our house settles. I'm questioning the point in continuing this life. Part of me wants to quit and move far away to start my life again. My life has been a pit of negativity for the past 2 years. I've had enough. I have no savings and no decent job. I'm studying towards a bright future though. I have just had enough. I wish I could run far away, start a new job, make new friends and live comfortably with my own apartment. It seems like I am trapped in a void of work and study with a sexless relationship. I seem to just keep meeting setbacks. Something is holding me back. I meed help! Should I just stay with her and focus on my studies? I feel a huge chunk of me is missing because I'm not sexually attractive anymore :( I posted here looking for validation of my feelings. I used to suspect an affair too. But I can account for her time and she is way too warm and loving to me. She loves me a lot and wishes I could earn a lot more money. Tonight I voiced that I understood that if I earned more money, we could travel and do nice things together to bring back the feelings. But I think she is missing the point that she isn't having sex with me. It's making me feel empty and like I'm walking into a trap of being burdened with a house and no sex as a reward for all the hard work and effort.

We ve been together for almost 5 and married one year, and throughout our entire relationship he only wants to have sex with me while he s drinking. I practically beg him for it throughout the week when he s not drinking and he refuses. I am very attracted to him, and I m hoping he still feels the same way about me. Not to boast, but I feel I am in attractive woman, so I m hoping that he would still be somewhat attracted to me. This is very confusing for me.

My wife and I seem to always disagree when it comes to certain simple things. One big bone of contention right now is her almost 20 year old son. I've posted on him before. We struggled to get him into college once he graduated H. S. in 2014. He was attending my alma matter but in his first year he got into the party life and flunked out. Well, he's back home with us now and taking graphic design classes at a local college working on an associates degree. I told him that an associates degree is basically like a high school diploma these days. No one really takes them seriously. Well, he got his girlfriend pregnant on purpose because they thought "they were in love and since we're in love why wait to have a baby". She unfortunately had a miscarriage earlier this year. Well, He's got everyone doing everything for him. He doesn't work and his gf pays for their dates. Her parents take him on vacations with them and even lets him spend a few nights ever couple of weeks at their place with their daughter. Granddad is his transportation to and from school now because mommy doesn't want him riding public transit. He was using he cousin's car while she was away in college but when he wouldn't keep up the regular maintenance on it the motor locked up and no one is holding him accountable for that repair. I told his mom that he needed to start paying rent in the amt of $50 a week to live with us now that he's an adult. She thinks that's too much. WHAT????? $200 a month is too much for a 20 year old to pay!!!!! For the past few months I've been telling him he needed to find a job but he refuses to walk the 1 mile down the street and put in applications at all of the fast food places, auto parts stores, grocery stores, and drug stores that are again, 1 mile from our house. He told me that he was waiting till he graduates in Aug to land a sales job in graphic design. Again, this is only for an associates degree. He's getting all his meals prepared for him nightly. All his laundry is done for him. Mommy just about gives him her car when ever he wants to go see his gf on the weekend. But then the gf is the one putting gas in the car. I'm trying to make him a more responsible adult but mommy wants to keep him her baby. My wife likes to throw my daughter in the mix. She's away at college for her freshman year this year and is taking a full course load whereas my step-son is home with us now taking one or two classes, just enough to get an associates degree. I do not look at them on the same level whereas my wife says that since they both are in school they both are equal. Had he not flunked out of the 4 year school he was at I wouldn't have required him to now start paying rent. When my daughter comes home in May she plans to work but I do not require her to pay rent while she's home from May till Aug when she goes back. The same would have been for my step-son had he did better. Am I wrong here? Why can't I get my wife to understand that she's crippling her son by not requiring him to be and act more like an adult compared to just sitting around and letting people do for him? How old is too old to be living rent free?

At the end of a fight or when a past fight is brought up he talks as if he was the hero and saving my life or the only good outcome of the fight was only because of him. I know it's not good to bring up past fights but sometimes it does happen. I'm trying to elaborate to him as what he is acting besides a jacka*s and a douchebag.

So over 10 years of being together (dating and marriage) and within the past year or two, we were having an innocent, random conversation in the car. Something led us to our discussing our relationship and how it has been and how it began, etc. It was all positive with no issues except when she said (and I m paraphrasing) - "Looking back on it now, I m not sure it was the best idea for us to start dating and I might not have if I knew the issues that lay ahead. But I guess we re kinda stuck with each other now." As I said it was a little while ago but as you can see the statement has stuck with me since then (I even remember what section of the highway we were on). Now, we are thinking of buying a new house within the next few months and have intentions on starting a family withing the year but now this issue has started to plague me again and putting enough stress and anxiousness on me that my I can feel it in my stomach. Should such a sentence really weigh so heavily on me or am I overreacting? Should I at least bother to talk to her about it or has the time passed? I know one of the reasons is my atheism vs her Catholicism. There are other reasons I feel like we have problems with but I won t go into them as they are probably common to marriages. I feel like her statement and any of the reasons (especially the big one when it comes to raising kids) we have might cause further strife and eventually make us drift apart eventually. Thoughts on how to resolve this?

Happily married- most of the time- LOL. 24 Years- with 2 kids away at college. I work full time in sales and twice a month play acoustic music at restaurants I am a solo guitar player and singer. The issue, My wife never goes to any shows- it's been over 2 years. She says she'd have to go alone and does not want to do that- she has fiends bur seems to not want to invite them. Most of the time I'm Ok with it as long as she supports my efforts but this weekend it got to me as I have a big show coming up and again she will not attend.

i am a man and lived many years being single and waiting for love and finally i found it when i was 22 , now i am 25 years old and love my girl friend so much and she loves me a lot and i believe that she is the only one who can satisfy me sexually and emotionally and i am a virgin man that did not have sex with her ,also she is virgin and waiting for marriage that i want to marry her but the problem that my family do not agree that they do not believe in love , my family do not like her family ,my family do not like her clothes ,they told me that she is open minded and that she is irresponsible person, they told me that this girl is irresponsible that can not be a successful wife at the house in terms of taking care of home ,children ,cooking,and every thing regarding the responsibilty of the home ,and i felt so angry and i believe that my girl friend will be a successful wife and i should give her a chance because i love her and need her and want to live with her ,i felt true love with her !! that no any other gilrl can replace her ,i do not want to leave her , i do not want to live single and alone again, i want to marry her and have sex with her ,i felt that if i left her i will masturbate a lot in front of porn because of the depression that i will feel that surly i will be a loser at the end that i hate the life of porn and masturbation that all i need is to have sex with my girl friend within marriage so what should i do ??? need any advices!!!!

So every once in a while I find in my husband's browser that he is looking at the casual encounter section on Craigslist. I'm not sure if I should be alarmed. He doesn't t hide his phone from me and he gives me all of his passwords. He has never just disappeared on me or anything. And he has never given me a reason not to trust him until now. I am worried about this. We have. Been together for 8 years. He is bipolar and diabetic so our sex life is a roller coaster and he has a problem with getting in the mood. Someone please help me. Is this normal?

I've been separated with my husband for years. We have for whatever reason not gotten divorced. He's since moved on to another relationship. I never thought reconciling was in the realm of possibility although our love for each other was/is very strong. A few weeks ago our daughter had to have surgery and we needed to be at the hospital in the early morning. He said he'd come with me, so he spent the night. We ended up hooking up, which I feel terrible about since he's dating someone but he said that he didn't. He said he was glad that it happened, and that it was beautiful. I thought it would be just a one time thing but it sparked a whole discussion about getting back together that's been going back and forth for weeks. I told him that I was prepared to do what it takes to make it work. He says he can't decide whether or not he wants to leave his girlfriend, because she's a safe bet at happiness when I'm not. I saw him out at a concert hall the other night and he leaned in to kiss me, Infront of everyone. I didn't let it happen but I can't rationalize what's going on. Yesterday he sent me a text that said "I love you, I hope you're having a good day. I'm sorry I haven't been in contact, it's been a bad few days for it. I'll see you tomorrow though." - that means he was with his girlfriend. Doesn't that mean he's already made his choice? I have to talk to him today. What do I need to be saying?

It doesn't make sense to me. If a woman doesn't want to be married anymore, she can leave! And on top of that, if I ever got divorced, I would fight for everything I have and not give her a cent?

Please help me!Ive been married for 3.5 years.Since we have been married,my husband will NOT stop letting his family borrow money.He got a car for his parents in his name,they quit paying payments and it ruined his credit our first year of marriage.He has let his sister and friend borrow money...which they paid us back in time.His brother on the other hand owes us $190...and still continues to need money.He is older than my husband and married!He only works part time and always needs money.My husband always lets him borrow it.He says "it's my family and I will always help them, just like I would help yours "Mind you,mine has NEVER asked for money.My husband works full time,I work full time plus a part time job as well.All of our money does to bills....Im sick of letting his brother borrow money!!Help me!!

It's a horrid, terrible thing to give an ultimatum to the person you love the most. But I married a man who was a broker and not in the Army. We have now been in the Army for a few years because it makes my husband happy...but it makes my family miserable. We want to go back to living within a state of family, we want to buy a house and we want my husband to stay home and be safe. He is about to deploy and I cannot bear the thought is doing this crap yearly just so he can play officer and be content. So I asked him to get a real, normal job again. Back to what we are used to. I told him he had to make a choice between his happiness or his families. I adore him but I meant what I said. I feel like I am the worst person in the world for this but my kids need stability and their daddy..and. I need him too. Advice?

I'm 18 almost 19 now, I met my wife when I was 17 she's 25 I love her very much she's the only women I've ever done anything with, she already had a son from a failed marriage, "after she had her son he got really controlling and crazy" I met her just before they divorced so I've met him. I love her son and feel like he's my own. I've raised him most his life, the real "father" took off after she left him. We where just friends, best friends in fact I can tell her anything we never had sex or anything till married. I don't regret it at all, we're now having a baby together and been together almost a year now. She's a great mom and an awesome wife. I love how she pushes me to be the best I can be, I'm working and going to school, and she stays at home and takes care of the baby, when I come home the house is always clean, she's always got dinner ready she loves playing video games with me and we have a great time. There's nothing about her I don't like. But my family or the people I work with, most anyone really, attacks me for being married and taking care of "her" son they say I'm too young and I'll regret it and I should be out partying and sleeping around. I really don't want to do any of that. I have a lot of fun with her I don't need other women. Do you think they could be right even though I'm very happily married?

My wife and I have been married for 2 years and during that time I have spent a lot of time working on our home. I feel that no matter what I do around the home its never good enough for her. Whenever I do anything she will at first say "Thank you" or "Look's good" but then goes straight to saying something wrong about what I did. If I paint she may say "Are you going to touch that up in the corners", if I cut some wood for a project "That looks uneven, is there a way to fix it"? I can't help it to feel that she is overly critical as I spend hours and hours working on projects just to hear her criticize my work when I'm done. I told my wife how I feel and she said she doesn't mean to make me feel bad and just "says it like it is". The problem is she never "said it like it is" when we dated and would put a little more thought into how a comment would come off. There's other examples too such as nearly everyday correcting something I say incorrectly (grammar related) which after a year has become annoying. Even if we have a date night together I may be cut off right in the middle of telling story to be told "You mean "use this work" don't you, or that's a double negative" and at that point I don't even want to continue. As a man I think its normal to want to feel like you are doing a good job and be complemented? When we dated my wife didn't act this way and would put more thought into things she said to me and because of that made me feel better with whatever I did.