An Incel is involuntary celibate person Although I'm demi-sexual, I'm not really a celibate person or unable to date. I just find it harder to find FRIENDS in real life and mostly spend my life in chatroom or play video games. I'm hetero-romantic female in my 30s who has this lifestyle for almost 10 years because I struggle with anxieties in real life. People often assume I'm a INCEL because I'm been single for a long time. But I just find friendships more important but find it difficult to find friends because I'm a internet "nerd". Is there is a term for this? Because platonic celibate sounds a bit contradictory. Sorry for those double posts (if people noticed it), my internet lagged and submitted four of same question so I deleted the other three! I asked if there were other terms, because i hate when people assume I'm celibate (or someone who was raped as a kid) because I choose to be single as I value friendships (which I find harder to find because I don't socialize much.

I hopped a few jobs and they were concentrated with guys. I mean for example think of a car shop or something of that nature that is riddled with dudes and has very few to no women.  The guys there would call me gay and harass me. They would randomly walk up to me and try to start a fight with me. I would walk away and they would say 'he's not a man' When taking this to the hr the guy that I would report would word out to the other guys and all the other guys would accuse me of being weak or gay and harass me, so reporting the harassment just gave me more harassment. I would get heckle by the guys insulted they would bounce their hand across their chest they would mumble something under their breath when they would walk to me And when I would turn around and look at them they would patronize me saying 'oh I didn't say that so don't take me to the hr in a few minutes now' in front of everyone. The guys would start verbally abusing me. It wouldn't be anything work related but just general harassment. There would be one woman working in the place and all the guys would be trying to get into her pants, whenever I try to interact with her I usually would get bullied harder by the guys.  Hr was no help in resolving the bullying but just made it worse.  I realize that I cannot hold a job with guys.  I've right now been at a job for 5 years, It mostly has lesbians working there and I as a white guy still works there and nobody bothers me at all. 

I just broke up with my ex a few days ago and I know that I sound like a terrible person for doing it before his birthday but it was honestly not planned that way. We had some issues in our relationships for awhile and I have had my doubts so i decided i didn't want to lead him on any further when it didn't feel right. We were on a break prior to me making the decision because of something he did that was disrespectful but I honestly don't hold it against him because it's forgiven. I just decided we are going on two separate paths in life and I think it would be wrong for me to stay with someone when I'm not 100% confident in our future together. He is the love of my life and I care for him deeply but I felt that it would be wrong to carry someone as far as a marriage and then figure that the relationship isn't right for each other. He didn't take things well and he begged me to take him back which it was so difficult to say no. We both cried alot and held each other through it. I told him that I love him so very much just that I couldn't lead him on if my feelings were doubtful in our relationship. I told him nothing is his fault and he has every right to hate me but he said he would always love me no matter what. it was the hardest thing I have had to do but I feel like it was the right thing now because the future would have been damaging. I allowed him to text alot the first day because he needed to vent but he hasn't since. Today is his birthday so what should I do?