So I bought a house for my parents at the age of 28. I really didn't want to buy it because I didn't want the responsibility but my dad said to get it and he will take full responsibility for it. I agreed because I wanted to further my education and wanted my mom and sister to have a roof over their head. Because my dad actually left us for 20 years before and came back for a couple of years but would always get us evicted. He's good and bad but I have lots of grudges against him. Well so I bought the house and surprise surprise he's not paying the full mortgage payment and subtracts money when he wants. I tried to do good but it's backfired on me. He even says it's his house because he gifted me a certain amount. Now I feel stuck. No one is appreciative of my sacrifices. I had so many dreams but all my hope has been withered. The good news is that the house is double family so I put the upper portion on rent but there's bills to pay and no one is taking full responsibility. 

So im 17 and my cousins are a few years younger then me and im seeing them for the first time in like 10 years tomorrow because of family issues and they are finally resolved now and one of them named Bia i used to stalk and harass on social media when i was in middle school trying to reach out and talk again because it was funny at the time and im worried its going to be awkward because ik she still remembers

I'm 27 years old I have my husband my son and live in my moms house in North Carolina we used to live in Cali. My mom coerced me and my family to move here she would tell us that without her help we would not be able to live in Cali since it's so expensive, at the time she brainwashed me and I believed eveything she told me. We've exhausted all of our savings and we have not been able to prosper. I told her i was going back we still have enough money to go back comfortably. We have contacted our previous employers and they would be happy to have us back. My mom started going hysterical she told me she has helped me so many years and how was I going to abandon her, she started insulting my husband telling him he has nothing to offer us and that his family was poor. She told me she couldn't believe i was preffering him over my own mother. She went on for days, till finally to shut her up I told her I wasn't leaving. Now I can stand her, I feel so much resentment and hate. She is always making comments on how calif is so horrible compared to here. Always making comments on how her friends kids are so ungrateful because they abandoned their parents. I asked my physician to get me psychiatric help because I feel so depressed and angry.  My mother has manipulated me for so many years so please be understanding how hard it is for me to just leave her.

My grandma lives with us and insists on cooking most dinners, as well as being the sole cook for family gatherings (she gets very defensive if anyone offers to help). The problem is that she always makes WAY too much food. Usually everyone has seconds and there's still thirds and fourths left over. She then complains about how "nobody ate" and is in a pissy mood for the rest of the night. Maybe just don't make so much food?!?!

My dad is such a beta. It's so annoying. He never stands in his frame nor doesn't put up with my **** tests. I want a dad who takes control and tells me when I am wrong and doesn't just walk into my frame.

I've struggled with this most of my life. I know what happened was uncomfortable and gross but I don't know how to classify it. I'd hate to say I was abused if thats not what this is. From the age of 7 to 21 my step father did things. It was small things, like comments or looks. - sneaking into my room on weekends before anyone woke up. He'd wake me up and massage my low back under my clothes and kiss my neck a couple times. Or he'd massage my chest above my private area. If he heard someone wake up he'd bolt out of the room. - He wanted to take me clothes shopping and asked me if I was going to model off any bras or underwear for him. -he wanted to take me places and not tell my mom - anytime I was alone and my mom was gone hed come fined me and just sit and try to massage me. - he looking under the door before I jumped in the shower, so I stuffed the bottom doors with towels.  - he was rubbing my shoulders once and reached down to grab my chest, i quickly jumped up - I don't remember him ever touching my private areas, be honest I don't really remember much when I was younger. It was always just stares or comments or uncomfortable touching.  My real dad is amazing and I have NEVER felt uncomfortable around him. I have always felt sick and uncomfortable around my step father. There's other things that happened but nothing absolutely horrible.. I'm 28 now and have a wonderful life, but something recently came up that triggered me to think about this more. What do you think? Apparently I need to say this. I just found out my sister was molested by someone else. I began to compare my experience to hers and realized what she went through was so much worse. It felt wrong of me to call mine abuse in comparison. That's why I'm here now questioning it. What happened to me was inappropriate yes but its nothing compared to her story. 

I went to my boyfriend's parents house for dinner and his whole family was there; aunts, uncles, cousins etc... and a few close friends (the house was packed). My boyfriend is the stereotypical German with blue eyes and blonde hair and his whole family is too. I moved to Germany a few years ago and I am a black woman with natural afro hair, brown skin and dark eyes. At the dinner table his aunt started talking to me and then everybody joined the conversation. She said to me and referencing my boyfriend 'You're so unconventionally beautiful and my nephew is conventionally beautiful'. It was a bit awkward, but I don't know what she means by this.  Should I be offended by this statement? Like, how would you interpret it? Is it a backhanded compliment? Or was she saying that because I am not white that I am unconventionally beautiful and don't fit in the European standard of beauty? Or is it that my beauty would be rare in German because of my afro features? I'm so confused...

I seriously can't live with my toxic family anymore. The coexistence has become unbearable. My father has been strict and severe since I was a child, every time I do something that isn't okay for him or I make mistakes, he insults me badly. He pretends he's the one being offended and then acts like nothing happened telling me that I'm his "pride". Also, when I was bullied in middle school I was in a very bad moment and all he said to me was that "he was mad that I didn't go to school". Sometimes he has hit me and also my mother. My mother has always been super intrusive, she judges and is obsessed with a lot of the things that I do. For example, lately I've started to eat healthier and she was like "you're so obsessive, you're gonna be anorexic" (even tho I have some extra pounds) and if I eat like I usually do she finds a way to judge it too. She always wants to be right even when I prove her wrong, she makes me feel like I'm the crazy one when we argue. I have an older sister (she's 20) , she's retarded and unfortunately our relationship isn't the best. She tried to choke me twice, she's really really intrusive and obsessive (and I seriously mean it) with me, she screams, complains, and acts like a brat 24/7, she's also manipulating towards my parents and acts like a victim and I can't take it anymore. I share my room with her so I don't even have my privacy, even tho there are 3 bedrooms in my house. When I tell my parents that I can't stand her behaviour anymore and... ..pray them to find some solutions, they just ignore what I say and change the subject. Of course my sister gets in the way, telling my parents to give me "calming pills", to not let me eat for a week and that they have to have me under control. My parents and I have argued many times and they have called me in so many ways: autistic, disappointment, filthy etc. They have admitted that they try to do their best and that they're not perfect. I have made my mistakes too reacting to their actions.. ..and I regret it. I know that there's people that suffer a way more than me and I don't know if this is considered abuse, but I know that I don't want to live like this anymore after all I've been through, I'm unhappy and I feel so powerless, is there anything I can do? 

He is asking for a peanut butter & jelly sandwich, and some clean underwear.  He said that he hasn't changed underwear in a week.  He called me on the phone and said "Mommy, my tummy hurts cause they ran out of food and my underwear is stinky. And you didn't get me anything for my 29th birthday."I explained that I can't get into the place where he is because of the barricades. That's why I can't get things to him. 

So I'm having a hard time thinking of a gift for my dad this year. My parents are getting older and have a big house filled with stuff from all their years of collecting, they plan to downsize eventually when my dad retires. Due to this they no longer want items that can't be consumed to add to things they would need to pack. They like gifts like food, alcohol, cigars that can just be used and it's gone. Ive already gotten my dad cologne, cigars, and alcohol this year, and i'm out of ideas. Also, the gift needs to be something I can mail because he lives a couple states away and I wont be seeing him in person that day.  

My girlfriend and I have been together now going on 5 years. She is the oldest of 4. She is first generation Nigerian-American. Great girl. Smart. Hot. The whole nine! The entire relationship shes lived at home with her parents and never once ventured off to live on her own. Her mom pays her car insurance, phone bill, was giving her an allowance at some point and gas money. I never questioned it because she said that "its her culture." "Its her culture" for the daughters to live at home until they're married. Mind you, her other siblings are in new York,  Dc and one of them barely talks to the mom although shes paying his expenses as well (he's 25)  and lives in the same city. Shes a nurse now and we're both 28 years old. We are looking to get a place together but now she's having second thoughts because she doesn't want to leave her, now divorced, mom in the house alone, granted our new place is 10 miles from her mom. Everytime I bring up the topic of her independence, its always "its my culture!" I'm tired of arguing about it. What do I do? What would you do? 

My sister came to visit from Tulsa on Saturday she's staying until Father's Day. My husband and I just bought a house outside of Atlanta. We've had some "unexpected" issues since we moved in.  its been an absolute nightmare since my sister came and I feel horrible. My husband is an "essential" worker and is unable to work from home to help out with things. My sister came Saturday. On Sunday and Monday I took her into Atlanta we did some shopping and sightseeing. On Tuesday the repair man was supposed to come replace our front door between 12-4 he never shows. We rescheduled for Wednesday between 2-6 again, he never shows. Finally today they came 8AM. My daughter also woke up this morning with yet another fever and ear infection so I'll be taking her to doctor this afternoon.  On top of ALL of this our AC unit broke and our attic is full of tons of water due to who knows what? So now, we called a roofing man and they are coming today my sister has to wait for the roofing man while I take my daughter to the doctor this afternoon. The AC unit the company can't come until MONDAY. They want to come late next week to possibly replace roof too if it's needed. I feel horrible we've done nothing but wait for repair men it seems. My sister even made a comment that maybe this was a bad time for her to visit and she could fly back early/come back another time. I've been crying in my bathroom because I feel so bad. Should I just pay my sister for her return flight and call it a day? 

how do i make peace with having a autistic son, hes 5 and his older brother 6 , lately ive been struggling making peace with it , and making peace with the fact that i wont be able te have another baby , before we found out he has autism we where really excited about having another baby ... i feel gutted ..but more i feel like a horrible mom 

My dad screams at me over ridiculous reasons. He yells at my mom alot too. When she asks him a question or requests during his alone time he says yes or no in a cranky tone. He hates having to repeat himself. If she didnt hear my dad correctly the first time when he was speaking he'll scream it loud enough for the nieghbors to hear it from outside. I'm not little anymore but I'm 13. Yesterday I was noticing my dads plate of homemade french fries he was taking to the livingroom because he likes to eat when he watches tv.  He scowled me for looking at his food DO YOU WANT SOME FRIES OR NOT? STOP STARING AT ME LIKE A FUKING DOG!  I told him nevermind after that. Was it really necessary for him to scream at me over that?  I tell some of our relatives about it but they always act like I'm bringing it on myself. They just dont understand because they dont live with him 

Ok so I just cought my dad watches porn.we're muslim.it's his time to pray as much as he can.but he doesn't do his namaz.and watches porn!! I feel so bad that he does it.tell me what I can do now

I have a Dad who stopped loving us.

So my husband has just offered to his grandma, who lives 15 mins away to be on call if she needs any help throughout the night. Thing is, he's offered this for my disabled wheelchair bound dad with dementia while my mom works night shifts, AND I'm midway through Pregnancy so feel a bit worried being home alone and not able to drive if anything happens. I cannot lift my dad should anything happen either, being pregnant. Am I just being over dramatic or selfish, or has my husband over-booked himself? Thanks. He offered the service to his grandma a couple days ago and has already gone out to get her medicine 30 mins away, which took 3 hours as she sent him out a few times, and now tonight it's 1am and my husbands just left to pick her up at the hospital 30 mins away as she had an accident and hurt her hand. 

My mom's never been emotionally available for me and I'm used to my mom hanging out with my big sister, talking with her about her problems every night, buying her expensive things, laughing at her jokes, and trying to be cool around her. She'll talk to me about how bad my grades are, but she's never really talked to me. Like I had to learn a lot about growing up, especially as a girl, on my own. Which a lot of kids do because I'm sure that talking with your parents about puberty and stuff is probably super uncomfortable lol. It's just that we aren't close. I don't think she's ever told me that she's proud of my accomplishments or hugged me. She posts about my big sister's lacrosse stuff every single day, but never anything about my basketball and choir stuff. You'd think that she'd just have one daughter if you just followed her on social media, not two lol. But now all of a sudden, she wants to go on walks with me and actually hang out. Like go get fast food and stuff. She even suggested that we get shaved ice after basketball practice tomorrow. Like we've had full conversations about her childhood and our favorite bands. Is there a reason why she's all of a sudden taking an interest in me? Is she just that bored during quarantine lol

Backstory: I'm 23 and my girlfriend is 22, we live in an apartment together, she is still studying and I'm working and she does not own a car but I do so I drive us around and she borrows my car when she needs to. The argument: I currently own a jeep wrangler and would like to downgrade to a smaller car like a vw gti. My reasoning is that I would like to save money by getting a cheaper car that I don't have to pay for every month, that uses less fuel and is cheaper to maintain. Besides from that I mainly use the jeep to run errands and only go off roading once or twice a year. The biggest advantage of the car is the large bootspace that it has so when my girlfriend and I go on a vacation/trip or travel to family (at least once a month) we can pack all our stuff plus our 2 cats. The jeep is undeniably cool but I'm just not using it for its intended purpose. My girlfriend really likes it especially for the bootspace and the style of it. She does not want to get rid of it and she really dislikes all hatchbacks which is the style of car I really want to get to save money.  The argument we are having is that her reasoning is purely superficial because she doesn't like the look, says it is claustrophobic and too many young idiots drive it. Am I being unreasonable in wanting to go against her wishes and get the cheaper car or does she have a right to say these things? Can any women in a relationship relate to this and give me some advice? 

I have these young people of today with every fiber of my being! Can you imagine how their own kids with turn out? LMAO  Hate not have Oh my humblest sincere apologies if the truth regarding your precious youth hurts.

i'm really paranoid, with all these tensions with china and russia and north korea hating us, i'm paranoid we will be nuked and be gone. Then all this racism crap with that stupid freak george floyd or whatever who indirectly ruined this country all because of a counterfeit bill, that those people might do something, i'm just paranoid and don't know what to do, please help

I'll start by saying that I lived part of my life in another country and came stateside as a preteen. I've never really felt that close to the family I had here in America and this quarantine forcing us together has exacerbated the feelings of dislike. Particularly with my mother. I'm finding that I can't stand talking to her anymore or being around her & I feel somewhat conflicted. Logically, I feel the relationship is supposed to be naturally strong. She birthed me & assuming she was a typical mother, any cries were soothed by her voice. But something isn't registering here. As time goes on I want less and less to do with her even though she is the closest person to me. That's quite a feat because as I've aged, I'm becoming very antisocial. As I've said this Corona virus has really put the relationship to the test and considering that it was never that strong, it concerns me. A mother is always depicted as the one you can talk to without fear of judgement. Your bestest friend and a confidante. My father is irrelevant and my brother pretty much is too. She's all I have and even that doesn't seem to be that important at this point & nor has it ever. WTH is going on? How can I fix this?

Because I do not trust my brother-in-law and I think he is cheating on my sister because he is nervous when he is at home and is on his cell phone and sometimes he makes excuses to leave

My sister posts really embarrassing things on Facebook. She is a big fan of this boyband and ships the boys together as romantic couples posting photos where they look like a couple and posting about fan fictions. Usually she likes her own posts and even comments under them because others don't. I've ignored it for a while now because I thought she would eventually stop but she is an adult now and is still posting them. I spoke to her today about it and I think I upset her quite a bit although she didn't show it, she just gave me her password to delete everything I thought inappropriate but she sounded sad about it. I told her she should post pictures of herself because she is a pretty girl and that she could make a fan account where people won't know it's her. She's agreed to it but she sounded miserable. I feel awful for making her do it, especially since I don't think she even realised that it was weird and I'm worried because her mental health is very poor. Was I wrong to do this? How can I make things better?

My nana is 72. Before she was diagnosed with cancer, she was healthy. She did yoga and took walks every morning. Most people who meet her think she's younger than she is! She was a school teacher and retired two years ago. She is a big part of my family's life and the lives of people in our community. My grandparents moved into our guest room because of coronavirus. I'm in high school and I love my Nana so much. I always liked visiting her but since she's been staying with us, we spend a lot of time together painting, baking, and cooking and I'm so happy to have her here. She talked to her doctor about just managing pain but she doesn't want treatment even though it has a 50/50 survival rate! I think she should fight it and even though they don't show it around her, my grandpa is upset and so is my mom especially, since she's her daughter. Sometimes my mom will randomly cry over my nana being sick. And I know sometimes when an older person dies, their spouse dies soon after. And I don't want to even imagine losing both of them right now. My Nana says her best days are behind her and she doesn't want to prolong her life, that she'd rather go and not have to suffer though old age. I asked her if she's upset about dying and she says she feels at peace with it and that she's lived a long good life. I don't understand how she can feel that way? My mom says I should let Nana do what she wants so she can enjoy her time left so I haven't said much but I'm tired of holding it in.

Now that I think back of it. I am really grateful that my mom kept me. She was 18 and dad was 20. They were freaking college students and barely had an apartment and it wasn't like they were religous. I really wanna thank my mom for not aborting me But I don't know how.

If you didnt have a dad around then who was a good male role model for you?