My mom was 19 when she had me. My dad was a few years older and both had some low salary jobs and in college. They had some studio too.

When I got out of high school, I had a hard time finding a job. I finally found a job with good pay and a great boss. I consider myself the luckiest girl alive. I just adore my boss. He makes coming to work a pleasure. One day in his office I say his high school graduation picture on his wall. I told him that my mom went to the same high school. He asked what was her name in school. When I told him, he said "I knew your mom in high school. I can see were you get your good looks. She was the most beautiful girl in the school." He said my mom had been homecoming queen 4 years in a row at high school. Mom had never told me that. I wonder why? He said "I would like to see her again to catch up on old times. Why don't you let me take the two of you to lunch some time. I said "great I will arrange it". When I told my mom about this she said she did not want to see anyone she went to high school with. When I ask her why she told me she had gained 10 pounds since she was in high school and didn't feel like she looked good. I told her 10 more pounds in 20 years and after 3 kids did not change her great looks. She still looked great. 40+ year old women am I right about this? How can I convince her she is still beautiful and should join us for lunch? I think it would be good for my career to have lunch with my boss and even if it doesn't, it seems like it would be fun. Moms, please give me some help with this.

She does this sometimes when she watches the show and she has done this while looking at Powerpuff (Powerzine) magazines. She likes Blossom. I find her staring at pictures of Blossom while she masturbates.

Theres a new 2020 iMac coming out later this month with a new design and I want one so badly so im planning on stealing from my dads wallet to get to 1000 over time as well as give my old stuff away and working for money, then buying it secretly and hide it from my parents, im 17 btw

I have long nails, I had accidentally scratched my sister when I was reaching my phone because I had her look at something on my phone but I had made sure that I had immediately apologized and she got mad and threw my phone across the room so I got upset and threw her laptop And then she kept talking about fighting me, making fun of me because I have a social anxiety disorder and depression and a therapist and that hurt me so much so I ended up getting loud then my dad jumps in and asks what happened, I explained to him what had happened then he's going to say "YOU THREW THAT EXPENSIVE LAPTOP" mind you my phone is as expensive as the laptop and he's turning on me. If she would have never threw my stuff I wouldn't have threw her stuff..I had even said sorry. Then my dad just kept yelling at me calling me a "crazy person" As if I purposely did it. I don't know my moms sides of the family so my dad and sister is all I have we are a very small family, my aunt had passed away so she isn't with us anymore. I don't have anybody to run to and I feel so alone. He always takes my sisters side in every argument ig because she has college offers and plays ball. He had always tried to force me to play basketball but I kept telling him I can't because I have anxiety and I'm scared of the crowds and he would always yell at me. It's hard to control anxiety.

My parents separated a while ago when my mum was pregnant with me I think, no one ever told me. I'm 15 now. For my whole life I thought they got into a lot of arguments and just didn't get along but last week my mum told me that there was another woman who was one of the reasons for their separation. My parents try to get along for me but they often get into fights when my dad is drunk. During one of these fights when I was 14 my mum told me they were engaged when they separated. I was seriously shocked because I never knew and felt a bit like I should have known. When I was talking to my close friends about their parents they both knew why their parents split. Is that normal? Do I have the right to know why my parents split up?

My son and his girlfriend were getting intimate in their bedroom (they're both adults) and were being loud, so my wife went up there to tell them to be quiet. It turned into an argument and at some point my son's girlfriend spit up this glowing neon-green liquid into my wife's face. It scared the crap out of her, but she doesn't seem to be hurt. I don't know what she spit on her though and am very worried. After that they were quieter. Also, before anyone says to kick them out, I can't put my son or his girlfriend out because we moved in with them after we retired to cut down on living costs. If anyone moves out, it would have to be us because they own the house, make the money, and pay the bills.

She is 9 and used to be confident and now she will not speak to anyone even when my family members speak to her 

I am legally of age to purchase and consume alcohol for myself, I'm responsible and well over the age because I'm a young adult. I have to mention background of the story; last year I started a conversation with my parents I explicitly told them I drink socially, like at a bar. Then my parents condemned me they were so frustrated, they quickly told me to never drink again for all time, and wanted nothing to do with my friends whom I drink with. And they involved religion into the discussion which I didn't understand. My parents never drink alcohol. They didn't even want to talk about it that's why I can't start that conversation again. This question also concerns the long term relationship with my parents because I want their blessings in my life. I also want to drink socially and responsibly. 

I grew up without my grandparents around and haven't seen them since I was a toddler and don't know why they are? So I don't get what's the big deal? **don't know who they are

We both live in different cities, and we just call each other over the phone for our birthdays. For the last couple of years, i have been tirelessly working on a book, and barely had any social life. I couldn't even work and had to rely on my savings. It was a really big struggle for me and exhausting 5 years of my life. About 2 weeks ago, i had finally finished the book i was working on, and as a way to celebrate this big moment of my life, and the beginning of a new chapter, i decided to make a trip to where to brother lives as i haven't been there in almost 10 years, and also while there, to buy myself a new computer. He lives in the big city. My birthday was also right around the corner, and that made the occasion ever more special for me. I really thought it was going to be a big and special occasion. I went to visit him on May 29th, and my birthday is on May 30th. Right of the bat, i got the feeling he didn't took this occasion as seriously as i thought he would. Since i don't own a car, i had to use the bus. When i arrived, he didn't seem excited to see me at all. Didn't even congratulate me. He wasn't even shaved!! He drove me around the city, and after i bought myself a new computer, we went to his home, they literally had to order a Chinese food!! No drinks for my visit, no nothing. Just cold water! No presents. Nothing. I stayed couple of hours, and then head back home. On one hand, i am happy for myself, but on the other hand, i kinda feel disappointed. It's not that i care about presents so much, it's just the fact that, it was a really really big and special occasion for me, and he didn't even give me a birthday present, or any present or gift as a way to congratulate me on this big occasion and the beginning of a new chapter of my life. Note that, we do see each other, it's not like we haven't seen each other for 10 years. He would occasionally come visit me with his family, and i would ALWAYS buy the kids a present, even when i don't have that much money. 

I know someone who when he was 11 his mom got so mad at him she threw him onto the bed he was standing still on the floor and she grabbed his arm and he lifted off his feet and landed on the bed. How could she do it? I've only ever seen people throwing people to the ground like pushing them down like in karate and martial arts never in the air they go flying onto the something.

Long story short, my mother who is in her mid 50s and doesn't have a lot of money, said she will spend $30,000 to be buried in a certain lot ( it's in Los Angeles), and includes casket and the funeral. To me that sounds crazy to spend that much and i suggested that she should get cremated to save money ( not for me. I have my own career, but I just hate seeing people ripped off) and she said that, "There s a chance that the $1000 will go up, which is stupid to me. But the questin is, am I being selfish or she crazy for paying all that money. I think she has a net worth of 150k( which includes her house). I would like your opinions! Thank you guys :)   P.S.She is making monthly payments that will add up to 30k, ITS NOT All at once.

My mother has had emotionally abusive tendencies for years. I'm not sure exactly when it started; I have vague memories of it from when I was very young, but it didn't become serious until around the time that her mother passed away; I think that that really changed her, and definitely not in a good way. I was eleven at the time. I'm fifteen now, and the situation has only gotten worse. Every time I've tried to sit down and have a genuine heart-to-heart conversation with her since then, it's hit the fan. She'll guilt trip me, gaslight me, insult me, and humiliate me in any way she can. I've learned my lesson now; I haven't initiated a conversation with her in almost a year. However, I've had a lot of time to think thanks to quarantine, and it's really gotten me thinking about how robbed I feel of a relationship with my mother. Long story short, I'm considering cutting her out of my life when I turn eighteen, but until then, I do want to at least try to fix things. On the other hand, my dad is an absolute legend. He's one of the most important figures in my life. Just last night, I finally came forward to him about my mother's emotionally abusive tendencies, and we're going to try to talk about it tomorrow. However, I don't really know how I'm going to do it. I have ideas written down, but it's not a very cohesive list, and I have no idea where to start. I definitely think he'll listen and try to help, but I'm having trouble figuring out how I'll get my points across. Advice?

Whenever my adult son and his mother argue, his mum will deliberately wind him up even more and keep ranting, so my son gets even angrier and upset. She knows he responds this way which is why she does it, and she deliberately tries to provoke him by taunting him about his past, things he does now, etc. I'm really scared my son could lose it and actually hit her. He already shouts in her face and verbally abuses her, but his mum doesn't care and just takes it and carries on ranting. My son is generally a really calm and nice guy, who's sociable and popular. But im really worried these arguments are getting out of hand in the family and the intensity at which they happen My son is generally a really calm and nice guy, who's sociable and popular. But im really worried these arguments are getting out of hand in the family and the intensity at which they happen Yes my son has done some bad things in the past, but now he's trying to turn his life around 

Hi. I'm 21, and find my anger unmanageable. I'm angry about my spring break trip being cancelled. I feel violently mad about not being able to have sex with my bf bc seeing him is impossible rn. I'm furious about not being able to do my internship in-person. I'm also socially isolated form all friends, and have to deal with my parents, both  make me miserable. My mom fakes illnesses, has erratic mood swings (calls me a dumbass for asking to buy paint, screaming, for no reason), then love bombs me. My dad is ridiculously racist, obnoxious, and cheats compulsively. She and my dad both make weird comments about how "mean" I am and make weird comments that are aimed to literally make me feel bad for existing. Once I took my phone out of its case, and my mom screamed told me I should go to a mental hospital. She gets anxious if I pee at department stores by myself. Once my mom confiscated my phone and made fun of how many guys were texting me and how much of a whore I was. I also got raped when I was 14 and she used it as leverage to not Let me do things bc I Was "irresponsible." On another note I'm also angry that happened and legitimately want him dead. I fantasize about killing him in different ways. The only reason he isn't dead is bc I don't want to go to jail, and I'm not confident I could get away with killing him. I was ignored by the cops who I reported this too.  I was also molested as a kid and never told my family for obvious reasons. When I needed glasses as a kid my mom thought I was joking and made up a huge, family-joke about how i made up needing glasses. My family is insanely negative and crap on every friend I have. I have no emotional control at all. A girl in my sorority made me mad so I peed in a bottle and sprayed it all over her bed sheets.  I recently got an A- in a class and had a screaming, crying fit. If I miss a few points for a class I scream about wanting my professor dead. I drink or do drugs to numb my feelings, to a lesser extent now but I've been close to overdosing at least twice. What's also infuriating is it seems people actually think my parents are good parents.  My neighbor suggested they write a parenting book on me, because I'm really successful on paper, great school, great resume, but again I self destruct 24/7, will have sex with any dude that gives me a small amount of attention (not now be bf), and have screaming fits of rage 

I am 30 years old have a career relationship, etc. I have a lot of cousin I know nothing about just because like my parents had problems with their parents but now as an adult I found some on social media and want to reach out and go get food for no reason. Is that normal? Lol I just want to meet other people in my family ?

Serious question.. This has happened so many times, I have a late 2006 20 iMac, a late 2006 24 inch iMac, two early 2008 20 iMacs, two late 2009 27 iMacs, and a mid 2017 27 5k iMac, and I use them all for different things such as games or schoolwork and blast music on which ever one im on and every single one of them now has at least one of the speakers buzzing loudly while playing music on full or near full volume, they didn't start that way but overtime that happened, I've replaced the internal speakers several times in some of the older iMacs but it happens again after a period of time and the buzzing is really loud and noticeable and really annoying

I have an emotionally abusive family member that i have to live with at the moment. How can i cut ties emotionally with them? Trying to come up with a plan. Thanks 

Any plans to cut mother off emotionally? She's emotionally and verbally abusive. I live with her and i need a plan. I try to find information on the internet but no luck. Everyone seems to think mothers are angels! Thank you in advance.

Hi. Im an 18 year old female and have an abusive and controlling mother. I really would like to move out, but i know that will take a few years since i have school. I have a job at the moment and I'm saving my money. How can i start to cut her off emotionally? I see her about the house, and she frequently tries to apologize to me after being verbally abusive by buying me food, giving me money, or some other tactic. Any plans or suggestions? Thank you so much in advance. 😊  Guys, please don't be judgmental. Even though she apologizes the point is the psychological turmoil. I cant take it

My aunt wanted me to go pick her up to buy a car. I told her yes but she needed to pay for gas because she's needs to got 4 hours away. I also said my uncle (her brother) can't come with us.   He's paying for the car for her.    Me and my uncle don't get along.   He was kicked out then moved in with my aunt. He constantly has an attitude, Started multiple physical fight's with me, treatened to hit my aunt and my grandmother, Acts like he's the only one who ever does anything.  He and my grandmother used to go shopping and he made her a 70 year old women carry all the bags (heavy bags) ad multiple other things. I don't want anything to do with him I want to kill him but don't do to the law.  My aunt knows this and yet when I said he can't come with us she say's forget it with an attitude and that you know he's paying for the car.  So also called my grandmother to yell at her about it. Does this make me a bad/selfish person because I don't want him around so I don't possibly go to jail if he starts again?

Llevo ya mas de 3 meses en cuarentena solo con mi hermana de 21 años yo tengo 19 y llevo toda la vuarentena sin follar a mi novia y estoy caliente puedo cogerme a mi hermana. Si lo hago pecaria?  Esta bien ante los ojos de Dios que me folle a mi hermana? Ayundenme con esta duda porfaaaaaaa.

So to be fair I don t see her very much. I m 22 and until back in October I lived with my grandparents. Well I was living with them I saw her once or twice every two to three months during the three years of her life. Now it s even less especially with Corona. I saw her at Christmas and she was super happy to see me and she recognized me she knows I m her sister. I saw her again about a month ago I want to say. We were wondering how many names she can match to the people in our family. There was a many people there just our grandparents are and and our cousin. She struggled and I learned that she doesn't know my name. She knows I'm her sister yet she called me Aunt Melanie and Grandma LOL is it just because she's young and doesn't really understand names yet or should I be concerned that she doesn't know my name

 She degraded me making fun of me to get a job and making herself feel important because she works at a bank. I decided to give her another chance and she just used me to her advantage and was very unpleasant and nasty to live with. She would throw clothes everything. Throw dirty masks and gloves on the floor her behavior was extreme and crazy to the point I said I cant live with her and I want her to leave after we decided to split a place. She made me cry more than one time and did many bad things in the past for example, almost leaving alone in the airport in Italy, alone in the train station i England. I really hate her and I have no family. I left the Uk to America do to covid 19 and now I am alone in America with no support. I want to go back to Europe as I do not feel safe and have nothing here. Did anyone else have a similar situation being alone without family. I have to get out of here.  My mother is a selfish narcisstic person and could care less and I do not speak with any of my family. It is obvious I made a mistake and I feel it is best I leave. I was going to make a business with my sister and move abroad but, she ruined that. I also helped her get two foreign passports and she just verbally abused me. I hate my family and I need advice.

My mum was abused by her mother growing up, mentally and physically. She is a self entitled, emotional mess than depends on everyone but herself. She treats my dad like sh!t eg. He brings her dinner to her on a tray every day but if he forgets one thing, she will make him feel like the dumbest person in the world. If ever she feels anxious, she will call me to fix it. If she provokes an argument with my dad, she calls me to fix it. If someone is rude to her, she calls me to calm her down. I've tried to reason with her and tell her than she needs to start depending on herself, but her reasoning is always "i could change if i had a husband That does___". She somehow cannot see that she is the only thing holding her back and she thinks it's everyone else's fault. I'm moving out soon and I'm terrified. I have 2 months left in my parents house and I'm so scared that she's really going to make my dad miserable. Most days I feel like the parent. How do I get her to understand how I feel? If I try, she usually gets defensive and starts talking about how I'm always against her and it ends in an argument. 

i'm 15 and i haven't spoke to my dad or any of his family since i was about 5. the backstory is that he was an alcoholic and abusive to my mum, the rest of his family either didn't care about me or believed that i wasn't his child. my grandmother (his mum) lives in the same street as my other grandmother and passes me in the street like i don't exist and she knows who i am. a few years ago when i was about 10/11 she wanted to start seeing me again but i declined bc i was angry at her. a few months ago my half sister who i haven't heard of since i was 4/5 dmed my aunty on my mums side asking if she could meet me, i declined again. after a few months of thinking i'm sort of regretting turning it down. one of the reasons i did was bc i felt like i would be letting my mum down bc she went through so much bc of that family. i've looked through my sisters instagram and she seems pretty normal (she's a lot older than me and has a husband and kids) she's a photographer and has a stable home. i feel like maybe getting in touch without any of my family members knowing bc i feel like they would be very confused with my decision. on the other hand i feel like i should wait until i'm 18 so i don't create an emotional bond and then be possibly let down again like when she stopped contacting me when i was young. what should i do? i need a clear head? 

Step mom died last month, just found out. Texted her last year that I didn't want anything to do with her because of how she treated me. Now I found out she died and I still can't believe it. I feel like crying but think of how she treated me-And don't cry. Keep asking family they all say she is dead. I know deep down she is but I can't believe it still. Inside it just feels like a hole. It's really weird. Make it go away. Why am I feeling funny? I haven't spoken to her in 8 months! It shouldn't affect me the way it does. She treated me poorly. If she was anything like a real mother she would have kept reaching out. Consistently. A mother never stops reaching out. I keep looking for proof that she is dead. I can't believe it.

I do not talk to my mom or grandma so how do I respond to the normal "how's your grandma or how's your mom"? Without being fake or with out being too dramatic. 

My family argues a lot. But I know that we've all made mistakes, including me. But my sister has a problem with guilt; she hates feeling it, + she gets angry at others for making her feel guilty(even if it's unintentional guilt). This means that when arguments about behaviour or attitude are centred around her, she becomes defensive, emotional, + usually ends up crying. If she gets a calm but stern lecture from our parents, she does the same. I'm afraid she will never learn anything if no one can talk to her about her mistake, + help her learn from it. It's gotten to a point where I'm really worried about it. For example: My sister expressed her concerns for my physical health since Im overweight. She asked me why I didn't eat right or workout. I told her that I tried many times, but it's hard for me to keep it up on my own. (It helps when she supports me, + offers to exercise with me, but I don't expect her to do all that cuz it's not her responsibility). She felt bad for me cuz she knows I want to lose weight, but she felt guilty + frustrated cuz she didn't want to help me. Again, I don't mind, OR blame her; losing weight is MY battle. But cuz she felt bad for me she started yelling + criticised me for not doing it myself. I never asked her for help; not since several years ago. I specifically told her that she didn't have to feel guilty cuz it's not her responsibility, + it's not even her fault. She was still mad, upset + almost started crying.  :( I didn't know what to do

I'm not a drug user so I dont know the effects of the drug. A family member told me they took 6 ecstasy pills and cant sleep. Now he is threatening to take 5 more. Will that cause him to overdose? What should I do he's not answering the phone? He just told me you cant overdose off of pills.

My brother who has never been a great brother, grew up to be a disaster, high school drop out, drug addict. I went off to college and met the amazing woman of my life. I am happier than ever. Sometimes I see my brother at family parties sometimes I just glance and say hi and other times he walks right by me, but is it sad I do not care? I figure I let him go crazy on his own and he did he carried that additude over to his job, relationship, friends and continues to do bad. Is is sad I truly don't care or feel anything? It's almost like whatever's?