I have been married for a year, we don't live together, he lives in the U.S, I live in Canada but work in the U.S till the immigration paperwork is filed, I have 2 children I support on my own. my monthly bills cost me about 2.5k. I have a well paying job, making 4-5k/month. My husband makes on average 1-2k/month and his monthly bills are $500. I have almost 200k in savings, my husband has 1k. I have very good credit, my husband has poor credit. Within the yr of being married my husband got himself in a mess where I spent over 10k just to help him out. He asked me to pay for his lawyer and was mad I didn't. He ripped $150 I gave him saying he didnt need it then asked me hrs later for more money. He asked me months later to put away 1k for him so he doesn't spend it. He told me he cant use his money and since I have money saved & make more money, I basically need to spend mine. So he wants to see me but wants me to pay for him to come and for me to pay for the hotel. Im getting really tired of him asking me to pay for things. I don't care to have a man with money but I want a man that can handle his own. Ive worked very hard in life and never asked or depended on anyone. I got with him knowing he didn't have money, that's not the issue. I know in a marriage there's no "mine" but The issue is I feel like im being taken advantage of. I pay to see him, I pay for him to see me, I pay for the hotels, I pay for the food. I told him im not paying for him to see me anymore. Am I wrong

A few months ago, my BF and I were discussing about marriage, moving in, etc. But then he said he wants to wait a bit. Then today, he asked whether my parents have asked when we are moving out. Does this mean he is thinking of next step? He hasn't even proposed yet?

How come mem never propose? Men.

About 7 months ago, I chose not to have sex with my wife when she wanted to. She was very pregnant and I wasn't in the mood. Since then we did not have sex. We were busy with life and never made the time. She recently told me that she has been upset about this but wants to get back to normal.  We are good now and the make up sex was awesome. We have busy lives with children so this was always in the back burner.  However, do women really lose interest for they long if they are offended? I'm my situation it was not on purpose. It was a lesson learned tho. 

I'm 21 and a male btw.

Wife wanted divorce because I was jealous and controlling said that she wouldntve wanted if she could believe I could get better and she was able to get oast our old toxic ways. Were trying out enhanced seperation and living apart for 3 months to see how time heals. Were both militaru and since we live so far away from home shes only got 2 friends she can goto. One is a girl whos married and she doesnt want to burden so shes moving in with a guy friend from work whos making her pay half the rent and half utilities. I feel so jealous and I need help! Her and her friends have told me that shes not into him at all and we agreed to be faithful during the separation. But I feel so overwhelmed with jealousy!

I've never seen someone so determined to get what he wants. I would've thought he would have found a girlfriend or someone to  occupy his time with by now. I mean it's been like 6 months. Why is he still tryin to toy around with me. Is he desperate for sex that bad.  My husband was very emotionally abusive controlling and toxic towards me for many years and for a long time I was depressed borderline suicidal until I come into contact with an old friend I had known since college  About 6 months ago I had an affair with that man that was emotional at first then turned physical and sexual. I didn't expect it to turn sexual but he told me he would stop being my friend and giving me advice if I didn't had sex with him. He said he wasn't gong to  continue wasting his time giving me advice. At the time I didn't have anyone else to talk to for comfort so I did something stupid. I made a huge mistake I think because I was vulnerable I thought I was in love with the other man so I told him I loved him and that I was going to leave my husband for him. My husband did a 180 on his personality and started becoming more kind affectionate and loving and stopped screaming at me and losing his temper. My friend accused me of wasting his time when I told him I was ending the affair. He told me that either I was going to have sex with him one last time or he was going to tell my husband everything. I said I don't want to cheat anymore and he said." Well give me &300 dollars then I don't have $300 either. I don't even work right now because I lost my job not too long ago.  So I've been trying to stall the time I told him I was going to be in another state for a month but what do I tell him when I get home. I really don't want my husband finding out. Especially since my husband turned over a new leaf and is in therapy now 

It's like he does it on purpose to make me smell his poop

They have a great relationship, he's made it clear they are completely over (more than 5 years), but I'm trying to decipher what's appropriate and what's not when it comes to that relationship. Just questioning myself if I'm overreacting to the situation and basically asking what boundaries should exist (if any) when it comes to family time and dinners etc.

If you are not a president, would you marry a beautiful woman like Melanie Trump?  but she is an ex playboy model.... would you?? I heard "Melanie" on TV... so Melania is the spelling of her name

My husband cheated on me 4 months in to our relationship (after a month of dating.) It was not physical, that I know of, having a hard time trusting that it wasn't. It was over text, with his cousin's wife's cousin. Unfortunately, that person is still actively involved in all family functions and a big friend of the family. My husbands grandma gives her clothes, concert tickets, etc after knowing about the involvement of her and my husband. It's hard not to get jealous, feel like I'm not wanted or respected in his family. I still blame him for it and some days are harder than others. We have been married for almost 2 years now, so this incident happened 3 years ago. I'm having a hard time getting over it… why do I still hold it against him after this long? Maybe it's because his family just found out about it. I just can't seem to get over it. I didn't know about the involvement until after we were married… his uncle was also trying to set him up with multiple women that my husband was friending on facebook after my uncle would "recommend them" when his uncle knew we were in a commited relationship. Is it wrong to think I deserve an apology from his uncle? His uncle doesn't know that I know about the text messages he would send my husband. I feel as if he went behind my back while telling me "you are the best girlfriend __ has ever had, we like you the best out of all" when he was trying to get my husband to meet other women and date other women. 

Im a whiteman and have been thinking to my self about racism, don't want to get caught out by the world going all pc!.. my wife is from somewhere in africa, so she is black. Is it racist that i have grown to get very annoyed at her over 27-30 of marriege, the marriege has really become quite bitter Not looking for councilling. Just answers.

I've talked to this man, on and off for years.He's 15 years older than I am, with 2 kids from 2 different women, and divorced once. I'm not even in my 30s. A few years ago, he offered to marry me to get my citizenship, to move in with him. I kindly declined because I didn't want to get married for the wrong reason and didn't want to live with any man yet. Fast forward, I accepted the marriage proposal, only because I saw him as my bff, potential soulmate. Well he responded: "After I get married, I'll get my citizenship and I'll leave". Those words hurt, specially coming from a person who has been extremely emotionally damaged, with a huge wall, who doesn't like to talk about feelings to anyone. I ghosted him after he said that to me. He tried reaching me multiple times and I just ignore him. 6 months down the road, I finally opened up to him about his remark and he stated that he never meant to hurt me. I've asked him if that's all he thought of me, that I would use him and leave. I am a hard working, single mom, with my own house, car etc. I've never asked any man for anything and felt disrespected by him. We started talking again and wants us to get married. At first I accepted again then declined again only because of his comments. He wants me to reconsider the marriage because he loves me. Part of me is telling me not to trust him. I invited him over my place one time because I was serious about him. Then one day he came unexpected to my place with his friend. I was mad

I feel like I am having the same sex everytime, front, back side repeat.I also make the same stupid noises. I want to make it more exciting. I feel like I can watch a sitcom during sex sometimes. What to do to make it more interesting

I have found messages in his phone from him seeking out escorts many times throught our marriage. He has met at them at many hotels, even one by our house. I initially caught him when I was pregnant with our second child. He begged cried and said he would never do it again. That was 3 years ago. It hasn't stopped. along with hitting me and choking me and calling me a *****. I have become the FBI when it comes to his phone and whereabouts. He comes home all hours of the night. What should I do ? I don't want to break up my family but this is killing me. I enjoy sex with him but it is repulsive that he is getting it from dirty hookers so I haven't been giving it to him. He is a good guy who keeps making horrible mistakes

The past 3 years have been a mess. We went through a bad financial crisis and it drove me to therapy. My wife does not like her job and is always stressed. However our kids are happy. We had to sell our home and move. We cannot buy another home for 6 months so staying at a relatives home which has been nice.  I want this stress to end, but it looks like it will be another 6 months. We now make good money and have been budgeting. My wife and I have not connected in a long time. We recently connected over the weekend and agreed we need to try harder and plan things.  Has anyone been through a total mess and got out of it while keeping the family happy? 

What does one do? Do you give up in your marriage? Do you just leave to continue your life looking for someone you can actually trust, that whatever you tell your husband it stay to him not his mother or sister or friends? It makes me doubt leaving because we have a child but damn it's been 3 years that we have been together and I've made the mistake of telling things and then his mother brings it up LIKE IF I HAD JUST TOLD HER!!!!!!! Is it normal and I'm just being picky???

We met two months ago online. At first, he was very reserved and I thought this would be a casual fling. W ha t started as a friends with benefits situation, turned into something more once he started sharing about his dying mother. She had stage 4 lung cancer and was nearing the end. But we began to go fishing together, and took weekend trip to just get away spend quality time. I knew he was experiencing anticipatory grief and he is a big support person to his family (younger sisters, Dad) I was there for him leading up to her death, and the last week he spent at her bedside at hospice---I would stop by to drop him off food, toiletries, and other essential/non-essential items he may wanted or needed. And to just hold his hand and give him a hug. His mom passed a few days ago. I told him I wanted to be here for him as a friend right now. I said that because I don't want him to think I have ulterior motives or expectations for him to focus on our relationship. With that being said, I do care about him and I was developing deep feelings for him as he became more vulnerable. But I feel a bit inept right now, because we hadn't established anything official. He is 39 and I am 37.  

I am 43, she is 34, we are successful and attractive people. Her sister, although very overweight, has learned many many wonderful woman's things to do to a man during her time in Austraylia. I will have her sister do these things with me because she has agreed to it for not much money if given permission bu her sister. Please and thank you.

This issue has troubled me in the past even before the pandemic. It still is troubling to me even when I know traveling is not in our future plans. My husband and I love to travel but because money has been tight we stopped traveling abroad. The last time we went to Europe as a family was in 2016. In 2018 and 2019 I had thought of traveling to Europe with my girlfriend who loves to travel too. My plan was to use some of the money my parents gave me. It would be on a mid-range budget, sharing an inexpensive hotel room with my friend for a week in one city in Europe. My husband felt offended and said I should take him and our two sons instead. I can't afford to spend all that money for all of us. Why can't he be happy for me? I see other women travel with their girlfriends and have me time. As I said, the money I will be using is money that is meant for retirement since I have been a stay at home mom for 20 years. This is the only time I'll use some of it. What do you think? Am I being unreasonable or is he?

I have a 3 year old daughter from a previous marriage and he has been in her life since she was 17 months old. At the beginning of our relationship I was up front with the fact that I wanted to get married and have children again one day. As the relationship progressed, he made a few comments like "Im gunna marry her one day" or "I want to have a boy so bad". I felt so satisfied by everything he said and thought it just came down to waiting for the right time. But recently he has said he isnt ever getting married and doesnt wants kids. We haven t really "talked" about it yet but all he has said so far is he used to have this plan and he didnt want to be past a certain age (24.. and he will be 25 in July) and now its all to late and he doesnt want it anymore. He says he loves me and my daughter so very much and we are his family but he doesnt want any more kids or to get married. And I felt my heart crumble.. we love each other so much and he is so good with my daughter. I just wanted yalls opinions before I actually sat down and talked with him about it. I love him so much and I dont see myself with anyone else.. but how do I move past the idea that unless I push the issue, he doesnt want that anymore? I just feel blindsided and confused and I really want another baby in the future. I want a baby with HIM in the future. But he basically wants everything to stay the way they are.. live in girlfriend with a toddler that spends half time with us and half time with her bio dad.

My husband, I, and our two teenage sons were playing this game called Speak Out. Two players wear mouthpieces and their respective teammate will guess phrases. My older son and I were on the same team and my younger son was with his dad. I was having a hard time guessing a word when the buzzer signaled time was up. Then my husband said aloud, "I could hear it clearly, it's navigator!" So he got the word right, but so what? He said it with such bravado as if he was part of our team when he should be focused on his own game with our other son. I was not even aware of the other team while they were yelling the words to each other but here was my husband minding the other team's game. So I am not sure what he's point was in saying that he understood the word that I was having a hard time guessing other than to show-off that his better than me. I said to him, this is not the time to show-off or feed your ego, let's keep this game clean. This annoyed me. According to him, it was just his spirit of competition that he said what he said. I don't get it. Shouldn't you be focused on your own team to be competitive and score points instead of being offensive to the other team? This man has been fired three times. He wants to force his insecurity on us by acting stupid and rude. 

My stepdad and I were just casually talking at the dinner table yesterday. My mom was ablut to go to sleep and told us that she was going to sleep. My stepdad then immediatly gets up and tells me that he has to go and please the wife. He came back in like half an hour and told me that it was really good.