Imagine having a huge wedding planned and having your heart broken that it couldn't happen. Or imagine having to tell your kids and grand kids and friends that you got married in the worst, most despicable, disastrous year in human history. Who would want to remember that.  Well Thankfully I'm single and don't have these problems hehe, I love this new normal that allows minimal socializing and not having to see weddings on Facebook and instagram for the foreseeable future. I'm so thankful that I dodged a bullet and don't have to have my heart broken this year because of a cancelled wedding, because I've already had my own heart broken millions of times.   But really this is by far the worst year in human history and I want to kill myself because of it 

The bride-to-be and I haven't seen each other in seven years and have only talked on Facebook a handful of times since then (with years in between those conversations). I got married in 2015 and did not ask her to be in my wedding; she was invited as a guest, but didn't show up. It's not that we had a fight or anything dramatic like that; it's just that we grew apart. I got into a serious relationship that led to getting engaged and buying a house, and she was still wanting to spend weekends bar-hopping and surfing Internet dating sites for the next Flavor of the Week (she was also inclined to hang out with teenagers, even though she was in her early 20s). I was also holding down a full-time job; she was kind of a perpetual "student" (enrolled in college, but not really going to classes). I've since had a baby and feel like that just put even more space between us, because it's just brought on a whole new slew of experiences that she can't relate to. I kind of just feel like a maid of honor is supposed to be someone who is super close to the bride and will be just as excited as she is about the wedding...and I just don't feel that. Yes, I'm happy for her...but I can't say that I feel close enough to her or excited enough to be happy to shell out $$$ for a dress, shoes, hair, makeup, and a bachelorette party (she's the type who would want a weekend away in a fancy hotel doing fancy stuff, which I definitely cannot afford). How do I turn her down?

Can you tell me or recommend places to get married in New York City or nearby? (places where you can celebrate the wedding ceremony). I'm not interested in glitzy, extravagant or luxury places but I'm interested in a place that is romantic.