I was talking to a fellow new classmate, who just joined our university. New student. I wanted him to feel welcomed and befriend him, being new especially during a pandemic breakout is rough. Than started making weird comments about my body shape. Say "how good guys want to bang and are looking". I don't feel like he's looking out for me. Now I'm uncomfortable. I run into this problem often. Sorry I have a body. I guess I should just wear a curtain.  I need to stop being so nice and passive and be more rude to people treating me this way. What are your thoughts?

Everyone says pictures aren't real life...but I don't know how to believe it. I've struggled with making friends my whole life. It hurts to see people posting pictures of their fun adventures and social gatherings with their friend circles. It hurts to see people make posts on how much they love their BFFs like family, how they will be with their BFFs till they die, and how fun their adventures are with their BFFs. It hurts to see people post screenshots of their hilarious group chats or individual text messages. It hurts to see people post pics of their wild bachelor(ette) parties and a million groomsmen and bridesmaids. It hurts since I'm too incapable of making social ties like that - even introverts can make BFFs and maintain an active social life (with fewer people).

Those who won't make me turn against anyone. 

I ended a friendship a couple of years ago(in highschool) in a really bad way. I had a friend, let's call her Maya, who I was really close with. We would facetime and text a lot and were inseparable in school. We were close friends for almost a year, but over the summer I started to become close friends with Maya's close friend, Emily. I used to previously envy Emily, but we spent a lot of time together over the summer and had a lot of common interests. Fast forward to November/October of 11th grade where Maya got a little distant with Emily and I and started shying away. It started in September, but we thought it was because of the SAT. We tried to stay in contact but Emily was done with the friendship and she started back talking Maya. I took no part in this but I stayed friends with both of them and neither of them liked it. My schedule made me spend more time with Emily and I slowly started to drift from Maya, but I tried to stay friends. Maya didn't return the effort that much but once or twice a week she went back to her old self. I slowly drifted from Maya and a couple months later I heard that she talked **** about me and said she used me to be friends with Emily again, to Emily. I never cut her off or discussed things with her but I feel really guilty and don't know if I was the problem not Maya. I had given her 4-6 months but she only started to try in our friendship after we became distant. I don't know if I was wrong- please be brutally honest!!

I stopped talking to my friend about 6 months ago, we've been friends since we were 11 but as we've got older our friendship has changed. I have battled with an eating disorder and anxiety for the past 4 years and I was finding when we met up we ended up talking about it the whole time the past 2 occasions because i didn't know what else to talk about. I just spoke to her on the phone because I had left it way too long, but she said she can't trust me even if we did resume the friendship and doesn't think the friendship will ever be the same. We left the phone call with the ball in my court as to what i want to do but i'm not sure, help?

I'm not sure if I'd consider myself anorexic-- but I go days without eating, count calories, and I'm obsessed with not eating and losing weight. My friend is one of the only people that knows about this, yet she gave me a big bag of Reese's Peanut Butter Cups as a gift (they used to be my favorite candy.) I feel like a brat, but I can't help but be kinda mad that she would do this. I'm just gonna give it away or throw it away. I feel like she's mocking me or something, even though I know she's not. I lost only 15 pounds so far. I am 5'2 and 103 pounds though, so I am not underweight. 

Back in November 2018, one of my best friends from college asked me a month in advance if she could stay with me one night the weekend of her sisters wedding (in my town). Not having many friends there at the time, I gladly said yes and was looking forwards to hanging with my long lost bestie. However, the day that she was supposed to come she ends up getting sick and then i end up not really hearing from her. She completely blew me off. She used me as a plan B incase her sister didn't end up following though. Basically that was the end of our friendship. However, I've seen her once (one of our other friends tried to get us together to mend the friendship) However, she never ended up apologizing. I found myself apologizing for making her feel guilty about choosing her sister on her sisters wedding weekend. Since then she's messaged me a few times but I still haven't received an apology. Anyways this said best friend is getting married this December. At one point, I thought I would be this girls maid of honor. Now I'm even debating going to the wedding. Would you go if you were me?

I use to have a best friend but yeah that didn't end well Lol, basically my questions is. What's the easiest way to make good  friends? Cause it's always been hard for to make friends that will actually last :/

I've never in my life had neighbors this rude. This women never says hi or waves, anytime shes outside and i come out to get in my car, she runs back in the house and slams the door. I sometimes say hello to her just to be kind, she NEVER replies and neither does her husband his face just frowns up. But they talk to my other white neighbors. Honestly I have never met anyone like this before. Majority of people i come across are very welcoming and warm I'm not intimidating or anything i'm a small 5'0 girl which lets me know they are simply just racist individuals. What do you guys think should I avoid them like they avoid me or continue being welcoming and waving? Before giving advice please read everything ^ thank you💗

My ex-best friend just tells my secrets and problems I told her when we were still friends. What am I supposed to do?

Like someone who had his buttcheek to get amputated after a disease or accident.

One of my friends began work as a learning support assistant (for contex this all took place pre Covid 19 pandemic). She is a lovely person who gets along with her students, however she has had a recurring conflict (one sided on the teacher's part) with one of the maths teachers at her school  This teacher calls her out in front of the girls constantly and apparently undermines her authority constantly. The teacher in question has had a history of doing this to other teaching assistants at this school. It got to the extent that she filed a complaint about this teacher's behaviour. The next day after she did this her boss speaks to her at the end of the day and says that another teacher (in another math lesson that she supported) had come to her to tell her that she (the second teacher) did not think that my friend's math skills were good enough to support the girls. My boss told my friend that apparently the students were beginning to catch on that my friend was not confident in maths and were beginning to "take the Mick" out of her. The school then requested that she uses her time out of lessons to study for a math test that they would have liked her to take in the summer (now not going ahead due to the pandemic). This whole incident made her feel down and made her question her role at the school and her niche. I believe she wants to leave to peruse an MA in her passion, but I fear that she is lazy and lacks the capacity to take responsibility for her actions like an adult.  She needs to learn how to take criticism and not run away from her responsibility like a child. Her students seem to love her but she does not see this. She needs to learn how to buckle down, get on with things and survive in the real world. Because of this, I honestly doubt she will pass her MA unless she gets a grip 

So long story short, my so called best friend started living with me a month ago. She started seeing my boyfriend's best friend. We all now live together. I've caught her contradicting herself in stories of where she was all day and where she gets things, but I've never said anything. At this point I just assume everything that comes from her mouth is bullshit. So anyways yesterday was the biggest red flag. She's got this "friend" who gives her money and free weed and accessories. She showered and put on LOADS of perfume before going out with him. She said he swung by because she won a raffle that he put her name in. Then the story changed to how she forgot she filled out a survey 2 months ago. Then it changed to how she filled out some little slip at the smoke shop 3 months ago. She showed me all the stuff and there's no way. The grinder had scratches and was already used. The backpack it came in was lightly used but def not new. Now my dilemma is, do I tell her boyfriend this sketchy business? Because he's also my friend and what she seems to be doing is wrong. But I don't have solid proof that she's done anything wrong. Just the fact this same "friend" of hers thinks they're dating (he's messaged me).

I've seen people two girls lifting another girl by just her feet they each put their hands under her feet and lift her. How can they do it? one girl has both her hands under her foot and another girl has her hands under her other foot and they lift her.

Hello, for the last few days my best friend has been talking to me coldly and talking warmly to all these other friends and when I ask him why he talks to me like that he says that he talks to me the way I talk when it's not even true I thought I had solved the problem but he goes on what should I do? In the end we're no longer friends, but thanks for your advice!

... therefore making the boy they're hanging out with, feel like chopped liver?  Keep in mind the two girls are his friends.  But even though he's not trying to get with either of them, they are both pretty in his opinion.  Regardless, should they stop fawning over boys at school while hanging out with a boy they think of as just some ugly nobody they're cool with? FYI - one day after school, the boy and one of the girls were hanging out at the bus stop with one of the popular boys.  Gradually, the bus stop became less crowded, as the kids from school were getting on the bus.  So all that was left at the bus stop was the girl, her ugly friend, and the popular boy.  She then looked around at the deserted bus stop and said, "What happened?  All the cute boys are gone... except for YOU" as she looked at the popular boy who was still at the bus stop, but she didn't acknowledge her ugly friend who was also standing there. Was that inconsiderate of her?

so i've had this bestfriend for two years, and recently she's been getting on my nerves a lot and i'm not sure if i'm just being dramatic and nitpicking it or if she's starting to be toxic. she has always kind of made fun of my style, personality, stuff i like/do and i've always brushed it under the rug and just laughed about it. but i've noticed that after she insults me about something she proceeds to do the same thing right after?? example: she said my jeans looked ugly, got the same pair a couple days after. i could list about 100 times she's done this from room decor, the way i style my hair, the way i dress, my personality, and so much more and i dont want to sound like an egotistical ***** but its starting to really annoy me. sometimes if someone annoys me ill tell her about it and then if that person talks to me she'll call me fake. and theres a huge difference from being mature and tolerating a person when they are bothering you and simply being fake. and its funny because she'll do the same thing and not see a problem with it. she also brings up stuff i tell her not to bring up because it reminds me of a time i wasnt in the best place of my life, then knowingly continues to do so. i really dont want to lose her because she's stayed with me through really hard times and has been there for me, and i know she's not just some asshole, but im not sure what to do now. any help i would appreciate!

I had a good friend I met at swimming camp who was visiting his aunt during the summer who lived in Livingston County, and I lived in Barry County, Michigan. My town of Hastings, was named after a famous battle, and his town if, well, Hell, was named after something else. Why did people not from the area think it wasn't O.K. at the end of summer, too wish him well, and go too Hell?

So basically I unintentionally called this guys friends assholes and him fat. The first one I was referring to this drama I had between them, and once he seemed concerned I blew it off saying, "oh I don't care they were just being assholes." And he got defensive. The second part in the call he said he was Serbian and I did a dumb fact like "oh did you know they are known for being fat." I feel like I really offended him and am a bad person.

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Hi! I was having a conversation with someone and I accidentally called them fat through a fact. I said "You are Serbian oh also did you know they are known for being fat." (In reference to obesity rates) It definitely came across as completely bad and I feel so bad. They didn't seem offended. Then later on I explained about some old drama and he asked if he wants to talk to them. I said no I don't care they were just being assholes. He said that they aren't assholes and got defensive and I just said that nonchalantly. I feel so bad and I hate myself to a different level.

Since quarantine began, in March, my roommate and best friend has turned into someone I don't know nor love. For a little backstory: My friend and I really began our friendship by becoming roommates out of convenience. I needed a place, and she needed to fill a bedroom. For the next year and a half, we became really close! Always there for each other, and even my family loved her, calling her the sister I never had. During this time, we pretty much never fought and I thought that was too good to be true, and I guess it was. Then her long-distance boyfriend of 2 years cheated on her, (and honestly she had cheated on him first), she dropped out of college (again), her family member got cancer, and quarantine hit. She was down, and I knew that! Ever since I met her, I knew she struggled with self-confidence, something I think she envied me for ever having. However, I never ever would purposely make her feel down, but more so do everything I could to make her see the amazing person she is. As we were stuck in our apartment together, she needed to go through a lot of self-discovery and self-love, and it definitely felt like she was starting to get somewhere. But then... (due to word limit, I've attached a photo to continue the story)

Disclaimer: don't read if you're depressed or have self harmed. Hi guys, I recently finished my first year of university and a lot happened that effected me emotionally. I had a lot of trouble being being my authentic self and make and maintain friendships. A lot of people that I thought were my friends unfollowed me on social media and they stopped saying hi to me in the hallways. I don't know what I did wrong. They don't talk to me like they used to last year in my old program. Even when I try to say hi to them. I cried so many times at school because I felt excluded. It's like high school. I don't really have any real friends at uni and my old friends that exclude me now do.A lot happened to me during the year that made it hard for me to really hold it together this year. I became so closed and stressed. Not myself. At the beginning of the year my ex broke up with me and two weeks later I found out he was cheating on me with someone I knew. My brother was self harming and had to be sent to a hospital as an inpatient. Also I have an alcoholic parent and I stay home for uni so it's hard with this too. I know this is heavy so I apologize if it's too much. Im just wondering how to deal with the people I thought were supportive of me but turned around when I don't know why. Cause I was always nice around them.  Im working on becoming happier myself and I've been getting stronger but thinking of them makes me so stressed. I have anxiety about going back to school. Pls help?

My best friend and I have known each other our whole lives (23years) we went to school together and basically lived at each other house through high school 😂 she has an older brother (27) & him and I have had a great friendship, the corny big brother, save me at 2am from disaster kind of thing. The last few months he has been around to help me through a lot in my life & the other night things got a bit hot between us.. like crazy couple hours of hot ... when we woke up we agreed we shouldn't do it again and not to tell my best friend/his sister... but it didn't stop, and we still haven't told her but would you want to know? If your best friend was sleeping with ur brother would you want to know??? 

I was bullied a lot in school because I was weird or I like to call myself unique. This girl used to bullied me and we shared the same friend so I felt like we were fighting over a friend. She talked behind my back and once I had enough so I was trying to fight with her. Years later, I am finding out she named her daughter after me. I HATE the fact that her daughter has the same name as me. Why would she do that? her daughter is pretty but I wish she named her daughter something else. I am someone who hates it when people copy me either my style or everything, I hate it when I am being copied because I like to be original. Being original is the only thing I have. I have a friend who loves to dress like me, choose the same career as me and even got hired at the place I worked in. Why people can't be original? I hate to follow someone else's footsteps. Why people can't make their own goals or plans and have to follow other people?

I alway had issues with this idk, it's my social anxiety I guess 😂. But when I'm out with friends or small/large group of ppl I don't know if I should be the only one to say "Can I get a Separate check plz"? I like to let this be known because if you don't the waiter might put everyone's meal on one bill. If that happens everyone is going to have to figure out how they going to pay for this and split all different types ways and this can become a disaster really quick😞. To avoid this I like to get a separate check to save myself frm issues. Is it weird to be the only one to ask for a separate check? Asking because I hate to be singled out or embarrassed. Does anyone agree or relate?

Obviously not just for no reason I did it.