Hi, So my brother is marrying my sister-in-law and I'm currently 4 hours away at college working and doing online classes. I'm studying to go to medical school so obviously I cannot be at home a lot. I would say we have a great relationship as I have babysat my nephew sooo many times, we went on vacation together, and she's basically been my sister. Surprisingly, she asked me to be a bridesmaid and asked if I would be mad about it. I told her no but in reality I was a little sad and was curious as to who it was. I called my mom and told her about it and realized that my cousin (who gets everything handed to her from her dad passing away) would be her maid of honor. I was not mad but just hurt that she did not pick me. So, of course, my mother called my sister-in-law and told her everything I said and so my sister-in-law called me back and said: "Your mom got mad that I wasn't picking you so you will be my maid of honor, I am not mad about it but I just wanted *my cousin* to be it since she is helping me out more"  - I cannot help that I actually have a job and school though!! My cousin has anxiety and depression and already expressed how she is not comfortable making a speech. So how is she supposed to be the maid of honor?? I told her to pick my cousin if she really wanted and now I just feel guilty. What should I do?

My girlfriend told me that for our wedding she is going to invite only her parents and some friends of hers, no more than 10 people. I was like, what? What about your family? She has so mamy relatives. She said they are strangers to her. I said... what about your aunts? I know she has many aunts. She said she couldn't care less, that when she was a child they treated her bad cause she was foreign while the aunts had married local western men, so their kids were wasp and she was not. When I insisted she got mad and almost cried cause I asked her are you really sure about not inviting them? She said how am I supposed to invite people who made me feel so bad? She also said all her relatives are friends with each other except for her. She is treated like she is outside of the family. I am going to invite so many people, my family was always big and loud and I'm just sad about her decision

I really love spring wedding colors.  I would like to do a light pink or a light blue with lots of greenery and some hints of gold.  However, it would be just so much more convenient for my fiancé and I to get married in the Fall due to both our schedules.  We have VERY hot summers where we live, frequently exceeding 100 degrees during the day, so summer is out of the question.  I would also prefer not to get married too close to Christmas because both our families are big holiday people, and I don't want us to get so wrapped up in Christmas and New Year's that we don't get to enjoy our wedding anniversary much or have it be mixed in with Christmas celebrations.  Will it look strange if we choose to use spring colors in the fall?  Will our flower/greenery options be limited if we are looking at softer colors like light pink, light blue, and white?