Next year she'll have her senior years at school and we are planning to get married. What should she say? That we love each other? We are not religious yet I decided to marry her because last time, we had sex, it was her first time, it didn't go the way I planned it (although we kissed a lot and hugged a lot, my girlfriend broke down crying while I was holding her tight in my arms and asked me if I thougutshe was dirty or a bad girl for having lost her virginity to me), I was so heartbroken seeing my girlfriend crying that I promised to marry her if that made her feel better and sure about us as a couple. Her face lit up and she was so happy about us marrying and she felt relieved. Now, I still want to marry her but I wonder how. I don't earn much, my girlfriend  is 17 and wants to study, her mom thinks who make love before marriage are s****, I have no family, I am alone, I don't have the money to pay for a party and guests. I just... I feel so bad. I still want to marry her though. If we get married she won't be upset about this virginity issue. But what if her classmates ask her about her ring? What will she say? No one gets married so young. And we aren't mormons or muslims or whatever. I don't even give a damn about the church. I just do it cause I love her.

My fiancé and I are currently wedding planning, tying the knot this year. Although this should be a happy time in our lives his mother has seemed to ruin that. She has given her option on just about anything and everything. From my bridesmaids, bachelorette party, wedding registry, etc. She has completely shot down every idea I've had and express how awful it is. For instance she offered to help pay for the rehearsal dinner, that turned into also helping plan, and now I completely have 0 say in the dinner entirely. She texted me stating "let me remind you! The bride and brides family has NO say in the rehearsal dinner. Your day is the wedding not the rehearsal dinner." Excuse me? Both days are OUR days, we're celebrating our marriage. We wanted a simple backyard dinner (taco man) with close family, but apparently that isn't up to her "standards." Most recently, she gave her opinion about something else and that turned into a huge ordeal. I'll save you the time... She needed up texting my MOH (his niece) that she didn't even want to go to the wedding anymore & I'm a "stupid b*tch." I expressed to my husband-to-be that he needs to put his mother in place. But he insists he's spoken to her and she will not change her ways. I'm not sure if my feelings are more hurt that she would call her future daughter-in-law a "stupid b*tch" or that my fiancé won't go to bat for me. Don't get my wrong, he has before but I think she's crossed the line this time. Idk if I can handle much more.  FYI- she isn't paying for our wedding! We are paying for everything besides the rehearsal dinner. I've expressed to my fiancé that I NOT want her paying for our rehearsal dinner but she insists on paying and won't let us. She "wants to do something nice for her son."