Family: Question: Am I a jerk for sending this message to my cousin?

Question: Am I a jerk for sending this message to my cousin?

Posted: 25 Jun 2020 12:49 PM PDT

My little cousin was asking where babies come from so me, being very literal, and sexually explicit sent them this message "One night your parents got very horny, so yohr dad put his penis in your mom's vagina and nutted. She accidentally forgot to put a rubber over her vagina to not get the *** inside her, so nine months later you popped out of her coochie in the mist of her pain and nervousness."  I got in trouble, why? 

Question: How do I deal with my helicopter parents?

Posted: 25 Jun 2020 12:48 PM PDT

Both of my parents are very attached to their cultural beliefs. Before anyone answers with 'talk to them,' it really isn't that easy because it is ingrained in their heads that they are right. Here are a few examples of what I deal with; - I have to ask them for permission before making a decision. E.g. if I am buying something (even if its with my own money) I bought a laptop not long ago and he argued with me – his first question was 'why didn't you ask me?' - I get approx. 8 check-up calls during the day when I'm out, sometimes higher - When I'm out after 6pm, I get calls asking to come home - At times my mum encourages me not to work because its hard - I had to encourage my parents for months to be able to move to a city 1 hour away for university – they wanted to me to go the uni in my city. - Because I was going to another city, my parents decided to tag my brother along with me. - I wanted to go to dorms originally, my dad didn't allow me to and when I tried looking for a flat/property of my own desire, he didn't allow me to and found a house for me himself. - I'm not allowed to go on holiday at all and, if by any chance they ever said yes, they won't let me go without my brother - I wanted to take a placement year in another country for university – absolute nono for them - There have been times where my mum has been listening to my phone conversations and questioned me after hearing things I wanted to keep private from them Oh and I'm 21 years old.

Question: Any one else’s parents slobs?

Posted: 25 Jun 2020 12:34 PM PDT

My parents are slobs that won't clean the house any one else have lazy parents that won't clean up after themselves 

Question: What do I do?

Posted: 25 Jun 2020 12:33 PM PDT

My grandma changed my name. It was because of family issues (my mom's family is dangerous to be around and my dad's is much better and more fun). I was around 13 years old I think. I know it starts with D but I forgot the letters in between. One of my friends asked me what it was but I couldn't tell her because I don't know it. I just told her I didn't have a middle name. I know I'm kind of slow (I'm in special ed for it), but I really do not know. I would ask my grandma, but she would hit me if I act stupid. Like the time I accidentally let my brother steal my game she hit me. Not like abuse but more of a small slap on the face. Because of that I don't want to ask her. My uncle also called me Retarded in front everyone and said she was joking, but then he said it again. My family thinks that I'm slow and because of that it's embarrassing and frustrating to ask anything, especially about my own name. I don't know where my birth certificate is or anything so I can't find it.

Question: I shouted “second cousin” while my sister had me in a headlock, but she wouldn’t let go.  Why does she ignore my signals??

Posted: 25 Jun 2020 12:11 PM PDT

My neck is in a lot of pain because my sister won't listen to me when I shout the password: second cousin.  Instead she keeps me in a headlock.  Why won't she play by the rules? 😡 

Question: My sister is cruel to me and so my mother wants to stay away. What do I do?

Posted: 25 Jun 2020 11:58 AM PDT

When family is in town my mother asks me not to join the get together because it will make my sister mad.  She doesn't blame for anything but just says she wants to keep the peace.  For example I missed Thanksgiving last year. 

Question: Why do women get away with abusing their sons in the United States?

Posted: 25 Jun 2020 11:14 AM PDT

Question: Help! Guilty father syndrome dad who is a compulsive liar, and bio mom is a narcissist create defiant child and I'm in the middle.?

Posted: 25 Jun 2020 10:59 AM PDT

Please, I'm begging for help. I have been in SS life since he was 3 he is now 12. His father and I have a 5 year old together.  SS mom is done with the kid and abandons him with us whenever she can't take his behavior anymore. I believe he has ODD, but no one will get him into therapy.  The problem is not so much the child, becasue he is a child. The problem is both his parents have serious issues and are selfish and when bio mom drops him off angry at him, she calls me and blames dad for childs behavior. Dad coddles the child even though his behavior has been unacceptable, and blames bio mom for all the kids problems.  It is both their faults. But they are too selfish, immature and arrogant to see their own faults and the problems they have caused. Meanwhile the step child is destroying my home, hurting his little brother, making my bp skyrocket and I cry all the time with the stress of it all.  I am being robbed of my life and happiness. I have asked bio dad to take him with him to his Papas house right down the road and stay there but he refuses. I have no where to go with my son like that. I am beyond exausted. Bio mom calls me threatening to take his dad to court unless I do something to fix their problems. My husband never does anything to protect myself or our son from her. He does not parent, instead just plays on his phone in the bathroom for hours.  I am in hell. I see no way out. Please help.

Question: Is there anything that can be done in this situation? Please help?

Posted: 25 Jun 2020 10:40 AM PDT

So I walked to the mall to pickup a new laptop for almost 3000 dollars because i live walking distance and i picked it up and started to walk out of the mall and on my way home, someone ran by me and grabbed my computer bag and ran off with it and all my money is wasted and i can't track it because it's unopened, is there anything that can be done

Question: How did you deal with a child's 1st temper tantrum ?

Posted: 25 Jun 2020 10:32 AM PDT

My daughter was not quite 2 when she had her first and last temper tantrum, lying on the floor arms and legs moving wildly, screaming and yelling...   I wasn't sure what to do so I had a tantrum with her.  It got quiet so I looked over at my daughter who was sitting and staring at mommy with a very strange look on her face...I asked her if she wanted lunch and it was never mentioned again. 

Question: Have you ever struggled to tell an elderly parent or other relative that their house is probably too much for them at the current time?

Posted: 25 Jun 2020 10:32 AM PDT

Both of my paternal grandparents are still alive, and they have 2 houses, both of which are 2-story. Both grandparents have trouble going up the stairs now though, so my dad and my 3 uncles have all told them they should sell their main house and move to a single-level house (they say it's easier for them to get upstairs at their weekend house). My grandfather sounds like he'd be open to it, but my grandmother is firmly against it because the house is like her domain. It's where she's had her estate sale business for decades, where her 4 sons were raised, and so many Thanksgivings in the books...my dad says it would probably take the passing of either her or my grandfather to get the surviving one to move. And he's probably right. But if my grandfather is the first to pass, I have a feeling it will be a big battle getting my grandmother to move. And BTW, they got a stair lift recently but my grandfather refuses to use it no matter how bad his knees are.

Question: Is it ok for your parents to tell you who and how you can be in a relationship?

Posted: 25 Jun 2020 09:45 AM PDT

My parents are super controlling and threaten to disown me if I don't live my life in their way. My dad has mental/anger issues. For example; if I had a boyfriend I can't go on holiday with them. Plus he would have to be a certain race as they don't want me to dilute the bloodline. I love my parents but I'm not sure they really love me/have my best interest. I'm in my 20's FYI. Btw, I've tried to talk about this with them many times but they just ignore me/walk away. 

Question: What the hell ?

Posted: 25 Jun 2020 08:56 AM PDT

My male cousin gave his girlfriend a new car for free just cus she said she wanted a new Mercedes for Christmas I think his a huge simp and now she's treating him like a doormat in front of the whole family lmao. He needs to grow up and be a man don't y'all think 

Question: Does my aunt like me or her granddaughter better?

Posted: 25 Jun 2020 05:41 AM PDT

So when I'm around my aunt she doesn't smile as much around me then her granddaughter. She also will like her granddaughters post a lot on fb but from Time to time I'll get a like. She will comment on her granddaughters post saying so pretty! But never on mine. She will even share pics of her granddaughter on fb bragging on her. What's your opinion on this?

Question: Dad hates my boyfriend!?

Posted: 25 Jun 2020 05:31 AM PDT

My dad hates my boyfriend! He never really did like him, and how he despises him. Especially since my dad walked into my apartment one day and caught us in bed together. No, we were not in the moment, but we were sleeping, and both fully dressed. Ever since then my dad won't give him the time of day. My dad also can't stand now I been living with, and will be 100% moving in with him since I ended up losing my job.  I also have a daughter who is not my boyfriend's child, and my dad believes it's harmful to my daughter with me living under the same roof as him because you only live together if married.   My daughters birthday is coming up, and she wants a little party, and my dad wants to give her one. She told my dad she wants to invite my boyfriend, and her friends where he lives, and my dad told her no. They will not be invited  I don't know what to do because this is causing problems. Its a stain on my relationship with my dad, my boyfriend. It makes it hard for my child. I sometimes feel as if its a custody battle. I don't want to cut my dad off,  but he's also trying to get into my daughters head. You must be married! He's not your dad. (Her bio father is not in her life) I don't know what to do. ,

Question: My sister is a narcissist. How do I know if this is our parents fault?

Posted: 25 Jun 2020 05:05 AM PDT

I know my mother always gives my sister what she demands with no consequences. My diagnosis is narcissist so I don't mean Narcissistic Personality Disorder but I just mean a classic narcissist person.

Question: Why is my family so against me waking up early? I don’t wake them ?

Posted: 25 Jun 2020 04:59 AM PDT

I don't wake them up but they act as if my getting up early is only me trying to be better than them or something.  They try and convince me it is unhealthy to wake up at 6 and that I should wake up at 9.  They insist it won't change my productivity even though I know I get more done if I wake up early.  They mock me and try and keep me up late to change my sleeping schedule. They want me to watch late night tv with them but I don't even enjoy most of what they watch.  

Question: Is it wrong for me to fat shame and criticize my future wife for being a hoarder ?

Posted: 25 Jun 2020 03:11 AM PDT

I feel like shes so lazy and miserable, but wont do anything about it. I feel like I dont want to feed her anymore either and have to hide when I eat. The mess is something we fight over. Last time she slammed a door in my face and jammed my finger. She told me she has lots of past issues. I cant get her to do physical exercise or quit weed. 

Question: My fiance nags a lot and it's a huge turn off?

Posted: 25 Jun 2020 02:50 AM PDT

She really needs a therapist. But then she gets very mad and offended if I want space and distance. She doesn't let me relax either sometimes. She used to not be like this.  Her weight gain is already a huge turn off. I also tried explaining to her not to watch so many negative movies. I give up trying to teach her to do physical exercises. She cant get over her ex and health problems. Plus started smoking weed everyday. 

Question: Worried because my mom smokes all the time.?

Posted: 25 Jun 2020 02:47 AM PDT

Hi I don't really know where to find out more about this so I will ask here. I am a teenage boy that lives with just my mom. She got a job doing modeling about a year ago to pose for pictures in clothing and fashion magazines. I have seen the people at the modeling place she goes to really pressure her to stay very thin, so she started smoking as a way to help her with that. I don't know if it helps her stay thin or not, but now she smokes all the time and almost everywhere we go. When she and I are out somewhere, we constantly have to go stand outside or we go sit in the car so she can smoke. She told me that she really enjoys smoking and that it's not a big deal. I don't mind being around her smoke and I want her to be happy, so I don't say anything, but I am worried that it is not good for her at all and want her to stop. She is a very good mom and does everything for me and I love her very very much.

Question: Is it normal to want breathing room from your family who always comes around when you're very busy as of to derail you?

Posted: 25 Jun 2020 02:45 AM PDT

I dont want to talk to my brother. He gives me bad vibes and used to be abusive. I don't like my mother anymore either because of a lot of bad memories. 

Question: Could i get in trouble for this?

Posted: 25 Jun 2020 12:03 AM PDT

so i have a bank account and it has all the money my parents are saving for my college next year (i'm 17) and there was 12000 in it and i wanted a maxed out macbook pro so i bought a maxed out macbook pro for 5000 and only have 7000 left in savings and i'm worried i could get in trouble using the debit card attached to the bank account and my parents don't have access to it without checking so

Question: Should I talk to my mom about her drinking?

Posted: 24 Jun 2020 11:02 PM PDT

She drinks everyday until she passes out

Question: How do I get through this next year?

Posted: 24 Jun 2020 10:25 PM PDT

Hey all✌️I am a 19 year old guy currently going to college for Business Marketing. Long story short, due to COVID-19 I will most likely be taking my remaining 33 credits online while living with my aggressively Christian parents. Don't get me wrong, I love my family and I appreciate everything they do/have done for me...but to put it bluntly, I am miserable when living at home. I have no friends in their city and am incredibly lonely. For the next year my life will consist of school, work, time with family, and a lot of time alone. High school was rough for me for this very reason and I was glad to finally get out and go to college in a different city where I easily made amazing friends...oh well it was fun while it lasted.  I just need advice, having recently come to the decision to remain home I am sinking lower and lower into depression as I resign myself to my miserable fate for the next year. Any tips or advice on how to be happy even though I hate my circumstances??

Question: How is a woman physically able to throw a boy into the air just by moving and swinging his arm?

Posted: 24 Jun 2020 10:16 PM PDT

Do they have to be stronger to able to throw them than carry them? When I was 11 my mom got so mad at me she threw me on the bed I was standing still and she grabbed my arm I lifted off my feet into the air and landed on the bed on my side body. I've only ever seen people guys throwing people to the ground like pushing them down or picking them up and throwing them to the ground. Never into the air they go flying onto something.

Question: If I kill myself will my parents be mad?

Posted: 24 Jun 2020 08:37 PM PDT

They may think the 38 years I've been on this Earth were all for naught.

Question: Does my aunt like me or her granddaughter better?

Posted: 24 Jun 2020 08:30 PM PDT

So I have noticed that when I'm around my aunt she doesn't smile as much around me as much as she does her granddaughter. She will also like her granddaughter post a lot more than my post and comment on her granddaughters post saying she's beautiful on every post and not on any of mine. I was just wandering what is your opinion on this. She will even share her granddaughters pictures as well but none of mine.

Question: Why does my father always want to hang out?

Posted: 24 Jun 2020 08:15 PM PDT

My father is a really great person, but he always wants to hang out with me. We are talking about 4x a week. It has gotten to the point where he shows up to my apartment and expects a good breakfast and my girlfriend and baby get upset. His argument is I helped you pay for car insurance in college now you owe me. Over car insurance I owe him my time and money? Are we suppose to pay back parents for being parents?

Question: Is full siblings and half siblings the same or different ?

Posted: 24 Jun 2020 06:18 PM PDT

Question: My parents are so mean to me?

Posted: 24 Jun 2020 06:17 PM PDT

I'm 20 at home for quarantine/the summer, and my parents just are so mean to me. I spilt iced tea and then they just went off on me. They always tell me I'm lazy but it's so hard to get a job right now with corona and leaving to go back to college in August. I have a job in my college town, but they won't hire me until I'm back in the town and my parents are making me live at home during the summer. They just yell at me all the time over things that don't matter. Don't think I'll be able to make it another two more months with them. What do I do

Question: How to deal with relatives who keep asking you for money?

Posted: 24 Jun 2020 05:36 PM PDT

First, Im not rich. Im struggling myself to pay bills and going to school and stuff...but Im the US and my family is in Colombia....I do send my mom money monthly...but then one of my uncles who never ever spoke to me or cared about me suddenly started talking to me, cause he needed money, or at least thats how I feel. I did help him but I dont want him to start just relying on me because I have enough bills and being in the US doesnt mean Im rich. How do I tell him that without being rude, what should I do. He keeps talking to me but I just feel is because he needs my money cause he brings up all these stories..thanks for the advice

Question: Am I wrong for for trying to protect my Grandma for COVID-19?

Posted: 24 Jun 2020 05:34 PM PDT

My 77 year old Grandma, whom is very mobile and active lives with my mother, father, younger brother and younger sister in their home after her husband passed away in January. Ever since they "opened up" California my mom and dad(55 yrs) have been going out eating in sit down restaurants 2-4 days a week, going to te store constantly. They recently took a 3 day vacation with my older sister, her husband and his parents. My Grandma doesn't leave anywhere to protect herself and my mom doesn't want her to, but doesn't seem fair that they leave constantly, yet she can't, when the risk is relatively the same.  My older sister is also adamant about not wearing a mask when she goes out, which I do agree are mostly useless, still shows some kind of care, especially for my grandma.  I recently talked to her and my mom about and they say I am living in fear and I'm saying they don't care about my Grandma. Which I am not. They can go out if they please, maybe 1-2x a week, but they cannot simply limit themselves. It impedes on their lifestyle, which isn't fair to my wife and daughter who have asthma and my 4 month old son. Please nothing political. 

Question: Will My Mom Ever Forgive Me?

Posted: 24 Jun 2020 05:34 PM PDT

My mom recently had been crazy about my grades, studying, and education. Every day the only thing she would talk about is Science Olympiad, math, etc. and it's really annoying. Today I totally lost it and yelled at her when she asked about how my summer coding class went, and now she won't listen to anything I say. She told me she would take my sister on vacation and leave me at home as if I never existed, and that I was an awful child and she hated my guts. She also stated she wouldn't forgive me no matter how hard I tried. So what do I do now? I know that I screwed up on my part but how do I get my mom to forgive me? My dad and her have also been fighting a lot lately, and when my dad sided with me she deliberately said she hated me.  She used to promise she would forgive me no matter what, because she loved me and I was her child. Today she broke her promise though, which is something she would never do.

Question: How can I force my parents to love me this isn’t a troll question ?

Posted: 24 Jun 2020 05:07 PM PDT

My parents never cared about me When I  was growing up they never told me they loved me and showed no interest in me. They never asked me  what i  thought or about my day or dealt  with any of my problems, concerns or issues. My needs weren't met. I want them to love me NOW!!!! I will make my family and my husbands family life hell until they love me last Friday I told my husband this and he said I can't make my parents love me I never had it In my childhood and I will never get it I must move on I threw a 5 year old temper tantrum and broke the tv and made a mess in the kitchen my husband told me to calm down but I refuse to and left my husband cooked food but I threw it across the room because he said that my parents will never love me  How can I force my parents to love me or else I will make my families life hell I will never let them rest until I get my parents to love me 

Question: What should i do when my older sister (im 30 shes 32) wont mind her own business?

Posted: 24 Jun 2020 04:34 PM PDT

i have a cell phone but i dont want to talk to her but she says that its disrespectful and that i should give her my number. shes yells and screams at me on my cell phone its really stressful to me and she wont stop so i cuts her off. she said that shes my older sister so its her business what should i do her bothers my constantly she just sits there and she keeps saying things like I know you have a cell phone, give my your cell phone, its disrespectful, your compiling that I'm stupid!, etc HELP PLEASE! sorry for misspelling (auto correct)  compiling= implied implying

Question: What should I say to my husband's brother?

Posted: 24 Jun 2020 04:30 PM PDT

My husband's brother is here at the moment and I am in my bedroom waiting for him to leave but he is making me mad because he is running down the black lives matter saying. We are all white and in our fifties but he is supportive of trump and against black lives matter. If I come out, I may cuss him out. My husband lets him railroad him and overlooks it but I cannot. He is also openly talking about sex and his conquests and he has no crass or wisdom. Should I just say nothing or come out and run him out of my house? Also every fourth word is f u c k. 

Question: How to respond to parents who tell me to take a break from visiting them, and now say that they miss me?

Posted: 24 Jun 2020 04:22 PM PDT

I spent about 15 days in a month visiting my elderly parents (at their request) during the coronavirus lockdown.   When I returned home, they emailed, saying that I should "take a break, save [my] money and enjoy [my] new home" instead of spending time visiting them and running errands for them.   So I have followed their instructions: I haven't seen them in a month and don't plan to return until maybe Thanksgiving.  (I live 600 miles away and used to fly to visit them once a month.) Now they email me a few times a day, telling me that they miss me and wish I would visit. They've done this before: telling me not to visit and then telling me to visit. Telling someone to "take a break" from visiting was insulting and hurtful.  I don't miss them and don't want to see them. No matter how I respond, they'll tell me that I'm wrong. I haven't bothered responding to their emails.  But how would you respond, in a way that isn't cruel but makes it clear that I'm just doing what they requested?

Question: Is it normal to feel guilty when your sibling is sick? ?

Posted: 24 Jun 2020 04:02 PM PDT

I'm in my 50's. My brother is 38. He recently was diagnosed with a rare form of stage 4 cancer. I was a troubled teen. My mom mistreated me when I was little and she often reminded me that she wished I was a boy. When my brother came along I was 14. My mom was so happy. We both thought, think he hung the moon and stars. Today I'm a wife of 34 years with 2 wonderful, grown sons. Needless to say I grew up and got my act together. I feel like my mom recents me more than ever since we found out that my brother is sick. I myself feel so guilty. He's always been wonderful and I was a rebellious hellion. I feel bad for him and my mom that he is sick and I'm not. I feel like I deserve it. Is this normal. I'm really going through the whirlwind right now. 

Question: I think my son's nipple piercings are cute but my mother is mad at me for letting him have them?

Posted: 24 Jun 2020 03:59 PM PDT

So do I just wait for her to get over it or have a talk with her tomorrow?

Question: Stopping Parental Visitation?

Posted: 24 Jun 2020 03:39 PM PDT

My 16 year old daughter has had intermittent visitation with her father over the last 8 years related to his personal relationships. Recently, he restarted visitation. Every time the younger half siblings are present, she comes home with head lice. This has been an ongoing issue for 7 years. Also, he promised me that she would have her own space at his place. She has to share a bed with her 3 younger siblings. The real issue is treating her for lice so often really interferes with her life. Can we just stop visitation until he can provide her own bed for her and treat his other kids for lice? This isn't fair to her.

Question: My mother forced me to go to the shrink and he gave me drugs.I got fat rapidly due to the drugs and now the shrink says I must stop them?

Posted: 24 Jun 2020 02:20 PM PDT

I told him my mother yells and calls me PIG,she says she feels shame for me and doesn't let me eat anything.Isnt it her fault?